#like I am trying to practice compassion and self love here

[sailermoon]

and the thing is I do not like ruminating nor being reminded of that point in my life because I was severely depressed and it’s hard enough to forgive myself for trying the best I could at the time but to be slapped with that reminder so callously is hm! lol

[dreamlifebunny]

it doesn't matter where you came from, what matters is that you're here now.

one thing that really bugs me about spiritual communities in general (reality shifting, law of assumption, non dualism, etc.) is that a lot of people shame others for not understanding things or for believing in things that are limiting when they first start out. i mean, i understand the frustration - anons can ask a thousand questions that could be answered if they read pinned posts, and we all just want everyone to abandon their limiting beliefs and just get it.

but the fact is that we were born in a society that teaches us that we are limited and that some things are impossible, from the time that we are small until we find these teachings, and we are slowly undoing them through exploration and self-inquiry. it's an overwhelming and tricky journey, filled with so many beautiful highs and a lot of devastating lows, and i feel like everyone deserves a whole lot of compassion when searching for answers. i know i needed love and compassion when i first started, because my ego was scared and sad and was searching for answers in order to feel loved and secure. being told i was dumb and having someone be frustrated with me for my questions was the last thing i needed to become self-actualized. i know that everyone is different, but this is just my experience, so i wanted to share it.

my beliefs are constantly evolving into what brings me more peace and understanding. in the beginning, i wouldn't have been able to believe that my assumptions create my reality (law of assumption) if i hadn't been introduced to the idea of reality shifting. i wouldn't have understood the fact that this life is just beautiful dream and that my true Self is the dreamer (non dualism) if i hadn't first been able to separate my "imagination" from my "real life" (3D and 4D from law of assumption). these were all stepping stones in my understanding of the greater ideas that i needed to get to, and i feel no shame in formerly having beliefs or practices that i don't identify with anymore. i don't believe that you should have shame, either, regardless of where you are at in your journey of self-discovery and creative power.

i get so sad when i see bloggers shaming others for not understanding things when all of this is so fucking difficult to grasp when one is first starting out. i mean, we come from societies that have beliefs as foolish and damaging as skin colour making you inferior, or that gender is binary and you can't express yourself the way you feel inside. with beliefs such as these, of course the beliefs of anything being possible and the fictional being real are going to sound impossible and profoundly false. in my personal opinion, the tough love approach has never helped me - compassion and patience has. i feel like so many people believe and understand that we are all one and have a great understanding of the truth of things, and yet go around and are rude to those seeking answers. it just feels so pathetic to me to see bullying of those seeking answers when they're literally just an extension of the answerer. anons are showing up with silly questions because bloggers expect them to have silly questions. and i realize that even this is hypocritical of me to say because i could just choose to see a spiritual community full of love and compassion instead of what i'm seeing, but i still wanted to share this while i unravel my own hypocrisy.

i feel like if you are wanting to be a teacher of others, you have to take on the responsibility that being a teacher holds, which includes patience, patience, and more patience. that's just my own perspective at least, and everyone is welcome to have their own, but my favourite teachers have been ones that guide me to my own answers with patience and compassion. i am also profoundly sensitive and feel wilty when others are cruel to me, so maybe i'm just trying to speak out to those who feel similarly, because this is a post i wish i could have read when i first started my journey. ultimately, everyone can do, be, and say whatever they like - it's their own blog after all - but i just want to be a voice of compassion to anyone who is in the beginning stages of learning about the law of assumption, non dualism, or reality shifting. it all comes down to the same profound teachings that we are, at our core, limitless.

all of this is to say that i am proud of you. you are doing a good, great, amazing job. you are worthy of love and goodness in your life no matter what others may make you feel. you are worthy of the absolute best and nothing less. it is a hard journey at times, but it is a worthwhile journey, and you are brave and creative and beautiful for taking the steps to expand and give yourself the best life. you deserve compassion and love and patience, and i am rooting for you every step of the way. i hope you are rooting for yourself, too.

ultimately, it doesn't matter where you got your beliefs. what matters is: does it feel right to you? does it make you feel connected to your true, unlimited Self? does it open up your world and your heart to the endless possibilities available to you? does it give you peace? if so, it doesn't matter what practice or teaching you believe in. you are your own greatest teacher.

it doesn't matter where you came from, what beliefs you once held, or who you've been in the past. what matters is that you are here, learning and growing, learning how to give yourself the most beautiful experiences that your creative power has to offer. be kind to yourself and remember that we're all just trying to expand and love and open ourselves up.

[iwritenarrativesandstuff]

Alright here's the sun and moon signs for the P5 characters whose birthdays I could find. (Moon signs sometimes transition on the same day, so I picked the one that seemed most likely in that instance.)

*Mandatory disclaimer that I am not an astrologer nor do I wish to be, as I am not a believer in this sort of thing. I'm doing this for fun and because the information is there. As you do.

Ryuji Sakamoto (July 3rd, 1999): Cancer Sun, Aquarius Moon

A desire for independence and new experiences offsets the usual cautiousness of Cancer. Restless and rebellious, they can be viewed as arrogant or impatient, but also generous and protective of the underdog.

This works pretty well, other than that this combination is supposed to be a lot more in their head "deep thinkers", of which Ryuji... definitely is not lol

Ann Takamaki (November 12th, 1999): Scorpio Sun, Sagittarius Moon

Compassionate and idealistic, they often serve as guiding lights to others. Very warmhearted, humanitarian and a romantic at heart, yet also aloof at times and strong-willed, as they are determined to create their own path in life.

Yeah, this suits Ann well.

Yusuke Kitagawa (January 28th, 2000): Aquarius Sun, Scorpio Moon

A powerful and magnetic personality with a blend of both intense passion and intellectual detachment. They study human nature, see hidden potentials, and have an intense sense of individualism. While they try to repress petty feelings, they can easily carry around immense resentment and contempt if left unchecked.

Holy shit. That's Yusuke almost to a tee.

Makoto Niijima (March 23rd, 1998): Taurus Sun, Capricorn Moon

Calm and sympathetic, but with a tough and determined inner core. Prone to worry and anxiety, they may hold themselves back for fear of damaging their future with risks. They are loyal and witty, and are often good at giving advice. Have a lot of repressed anger.

Yep, that sounds like Makoto. There's some more info on how they tend towards humour and have some talent in creative outlets, which isn't so much her, but that's only after they conquer their fears. Maybe Makoto will ease up more over time.

Futaba Sakura (February 19th, 2001): Pisces Sun, Capricorn Moon

A blend of opposite traits; both a romantic and a realist, both sympathetic and pragmatic. While they don't tend to love taking on a lot of responsibility, they have an ambitious side to them that loves a good challenge. They tend to show their compassion by taking more practical measures to help people out.

Not bad for Futaba, honestly.

Haru Okumura (December 5th, 1998): Sagittarius Sun, Cancer Moon

Calm and assured, Cancer's caution offsets the Sagittarius urge to jump into things. They are receptive, open-minded, sincere, and have a competent air about them. They are intuitive and usually very good at sensing whether a person is trustworthy or not.

I still don't know Haru as well as the other characters, but this seems decent enough from what I've seen of her!

Kasumi Yoshizawa (March 25th, 2001): Aries Sun, Pisces Moon

Creative and self-expressive, but prone to insecurity and uncertainty. Often project an image of being bold, adventurous and decisive but can be held back by inner passivity and sensitivity. Tend towards a rich fantasy life and are very artistic.

I think it checks out for Kasumi!

Goro Akechi (June 2nd, 1998): Gemini Sun, Virgo Moon

Self-expression is extremely important to them, in writing, speech, and debate. Charming, analytical, and communicative, they love having an audience for their ideas, but they are also high-strung, set impossible standards, and can become hypercritical the more discontent they are.

Hm. I think that's actually not bad from what I've seen of him so far.

Sadly, Morgana has no birthday listed and I don't think I can make a good guess for him either. However, I will make a guess for Joker's birthday as being P5's release date because... well, just look at this.

Ren Amamiya / Akira Kurusu (September 15th, 1999): Virgo Sun, Scorpio Moon

Outwardly reserved with a cool demeanor, but inwardly intensely emotional, they are highly driven by instinct and passion even as they are guided by rationality. Gentle, dedicated and soft-spoken but also persistent, innovative and tough. Highly secretive with their feelings. Very perceptive.

Uh. Yeah. That's him.

[islamicjankariblog]

How can I increase my love for Allah s.w.t? I am feeling like I am losing the intensity of our relationship.

My dear sister, I'm glad you're seeking to strengthen your bond with Allah! Here are some tips to help increase your love for Allah:

1. *Consistent Prayer*: Regularly perform your five daily prayers, and focus on the meanings of the verses recited.

