#like how people fakeclaim the fire

[carnage-cathedral]

I don't know why I'm telling you this I think I kinda just want people to stop assuming that we didn't suffer just because we weren't reporting on everything that was happening to us

[sophieinwonderland]

Episode 4 of Responding to the "Sophie is Dangerous Doc": On Genders and Slurs

If you haven't seen my other posts on this:

Episode 1 (Block Evasion Allegations) Episode 2 (All Tibetan Buddhists are Monks) Episode 3 (Survivor's Network) Episode 3.5 (Hate Groups)

Let's just get right into this!

First, just noting that I absolutely H*TE the culture online around censoring sl*rs where this is a t*rrible word nobody should say, BUT it's totally okay if you replace ONE vowel with an asterisk. Mostly because, when reading it in their heads, I'm certain most everyone is going to instantly read the slur as the slur, and it should be just as triggering to those who would be triggered by it. This isn't specifically an issue with the author but more collective st*pidity of the internet.

Here I went through the trouble of, after realizing I had messed up, to at least replace the whole word with "the T-slur" when all I needed to do was write "tr*nny." Silly me. (This is the only time I'll be writing it that way in this post. I just really need to illustrate how stupid I find this whole thing.)

This bare-minimum censorship while being outraged over saying a slur is just a tad too ridiculous to me to take seriously.

Context...

This came about during an argument with someone over the word endogenic. They were arguing, in essence, that because the word "endogenous" may have had vague ties to Freud fakeclaiming trauma, the word "endogenic" was bad because it's the same word.

My point was to illustrate how even if this was true and endogenous was offensive, two words can sound similar and have the same roots with similar literal meanings with one still being offensive and the other not. The example I gave was how trans/transgender are perfectly fine terms while the t-slur is bad despite both having the same roots and literal meanings. Connotations of specific words matter. Not just their roots.

I apologized after seeing how that affected people because I wasn't aware of the severity of the term.

Derogatory terms aren't all equal, and while there are certain pejoratives that you never should say, ever... others are generally acceptable in neutral contexts when not using them as an insult.

My mistake here was not being educated in which category this particular pejorative fell under.

On our gender...

A huge part of this narrative is the idea that I just suddenly for the first time ever decided to identify as genderfluid because I was under fire.

This is, like much of what is said in this document, completely false.

I had previously posted about how being a system with multiple genders makes our system's body more accurately described as genderfluid.

This post was back in August of 2022. Well before the slur discourse in May of 2023.

I believe there were other posts but they're hard to find because Tumblr searches are bad. (I used google to find this one.)

The idea that the body/system is technically genderfluid isn't something I invented out of thin air for that one discussion, but is something that had been on my mind for a long time, and something I had talked about before.

While I won't blame the author for not having an encyclopedic knowledge of every post I ever made. This is yet another instance of accusations and assertions without ever even bothering to confirm if they were true.

This lack of due diligence is a massive theme in the "Sophie is dangerous" document.

If anyone had asked me if I had made public statements referring to our body being genderfluid, I could have answered and provided a source.

In fact, the author quotes me saying that I've always considered the body genderfluid, even highlighting it...

But didn't once think, as any reasonable person would have in this situation, that there may be evidence of this out there.

Instead, the author lazily repeats the lie that this was something new I just suddenly decided for the sake of this one argument.

Transness...

There are a couple problems.

First, let's start with the point near the end about being queer. Because my point was more than that.

It was that genderfluidity is not merely queer, but specifically on the transgender spectrum as seen below:

My position is actually that any system with fronting headmates of a different gender than their AGAB is genderfluid to an extent. And because of this, is on the transgender spectrum. (Regardless of whether they identify as transgender or not.)

Slipper Slopes and Bad Precedents.

This is a ridiculous take meant to try to villainize me. And is a bit of revisionist history at that.

I initially apologized and did explain that the intent was not to reclaim the term, and that I didn't feel comfortable reclaiming it. I stand by that.

I didn't cast myself as a victim over people being upset by it.

After my apology, I listened to numerous transgender systems who were uncomfortable with the topic that arose from that, and uncomfortable with the people taking issue with a girl in an AMAB body using the T-slur.

There is a lot of underlying complexity here that I believe needed to be addressed.

Because simply apologizing without addressing these other issues sets a precedent that I didn't want to be setting.

I wasn't going to let the takeaway from that conversation be "individual headmates can't reclaim slurs, even ones they could be called, unless they directly identify by the specific term for the experiences they have."

