#largic is one

[bi-kisses]

there are some specific blogs that, when they reblog my post, tumblr hides whether or not they add something? It’s really frustrating if someone responds to something I’ve said and I have to dig through my notes to find it

[peachy-political]

I honestly don't see why some people have such a problem with you... there's plenty of stuff to disagree on and debate, but at least you're polite, nice, not rude and seem treat everyone with some decency, unlike certain others. Starting to feel like some people care less about issues within certain opinions, viewpoints and political stances but rather care about being an arse about it. Have a great day and weekend btw

Thank you for this really nice ask

This is the two incidents he was talking about so you can check for yourself.

They’re from February 2019 and May 2019, so quite a while ago to still actively have a grudge.

In both, from my perspective, he is being rude, snarky and insults me several times whilst Im trying to be slightly more civil about it (although probably do have some slight snark)/ In one he even still holds a grudge against me from the Feb interaction and again I can’t even remember him.

I do remember him, Largic/defiant-pupil, being someone who constantly went out of their way to be rude, confrontational, insult people and act above everyone whilst claiming he is being civil.

I mean they went on a post they saw me on, went out of their way to constantly insult me and accuse me of things that aren’t true and... somehow they thought that wouldn’t reflect on them.

Either way, I’m not the one remaining actively bitter about past discourse, he’s been blocked and I’m far from caring.

I do have many flaws, done, said and acted really silly and rude in the past but I’m proud to say I’m not as bad as him and aware enough to know out of the pair of us, I’m not bigger asshole.

Hope you have a wonderful start to your New Year anon

[shinra-makonoid]

About https://slime-boyfriend.tumblr.com/post/188253275440/eilikes-slime-boyfriend-oh-boy-so-naturally

Just clarifying something that sounds important to me. @slime-boyfriend

The person you used the screenshot in 14 point did not consent for you Largic to use those screenshot in any way shape or form, especially without anonymity, and had to change his username and icon in order to feel safer. This person asked many times that you don’t drag them into your dramas.

This person did not deserve to be used as an argument to push a point.

It’s a fallacious argument to think that because if happens once, then it happens everytime someone talks to you. Because, it doesn’t. CF the last discussion you had with this person.

I don’t agree with Fawn’s behavior, and I don’t agree with yours. Using screenshots in public is disgusting in both cases, and can have harmful repercussions in both cases.

You know what caused anxiety the most to Nine? Being dragged into this mess and being constantly on edge because of your black and white thinking, being triggered because you used them to push a point (the same way one of their abuser did in order to gaslight them for years), even if you didn’t mean it to be that way.

I’m making sure that the truth gets here, because this isn’t a good argument and it shouldn’t have been used to begin with. I don’t care if you consider this a betrayal of some sort, you’re against misinformation, I am too. I’m against fallacious arguments as well, and I’m against dragging people into dumb discord/tumblr fights.

I told you I don’t believe in good and bad people. But those are not good actions.

I sincerely hope you get the help you need in order to deal with your anxiety, impulses and anger issues, because you hurt people. 

I’m deeply hurt.

[dasha-through-the-snow]

Here is a question to kind of distract from that anon who has the stick of their "genderfluid ass": i want to write and illustrate a comic one day, and one of the characters may be a post transition trans guy. I dont know a trans guy on this site so maybe youd know or be able to reach put to your followers if its a good idea to include top surgery scars or not? Theyd be super faded so idk if it would be a good idea.

Sup, my people, help nonnie out.

@largic

[trashcat-waifu]

They're such good boys and girls

Every single one

I must kiss them all

@largic

Anti wolf heck collar

“The purpose of the collar is to protect the dog wearing it when it has to fight the wolves. The collar base protects the dog’s throat and carotid arteries, while the spikes are intended to deter bites to the neck or even injure wolves trying to do so.”

[peachy-political]

ik this is late, and i by no means think everything you say is right or that you are perfect.... but at least you are civil and aren't mean to anyone?? Largic (or whatever he goes by now, slime-boyfriend i think) seems really bitter about you not agreeing with him. I used to like his blogs but he has recently been losing the plot.

The way he was going on about me, telling people I insulted him several times and was an attention seeking bitch I genuinely thought I had done something bad a while ago so I jumped to apologise then he showes exactly when I was and I just... I don't see me in those two instances being the instigator or the one who started acted rude?

I have been rude before in debates and I'm not an angel I'll own that but in this instance? Nah.

He lost the plot a while back tbh.

