#like idk what more i can do to pass or be androgynous enough that people don't she/her me as often

[godpokez]

everytime i get she/her'd a day gets taken off my life span today alone im down a month

[scramratz]

Hey! I'm in a very peculiar situation and would love some advice. Basically I always been naturally androgynous and never thought much about it. Partially is bc I have a hormone deficiency problem, the part of my body who supposed to send the signals to the rest of the body to produce hormone basically doesn't work. I was born like that and when I was a tiny kid I started taking growing hormones. Time pass and bc my family is v disfuncional and I was living in a abusive environment my mother decided I didn't need to go to the doctor anymore. I was 12 at the time. So basically I never got my period, and my body as a whole never fully "developed". When I was younger I thought I should be ashamed of that bc people would point out I didn't have boobs. I shaved my head when I was 16 and everybody would misgender me. At the time that made self conscious and ashamed bc even though I was happy the way I looked I felt like people were point it out my health problem yk? Like I wasn't a real woman. I'm 25 now and this year I finally had the financial security to go back to the doctor and started hormone therapy. The doc only prescribed me hrt tho and to my surprise I started to feel very bad about myself. I already had body dysmorphia and now I just don't feel like myself anymore. I feel like I'm losing me. My boobs are getting bigger and my body fat as a whole seems to be changing it's distribution, I also got my period. It's been four months and I really really want to take testosterone to see if I can go back again to be more androgynous. I want to get more body hair, gain muscle mass etc Idk if I'm nb or something, I just know I was happy presenting my whole life as that and I'm scare of losing it. But I also don't know how to tell this to my doctor, I'm so afraid she will not take me seriously (or worse). Anyway I don't know what to do, Idk if I can even take testosterone whiteout having sure I'm trans.

This is a very peculiar situation! I’m not a doctor and this is way above my pay grade but wouldn’t stopping estrogen help? You naturally don’t produce enough hormones so stopping estrogen would theoretically stop you from feminizing further right? Though, it’s unhealthy to not have any hormones in your body isn’t it? In that case, you could try going to a different doctor, like a planned parenthood, that’s informed consent and just tell them you want to start masculinizing hormones. Also it’s worth a shot just talking to your doctor about how you’re feeling! Wosrt case scenario, you gotta get a new doctor.

[bilboyagathechickenfootedhobbit]

(on my suspiciously empty side acc because anons are off and i don't need anything remotely personal connected to main) you seem like someone who may not mind teenagers asking for advice, lol. so: you mentioned in a post that the hair on your head is shorter than on your arms and legs. made me incredibly jealous. i've been wanting to buzz mine for ages. i keep chickening out. it's already very short and generally non-standard but it feels like a step too far, yk? i was joking with my parents about a girl i'd just met who turned to me while nobody was looking and did an inquisitive limp wrist gesture at me. i stared at her for a minute, shocked to see such a tiktok-ified (on a young woman) mannerism (i deleted it months ago but it still haunts me) out in real life, and then nodded, because what else was i gonna do? only seen her in passing since. anyway, we were laughing. obviously, the fact that she thought to do it came up. i can't remember the exchange in detail, but my mom was saying something about how you can have short hair and wear, idk, frills and barrettes, and be [trailed off]- or you can wear "boy shorts" (my shorts) and no bra (it was in my own fucking house) and be [trailed off again, i believe]. my dad said something about how my appearance was "not exactly lipstick lesbian". this is nothing against my parents. they're awesome. they're not really the point. point is, despite being 5'5 and not exactly androgynous in various ways, i pretty regularly get mistaken for male- usually by restaurant staff or other people who have no reason to pay attention or barely glance my way, but it happens often enough to be significant. those who look at me a little longer have so far a) defaulted to they/themming me without asking (or even after asking, when i'd already said i wasn't trans), b) carefully deduced from what i said that i wasn't trans and then gone with it (digging probably much more obviously than they'd intended to) or, c) been too old for all that. i am not transgender. i was dysphoric, i got over it except for during the nights of all-round bad days, i'm fine now. i am, as far as i can tell, homosexual (family knows this). this isn't exactly something i want to advertise. it's apparently my only option, since the disdain i feel towards all female beauty rituals (and the cuts of 99% of womens' clothing- jesus christ) is too strong to even consider partaking, but i'd really rather i lived in a slightly saner world where i didn't stick out so much. the hair itself is extremely minor, obviously. it's hair. but it's the last bit of my appearance that is, in any way, decorated. this is not out of a lack of self esteem or something. it's just that the decorating grates on me. even earrings, most of the time, identical to the ones my brothers wear. i mostly like the hair. what i don't like is that it has to be cut every couple of months, and really that's too much time to grow- i have to actively set aside time to wash and style it- when it's grown out a bit i have to keep touching it and thinking about it or it'll get in my eyes. i am so very sick of everything impractical, but it feels like my last line of plausible deniability. if it, my last bit of decoration, is gone (which, note, will not be a win for my facial structure, not that i really care), instead of just odd looks from strangers i'm going to get knowing chuckles from relatives who think i'm... politically identifying into something. even, yk, the homosexual bit, which i never needed to "identify" into. "butches" are women i look up to like nobody else, but i'm not trying to join anyone's ranks. i'm just trying to exist. i'm sending this because i'm almost definitely blowing the consequences out of proportion and you seem like a very intelligent woman who's done already exactly what i'm considering. so, if you read all that, thank you, and thank you again if you're going to respond. your blog is incredible.

Hey, so sorry about how long it’s taken me to respond. I really wanted to make sure I gave this the attention it deserves.

So, you are correct that you’re probably blowing the consequences of this out of proportion, BUT, that really only holds true when you have enough distance and perspective from the act, which you do not have, being in the thick of it currently.

See, when I was younger I was the brash, loud “I don’t give a fuck” teenager. And I tried so, so, SO hard to truly embody that mentality, and maybe I tricked the people around me into thinking I didn’t care but I did. I originally buzzed my hair when the friend cutting my hair kept messing it up and making it shorter and shorter. I laughed it off and grabbed the clippers and we all joked, but I worried what everyone was going to think the next day. Everyone at our small school was already convinced my BFF and I were lesbian witches, a buzzed head would just make me out to be the “pants” in the relationship.

I stopped shaving early on in my first adult relationship and practically dared my boyfriend to say something. I stated I didn’t care what he thought, I wasn’t shaving ever again, but deep down, if he had said it grossed him out, I probably would have shaved. Not right then, but eventually.

Through so many ages and chapters of my life I have raged at the world that I didn’t care what anyone thought, I was going to do the thing regardless. And I always did, even when there was a secret part of me that felt like I’d cave in a heartbeat if even one person smirked the wrong way at me. Because I did care.

And then I turned 40 and I truly stopped caring with a suddenness and totality that, quite frankly, shocked me. All those years I had told myself I didn’t care and then I found myself REALLY AND FUCKING TRULY not caring, and it made all my declarations of “I don’t care!!” seem laughably weak in hindsight.

The point I’m trying to make here is: you just have to do the thing. It’s not going to be easy necessarily, but if you talk yourself out of it, you set a precedence. It’s literally fake it til you make it, and I didn’t get it until I actually finally made it. When I made it, I realized that all the times I set my jaw and stubbornly pushed my way through the fear of judgement, the fear of other peoples assumptions, each time I did that, I was laying the foundation for the next step, and the one after that. I was still anxious and worried, and I’m never going to say those are minor emotions. I remember the social pressure to conform, the whispering cliques and their sneaky looks over their shoulders. I remember how hard it is to buck normalcy and swim against the current. But I also look at my life now and know it would never have been even half this good if I had acquiesced and succumbed to the pressure to look a certain way.

