#language and woman's place

[basicallyanotherwitchesthing]

Robin Lakoff - Language and Woman's Place - Harper Colophon - 1975

[beaft]

anyway i'm always fascinated by the people who think that trans men transition purely to escape misogyny and gain social capital. idk how it is for other people, but since i transitioned i have not only experienced more misogyny than i ever did before but also lost access to the public spaces and support systems that might have helped me deal with it

[seaweedstarshine]

Sometimes I think of Amy Pond, who grew up being called mad by those who wielded the word as a tool of exclusion and shame —

Amy Pond, who though forced into the hands of four psychiatrists, still clung to that which they called madness until those systems which elevate psychosocial conformity above humanity stripped it from her —

Amy Pond, whose imaginary friend reappeared for a single hour after twelve years and reignited that faith before disappearing for two more years —

Amy Pond, who spent those those two years under the same implicit threat ingrained in her through psychiatric violence, and thus began to believe the man who stopped the invasion was “just a madman with a box,” only for him to agree, and to also call her “mad, impossible Amy Pond,” reframing madness as non-negative for the first time in her life —

Amy Pond, who ignored the disembodied voice of her imaginary friend even as she ran away with him for real, who still lived each day with the traumatic internalization of deviancy dictated upon her by the psychiatric-industrial complex that shaped her from childhood —

Amy Pond, who wouldn't acknowledge the Doctor's voice, such that it took an Angel in her eye that was literally killing her to ensure she couldn't reality check herself —

Amy Pond, who stood before a room which muttered about “the psychiatrists we brought her to,” and though afraid, escaped their rigid parameters of acceptable existence.

[sataninsparkles]

I don't understand why people seem to dislike "Girl Dinner" and "Girl Math" so much.

Like, it's not about girls being unable to take care of themselves or make smart financial decisions. Girl Math is literally just about how under the capitalism small purchases that add up to a large number don't feel as expensive as one large purchase. It's the same phenomenon as being willing to pay $10 for a product but not $8 + $2 shipping. Or spending cash feeling different from spending on a credit card.

Or like why a bunch of people just started talking about how being a bimbo is just quirky sexism.

Yes, women can achieve great things, and they can be smart. We all support women's rights. But we gotta support women's wrongs as well.

After being told that you have to be smart and strong and do everything a man can do or you're a bad feminist and you're setting the movement back fifty years, the ability to just be dumb and carefree feels like taking off a bra.

Yes, women can be smart. But they can be dumb too. We can be weak and dumb and that doesn't make us "bad feminists" or "quirky sexists". It makes us human. And shaming women for their freedom to enjoy their life however they want is counterproductive. Men get to be as dumb as they want without shame, so why is it that when women are the ones who are dumb, you get offended and try to shame them into acting the way you want them to?

We can't have equality until you guys stop shaming women for every little thing they do. We can't have equality if we don't support women's wrongs.

[catinfroghat]

I started a literature course at the public library and there was the poshest women I've ever heard in my life there my eyes literally widened in disbelief at the way she was pronouncing some words omg...

[hungry-hobbits]

auughh i dont do m/f pairings much but cassandra/sam sent me into very passionate ranting last night like i could go on for 8000yrs about sams intentions vs the interpretations of his actions constantly being misconstrued as a result of how he was raised and how cassandra unintentionally (BUT ENTIRELY UNDERSTANDABLY) misinterprets his intents as negative when its the only way he knows how to show/get love but because of the numerous power dynamics in play against her she just sees the worst of his attempts and intentions despite him literally operating with the exact opposite mindset

AND THEN WHAT SUCKS IS THAT YOU CAN EVEN APPLY SOME OF WHAT I JUST SAID TO SAM/HOFFMANN BUT WITH THE ADDED MISERY THAT HOFFMANN SUCKS SO MUCH AS A PERSON AND IS STRAIGHT UP USING SAM WITHOUT ACKNOWLEDGING HOW MUCH SAM CARES ABOUT HIM???

sam greenwood's biggest crime is that he cares more about people than they care about him

[crowempress]

Every day so mad at myself for losing a majority of my ASL vocab and skills from high school it was just so hard to keep hold of learning when I didn't have regular practice :(

[immobiliter]

paimon: what if he'd actually cut your arm off? dehya: then i'd just have to hold my claymore with my left arm

i don't think dehya's demo is all that great ( like her character kit really, rip ), but this scene is my absolute favourite from sumeru honestly, i love this girl sm

[thewritingpossum]

This also destroys me btw

[cosmogyros]

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[awek-s]

i love going to the (very scarce) eastern european stores in my area bc there will always ALWAYS undoubtedly be a middle class english family absolutely FUMING that there are no british products in this foreign store. they enter it looking for like one or two items they can get from english stores but they expect it to be stocked in a polish/romanian fusion store bc they’ve already infiltrated every other corner of our life and countries so why not our food and culture too 🙄

[butchratchettruther]

Studying language and gender is so embarassing on the behalf of linguistics. It’ll be like in the 1970s this researcher concluded that women’s speech is inherently inferior and that they don’t actually think when speaking. His research is based on post cards and his own experience. He wrote a book on it and everyone believed it. 

[galaxywhale-moved]

people are so fucking weird about the language used to discuss autistic and neurodivergent kids/people lol it’s so frustrating

[phaedo]

maybe at some point i'll write up a whole post about disability in doctor who. i feel like the only disabled character i feel like hasn't really been handled badly in some way was diane in flux and that's because they straight-up never mentioned it

[jan-silan]

nobody likes grammatical gender until they see esperanto does "la lingvo" instead of "la lingva" because of grammar stuff. you have to admit there's something really beautiful about having the ends of words in simple phrases rhyme like that.

[cruelsister-moved2]

i wanna go back to the alhambra SO bad my parents were so cruel for taking me there when i was like 7 and way too young to appreciate it 😭 😭 😭 😭 😭