[immortalsinnerstwilight]

Ground Zero

Written by @ChasteBeauty_

http://www.twitlonger.com/show/n_1sqkpop

[[ I ended up staying with my aunt and uncle late into the night. After my emotional breakdown, I couldn't do anything but sit huddled in the corner of the couch trapped in a feeling of despair. I wasn't used to experiencing so fucking much emotion. It's as if someone had the key and unlocked a door that held it at bay all the years of my life. It was causing me physical pain all over my body. One of my cousins ended up coming to get me. He literally has to carry me out of my aunt and uncle's house into his car and the same once we got home and into the house. When I woke up this morning from my restless sleep, I was told my cousin called #Brooke and told her I'd come down with something and couldn't come into work. Throughout the night I kept dreaming about Brooke's husband #Quil. Everytime I looked into his eyes it's as if I could see into his soul. Each time I woke up feeling as if I was missing something I need to keep myself from falling apart. I was fine until I yesterday. I wondered if I was having a bad trip from some drugs but I haven't done any recently. It takes a lot of effort to get out the bed and shower. It does nothing to help shake off this largic feeling I have. I'm not interested in eating either. What I want to do is punch my cousin in her face because she keeps staring at me and asking if I'm okay. No, I'm not fucking okay but I'm not telling her shit. It's bad enough I fell apart in front of my aunt and uncle. Once I can't stand being stared at anymore I tell my cousin I need to get some fresh air and will be at First Beach. Before she can try to invite herself to come with me, I leave the house and hop into the car. I look around because it feels as if someone is watching me. Again, I feel a pang of sorrow and it causes me to grip onto the steering wheel. || " What the fuck is this!" || Okay now I'm starting to yell random shit at myself and it bothers me. I'm normally composed even if some of my actions can be impulsive at times. Maybe I'm coming down with something. Yah maybe it's a case of " The need to get the fuck out of La Push syndrome." ]]

[transgender-official]

@largic thought you'd appreciate this one

Feel free to unfollow me right now if you believe it’s okay to endanger your house cat or the local native fauna it absolutely will kill by allowing it outside unsupervised/off lead.

Outdoor cats have a lifespan of 2-5 years. Indoor cats regularly live 15+, even getting up to 20+ sometimes. Unsupervised indoor-outdoor cats often don’t make it past 5 and the ones that do are a very lucky exception. Why?

They get hit by cars. They get attacked by other animals (predators or other pets like dogs) including other cats. They eat things that are toxic to them. They get killed by other humans. They contract diseases like FIV and FelV.

Even if your cat DOES live longer than 5 years, cats that go outside are responsible for the deaths of billions of birds and other small fauna per year. There have been studies done on this. It’s not people pulling stuff out of their asses, it’s something scientists literally studied and reported results on. Don’t believe me? Google “do cats kill wildlife” and have a read. They’re on the IUCN’s list of worst invasive species and have contributed to the extinction of 60+ species, and they continue to cause a problem for other threatened species of small animals.

If you think it’s okay to expose your cat to these hazards and potentially cut its lifespan by more than half, if you think it’s okay to allow your cat to kill native fauna to indulge it’s “natural instincts” instead of, I don’t fucking know, playing with it with toys literally designed to allow it to safely indulge those instincts, then you have no business following me.

I’m not here to indulge your whimsy about how cats “need” to be outside unsupervised to be stimulated and lead a happy life- I can assure you, they don’t. There are p l e n t y of enrichment devices and structures people can buy or make to ensure that their cats lead happy, full lives indoors to the ripe old age they are supposed to lived to.

You also have the option of lead training your cat if you really believe they need to go out. This is something that proponents of “let cats go outside” ignore almost completely. They somehow believe that it’s all or nothing- either the cat lives 100% indoors without ever seeing sunlight OR it’s let outside without supervision where it can be injured, killed, or cause harm to the environment. Those aren’t the only choices. Cats adapt to leads very easily. They don’t like it the first couple of times, usually, but also usually when they figure out lead=outside, they get over it and the best of both worlds gets to happen- your cat remains safely under your supervision where it cannot come to or deliver harm, and it gets to go outside.

TL;DR Letting your house cat outside unsupervised is extremely dangerous both for your cat and the local wildlife and people arguing otherwise can see themselves out the door because I’m not about people endangering animals out of willful ignorance. You, along with every other pet owner out there, have a responsibility to protect your pets to the best of your abilities, and choosing not to do so in some misguided attempt to indulge their whims is poor animal husbandry. Any argument to the contrary is just an excuse to continue doing things which put animals in danger.