You will always look exactly like you. People will look at you and ascribe different personality traits to you based on their own preconceived notions. There is nothing you can do about that. You may as well be what you want to be. I have been called so many things that I am not, from a lesbian to a boy to a hippie to a fucking Juggalette, none of which I am. And that’s fine. People will think what they think. The best part about fully embracing living the way you want to is that it will draw likeminded people to you. People who look at you and go “I really like that girls buzzed head” and not “that persons buzzed head must mean they’re trans/nb.” You’ll have friends that will rub your fuzzy scalp for good luck and call you their good luck charm. You’ll meet women who admire your bravery in not conforming. One of the things that has always surprised me is the amount of “normal looking” women that confide in me that they wish they could give up shaving, performing femininity, styling their hair, etc, and I always tell them the same thing: you can. It’s not easy, but the choice is always there.

I think other women look at the way I dress and act and think “oh I could NEVER do that, I’d be too scared!” And the secret? I’m scared too. Or I was, at first, and for a long time. I started eschewing femininity in my late teens. It took me another 2+ decades to truly stop caring. The sooner you start though, the sooner you’ll get there.

And again, people will always make their own assumptions about you. They will always perceive you through the lens of their own experiences and you cannot change that and it’s a waste of your time to worry about it. You’ll still worry about it because we’re human, but you have to start practicing not giving a shit. It’s the only way to get to a point where you truly don’t give a shit.

And hey. The cool thing about hair? It grows back. And if you buzz your head and are like “oh my god what have I done?” Wigs exist. If you’ve experienced dysphoria in the past and are worried about buzzing your head resurfacing those feelings, use a wig. I kept a few handy for when I worked at a doctors office and couldn’t rock my wild hairstyles. It can take time to feel comfortable in your natural body with non-conforming looks, and it would be better to use a wig as a temporary crutch than to succumb to feelings of dysphoria.

I know it’s so hard to buck normalcy as a teenager. Everything seems so….consequential. Like every decision you make right now is going to impact you for the rest of your life. That’s not true. I made massive fuckups as late as my 30’s and I have still been able to course correct and make things better. The decisions I made as a teen, especially aesthetic choices, have absolutely zero bearing on my life today. So while I will never minimize your fears (because what you feel is very real, even if it won’t matter in the long run) I will also tell you that the fears I had about acceptance in my teens have faded to the point where I look back and think how bizarre it was that I was so stressed over something that ultimately mattered so little.

High school and our teen years are a Petri dish inside a pressure cooker. It’s a time in your life that is like no other, thankfully. You’ll get older and you’ll meet people who look at you and see you for who you are, not just what they want you to be based on their own perception of you. You’ll meet people who don’t bat an eye at your shaved head and nonconformity. You’ll meet people who also think performing femininity is stupid and a waste of time.

All this to say, do what you truly want to do and don’t worry about what others think. When it comes to you and your body, your opinion is the only one that matters. Anyone who says otherwise can fuck right off into my fist.

-Bilbo

P.S. my best friends mom, who is now my son’s grandma, is a butch lesbian and the first woman I knew to shave her head. She did it to support her sister in law going through chemo, but found that she so enjoyed never having to wash her hair that she kept it shaved for years. She always told people she got tired of spending money on shampoo and they’d be like “Ah, of course” and we’d just laugh. I was lucky to have an adult woman like that in my life so that when I shaved my head, I knew it wasn’t THAT weird. I wish every young girl had a woman like her in their life; it would make it so much easier to break the bonds of beauty culture.

[imrinababy]

𝙰𝚍𝚛𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚗𝚎 𝚁𝚢𝚍𝚎𝚛 [𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚢/𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚖]

Get to know them below!

this has been sitting in my drafts + yes, you’ve seen this sim on my account like 3 posts down but those screenshots were from months ago & since I had no one to really share them with, I’d just take a quick screenshot of my screen to drag + drop into a convo but now I get to yap away here. 😎 They also got a small revamp (hehe)!! I’ll probably make little (lol) posts like this from time to giving backstories to some of my sims? idk, I always come up with a little story as I make them because I feel like you can kinda get a feel for them as you see how they’d “express themselves” through makeup or fashion. anyways enough of me yapping here, I’ll introduce you to Adrienne now.

𝙽𝚊𝚖𝚎: 𝙰𝚍𝚛𝚒𝚎𝚗𝚗𝚎 𝙻𝚒𝚕𝚢 𝚁𝚢𝚍𝚎𝚛

𝙰𝚐𝚎: 𝟸𝟷

𝙱𝚒𝚛𝚝𝚑𝚍𝚊𝚢: 𝟹.𝟷𝟽 ♓︎

𝙵𝚊𝚟𝚘𝚛𝚒𝚝𝚎 𝙲𝚘𝚕𝚘𝚛: 𝚆𝚑𝚒𝚝𝚎

𝙶𝚎𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛: 𝙶𝚎𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛-𝚏𝚕𝚞𝚒𝚍/ 𝙽𝚘𝚗𝚋𝚒𝚗𝚊𝚛𝚢

𝚂𝚎𝚡𝚞𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚝𝚢: 𝙿𝚊𝚗𝚜𝚎𝚡𝚞𝚊𝚕

𝚁𝚎𝚕𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚙 𝚂𝚝𝚊𝚝𝚞𝚜: 𝚂𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚕𝚎

Adrienne is a freshly 21 year old, openly queer and business oriented person. They have periods where they present themselves more masculine or androgynous but they’re currently in their hyper-feminine era. They're a very ambitious but cheerful person, always the first to hype you up when you need it.

They consider themselves as “a human that isn’t limited by boundaries created by mankind” and refuse to use a set gender identity to refer to themselves as so they’ll use gender-fluid/ nonbinary interchangeably to avoid feeling chained to a particular identity. They’re the biggest believer in “You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone or anything, including yourself. Do what makes you happy, our time is limited. Love to live your life.”

They just got out of a two year long relationship with an ex-partner who wasn't very supportive of their gender identity or the way they'd express themselves. "Since I don't set limitations for myself gender wise, I don't mind if people call me "she" from time to time but he'd go out of his way to only refer to me by those pronouns or go out of his way to make it known that I was only a "girl/ woman" in his eyes. Although I had a lot of love for him at some point in time, he was no longer someone I could say I aligned with." They don't have a set preferences for their "ideal type" but gravitate to people who have very similar desires or goals as they do. They're very motivated to reach the goals they set for themselves and heavily desire to be with someone who can match that energy. They are very attracted to the way certain people carry themselves.

They have a HUGE passion for baking & cooking. It’s the best way they express their affection. Sure, they’ll say “I love you” or verbally express anything anything else but their skills in the kitchen is the best way they’ll respond to anything. Going through a breakup? Here’s your favorite type of cookie made especially catered with your tastes in mind. Stressed about school? Here’s a homemade meal with all your favorite ingredients! It’s your birthday?? Well hope you enjoy a day full of taste testing a bunch of dishes made especially for you to try and enjoy. Their dream is to open up a bakery and/or a restaurant to share their skills with the world.

Although they can say they have a support home life, it’s definitely far from perfect. They have an older sister (around the age of 29/30) that they lost contact with at a young age. She "disappeared" from Adrienne's life when they were 7/8 years old & their parents were going through a divorce. Their sister went with their mom and they stayed with their dad. Their mom passed 3-4 years after the split so no one really has heard anything from their sister since. They hate when anyone refers to them as “Lily” but have the fondest memories of their older sister calling them that. Their Dad is kind of hesitant to talk about the topic and avoids it as much as possible but that's made it so that hes more understanding + supportive of Adrienne even if he doesn't necessarily agree with something.