I've never been called the T-slur. But as more systems are out publicly and headmates of different genders are expressing their gender, it's likely that they'll be victims of transphobia.

Systems with multiple genders are, as a whole, genderfluid.

Genderfluidity is on the transgender spectrum. Regardless of whether they identify as transgender or not.

And it's pretty weird to try to police the language people on the transgender spectrum use based on whether they specifically call themselves transgender or not.

My biggest problem with the whole discourse around that topic is that it ultimately presents an intrusive ideology that is super concerned with policing the specific terms GNC people use and identify by. And worse, it presents the gender of systems as less important than those who have varying genders for other reasons.

The precedents you set don't exist in a vacuum. The fact is that you are arguing this at the same time that sysmeds have resorted to maliciously misgendering endogenic systems, justifying it under the basis that it's not actual misgendering because the headmate with those genders aren't real.

Something which, if you remember from the previous episode, the OP of the "Sophie is dangerous document" doesn't believes counts as real misgendering.

In the end, it's a very slippery slope from "female headmates in AMAB bodies with gender dysphoria can't reclaim transgender slurs" to "gender discrimination against headmates is totally separate to that faced by trans people and misgendering headmates isn't as bad as misgendering real transgender people."

And this is a slippery slope the author of the document appears to have fallen straight down and crashed face-first on.

[the-666-system]

TW: ramcoa, cult abuse, wilderness survival, white room torture, child death, trafficking, etc.

Can't stop thinking about all of those kids who never made it out of the cult.

All of those kids who died in the woods during winter because they were too young or even disabled to know how to hunt for food, build a fire, or find shelter.

All of those kids who lost their minds from weeks and months of white room torture who ended up in state mental hospitals because they couldn't function.

(We almost ended up there, but a private school for mentally ill/traumatized teens like us opened in the next town, and we got lucky on late admissions).

All of those kids who were sold to the scum of the earth and still have to be located by the feds.

All of those kids who ended up severely disabled and sick by the abuse and trauma they went through.

People love to fakeclaim us for having a bunch of physical and mental disorders when it's LITERALLY THE ABUSE WE WENT THROUGH THAT MADE US DEVELOP IT!!!! USE YOUR BRAINS OMG

[banesberry-anomoly]

🤔 .

🤔 11. How did you find out you were plural?

Lotsss of questioning for multiple years. We initially suspected when we learned about the artists muse concept, where your character talk back to you, and we had known that the vague concept of plurality had existed before then and was like hmmmmmmm

I think we first suspected back in 2016 or 2017?? Which is when the 5 or 6 people first drew themselves, lemme know if yall wanna see that btw cause Ill have to dig out an old sketchbook to find it. Old host went back into heavy denial after getting trapped in the loop of FDC tiktok compilations on youtube, which fuck anyone who fakeclaims and fuck anti endos, firing warning shots yet again we dont want you here please and thanks

Started heavily questioning again sometime in 2021, which was also the time we learned about the wider alterhuman community due to an irl ex friend who was also questioning both plurality and was fictkin

Our sysversary date is May 28th, as thats around when we made our SimplyPlural account, and ironically enough is also the date I got frontstuck in 2023 lmao

But yeah, us going through denial for so many years is part of the reason were so open about being plural now and willing to help others, cause I dont want them to have to suffer through the same kind of internal fakeclaiming that we did via bad experiences with the community early on

[banamine-bananime]

the forum werewolf game ever. of all time: day two close

Start reading here!

With Church coming ever closer to death by popular vote with ten minutes to go, Andy asks for the reveal Church had promised:

Boy does Church deliver!

Okay, necessary background: an innocent child is a role in werewolf where mods confirm that a player is village. Confirmation generally either happens at the start of the game or immediately after a player calls for the reveal.

This is the one singular roleclaim that can immediately be proven 100% true or almost 100% certainly false.

And this is Church’s choice of fakeclaim.

Okay!!!!!! 

Tex:

In frantic discussion against the deadline, most people agree this is class B Bullshit. Some agree this is probably bullshit, but Church claims the confirmation will happen during night actions so hey, let him cook, we’ll kill him tomorrow if it’s a lie. Caboose and Tucker are still team “lmfao no this is not Church, that’s an alien, bro, kill it with fire” but friendly fire voting is still not enabled so their opinion is useless. 