[yourtoradorasextendedwarranty]

To be fair, white people don't have a culture. But then again no skin color has a culture. Culture transcends skin color and it's often based off history and traditions passed down in a specific region. Meaning the people who say white people don't have a culture are right... . But they are often also wrong because they are insinuating their skin color has one. Because they are stupid.

But to hop back on to the main topic, @largic is right. It's not even remotely apples to apples. The lightening of FAN ART of Nessa exists as the Easts way to retaliate against Western bullies. What Disney is doing, is ACTUALLY changing Ariel in their life action Canon to Black. It's not fan art. Also I'll repost this picture till I'm blue in the face,

This is real. And I'm REAL tired of it. I'm personally a ginger. And frankly this is ignorant. Race swapping in CANON should never be a thing. If you want to do a full reimagine? Fine be my guest. But there are people that are praising this change because now they have "claimed" a character away from "the whites".

Y'all said "who cares? It's just a character" when Nessa was whitewashed but throwing a whole fit now that Ariel's black

(Even though her race has nothing to do with the story and half of y'all didn't even know she was Danish til the racists started pointing it out lmao.)

[kayrowsyrup]

I have to agree with largic here.

I’m usually one for supporting no school uniforms as I believe children and teenagers should appropriately be able to express themselves however they wish, as long as the clothing is modest(I can assure you that as a high school student I hated seeing guys walking around in school with just basketball shorts and being able to see their dick).

But if the school is having a hard time getting the girls to wear the appropriate length skirt then I can see why they made it mandatory to wear pants.

It only takes a few to ruin the fun for everyone else.

About 150 parents and pupils have staged a protest outside a secondary school over gender neutral uniforms.

In 2017, Priory School in Lewes, East Sussex, told all new pupils they had to wear trousers while existing students could wear uniforms already bought.

The school said “concerns” had been raised over the length of girls’ skirts, and new rules would cater for a handful of transgender pupils.

This year it made trousers compulsory for new and existing students.

A statement, on the school’s website, said students not wearing the correct uniform would be asked to return home and change before being allowed into the building.

Pupil Nina Cullen wore a skirt to school and was refused entry after the protest.

“I haven’t bought the new uniform and I don’t see the point in wasting money,” she said.

“I’m going to come back on Monday and see what the school decides.”

The school had allowed pupils to wear a “summer uniform” comprising a polo shirt and trousers, and in extremely high temperatures PE shorts or skorts - shorts made to look like skirts.

However, a letter sent to parents in June said the decision had “created more problems than we wished” and added standards of uniform had declined.

According to the school, staff are spending so much time telling pupils to correct their uniform to meet the new rules, that it is “detracting” from time spent teaching.

[bi-kisses]

You do realize this is about proving that being trans isn't a choice, right? We can recognize neurological patterns to prove that it exists (and we have already, check out my discourse shortcut conveniently placed in my bio), which shuts down transphobic arguments and fights for the recognition of trans identities, so on and so forth. No one is claiming the health industry doesn't have issues, issues that impact trans people especially, but to deny that there is proof that trans people aren't just pulling their identity out of thin air is transphobia and the only motivation you have for doing so is because you're vomitting up the rhetoric passed unto you, taught that if you think otherwise you're actually being a nasty exclusionist gatekeeper.

I'm sorry that you don't like that a cis person is saying this to you. @largic can maybe put in his two cents as a dysphoric trans man.

Being trans is not a neurological disorder lmao, y’all are just co-opting the label to be assholes

[curlykoalas]

I think I've only seen the bit of discourse about the pastel fanart that @largic mentioned. I recently stumbled across a Disney Princesses x Disney Villians and that was great apart from the Tiana one:

The idiocy of Tumblr never ceases to amaze me. One person’s reaction to the whole Nessa ‘’discourse’’ boiled down to ‘’ You should listen to these people/black artists.This would not have happened if you did!’’ 

Even though they have no idea themselves what ACTUAL whitewashing means and are actively harassing artists who draw Nessa a few tones lighter (also, nice try on shoving all of that under the rug to continue your narrative like it’s okay to do that) AND that many people of color don’t see a problem with the Nessa ‘’discourse’’ to begin with. But no, let’s only listen to you because you know what’s best right?

When is Pornhub buying this site again? Also can they buy Twitter too? That or nuke both from orbit. That would be great too.

