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Loving Someone Who Doesn't Love You Back

This entry is from an old relationship

Have you ever felt like you're the only one trying in a relationship? Like you're pouring your entire heart into something while they're just... there?

I'm sitting in my car right now, typing this on my phone because I can't be in my apartment. Because he's there, probably not even noticing that I left an hour ago. Probably hasn't even looked up from his game to realize I'm gone. And the worst part? I already know when I go back, I'll act like everything's fine.

It's such a specific type of heartbreak - loving someone who doesn't love you back but stays anyway. Because that's the thing: he stays. He's still here. Still says "goodnight." Still goes through the motions. But that's all they are - motions.

I keep a list in my notes app of all the signs I try to ignore:

How he takes hours to reply to my texts but I can see him active online.

The fact that he hasn't said "I love you" in months, just replies "you too" when I say it.

How he only wants to see me when it's convenient for him.

The way he talks about his future without mentioning me in it.

You know what the worst part is? I'm not even angry at him. I'm angry at myself. For staying. For making excuses. For thinking maybe if I love him hard enough, he'll start loving me back. For becoming the kind of person who checks their boyfriend's likes on Instagram at 3am, looking for signs of what I already know.

Tonight he asked what I wanted for dinner like everything was normal. Like I hadn't spent the whole day crying in my car because he forgot my birthday. Like he hadn't introduced me as his "friend" at last week's party. Like I haven't been dying inside every time he pulls away when I try to hold his hand in public.

My best friend keeps asking why I stay. I wish I had a better answer than "because I love him." But that's the whole stupid truth. I love him. I love him so much it physically hurts. I love him even though I know - I KNOW - he doesn't love me back.

Do you know how pathetic it feels to plan your whole day around someone who probably doesn't think about you at all? To get excited when they text you first, only to realize they just need something? To lie awake at night wondering what she has that you don't? (Because there's always a "she" - the one they like on every post, the one they talk about a little too much, the one they light up around in a way they never do with you.)

The dumbest part is that I keep waiting for some big dramatic moment. Like maybe one day it'll get so bad that leaving will feel like the only option. But it's not big dramatic moments. It's small things. It's a thousand paper cuts of indifference.

It's the way he doesn't ask about my day.

It's the half-hearted hugs.

It's the "maybe next time" when I suggest doing something together.

It's the way he can go weeks without seeing me and it doesn't bother him at all.

It's how he never puts his phone down when we're together.

It's the fact that I can't remember the last time he was excited to see me.

My mom always said you should be with someone who loves you as much as you love them. I used to think that was just something people say. Now I understand. Now I know exactly what she meant. Because this? This isn't it.

But here's the really messed up part - I'm still hoping things will change. Still analyzing every tiny gesture for signs that maybe he's starting to feel something real. Still trying to be the perfect girlfriend, like if I just try hard enough, he'll suddenly realize he loves me too.

I know how this ends. I've read this story before. I'm not stupid. I know he's never going to wake up one day and suddenly love me the way I love him. I know I deserve better than someone who makes me feel like an option.

But knowing you deserve better and actually leaving are two very different things.

So here I am, sitting in my car, writing this post. And in a few minutes, I'll go back upstairs. He won't ask where I've been. I won't tell him I've been crying. We'll go to sleep on opposite sides of the bed, and tomorrow we'll wake up and do it all again.

Because sometimes the hardest part isn't loving someone who doesn't love you back.

It's knowing they don't love you back and staying anyway.

[edersondeaquarian]

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After receiving my new card, I struggled to change the PIN. Twice, I incorrectly entered the old PIN instead of the new one! Thankfully, my colleague helped me realize the mistake.

I couldn't help but laugh at my own stupidity.

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[joyfuldeepend]

Leaving Unfinished!

By nature I am someone who needs to finish what she starts. I don’t like unfinished projects, conversations or relationships. Unfinished things are what keep me up at night and have me lying awake wondering what I need to do to “fix” or finish it.

In this season of life God has me leaving things as they are in some areas. Practicing trusting God with the outcome, the lesson being taught and the possibility that finishing something isn’t always the goal. It’s often frustrating and I wonder what I could have done, “should” have said or if there was a lack of effort on my part.

I have attempted a 3000 piece Hogwarts puzzle three times over the last 4 years. Each time I get about 60/70% finished and get stuck. I’ve tried every jigsaw puzzle trick in my tool box and still the finished product alludes me. If you know me, you know I love jigsaw puzzles and I’m entirely too competitive with games. This is an unusual conundrum for me.

This week I realized that I thought the goal of this puzzle was to finish it. However, I realized the thing that previously was bringing me joy, now was only bringing me frustration and contempt. I was finished with the puzzle, but the puzzle wasn’t complete. I went back and forth for a couple days examining my motives, my priorities and my peace and the knowledge that I can make a decision in whichever way I wanted.

I took a picture of the state where I was finished and returned the puzzle back to the box. It’s now in my donate pile, because just because I’m finished with it doesn’t mean its use is done. I’m sure there is some fun or even a lesson still in that puzzle for someone else.

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[theloulouge]

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Forgive, but Don’t Forget Forgiveness is like a personal superpower I wield. I don’t believe in carrying around grudges because that just weighs me down. But, here’s the kicker—I’m not throwing caution to the wind either. It’s not a blank check for someone to stroll back into my life and mess things up again. So, when I say I learn a lesson, it’s not just some token phrase. Every hurtful…