Church has objections to Donut’s reaction:

Despite the past ten plus pages being largely focused on how much Church needs to die, with a side of how much Wyoming needs to die, Vic slides into the lead by virtue of blue team being more united on Vic than red team on Church and blue team still not being allowed to teamkill:

D2 Lover's Quarrel Official FINAL Tally

Blue Team: Church (4) - Simmons, Grif, The Meta, Donut Doc (2) - Vic, Wyoming Caboose (1) - Lopez  Red Team: Wyoming (1) - Tucker Vic (6) - Caboose, Tex, Sheila, Andy, O’Malley, Doc Simmons (1) - Church Voting: 15/15 Missing: peace and quiet Leading: Vic

(Let us not forget from day one:)

lol

Okay, neither village nor a wolf, but a third party. A jester wins by getting voted out. This is not the flip anyone was expecting:

Church, for whatever reason, decides to triple down on the innocent child fakeclaim (you may know this strategy as “getting yourself completely fucked by lying for no fucking reason”):

Grif has a friendly reminder:

Church:

What about that “treestump”?

Great question, player! It means even while dead (so cannot vote or use any night actions), Vic can continue haunting everyone and posting away as much as he likes. You can kill the Vic-arino but you can’t make him shut up.

Vic demonstrates:

Church won’t let this hiccup interrupt digging his grave:

Yeah, Church. Yeah. It sure is.

I think by this point Church was fully living in the reality where his role really was innocent child.

Church also doubles down on Vic being “village” also meaning Caboose is wolfing:

The Meta, in the wolves' private chat:

Next: night 2

[woodlandscab1n]

Anti-endos will always just be ppl mad that not everyone is suffering like them. They say it's about misinformation, what misinformation? That not all systems suffer like you do, is that the misinformation?

All they're saying is how endogenic systems came to be, not DID/OSDD/traumagenic, because that's not what they fucking are so they don't talk for us! They only talk for their experiences with systemhood/plurality!

Does systemhood/plurality only belong to us now? Is that what we are gonna fucking do? We are gonna gatekeep an experience so complex and underesearched that we barely understand? Are you for real, right now?

Why is it so hard to imagine that other people might have come to systemhood in a different way than us?

Science! they yell out, the research! they whine.

Sibling, the people researching DID/systemhood haven't even scratched the surface of the extend of systemhood, they do not even fully understand it and neither do we. So who the fuck are you to deny someone's experiences? To deny however the hell they wanna live as a system?

Also given that science can always and IS always changing, things that were thought of as facts and the pure truth has been demolished over and over again by new discoveries. It isn't pro-science to be a closed-minded fuck, and I thought that's something everyone learnt about queer issues, but yet here we fucking are !

If it's working for them living a life as an endo, then fucking let them. And if later they want to consider their experience a disorder just as ours, then fucking let them and aid them!

I prefer being kind and supportive of a bunch of "fakers" than fakeclaiming, throwing away experiences just because I don't fucking understand it and harming someone who might have needed guidance, advice and/or support.

All systems are valid, get fire ball'd.

[syunkissisfaking]

Hello

I understand that you guys are mad at me about this whole situation, but if you'll allow me, I'd like to talk about it. I just don't want to cause arguments or anything like that. So if you're willing to read this, I'd appreciate it.

First, I would like to talk about this: "something common among people with types of D.I.D (using it as an umbrella label) is huge amounts of amnesia. most people are not aware that they may be switching or even know who they are."

We do not have did, but rather OSDD. That's why we don't have a large amount of amnesia. We never said we had DID. You can check it. On everything. Pinned post, posts, introduction, rentry, carrd, anything.

And now about this userbox:

It was created by us and we have been using this userbox for a long time. Our system is heavy fiction because of autism and adhd. We don't believe there is such a thing as "rare alters". If fictives can't split because of daydreaming, we wouldn't know it.

The situation started because we received an ask that was actually making fake claims because of this userbox, and later we received hate for responding. I admit that the best thing to do would have been to just ignore it, but at the time that wasn't what was on my mind.

We never send hate to anyone and we never harass anyone. The situation was only answered because we received an ask in anon saying that we were faking being a system because of this askbox, and we just said that it's not cool to fakeclaim people, especially if the only reason is the fact that we are against a specific community. How would that be harassment? Why is all this? I just blocked the person and got blocked back. I don't understand why all this is because of a userbox and an ask.

I have mentioned that I used D.I.D as an umbrella label. OSDD is pretty much the same as it, (though yes, with some minor differences, there is such intense similarities that they branch from each other.) I will still refer to it as an umbrella to make it easier for me here.

