#its an interfaith household

[officialbruciewayne]

How would you feel if I put a little Santa hat on the dinosaur..? :)

– @youthful-vengeance

A little puzzled because I thought the dinosaur was Jewish.

[bamsara]

I live in an interfaith household and trying to explain how we prepare for holiday season to someone outside the household is weird

my mother celebrates jewish holidays, step-father doesnt but loves yule, i have no idea what my siblings are, theres a lot of seasonal decor for holidays. why are there so many holidays. there is too much (< person who's been sorting tote boxes for two hours straight)

[challengersmp4]

kind of over the whole overbearing insane jewish family in media stereotype. most of us are normal we just like talking loudly

[occasionally-poetic]

marauders characters’ ethnicities/religions/languages

just my own HCs so don’t get offended!

jayaram fleamont potter

(tells people to call him j or jamie bc its easier, so everyone assumes his real name is james, and he doesn’t correct them)

indian hindu on his mum’s side (tamil nadu specifically)

effie comes from a rich tamil pureblood family (many pureblood families name their children something greek/latin, thus ‘euphemia’), and teaches jamie hindi, tamil and some greek

his tamil is great and he’s fluent in writing/reading as well as speaking, writing letters to effie from hogwarts in tamil

his hindi is okay, mostly with reading and talking, his writing is pretty limited

his greek is godawful and he’s barely conversational, much to effie’s dismay

(non-practicing) catholic chilean on his dad’s side

monty is (obviously) a potter, and most of his relatives live in chile or south america, but his parents moved to england for hogwarts (didn’t want him going to school on another continent to them)

he’s a practicing hindu with his mum (monty doesn’t really get it because he doesn’t speak a word of hindi so he just smiles and nods)

he speaks english and (chilean) spanish, which he teaches jamie, who speaks/reads/writes it as fluently as his english and tamil

sirius orion black

he is heir of the noble and most ancient house of black so he’s the french-est pureblooded-est guy you’ll ever meet

especially pureblooded because he’s the product of incest (his parents are second cousins) (canon)

the black family are french, owning many estates there, etc., but have lived in england for generations (his great-grandparents migrated and now they only visit france in the summer sometimes)

catholic (receiving NOO criticism here bc this is canon (no its not)) with intense religious trauma and internalised homophobia (not projecting at all whaaaaat)

sort of converts to judaism (ish?) he makes remus explain it all and siri thinks its sooo fascinating so he gets a menorah for the dorm for hanukah and buys a torah to study and remus is so happy

speaks french as his first language, and latin and greek fluently from tutoring, but only started to learn english for hogwarts (is so bad at it in first year omg)

remus yohanan lupin

(I KNOW HIS CANON MIDDLE NAME IS JOHN BUT HE IS SO JEWISH CODED TO ME SO HERE’S THE HEBREW FORM OF JOHN INSTEAD X)

polish-jewish on his dad’s side (lyall was evacuated to wales in ww2, when he was about 10, and hope’s parents looked after him until he graduated hogwarts and started dating hope (they literally adored him and helped raise remus I DONT CARE))

protestant welsh on his mum’s side (didn’t really practice her faith though - just brought them all to church on christmas eve and easter sunday)

interfaith household + being a patrilineal jew (more not fitting in angst for remus guys!)

spoke english and welsh at home, equally fluent (lyall picked up welsh while living with hope’s parents), and hebrew too from his hebrew sunday school

lyall tried (and failed) to teach him polish, as that was his first language, so remus can speak a very basic amount of polish, mostly swearing and children’s lullabies (marlene teaches him more at hogwarts so they can gossip!)

not very orthodox jews, but celebrate jewish holidays and go to the synagogue on sabbath (and he wears a necklace of the star of david that belonged to lyall’s late mother)

pieter daan pettigrew

(anglicised his name for hogwarts because everyone called him p-eye-ter (like actual pie + ‘ter’))

protestant dutch on his mum’s side (but she went to hogwarts!)