Adrienne's Outfits

Adrienne's style is whatever they think looks great on them. They're currently in their hyper-feminine era so theyre experimenting a lot with new dresses, makeup, hair etc. but they see makeup more as an artistic expression so even when presenting more masc, they still love adding a touch of makeup to themselves.

Everyday

Formal

Party

Sleepwear

Swimwear

Activewear

Hot Weather

Cold Weather

(tbh i was the least confident about this one so i might come redo it and edit this later but for now its staying this)

[polyamorouspunk]

So the shortened version of this is that i want some advice on using gendered facilities as someone who can tend to look a bit genderqueer (i.e, have breasts, but also some facial hair and a masculine voice)

The long version of it is that I've transitioned far enough to where I (afab, they/them) am now legally male with no surgeries (my current state doesn't allow nonbinary gender markers despite my birth certificate reflecting such). I can also generally pass as a man about 75% of the time when i wear my binder and often have people be confused about what my gender is entirely. I still have a feminine body, but a pretty masculine voice, and a very androgynous face with little scruffs of facial hair.

My issue is, I'm in a somewhat conservative area, and I've always worried about having to use gendered public facilities like bathrooms or even a locker room if i have to go to a public pool or something or I decide not to bind one day. I've always thought my best bet would be to use the women's facilities, but that goes back to me having a masculine voice and some facial hair (that i often cover by wearing a face mask anyways).

So I guess to repeat the main question; any advice on using gendered facilities as someone who is somewhat visibly genderqueer?

I think overall women’s restrooms are safer because stalls and women just overall (in my opinion) being more chill with stuff, especially if you can’t see your facial hair. If you were to have your facial hair showing then men’s might be best but also there are cis women with facial hair. Do I think any transphobic person is going to consider that women can have facial hair too? No. But idk. I’ve used the men’s room before at various places and it’s just not my favorite.

[doctorguilty]

I dont understand why people they/them you? Its so fxckin wild

When i was strictly he/him people constantly used they/them and i never understood why it drove me bonkers

Even tho i use xe/xer now, i dont know why people couldnt respect me when i used he/him

I think there's a lot of reasons people do this honestly, I think one of them is like a general discomfort some folks have with using "binary" pronouns to describe someone gender non-conforming and/or not passing as a binary gender in a physical way, I think people know they/them, while it can just literally be someone's pronouns, is also the default pronouns for someone who don't know the gender of, right, so what's like happening there is like, say you see someone just super androgynous or like loudly dressing in a gnc way (wearing a men's button up + tie + plaid skirt + stockings + combat boots) you're gonna probs hit the they/them until further information and there's a good chance that person is some flavor of nb right, well then there's someone like me who's like.. wearing baggy jeans + men's t shirt + boots + hoodie BUT my body is curvy and I'm short and have a soft looking face, so the unconscious read is like oh that person is dressing masculine all the way down BUT their body is clearly womanly, and instead of just bearing in mind the implications of like the cosmetic presentation someone CAN control, and present on purpose, versus things they have no control of like body parts and facial structure, these two aspects are viewed the way my earlier androgynous gnc person example is in which that person IS making all of those choices, if that makes sense. and it's like y'know that'd all be fine like whatever, it's well intended enough and accidentally ignorant at worst to make the wrong assumption, but it's like, you'll try to correct them and be like, "actually my pronouns are he/him" and that just doesnt compute cause they are just really hanging onto their own perception and discomfort with the idea that someone who "looks nb" would use binary pronouns

there's defs more or less to it all though depending on the context of the perpetrator like sometimes misogyny comes into play, sometimes like truscum mindset, all sorts of things, though I do get it an unfortunate amount from nb people and I think it does like come down to their personal discomfort with the gender binary and like projecting it, idk, it's weird

sorry for this like scrambled ramble it's really hard to like put into words! but it's annoying and I'm sorry to hear that crap happened to you too >:[

[ravenwolfie97]

yeah y'know what fuck it it's time for vtuber men smash or pass with one very gay and asexual person LET'S GO

idk how long this will be but considering the thread resulted in a 2-hour stream one can only assume here's the thread these are from too if you wanna look closer or play along at home

all tha bois will be under the cut, hope you enjoy reading my indulgence

damn dude your bobbies very business-slutty and a little spooky, but the cute lil cow plushie gives him a soft side SMASH

there's something about this guy that i can't quite get behind he looks arrogant and whiny and pompous and i don't dig it PASS

this dude's outfit and design go hard but they do not make me hard HKJBJKLKJ idk something isn't clicking with im for me. i think he's too bulky PASS

a little unimpressed by this deer boy. he looks so stiff. does he need a tetanus shot. idk his model is really off-putting the pic on the bottom left is really nice tho PASS

COVER THOSE TITS UP, SLUT the slightly feminine energy is v nice on him but i don't have a big opinion on him. v cool tho PASS

these men and their fat tits istg- okay but he looks nice. he looks like he would give good hugs SMASH

bro from the original video is opposite of me i love me a femboy and i found this guy recently on twitter already he's cute and very gay and this pose in particular is very provocative SMASH

oh a sleepy boy... he looks so eepy... and also he's secretly ripped apparently what the hell idk he's cute but i don't feel any particular way towards him PASS

this man is Built he is Thicc oh at first i really dug the look and considered it but then i looked at his face... something about it disturbs me PASS

he's cute! too cute. not smashable. he just looks very nice :3 PASS

ooh i love me a pretty demon boyyyy however. hm. his outfit makes him look. chunky. y'know what i mean like he is so wide and for what. dominance? bitch you're a twink i'll snap you in half, beanpole SMASH

he's got homophobia in his eyes :0 ngl this design is super solid, i really love it SMASH

lil dogboy butler man. the androgynous vibes from design alone are very good i dunno. you're not interesting enough for me, sir PASS

honorable mention since i'm doing this from the future when his new model ref actually got done yeah no this is the butler vibes but way better and way cuter look at the little star-shaped cutout for his lil bunny tail! that's cute as fuck yeah no he's hot uhm SMASH

the vibes intrigue me but. these are pictures of four different people these cannot all be of the same guy hkjkljkl get some consistent characteristics plz settle for something PASS

GASP A CEL-SHADED VTUBER. A BROTHER IN ARMS oh he's a little shy w it tho... he's a little coy nah he's cute as hell yeah i'd SMASH

my first thought was this is basic as hell but no it's got a little bit of flair going for it i like the lil dragon guy. that's bonus points idk it is still so very basic i am not getting any charm points from you PASS

the lil tentacle horns... that is cute though the little schoolboy-ass look is not doing it for me PASS

yeah this fucks. i don't think i need to say more SMASH

okay dragon daddy- JHKBJLKNLK who said that i won't lie. all of these looks are hot. a good mix of hardcore and laidback attitudes SMASH

oh this one has a fem model too ah. the fem model is bad. and frankly so is the male model but in the sense that it's boring and not in the sense that it's broken and gooner-headed as hell PASS x2

the way my interest was already piqued bc he's a femboy bjlbjbmn i mean. idk what to say tbh he looks fun and flirty and we could have a nice coffee date before the SMASH

oh this is fem hold the boy i like the look but from these images i cannot catch the vibe PASS

omg this guy is adorable i really like him yeah i'll vibe with turtle man, and since he's got a sensual side i'll try for the SMASH

utterly fascinating. but far too much for me to handle PASS

oh a bit of a yandere vtuber boy, i mean i do dig the vibes and the outfit but also. scawy ;3; who am i kidding, you know i like characters like this SMASH

this feels like a 180 from the last one hkbkjlk i do love the novelty of this guy in the vtuber sphere, and the design is super cute listen, bears aren't really my type, but for you i would SMASH

dragon mannnnn boring looking dragon mannnnnnnnn PASS

a good ol demon man i really love the mask... that looks sick as hell otherwise uh. idk you sure are a guy PASS

ough the model itself is rough but the other arts are very nice i'm not really hooked on ya tho PASS

welp it looks like i've run out of image space so there will be a part 2 so far i have the tally: 13/30 smashed