2. *Quran Connection*: Read the Quran daily, reflect on its verses, and try to understand its message.

3. *Dhikr and Duas*: Engage in regular remembrance of Allah (Dhikr) and supplications (Duas).

4. *Gratitude*: Practice gratitude by acknowledging Allah's blessings in your life.

5. *Self-Reflection*: Regularly examine your actions, thoughts, and intentions to ensure alignment with Allah's commands.

6. *Seek Forgiveness*: Frequently seek forgiveness for your mistakes and shortcomings.

7. *Good Deeds*: Perform acts of kindness, charity, and volunteer work to cultivate a sense of compassion and empathy.

8. *Solitude and Silence*: Spend time in solitude, away from distractions, to focus on your relationship with Allah.

9. *Learn about Allah's Attributes*: Study the names and attributes of Allah to deepen your understanding and love.

10. *Seek Guidance*: Consult with scholars, mentors, or spiritual guides for support and direction.

Remember, my sister, that your relationship with Allah is a journey. Be patient, kind, and compassionate with yourself as you navigate the ups and downs. May Allah guide and strengthen your bond with Him!

[hopelessromanticme]

I'm totally fed up.... A Desi guy's guide to personality annihilation...

Yaar now im actually fkin confused bhayy... Like on one hand ik for sure that hell nah nobody can destroy Me, only Me can destroy Me but on the other hand bhayy when i go out and i see the world that shit is actually depressing and downright fked up... Like this Tumblr ki duniya is like a giant rabbit hole of all the good things and happiness aur humour aur love... Aur if you'll outside of it bahar ki duniya is full of misogyny, misandry, toxicity, patriarchy, matriarchy... And all those bullshitery likeee SHUTT UP PEOPLE FFS.

I WANNA SCREAM ON TOP OF MY LUNGS SOMEWHERE QUITE.... I'm done with this societal norms aur uski bakchodi bhai... People think that I'm going mad... Well ofcourse koi bhi sane person would be mad... Have you seen the hatred people hold against other religions and castes... Kyunn hai itni hatred saalo tumhare aander... Mat rakho naa itni buraai dusro ke liye... Shaanti se raho na bey pyaar se... I'm sorry for my language but yeh bkl ab meri sarr ke paar jaa rhe hai... Nobody gives a fuck about what's going on Manipur or the farmer's protest but Maxtern aur Elvish ki news aa rhi hai... Like have we gone completely mad... Pagal ho gaye hai kya sab... Dosto se baat karta hoon toh wahin Hindu-Muslim aur Women ko objectify karna.... Abe sab ke sab saale chutiye pagal ho gaye hai... Mere ko maa kasam bhagwaan ji kal ko utha le gaye naa toh main Khushi Khushi chale jaunga... Itni si bhi positivity nahi bachi hai yaar iss duniya mein... Aur yahan Tumblr pe alag he Utopian Society bana ke baithe hai sab... Abey pagal ho kya tum log... Where the fckk is BALANCE BHAYYY... Either I'm here toh I'm super happy and lovey-dovey aur either I'm bahar toh I'm super sad and depressed as fck...

Mujhe moksh chahiye yaar... Kyun na karun main suicide bata... Haan royenge sab 2 din 4 din 10 din... Fir... Fir kyaa... Fir toh society wahi rahegi naa...

I'm out here assassinating my persona because i wasn't able to find a perfect person to love... Like that how depressing this shit is...

And fckkk practicing Stoitism aur following Sigma Male and Andrew Tate... Fckk them all... Bish I grew up reading Srimad Bhagwat Geeta and Purans... We all are humans we all have flaws... Nahi bann sakte ho tum perfectooo... Nahi hote hai sab ladke 6'0 feet nahi hoti hai sab ladkiyo ki zero figure... Kyaa chal raha hai duniya mein kaunse idols hai bhai sabke...

Have they ever read any sane text either their holy books or anything related to wisdom... This new world I HATE IT... I HATE EVERYTHING ABOUT IT... I HATE WOH PINTEREST KE CUTE COUPLES... YES I'M SALTY AUR HAAN PAGAL HO GAYE HAI HUM...

Yaar... All I'm saying is "Love Me". I need some kind of compassion and female touch... Yes im going insane and soo is this fucked up world... I'm sorry for everything... Sorry for wasting your time reading this note... But at the same time No I am not really sorry...

Either I'll die in this journey... Or will become a lifeless corpse... Shit im not a philosopher but istg if, i not become one in the future...

can't say she was wrong here...

Meri toh kitni kam expectations thi life se... Aur self love kitna he kar lunga... Main toh thak jaata hoon sometimes yk fake scenarios create karte karte... The manifestation of love is the sole reason of my depression...

But idk what should i do... i never loved myself... i always try to love people... maybe because of the lack of love i never got, i don't want to happen the same to them.... I once read on Tumblr on one girl's blog where she wrote "When you are not served love in silver spoons you learn to lick it off knives". Kinda says alot about today's society and people... Doesn't it ...

[hofftrans]

Getting real comfortable unfollowing and/or blocking blogs that only use political activism as a way to give themselves a feeling of like moral hierarchy. Like I think it's something we all struggle w to an extent, there's this long held concept of "I can only feel that I am good if I have someone bad to compare myself to" and in a terrifying world with so many terrible, terrible things going on in it I so understand the desire to be sure in the knowledge that you are a good person.

But part of kindness and community and compassion is being able to communicate patiently and empathetically with others, and so often I see posts or tags on this site that could be incredibly informative and create real change if they weren't written like somebody trying to get a mic drop moment instead of trying to get people to change and grow.

This is not to say minorities need to or should be polite to their oppressors, that's absolutely not the message of this post and I wanna clarify that to avoid a "love pancakes = hate waffles" situation.

The message of this post is about the amount of posts on here that bring up any issue in the world at all and phrase it as "not that any of you give a shit" or "and no one fucking cares" or "reblogging this is literally the least you can do" or "but I know you'll just ignore this so fuck you"

Like idk I just feel like we've accidentally recreated protestant values and catholic guilt over the idea of actual change, as well as the dangers involved in like "you should know to do the right thing because you're SCUM IF YOU DONT" instead of going "here's some education or a way to help" and then responding that way once someone refuses growth or change.

I'm going to try and practice what I preach here by explaining one of the reasons I think this is so dangerous without insisting you're a monster for not knowing: a large amount of the population suffers from obsessive compulsive disorder, and one of the major ways ocd can present itself is ocpd or as my mates and I have come to call it "ethical ocd." Ethical ocd (in vague terms bc I'm not a doctor) is the extreme anxiety/fear/obsession over being morally wrong or a bad person and sufferers often feel the need to prove absolutely that they are good and can often feel the need to self harm or partake in dangerous behaviour if they make any mistakes or have an intrusive thought of a violent or hurtful nature. I know this because I've suffered from this a lot throughout my life, and as a teenager I spent many years away from tumblr due to how the moral hierarchy culture here was just like pouring fuel directly onto an open bonfire. This is obviously an issue many people don't know about and I get that, I feel no judgement towards them for that. I'm just pleading with people to consider whether their activism on here is coming purely from a place of actually wanting to help people improve their behaviour and improve the world we live in or if it comes from a much deeper need to feel sure and right in yourself, which again is not something that is a moral failure or makes you a monster, just something I really hope people can get help with before it spirals into a more and more harmful behaviour

[joy-haver]

Honestly, being outside helps with my pain. Not always. But often. The stimulation of it. The feeling of interconnectedness. The understanding of the evolutionary mechanisms that led to this. The sense of a greater purpose. And, also, finding a nice tree or rock thats shaped in the perfect way for me to stretch upon. And there is movement.

I’ve had many days where I was so stuck in bed, hurting, weak, fatigued; spending hours to build up the strength to get outside.

Other things that help with pain are touch, support, substance, and community.

Physical touch does so much for relief. It tells your nerves “I am here. We are here. We are trying”. And the sufferer wants most to know they are not condemned, that an effort is being taken, even in futility. Love is the action of caretaking.

Support, physical, and emotional, is also very assistive. A brace or a crutch or a nice word. Giving the body strength it does not have, so it can rest, so it can build strength. Gloves and a hand up and beauty.

Substances help. Many creams, powders and ointments, chemically reacting with the body in different ways. Treating the problem or treating the pain. Protein and fiber and vitamins and drinking. None are without side effects, and there is a constant management. But sometimes it is better to feel nothing than to feel constant pain. It is no wonder we self medicate.