OSDD systems have worse amnesia then D.I.D systems, so i am not sure where you are trying to get at. the blackouts, and metaphorical 'time skips' are twice as worse.

you have stated you have D.I.D, and even in your rentry you have said you are still deciding which you have. I do not appriciate the lying, thoigh maybe you had forgotten suddenly.

while autism and adhd can effect certain aspects of D.I.D, but it does not have effect in the making of alters. that is not how it works at all. have you researched how alters form? it is not like making ocs.

ignoring it would not have been the best thing. though maybe it would have protected yourself, it would have further put flames into the fire. ignoring it is avoiding responsibility.

saying "we never harassed anyone" would also be an outright lie. as you did go into someone's inbox (who did not even send the anon, blind accusations.) and called them out for no reason.

I am not sure why you think this is all because they disagreed with you, but that is simply not right.

this is not all because of a userbox and an ask at all? it is because me and many others in the community are very sick of you faking without even doing research on what you are faking about. it is a repeated thing on your blog, and has been happening for at least half a year to when I first stumbled across you.

please reach out in dms if you wish to discuss this in private. I will do my best to assist you. but please think about your actions, and consider changing.

[sophieinwonderland]

Wishing for anti-endos to loose all their friends and spaces and to be ostracized does not help pro-endos. It makes anti-endos even more set in their beliefs. It makes people who are on the fence go "yikes, I guess the anti-endos are right". I'm firmly pro-endo and your recent post makes me want to take some distance. This isn't how we gain allies.

I know, these people suck. I know, it hurts to constantly be excluded and hated for the way our brains work or the reason why they work that way. I know, many anti-endos are too far gone and aren't people that you or I can reason with unless they decide to unpack their shitty beliefs.

But posts threatening them is not the way to go. They already see us as the enemy. We don't need to add fuel to the fire. Let's make sure people who are on the fence or who don't know much about non-traumagenic systems see us acting in ways that make them want to listen to our side instead of the fakeclaimers. Let's make sure anti-endos who are starting to rethink their beliefs feel like it's safe for them to do so and to start listening to pro-endos.

I'm sure this post is gonna get lots of interaction. But if it makes people less likely to read your studies, to listen to your arguments, to hear out the systems messaging you about their experiences? That's all for nothing.

I... actually think adding fuel to a fire can be useful sometimes. As long as you can keep it a controlled burn.

I'm counting on most anti-endos on Tumblr who would be scrolling through the syscourse tag already having me blocked. They won't see my post.

I'm counting on neutrals probably not following my blog or the syscourse tag either one. And most of those that do follow syscourse have already made their minds up about me.

I made that post for a very specific audience. One that doesn't actually need anyone to fuel its fire because they've built an entire community on seeking out systems to mock and attack. They already cherry pick the worst posts they can find to keep their friend group indoctrinated. So adding one more to the pile shouldn't matter to that specific group.

I don't think anything I say is actually going to make them hate the endogenic community more than they already do because they're surrounded constantly by people who will always reinforce that very generalized hate.

But I do think I can direct that hate they already have. Focus it as much as possible on one specific person. Me.

And the more they see me as a threat, (whether or not I am,) the more hateful they respond to me, the more their community will crack.

Users will be more likely to break their rules, making moderation in their subreddit more difficult for the unpaid mod team who will hopefully start rethinking how much of their life they want to dedicate to a hatesub moderating an angry userbase with nothing to show for it.

And while a slim hope, I'm waiting for them to be pushed far enough for Reddit to ban the whole subreddit.

So yeah. I don’t mind tossing as much fuel on the fire as possible if there's a chance their ableist hatesub burns.

Besides... I'm not actually saying anything untrue.

Plurality IS going to become more accepted. They ARE losing the scientific argument. And anti-endos and cringizens WILL lose friends and community support as plural acceptance spreads unless they're willing to change. A safe space for endogenic systems can never be one that houses anti-endos.

This is not a threat. This is a promise. It's a natural result of progress. And I'll do my part to accelerate this. But it's going to happen with or without my involvement.

I'm just making sure that when it does and they go looking for someone to blame because things have gone bad in their lives and their bigotry caught up with them, they'll direct their anger toward me instead of anyone else.

(Although maybe they can direct it inwards too since, you know, it was their fault for being bigots. But I think that would be too much to ask for.)