[lorenfangor]

the Anigirls AU has me thinking a lot about how Aximili basically is allowed to get away with a lot of stuff because his human morph is male and he genders himself as male to the other Animorphs, and what would change if he were forced to pass as a girl

he’s not going to be a girl in Anigirls and the biggest reason why is that if he were a female Andalite he wouldn’t be allowed in the military in the same way (Estrid does get to be an (honorary) aristh, and we’re never explicitly told that Andalite females can’t join, but Aximili is too young for the GalaxyTree mission and only there because Elfangor pulled some strings. If Aximili were a female, that wouldn’t have happened, we’d see her turn up later in the series) but the second biggest reason why is because I want to explore somebody who’s coming from a more obvious place of privilege reacting to a lack of privilege

in an all-girl group, Ax has to have a girl morph. especially considering the time and place and overall socioeconomic demographic. if he were male in human morph, he’d be relentlessly bullied as gay, since he’s hanging out with all girls. that’s just the baseline, though. Ax in an all-girl Animorphs team would have to learn how to be human, and learn fast. thing is, he gets away with being weird and androgynous in canon because he’s got Tobias and Jake and Marco with him and because even if he looks somewhat ambiguous he still gets clocked as a boy by other humans. teenage boys have the privilege of just doing weird shit and being accepted - Ax doesn’t face lasting consequences for the movie theater incident, or the Cinnabon tray incident, or the time he tried to order Starbucks. he can be weird in public, he can even talk about how the girls can’t have his body, and the most anybody ever does is think he’s strange and move on.

girl!Aximili (let’s call her Millie like in Anigirls), though? he’s under an intense amount of scrutiny, from the start. he has to learn to talk like other girls, how to dress like other girls, how to control himself around food. he’s got to go to fashion school, and master idioms and language quickly, and every mistake is costly from a social and espionage perspective. he’s not only risking her own cover, he’s risking the social prestige of the girls he’s with - they’ll become targets for bullying from other girls if she’s visibly strange enough and they can’t protect her. even if he’s with extremely popular pretty girls, they can’t afford to let him be too weird in girl morph. he’d damage their armor, because part of maintaining popularity is continuing to perform femininity to the right standards and keep up with the trends, and that includes only surrounding yourself with other people dedicated to that goal.

how would this manifest in the narrative? he’d be quieter, more nervous, more worried about mistakes. he’d learn to mask everything more effectively, and learn to repress the aspects of himself that would out him as a Weirdo or a Freak or a Psycho Bitch. he’d be much more of a Spock or a Data, erudite and cold and detached. but also, he’d probably find a more warm and welcoming friend group - he’d spend a lot more time with all of the members of the team learning how to be a human girl, and the experience would be stressful and dangerous and spark a lot of bonding between them. he’d gain a greater understanding of what it is to be a human female, which would also allow him to reflect on Andalite sexism in new and more helpful ways.

idk it’s really interesting to me that so much of his iconic strangeness only got to happen because he chose to be male in human form; there should be more conversations about that.

[mithliya]

Ajfjsjakjdfjs there is a lot about lesbian culture in other countries I did not know about!! Like o_o why with thr nudes thing sjdjskdjsjd

I see though i think that makes sense. I feel like theres always that dumb idea of masculine feminine balance 😭 even though i myself am femme4butch i still dontt liek the whole oooaaga divine balaaance. Also its weird bc I think in USA, while there is that idea of course, there's also the 'lipstick' lesbians or 'fem4fem' stereotype or at least, what straight people think of the Good type of lesbians if it makes sense. Like what we see on tv... Its more appealing to them anyway

I mean my ex(😭 it hurts to say my god) gfs mom was actually a bit confused on whether she (ex) was trans like her brother (ftm) or just masculine, Bc i guess her idea of lesbians was the Lipstick kind.? but then also shes not usa american but latin American. Also she was very supportive and sweet just straight and confused with things gjdks

Still i think we have that too or single feminine lesbians get told how its good theyre not the ugly kind if people find out. I think gay men also have similar expectations put on them like ive read about families being more accepting if their son was the "top" or more manly seeming one in his relationship

Also me too 😭 its sooo weird like to have been pressured since being born+!!! And even my teachers would say omg stop flirtingg with boy classmate. ☹️ (crazy bc a teacher thatt taught us Gender Spectrum actualy said that to me bc i was telling this one boy off or something.. ookay.) And then my mom bringing up babies or grandchildren and then in the next moment telling me sex is evil and i should stay away from boys okay ma'am!!!

But jdjd glad that its not just me. Idk i keep feeling worried, but then I feel like im being stuck up and thinking im the only one in the world whos smart and sane so ill never find anyone. Like relax you are not the chosen one (@ myself of course)

Yeah i hope my family will be accepting andd not kill me fjsksjs and I hopee. I can find love and peace.... but thank you for listening! really I appreciate it bc sometimes it just feels like drowning in loneliness and i cant be myself even among friends andd etc. So. Ur very sweet 😭 mwah mwah thanks again mena

literally i could not tell u why she was showing me her nudes. im guessing it’s bc she wanted to show me that she gained weight and show her body before 😭😭 i felt like she was low-key flirting ngl lmaooo but she kept talking about her gf and that’s often a red flag for me sooo nothing happened there. i told her she shouldn’t sit around waiting for the day when her gf inevitably leaves her for a man n that’s not healthy etc. she’s also extremely self-hating in general and said a doctor told her that her lesbianism & masculinity are bc she doesn’t have enough estrogen in her body / has too much testosterone and that she should be on hormones to be fixed, which she fully believed.

im not keen on femme4femme lool from my experience most of them are weirdly anti-butches and hold misogynistic & lesbophobic beliefs! and i do think ur right that’s the more acceptable combo in the west (two gender conforming conventionally attractive women dating). i also hate the stupid idea that bc im not masculine im meant to be dating a woman who is bc it’ll “balance” us both. they also said when im with more androgynous or feminine women, i become more masculine which is “unnatural” or sth 🫥. also my mom is most in support of me dating women that can pass for men, i feel like she thinks if i won’t be w a man then the thing that’s best is me dating a woman who can be mistaken for a man. i think it’s mostly bc she wants to be socially accepted but it can be exhausting

ALSO the top thing is a whole ass thing in the gulf. there’s many bi & straight men who will literally get away with having gay sex bc they exclusively top 💀 a lot of those tests they use to check if ur gay (so they’ll jail u for it) are specifically testing if ur a bottom. it’s a weird weird phenomenon. and it’s especially weird that there’s this weird culture of even straight men seeking out men bc the society is very sex segregated. im sure some of those men aren’t actually straight but it’s such a prominent thing the way it is in prisons in the US that im sure many of them are. craziest part is this culture is most prominent in saudi of all places

omg when i was little i had mainly male friends bc idk girls thought i was a weirdo that stared too much at them or sth. and i was v close to my male friends, we’d hold hands n all but i think we both thought nothing of it. and my mom would be like “omg soooo cute my daughter has a boyfriend omg 🤗 she looooves the boys omg and they love her!!!” meanwhile im 5 years old and just thinking of it like holding my brother’s hand

manifesting u find ur dream gf soon and that coming out goes smoothly for u 🥺❤️ don’t hesitate to msg me whenever. i love hearing from other lesbians n it’s always heartwarming seeing younger lesbians accept themselves, i somewhat envy it (wish i were that brave & self-aware!!!) but it gives me a lot of hope for our future 🥰🥰🥰

[science-lings]

character ask game with botw link?

