#lithroromantic

[imoga-pride]

Hi, so I’m asexual and have been comfortable with it for like a year and a half. However, I keep changing my romantic labels. It always stays on the aromantic side though. I have been using greyromantic, but lately have been wondering if my “crushes” were actually just queer platonic or alterous.

So my question is, if you’re aroflux could that include feeling like you’re lithromantic one week and then greyromantic recipromantic the next? Or is there another term for feeling like your romantic orientation changes? Also, would this make sense for my not being able to tell if my “crushes” are actually crushes or just a combo of alterous, aesthetic, and sensual? And can my attraction towards the person change from me liking them romantically to not liking them, but then liking them again after xyz?

My last question, is aroflux technically under the greyromantic umbrella?

Sorry if any of this was confusing at all!

I believe aroflux includes all arospec identities, not just grey areas. It also means fluctuating in intensity of attraction. There's abroromantic, sometimes some distinguish the two as abroro includes alloromantic identities. But arospec terms don't exclude "alloromantic"/non-aromantic identities (e.g. demipanromantic). Aroflux can fluctuate to a black area/null state, dark grey and light gray. And for intensity, it can go to high (hyperro?/perissosro), low (hyporo?) and absolute (euromantic)/regular (alloro?/zedro?) attractions too.

Not sure if there's a fluitic/multi-attraction equivalent for crushes/squishes/etc.

[1tz-4ll-m3]

Happy Valentine’s Day to Aspecs!

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Happy Valentines Day, Recipromantics/Reciprosexuals!

Happy Valentine’s Day, Lithroromantics/Lithrosexuals!

Happy Valentine’s Day, Dreamromantics/Dreamsexuals!

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Happy Valentine’s Day, Myrromantics/Myrsexuals!

Remember Valentine’s Day is not just for romantic/sexual relationships and feelings! Celebrate your love for anything! Wether that be your friends, your family, yourself or your favorite anything! Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be about love either! Celebrate your admiration for whatever and whoever you admire!

[celestial-streams-collective]

Agender - boy, Agender - girl, Androgyne, Androromantic, Androsexual, Aroflux, Bigender, Cisgender (alt), Cupioromantic, Fairygender, Grayromantic, Gynoromantic, Gynosexual, Heteroromantic, Heterosexual, Homoflexible, Homoflex-romantic, Lithroromantic, Lithrosexual

[stfudiscoinfernoed]

"There are queer people who are not lesbian, gay, bisexual, or trans." LMAO WHAT. Queer Theory and Tumblr discourse out here really making people's brains leak right out their ears. What does that even mean??? And I know for sure they don't mean "non-anglo/indigenous communities that don't use certain labels for considering them soft colonization thru language & prefer to use their own words" but that they actually mean "Greg the biphobic and serophobic lithroromantic ace" or some shit like that

I swear to you I saw someone assert that polyamorous people should be considered queer and that their friend was publishing a queer theory article to prove it.

Like I truly emphasize with people who struggle finding the label that works best for them, but its astounding how out "queer" is used to mean "attracted to trans/nonbinary people" or "bisexual but doesn't want to use that label."

[beatrice-reden-official]

Yeah, there isn’t a lithroromantic flag so I used the lithrosexual flag for melony since I headcanon that after axol died she turned lithroromantic (I can’t see her moving on after axol’s death)

And that’s cool! I love yuri nuzi too! :3

I like to think that Uzi and the Disasembly Drones are one weird polycule. Doll is also there too maybe but i mostly like her with Lizzy-Bibi

[aromantic-enjolras]

#reblogging this again for this addition #you're right thank you tumblr user aromantic enjolras #hot take im aware can i also propose grantaire. not to project but he is aro. to me.

Lithroromantic Grantaire who loves Enjolras because he knows it's safe and he won't reciprocate my beloved <33

the anger inside of me

[asking-jude]

Hello! Is it normal to only have crushes on people you know don’t like you and you don’t want them to like you back? I don’t want my love to be reciprocated I just want to make my crush happy.

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Hello there! Thank you for reaching out to Asking Jude.

First of all, your feelings are valid. Romantic relationships can be challenging to navigate, especially if you may not agree with the “typical” way people engage in them. Though it may feel like you are alone in feeling this way, many people find the idea of entering a romantic relationship unappealing. Amatonormativity, or the assumption that everyone would benefit from exclusive relationships, might make it hard to orient yourself in romantic situations. This phenomenon might be the reason why you’re questioning yourself since it has led societal norms to elevate the importance of romance. I recommend reading more about amatonormativity from the philosopher who coined the term here: https://elizabethbrake.com/amatonormativity/.

It may help to take some time and think about why you are feeling this way. Doing this should help you come to terms with your emotions and allow you to recognize their rationality. I can provide some possible explanations. You know yourself better than anyone, so keep in mind that you are under no obligation to find these suggestions applicable to your situation.

It could be that you are more independent, in which case, being in a relationship may not align with your needs. Having someone reciprocate romantic feelings may insinuate to you that the relationship must go further. If this is not something you would enjoy, then it is entirely okay for you to avoid it. Being content with being single is an incredibly valuable trait, so try not to worry about this aspect of your feelings.

