#life coaching session example

[zeestie]

🫧 every manifestation technique & when / why to use it 🫧

this post is going to focus on law of assumption techniques. since there are a lot out there, I figured creating this post will help in knowing which techniques suit u and for what situations to use.

btw, you can find my routine for manifesting here. now, let's begin!

🫧 building ur self concept (sc)

creating a new identity or theme around yourself where you know you are powerful, limitless, and worthy of all your desires.

this is more of a framework than a technique since it relies on different techniques, such as affirming and journaling to acheive it.

I think it is worth mentioning improving your sc cos I believe that it is the foundation of powerful manifesting, yeah some might say "you don't need a high self concept to manifest" & I am not here to disagree w u but consider this: u believing that ur sc doesn't matter is literally part of you sc so u are essentially affirming for sc every time you say that

"you don't need a high sc to manifest" is equivelant to "I am enough as I am" and "I deserve everything I want, just because," which are sc affirmations.

🪷 use this if you wanna

work through your limiting beliefs

instead of having to affirm for sp, friends, family, etc. all the time, why not fix your self concept around love and step into your worth once and for all?

become an automatic manifestor of good things

think of successful people who've never heard of loa, how did they do it? they built an amazing sc about themselves. that is what we call confidence or charisma.

become happier, more confident, and stable/at peace

also, improving one's self concept is a foundation of therapy, coaching, and other non-loa disciplines that are concerned with improving one's life

🫧 affirming & affirmation tapes

repeating postive statements through thinking them, saying them (affirming), or hearing them (tapes). could be done with focus / feelings (focused affriming) or without (robotic affirming).

🪷 use this if you wanna

focus on a specfic desire & aligning to it

sc is general & that's great, but affirming is better if you wanna be specific

reprogram both the conscious and the subconscious

this method helps reprogram the subconscious through repetition but also your conscious through discipline and observing your thoughts meticulously

regulate your nervous system + be reminded that you already have it

I will talk more about regulation later, but affirmations can help you when you are feeling anxious or doubt since they divert your focus and serve as a good reminder of that which is true.

use an effortless way to manifest

affirmations are the easiest method to try because you can do it anywhere, anytime, and anyone can use them (if you have trouble visualising)

🫧 mirror work

basically you face a mirror and speak your affrimations, typically done around topics such as self worth/love

can be done using a timer or a pre prepared script or for however long you want

🪷 use this if you wanna

build your relationship with yourself

mirror work is one of the most effective ways to build your foundation of self love. it will help you get used to how you look, your smile. & it will also build your confidence

speaking the affirmations while facing yourself creates a deep connection with yourself and the words you speak. I really can't reccomend it enough cos each session will have you feeling more loved, limitless, & grateful

work on your self concept

since mirror work deals with self love & confidence topics, it really helps build your self concept.

and ofc you can speak your desires affirmations when doing mirror work, but even that feels different. it will feel like speaking worth and confidence into yourself, which ultimately builds your self concept! (esp. in that specific area of manifesting, for example money, love, beauty, etc.)

feel your affirmations

you don't have to feel them real, but it does make things easier/faster. speaking to the mirror helps the affirmations actually reach you + makes them feel personal

🫧 subliminals

they are affirmations layered over another sound so they become inaudible & pass right through to your subconscious mind

🪷 use this if you wanna

have 'unrealistic' & fast results

since this technique deals with your subconscious mind which readily accepts whatever it is given, the results are much faster & mindblowing

listen to affirmations but can't or don't want to

so if you're busy with life and can't find the time to affirm or if you wanna multi-task (practice loa + work), you can use subliminals since you can play them in the background whil living your life

you will also find that they work as an excellent manifesting tool as they don't require effort, focus, or intent for them to work

saturate your mind with mulitple topics

this is one of the techniques to use if you have mulitple things you wanna manifest but wanna affirm for all of them since you can listen to as many subliminals as you want

+ a single, very short subliminal can list out numerous benefits since it also utilises layering and speeding up the affirmation to allow for more repetition to occur

🫧 scripting

basically, repeatedly journaling about what you wanna experience as if it already manifested

🪷 use this if you wanna

visualise but prefer thinking in words

I use both visualistation & scripting. both have their perks. sometimes scripting helps me soak myself into the narrative, it helps me understand what I want & how the materialisation of the desire will look like.

it really helps me get into the zone since I love journaling like I am talking to someone about all the good things that already happened

(the interview method could serve as a link between both scripting and visualising & it is a method I really like!)

🫧 inner & imaginary conversations

along the same lines, you can utilise inner conversations (basically positive self talk) or imagined ones (basically the interview method)

ngl, I love talking to myself & it is probably how I used to manifest a lot of things before I learnt of loa.

I also like using ai. basically I open a chatbot and have a conversation with it about my desire like I alr have it, rampage with it, or practice gratitude using it

🪷 use this if you wanna

use a fun way to manifest

we all love making scenarios in our head, so instead of having imaginary arguments in the shower, make these scenarios/conversations favourable to your new story

work on/correct ur mental diet

your mental diet refers to the collection of natural thoughts that you think throughout the day.

the difference between a good & a bad mental diet is the difference between an optimist & a pessimist, a confident person & an insecure person

if you watch the inner conversations you have intently and correct it whenever it doesn't algin with what you want, you will start having better thoughts involuntarily, which will help you automatically & instantly manifest good things into your life

🫧 visualisation

basically daydreaming with intent, so you decide what you want to visualise (usually a short scene so you can loop it) + practice experiencing it from the first pov to generate the feeling / idea that you are truly experiencing it

I know some don't like visualising cos they can't do it, and I want y'all to know that visualisation is a practice. it takes time to be able to visualise vividly and feel like it real, so practice! you might not be able to do it at first but you will get better with time.

for me, my visualisations used to be much more hazy, unclear, and mostly audible but now I can see & feel with my five senses what I wanna visualise + before, I was only able to visualise in 3rd pov but the more I practiced 1st pov, the more naturally it started coming to me

there are several other visualisation techniques to apply, such as SATS, mind movies, and vision boards. I will talk more on them later.

🪷 use this if you wanna

understand what u desire much deeply

like scripting, this method helps generate feelings, which could help aid you in understanding what is it that you want to manifest & why, like what is the real end goal here?

live in the state of wish fulfilled

our minds can't tell the difference from between a real image and imagined one so vividly visualising helps in impressing the subconscious mind into believing that it already happened.

it also allows you to have fun in imagination, experience the good feelings that come with your desires with just the power of your mind, and thus helps you stop relying on the 3d for validation; thus you are now in the state of wish fulfilled!

🫧 SATS

this is a specific form of visualisation that Neville coined & you do it right before sleeping, aka the State Akin To Sleep or SATS

what is most important about it is to do it until you sleep, you live the scene as if it is real, and you loop it.

there's a variation of it called the lullaby method, which is about repeating a single affirmation until you sleep. this can be helpful to those who prefer affirming over visualising (but like I said u can always get better at visualising!)

🪷 use this if you wanna

manifest insanely quickly, for emergencies, time crunches, etc.

this method is basically a shortcut to your sub mind. so when I say it works insanely fast I mean it, like you will see results the very next day.

I like to use specific scenarios / manifestation that I want to happen super quickly

be efficient

this method is quite efficient due to the short time it takes to do (just a few minutes before you sleep) compared to the results you get.

ease the resistance

you might find that you have specific topics or concepts (such as revision) that you feel are "harder to manifest." SATS can be a great technique to use in that case since it impresses the subconscious much more easily, allowing you to feel less resistant / dysregulated.

🫧 mind movies / vision boards

a vision board is a collection of pictures which includes the experiences / things you wanna manifest. I have a whole post on how to create much more effective vision boards that you can check out!

a mind movie is similar to that but, instead of a board, it is a video of these pictures with narration, affirmations, or music accompanying it.

🪷 use this if you wanna

have preestablished visualisations created for you

instead of starting to visualise from scratch you can use those techniques as inspo + you can (esp. w the mind movie) just watch / look passively consuming the pictures, without having to actively imagine anything

incorporate visual subliminals

the post I mentioned above talks about visual subs in vision boards but basically you can add affirmations in low opacity, small font, or ones that quickly disappear, which you won't consciously see but your subconscious mind will register them.

provides the added benefit of incoproprating subs.