[sophieinwonderland]

Clearing the Air Regarding Circ

I've been debating back and forth regarding posting on this issue for a time. With the recent posts about Circ from the uncensored syscourse blog, I thought I would finally post my thoughts.

This has actually been in my drafts for about a month after I saw some hate directed at Circ that seemed to be a related to posts I had made, but I never finished it. I need to get better at finishing what I start.

Anyway, this post is probably not going to be nice. But it's probably going to be nicer than their old callout post of me. So whatever...

A while ago, they said this about how they think I see them.

she has already picked out who I am to her: to her, I’m a member of a hate group who is masquerading as someone they’re not.

And... you know, I could certainly see how someone could get this impression from my posts. The thing is... I don't actually think that's true. At least not entirely.

That's how I see SAS, who will adopt labels like "syscourse enraged" or "pro syscourse conversation" on Tumblr, while their partner heads over to r/systemscringe to tell the anti-endos that SAS is "100% anti-endo" so they can get that sweet r/systemscringe demographic. SAS's stance is whatever they think will convince the most people to listen to them.

As for Circ... and this is only my view as someone who has only seen them through the lens of their public blog posts over the course of a couple years...

I think Circ... Is a system with a lot of friends on both sides, and is fiercely loyal to friends to a fault.

And some loyalty to the right people is generally considered a positive and admirable trait. But I also think it can get taken to an extreme on occasion. Say, for instance, your friend is under fire for fakeclaiming and transphobia, and your response is to come up with a list of things the victim said to deserve it.

I also, believe it or not, agree with and respect a lot of Circ's syscourse takes. At least, many of the original ones. If Circ is the first system to bring up a topic in syscourse, their take will be good a lot of the time. Their worst syscourse takes are often parroting things their friends have said, and feel to me like those opinions are due more to the influence of Circ's friendgroup.

I've also noticed a lot of double standards, where they'll criticize someone for some behavior they deem to be wrong one moment, and then turn a blind eye to their friends doing the same.

(Again though, this is only my opinion as an outside observer. And there could very likely be private conversations about their friends' conduct I don't see because it would be handled in DMs.)

I do think Circ honestly considers themselves pro-endo. I'll still use scare quotes when mentioning their syscourse alignment because I find them to often be out of touch with the endogenic community and our interests. (I also realize Circ had bad experiences in the pro-endo community before so I'm not really faulting them for no longer being as comfortable in those spaces.) Believing in endogenic systems is a great start, but I think because of their friendship with anti-endos, they still want to try to appease both sides as much as possible. Which is something I'm never going to agree with.

Which brings us to the core conflict we tend to have...

I don't believe there's a world where endogenic systems and anti-endos can both find total acceptance

Any gain for one group is going to be a loss for the other.

Circ doesn't like me calling anti-endos a hate group because, in my (again, outside) opinion, they're friends with anti-endos and don't see how the people they're friends with could possibly be part of a hate group.

I think that it's important for plural acceptance to use strong language to make sure that pluralphobia and endophobia are taken every bit as seriously in our communities as transphobia or homophobia are.

I don't really think that Circ is a bad person.

But I think as long as these conflicts exist, Circ and I will never see eye to eye. Because Circ will likely always be friends with anti-endos, Circ will always be the person trying to protect their friends, and I'm always going to be targeting anti-endos to make sure that the anti-endo ideology isn't tolerated anywhere.

In my honest opinion, the main reason Circ and I clash the most isn't because they're an anti-endo in disguise, but because my main goals will involve making things less hospitable for people Circ considers friends.

And I can respect that.

I mean, as far as reasons to dislike me go, wanting to protect people you care about is at least an admirable one.

(Not saying this is the only reason they dislike me, obviously. I'm certain they can find lots of other reasons. But it does seem a recurrent theme that these are the topics that make them the most heated.)

At this point, most of my issues with Circ are personal

It turns out, I'm very good at holding grudges.

I think from the pseudo-fakeclaiming callout post accusing me of speaking over "actual systems" and using "abusive sources," I've held a bit of a grudge. And there were numerous other posts with very personal attacks directed towards me since. And of course, the SN document which included many outright lies or just massively twisted my past statements. Sometimes to the point of saying the exact opposite of what I said. All to defend "contextualize" their friend's fakeclaiming and misgendering of me.

(Seriously, how do you get me saying that "alters are hallucinations" out of me very explicitly stating that alters aren't hallucinations?)

I did see the apology for their one fakeclaiming line about me. And I think I can forgive that. But there's just honestly been so much piled on in the year-and-a-half since that it barely even matters anymore.