One aspect that I love: I really love how purposefully androgynous they made this version of Link. With every other version of the character all of their voice lines consist of wordless yelling and stuff like that (aside from WW Link's meow), but botw Link laughs and has a noticeably lighter/ higher voice than the rest of them. Not to mention his character model is very short and made to make him look gnc af. also there's a whole major part of his quest that relies on him being able to pass as a girl and he blushes when he's called cute in the clothes BC IT'S NOT DEMEANING TO DRESS FEMININELY!!!

One aspect that I wish more people understood: I think people don't think hard enough about his lack of emotions in the cutscenes, they literally explain why he's like that, why he doesn't talk and everything. He's supposed to be seen as cold and unfeeling because it shows how different he is after the Shrine of Resurrection. He has snarky dialogue and he gets excited to cook and he can shield surf when before the Calamity it's so obvious that he's this soldier trained from childhood to reject his emotions and do what's needed of him.

One (or more) headcanons I have: There is no way that this little dude is cishet. I refuse to believe it. But I can't decide on my favorite gender headcanon for him but I usually default to him being genderfluid. I do really love ftm and mtf trans headcanons and nonbinary headcanons for him too. I think he deserves all of the gender. I also like to put him on the aroace spectrum, but at that point I'm mostly projecting. I just think it's funny that in game there are so many girls who are attracted to him and he just... doesn't understand at all. Like Mipha and Zelda and Paya and the arrow lady all write in their diaries about him and I think it would be fun if he just didn't get the hint at all.

One character I'd love to see them interact with: Outside of his game? I think he and Midna would commit crimes together and it would be funny. Also I really like it when things like fanart and fics include TP Link because he's there as Wolf Link and I think it would've been nice if he could turn Hylian in the game to teach him things but instead he's a dog who kills everything that he sees and gives me a heart attack while distracting guardians. This dog makes me way more anxious when fighting bigger monsters.

One character I wish they'd interact with/ interact with more: Riju, 100%. I think they should've added the fact that he had a family to the game including a little sister who Riju subconsciously reminds him of so it would be nice if they had added some big bro moments with him. You know that they would get along to the detriment of Buliara.

One or more headcanons I have that involve them and one other character: Him and Zelda have the same amount of cryptid nerd energy. Like they both had some before the Calamity, she tried to make him eat a frog and he literally ate rocks and kicked the asses of full grown knights at the age of four, but Post-Calamity? after he had been resurrected and she had spent a hundred years fused with the goddess? They're both fully weird now and they don't care what other people think of them at all. They also have different flavors of inhuman-ness. Like hers is more divine and ancient and powerful and his is more wild and monstrous and new. If that makes sense. Idk he's the nature spirit that connects with animals and strange creatures and plants and she's connected to the goddess so she has dreams of the future and sees everything differently than everyone else. They're weird and its super obvious.

[ace-of-sspades]

Trans masc tips.

just because I’ve been researching and figuring a lot out and I wanted to share.

Disclaimer for this whole thing. You’re identity is valid regardless of how you present and really masculine and feminine things don’t even exists. Gender is a social construct. But here are tips to present more traditionally masculine, at least in my experience and for my body. Also I am non-binary so I don’t really try to pass as a man, just as not a girl, and I am 17 and not out to my family so I’m sure that will effect my advice.

Clothing

- Cloths that are tight around your arms/wrists or ankles at the cuff. It makes your limbs look bigger. Like sinched pants or rolling your sleeves.

- In general stuff that’s tight on the shoulders and baggy around your waist

- Tucking your shirt in can help make your figure look more square

- Darker shirts are sliming and help eliminate any shadow from your chest. Also they hide binders better

- Baggy pants, especially around the thighs. Try to avoid skinny jeans.

- In general layers!! And things with high collars.

- Wearing stuff across your brow line!!!!! Like a hat worn flat across your forehead or a bandana. It makes your face look more angular. This is a saving grace.

Make up

- Okay I know it sounds counter intuitive but it can really help. I suck at make up and these things have helped me so you don’t have to know what your doing. Also you can use a bronzer a darker foundation or even brown eyeshadow, all of it works.

- Contour your jaw!!! It’s barely every noticeable even if you use a lot of contour and it makes your jaw look so much sharper. If you have a butt chin even slightly, adding some there helps a lot, and at the corners of your jaw under your ears.

- Okay so these next tips take more subtlety. But contour your nose, just along the sides and under the tip. It helps give your face depth.

- Also put some in the crease of your eye near your nose, just a little because too much here will look like eyeshadow.

- You can also do your cheek bones and your temple but be careful because if you put too much it’s very noticeable.

- I have thick and dark eyebrows already so I don’t usually do anything to them but mascara does make them look thicker. I recommend using clear mascara or sometimes I’ll rub my black mascara on my arm to get the majority off and then use it on my eyebrows just to give them more volume. It can be tricky to do this without making it obvious. Also putting some darker eyeshadow over them can fill in any gaps and make them look thicker.

Voice

- This is tricky but sometimes I get dysphoria over having a too feminine voice, I really want an androgynous voice and here’s how I’ve at least made myself feel better about it. Idk if anyone else can tell a difference but still.

- I know nothing about singing or pitch or whatever but,,, singing in the car to songs with male vocalists really helps. It’s not even about harmonizing, and I suck at singing but even just talking the words helps. Plus if you feel weird practicing alone in your room or while you talk to someone this is a perfect fix because odds are you already sing when your alone in your car and no one will hear you.

- The most important thing is try to emulate the quality of the vocalists voice. Like say the words the way they do, over time this gives you more control over what your voice sounds like. A lot of male voices echo more or are heavier sounding and this is a way to get your voice to do that.

- Try to lower your voice if you can, it can help to say ahhh and then go deeper and try to speak at that level. But don’t try to lower your voice and scream because it h u r t s.

- Also trying your best to sit up straight and take a deep breath before you speak helps quite a bit.

- Your vocal cords are muscles, so the more you practice the easier it’ll be to control the quality and depth of your voice.

- Finally, don’t damage your voice to make it sound more masculine. I’ve done it before, I’d yell really loud to a song and be happy when my voice is horse after but it does damage your vocal cords so try not to.

Body language

- Take. Up. Space!!! Sit with your legs wider and your shoulders back. If you cross your legs do it with one shin over the other thigh not at the ankles.

- Walk in two lines not one. Like try not to put one foot directly in front of the other when you walk. Also your best to keep your shoulders and hips straight and even.

- Standing try to keep your weight even don’t lean on one foot.

- Keep your hand movements deliberate and try not to fidget.

- Also real quick, work out tips. Focus on your shoulders and arm!!! Tricep, pecs, lats, deltoids, biceps. Adding as much mass to these as possible will help immensely. Also working forearms will help make your veins more prominent.

Hair

- If you can’t cut it short that’s okay!! Tying it back in a messy low bun helps a lot. Before I cut my hair I did this all the time and I felt like hozier

- Also curtain bangs! If you’re closeted they still are perceived as totally feminine. But if you wear a beanie or a hood they give you the appearance of short hair.

- If you can cut your hair, try not to fall into the trap of “I must shave my head”. Some people can totally pull it off and obviously if you’ve always wanted too go for it! But it might not help you pass. Short hair exposes your jaw line a lot more. And AFAB jaws are normally a lot softer than AMAB jaws. I recommend cutting your hair in stages, just to see what looks best.

- Jaw length or mid ear length works as masculine too! And it can help add depth to your face. I have a pretty soft jaw and my hair currently looks kinda like JD from Heathers and it works pretty well.