protestant english on his dad’s side

parents were ‘born again’ christians so they were very devout (grace before every meal, helping out at church every sunday, bible study every morning, etc)

peter never really believed in any of it, and would often go to jamie’s to avoid having to go

he spoke english with his dad and half-brother, but solely dutch with his mum and his other siblings. he was also taught latin before hogwarts (pureblood things) and absolutely HATED it (he was probably dyslexic and often found himself changing language in the middle of his talking exams)

picked up a fair bit of tamil from jamie and effie (aka his second mum) and absolutely LOVED the potters’ diwali party (literally the highlight of his year)

let me know any other characters i should do!! and if you disagree feel free to leave your HCs in the comments, but please respect that people have different opinions xx

[joeygoeshollywood]

My 25 Favorite Films of 2023

It's that time of year again! Here are my top 25 films of 2023.

25. Joy Ride

Following in the footsteps of Bridesmaids and Girls Trip, Joy Ride offers some of the biggest laughs of 2023 proving once again women can be just as raunchy as men. The cast includes up-and-comers Ashley Park, Oscar nominee Stephanie Hsu, and a scene-stealing breakthrough performance from Sherry Cola. Joy Ride marks a strong debut from writer-director Adele Lim.

24. Theater Camp

Anyone who had aspirations of becoming an actor can relate to Theater Camp, a mockumentary about the staff of a theater camp struggling to keep it afloat. Molly Gordon, Ben Platt, and Noah Galvin lead both behind and in front of the camera in this superb comedy that will leave you singing from the rooftops.

23. A Thousand and One

A Thousand and One is a heartbreaking indie film about a mother's desperate effort to form a bond with her estranged son by kidnapping him from the foster care system following her stint in prison. Teyana Taylor packs an emotional punch with her crushing performance with the help of A.V. Rockwell in her feature debut as a writer-director.

22. Thanksgiving

Eli Roth's filmography in horror is a mixed record, but his latest flick Thanksgiving may be his best work yet. Not only is it a solid slasher with great over-the-top killings, its brilliantly hilarious. In a time where horror franchises can be tiresome, Thanksgiving is one that could call for a second or third helping.

21. Somewhere in Queens

TV icon Ray Romano makes his feature directorial debut in the family comedy Somewhere in Queens. He stars as the father of a promising high school basketball player who goes through perhaps desperate means to assure he lands a college scholarship. Joined by the wonderful Laurie Metcalf, Somewhere in Queens has plenty of laughs as well as plenty of heart.

20. Dream Scenario

The remarkable comeback of Nicolas Cage continues with his brilliant performance in Dream Scenario, a dark fantasy horror comedy in which he plays a college professor who inexplicably starts appearing in everyone's dreams, sparking a national phenomenon that will ultimately take a personal toll. Cage balances the absurdity of the situation his character is in with emotional heft that comes with it. This marks Norwegian filmmaker Kristoffer Borgli's first English-language film and based on how well-executed Dream Scenario is, hopefully it won't be his last.

19. The Covenant

Guy Ritchie's latest The Covenant is a heart-pounding war film based on the true story of Sgt. John Kinley's rescue effort of his Afghan interpreter Ahmed. Jake Gyllenhaal and Dar Salim make a perfect duo in this dramatic, suspenseful film that may be Ritchie's strongest work to date.

18. Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret.

Judy Blume's 1970 adolescent classic Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret. finally made its way to the big screen this year in the heartwarming coming-of-age tale of a girl's awkward journey from childhood to adulthood as well as the complexities that come from being an interfaith household. Abby Ryder Fortson shines as the titular Margaret in an outstanding performance not often seen from child actors. Also, we need more Rachel McAdams.

17. BlackBerry

Arguably the biggest surprise of 2023, BlackBerry offers some of the best laughs in the comedic retelling of the rise and fall of the iconic BlackBerry device. BlackBerry is a showcase of talent of its star Jay Baruchel, Matt Johnson (who also directed and co-wrote the film), and Glenn Howerton of It's Always Sunny fame, easily giving one of the best on-screen performances of the entire year.

