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[echoesof30]

Holding On and Letting Go: A Journey of Family and Time

The topic had gone beyond mere exhaustion. It wasn't depression, but rather a sense of being overwhelmed. If you asked him what was weighing on him, he probably wouldn't even have an answer. Is it burnout caused by today's problems? "I'm not burned out, and I won't be. I have the strength to keep going," he would say. There was a fatigue in his eyes, clearly not a personal one. Was it a fatigue related to his responsibilities? When he did some introspection, he would explain these feelings.

"My issue isn’t my responsibilities; on the contrary, the areas where I have responsibilities bring me joy beyond measure. How can the concept of family not make me happy? Tell me, man! I had a wonderful family, and now I’m going to have an even greater one with my wife and child. Can you believe it? I'm going to have a child! I’m soaring with happiness, and the responsibilities that come with that happiness—can they ever be a burden? Not at all. I do worry about finances a bit. Thank God, we're doing okay, and while it's good to be grateful, don't we deserve more than just 'okay'? I can’t help but think about that. Now, because we’re okay, I can't take any risks that might derail us. I didn’t realize that all the risks I took when I was single were time-bound. I’m not angry at those who guided me; I had mapped out a path—whether it was right or wrong, I can’t say. I had a great time, and there's nothing more valuable to me. And now, I’m heading towards an even better time. We can’t wait to hold our son in our arms. This is what I mean when I say time—if only it could be pulled forward or pushed back. But life is such that, given the option, would anyone really want to push time forward? It’s a big risk, who knows. Why would someone want to go back? To retrieve what was lost? Time, man, let them bring back time. Let them bring back time so I can feel more at ease now, because, you see, I would use one-third of the time I spent playing Pollyanna back then to take a financial leap and take risks alone. In this life where there’s now two of us, I can’t afford to act irresponsibly and take risks. That’s not a risk—it’s disrespectful. Taking this risk together might be the ultimate act of trust, or maybe not, but it’s not about starting a journey together and continuing if things don’t work out. I don’t want it to fail, which is why I don’t talk about it with my wife. I don’t want to burden her with the risk of something not working out. I want her shoulders to be light and her face always smiling. Is this selfishness? The selfishness of love? But I can't bear to see her in this lousy state of mind. Even when there’s nothing wrong, there’s still something wrong. It’s such a classic statement from today’s generation, but damn, it’s so true. Even when there’s nothing wrong, there’s still something wrong, and it’s true. So many problems without a name, and some aren’t even problems. We ended up as a generation caught in the middle. As kids of the '90s, we still have the ability to pluck the good moments with tweezers. The generation after us sees things more directly, but if I may offer a small criticism, what we express seems more direct to them. What generation will my son belong to? Z is already gone, and we’re not quite in the Jetsons era yet. His generation is dangling in the air—let’s see where it lands. Consider this a little joke about having a son. My dear son.

Sorry, I’m getting off track. Wow, how many rounds have we had dad? We’ve finished the whole bottle already. By the way, like I said, I apologize. My thoughts aren’t jumping from branch to branch, nor are there a thousand foxes running around in my head, but my thoughts won’t stop. That’s why I can’t pour out my heart as if I only have one problem. I hope you understand me. If not, no worries—I just don’t want to bore you, I know you faced with these kind of thoughts and many more probably. Is that why you’re drinking faster than I am? Waiter, could you come here, please…”

As the bottle arrived at the table, his father raised his glass towards his son, toasting to his future grandson. It felt as though his own youth was sitting across from him, having a conversation with the father he never got to meet. His throat tightened for a moment. He paused, sighed, and with a smile, as if he were gently placing his hand on his son's shoulder, the words spilled out as their glasses clinked together: "Don’t worry, son. I’m here—whenever you need me, no matter what, I’m always by your side. To my dear grandson… to your son…”

For a moment, the smiles on their faces touched eternity, and time stood still as their glasses, filled with just a finger of rakı, hovered in the air. It was the last sip of the night—no worries, no troubles, only happiness remained. The bottle arrived at the table again, the glasses were filled once more, and the waiter was asked to refresh the melon slices. Cheers.

[jmikepatt]

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[ohtheplacesblog]

#UPCOMINGEVENTS Join me for my Memory Keeping For Busy People Class on 10/27/22. Do you want to learn how to document, journal, or scrapbook without feeling like you have to buy stock in a craft store? If so, visit my link in IG bio and be sure to RSVP on Eventbrite for my class where I'll teach you how to create an easy process just for you, to keep track of #AllOfTheThings #blackgirlhappyplanner #lifeandlegacy #memorykeeping #memoryplanning #eventbrite https://www.instagram.com/p/CjtO5j3uMrN/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[blackgirlhappyplanner]

Do you know how to find and delete screenshots on your iPhone?

HERE’S HOW:

1) Click on your photos icon.

2) Select albums.

3) Scroll down to ‘Media Types’

iPhone categorizes your images and videos so you can find what you need faster.