- Hair is honestly very tricky and there’s really no way to get a completely masc hair cut. But in general longer on the top and shorter on the sides works well.

- Honestly my biggest tip for teenage trans masc folks is to find a hair dresser/barber that doesn’t cut your hair to look feminine. Like the family hairdresser you’ve been going too since you were 5? They definitely have an idea of what you should look like and will add their own touch. And if you’re not out to your parents it’s hard to come out to a family hairdresser. My recommendation is do some research and find a place nearby that cuts men and women’s hair, that way you don’t have to worry about passing enough to get into an only men’s barbershop, but they’ll still know how to cut men’s hair. Either way definitely go to someone new, and if you can ask specifically for a men’s hair cut.

Anyway there’s my tips. Feel free to add, and sorry this is kinda a long post lol. I’ve been compiling this for months and I hope it can help someone.

[ahkaahshi]

jujutsu kaisen x off-duty looks [hcs] pt. 2

characters: inumaki toge, kamo noritoshi, miwa kasumi, fushiguro megumi

genre: freeform

warning(s): probably swearing idk

overview: another analysis of more jjk characters and how they might dress off the clock!

notes: it’s the part 2 that nobody asked for but I made anyway! tagging: my fellow fashion queens @wasabito​, @mi-yams​, and @softkuna​, as well as my fav inumaki stan @inum4ki​, the loml who listens to me rant about how much I love noritoshi (and many, many more) on the daily @ackerhoe​, and my other jjk babies @aloeechan​ and @3rdgymbros​!

PART 1 ⭐︎ you are here ⭐︎ PART 3

INUMAKI TOGE -> limits his vocab but not his range

inumaki is the master of skillful layering. since he can’t express himself verbally he likes to do so with his outfits instead and let his clothes speak for him! he loves experimenting with colors/patterns and textiles by throwing on a silky button up with a chunky knit sweater or wearing a fuzzy turtleneck under a denim jacket. and even though it’s all completely intentional, it never really appears that way, and that’s exactly how he likes it! usually finishes off his look with a pair of chelsea style boots of some description and maybe a beanie to keep his noggin toasty if it’s chilly or if he just feels more like keeping to himself on a given day. he’s like the unspoken fashionista amongst his peers, and maki, panda, and yuuta are often lying in wait, seeing what outfit he steps out in for the day so they can take notes.

featured designers: uniforme paris, ami, isabel marant, aimé leon dore, bottega veneta, staffonly studio 

MIWA KASUMI -> these looks were made for chasing a bag, not a man

miwa is an effortlessly chic vision. she embraces a more androgynous style with baggier silhouettes and more traditionally masculine pieces that she spruces up. she’s very much a fan of wearing button up shirts and trousers, but giving them an edgier twist with utility belts or throwing a graphic tee to contrast the more mature nature of her fits. color is also a fun concept that she enjoys experimenting with and will break up the dark or neutral shades of her outfits with bright yellows, greens, blues, or oranges just because she can. it’s her way of commanding the attention she deserves! and as if her look wasn’t elevated enough already, she literally takes it to the next level with platform boots that are 100% made for stompin on cursed spirits (or anyone who decides they need an ass beating) 😤 nobody else knows aside from mechamaru/koukichi, but miwa and noritoshi often end up having photoshoots together to show off their looks since they can vibe with each other’s similar senses of style. koukichi only knows because he’s the one who takes said photos.

featured designers: margaret howell, virgil abloh/off-white, lemaire, maison margiela, stella mccartney

KAMO NORITOSHI -> people wear just one shirt? couldn’t be him

noritoshi is another king who values movement without restriction! like inumaki, he also enjoys layering, but often with the same silhouette or style, just a different color. the long sleeve under short sleeve trend? he’s all over it and he can work it! he loves a strong color block and, while he often favors more neutral or muted colors, enjoys tossing a shock of something else into the mix, whether it’s in his base layer, top layer, pants, or shoes. the man is a shoe collector and has a secret stash of high end kicks that only miwa knows about (since she wouldn’t leave him alone after witnessing him meeting up with other sneaker collectors to close a deal), so he has no issue with being a little extra in terms of his footwear--and he will be extra. and if that wasn’t enough he just casually accessorizes with some bling, like a chain bracelet or maybe a single ring since he’s edgy like that. he regrets it though when he suddenly has to use his cursed technique and ends up with that metal to knuckle action. does he stop wearing the ring though? no!

featured designers: robert geller, jacquemus, valentino, rick owens

FUSHIGURO MEGUMI -> always cool, never cold

megumi has this power to make any sweater look good (really not surprising given how cute he is), which is great, since they’re about 90% of his wardrobe! like the others, he enjoys an easy, effortless look. the only difference, though, is that his look actually is effortless because he literally doesn’t think about it. he sees a sweater and he wears. he sees comfy silk pants and he wears. he sees shoes that fit his personal aesthetic and don’t hurt his feet and he wears. overall, though, he favors neutral colors and simple silhouettes: a sweater, pants, and running shoes/sneakers are really all he needs to feel complete, as well as a lil crossbody bag or waist pack of some description not because they’re fashionable but because they’re ✨functional✨ of course! he always ends up being the one who carries everyone’s things, especially gojou’s, since he’s basically a child and always needs someone to hold his stuff anyway while he gets into mischief (if nanami’s not there, then the baton is automatically passed to poor gumi), and yuuji and nobara are usually right there with him, so megumi gets stuck with his hands full and his bag overflowing

featured designers: dior, nike, acronym, jacquemus 

[sebastianshaw]

God forbid, GOD FORBID, but... hel and shaw.

Name: Hulda Helasdottir (I think that’d be the correct spelling?) Hulda means “secrecy” or “hidden” in Old Norse, but “sweet” or “lovable” in Old Swedish and like, idk, I don’t know your Hel deeply enough to be totally sure but that sort of seems. . .right, for a child of hers? Like something she would name them. It’s also a genus of moth, and I also drew inspiration from those for her; quiet things that dwell in the dark and are misunderstood. “Hulda” also has some meanings in Hebrew but that’s coincidence and doesn’t have much to do with her.

Gender: Cis Female. Probably experimented a bit with gender fluidity here and there but she was like nah I’m good.

General Appearance: Shocking pale with long straight black hair that once in awhile she crops very short, but it always grows back swiftly. Pointy-chinned androgynous pixie face. Very big eyes, almost unattractively so. Skinny but big-boned. In her mother’s realm or otherwise among her fellow supernatural beings, I’m think a gown a lot like THIS in a deep maroon, with her hands bedecked in jeweled finger-bracelets and nothing at all on her feet. Definitely has Hel’s fondness for gems. In Midgard, I’m thinking a lot of gray tweed blazers and skirts with maroon tops, kind of a Dark Academia look, but it’s somehow always a little slouchy and ill-fitting, just as her hair always looks unbrushed and sometimes has bits of moss or forest floor debris floating in it even when she’s in the city. Those with supernatural sight can perceive deer antlers on her head, and I don’t have any reason for this besides that I think it’s cool. I could say something about the loss and regrowth of antlers symbolizing the changing of seasons and cyclical nature of life and death but honestly? I’m doing it because I like the aesthetic.