Community provides much assistance. The daily work of living takes on its exhaustion. The dishes, eating, processing your emotions. Community can help address this. And like nature, they provide beloved alternate sensations.

The thing to understand is pain is the psychological response to bodily damage. It is a way of the less conscious parts of us to beg, to plead, to say “I am hurting…please help me….please save me.” They keep begging, regardless of your capacity for their salvation.

Replacing their sensation of suffering with joyous stimulation is a good way to strive for other feelings. They may be temporary. They may lead to Injuries. But that is part of management.

Pain is also the immediate physical reaction to injury. Your body’s sensor for damage. Your nerves become overwhelmed, so they cannot continue to do what is injurious. This has its practicality, in the animal of your body.

This is something to learn from. Not to obey its demand for inaction; but to learn to work with it. Feeling what hurts more, what is more damaging, and then doing your best to avoid it. To build safer pathways of movement

I’ve had to learn to walk with very specific motions of the legs and hips. And i relearn how to hold everything every few months so I can do it safely. I do this in concert with my pain, in community with it, in relation to it.

Pain is one more aspect of the human experience. Not an enemy. It is uncomfortable, but it is trying to gift us. Pain is trying to save you. It may be failing spectacularly. But coming to converse with it from a place of love, compassion, and understanding will lead to better management.

[crystalsenergy]

The Healing process of Chiron in Virgo in each house

healing is something personal. this post only includes TIPS

Chiron in Virgo can bring wounds related to perfectionism, self-criticism, health, and the need for order and control. Healing these wounds involves embracing self-acceptance, finding balance in your daily routines, and nurturing a healthy relationship with your physical and mental well-being.

Chiron in Virgo in the 1st house: Wounds related to one's own individuality. Excessive self-criticism. A feeling of inadequacy, of not being good at something, and this feeling haunts the person. A sense of not being useful, of not meeting some expectation, order, a feeling of guilt regarding one's own body and individuality. Low self-esteem very much related to the idea of judgment, of demanding more and more from oneself.

Inner Dialogue: Pay attention to your inner dialogue. When self-criticism arises, challenge it with kind and encouraging self-talk. Treat yourself as you would treat a dear friend.

Body Movement: Engage in physical activities like yoga, tai chi, or dance. These practices can help you become more in tune with your body and release physical tension associated with self-criticism.

Voice Journaling: Instead of traditional writing, try voice journaling. Record your thoughts, feelings, and self-reflections through audio recordings. This can be a powerful way to express yourself and gain insights.

Self-Acceptance and Self-Love: Start by embracing self-acceptance and self-love. Recognize that you are inherently valuable just as you are, with all your imperfections. Work on releasing the harsh judgments you impose on yourself.

Release Perfectionism: Challenge the tendency toward perfectionism. Understand that it's okay to make mistakes and that imperfections are part of being human. Perfectionism can be paralyzing and often leads to self-criticism.

Positive Affirmations: Practice positive affirmations daily. Replace self-deprecating thoughts with affirmations that promote self-worth and self-compassion. For example, "I am enough just as I am."

Body Positivity: Address any guilt or shame related to your body and physical appearance. Engage in activities that promote self-care and physical well-being, not as a means of perfection but as a way to nourish and honor your body.

Seek Support: Consider working with a therapist or counselor who can help you explore and heal these wounds. Therapy can provide valuable insights and techniques for self-acceptance.

Mindfulness and Self-Compassion: Practice mindfulness and self-compassion techniques. These can help you become more aware of your self-critical thoughts and learn to replace them with self-compassionate ones.

Set Realistic Expectations: Set realistic and achievable goals for yourself. Break them down into smaller steps to avoid feeling overwhelmed by high expectations.

Celebrate Achievements: Acknowledge your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Celebrate your successes and progress along the way.

Embrace Imperfection: Understand that perfection is an unattainable ideal. Embrace the beauty of imperfection and the unique qualities that make you who you are.

Self-Care Routine: Develop a self-care routine that nurtures your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Prioritize self-care as an act of self-love.

Forgive Yourself: Practice self-forgiveness for any past judgments or harshness you may have directed towards yourself. Let go of the burden of guilt and self-blame.

Mirror Work: Spend time in front of a mirror looking into your own eyes. Practice self-affirmations and self-love while maintaining eye contact with yourself. This can help you connect with your inner self and build self-confidence.

Nature Immersion: Spend time in nature, connecting with the natural world. Nature has a way of grounding us and helping us feel more connected to our own bodies and identities.

Chiron in Virgo in the 2nd house: Wounds related to your value, the idea here is of a person who doesn't feel valued in their actions, in their practices, who doesn't feel recognition coming. There may be a feeling that things related to financial and material life are poorly organized, unstable, and insecure, and this directly affects the sense of control over one's life. There can be a lot of guilt related to organization and practicality. Immense difficulties with stability and security in a practical sense.

Value Self-Worth Over External Validation: Shift your focus from seeking external validation to recognizing your inherent self-worth. Understand that your value is not solely determined by external factors or the opinions of others.

Financial Awareness: Take a proactive approach to your finances. Create a budget, track your expenses, and set financial goals. This practical step can help you regain a sense of control and stability in your financial life.

Release Guilt: Let go of any guilt or shame associated with your financial situation or sense of self-worth. Understand that your past does not define your future, and you have the power to create positive change.

Organize and Simplify: Address any guilt or feelings of inadequacy related to organization and practicality. Develop strategies to improve your organizational skills, such as decluttering your living space and creating efficient routines.

Explore Self-Employment: If applicable, consider self-employment or entrepreneurship. This can provide a sense of autonomy and control over your financial situation.

Practice Gratitude: Cultivate a daily gratitude practice to appreciate the abundance in your life, no matter how small. Shifting your perspective toward gratitude can help you feel more valued and secure.

Healing Through Touch: Explore healing modalities that involve touch, such as massage therapy or acupuncture. These practices can help you reconnect with your body and promote a sense of physical well-being.

Grounding Exercises: Engage in grounding exercises, such as walking in nature, gardening, or spending time outdoors. Connecting with the Earth can help you find stability and security on a deeper level.

Self-Empowerment Workshops: Attend workshops or seminars focused on self-empowerment and building self-esteem. These experiences can provide valuable tools and insights for boosting self-worth.

Invest in Self-Care: Prioritize self-care activities that make you feel grounded and secure. This can include activities like taking relaxing baths, practicing mindfulness, or enjoying a warm cup of tea.

Explore Financial Education: Educate yourself about personal finance and investments. Gaining knowledge in this area can boost your confidence in managing your financial affairs.

Seek Therapy or Counseling: Consider working with a therapist or counselor to explore the root causes of your self-worth issues and financial insecurities. Therapy can provide a safe space for healing and self-discovery.

Create a Vision Board: Visualize your financial and material goals by creating a vision board. Seeing your aspirations can motivate you to take practical steps toward achieving them.

Chiron in Virgo in the 3rd house: Wounds related to the usefulness of your communication, feeling that you don't organize yourself enough in your communication, that there is a lack of order, study, perfectionism in studies, learning, teaching, and socializing. Self-criticism or criticism of others regarding communication. Problems with siblings and cousins in terms of feeling inadequate, out of place.

Mindful Communication: Practice mindful and conscious communication. Before speaking, take a moment to think about the words you choose and their impact. This can help you express yourself more clearly and with greater empathy.

Journaling: Keep a journal to explore your thoughts and feelings about communication. Write freely without self-criticism. This can help you gain insights into your communication patterns.

Effective Communication Workshops: Consider participating in workshops or classes focused on improving communication skills. Learning new techniques can boost your confidence and help you feel more organized in your communication.

Set Realistic Study Goals: If you struggle with perfectionism in your studies, set realistic and achievable goals for your learning. Break your studies into manageable tasks to avoid feeling overwhelmed.

Self-Compassion: Replace self-criticism with self-compassion. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially when you make communication mistakes or face challenges in your studies.

Sibling and Cousin Reconnection: Make an effort to reconnect with siblings and cousins if you've felt inadequate or distant in these relationships. Open and honest conversations can help heal any lingering wounds.

Conflict Resolution Skills: Learn effective conflict resolution skills to address any communication issues with family members or others. These skills can help you express your needs and boundaries while maintaining respectful relationships.

Study Techniques: Explore different study techniques and find the ones that work best for you. Organize your study materials and create a conducive learning environment to enhance your focus and productivity.

Socializing with Mindfulness: Approach socializing with mindfulness and self-acceptance. Understand that everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and it's okay to be yourself in social situations.

Speak Your Truth: Practice speaking your truth with confidence. Express your thoughts and opinions without the fear of criticism. Your perspective is valuable and worth sharing.