[phlegm-the-alcoholic-dreg]

@largic I'm about to pop off on this idiot.

Our "vows" were ones of fidelity, honesty, and support. Nowhere in them did it say "to have and to hold despite toxic patterns of deception, lies, and an undisclosed pregnancy". We decided that children were not in our five year plan even prior to the marriage. It was financially irresponsible, emotionally taxing, and it was a joint arrangement made by two adults who were intertwining each other's lives. Her choice to quietly change her mind on it is me biting off more than I could chew? Excuse the fuck out of me, are you on crack?

And you mean to tell me a child would be my responsibility because she decided to stop BC? It's my fault she made the decision to get pregnant and alter the course of my life without so much as my knowledge, let alone my consent?

Cause I'll tell you right now, I'd have stopped sleeping with her all together if i had KNOWN she was no longer on BC or actively trying to get pregnant. Keyword here is KNOWN.

Where does the buck stop with you people? She made a conscious and MALICIOUS decision to use pregnancy as leverage and I'm the one who should have known better? Are you LISTENING TO YOURSELF???

Oh and sweetie, I'm definitely not the first this has happened to. I was part of a forum during my divorce therapy where many men were put in similar situations. Most of stories were all the same too: Desperate women who were on the brink of losing their partners and used pregnancy to tie them down, and loved to use the "my body my choice" excuse as a scapegoat to their machinations. Are all women like this? Of course not, but they exist despite what you seem to believe... Thank God only in short supply.

Your argument is "Well if you put your dick in it's your problem what happens!" If that's the case then why get married at all? Obviously in your world, disclosure isn't the woman's responsibility... Nay its the man's consequence for every byproduct of a relationship no matter how underhanded, deceptive, and downright evil the circumstances.

And by the way? My case wasn't "one man pointing fingers", you utter clown. It was pages and pages of corroboration between her, her friends, and subsequently me, that led to avoiding any sort of financial settlement after the divorce. I got VERY lucky, but there are men and women out there who are roped into toxic lifelong relationships as a result of this kind of thinking.

Birth control is your choice.

Pregnancy is your choice.

Controlling someone's life with either is fucking deplorable.

If a man knowingly has sex with a woman, he is personally responsible for the well-being of any children he might have sired.

Change my mind.

[sfitty]

@largic: dolphins also rape each other for fun. I know humans arent the only ones with big intelligence but again, nature just doesn't work like that.

@transgender-official: I'm gonna need a source for that because my guy birds don't even sexually reproduce in the same way that mammals do, plus even if they did, their comparatively short life spans and the amount of predators they have don't afford them the privilege of fucking around. So, yeah I'm gonna press (X) on that.

HOT TAKE TW

I am not homophobic at all but like, citing the fact that animals (the most common one I hear is lions) often have homosexual sex as proof that homosexuality is natural and not relegated to beings of higher intelligence is ignorant at best.

You know what else male lions will do? Kill and eat the cubs of other prides as well as fight to the death over mates. This is in their nature. They don’t comprehend such things as morality or differing sexuality. Beyond that, scientists have come to the conclusion that they aren’t screwing each other for fun, rather to establish dominance.

Honestly, sexual preference is a uniquely human trait and it’s pointless to suggest otherwise. There’s no need to justify being gay with nature, especially seeing as nature usually doesn’t work the way many of you think it does.

[infiniteglitterfall]

Fair enough.

I'm going to add links here, to get out of the mire of hearsay.

* "If I'm remembering correctly, autismserenity decided I was 100% allistic"

Largic's realized now that he wasn't remembering correctly, which tbh I'm excited about because I was pretty sure that wasn't me!

* "I definitely didn't misgender anyone"

Here's the thread in question.

Just for starters:

"Kate Bornstein does appear to use the nonbinary label and really stupid neopronouns but this doesn’t make nonbinary genders a scientifically valid thing either nor does it make her or any one else who identifies as such trans."

Calling someone's pronouns "really stupid," and then choosing different ones, is misgendering.

Choosing to use different pronouns than someone uses because you don't believe that they're trans, you don't believe that they're their gender, etc., is misgendering.

* "And of course they also didn't tell me how I was supposedly misgendering them for the longest time so I mean, can't "fix" a supposed problem if I don't even know what it is."

If this is about me, I said it was misgendering after the first post, and clicking on my name would have cleared up what pronouns to use.