Conversely, maybe you are someone who enjoys the thrill of having a crush on someone more than the effects of pursuing a relationship. Fear of relationships may accompany this preference. If your apprehension to reciprocation is fear-based, try to let yourself feel any negative emotions that come with the thoughts of your crush possibly liking you back. You can also try to evaluate or question your attitude towards romance to understand yourself better. Here is an article on philophobia, or the fear of getting into a romantic relationship. This article explains the fear and provides various coping strategies if you relate to some of the signs: https://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/what-is-philophobia. These articles may help you better evaluate your feelings through journaling or guided meditation, respectively: https://screening.mhanational.org/content/how-keep-mental-health-journal/; https://www.mindful.org/a-meditation-on-observing-thoughts-non-judgmentally/.

Society’s definition of what a relationship looks like has evolved. People can now explore their romantic identities in ways we never could before. If you are content without your romantic feelings being reciprocated, then you may benefit from learning more about the aromantic spectrum. What you describe aligns with lithroromantic, which describes a person who may feel romantic attraction towards others but may not want that attraction in return. These terms are relatively new, so do not feel pressured to define yourself by any one word. As long as no one is getting hurt, feel free to conduct your romantic experiences or identities however you see fit. If you’re interested in learning more about this, this website provides a glossary of terms related to the aromantic spectrum and collections of resource materials: https://www.aromanticism.org. Talking to someone you can trust or feel comfortable with about how you’re feeling is a great way to get more insight into the situation. If you would like to discuss aromanticism, here is a comprehensive list of support groups and an email address to message if you want to learn more about what it means to be aromantic: https://lgbtlifecenter.org/wellness/support-groups.

You also indicated that you enjoy making your crush happy. It can fe el great to see someone you care about elated by something you did for them. However, it is important to always put your own happiness first. If not, it is easy to become codependent on the emotions of your romantic interests, which is an unhealthy way to dictate your own feelings. Signs of codependency, such as prioritizing the needs of others, can eventually affect one’s self-worth and lead to difficulty recognizing one’s own needs. Be sure to set physical and emotional boundaries to protect your well-being if anything were to go wrong. It can be difficult to say no to the people we want to make happy. Still, it is a necessary step in fostering healthy relationships regardless of how those relationships may look. Here is an article about codependency signs, causes, and coping methods: https://psychcentral.com/lib/symptoms-signs-of-codependency.

Everyone has their own priorities in life, and sometimes serious relationships are not part of that journey. This is okay! Remember that people are different in terms of how they choose to live, so you should always strive to do what makes you feel comfortable. You should define your feelings on your own terms. If you still find yourself struggling, we at Asking Jude are always here to help.

Wishing you all the best, Mikayla

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[chroma-imp-draws]

Aromantic frogs 2: Electric Bugaloo (now in more arospec colours :3)

some are available as stickers here uwu

[m-makes-things]

Lithroromantic flag- resin design

[brookiedaaroacecookie]

yo have u got frayromantic yet?

oh and also lithroromantic

also nebularomantic!

There’s also a ton more identities on the site where I linked all the info so if u wanna check if u missed any more, then there stuff there!

The Aromantic spectrum part 2

So here’s a bit more info on each on + the flag and some new terms! Thanks to everyone who added onto the first post!

Recipromantic

Recipromantic people will only feel romantic attraction to a person if the person expresses romantic attraction first. ( @recipromantic-culture-is​ Thanks for teaching me about this one!)

Aegoromantic

Aegoromantic, (previously known as Autochorisromantic) describes those who enjoy the concept of romance but do not have a desire to participate in romantic activities.

Aroflux

People who identify as aroflux may experience their romantic orientation as fluctuating between experiencing and not experiencing romantic attraction.

I.e Some times Yes Romance, sometimes No romance.

(I really love this flag colouring)

Autoromantic

Autoromantic people may elicit romantic attraction from themselves, by themselves. (I’ve been leaning towards this slightly)

Cupioromantic

Cupioromantic describes those who do not experience attraction but do desire a romantic relationship. (Another one I lean towards)

(There’s actually 3 flags (?) , but this one is used the most it seems)

Demiromantic

Demiromantic describes people who do not experience romantic attraction until they have formed a deep emotional connection with someone. (According to most definitions)

Desinoromantic

Desinoromantic people do not experience “full-on�� romantic attraction, but do experience “liking” someone instead of loving them romantically. (This can be confusing, I’ll do more on this most likely)

Grayromantic

Grayromantic includes (but is not limited to) people who feel very low amounts of romantic attraction, rarely feel romantic attraction, only feel romantic attraction under specific circumstances, or are not sure if they experience romantic attraction. It is usually be considered a romantic equivalent to gray-asexuality.

Iamvanoromantic 

Iamvanoromantic is the desire to not show romantic affection to someone but you may have the desire to receive some 

Quoiromantic 

Quoiromantic is where you can’t tell whether or not you experience romantic attraction or you can’t tell what kind of attraction you are feeling.