🫧 list method

you create a list of all your desires and then you affirm for the entire list using affirmations such as "my list manifested," "I have everything on my list," etc.

🪷 use this if you wanna

affirm but got numerous desires

instead of affirming for each of the million desires you got, affirm for your list. it will help remove some of the anxiety with feeling like you are not affirming enough for a topic or the dreadful choice paralysis of what you need to affirm for next.

script in a bullet point format

the list method is similar to a very simplified script, but you seperate the desires using bullets.

🫧 nervous system regulation (nsr)

this is not one technique, rather, it encompasses a lot of healing practices such as journaling, eft tapping, meditation, exercise, breath work, etc.

🪷 use this if you wanna

stabilise & ground yourself so you can feel happier and more peaceful

these techniques help you feel in alignment and be in the state of wish fulfilled

it can also help when you are experiencing upleasant feelings or unhelpful old stories

become more grateful for what you have

when your mind is cluttered and you trying to manifest desperately, it could cloud you judgement from seeing how beautiful your life is rn. NSR aims to remove that clutter and allows you to see reality for what it truly is: ever changing and honestly really not as bad as you make it out to be

as long as you are doing fine in this present moment, you're good (would recommend reading the Power of Now for more)

better understand your thinking patterns and any unconscious core beliefs

sometimes we wanna work on building a better self concept, becoming better people, understanding ourselves, or being much happier but we just don't know what exactly is holding us back,

NSR can help you with that, as you allow your mind to speak for itself or allow yourself to relax into your body you can better understand yourself and what you need to change.

🫧 void state / self hypnosis

they mean similar things as far as I am aware, which is the meditative state where your body is asleep but your mind is awake and receptive to whatever affrimations it receives

🪷 use this if you wanna

relax

it could serve as a great nsr technique, I personally used self hypnosis a lot before learning of loa because I found it hard to relax and short meditations weren't effective.

now I am able to relax so easily that I can do short meditations + a lot of health problems born out of chronic stress have disappeared

become highly suggestible

like I said your mind is awake but has slowed into a relaxed state, allowing it to accept any affirmations or assumptions it hears without judgement, it won't deny whatever you are saying to it & will accept it as truth causing you to shift/manifest instantly

🫧 revision

revision is technique used to 'revise the past,' which is not only about changing how you look at your past, but what actually happened too. there are numerous stories of people revising death and other unfavourable situations so it is quite powerful. I don't personally use it a lot (beyond affirming once for what I wanna revise) because I prefer focusing on the present (& the future)

🪷 use this if you wanna

change the past

pretty self explanatory, just affirm, visualise, and meditate on the revised story until it shows up

change your (limiting) beliefs & state

like I said, part of revising is changing your idea about what happened, this happens through changing your beliefs to know that time is a construct and that changing anything, at any point of time, is possible + shifting your state (feelings + thoughts) about what happened

self regulate

since you're shifting your state around something unfavourable, you're practicing regulating your mind + body & actually shifting to a more relaxing and fulfilling timeline

affirm in past tense

honestly affriming in past instead of present tense feels really powerful sometimes so even if you don't wanna revise anything, just affirming in past tense can make the affirmation sound more natural, like it has always been that way

🫧 acting as if

acting as if is basically thinking, feeling, and behaving like the person who has all of your desires aka your highest self. this is one of the most basic ways to building SC and it is a fun way of roleplay that will help you become the best version of you automatically. one thing I like about this technique is that it helps in detaching from the 3d and understanding that it is not the world that has to change for you to be happy, but rather you (your internal state has to change)

🪷 use this if you wanna

stop self-sabotaging

when you start acting like the desired version of you, you will come face to face with all the ways you're NOT yet being that version of you, which is the first step to stop being sabotaging your own success. through journaling and other techniques, these unfavourable habit of thinking, feeling, and behaving will be dropped

prepare yourself to be the person who can and will live this life

in relation to self sabotage, sometimes we subconsciously don't feel ready for all of the success and happiness we want. we don't believe we're worthy of it. as a result, we don't allow it to happen. but if you already lived as that version of you who you believe would have achieved it you will build a very solid self concept that such doubts and fears won't hold any truth any more.

detach

like I said, when you live as if this is your dream life, you realise that your dream life is not the keeper of your happiness, but rather it is you. you decide if you want to be happy, you decide if a circumstance has any meaning, whether positive or negative.

get better at visualising

in my experience, acting as if allows me to better visualise since I am seeing the world from the eyes of the highest version of me. it feels like my daydreams automatically align to what I wanna visualise and I can visualise at any given time of day, with my eyes open even

this all for the techniques, hope you enjoyed this post. I got an epiphany for it last night at like 2 am and started writing lol

on a last note, I'd like you to know all of these methods are connected and can overlap so make sure you are nourishing each area of manifesting (sc, alignment to desires, nsr, etc.) to live a fulfilling life while also getting what you want!

🫧​ see u soon, loves 🫧

[growingstories]

Vito

Vito, once a semi-successful soccer player, found himself comfortable settling down after his retirement at the age of 26. He got married, had children, and indulged in the pleasures of life. This newfound lifestyle resulted in him gaining a significant amount of weight, but Vito didn’t really care, his strict diet days as an athlete were a thing kf the past now.

After struggling to find purpose in post-retirement life, Vito managed to secure a job as an assistant coach at a big football club. Still basking in his past glory, he found himself attending numerous dinner parties and social gatherings, further contributing to his weight gain. Despite this, the club achieved success under his coaching. Vito's talent did not go unnoticed, and he eventually landed a position as the head coach of an English soccer club. Excitement and anticipation filled his heart as he embarked on this new journey, although it meant being far away from home. The first few months proved challenging as he resided in a hotel, relying heavily on room service and dining out every night. The restaurant owners and staff would celebrate his presence like a king, showering him with bottles of champagne and free food. Vito's weight continued to spiral out of control with each passing week. Amidst a tough season, where the club experienced both wins and losses, Vito resorted to snacking on packs of gummies during training sessions and indulging in big lunches with the club's CEO or players. They would even pass on their leftovers and desserts, further fueling his unhealthy habits.

As the press and media took notice of his expanding waistline, Vito reveled in the attention. The club managed to secure a third-place finish that season, but Vito's weight gain became a topic of concern. “Can he be a good example to the team at this weight?” The media questioned. Taking a well-deserved vacation, Vito's frustrations led him to overeat during his month-long all-inclusive stay in Dubai. Constant lounging at the pool and dining at extravagant restaurants only added more weight to his already hefty physique.

Upon returning to the club, Vito faced numerous remarks about his weight gain. Despite the criticisms, he remained focused on his work and became stricter with the players. No parties were allowed, and he would push them hard during training camps. However, unbeknownst to Vito, the players started using his weakness for food to their advantage. They would discreetly pass on their leftovers to keep him busy, providing them with some relief and relaxation. As the season progressed, Vito's weight continued to escalate. But he remained indifferent, solely focused on the success of his team. Parties became a regular occurrence, and hangover breakfasts started being a part of his daily routine. Snacking, lavish lunches, and dinners dominated his every waking moment.

When the moment of truth arrived, Vito's team emerged as victors in his second year as head coach. The ecstatic celebrations and constant partying only added to his ever-increasing size. But in the face of victory, he couldn't care less about his physical appearance. Vito had become massive, but his unwavering dedication to his team defined him more than his physicality ever could. Despite the consequences on his body, he had achieved success, which meant the world to him. And as he continued his coaching journey, he learned that true fulfillment came from within, not from societal expectations of appearance.