Learn how to organize your phone photos by signing up for Save Your Photos Month: SaveYourPhotos.org

[queenephillips]

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[20westlegal]

According to WealthCounsel, 35% of American adults have either personally experienced or know someone who has personally experienced family conflict as a result of not having an estate plan or will in place.

If you pass away without a will -commonly referred to as "dying intestate," the courts will ultimately decide who inherits your assets, which results in estate disputes. Your family will experience time-consuming and expensive probate court proceedings that may also arise family drama and conflict.

To avoid this scenario, you should create a will or have an estate plan and keep it updated regularly. Additionally, you should better understand estate planning components and why it is critical to have one to keep your family out of court and out of conflict if something happens to you.

Join me for an Estate Planning webinar in which I will go through everything in detail.

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[jmikepatt]

#jmikepatt #EnjoyTheDayYouCreate #LifeAndLegacy #LiveWithPurpose #MemoriesThatLastBeyondTime #CherishLovedOnes

[ohtheplacesblog]

If you have digital photos to organize then you need #PhotoPartyWithMe TONIGHT at 7:15PMEST/6:15PMCST, hosted on Google Meet. Click my link in bio, then click my #lifeandlegacy Facebook group to join and RSVP for the event! https://www.instagram.com/p/Ci-HCUiOMJE/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[blackgirlhappyplanner]

Check out my August Events Calendar. Be sure to RSVP for events using the links below and put them on your calendar! Hope to see you there!

life + legacy: Photo Party and Save Your Photos Month Prep

Monday, August 22, 2022

7:30pm EST/6:30pm CST

This event will take place via Zoom. Link will be posted two days prior to the event. To join the group prior to the event, please visit:

www.facebook.com/groups/lifeandlegacy

There is nothing like time that is set aside to organize your digital photos and if you are anything like me, you have a lot of photos on your cell phone to review. Join us for the first monthly life + legacy photo party where we will cowork on organizing our photos together and share some tools and tips to help you do it better, as well as get a preview of the Save Your Photos Month that will be happening in September.

RSVP using this Facebook link: https://fb.me/e/1FYN4vAtA

To Do List Tuesday Cowork + Plan

Tuesday, August 30, 2022

7:30pm EST/6:30pm CST

This event will be hosted in Facebook Rooms. Link will be provided prior to the event. Also, if you have not joined the Pop of Color Planner group yet, please visit: www.facebook.com/groups/popofcolorplanner

Join me for my #ToDoListTuesday cowork and plan session! Bring your planners and projects and get some ish done! Let's check some things off our to do list together!

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[ohtheplacesblog]

Are any of you working on any family photo projects? I am. I finally got the last set of photos from a family member who took lots of photos at my family reunion back in June. Now all 274 photos have been uploaded to my #foreverphotostorage account for safekeeping. If you are interested in finding out more about FOREVER, stay tuned, I'm launching a series in October.... #ForeverBrandAmbassador #photoorganization #15minutes #lifeandlegacy https://www.instagram.com/p/CiqwdBPOwU1/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[ohtheplacesblog]

Got Photos? Lots of photos? Yeah, so do I! Join my Photo Party With Me and let me help you get your photo organization skills together! Monday, August 22. RSVP by visiting my link in bio #blackgirlhappyplanner #lifeandlegacy #planning #photoorganization #events https://www.instagram.com/p/ChdeRIyJuBn/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[blackgirlhappyplanner]

#PhotoTips #photoorganization 1. SAVE THE DATE! 2. JOIN my Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/life andlegacy 3. RSVP for the event 4. Event will be hosted via Zoom 5. Link will be posted in the Facebook group on the day of the event. #blackgirlhappyplanner #lifeandlegacy

[blackgirlhappyplanner]

1. SAVE THE DATE! 2. JOIN my Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lifeandlegacy 3. RSVP for the event 4. Event will be hosted via Zoom 5. Link will be posted in the Facebook event on the day of the event. #blackgirlhappyplanner #lifeandlegacy #foreversummer #digitalphotos

[blackgirlhappyplanner]

Do you need help getting your photos off your cell phone? Are you overwhelmed by ALL of the digital photos? If so, then join me for my FREE Forever Summer course, Monday, 7/25, 7:30 pm EST/6:30pm CST where you will learn how to get started organizing your digital photos! Tell a friend! Save the date and RSVP for the event inside the Facebook group:www.facebook.com/lifeandlegacy

#blackgirlhappyplanner #lifeandlegacy #memorykeeping #photoorganization #digitalphotos

[blackgirlhappyplanner]

#ThrowbackThursday My father's family has been meeting up for over 50 years now. We had our family reunion over #JuneteenthWeekend and we had a blast spending time back on my grandparents land, something we haven't done in years. Here are some of my favorite photos from the weekend. Learn about photo organization and memory keeping in my Facebook group, www.facebook.com/groups/lifeandlegacy #memoryplanning #memorykeeping #scrapbooking #lifeandlegacy #blackgirlhappyplanner