Explore Non-Verbal Communication: Pay attention to non-verbal communication cues, such as body language and facial expressions. Learning to interpret and use non-verbal communication effectively can enhance your interpersonal skills.

Sibling Bonding Activities: Engage in bonding activities with your siblings or cousins. Create positive memories together to strengthen your relationships.

Embrace Imperfection: Accept that nobody is a perfect communicator. Embrace the imperfections in your communication style and recognize that they make you unique.

Meditation and Mindfulness: Incorporate meditation and mindfulness practices into your daily routine to calm your inner critic and promote clarity of thought.

Therapy or Counseling: If past communication issues have had a significant impact on your life, consider working with a therapist or counselor to explore the root causes and develop healthier communication patterns.

Chiron in Virgo in the 4th house: Wounds related to organization within the family. Wounds related to your sense of usefulness to the family. Excessive rationalization of your emotions. Difficulty in connecting with your inner life without doing it in a practical or rational way. Wounds from family criticisms. Wounds related to deserving.

Embrace Emotional Expression: Allow yourself to express your emotions openly and without judgment. Understand that emotions are a natural part of life and don't always need to be rationalized.

Inner Child Work: Explore inner child healing techniques to connect with and nurture your inner emotional self. This can help you heal wounds related to family and self-worth.

Journaling for Emotions: Keep an emotions journal where you record your feelings and experiences without judgment. This can help you become more aware of your emotional patterns.

Family Dialogue: Engage in open and honest conversations with family members about past criticisms and wounds. Seek understanding and healing through communication.

Create a Nurturing Home Environment: Transform your living space into a nurturing and safe environment where you can explore your emotional world. This can include creating a comfortable space for self-reflection and relaxation.

Therapy or Counseling: Consider therapy or counseling to work through family-related issues and self-worth concerns. A therapist can provide guidance and support in exploring your emotional landscape.

Art Therapy: Explore art therapy as a means of expressing and processing your emotions. Creating art can be a powerful way to access your inner world.

Self-Compassion: Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer to a loved one. Release self-criticism and embrace self-acceptance.

Healing Through Rituals: Develop personal rituals or ceremonies that help you connect with your inner emotions and create a sense of emotional security.

Inner Worth Affirmations: Use affirmations focused on self-worth and deservingness. Remind yourself daily that you are deserving of love, happiness, and a fulfilling life.

Explore Ancestral Healing: Delve into ancestral healing to understand and heal generational patterns related to family dynamics. This can provide valuable insights into your own wounds.

Energy Healing: Consider energy healing practices such as Reiki or acupuncture to release emotional blockages stored in the body and create a sense of emotional flow.

Forgive and Release: Work on forgiving family members for any past criticisms or wounds. Forgiveness is a powerful tool for releasing emotional baggage.

Reconnect with Inner Desires: Reconnect with your inner desires and dreams, regardless of practicality. Allow yourself to explore what truly brings you emotional fulfillment.

Self-Worth Workshops: Attend self-worth workshops or seminars to build a stronger sense of self-esteem and self-value.

Chiron in Virgo in the 5th house: Wounds related to self-expression in the sense of not appearing good, not appearing useful, not appearing ready. Virgo signifies order, practicality, service, the delivery of something that has been methodically done. Here, there may be a wound related of being useful in expression. Those with this placement don't see themselves as good in their expression, don't feel useful, don't believe they deliver something good, and this often occurs in romantic exchanges; in flirting. There may be perfectionism and self-criticism, or criticism from others, that generates a difficulty in experiencing these things lightly.

Embrace Playfulness: The 5th house represents creativity and self-expression, so embrace a more playful and spontaneous approach to life. Engage in activities that bring you joy and fun, whether it's dancing, painting, singing, or any creative outlet that resonates with you.

Overcome Self-Criticism: Chiron in Virgo tends to be highly self-critical. Work on recognizing and challenging your inner critic. Replace self-criticism with self-compassion and self-love. Remember that making mistakes is a natural part of the life.

Explore Creative Passions: Dive into your creative passions wholeheartedly. Discover what genuinely excites you and makes your heart sing. Whether it's a hobby, art form, or performance, pursue it with enthusiasm and a sense of adventure.

Release Fear of Judgment: Fear of criticism or judgment from others can hinder your creative expression. Remember that not everyone will appreciate you, and that's okay. Focus on expressing yourself authentically and let go of the need for external validation.

Find Your Creative Voice: Discover your unique creative voice and style. Allow your creativity to reflect your individuality. It's through embracing your authenticity that you'll find deeper satisfaction in your creative pursuits.

Heal Past Heartbreaks: Chiron in the 5th house can also indicate past emotional wounds in matters of the heart and romance. Reflect on past relationships and seek closure or forgiveness if necessary. Open your heart to new experiences and relationships.

Celebrate Achievements: Celebrate your creative achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Recognize and acknowledge your accomplishments in the realm of self-expression. Positive reinforcement can boost your self-esteem.

Share Your Gifts: Don't be afraid to share your creative gifts with others. The 5th house is about self-expression and performance. Whether it's through sharing your art, performing on stage, or simply expressing yourself in your daily life, let others see your unique talents.

Cultivate Confidence: Building confidence in your creative abilities may take time, but it's essential. Surround yourself with supportive individuals who appreciate your talents and encourage your creative growth.

Chiron in Virgo in the 6th house: Wounds related to work, routine, service, health. There is a feeling that everything is out of place, that you need to move a lot to correct situations that you may even see in your mind as "mistakes" or "failures." An emergency to solve any and every issue. Emotional stress, not being able to handle problems without wanting to control them.

Balance Work and Self-Care: Recognize the importance of balancing your work life with self-care and relaxation. Avoid overworking yourself and prioritize time for rest, relaxation, and rejuvenation.

Address Perfectionism: Chiron in Virgo can intensify perfectionist tendencies. Learn to recognize when perfectionism is hindering your progress and causing stress. Aim for excellence but accept that perfection is unattainable.

Set Realistic Goals: Define achievable goals for yourself. Break larger tasks into smaller, manageable steps. This approach can help you tackle projects without feeling overwhelmed.

Organize and Simplify: Develop organizational skills to streamline your daily routines and tasks. Creating structured routines can reduce anxiety and make your life more manageable.

Seek Help When Needed: Don't hesitate to seek help or delegate tasks when necessary. You don't have to do everything alone. Asking for assistance can relieve stress and allow you to focus on what truly matters.

Prioritize Health: Take your physical and mental health seriously. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and sufficient sleep are essential. Pay attention to your body's needs and address health concerns promptly.

Mindfulness Practices: Engage in mindfulness practices like meditation or yoga to manage stress and stay grounded. Mindfulness can help you let go of the need for excessive control.

Service with Boundaries: Embrace your desire to be of service to others, but set clear boundaries. Avoid overextending yourself to the point of burnout. Learn to say no when necessary.

Embrace Imperfections: Understand that life is full of unexpected challenges and imperfections. Embrace these imperfections as opportunities for growth and learning.

Self-Improvement: Focus on personal development and continuous learning. Whether it's through education, training, or acquiring new skills, invest in your self-improvement.

Release Guilt: If you feel guilty about taking time for yourself or making mistakes, work on releasing these feelings of guilt. Self-forgiveness is crucial for your overall well-being.

Celebrate Achievements: Acknowledge your accomplishments and successes, no matter how small. Celebrate your achievements as a reminder of your capabilities.

Chiron in Virgo in the 7th house: Wounds related to usefulness in relationships, the need to sacrifice in them, to serve too much, high expectations of oneself or others in your relationships. Wounds related to your sense of adequacy in relating. Wounds related to the organization of the relationship.

Self-Love and Self-Care: Prioritize self-love and self-care in your life. Understand that you can't fully serve or support others if you neglect your own well-being. Take time to nurture yourself emotionally and physically.

Healthy Boundaries: Learn to establish and maintain healthy boundaries in your relationships. Boundaries are crucial for ensuring that your needs are met and that you don't overextend yourself in an attempt to please others.

Release the Need for Perfection: Let go of the need for perfect relationships. Understand that imperfections and conflicts are a natural part of any partnership. Embrace the growth and learning opportunities that come from navigating challenges together.

Effective Communication: Work on improving your communication skills, both in expressing your needs and listening to your partner's concerns. Effective communication can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Relationship Reflection: Reflect on your past relationships and any patterns that have emerged. Use this self-awareness to break free from repetitive, unhealthy relationship dynamics.

Embrace Vulnerability: Allow yourself to be vulnerable in your relationships. Vulnerability fosters emotional intimacy and deeper connections with others.