Personality: Strange little girl, where are you going? Hulda is drawn to darkness and hidden places, both figurative and literal. She pokes her head into caverns where no lights gets in, seeking out what’s to be found. She loves mystery, but she loves truth even more, especially the kind that hasn’t been seen by anyone in a long time, if ever. She things of herself less of a hunter, and more a forager. She only wants to examine what she finds, not hurt it. But she is her father’s daughter and can be seduced by what she finds in the dark. She would eat the pomegranate seeds and fairy fruit. Like Ofelia in Pan’s Labrytinth, she cannot resist what’s on the table, even when warned about the Pale Man and what will commence if she takes but one bite. And maybe. . . maybe she even wants it. She is drawn to the darkness, after all, and that includes danger. There is no thrill without risk. And sometimes that tastes sweeter than a victory, a clean getaway, ever would.  Hulda knows all the rules. She knows who to take food from. She knows whom not to give her name. She knows which paths to stay on. She knows. She just chooses otherwise. Because it’s so much more INTERESTING that way.

Special Talents: Hulda can walk easily between realms and worlds, frequently finding little pocket dimensions like little caves or groves. Woods are always bigger when she’s in them. Moths are often in her presence. Puppies tend to be born with two heads in places she’s passed through. Has all the standard Asgardian attributes by half, and probably some dark/nature type magics---people always forget that death and fungus and blight are all as much parts of nature as sunshine and flowers--and is shockingly good at marbles. 

Who they like better: I think she’s primarily been in Hel’s care for most of her life, so it’s less she likes Shaw more and more that she’s more curious about him, ESPECIALLY since he’s something dark and dangerous and downright hostile to her

Who they take after more: Hel

Personal Head canon: Hulda has a sister. Her sister’s is Dyr. Dyr can mean “deer” but it can also mean simply “beast” because that is what Dyr is. Dyr is not a name, you see. It’s a title. Dyr is big, and best not described beyond this, but whatever she is, she fits in very well with her two uncles on Hel’s side. Dyr is Shaw’s greed and Hel’s loneliness made hungry howling flesh, and she haunts and hunts whenever Hulda does not exist, wherever Hulda does not exist. You see, a common misconception is that Hulda turns into Dyr when in certain realms. This is not the case. They are separate beings, they simply cannot exist at the same time. When Hulda goes to a place that is not right for a creature like her to be, where one like the Dyr would be better suited, then Dyr will exist and Hulda will not. It’s that simple. It’s very simple. People seem to have a hard time with it though.

Face Claim: N/A

[transgenderteensurvivalguide]

idk what i am i think i fit into genderfluid?, so for about 1year/2years ive been thinking im trans (ftm), i have dysphoria sometimes, mostly my chest area but under the waist also, i wear baggy black and grey t shirts and baggy jeans to feel comfortable but it never helps when im in these dysphoric moods, and i know i want to be called he/him and be seen and recognized as a man if i could, i have height dysphoria badly also, but im just fine with my female body existing?

Lee says:

When people think of someone being genderfluid, they often think of a person who says sometimes they feel male and sometimes they feel female. And that’s a valid way to be genderfluid, but people also need to acknowledge that isn’t the only way to be genderfluid! Being genderfluid means your gender identity changes over time, which means you can have any possible combinations of gender identities as long as it isn’t constant. 

For example, some genderfluid folks identify as changing between agender and male, so they’re 100% male sometimes and 100% agender at other times, or change between bigender and female, or anywhere that they feel they fit at that point in time. Sometimes they even switch between three or more genders. 

These genders are sometimes experienced simultaneously, or they can be apart. Shifts in gender can happen at any time, sometimes within days, sometimes within minutes, sometimes within years. 

I’d definitely look more into the genderfluid community if you think you might be genderfluid- there’s a lot of different genderfluid experiences out there, and talking to different genderfluid people and getting immersed in the community might help you understand the diversity of experiences there.

However, you said you’d want to be recognized as a man if you could. While that doesn’t always mean that you’re a man- there’s some transmasc nonbinary folks who want to pass as male- saying you want people to recognize you as a man is usually an indicator of being a man.

I can’t figure out your gender identity for you, but I can tell you that you can be a trans man while still feeling fine about your body. You don’t need to hate your body all the time in order to be a valid trans man. 

There are actually a few trans men out there who are non-dysphoric, and feel like they’re men so their bodies are male by extension, regardless of the way society genders it. If you feel like you’re a man, then you’re a man- there isn’t anything else to it, you don’t need to have X amount of discomfort with your body.

Similarly, being genderfluid doesn’t necessarily mean that you aren’t dysphoric. There are genderfluid people who feel constant dysphoria because even if they look somewhat androgynous that doesn’t mean they can get their appearance to shift enough as their gender changes; so when they feel their gender is feminine they might feel they look too masculine, then when their gender is masculine they might feel they look too feminine.

If you do feel drawn to the label genderfluid, then maybe there’s something there, and that might be a good label for you. But you shouldn’t confuse being genderfluid with having less dysphoria- they’re not the same thing. Being a trans man doesn’t mean you’re uncomfortable with your body, and being genderfluid doesn’t mean you are comfortable with your body.

Again, I can’t tell you if you’re genderfluid or a trans man, but I would urge you to continue to look into the communities that you think might fit your identity and try to see beyond stereotypes about how a “real” trans person should feel about their body. 

We have a intro-to-questioning-your-gender post here: What gender am I?

[juwon-ah-moved]

i’m gonna rant about male privilege as someone on T under the cut

idk if anyone reading this might relate, but i’ve been thinking a lot about male privilege bc im almost a year on T and i “pass” more and more as time goes by (especially if i don’t shave for long and i have actually visible hair on my face) and... it’s weird. i know i’m sort of gaining male privilege, when people see me as male (wouldn’t say a man bc people think i’m 16 at most lmao) they might treat me differently than if they saw me as female. though honestly i haven’t had enough interactions that are long or meaningful enough to determine if the other person or people are treating me differently. anyway yeah i know i’m gaining this privilege (that adds up to my being white) but... it’s so weird bc... i’m not a man? and like i want to pass (tho i HATE the concept of passing) as one, yes, bc that’s the only alternative i have to being seen as a woman, but at the same time it’s still not being seen as who i am. this is so hard to explain but on one hand i’m happy when people perceive me as male bc it means they’re not seeing me as a woman, but it still hurts bc i’m not a man either. it hurts A LOT less, but... it’s tiring, having to make compromises, u know?? and now i’m here asking myself... how do i deal with this when i’m not a man? is it still male privilege? it feels so weird to think of it that way, like i’m misgendering myself, but on a practical level, if a woman sees me in the street at night and crosses the road to avoid me, is it any different than if i was a man, cis or trans? i don’t even know if i would pass in the dark lmao i don’t always pass. but that’s beside the point. i’m thinking a lot about this bc i’m very conscious of how others perceive me in the sense that i try my best not to make anyone uncomfortable. like it hurts to think that someone would see me as a man and therefore dangerous, but it’s also my “job”, for lack of a better term, to be aware of my privileges. idk where i’m going with this really, i just wish 1) i could feel comfortable dressing in... idk, less “manly” ways and be more “ambigous” like i’d like to and 2) being perceived as nonbinary was a thing. i guess u can be seen as androgynous and people might not know what’s ur gender but they’ll still try to figure it out and assign u one lmao okay i’m rambling, bye

[whenallelsefails-eatpie]

Finally Answering Questions for y’all

Q1: How tall or short do you wish you were?

I used to wish I was taller because I already am tall for an (AGAB)female (5′8 1/2) but then I learned about platforms so. 

4: What was your favorite video game growing up?

Monkey Ball or Sonic Adventure Escape the City...I only had a Gamecube.

6: If you had a warning label, what would yours say?

Warning: Uses humor as a defense mechanism but will quickly become extremely invested in you  and give you immense amounts of unending love if they vibe w you

8: What is your Greek personality type? [Sanguine, Phlegmatic, Choleric, or Melancholic]

Melancholic

9: Are you ticklish?

extremely, on my back and sides (use this information wisely. I take no responsibility for involuntarily punching anyone who tickles me)

10: Are you allergic to anything?

absolutely nothing, allergies are to weed out the weak. (jkjk no eugenics here sis you slay that epipen)

11: What’s your sexuality?