* "I didn’t misgender anyone at all (especially since I didn’t even know any of their genders so I just used the gender neutral “they”"

Yeah, and that's usually a fine practice. But there are people, both binary and nonbinary, who aren't okay with being called "they." That's one big reason that people put pronouns in their abouts.

(For anyone who's curious: I think it's usually because "they" is often also used to avoid using someone's actual pronouns, and/or because it implies that the person is nonbinary.

There are a fair number of binary trans men and women who don't want to be referred to as if they're nonbinary, because that's not their gender.

I am nonbinary, but those aren't my pronouns, and if somebody has already explicitly said they think pronouns like mine are "stupid"....)

If you call someone they because you aren't sure what their pronouns are, then YEAH, you're generally off the hook for misgendering. Since you don't have a better option. It's a good practice to click through and check to see if they specify their pronouns first, but we all make mistakes.

If you call someone they after they've said that that's misgendering them... like, say, when I started my entire response with, "Almost all of that was just redefining words inaccurately, interspersed with misgendering me"... then you're back on the hook.

It's also considered misgendering to claim that a trans person isn't trans, because if you're saying someone isn't trans/is cis, you're saying they're their assigned gender.

And FWIW, I don't know what the dude thing was about, but I've seen a lot of trans women, both binary and non, who vocally object to people using "dude(s)" and "guys" as if they're gender-neutral. Because it often ends up with them being unintentionally misgendered or excluded, and often triggers their dysphoria.

TL;DR: If somebody keeps using "they" for me after I say I'm being misgendered, while saying genders like mine don't exist, people like me aren't trans, and pronouns like mine are "stupid" ...I can't even think of an argument for how that isn't misgendering me.

* "Hell, @autismserenity literally misgendered two of the activists she mentioned and then doubled down on one when I corrected her, so in fact they’re the ones who are guilty of misgendering."

In this sentence alone, I'm getting misgendered three times, with two different pronouns.

And I didn't misgender either of the activists I mentioned. Both Feinberg and Bornstein use ze/hir pronouns:

"Feinberg described hirself as a 'white, working class, secular Jewish, transgender lesbian.' Feinberg preferred the use of 'ze/hir' pronouns." (Transgender Law Center, "Remembering a Transgender Pioneer")

"...when I first came out as genderqueer in the early 2000’s I learned about non-binary pronouns, and right away began using “ze/hir” as my pronouns. These were the same pronouns gender outlaw Kate Bornstein, transgender activist Leslie Feinberg, and so many other genderqueer folks I met were using to reflect our non-binary identities." (HuffPost, "A Guide To Nonbinary Pronouns and Why They Matter")

* "I'm not a bloody transmed"

Not identifying as a transmed because you don't like the community doesn't make you not a transmed. A transmed is anyone "who believes that only those who experience gender dysphoria are transsexual / transgender, and that gender dysphoria (transsexualism) is a medical condition." (From the transmedicalism subreddit, but this is also how I use it and how I see it commonly used.)

There ARE transmeds who are nonbinary or who claim to support nonbinary people. That's not better.

(Also for the curious: In either case, it involves having slightly broader rules for which trans people get to actually be accepted as trans. The ones I've seen are "nonbinary people who experience dysphoria" or "nonbinary people who don't use 'weird' pronouns and genders." The former usually also involves a very specific definition of dysphoria, which is also something I see a LOT among transmeds.)

TL;DR: I mean, i don't think anybody's ever going to agree on these points. If he doesn't consider this stuff to qualify as being a transmed or as misgendering, then it's forever going to be "yes you did" "no I didn't".

I think there's a common assumption that if someone uses uncommon pronouns, then they must be fine with other ones, and/or that it won't trigger dysphoria if people use the wrong ones. It's pretty common whether people are using "they" instead of "ze" or "she" instead of "they." And it's wrong.

Imma jump in to defend human off cause people are dumb he didn’t misgender the person, human off calls everyone dude that’s all it is he uses dude as a gender neutral term, hell I do that too, everyone is dude to me.

And this is why I need to start asking for receipts more.

[ellas-cottage]

I'm assuming you missed the PSA that dysphoria isnt self hatred and an actual neurological condition but sure! Call me an antivaxxer, we arent the ones with no sources :)

If i remember correctly, @largic is the one with the WALL of sources. And good for you for growing a pair :D

You’re cis. You have no say in trans discourse. Maybe listen to trans people about transphobia.

I do! I have many trans transmed friends! Come off anon coward :)