And even if bridges could be mended, the simple fact that I'm always going to be the person trying to brand their friends a hate group in the public consciousness means that those bridges would naturally get blown to bits again.

And so in a strange way, I feel only disliking each other is probably healthier for everyone involved. Relatively speaking, I mean. Obviously, it's not healthy. But it's better than trying to mend things and hope for something better, only to watch them explode again.

Some puzzle pieces aren't meant to fit together. Sometimes people are just coke and mentos. 🤷‍♀️

I do not need or want to get along with everybody.

Like I've said a few times, these are all my outside observations and could be completely off-base. But I thought I would get them out there anyway.

The main reason I want to go over this though is this...

I would very much appreciate people leaving Circ alone

At least, as far as it concerns our conflict.

I assure you that I'm a big girl and I promise I can take care of myself.

I don't need people to try to defend me in anons to Circ or anyone else.

I sure don't want people harassing them, calling them a bitch or sending them hate mail due to our personal drama. (Is it still personal drama even if every bit of it the drama has been plastered across our public blogs? 🤔)

People, even ones we don't like, are still people.

And if after reading this, you don't care and have decided that these people are just that bad and deserve it, your actions can easily have a ripple effect and hurt our community too. Blowback is a real threat here. If you normalize sending anon hate to the other side, anti-endos will see that and use it to further justify sending hate to people on ours.

There is never an excuse for sending people hate.

[aethra-star-system]

"Wow there," I love how you've managed to lump me in with conservatives without addressing anything I actually said, make other quotes assuming I agree with them, and called me endo to boot. Want the real kicker? I'm the protector of a traumagenic, disordered system. Is it ableist to tell people that their disorder does not define them, and to find some other meaning like we have? Like hobbies, friends, faith or whatever keeps you going. And where did racist even come from? You're just trying to demonize me at this point to get your reader fired up before they've even read your shit take, which is just underhanded politcal tactics. I had a little fire in my post, but nothing I said falls in line with any of that.

I just think telling people that having multiple personalities strictly only comes from trauma so matter-of-factly is a little rediculous given how little we do know, and that they should spend time improving their own situation instead of fakeclaiming folks and pretending their experience is the only way that plurality can exist.

I see fakeclaiming often enough that I thought it was self evident without needing to link specific posts. If you aren't seeing them, you were lucky to find a good group and avoid that part of the community and I admire your position. Or you're only in strictly traumagenic groups that check people at the door. I was questioning how to even check for that, do you have to share your trauma as proof like a badge? None of this is to say there aren't ableists or genuine fakes, I just think it is too easy to ostracize the wrong people when you hunt for them, and you end up with more wrong guesses than right.

Your opinion of me shouldn't be based on my system origin anyway though. You can hate me for my beliefs or whatever (even though you clearly don't know them), but don't put labels on me that don't match. Especially not conservative, considering that for that I would have to be sharing opinions that conserve the old norm, like you know, telling endogenic folks they aren't real. Ever seen a punk rock transfem nb lesbian who is conservative? Probably not, and it sure as hell won't be me. They'd gut me on sight if they could. But go off, I guess. Use whatever "bad guy" political labels for people you don't like if it helps you sleep at night. I will be here, writing on my anonymous blog, laughing when I see posts like this. You probably won't even read my reply because you already filled your head with all kinds if uninformed ideas about me, anyway.

Cheers, and thanks for nothing.

- Onyx (They/She)

Started to say this somewhere else and decided to make a proper post. MAJOR trigger warning for sensitive folks, do NOT complain to me if you read this and get triggered, you won't get sympathy:

If all you do is sit, gatekeeping on tumblr or discord in your little echo chamber of people who would rather never heal (which does not mean merging btw), complain to eachother about all of their mental issues, and tell other people they aren't valid because their daddy didn't beat them as much as yours beat you then get the fuck off of social media and make some real goddamn friends and give a shit for once about someone other than yourself. Look up out of your hole and make steps to improve instead of trying to be some arbiter of who else is valid, you goddamn goblin.

Or stay and be sad and broken forever, maybe you'll at least be a good example of what happens when you are too obsessed with your dissorder to do anything productive, or give someone like me a good laugh whenever I check to see how this community is doing. Just cut the goddamn gatekeeping. It's real gremlin behavior.

This applies to trauma and endo systems, with or without a disorder. Stop gatekeeping.

- Onyx Steele (They/She)