[kevinsdsy]

Do you think Jean might be the person Kevin cares about the most? Like. I know this freak is super smart but he learnt to speak French fluently in like 3 years. In secret! When he only cared about history and exy.

honestly, i genuinely think he does. but also when you take a look at the people kevin cares about i just think kevin cares about jean in such an unique and deep way that's different from the way he might care about others.

he gives dobson full permission to discuss the things that have come up during his sessions if it helps jean. kevin has seen jean at his worst at the ravens nest, but i think jean has seen a great deal of abuse towards kevin too. kevin's might not be as bad as jean, but he was still a pet to them.

they will always have that shared trauma and i think kevin will always carry the heavy burden of leaving the nest before jean did. i think if needed kevin will always go out of his way to be there for jean if jean will just ask for it (f.e: coach rhemann asks kevin to help jean with his first press conference ? media appearance ? and kevin is ready to jump on a plane and be there next to jean or jeremy calls him late at night and asks him if riko broke his hand and even though only a dozen people know and he does not want to talk about it, because the situation is 'resolved' he trusts jeremy with this truth).

a few other examples of people he cares about: andrew, neil, coach wymack. i think he will always care for andrew, not just for the potential he sees in him, but for the fact andrew was his partner outside the nest. i think it's andrew who has been there for him when he needed to adjust to a normal(ish) life routine. i think he cares for neil for his potential, but also for all neil has given him in return, even though they all had to face hell for it. i think he cares for coach wymack because that's his father, but even when david wymack had no idea kevin knew he was a person he could run to and never even doubted it.

in general i think kevin day cares so deeply for the people around him and although he's not a soft person, his actions and feelings are.

[cementcornfield]

https://www.tumblr.com/cementcornfield/754280825602932736

Hi new to this fandom and was told this is the Joe’marr blog . I’d love to know your favorite moment between these two and how would you describe this dynamic cause it seems like Ja’Marr don’t play

Hi anon, welcome to the fandom and to joe'marr in general! and lol yes i do definitely post about them a lot!

ja'marr does NOT play, i agree! neither of them do about each other i'd say <3. i've described my perception of their dynamic a few times in asks (and! important to remember it's just my perception because we don't actually know any of these men personally) but here goes way too many words about it below the cut 🫡

differences and similarities

to me, they're two good friends who are seemingly very different, but complement each other well, and are actually very similar on the inside! ja'marr is outwardly more extroverted, warmer and friendlier, while joe isn't cold, necessarily, but he seems to take longer to warm up to people in general; he's never friendly just to be friendly ("he'll walk right by you and not smile" per ja'marr), and, despite recent appearances lol, is more of an introvert. (although honestly, ja'marr recently has said he's starting to prefer staying in playing video games and joe has been more out and about! so it seems like they may be rubbing off on each other!) but at their core they're both stubborn, strong, brave and have an edge to them that i think they've recognized in each other since day 1 (all those fights at LSU practices! a love of taunting!)

taking care of each other

they care about each other a tremendous amount and it seems like they are always trying to take care of each other in their own ways. ja'marr with his (maybe???) buying joe clothes and taking him out and wanting him to live his life (he must be thrilled about France Joe), and always defending him in the press (and on twitter lmao). joe always getting in extra throwing sessions with ja'marr (including and most importantly ja'marr's rookie year when he was struggling and they'd stay after practice getting extra work in), always talking up ja'marr's talent and intelligence and work ethic in the press, and he basically guaranteed him a spot on the team during the 2021 draft.

mind reading - good

they've known each other for 6 (SIX!!) years now and according to both of them they "don't need words" to understand each other at this point. which is maybe my FAVORITE thing to analyze about them lmao. because that's definitely obvious on the field. i don't think i really understood how special their on-the-field connection is (despite announcers and coaches and analysts talking about it constantly!) until i finally started understanding how the game actually works (lol i didn't watch football until 2 years ago and started understanding it even later). like, ja'marr's ability to know when to break out of his route, when to improvise when joe needs him to, and joe's ability to know exactly where ja'marr's going to be??? and all of this is happening in SECONDS while people are actively trying to bring them down through any means possible?? that's such an impossible feat and it's one they pull off all the time! and this translates to off the field for them too. one of my favorite clips ever is ja'marr describing how he can tell how joe's feeling just by how he walks in the building, and that joe can do the same for him. "i know him like the back of my hand, he knows me like the back of his" like??? ok boys! that's some soulmate shit actually!

mind reading - bad

BUT on that note, i do think that, ironically, this ability to "read each others' minds" sometimes could lead to miscommunication for them! or at least it could lead to them NOT saying things that maybe they should say out loud. i don't have a lot of concrete examples here (obviously because if they're not saying things to each other they aren't saying them to the press) but there's an interview where ja'marr's talking about his hip injury. and how he "never talked to joe about it" but he "knew in his mind that he'd come back when joe needed him" which ???? what are you talking about ja'marr?? the double mind reading there of a. expecting joe to know that he'll come back when he needs him but also b. expecting himself to know when joe would need him! like! that seems really complicated, you could just, talk to each other? maybe?

ja’marr also said that joe didn’t believe him when he told him that his presence was enough at practice, that joe thought he was joking (i guess it’s not commonplace for ja’marr to come right out and say how important joe is to him and the team! so joe probably wouldn't know what to make of that rare moment of sincerity!)

and i think they aren't talking to each other about contracts (which, fair enough, that's business), but people sure were asking ja'marr about joe's contract anyway (and they're starting to do the same for joe about ja'marr!) and we all remember a lot of ja'marr's comments that came around to bite him lol. and, i have NO proof for this one besides my projections/feelings, but i wonder if joe's worried at all about ja'marr's contract this year. if he's worried that if he doesn't perform, ja'marr won't want to stay. now, ja'marr tells the press (and twitter. and his twitch chat. and his dad.) that he wants to stay with joe, but does joe believe that? has ja'marr ever come out and actually said that to him? or is he expecting joe to just know that?

(oh man i wrote a lot in that section, and i have so little actual evidence, but it's something i love thinking about! i don't want them being too cutesy or perfect tbh. they're flawed! they're men raised in stoic sports culture and honestly i am so sure they suck at communicating. i'm sure they've had misunderstandings. i'm sure they've argued. and that's so important!)

balance

i think another thing i love about their dynamic is that ja'marr is such a good check for joe. if you haven't noticed, joe kind of runs the organization lmao. from day 1 he's been involved in the play calling, drafting, overall culture and philosophy. and that's his right! he is good at all of that! he's The Franchise (worshipped throughout the team, the city, half of the state!) and, in the beginning, i think ja'marr felt that way about joe too. joe led him to a perfect season and a national championship in college and then a super bowl his first year in the league! he himself said, right before the super bowl in 21, "he's like a god to me" which is...just a WILD thing to say about your friend :') like??? the devotion? the loyalty?? okay ja'marr!!

but, then they lose, and ja'marr "coaxes joe out of bed" to go celebrate anyway. he gets to be the one to see joe at his absolute lowest and he's the one to build him back up. and i think that really affected their dynamic from then on, to the point that ja'marr became the only guy to think of joe as an actual human being in the organization. i don't think (until very very recently with zac) that a single person other than ja'marr ever said no to joe (the way joe stayed in that titans game last year despite being hurt, at risk, and losing by so much cemented that for me!) ja'marr was the ONLY ONE to say that joe should sit out as long as he needed to for the calf. the only one not celebrating (in fact, he seemed PISSED) when joe was running around during preseason games despite not being fully healed 😭 the only one saying "come on joe let's go out" instead of just coming to him (and it seems that's finally worked lol) and joe NEEDS that. he needs that desperately! someone who will support him but call him on his shit, someone who sees him as more than just his abilities and wants what's actually best for him!

teasing <3

finally (oh my god this is SO LONG) i really enjoy how playful they are with each other. joe tends to be very Stoic and Serious (not all the time, but it's a tendency) and i think ja'marr is good at bringing him out of that. he's talked about how back at LSU he would joke around with joe and it took him a long time to finally figure out how to make him smile and laugh. and i think that's a skill he's perfected over the years! every mic'ed up between the two of them, we get to hear them tease and mess with each other. "you see that big blue thing over there??" "you couldn't overthrow me and get me in stride?" "my guy you were wide open!" (ja'marr's hands on joe's hips the entire time) "you're looking pretty slow" "be serious" and "he said you underthrew him" "yeah right" and "i ain't gonna lie, you look slow as hell" and "i'll start taking it off for you ja'marr" and "joe swears he's sneaky fast" and "hey man you're so cool!" and on and on and on! i HATE that we've never had a long form interview/podcast with BOTH of them on it because my god i want to know what an actual conversation is like between them. but i think it must be a lot of that. a lot of fond jokes, compliments hidden in teasing; we see them laughing together so often <3 and of course we CAN'T forget the UFC moves they practice on each other :) "we mess around every now and then".

the end

okay i'm stopping myself because oh my god this is so much. anon i'm sorry, you absolutely aren't going to read all of this. but it's been two years and i STILL apparently have so much to say about these two. it's ridiculous. i'm ridiculous. (but so are they!!)