Service with Balance: While you may have a strong desire to serve and support your partner, make sure you're not sacrificing your own needs and happiness in the process. Aim for a balanced give-and-take in relationships.

Heal Past Relationship Wounds: Address any past relationship wounds or traumas that may be affecting your current partnerships. Seek therapy or counseling if necessary to process and heal these experiences.

Accept Differences: Embrace the idea that your partner is a separate individual with their own flaws and imperfections. Accepting these differences can lead to more harmonious relationships.

Seek Mutually Beneficial Partnerships: Strive for partnerships that are mutually beneficial and supportive. Surround yourself with people who uplift and inspire you.

Celebrate Healthy Relationships: Celebrate and appreciate the healthy and loving relationships you have in your life. Express gratitude for the positive connections that bring joy and growth.

Chiron in Virgo in the 8th house: Wounds related to experiencing intimacy. There may be guilt and a sense of inadequacy or not being ready for intimacy, deeper exchanges. Problems with sexual relationships. Difficulty in opening up intimately due to self-criticism and judgmental self-analysis. Wounds related to perfectionism in sexual relationships, intimacy, depth. Problems with taboos.

Explore Your Inner World: Take the time to explore your inner thoughts, feelings, and emotions. Self-reflection and self-awareness are crucial for healing the wounds associated with the Virgo and the 8th house.

Embrace Vulnerability: Allow yourself to be vulnerable with trusted individuals. Vulnerability is a pathway to deep emotional connections and healing. Share your fears and insecurities with those who can provide support.

Release Control: Recognize when you're trying to control situations or relationships out of fear. Let go of the need for excessive control and trust in the natural flow of life. Surrender to the unknown.

Heal Past Wounds: Investigate and heal past emotional wounds or traumas related to trust and intimacy. Therapy or counseling may be beneficial in addressing these deep-seated issues.

Forgiveness: Practice forgiveness, both for yourself and for others. Holding onto grudges or resentments can create emotional blockages. Forgiveness is a liberating act that frees you from the past.

Intimacy with Boundaries: Foster intimacy in your relationships while maintaining healthy boundaries. Boundaries are essential for creating a sense of safety and trust in close connections.

Explore Spirituality: Delve into spiritual practices or beliefs that resonate with you. The 8th house is associated with transformation and rebirth, making it a conducive space for spiritual growth and healing.

Shadow Work: Engage in shadow work to confront and integrate hidden aspects of yourself. This process can help you understand your fears, desires, and unresolved issues more deeply.

Healthy Sexual Expression: If there are sexual issues or discomfort, seek guidance from a therapist or counselor specializing in sexual health. Healthy sexual expression is an important aspect of healing in the 8th house.

Release Taboos: Address and release any taboos or stigmas related to sexuality or other deep-seated emotions. Open conversations about these topics can reduce shame and guilt.

Transformation: Embrace change and transformation as a natural part of life. The 8th house represents rebirth and renewal. Embrace the opportunities for personal growth that come with life's transitions.

Trust Your Intuition: Trust your intuition and instincts. Often, your inner guidance can lead you to the answers and healing you seek.

Chiron in Virgo in the 9th house: Wounds related to self-criticism and judgment regarding your beliefs, your belonging in the world. Wounds related to the idea of optimism and trust. Problems with openness to the new, with an open mind. Wounds related to organization and belief systems.

Explore Diverse Beliefs: Take the time to explore different belief systems, philosophies, and spiritual practices. Open yourself to a variety of perspectives to broaden your understanding of the world.

Higher Education: Pursue higher education or engage in lifelong learning. Expanding your knowledge and intellectual horizons can help you overcome feelings of inadequacy or insecurity.

Travel and Adventure: Travel to new places and immerse yourself in different cultures. Experiencing the world firsthand can be transformative and open your mind to new possibilities.

Questioning Beliefs: Don't be afraid to question and challenge your existing beliefs. Self-examination and critical thinking can help you refine your personal philosophy.

Find Your Unique Path: Instead of conforming to societal or familial expectations, seek your own unique path in life. Trust your inner guidance to lead you toward your true purpose.

Teaching and Sharing: Consider sharing your knowledge and experiences with others through teaching, writing, or public speaking. Your wisdom and insights can inspire and guide others.

Overcome Perfectionism: Chiron in Virgo can intensify perfectionist tendencies. Be mindful of unrealistic expectations, especially in the realm of higher learning. Embrace the journey of learning, including making mistakes.

Cultural Exchange: Engage in cultural exchange and build connections with people from diverse backgrounds. This can deepen your understanding of humanity's shared experiences.

Embrace Optimism: Work on embracing a more optimistic outlook on life. Release self-doubt and cultivate faith in your ability to make a positive impact on the world.

Meditation and Mindfulness: Practice meditation and mindfulness to quiet the inner critic and find inner peace. These practices can help you connect with your inner wisdom.

Embrace Adventure: Embrace a sense of adventure and spontaneity in your life. Step out of your comfort zone to experience personal growth and new perspectives.

Heal Cultural Wounds: If you have cultural or religious wounds, seek healing through therapy, counseling, or support groups. Addressing these wounds can free you from their grip.

Chiron in Virgo in the 10th house: Wounds related to a sense of utility, organization, and purpose in your career. Difficulty in organizing yourself, in finding logic and organization in defining a career. Wounds related to the feeling of being good enough for a solid career.

Define Your Own Success: Instead of conforming to societal expectations of success, define what success means to you on a personal level. Identify your own goals and values in the professional realm.

Embrace Imperfections: Release the need for perfection in your career. Understand that making mistakes is a natural part of growth. Allow yourself to learn and evolve from your experiences.

Career Counseling: Seek career counseling or coaching to gain clarity about your professional path. A professional can help you align your skills and interests with your career choices.

Self-Promotion: Develop effective self-promotion skills. Don't shy away from showcasing your talents and accomplishments in a humble and confident manner.

Networking: Build a supportive professional network. Connect with individuals who can mentor, guide, and inspire you in your career journey.

Public Speaking and Communication: Work on improving your public speaking and communication skills. Being able to convey your ideas and expertise effectively can boost your confidence.

Set Realistic Goals: Set achievable and realistic career goals. Break down larger objectives into smaller, manageable steps to make progress more achievable.

Overcoming Career Criticism: Address any past criticisms or setbacks in your career. Use these experiences as opportunities for growth and resilience.

Professional Development: Invest in continuous professional development and education. Expanding your knowledge and skills can open doors to new opportunities.

Leadership Skills: Develop leadership skills that align with your values and ethics. Effective leadership can help you make a positive impact in your field.

Volunteer and Service: Consider volunteering or engaging in service-oriented work. Contributing to a cause you're passionate about can provide a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Self-Compassion: Practice self-compassion and self-acceptance. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer to a friend facing similar challenges.

Public Service: Explore careers in public service or fields that allow you to make a meaningful contribution to society. Your desire to be of service can be a powerful force in your professional life.

Chiron in Virgo in the 11th house: Wounds related to the idea of being suitable for being in a group. Difficulties in organizing within groups. Wounds related to the sense of usefulness for groups. Difficulty in relating to groups due to feelings of inadequacy.

Authentic Friendships: Cultivate authentic and supportive friendships. Focus on quality rather than quantity when it comes to your social circle. Seek friends who accept you for who you are.

Release High Expectations: Let go of high expectations for yourself and others in group settings. Understand that nobody is perfect, and it's okay to make mistakes or have differences of opinion within friendships and groups.

Join Supportive Communities: Connect with communities or organizations that align with your interests and values. Find spaces where you feel a sense of belonging and where your unique contributions are appreciated.

Open-Mindedness: Practice open-mindedness and tolerance for diverse perspectives within groups. Embrace the richness that different viewpoints can bring to collective discussions.

Volunteer and Service: Engage in volunteer work or group activities that involve service to others. Contributing to a cause you care about can provide a sense of fulfillment.

Effective Group Communication: Work on effective group communication skills. This includes active listening, diplomacy, and the ability to express your ideas clearly without being overly critical.

Be a Team Player: Embrace your role as a team player within groups. Recognize that everyone has their strengths, and your contributions, no matter how small, matter.

Healing through Friendships: Explore past wounds related to friendships and group dynamics in therapy or counseling. Understanding and addressing these wounds can lead to emotional healing.

Community Leadership: Consider taking on a leadership role within a community or organization that resonates with you. Your desire to serve and organize can make a positive impact.

Embrace Your Uniqueness: Celebrate your unique qualities and contributions within groups. Your individuality is an asset to any collective effort.

Social Innovation: Channel your analytical and problem-solving skills into social innovation. Seek creative solutions to community or societal challenges.

