#limerence yh

[randomagnes0210]

[faaun]

maybe you’re suffering from limerence.. could happen if you’re low in serotonin, (it’s ocd/depression like, but it’s not necessary to have those)

just looked it up, yh i think that's it 😭 i acc have a lot of anxiety i'm dealing w surrounding other things (it's exam season) so that might be contributing a lot to it actually bc it's super close to the feeling of an anxiety attack ngl

i'll start looking up how to get rid of it, tysm for letting me know abt it !!!

[glasss-patron]

Please google Limerence if you were “hahaha but yh this is me” at this post x

Having a crush is just like I guess it's time to be crazy for a while

[jvwhyte]

E/riel~Gwynriel opinion. (sort of Biased)

So, i'm pretty new to the fandom, i finished the first acotar books not long ago:

I literally started and finished them in 7 days and i genuinely GENUINELY thought Az and Elain had potential in W&R and F&S, not so much M&F, but i had no issue with them.

But then i read SF and...yeah i didn't ship them, at all. There was so many moments between Gwyn&Azriel that made me so much happier than all of the E/riel moments in the original trilogy.

The amount of long-time fans that are so hooked on the idea of E/riel and deny the fact that either of them could ever possibly end up with another person is...concerning....to say the least.

I saw a comment saying that Elain apparently loves Azriel and Azriel loves Elain and that's why they're obviously canon.

Which i strongly disagree with.

A more accurate term would be limerence. If you don't know what that i, i'd advise you do some psychology research.

I also see people say there's no romantic moments between Gwyn and Az.

And i agree! Neither one of them canonically like each other, yet.

But they have that build up, the jokes, the chemistry, the spending time together, etc.

I've since reread (and annotated) the books and it's become devastatingly apparent to me that E/riel seems highly unlikely.

If they were canon, then there's a lot SJM would need to do in order to pull it off smoothly.

Another thing which was a little off to me was that with Feysand it seemed apparent from the beginning that they were endgame, the same with Nessian and Vamren.

It just wasn't like that with Elain and Azriels first meeting, she hated fae, he was mostly unbothered, potentially uncomfortable or even weirded out.

In Mist and Fury there was just no chemistry.

But with Lucien and Elain i found it cute how he asked Feyre about her during W&R. From the very first Lucien and Elain scene there was tension, whenever they're in a room together there's so much unanswered glances, stares etc.

I also found it pretty common that SJM often gives three main/potential love interests;

•Feyre: Issac, Tamlin, Rhys

•Lucien: Jesminda, Vassa, Elain

•Elain: Graysen, Azriel, Lucien

•Azriel: Mor, Elain, Gwyn

•Mor: Eris, Andromache, Emerie

•Nesta: Tomas, Eris/The duke?, Cassian

•Cassian: Mor, Tanwyn, Nesta

Two mentionable "relationships/feelings" and then their mates.

I don't know it's just that there seems to be a lot of threes.

I'm not denying that Elain and Azriel have feelings but Azriels reasonings are extremely toxic. When rhys asks him about Mor, he ignores him, proceeds to not mention a single thing about Elain's personality just that her sisters are mated to his brothers...that is not a good relationship starter.

so yh

[faaun]

Idk if you remember receiving an ask about someone struggling w unfollowing a guy on Spotify after he ghosted them - but it was me and I finally did it! After ruminating about it for months, and after imagining myself constantly thinking about him for even more months, I just forced myself to do it without thinking. I cried a lot after I did it and let myself feel sad. But I felt so much better the next day. The heavy feeling in my gut lifted. I have those moments where I mourn who I thought he was too. I just allow myself to feel the way I feel, and it eventually passes. What’s weird is that one of my playlists received a like right after I soft blocked him, and I’d actually never received any likes in my 2 years of having Spotify. But yeah - just wanted to share that I feel so much less anxious now with no fuel left to fire my imagination, the limerence is slowly dying

omg im so so proud of you !!!! u finally did it ! i'm glad you feel less anxious now, you did the right thing! no one is worth so much anxiety and tears esp smn who is not invested in u ♡

also yh ur right ! i'm glad to hear i'm not alone in the feeling, it def does feel like mourning sometimes...like you, i also let myself feel it, and usually it sort of lifts away after a few minutes to half an hour and i end up feeling a lot better :) limerence dying is such a blessing !!