[rikeijo]

Today's translation #666

Kikan Esu, Summer 2017

The on-ice bond between Yurio, Yuuri and Victor

A fellow student of Victor and gold medalist of the Grand Prix series, Yuri Plisetsky (Yurio). He has a strong attachment to Yuuri, and so, he is very aware of not only Victor, the top skater's existence, but also of Yuuri's. Even though he fails his jumps, his steps charm the audience, and so Yurio is very interested in Yuuri's potential. Yurio has been receiving orthodox ballet training in addition to his practice sessions, and in the Grand Prix Final, in short program, he broke Victor's world record and placed 1st. Also for Victor, it was a stimulus. Victor informs Yurio, who's coach is by his side, that he's going to continue his competitive career and then he hugs Yurio. Yurio instinctively senses that 'perhaps Yuuri is planning to retire?', and he skates the following free program, feeling irritation towards Yuuri. Yuuri's free program broke Victor's world record. Yurio continues to skate his program, motivated to win, no matter what. He fails his quad toe loop, but after that, he shows the audience a series of brilliant spirals, steps and jumps. It seems that his skating is a message to Yuuri - 'if you retire, you'll regret that your whole life'. On the other side, Yuuri is watching Yurio's skating, with an expression on his face that suggests he's been provoked. Yurio's skating has a power that can move people, power that can bring back on ice even Yuuri, who has already decided he's going to retire. Skating depicted in this show, Yurio's performance being a prime example of this, is connected to Yuuri's monologue in the last scene of the show - 'There are places that you cannot reach, if you don't have a dream that is too big for you to carry alone. We call it love. Everything that happens on the ice.' Yuuri's skating revived Victor, and Yurio's skating revived both Victor and Yuuri. It's not only about your personal success. The deep emotions are born, because they skate together and fight together. The love that keeps alive those, who stand on the podium, touches the hearts of people, who watch the show.

[Notes: It's an editor's comment to Sayo's interview, but it's quite interesting, imo - how much influence on how the story ended Yurio had.]

[deliciouskeys]

Butchlander are answering the Valentine’s 25 asks

* first date: describe your ideal first date.

BB: We meet at a racetrack, I stare at him across the way and drink a beverage with his face on it.

HL: … What? Oh, that. That wasn’t a date.

BB: it was to me.

HL: I prefer visiting his house and having a bitch session.

* first kiss: what’s the best way to be kissed?

BB: fast, hard and spontaneous

HL: what he said.

* preference: sexuality? what’s your ‘type’?

BB: I like cunts.

HL: I like people who have no fear. So, brave or stupid.

* blush: what could someone do this valentine’s to make you feel special?

BB: Give me head.

HL: Tell me I’m enough.

BB: That’s sad, mate.

HL: Does that mean you’re going to say it to me? *dares to hope*

BB: Nah.

* hand holding: do you like pda?

BB: fuck no

HL: fuck YES

* family: how important is your family’s approval of your s.o.?

BB: The Boys are my family and I don’t want to scare little Hughie. Plus I’d be setting a bad example. I’m not telling them.

HL: All my parental figures are gone. Except one. But he’s not going to approve of anyone, so idc.

* doves: what’s the most romantic thing someone’s done for you?

HL: Enthusiastically agreed to scorch the earth with me 🥰

BB: He keeps making all these over the top gestures, but honestly when he made me tea even though he doesn’t drink it.

* love hearts: where were you when you met your crush?

BB: A Vought Christmas party 💀

HL: I said I love that accent but I hated it

BB: do you still?

HL: occasionally. When I can’t make out what you’re saying.

BB: he speaks “perfect American”, of course.

HL: I do! They coached me to enunciate.

* candy: favourite thing to eat on a date?

HL: I have recently discovered the existence of dulce de leche

BB: anything with chopsticks because I love watching his xenophobic ass struggle

* 100th date: would you prefer to stay in or go out this valentine’s?

HL: Stay in, the restaurants are crowded and paps are looking for photo opps.

BB: Nothing to add to that.

* roses: do you like picnic dates?

HL: Have we had one? I thought you British people loved picnics.

BB: He knows so much about the UK 🙄

* giggle: what’s more important in an s.o.: intelligence or humour?

BB: Humor for me, obviously, because this guy dresses like a clown.

HL: Certainly not intelligence, as you can see from this guy’s jokes.

* lace: who looks best in your favourite colour?

BB: My favorite color is black and I don’t think he’s ever worn black in his life, so me.

HL: My favorite color is blue, and I doubt he’s ever worn navy blue in his life. So me.

* cupid: have you ever been set up? have you ever set anyone else up? how did it go?

HL: Yes, they made me date Maeve for the points. It was awesome.

BB: Nope.

* lovebirds: at what point in a relationship would you make it ‘public’?

HL and BB (in unison): Immediately / Never

HL: What was that?

BB: You heard me.

HL: Well it takes two to keep a secret, but only one person to go public.

* love knots: would you like to forget the person you shared your first kiss with?

BB: Some girl in elementary school. I don’t want to forget, but I don’t remember her name. Jenny?

HL: They made me practice with Vought employees around the time I turned 18. Yes, I’d like to forget.

BB: Uh, wow, me too. Forget what you just said, that is.

* promise ring: who do you see yourself being with in two years?

HL: I’ll either be with him, or he’ll be dead

BB: Care to elaborate?

HL: I’m just saying the most likely outcomes, nothing ominous.

* ballad: best love song?

BB: Wannabe

HL: The one that goes “not gonna write you a love song cause you asked…”

BB: You mean from that Bareilles bird?

HL: Probably. What. Why’re you laughing. Yours is a spice girl song.

BB: Cause you’re actually serious.

* aphrodite: how important are looks?

HL: Important.

BB: Important I guess. 😒

* angel: do you like ‘bad boys’ or sweethearts more?

BB: America’s sweetheart, bad boy behind closed doors and between the sheets.

HL: I am not a bad boy in any setting or capacity. But I’m apparently drawn to date them.

* harp: have you ever written a poem for a crush?

BB: *laughs shaking his head in disbelief at the question*

HL: Why would I? Pearls before swine.

* red: where will you be spending february 14th?

HL: Probably doing superhero duties, rescuing suicidal incels and the like.

BB: Watching him doing his bullshit work on the news.

* love notes: who was your last valentine? where are they now?

HL: My last valentine before him was an invalid. She… ended up dying.

BB: My last one was in 2011. *grim*

* flowers: what’s the best romantic gift to give someone?

BB: Sometimes a good old punch in the teeth. Or a spanking to set them straight.

HL: I gave him a dose of Compound V to use and he tried to return it to Vought for retail value cash.

* st. valentine: what are your hopes for love this year?

BB: For him to stop being a cunt.

HL: To have the person I’m dating still be alive at the end of the year.

[quincyhorst]

FFI Euro B Coaches - Gretchen Löw (Brockenborg 🐉)

Gretchen descends of Johann Löw, a famous trainer that brought many Euro Frontier cups to Germany. Or at least, with the adult team. Junior high football isn't his specialty... Nor his interest. Although she was forced to be around his training sessions since childhood, Gretchen preferred to work as a caregiver once she grew up. Mostly oriented around those with special needs.

That seemed to be her life, till the sudden menace of Alius Academy and the kidnapping of an important japanese political figure shook the entire world. With soccer being turned into a weapon, the countries closest to Japan (Australia and Korea) entered in panic and were forced to improve their local junior high soccer skills faster than ever. (Or you thought that Jean Baker stopping most S2 hissatsus was because of plot convenience?).

Even if Europe was in a better place, the fear of the "weak" Japan (and Asia) falling to these "aliens" penetrated deep into some guvernamental powers. As such, many countries started their own soccer-improvement methods as a "just in case" type plan. In Germany this manifested with Operation Sicherung, a secret plot that meant special training for the most qualified junior high players of the country... And with that, it meant "protecting them" in a specialized base located within the Brocken mountains. Being forced to cooperate, Johann's struggle with the german youth was so bad he had decided to call his daughter in secret to help him over. Despite her own worries and the implications of the project, Gretchen decided to accept.