Balance Independence and Interdependence: Find a balance between independence and interdependence in your relationships with friends and groups. While it's important to maintain your individuality, also appreciate the support and connections that come from being part of a community.

Chiron in Virgo in the 12th house: Wounds related to self-criticism from past issues, internal judgment and burdens, guilt that you carry in your unconscious. Wounds related to the idea of opening up and being vulnerable - even to yourself. Intense rationalization of your emotions and vulnerabilities.

Inner Exploration: Engage in introspective practices such as meditation, journaling, and dream analysis. Explore the depths of your subconscious to uncover hidden wounds and emotions.

Forgiveness: Practice forgiveness, both for yourself and others. Release any lingering guilt, shame, or self-blame from past experiences. Understand that you are human and deserving of compassion.

Spiritual Connection: Cultivate a spiritual practice that resonates with you. Whether it's meditation, prayer, mindfulness, or another form of spirituality, connecting with your inner self can bring healing.

Seek Guidance: Consider working with a therapist, counselor, or spiritual healer who specializes in addressing past traumas and wounds of the subconscious mind.

Creative Expression: Express your inner world through creative outlets such as art, writing, or music. Creative endeavors can be a powerful way to process and heal deep-seated emotions.

Release Self-Judgment: Let go of self-judgment and self-criticism. Understand that your vulnerabilities and imperfections are part of being human. Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer to others.

Connect with Nature: Spend time in nature to reconnect with your inner self and find solace. Nature can have a healing and grounding effect on your psyche.

Dream Work: Pay attention to your dreams and their symbolism. Your subconscious often communicates through dreams, offering insights into your inner world.

Service to Others: Find healing through acts of service to others, especially vulnerable groups. Helping those in need can provide a sense of purpose and connect you to a deeper sense of humanity.

Release Control: Let go of the need to control every aspect of your life. Surrender to the flow of life and trust that the universe has a plan for you, even if it's not immediately clear.

Acceptance of Vulnerability: Embrace your vulnerability as a source of strength. It takes courage to acknowledge and work through deep-seated wounds.

Transcendence: Explore practices that help you transcend your ego and connect with a higher consciousness. This can include practices like mindfulness meditation and yoga.

Supportive Community: Seek out a supportive and non-judgmental community or spiritual group that aligns with your beliefs. Finding a sense of belonging can be transformative.

Healing Rituals: Create personal healing rituals that allow you to release old wounds and invite healing energy into your life.

[tarot-by-e11e]

Hello Elle!! Here for your ask game<3 I would love to participate, and I already like your both posts & reblog your paid reading post, so here am I^^

My initial : RJ ♌sun and ♎ moon&rising.

Emoji : 🪞🦢☃️❄🍹🪷🫧

My self love/care work : tbh when it's comes to self care, I go for yoga & Dance. It's help me to shape my body & yoga/meditation improve my mental health!! And dancing is something that's makes me feel so so good!! So I can say anybody who can do self improvement thinks in their life, they do love there self more. ( when we look good, thinks good, we feel good:)

Thankyou in advance💋 for your time and energy !! Stay happy & healthy💐

Hi RJ,

Thank you so much for being so patient and understanding~

The card pulled for “What do you need to learn to love about yourself” is: The Bardo (L)

The practical approach to learning to love yourself is: Knight of Wands

I find the Bardo an interesting card to show up in your reading because it seems that you don’t outwardly express this side of yourself, even among your closest peers. What you need to learn to love about yourself is the ability to move the pain and hurt with grace and compassion. What I found strange is, you don’t even think that you deal things gracefully.

This card talks about creating space in your heart and in your life to forgive the unforgivable and love the unloved. You have this unspoken compassionate side of you that you are blind to yet others see clear as day.

You might not even see yourself as the type to forgive, but how you deal with your pain and trauma is actually your version of forgiveness. Learning from harsh lessons with so much love and patience towards yourself is this version of forgiving the unforgivable. Because there was a time when you struggled to forgive yourself for your past mistakes.

So, how you go about to practical show appreciation to this side of you is to consistently show up to free yourself from guilt and shame of your past mistakes by exploring other forms of self-care.

Explore and try out as many self-care strategies as you can, so that you have more than 2 strategies to lean in, in case you don’t have enough time to dance or do yoga.

This concludes your reading.

Do let me know how this resonates with you.

(This reading is for entertainment purposes only.)

[olivesjaw]

just here 2 vent this is going 2 be a long one so buckle up

my partner and I broke up a few weeks ago and since then I haven't really even had time or space to process the grief or try to re-connect with myself (when u have bpd, being in a relationship often means losing yourself in your partner, they become ur world and life and ur Everything, I've managed to tamp down on this sensation with time and practice but it's one of the hardest bpd things to unpack and balance out imo) because of work, training my dog (we're working with a professional and get homework to work on daily), spending so much time rifling through marketplace craiglist etc listings for apartments (everything remotely affordable is a fucking scam or nO pEtS aLLoWeD) AND living with/trying to resume a platonic friendship with my ex

so i've been 20x as emotionally erratic than I usually am, I spent the first week after the breakup breaking down crying every morning and throughout the days, my aunt that I have a traumatic and complicated history with died on sunday (processing that has been weird and more emotional than I'd thought it would be and I haven't really even had time to think about it much either)

i don't know where me or my dog will be in three or six months (a part of why we're training with a professional rn is because he has anxiety and reactivity issues, barks at everything and can't live in an apartment complex or with roommates like that) and our options are slim because it is next to impossible to live as a single person without a spouse/SO, roommates etc and I have a bunch of cards stacked against me including having a dog and if I didn't have ben right now i'd probably just throw in the towel and call it quits on life because I am so tired and alone I know fucking nobody in the area I'm living in except my now ex, I barely had people to call friends before moving here anyways and it just feels like i'm losing everything when I barely had anything to stay alive for to begin with

i knew it would be risky moving here/with my partner to begin with as i'd have nowhere to go/no one to lean on if we broke up but I had nothing when I lived in new hampshire too and I have been telling myself for the past practically two years that if I made ANYTHING in my life work out okay it would be this relationship and I tried so hard to make it work too because I could have built the fucking pyramids with the effort it takes me to just maintain a somewhat stable relationship of any sort while I live with this illness and all of this has brought into perspective again just how maladjusted I am and how I have no sense of identity or self, my entire life just revolves around other people and whether they still love me, and without them I can't cope or live, even when I thought i'd grown out of this

this has all just been re traumatizing too because I lost my best friend in a similar way six years ago (have not had a ~best friend~ since) and both of these people are the only two people I've ever met that inspired hope in me, made me want to love and grow and just stay alive for something better (the future with them!) period. I just cant even put into words how bad it is with bpd. you don't just lose the person or the relationship. you lose everything. you lose yourself your life your patience your self compassion your will to keep going your hope your joy. everything. this illness just takes everything from me over and over

ok now that I'm bout to throw up sorry if u read this I just needed 2 get it out in a fashion that isn't directly talking to anyone (because I don't have anyone LOLLLL) okbye

[dreamlifebunny]

hello bunny! I (ego, probably) find stay 'knowing myself' throughout the day as I tell myself I will observe the Ego's life with no attachment but in 2 minutes get swept up in my thoughts and identifying with them.

How do I separate my Self from ego and stop identifying with ego? and How do I believe that I am Self, 'I' need some proof, what do I do to get that? I'm so sorry if this has already been answered or repetitive.

hiiii, anon! c: no need to apologize at all, i completely understand the question and the struggle! this is a long answer, sorry it's late here and i have no idea how to be concise ever lol.

the biggest piece of advice i would give to you is to not beat yourself up for getting swept up in the thoughts. when we get swept away we can get frustrated with ourselves because we're like, "ughh i'm not doing this right, i have to start over, c'mon ego just do it correctly already!!" but the thing is, that is just how the ego is. it is acting the exact way it was intended to; the ego has endless thoughts, the ego worries, and the ego wants to beat you up for not getting it "right." but Self knows that that is the way the ego is and doesn't try to fight it! It accepts the ego as it is and simply lets it be. Self thinks that the ego is perfect simply because it "is;" it's perfect when its happy, it's perfect when it's sad, it's perfect when it has a thousand thoughts, it's perfect when it feels angry at itself. the ego/character you're playing right now, your Self created, and it is perfectly neutral and loving towards it ALL.