~ pansexual  ~ (prefer agab [not cis, those are two different things] females)

12: Do you prefer tea, coffee, or cocoa?

tea, then coffee with cocoa. I don’t enjoy cocoa or coffee as much separately.

37: What is your eye color?

hazel/green 

38: Introvert or extrovert?

I’m ambiverted but lean toward introversion. 

44: Do you like tattoos and piercings?

oh yeah absolutely, I personally just prefer that the tattoos aren’t on your face.  Or with piercings that they don’t take up so much of your face that I can’t see what you really look like.

54: What color would you like your hair to be right now?

pink, red, or platinum 56: Something that calms you down?

reading, playing instruments, taking a bath, cooking or baking

57: Have any mental disorders?

yessir. ADD, anxiety. and I used to have really bad depression. Now my depression is simply manageable lol. 

73: What is your MBTI type?

INFP (enneagram 4)

86: Can you run a mile within ten minutes?

surprisingly yes, will I come close to passing out? Maybe. But I can.

87: Do your socks always match?

never, I hate matching my socks unless the socks are funky and need to match to give them the biggest bang for their buck. 

92: A store you hate?

Dick’s sporting goods. I have been dragged around that place for hours and absolutely nothing there interests me. (edit: I found a beanie that I liked but my previous opinion still stands)

93: How many cups of coffee can you drink in one day?

start counting and never stop. If you mean in terms of actual measurements like cups/ounces, I can drink 20. What can I say I’m from New England.

94: Would you rather be able to fly or read minds?

Definitely fly because that might help lessen my fear of heights

95: Do you like to wear camo?

literally shoot me if you ever see me wearing camo. please, I beg you. that will be me at my lowest point 

96: Winter or summer?

Autumn. Next question.

97: How long can you hold your breath for?

3-4 minutes. It’s all that breath control from musical theatre.

99: Someone you look up to:

Jughead Jones. Yes I said that, fight me. He is completely himself and he allows the different facets of his personality to shine through to people that he loves and cares about. He is loyal and caring but also unique and resilient. Plus his fave food is burgers which is an instant win for me.

100: A store you love?

Hot Topic, Barnes and Nobles, Savers or any thriftstore 

102: Where do you live?

New England bb (; gettin that dark academia aesthetic straight from the source

104: What is your favorite mineral or gem?

Amber

105: Do you drink milk?

You mean out of the glass? Like a psychopath? Like a serial killer? Absolutely not

106: Do you like bugs?

I do! Except for spiders and mosquitoes (although I’m warming up to spiders)

109: Can you draw:

Eh yeah ig, well enough. I draw realistically but I’m not great at animated style. 

111: A question you hate being asked?

“Are you a boy or a girl?” (like why? does it personally affect you? are you planning on boning me? if not then buzz off)

113: Do you like the sound of waves at the beach?

Yes, but only at night when the beach is quiet. I’m not a huge fan of the beach during the day

114: Do you prefer cloudy or sunny days?

Rainy or sunny. Don’t go givin me the clouds with none of the drizzle.

119: Favorite thing about a person: 

Personality first and foremost. Humor and kindness. But physically; their smile and mannerisms. 

120: Fruits or vegetables?

Veggies (or berries i like berries)

121: Something you want to do right now:

Run away... ahah. But in all honesty I would love to go mushroom foraging rn, or possibly go on an adventure. Maybe go put on clothing meant for an entirely different time period and run around Target idk.

123: Sweet or sour foods?

Definitely not sour I hate sour. Spoonfeed me wasabi, that I can handle. But if you make me eat a Warheads I will cry. 

129: What would you want written on your tombstone?

I personally have a lot of problems with the funeral industry, so I would rather not take up space and rot preservation chemicals into the earth. But if I had an interim tombstone with no body underneath, it would read “Live Laugh Love” bc ~irony~

131: What is something you love but also hate about yourself?

that I’m very individualistic and stubborn

132: Do you smile with your teeth showing for pictures?

Yes absolutely, that’s what they’re there for.

134: Do you like roller coasters?

Do I like feeling like I’m about to full send through the crust of the earth and die? No. No I do not. (I am a simple person, I go to carnivals for the food and to feed off terror.) 139: What nicknames do you have/have had?

Cookie

141: Have you ever seen a therapist/shrink?

OH YEAH absolutely, I am a repressed gen z homosexual raised in a homophobic religious atmosphere, I am practically born with a therapist assigned to me.

142: Would you say you are a good or bad influence to others?

Definitely good -_- unfortunately. Catch me bein the mom friend.

143: Do you prefer giving or receiving gifts/help?

I prefer giving, but I am learning how to recieve. 

144: What makes you angry

People who live their lives in willful ignorance despite the endless resources available to them and let that ignorance hurt others.

146: Do you prefer boys, girls, and/or non-binaries?

All of em. Gimme em all. I don’t like boys as much currently but I would still probably lay my life on the line for some. 

147: Are you androgynous?

Yes. It’s more fluid than it is being in consistent limbo between masc and femme. Usually I’m androgynous but I often swing wildly between both ends of that socially perceived spectrum. 148: Favorite thing about yourself physically?

My hands or smile(product of bracesTM). But I have been told I have nice hands. 

149: Favorite thing about your personality:

I am a very strong blend of wise and class clown. I can do em both, I can do em well, and I can do em whenever. I also care a lot about others but I don’t change myself to be accepted by them. 

150: Name three people you would like to talk to right now in person.

MLK Jr. --> I want to gain perspective on some of the current global issues. Jesus --> I’ve got a lot of questions for that dude. JRR Tolkien bc he’s incredible or Joan of Arc for the same reason

151: If you could go back into time and live in one era, which would you choose?

Ooh well, as a woman not many eras are desirable. But um probably either the 70s or Ancient Greece

154: Do you like to kiss others’ foreheads or hands for platonic reasons?

YES. GIMME UR FINGERS > i meant that to sound much less threatening than it did but my statement still stands. 155: Do you like to play with others’ hair?

Yes it’s literally one of my favorite things to do. I hab empty lap. *pat pat* U may lay your head on it and watch Rilakkuma and Kaoru with me while I play with your hair. pls. 157: Something that makes you nervous/anxious:

Women..... That’s it. That’s the tweet.

158: Biggest lie you have ever told:

That I am not a member of the alphabet mafia. (It’s not currently safe for me to come out) Now tell me *shines light in your face* who are your contacts?

164: Do you have long or short hair?

I have medium hair. It’s around the length of a bisexual bob or a good mullet. 

165: Shortest/Longest your hair has ever been:

Shortest was a pixie cut, almost buzzed, amazing. Longest was to my butt and was literally the worst experience in existence. I shall to this day actively rebel against having hair like that again. 

166: Why do you like, dislike, or have neutral feelings about religion?

Organized religion can suck it. You can’t organize your relationship with God, nor can you stick it into a little manmade box and pretend that you have the ability to create a perfect faith which others have to either follow or perish. It’s arrogant and damaging and hurtful and not at all what Christianity is supposed to mean. 

167: Do you really care how the universe and world was created?

I do. I think it’s important and something we need to think about. I do believe there is something after death, and I like to believe that my life has meaning. I think that questions of creation are important questions to ask and we can’t just ignore them.

168: Do you like to wear makeup?

Yes! It’s fun! Pretty colors!

170: Did you answer the questions you were asked truthfully?

Absolutely. And the ones I didn’t feel like answering I simply omitted.