Originally, her intention was to be a "bridge" between her father's soccer knowledge and the children choosen for O.S, but soon enough she proved herself to be a better Junior High coach than him. The secret behind her success was mainly on her past as a teacher, fitting well with her caring and nurting personality, knowing perfectly the weakness of each child and finding a way to use it for the better. But she also had a strict side, being able to see things with logic and creating sucessful strategies in base on harsh yet understandable choices. This meant keeping emotions and logic separate, making her look colder than what it actually seemed. Truth is, her heart breaks easily when she sees her players upset.

Operation Sicherung lasted for only a while, as it got suspended once the Aliea menace was over. Nonetheless, the mark that Gretchen left both in the program's operators and in the kids she trained had been so great, that when the Euro League was announced the German Soccer Asocciation did not even hestiate on making her Brockenborg's coach instead. She was surprised by the sudden change of tides in life, but by that point there was no turning back.

I think that out of the EuroB coaches, she has the best relationship with her players. Her participation in O.S gave her prior time to study what she could about each BB member and what they could struggle with during both tournaments. But not only about soccer skills; but also about their own personal struggles. This is why she often employs special training methods for some, or her atitude is different with others.

Best example I can give is with the german captain himself. Upon finding out Jonas' being originally from Poland, Gretchen decided to start using her (so and so) polish language skills as to communicate better with him. Of course, german is still used between the two, but Polish is a perfect secret code within captain and coach (Or as a way for Jonas to vent anything to her). I like the idea that Pollack himself is quite happy with Gretchen's efforts to communicate, so in return he tries to help her understand the polish language better (better than having to rely on tiny dictionaries), or talk about his homeland's culture. 🥺

It is to say that at the end of the day, Gretchen was still a soccer rookie that kept learning as both the league and FFI went on. And despite all the effort she put in, unfortunately it wasn't enough for Brockenborg to pass the group stage. Nonetheless for a first-time coach, her road as a coach is still very appreciated by the german populace, and so her future endeavors. Who says she can't keep coaching after the FFI!? Besides junior high boy teams, she could also try luck for the upcoming female-only competitions, too 👀

[crystaldust]

Hey how are you ??? Your blog is very motivating. Loved it . Specially Lester work is amazing . Thanks alot.

I wanted to ask what does that mean " ego creates and maintains subconscious"??

Hi! thanks for the appreciation!

Tbh i'm not quite sure of that part yet either anon... what I can grasp so far is that as an ego, we have "negative" or limiting thoughts or assumptions born out of certain experiences we have during our lifetime, and also "negative" strong emotions that we don't fully proccess and end up supressing and therefore holding on to. Both these thoughts and emotions are accepted as truth and integrated into our identity (as an ego) but this isn't done in a conscious way, and this type of energy (that we usually don't consciously know is there) is what makes up the subconscious. It's an integral part of what defines the ego, but it's "negative" or traumatic things that the ego doesn't want to deal with, so it's stored deep inside.

I can give an example from my own life, in my case it turns out I cultivated a feeling of not being good enough, and it probably started in my childhood, due to my dad leaving my mom when i was very little (he's always been very present, loving and supportive as a father tho) and this feeling got reflected in literally every single area, topic, fear and desire in my life. And I kinda knew it was there a little bit, but it was only after a coaching session I did last year that the coach told me that was probably my issue and it's only been very recently, way over a year past that, that I really accepted and realized it myself. It was a subconscious belief that had been shaping my entire life and that I wasn't aware of, yet I was acting, thinking and feeling from that belief all the time.

This is my understanding of it so far!

Hope this helps 🌻

[carmenthabaddie]

Intentional with my time 💖💖💖

Today I wore a yellow long dress with flowers. I bought it few years ago from Rainbows. I love that store as a plus size woman. It can be hit and miss but you can’t beat affordable prices.

2024 I am being intentional with my time. The truth is time waits for no one. I learned this hard way in my 20s. I wish I knew what I know at 31. But that’s behind me. I must make peace with dropping the ball during my 20s. I had no real feminine hypergamy examples around me.

I actually started my level up glow up femininity hypergamy journey at 25. But was still naïve, immature, and didn’t know what I know. I wasn’t serious at 25 late 20s like I’m serious at 31 early 30s. It’s like I’m playing catch up. But it’s better to play catch up than to never start this level up glow up journey.

I also didn’t have this spiritual ability. I am so thankful I have strong spiritual ability where spirit and beautiful black communicate through me. It’s on my list to get medium reading to see which spirits and black ancestors channel through me. So glad I took out birth control and spiritual ability developed.

It’s my time to shine. My January gym sessions scheduled in my digital planner. And this pre booking beauty appointments. And my grandma is in New York while she is gone my step dad spoils me with takeout and I’m not giving it up. So I will look at restaurants menu and calories and pick in the middle food choices and enjoy my step dad spoiling me at my favorite restaurants and me not pay. Because that’s what men are for. He like my only example of a man financially providing for house and being a leader and provider.

I’m blessed to have him as good example and father figure. And giving me the option to be a stay at home daughter and working being option not requirement and my money being mine and no major bills where I can save money and follow my dreams and have hobbies. I am shopping addict. First step is acknowledging your bad habit and creating a plan and correcting bad habit and replacing it with good habit. And being realistic and not cold turkey. It’s small but I saved $100 on Cashapp savings. And refuse to touch it like I normally do.

Hard pill to swallow I learned bad money habits from my caretaker parent my adopted mom my grandma she goes through money and nothing to show for and pass on to love ones. Thankfully she has life insurance. She been on medicaid , ebt and public housing and have a lack poverty  mindset and it’s all I saw.

So at im acknowledging my bad money management skills habits. Save today and wait for tomorrows pleasure. I felt so good saving $100 and what it can grow. I created a budget in note section of iPhone. And I pay my bills with gratitude 🙏. I’m thankful I have money period and more money is coming. Spirit and black ancestors sending me a financial blessing cause I bless black women in need and I currently don’t have much.

But at end of day you can’t tell me I’m not abundant. I know I’m abundant and I’m a money magnet and money grows on trees for me. I have a good relationship with money now. I can’t wait for my sp David match my importance of financial security for us and our 3 future kids. Pass on good money management with my future 3 kids.

I need spend less on mindlessly spending. And pay my two credit cards off and Affirm bill and student loans. I’m thankful my debt is small than others. Spend less on subscriptions and groceries and makeup and wigs.

I’m use the clothes I have now till I’m doing better financially and same for wigs, shoes, makeup, and skincare. Let step dad help me afford beauty treatments to keep my appearance up.

Yesterday I had like consultation coaching session with Destiny the confident hoe. And told her all my movement and how I’m off social media and intentionally using social media for good, fame and money. I can log out and it not control me. Seeing therapist tomorrow. And law of assumption coach I believe on Sunday. I have invested time and money on my level up and glow up and it’s worth it and making shit manifest faster.

So many making ideas and affirming for money so I can invest in businesses and side hustles and free money. 2024 I’m focused, putting action, faith in myself, spirit and beautiful black ancestors. Step dad treating me to Asian Habachi. Today I posted content and need edit productivity vlog for YouTube. Thank you for those who read and share my blog post. Affirming for hella followers. Until next time be well.

[wisepicklemuffingoth]

"Empowering the future of fitness through STEM innovation – where science, technology, engineering, and mathematics converge to create a healthier, more connected world."

“As Humms/Stem/Abm student, how can you uphold physical fitness in influencing the future?”

As a STEM student, I can use my knowledge of science and technology to improve the future of physical fitness. I can come up with creative solutions to make workouts more efficient and effective. This could mean designing cool wearables that track how you're doing during exercise or creating virtual reality workouts that make sweating it out feel like an exciting adventure.

I'm all about making exercise equipment friendlier and more effective too, because just like everyone, I also tend to workout and I want to make it enjoyable. Like for example – smart machines that adjust themselves based on your fitness level, so you don't have to fuss with settings. And also, I'm thinking about making apps that give you personalized workout plans and instant feedback to make your training sessions top-notch, that would make everyone's life easier.