i used to be so confused when people would say, "just observe," because when i had thoughts i didn't like i would feel negatively and try to push the negative thought away or try to stop feeling the negative feeling. but what i learned was that instead of trying to change the thoughts, i can notice that i'm trying to change the thoughts. i can notice that i felt uncomfortable, then i can notice that the thought is sticking around, then i can notice that the feeling gets harder, then i can notice where the feeling is in my body, then i can notice that my awareness of where it is in my body has made me forget that i had a negative thought that i didn't like in the first place! it all falls away, because simply noticing helps you shift your awareness.

as ego, you will never run out of things to notice. that's why there are so many opportunities to practice not identifying with the ego! something you could try practicing for it to become more normal is taking time throughout your day to sit with yourself and truly pay attention, neutrally, to every single thought, feeling, and sensation that comes up. when i say neutrally, i don't mean NOT feeling negatively about things you're frustrated with or pushing down the feelings. the ego is going to feel frustrated, because that's how the ego feels. what i mean is, even if you get frustrated with yourself, NOTICE THAT TOO. "oh, i'm noticing that i'm feeling frustrated. that's okay!" it's all okay - have compassion and love towards EVERY feeling and thought that comes up, because they are all a creation of Self/God. i'll give you an example of the first time that i "got" it that will hopefully explain what i'm saying a little more. this was something close to my internal monologue:

alright. here we go. gonna notice some stuff as Self. i'm noticing my breathing. cool!

i'm noticing that i'm noticing my breathing now hehe. that's okay!

i'm noticing a feeling come up; ego wants to laugh because this feels funny to notice. that's okay!

i'm noticing that the feeling feels really warm in my body, it's pleasant. that's okay!

i'm noticing that i'm pretty hungry right now, actually... that's okay!

*drifts for a little while bcuz i was so hungry*

oh. i noticed that i just started drifting thinking about lunch. that's okay... wait, is that okay?

shit. i fucked up and drifted, ugh. that's not okay, why do i always drift so easily? *gets frustrated with myself*

wait, i didn't fuck up. i'm noticing that i was just frustrated with myself. okay. frustration, you are noticed. it's okay for the ego to be frustrated! that's okay!

i'm noticing now the peace that comes with simply allowing my ego to be the way it is. that's okay!

i'm noticing that i'm thinking about lunch again. that's okay!

maybe i should eat. what should i eat? (*drifting*)

ugh! i keep messing this up! (*frustrated*)

oh! i am noticing that the frustration is coming again, and i'm also noticing that i'm hungry. that's a sensation the ego is having. i am noticing it. that's okay!

does this make sense? everything that the ego does is perfect, it's acting as the way it always is - we as Self are simply here to observe it! it doesn't have to change its ways for you to become self-actualized; in fact, the ego cannot "become enlightened," the feeling of "enlightenment" only happens when the ego is left to just vibe and do its thing, without changing it. the ego is perfect to Self because no matter what, it is playing its role exactly as it was meant to. the ego wants to fight itself, but it doesn't need to fight itself, because it's doing exactly what it was designed to do. Self knows this! Self is able to take a step back and allow the yuckiness that the ego feels to just happen, because it knows that that yuckiness is a creation of Self. this is why people always say that Self is an expression of / feeling of pure love, because everything that the ego does is simply okay, it's allowed, it's perfect, it's loved by Self. it's pure acceptance, and what is more loving than that? i think it's also why people who are Christian say that "God's creations are perfect" because they were created by "Him" and "He makes no mistakes." it's the same thing with our true Selves and ego - the ego is a perfect creation of the Self, it doesn't need to beat itself up or get frustrated because it's not doing things properly. but if it does beat itself up or get frustrated, all you as Self have to do is say, "it's okay. i'm noticing you're frustrated. i'm observing this frustration. that's allowed, you're okay, you're perfect!"

you don't have to say "that's okay" every time you have a thought or sensation, either. i told myself the phrase "nothing i am conscious of is me" when i was trying this out. sometimes i tell myself, "that's allowed." sometimes i just notice and shift awareness without thinking anything and just witness. do whatever feels natural to you, that's what this whole process is about!

it might take time for you to get to this space where it feels constant. but that is okay! the biggest thing to remember with all of this is that it is all okay. you as the ego aren't doing anything wrong, you just need to observe when you do feel that you're doing something wrong and return to that lovely observing Self who knows everything is accepted.

another thing to keep in mind is that this might take practice, but it doesn't have to be an arduous journey. you know how starting a new habit can take a little bit of time before it becomes natural, and then all of a sudden you're remembering to take your meds at the same time every day or your posture is improved because you've reminded yourself enough times throughout the day? it's the same thing for detachment (or at least has been in my case). practice makes better, and holy fuck, we've gone our whole lives attached and identified with ego, so cut yourself some slack! <3 just take some time to return to your Self throughout the day, whether that's taking five minutes to practice the above "noticing" or even just noticing whenever you remember you're Self. whenever i suddenly realize i'm getting caught up in ego identification (which is quite often), i try not to beat myself up - have compassion for the sweet character you've known and identified with! they don't know any better. sometimes i greet my ego like an old friend, like "oh! hi ego! i'm noticing you now."

hopefully this makes sense - compassion and witnessing is the key, and truly with practice you'll come to find it's the simplest thing you've ever known to do. you've got this! <3

also, here is advice from this lovely anon, too!

[gyoukukens]

i took your mom's name to honor her , it has nothing to do with you

             this man... all of the sudden he had the audacity to show up one day &&. talk to him ?   ❝ because of her ? ❞   he slowly turns his head to look at him. all he sees is a face ⸻  the very face to megumi's own, the face he sees every morning in his own mirror. a self reflection stands right before him now but this time without a a mirror. this time he faced the very reason he is alive, right here.

             his expression twisting into one of disappointment... his voice fully engulfed in some rage he has never felt before as the teenager's hands ball into fists ⸻  slamming them both down on the table.   ❝ DON'T GIVE ME THAT SHIT ! ❞   shouting coming from the usually quiet megumi. how dare this zen'in ruin their reputation... his father NEVER deserved to be loved &&. cared for by his own mother. megumi barely remembers her last moments. she was practically begging for him to live a full life. to find compassion in everyone.

             but he couldn't do that for zen'in toji. compassion, respect &&. love has to be earned. Redacted Fushiguro died to his carelessness... His mother was dead &&. her last wish was to at least see both of them one last time. Yet she died alone ⸻ without him around.

             ❝ IF YOU TRULY HONORED HER, YOU WOULD'VE ONCE TOLD ME YOU CARED FOR US BOTH ONCE. JUST ONCE !  DO YOU HATE MOM THAT MUCH ? ❞   Megumi stops for a minute &&. looks down, holding back an urge to continue cursing him out. At last he can't hold back any genuine feeling he's had for the one who is his biological 'father' anymore.   ❝ I AM A BLESSING TO WHAT PARENTS . . ! ?  IT SEEMS MORE LIKE I AM A CURSE ! ❞

             He's had enough. He knows he will never get his mother's wish fulfilled or his father's acknowledgement. It was far too late to try &&. fix this. Fushiguro Megumi gets up, collecting his last bit of composure but just before he leaves the area, he might as well tell the other how it is.   ❝ I . . .  I'm going home. To someone who actually cares for me. Don't ever talk to me again, Zen'in Toji. I hate you for everything you stand for. ❞

[sytokun]

Lay off your wannabe holy crusade. All you're doing is clogging up search results and I am tired of hiding your rants on social media so I can look at something that doesn't involve one dude screaming about how he is a victim of somebody else. Besides, can you actually prove that most of the anonymous asks came from seeker, or are you painting his face onto the vision of every anon ask that comes your way?

Let's dissect the two possibilities then:

I am right and it's Canonseeker continuing to be a cunt.

It's a different person sending me anon hate mail like a coward, i.e. still a cunt.

Wow look at that, it's still me, over here with my blog and an unspecified number of anonymous cunts who have made a video of fake screenshots to fuck me over.

Great moral compass. Definitely calibrated correctly. Definitely not victim blaming when you can easily go to Canonseeker and be an annoying bitch to the actual aggressor in this situation instead. But no, I committed the gross crime of... mildly inconveniencing your Tumblr experience, so I'm clearly more evil.

Are you... okay in the head? No backwards morals going on in that cranium of yours?

And if anyone thinks that Canonseeker is minding their own business and has stopped finding fault with me, here's their new Twitter @, fresh off the press:

My name's Aaron. This bitch be over here using my IRL name in their Twitter username. I know for a fact it's deliberate because they do this with other peoples' names too that they don't like.

Practice some self-awareness and imagine yourself in this position. Some fucking asshole took the time to make screenshots of you, trying to portray you as a racist and homophobe. That asshole, or a different one, loves using your name and others' in their usernames to passive-aggressively spite you, because you're one of the few people who care enough to treat them like the problem they are and call them out.

