#kinky asexual

[0rb0t]

It's so hard being a kinky asexual because everyone assumes that I must not be ace because i talk about sex or kinky stuff so easily, and I'm like Bitch not all aces are repulsed. I'm only repulsed by characters or people doing the things to me, not doing them with each other.

I can talk about dressing my faves up in tight body suits and isolation hoods all day long, it don't mean I wanna fuck em, and i especially don't wanna fuck you

[sadsillypuppygf]

take control and use it to bathe me when i lack motivation, use it to feed me when i’m struggling to feed myself, use it to brush my hair to calm my mind, use it to sit me down for a movie of your choice bc my decision fatigue won’t let me choose on my own. dominate softly. control lovingly.

[little-songbird-sings]

It was honestly so fucking freeing to realize I can just do kink, as much or as little as I want, and I don't have to do sex. Sex is... fine, really, but it's got to be part of the kink or I don't give a fuck, and it's hardly the main center stage event people make it out to be. The point is kink, the point is the dynamic, the point is pain, and if we forget that then I'd rather just go play a video game or something

[cybergothvox]

It's so weird when people equate asexuality to a lack of horny like. You can be ace and hypersexual. Asexuality has to do with sexual *attraction* not sexual *desire*. And a lack of sexual attraction does lead to a lack of sexual desire in some people but not everyone. And people saying things like 'never depict ace people as horny' is erasing huge swaths of real people.

[lilalexxx]

Maybe I just need that switch relationship, where we both train each other. You clicker train me, I hypnotize/condition you. We do so well at first, but then one of us just pushes too far and realise as a sub you have the power too. So we both spiral down, using the other person more while getting mindless ourselves. Until we're laying at the floor needy and still pushing, clicking, controlling, begging-

Wait who said that

[fanby-fckry]

It’s crazy to me that some people say, “I want her to step on me,” when they actually mean, “I am sexually attracted to her. I want her to fuck me, possibly in a Femdom way.”

I say that and I mean exactly that. I want the hot, evil lady to step on me and not fuck me. There will be no sex, none at all.

Every time I say something like, “I want her to step on me,” or “I would let this man eat me alive,” I mean it literally.

Obviously I cannot do some of these things because a.) unrealistic kink and b.) fictional character, but I cannot stress enough that the weird shit I say is not a metaphor for sex.

It is my ace self trying to express my desire for nonsexual kink in a popular format and failing miserably because I genuinely didn’t understand what allos meant.

[xofor-mexo]

Hey, don’t cry! Monster creatures falling in obsession and/or love with you and bloodily destroying your enemies while you sit on a throne bathed in blood, okay?

[grey-ace-tickles]

Platonic crushes??

I think I am having a "friend crush" on a person from work. Its weird because it feels the same as a regular crush, but if I think about interacting with this person romantically 😬 no thank you. He is a lovely person and we get along really well. Also I am in a committed relationship with my partner, and I would never ever do anything to compromise that. Just an added layer of why I feel so weird about this.

Is this something you've experienced? I've seen online that friend crushes are common among ace ppl, I don't know if I've really experienced it until now tho. Any feedback is appreciated 😇

[ace-bard]

I briefly mentioned before how online kink communities are one of the few places I feel safe a trans person (I follow far far left subreddits and still feel twinge of fear whenever trans topics are brought up), but now that I've been to a few irl kink events the sad thing is,, they're also more inclusive of asexuals then queer communities are.

You have to pull teeth to get queers to admit aces even exist, much less include us, MUCH LESS actually know anything asexuality or the ace community. If you mention aces in kink queers hound you like "Wait I thought aces where evil sex negative puritans who hated sexuality?" "How could an ace ever possibly enjoy kink? How how how?

But multiple hosts/educators unprompted were like, yeah, aces are kinky sometimes and are welcome here :")

[cybergothvox]

Ugh come pick up your allosexual. Yea he forgot to do the kink bc he got distracted by boobs again

[thecanadianweeb]

sex neutral asexual hours.

[valofhearts]

i cant believe some people like vanilla sex......... couldnt be me

[sadsillypuppygf]

romance me by making me a charcuterie board and reading my favorite books with me

[blasphemyofroses]

hi! (ignore this ask if it's rude or intrusive) out of curiosity, how does hypersexual ace work? like is hypersexuality on the ace spectrum? asking for a friend. - @prettyprincette

Hey Anon! I tried to @ you but your Tumblr was deleted, but I'll answer anyways. It took so long mostly because I just wasn't certain how to answer, as it's kinda a mystery myself.

For me, being hypersexual isn't the same as ace at all. Asexuality often refers to not experiencing sexual attraction, which is how I feel. I've never actually wanted to have sex with someone, but I have a lot of pent up urges. As for the "spectrum", it's a lot more complicated than like.. a line. It's kinda a circle, but I'm not 100% on how that circle would be diagrammed. So I just think of it as two separate entities.

For me, the term hypersexual asexual is a lot of "Fuck around, but not finding out" type of deal. I want to do the stuff that kinksters do, but I do not want genitals touching, if that makes sense.

Asexuals can still be horny! Which surprises a lot of people that aren't LGBT, for some reason. No hate at all, but most think we're "innocent" and infantile us which is very much not the case. But back on topic, I am most definitely one of those types of aces. And I am very much involved with kink (Kinda obvious but still).

My experience with asexuality and hypersexual are personal to me. So it's not the same for everyone. However I find a lot of comfort in the term, and exploring my sexuality has been a great deal of help (especially this blog). Do know that there is a whole community of kinksters that are ace, and it's not totally uncommon! I think it’s because of the intimacy is a key thing, and maybe I’ll ramble more about it later.

I hope this answers the question a bit, and sparks you to look more into it. <3 Anyone, or you again anon, can send me an ask if anyone wants more of my personal experience or anything else! :)

[sadsillypuppygf]

wanna get tied up like this someday. i feel like it would be so peaceful to just let it happen. nothing sexual, just the pleasurable pressure of rope on skin

[radiostaticsmile]

Hello kinky asexual community I need some help if you would please

Going to get a bit personal here but I am trying to figure out if I am ace or not so here is the situation

I do not know if I had sexual attraction to another person? Like looking at them and going hot or not. I may have aesthetic attraction because how hot someone is is completely entirely dependant on what they are wearing and additionally the clothes are exactly the same amount of hot without a person in them.

I get turned on by behaviours like kinkiness and if someone is being subby I want to Bite them but I am not really interested in sex itself at least not super actively. However I do become interested in sex if it is used as part of a kinky scenario, and essays I have seen so far from kinky ace's seem to not want genitals involved at all and I am like. Into it if horny enough and its kinky but I am kinda sex repulsed most of the time? There is no scenario where I would be happy having vanilla sex

Though I know there are sex positive asexuals and it is based on sexual attraction but im autistic i dont understand what sexual attraction is???

Please send help

Edit: also most of the time i am attracted to 'someones apperance' it is an drawing. I can find someonea fursona hot or their headspace self or kintype but if I see a real human face its low key a turn off 90 percent of the time im just like ah sure is a human face. Also why i hate sending selfies unless im dressed to the nines bc i dont think im hot otherwise