With my STEM skills, I want to change how people see fitness, making it not just effective but also easy and enjoyable. Imagine using your phone as your fitness coach, guiding you through exercises and cheering you on. The future of fitness? I think it's going to be amazing, thanks to the awesome tech and ideas from STEM.

[drjameslongjr]

Biblical Wisdom for Handling Anger: Embracing the BULLETS Approach

Biblical Wisdom for Handling Anger: Embracing the BULLETS Approach

Dealing with anger is not easy.

Dealing with anger is an everyday challenge, and for Christians, it presents a unique opportunity to demonstrate Christ's teachings of love, patience, and humility. While conflict is inevitable, our response to it can either escalate or diffuse the situation. In this blog, Biblical Wisdom for Handling Anger, we explore the BULLETS acronym, combining practical advice with biblical wisdom, to navigate such encounters as peacemakers.

Embracing the BULLETS Approach

Be Seated When encountering anger, our first step is to seek a moment of calm. Psalm 37:8 advises us to refrain from anger and forsake wrath. By inviting the other person to sit, we create a space for peaceful dialogue. This act is not just about physical posture but an internal readiness to engage respectfully, reflecting Christ’s composure in times of conflict. Use the Person's Name In addressing someone by name, we follow Christ's example of personal engagement, as seen in His interactions with Peter (John 21:15-17). This approach shows respect and attentiveness, essential in affirming the individual's worth, irrespective of their behavior. Lower Your Voice "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger" (Proverbs 15:1). Our tone can either soothe or aggravate a situation. By consciously lowering our voice, we extend an olive branch, inviting a shift from hostility to dialogue. Listen Active listening is a cornerstone of effective communication. As James 1:19 advises, we should be "quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger." This means genuinely striving to understand the root of the other person's anger and acknowledging their feelings, creating an environment conducive to healing. Eliminate Humor Humor, especially in tense situations, can be misinterpreted as insensitivity. Ephesians 4:29 reminds us to use words that build up and fit the occasion. Our goal is to show empathy and seriousness, ensuring the other person feels heard and respected. Talk, Don't Argue James 3:17 celebrates the wisdom that is peaceable and open to reason. In conflicts, our aim is not to win an argument but to seek mutual understanding and resolution. We should communicate our perspectives respectfully, fostering an atmosphere conducive to problem-solving. Slow Down Patience is a virtue that allows for thoughtful and effective communication. Slowing down our speech rate is a practical way of modeling calmness, encouraging both parties to engage in a rational and respectful manner. So, How Will You Apply Biblical Wisdom for Handling Anger? Our role as Christians extends beyond personal salvation to being ambassadors of Christ's love and peace, especially in handling conflicts. By applying the BULLETS approach, we can navigate through anger and conflict with grace and wisdom. May we always strive to be peacemakers, embodying Christ's teachings in every interaction. Let us commit to using communication as a tool for healing and reconciliation, bringing about God's kingdom on Earth as it is in Heaven.

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[yo-tori]

Fulfill Your Dreams With Conversational Hypnosis Mastery

Proving himself really well-known amongst several Fortune 500 firms,Fulfill Your Dreams With Conversational Hypnosis Mastery Articles he continuously worked on improving his approaches. Nevertheless, he felt the should evolve a means of acquiring trainees to follow his directions in such a way that his own persuasiveness was scarcely observable. There is no way, right after all, that corporate click here to learn more executives will readily listen to people who wish to encourage them to adopt new patterns of thought or techniques of doing issues.

To hypnotize such resilient individuals was Igors primary aim. However, to be able to do so he necessary to operate at a subliminal level and in as cost and time successful way as possible. Igor, on account of his several years of study of hypnotic techniques, rapidly learned how to do so. He was soon able to assert his control over the scenario and to make certain that the executives listened to him and followed his suggestions as to how they could improve their workplace performance and adherence to corporate standards.

Igor was successful as a life coach inside the corporate world, so he decided to open a hypnotherapy clinic, where he dealt having a range of customers who suffered from a multitude of problems. This included relationships, bad personal habits for example smoking and overeating, also as much more intimate problems for example fears and phobias. His use of conversational hypnosis helped him significantly in his function with troubled people.

Igor then began training others in how to apply his covert hypnosis methods, which he did with increasing success, and for which he was able to charge a fantastic deal. However, all his students felt that they had been obtaining a good deal out of what he was able to teach them. It was then that he decided to package his private coaching sessions in conversational hypnosis into a property study course, which he first did in 2002. The version of the course that he is now releasing is both bigger and greater than his 1st venture into this field. For a lengthy time Igor has offered Master Classes for hypnotherapists, producing him one of the worlds leading specialists inside the arena of conversational hypnosis.

By accessing the specially devised program on conversational hypnosis mastery, you are able to learn how to control both your own way of thinking and behaving and that of others also. Should you be a new entrant at your firm, you may swiftly be able to soar to the heights of becoming top dog. The terms Wonder Boy and Master of All He Surveys will soon be assigned to you, what a thrilling prospect. See your self as the Puppet Master of all those around you, and guess wholl be pulling the strings. Why, none apart from you. No longer will you must win the approval of other people as they will come flocking to you.

[rikeijo]

Today's translation #365

Yuri!!! on Life official guidebook, Kozuka Takahiko's interview

Part 2.

-- In Yuri!!! on ICE, compositions of jumps have very high levels of difficulty, and a lot of skaters jump different types of quads multiple times.

At first, I was watching the anime thinking: "Is this even possible? I think not", but watching last Four Continents and Worlds, the world of Yuri!!! on ICE has become reality, it seems. I started to think that [what we see in the anime] may not be that impossible. For example, Nathan (Chen) seems to be from that [Yuri!!!] world, I think. When I was watching the anime, I was thinking that it shows not-so-near future and none of those things can actually happen anytime soon, but just two months after the anime ended, it did become reality. Although a few people tried something like that during practice sessions before, Nathan at Four Continents actually jumped 5 quads - lutz, flip, toe loop, toe loop, salchow. And other skaters also had multiple quads [in their programs]. Thinking about it, maybe Victor wanted to rest a little bit longer (laugh)? At 27, I have already retired. But he will go back to competitive skating eventually, I think?

-- At 27, Victor starts to coach, as well - have you ever thought about teaching somebody, when you were still competing?

I'm not sure I've ever thought that I'd want to "teach" somebody. But for a long time I have been saying stuff like: "It would look much better if this skater paid more attention to their toes" or "This person' skating when there is no elements perhaps needs some more work put into it". It's on my mind when I watch [other skaters'] performances - "What this skater should do to get more points?" - I'm not their coach, but I just think about that (laugh). Perhaps, Victor felt something similar, I wonder?

[Notes: 365 translations~~ 🎉🥳🥳🥳

The goal is 1000 (like one thousand origami cranes) ✨]

[bodyalive]

I’ve been doing NMR “sessions” with a client who has a fairly severe lifelong scoliosis.  She is also a Sikh and a lifelong practitioner of Kundalini Yoga. She has been to all the “big Name” therapists who do Egoscue and Pilates and yoga and advanced bodywork etc.  I initially told her that I really wasn’t sure I could do much to help her but if she was game we would explore the possibilities of NMR and how that approach might put a different light on her situation. 

I’ve done 4 or 5 sessions with her, each has been utterly different and each session has involved and in-depth conversation about life, philosophy, experience, hardship etc.  We are both intense and word-y people so the convos are very interesting to both of us.

After the first few sessions I noticed that her hips were much more consistently level and without torque. Thus the musculature of her legs was more congruent right to left.  

In our dialogue we talk about what we are doing. Sometimes I start with flexors/extensors, other times I’m following spiral patterns from hip to opposite shoulder to neck and back down.  I’m pointing out movement vectors to her. Most clients might have a difficult time following what I am telling her but she is with me and because of her movement and meditation background, we can go into the implications of those vectors. That is, the twist from the right QL inhibiting the left QL becomes the L. sacrum overpowering and twisting the right sacrum and on up or down the line. 