And now, either that asshole or some other asshole is now infesting your anon mailbox, much like you, and saying you deserve to suffer and you need to improve, instead of the actual pieces of shit who have been banned from multiple communities and keep coming back.

So congrats, have another Canonseeker post in your RWBY feed. You and every person are going to keep seeing them, because they're a fucking pest who is still in the community, and people like you would rather froth and flail over the one trying to do something about a known cockroach on the community than acknowledge the actual fucking problem.

And if it's not this cockroach, it's gonna be another one, and I would rather point out the cockroach and say the place needs to be fumigated than sit in this filth and pretend they don't fuckin' exist, mate. So you better get fuckin' comfy and think about who you're really supposed to be directing your anger to, and who's really the one making this community trash for everyone else.

[towardfatherhood]

This Body of Work and Friendship

It is my early morning practice to sit in our hot tub in the dark and do four things: Wordle, the NYT Mini Crossword, a DuoLingo Spanish lesson, and prayer, always in that order. It's my daily liturgy. My church service for one. Today my prayer time was cut short. "Oh God," I sighed, sinking, "I'm so tired..." My mind drifted and I began to imagine an argument between me and my wife. Just as the imaginary row began to heat up, I felt my body rise up from the steaming water, grab my towel, and begin to step out. It felt as if my body was trying to save me. "You're too exhausted," he said to me, "let's get you to someplace restful."

My childhood was not a restful place. There was little room for our tribe of seven to express emotion. Anger was seen as rebellion. Sadness was just self-pity. Frustration was probably selfishness, and so on. Learning to recognize and name my emotions was difficult for me in adulthood. It wasn't until I approached middle age that I could honestly name my emotions. I learned them not as spiritual, intangible mists and fragrances, but as physical sensations in my body. I feel anger in my arms and legs; fear sometimes in my legs, but often in my gut; amusement makes my head feel light; joy and delight feel like sparkles trickling down through my whole body; pride adds an impression of tears behind my eyes; anxiety ripples through my stomach; anguish rests in my lower back; wonder feels like a hug. The list goes on.

The unexpected gift of getting in touch with my emotions is that it meant partnering with my body, whom I now see as a friend and guide. While my cognitive mind is at the wheel, feeling important and making logical decisions, my body is down in the engine room, checking dials and clanking wrenches, sending up urgent messages: "Hey we're getting a hot mix of anger and compassion here! Which one do you want to go with??"

So I want to take this moment to honor my body, who is constantly trying to save my life. Whether I am dealing with a stubbed toe, a stubborn child, a slippery flagstone, a stab of loneliness, or a burst of joy, my body is there to alert and inform and care for me. I love this part of me. He is a joy to be with, and an excellent partner and friend.

Well done, body. I thank you.

[notcolleen]

tw for very rambling suicidal ideation behind this, i promise i am safe 👌 (but blunt talk about death and rambles abt cats and mentions of pokémon 👌)

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but i have not been this actively suicidal for extended amount of time probably ever, yet i say that knowing that i will stay alive indefinitely……..just really really really sad all the time 😌 (so please know that too and allow me to write this out lol)

it’s just a very overwhelming sense of staying alive out of obligation and that’s not exactly what dbt would call a Life Worth Living

but i am obligated to my cat first and foremost (as ridiculous as that might sound to some but i know others will understand lol) and to my family as well, and the guilt of leaving them overwhelms me even though i know logically i wouldn’t be alive to feel it….like i look at phoebe (the cat in question for those who don’t know) and i see a wonderful animal who didn’t sign up to be taken in by a severely depressed human — she deserves unconditional care and love and that is what i agreed to when i adopted her so that is why i am obligated to stay alive as long as she is alive

plus on a more practical level, when my ideation gets to the point of “okay let’s try to find an equally loving home for her ! maybe even someone who has more space and more time and more emotional bandwidth !” im like wow that would be pretty obvious to anyone that knows you that something is wrong lmao and also i get so sad at the thought of not having her in my life……..which contradicts the “i actually want to be dead” ideation and brings on my next unwavering reason to stay around……which is my extreme fear of death and the unknown

like…….that’s terrifying and idk how it’s just basically accepted that we as humans exist and then stop existing? and that’s it? like a hs classmate of mine just passed away less than a week ago and i can’t stop thinking about it, i selfishly can’t stop thinking how unfair it is that i am sitting here, literally abusing my body every minute of the day and not taking care of any part of my self and yet my health is essentially perfect?? yet she was genuinely one of the nicest ppl in this horrible town and breast cancer took her life and if that doesn’t prove that this life has no logic at all idk what does

and it’s terrifying bc i can’t comprehend what happens after bc in my mind there just can’t logically be any after but there also can’t logically be nothing so it’s just….overwhelming blankness

so now i wake up every day and i cry on my walk to work because i have the same compulsive thoughts about dying at the same spots on the same walk bc my brain is dumb and repeats everything

but also keep thinking about how that would affect the kids i work with, who tell me they love me every day and hug me even though they’re not supposed to and tell me i’m they’re favorite teacher when they’re not supposed to but it’s really only because i’m the only one that knows pokémon enough to print out the coloring sheets they want so it’s conditional love but i don’t even care bc it’s real to them and to me

but then i cry more bc i love them too but i still want to die and they would move on quickly but it would still be something in their life that they certainly dont deserve and wouldn’t understand

so i go to work and i pretend to be a good, caring person and it’s exhausting bc i am not, so i get home and it’s like a switch is flipped and i am an entirely different person with no moral compass and no desire to connect with anyone or be around anyone or do anything…..like at this point i have alienated everyone in my life and can’t see myself getting to a place where i can build connections again, my only social interactions rn are work and i get frustrated that i have to make the same small talk with my coworkers every day, i get frustrated that i have to partake in social niceties or that im expected to go to holiday parties and have lunches with these people who don’t actually know me and i don’t actually know them??

i did have thanksgiving with my family tonight and i know i have so much love for them, and i felt safe there for that time……but there was still this underlying emptiness to everything and even conversations with them, the people i am closest with and really the only ones i talk to anymore, felt surface level in a way that frustrates me and i can’t articulate it accurately but it’s exhausting and i am tired

and i was getting more anxious as i was getting ready to leave my parents bc the time alone after being with family is the hardest for me and my dad turned to my sister…..who had just had another fight with her husband….and said “just so you know, you can stay here tonight, you’re always welcome to stay here” and i started crying on my way home because that’s what i needed to hear tonight but he wouldn’t know that bc i can’t vocalize my emotions like a functional adult and go out of my way to make it seem like i’m doing better than i am so that my mom doesn’t worry

i know i need more help in terms of my mental health (also not in denial abt how bad my eating disorder is rn but that’s another issue that i’m not going to write another novel about rn) but idk what that looks like in my life rn and it’s hard when my depression is this bad because i keep coming back to “yeah i need more help but also it’s all pointless anymore lol” so i just go through my days completed detached and telling myself that any way i can cope is okay bc instagram told me 💖✨if all u did was survive today that is okay✨💖 but really it’s just me enabling apathy and destructive behaviors and moving targets of “i’ll do better once xyz”

idk how to end this post other than to say again that i am safe, just obviously not in a good place mentally but very much able to keep myself alive (i’ve been jaded by too many “instagram cares” messages after posting lol) (i know this is tumblr) (still jaded)

[hrt-shpd-systm]

This is my attempt at self care.

i havent been doing anything witchy related at all for over a month now. i dont know what happened. i havent been practicing self care enough. i can barely do anything these days. amy, the person in the system that makes sure were emotionally safe hasnt been here, and shes the one that does the witchcraft too. i dont think amy told you, but we have DID and anna is just what we collectively call ourselves. its more than just me and her though. ive just been front stuck for the better part of june. now its just me and dean. i need help though, were not equipped for this. dean just makes us feel physically safe. hes like a body gaurd. cant nurture us like amy can. anyways. this is an attempt to get amy to front. i saw in the journal we share amy wanted to do some spells. so im just gonna. burn some lavender for compassion, because people around me havent been that way towards me (or anyone for that matter) and neither have i been towards us. if i cant at least help other people be compassionate, im gonna help myself. hibiscus for self love. clove for success and motivation in school. i also have quartz and amethyst with me.

I am in the proccess of the spell rn and im really proud of anna for being able to do that by herself. I know she was really struggling. I hope she feels better soon. im gonna try to stick around for a little while this time. i will update this post as time goes on.

June 29

It has worked well enough. I was given compassion from my English teacher, maybe not my intentions but it was still needed. Today is my last day of class and I have till tomorrow to finish everything. It helped me be better at school.