Placioromantic 

You don’t have the desire to receive romantic affections but you do have the desire to show some

As always, please let me know if I’ve got anything wrong, or if i should add anything!

[safehavenlgbtq]

Wednesdays Weekly LGBTQ Word: Lithroromantic •a person who feels romantic attraction but does not want it reciprocated•

[aro-culture-is]

hi! this is more of a question than a ‘aro culture is’, sorry in advance for any bother!

i knew for awhile now that i was on the arospec (aroflux), and i recently came up with the label ‘akoi/lithroromantic’, which could resemble to cupioromantic (to which i was hesitating to lean to) . i was wondering if an individual considering themselves aro/akoi/cupioromantic could still be in a committed relationship (surely not as close as a typical romantic (allo) committed relationship but) ?

yeah. in general, i'd say that whatever labels bring you community, comfort, or even just a sense of self... use them. as long as your relationships work for you, that's you and your partner(s) business, not ours :)

[bimboobabyy]

im cherry!! im lithroromantic, fraysexual and non-binary with the inclusion of xenogenders, i do not use she/her or he/him pronouns. im autistic, chronically ill and an inclusionist. i also self ship with fictional characters ♥

im a proud bimbo (not sexual, i just like to be dumb n dolly (✿◠‿◠)) 🎀 and an age regressor!! 🍭 feel free to talk to meee <<3 currently very fixiated on OFF by mortis ghost if anyone wants to talk abt it too <<3

[professional-termite]

i got lithroromantic and??? thats A THING??? THATS ME OH MY GOD????

literally thank you so much quiz

Basically my brain goes what when it comes to being romantic. I like the concept but actually doing so I can’t. Physically do not know what to do about that and also??? I don’t understand the concept of crushes and can’t tell if i have feelings for someone.

And actually doing hte WORKK for the discovery is SOOOO hard like bfr im not going thru that i’m taking a QUIZ.

So i did and this really SPEAKS to me. Yes the flag’s a little ugly (no offense to whomever made it you did well it just doesn’t speak to me maybe i’ll remake it idk im sorry) yes!!! I like romance ish but i dont want it!!! I am them they are me

Here it is thoo!!! ::DD

[thatonesongyouretryingtoremember]

Aromantic Steve Harrington my beloved

Cupioromantic Steve Harrington my beloved

Arospec Steve Harrington my beloved

Aromantic Nancy Wheeler my beloved

Arospec Nancy Wheeler my beloved

Frayromantic Nancy Wheeler my beloved

Lithroromantic Nancy Wheeler my beloved

[acespec-ed]

hi. i'm curious if there is an aro or ace spec term for having attractions but losing or decreasing them once it's reciprocated? i looked up fraysexual but i don't feel its quite accurate for me, since it's not about getting to know someone but rather obtaining reciprocation. and it's not that reciprocation isn't desired, it very much is, but when it is reciprocated and acted on, attraction just starts to dwindle away. could i be aspec or do i just, like, have attachment issues lol

part 2 if i may ask, using the cereal metaphor. for me, attraction is often: i am hungry. i look at the cereal options. i crave cereals that are particularly hard to reach, and spend a lot of time idealizing these specific cereals & imagining eating that cereal. bc it's hard to reach it makes me crave it even more. if i DO get the cereal, i have myself a bowl & it's like the best cereal i ever had! but then bc i had it, every bowl of it i have again gets less appealing. is there a term for that?

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For part 1, the closest I can think of is lithroromantic/lithosexual. They feel romantic/sexual attraction, but either don't want it reciprocated, or lose interest when they find out it is. Here's more information on it: https://lgbta.wikia.org/wiki/Lithosexual.

Part 2... That's a tough one. If I'm interpreting it correctly, it sounds like you feel attraction towards people who are unattainable, and you idealize them in some way. And the fact you can't have them makes you want them more, but then you lose interest when you do have regular access to being with them? Assuming this is the case, I can't find anything exact. Again, the closest thing is probably lithromantic/lithosexual and maybe even frayromantic/fraysexual, though you said you ruled that one out.

And of course, you can always call yourself grayromantic/sexual or a/aro/acespec. Those labels are there for anyone who feels that they experience sexual attraction rarely, or only under specific circumstances.

Something worth noting: It's okay to identify as a label where you don't tick off every box. Everyone identifying as a microlabel has their own interpretation of it. (Example: I'm starting to get more comfortable with demiromantic/sexual. I don't truly know some of the people I'm attracted to, but for me, I observe them enough to get an idea of what they're like. Accurate or not, I project that idea onto them, a bond forms, and then attraction hits. Afaik, this isn't the way the average demi experiences it, but I still need a bond before I feel attraction which follows the vaguest definition of the term.)

Lots of people identify with labels that don't fit exactly. They just go for the one they're most comfortable with. If everyone had to fit a label 100%, there'd be millions of labels and not enough people sharing that label. And if there's not enough people sharing a label, you won't get the flags, discussions, and community that come with it. No one can stop you from identifying as whatever you’re most comfortable with.