At the end of today’s session [we were pursuing a rotational pattern beginning at the sacrum and ending at the right mastoid process] our conversation became one of “What is this work showing us?” My impression is that we are following movement patterns, i.e. imagining her body as it moves and compensates for a life long scoliosis.  We are imagining or modeling the ways her structure has “solved” the challenges of torsional stress and then following the various fulcrums that that imaginative exercise has set in motion. It’s very much using a body-in-motion set of ideas rather than a static model. 

For example, part of our conversation was her childhood, young adulthood spent playing piano at an intense level. So as she talked about this, i had the image of psoas and the scalenes having a reciprocal relationship.  We could call this my “intuition.” We could also hypothesize that as she talked about playing piano, the physical patterns used to play piano in the past were now “up” on the screen of her “mindfield” and I might take a peek if I were able.  

As I was tracking the conversation, the muscle testing and the feedback she gave me re: where we were in the body, ideas and a mental image of lines and vectors [like ley lines in the body] would overlay her body for me. This is not an unusual thing to happen in a session.  I rely a great deal on intuitive “hunches” in my sessions and it is one of the things that makes the session fun.

A lot of my clients are more defended, closed, difficult to read, take a lot of work to “open” them so to speak, so working with a wide open client is a real joy.

I am continuing to think about the idea of working “as if” the body is in motion. This is kind of an Alexander Technique idea where you have hands on a person as they are walking sitting dancing etc. In this case the body/person isn’t physically moving [except for small coached movement and movement associated with the muscle testing] but the work is looking for patterns that were set in place by motion.  The Rolfing image of blocks stacked on top of each other seems a partial truth about structure.  Yes we are looking at the person in stillness, but the patterns were put in place and held in place by motion and the arrested motion.  Acknowledgment of this seems to be valuable and a key to restoring a fluidity and ease that at some point was lost. 

It has long fascinated me that so many of my clients really enjoy NMR and gain benefit from it because of the interactive quality.  We are in a sense, dancing together.  They are being consulted.  Most people enjoy talking about themselves, and have come to us for feedback and help in seeing something that they may have missed.  So, like psychotherapy, our insights and the communication of those insights through our work have a lot of value for our clients.

The client I’ve been describing has said she sees lasting difference in her body and feels less “locked in” to patterns.  She feels she has greater choice in movement.  I submit that much of the benefit of body work is this sense of freedom, of greater choice, of being less locked into the past.  

[blowflyfag]

WORLD WRESTLING FEDERATION MAGAZINE : AUGUST 1993

Transcript Below!!!

PERSONALITY PROFILE

ADAM BOMB

FROM: THREE MILE ISLAND BIRTHDAY: UNKNOWN WEIGHT: 292 LBS.

HEIGHT: 6’6”

FINISHING MOVE: THE MUSHROOM CLOUD

In the wake of the Three Mile Island nuclear reactor meltdown in 1980, residents of nearby Pennsylvania communities claimed that organic life grew to abnormal proportions. Laymen,

Scientists and nuclear physicists believed that the large amounts of plutonium released from Three Mile Island likely caused the dramatic growth in vegetation, trees, and even in animals. 

IN fact, some farmers in nearby communities reported to local and national newspapers that tomatoes grew to the size of small pumpkins and strawberries grew to the size of Granny Smith apples.

These same unusual growth patterns also occurred following the Chernobyl nuclear meltdown in the now-defunct Soviet Union later in the decade. 

One possible product of the Three Mile Island disaster is making his presence known in  the World Wrestling Federation. His name is Adam Bomb. Adam, who tops the scale at a rock-solid 292 pounds, grew up near Three Mile Island and was of normal height and stature as a kid. However, things changed big-time between 1981 and 1987. Adam experienced incredible increases in size and strength during his adolescent years without ever touching a weight or consuming a protein shake. He was brutally strong for his age. 

In addition, Adam also developed a volatile disposition, and as a hobby, he read about the production of firecrackers, dynamite, plastic explosives and thermonuclear weapons.

As an avenue for his increasing aggression, he was encouraged to play football and wrestle in high school. It didn’t pan out. He was given his walking papers in both sports for breaking bones of teammates during scrimmages and intersquad sparring sessions on the mat.

His high school wrestling coach, who requests to remain anonymous because he fears reprisals, says that Adam Bomb was and is a “walking nuclear reactor.”

“He is just like a nuclear reactor on the verge of meltdown, just like the Island,” the coach tells this magazine. “He has always burned with rage and intensity, and as he grew physically stronger and became more aggressive, he fed off of his own intensity until a certain point was reached within. At that stage, he usually went haywire, and everything he touched within a certain radius, he destroyed.”

Adam Bomb is doing just that in the Federation. Since exploding into the ranks in late May, Adam Bomb has Blown away his adversaries. In his wake, Adam is leaving many wrestlers devastated physically and mentally, and some, unfortunately, devastated on a permanent basis. Adam, who has been called the “product of the nuclear age,” says he will cause a “nuclear Armageddon” in the World Wrestling Federation. 

JOHNNY POLO, HIS MANAGER

Johnny Polo, Adam Bomb’s snob of a manager, is the kind of guy you always wished you could punch in the face but never had a chance to do so 

Polo, who was raised in the comfortable countryside near Palm beach, Florida–which is one of America’s most affluent communities–has had it all. Pampered as a child, his parents and their entourage of servants gave the brat anything he wanted. 

When he turned 11, for example, “Mommsy and daddums” bough Johnny a 60-acre piece of land not far from their home where the boy learned to play polo, a sport traditionally reserved for the financially elite. But Johnny gave the sport a bad name. He often cheated in matches and used his mallet to whack other players rather than smash the ball across the playing field. He was subsequently barred from every polo club and organization from Palm Beach to Beverly Hills, California. 

Johnny has now focused his talents on the area of sports management and promises he will take Adam Bomb to the top of the Federation.

“It’s only fitting,” remarks the brazzen brat. “Johnny Polo was at the top of the list in the polo game [probably the most hated among  fellow competitors], and now I’ll take Adam Bomb–my creation of devastation– to the top of this organization. With my mind and Adam's muscle and madness, there’s no telling where we can go or what we can do.”

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8 "Kinds Of Sex" All Married Couples Should Put Into Rotation

Let us be your motivation.

Shellie R. Warren

Jun. 12, 2020 05:35PM EST

The 90s is my favorite era of R&B (fight me, if you wanna). There's no time or space to get into all of the reasons why. For now, I'll provide a song example of why it's unmatched. As I was sitting down to write this piece, a song that came into my mind is the 1990 jam, "Show Me" by Howard Hewett. While the song certainly stands on its own, what I really like is the fact that his wife (at the time), Nia Peeples was in the video. His lead was his spouse. He used his visual to not only honor her but his marriage. To me, that is beyond dope infinity. And because I've always been aware of the fact that the video featured a husband and wife pairing, I always revered it with a kind of honor and, even sacredness, than a lot of other songs and visuals.

For many reasons, I see married sex the same way. When two people make the conscious choice and commitment to share the rest of their lives with one another, it just makes me respect their sex life on a whole 'nother level. That's why, as a marriage life coach, I am such an advocate for husbands and wives to participate in as much coitus as possible…as often as possible.

One time, while in a session with a couple, they asked me if there was "just one way to have sex". They weren't speaking of positions and technique. Nah, what they were referring to is should there be different ways to approach that type of intimacy with their partner. I found that to be a very insightful and profound question. While there are probably a dozen more ways than the eight that I'm about to share, I do think that in order for a husband and wife to feel truly fulfilled in their sexual intimacy with one another, there are the "kinds of sex" that need to happen on a consistent basis. If that doesn't make sense to you now, I'm hoping that it will by the time this piece is done. (Oh, and feel free to throw on some 90s R&B in the background, while you're reading, if you'd like.)

1. Morning Sex

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I can't tell you how many married couples have sang the praises of morning sex to me before. 

There is one husband, in particular, who cracks me up, every time I think about what he digs so much about it. "I'm telling you, if I'm able to get some head before the day starts, my wife can hit me up about wanting a new pair of shoes, her mom coming for dinner, or her maxing out a credit card and I'm basically going to be like, 'Yes Dear'."

What is it about morning sex that is so…refreshing? For one thing, since men, on average, have five erections that last 25 minutes each throughout the night, if they wake up with morning wood, sex is a fantastic release. Also, for both men and women, morning sex is an awesome way to de-stress, reconnect and also get an energy charge before the day begins. So, if you're married and you can't remember the last time you let your genitalia rather than an alarm clock awaken you, try and be more intentional about participating in a lil' bit of morning coitus. It beats the hell out of a cup of java. No doubt about it.

2. Quickie Sex

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Whenever I think of quickie sex, necessity is what comes to mind. Although I'll be the first one to say that married sex serves a myriad of purposes (check out "10 Wonderful Reasons Why Consistent Sex In Marriage Is So Important"), let's not act like sometimes we just don't need to "get that thing off". Quickie sex isn't (always or necessarily) about being romantic or engaging in a lot of foreplay. Quickie sex is more in the lane of, "I'm horny and I need to handle this so that I can relax and/or focus and/or get on to the other stuff that I need to do."

Unfortunately, because some people think that all sex needs to look like something out of a chick flick, they don't allow themselves (or their partner) to enjoy quickies as often as they should. If you're one of those individuals, I'd encourage you to look at quickies from another angle. Shouldn't one of the benefits of being married be that sex is more convenient? Because your partner is easily accessible, you don't have to do a lot of planning and preparing. Plus, (hopefully) you both know how to get each other off, so pleasure is a surefire thing with them. Since this is the case, while brushing your teeth, sitting on the couch or preparing dinner, you can pull stuff down (or move it over), handle your business and go on with your day. To me, that is not a "problem"; that is a blessing, chile.

3. Scheduled Sex

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While some people hate the idea of scheduling sex, I don't. In fact, whenever the topic comes up, what I usually say is all scheduling sex is about is prioritizing it. While it would be nice if all sex could be "random" and "spontaneous" (more on that in just a sec), the reality is that most of us have pretty tight to-do lists. So, if we don't make it a point to plan certain things out, they would never happen. Now, no one is saying that scheduled sex means that you've got to be as tight and rigid as Mrs. Elena Richardson (Reese Witherspoon) was in Little Fires Everywhere (in her house, sex only happened on Wednesdays and Saturdays; her poor husband). But if you and yours have so much going on that scheduling sex is gonna be better than having no sex at all, pull out your Google calendar and designate when your private parts can get some quality time in. 10-15 percent of all marriages are sexless ones. I'd venture to say a big part of the reason why is because couples aren't prioritizing their sex lives nearly as much as they need to or should.

4. Spontaneous Sex

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Everything in life is about balance, right? While scheduled sex certainly serves its purpose, so does spontaneous sex. The thing that I like about this kind of copulation is, another word for spontaneous is, impulsive. To be impulsive is to participate in something that is almost involuntary. In a sexual context, it's like you want your partner so bad that you don't even think about where you are or if it's a good time or not to get some; you've got to have them and so you're gonna make it happen. If it's a public place, so be it. If it's in the middle of the day, it's all good. While life might not make it possible to be spontaneous in this way all of the time, partaking in this type of sex is a great way for your partner to feel loved and lusted (which is "a passionate or overmastering desire or craving"). It also can keep a married couple's sex life spicy and interesting.

6. Hotel Sex

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Not too long ago, I watched All Def Digital's Squad Cast talk about why they prefer to have sex at home over having sex in a hotel room (it's at the 1:25:07 mark). To be fair, a lot of them are touring comedians, so they spend a lot of time in hotels (even KevOnStage said that hotels have lost their allure because of it). But as someone who used to have quite a bit of hotel sex (back when I was having sex) and also as someone who puts married couples in hotels, free of charge, from time to time, I am a HUGE FAN of hotel sex. Hotels provide a change of scenery. If it's a quality one, the beds tend to feel amazing. And, you can oftentimes find little "perks" to make you feel pampered (like room service, couples' massages or jacuzzi tubs). While I do think it's healthy for couples to plan romantic trips at least once a year, sometimes budgets and other life demands make that a close to impossible feat to pull off. But something that almost every husband and wife can do is spend at least one night in a hotel room. I personally haven't met one couple who doesn't come back from hotel sex feeling renewed. If you've never done it, at least try it. I'd be shocked if you didn't like—no, absolutely love—it!

7. Comfort Sex

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I remember once going to a bridal shower and someone asking everyone to offer up sex advice for the bride-to-be. When it came time for a senior elder's (of a church) wife to speak, she said, "Don't deny your husband unless you're deathly ill." When some of the women turned up their nose at her response, she simply said, "I've been married almost 50 years. A lot of you are divorced." (Geeze.) While I'm definitely not the woman who thinks that people should have sex when they don't feel like it, I do think it's important for married people to treat sex like it's a staple in their relationship and not just a…hobby.

However, the reason why I'm even bringing all of this up is because I think it's important to remind some wives that when you don't feel like doing it, oftentimes it's how you refuse your husband that can potentially put a wedge between the two of you. It's so important to remember that a lot of men feel totally vulnerable when trying to initiate sex, so when they are turned down in a flippant or cold way, that can cause them to feel rejected—not just physically but as if all of them is being dismissed. 

It's not talked about enough that sometimes husbands want to be with their wives, not because they are "horny" so much as they want to feel loved, accepted and yes, comforted. Listen, I am all about Black love and it's hard for Black men and women out here. If there's one place where any spouse should feel soothed, consoled and reassured, it's within their marriage. Sometimes that comes in the form of being as close to their partner as possible. Comfort sex isn't talked about, nearly as much as it should be. It's needed though. A lot.

7. Reconciliation Sex

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Reconcile is a dope word. One of my favorite definitions of it is "to bring into agreement or harmony; make compatible or consistent". While I'm not a huge fan of the phrase "make love" (because, as I oftentimes say, sex should celebrate love not create it), I do think that choosing to love someone, each and every day of your life, (hopefully) for the rest of your life, requires extreme time, effort and energy. Because a marriage consists of two flawed human beings, there are going to be times when husbands and wives are not "walking in agreement", when they aren't exactly in harmony with each other. Sometimes, one of the best ways to get back in sync with each other is to partake in what I call "reconciliation sex".

While, on the surface, that might seem like make-up sex, it's not 100 percent the same thing. Oftentimes, make-up sex is relied upon as a diversion or a coping mechanism when couples don't know how to properly communicateand/or resolve their issues. Reconciliation sex is more like…what a couple does to reward themselves once they have figured out how to get back on the same page about something. It is a physical act that affirms and confirms that they are back in agreement and harmony again. Because sex is such a beautiful, powerful and intimate thing, when two people feel like they have mentally and emotionally reunited, it can do wonders for the relationship to acknowledge that by engaging in physical intimacy. Hot, steamy, sexy, "nasty", totally mind-blowing sexual intimacy.

8. "Holy" Sex

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I picked this GIF on purpose. It's from the 1940s classic filmCabin in the Sky starring Lena Horne, Ethel Waters, Louis Armstrong, Duke Ellington, Eddie Anderson and a host of others. If you've never seen it before, the love that Petunia (played by Waters) had for her husband, Little Joe (played by Anderson) was nothing short of spiritual and supernatural. That woman prayed for that man to break his bad habits as if her very life depended on it. It's a cinematic reminder that marriage has a sacred component to it; and so does married sex.

That's why, to me, whenever two people are married, I most definitely believe that sex is an act of worship. What I mean by that is there is a reverence in the act that is very special within a marital union. It's because of that that articles on our site like "Ashley Graham & Her Husband Say Prayer Is The Ultimate Form Of Foreplay" make complete and total sense to me and lyrics like "You're the blessing that I never thought I would get/And to the Lord I humbly bow my head" from Usher's "Here I Stand" seem like they would be the perfect kind of background music for a sex session. 

If you're someone who believes that marriage is a spiritual union, then surely you must believe that the Most High is a part of it. To me, "holy sex" is about remembering the foundation and Source of your love. It's about approaching intimacy in a spirit of pure sacredness and gratitude. It's about acknowledging that, so long as your spirits are in sync, your bond is close to invincible. 

Hmph. Let me tell it, if there's any "kind of sex" that a husband and wife should have the most often, this one would definitely top the list. Let the Church say, "Amen", y'all. Now what kind of sex are you and yours gonna have tonight?

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