16. You Hurt My Feelings

Writer-director Nicole Holofcener reunites with her Enough Said star Julia Louis-Dreyfus with You Hurt My Feelings, which centers a turbulent chapter in a couple's marriage after a novelist overhears her husband mocking her latest book. The dramedy examines the thought-provoking nuances of how fully honest one actually should be with their spouse (the answer may surprise you!). The greatest strength from Holofcener's latest is how its humor comes naturally from the reality of relationships.

15. Mission: Impossible - Dead Reckoning Part One

Mission: Impossible does the unthinkable in Hollywood: keeping a franchise in top-notch shape. Dead Reckoning Part One, the whopping *seventh* installment of the Ethan Hunt saga, delivers on a compelling plot and incredible action sequences, all of which is cemented by the star power of Tom Cruise, who has carried this spy franchise for nearly 20 years. There have been hints that Dead Reckoning may be the beginning of the end for Mission: Impossible, and if that's the case, it's going out with a bang.

14. Talk to Me

The best horror movie of 2023, Talk to Me is a chilling film about a group of teenager's ill-fated decision of doing a viral challenge of interacting with the dead, only to mistakenly leave the portal open between the living and the spirit world. What makes Talk to Me work is the family drama at the core of the film and the powerful performance from its troubled heroine Sophie Wilde.

13. Sisu

Inglorious Basterds meets Mad Max: Fury Road meets John Wick, Sisu is a WWII-era revenge action flick about a gold prospector's quest to retrieve the gold that was stolen from him from a group of Nazis. Full of brutal, bloody fight sequences with a twisted sense of humor, Sisu is one helluva ride.

12. Creed III

Creed III is a throwback to the era where Hollywood blockbusters were able to provide complete satisfaction. The latest installment of the Rocky spin-off franchise marked the strong directorial debut of its star Michael B. Jordan and also may have sadly marked the final film of the incredibly talented Jonathan Majors, whose recent assault conviction may be a knockout punch to an otherwise booming career.

11. May December

Often having vibes of a soap opera, Todd Haynes' May December is a compelling and at times disturbing film of an actress (played by Natalie Portman) who shadows the woman she's depicting in a film (played by Julianne Moore) famous for her 90s love affair with a then 13-year-old, who later became her husband. Despite the powerhouse performances from the two Oscar winners, the film really belongs to rising star Charles Melton, whose character finally comes to grips with the trauma he unknowingly endured as a child. And Melton's performance is among 2023's best.

10. Anatomy of a Fall

We don't often get great courtroom dramatic thrillers these days which is why Anatomy of a Fall really stands out. German actress Sandra Hüller gives a breakthrough performance as a wife and mother who becomes the prime suspect in what authorities believe is the murder of her husband, who had fallen to his death from the attic window. With plenty of twists and turns, Anatomy of a Fall will keep viewers guessing throughout.

9. Maestro

Not only does Bradley Cooper give the performance of his career, he has also shown his ability to direct is no fluke. Maestro, a biopic that spotlights the personal drama of legendary composer Leonard Bernstein, is a beautifully-shot, well-acted film that solidifies Cooper as one of Hollywood's newest talented filmmakers.

8. Spider-Man: Across the Spider-Verse

One would assume that a Spider-Man cartoon would solely be geared towards children but Spider-Man: Across the Spider-Verse is such a sophisticated film between its complex plot and the remarkable animation that are a continuation from its 2018 Into the Spider-Verse predecessor. Between a strong voice cast, an amazing score and a brilliant cliffhanger, Across the Spider-Verse was the shining gem of the many superhero duds 2023 had to offer.

7. Killers of the Flower Moon

At 81-years-old, legendary director Martin Scorsese hasn't lost his step with Killers of the Flower Moon, his best film in at least a decade. The crime drama is based on a true story on the 1920s murders of members of Osage Nation and its ties to the marriage Ernest Burkhart and Mollie Kyle, played by the reliably gifted Leonardo DiCaprio and powerful newcomer Lily Gladstone.

6. Saltburn

Following her strong debut with 2020's Promising Young Woman, filmmaker Emerald Fennell makes a valiant return with her twisted comedic psychological drama Saltburn, which surrounds an Oxford student who is quickly embraced by the wealthy family of a classmate and the jarring fallout as a result. Barry Keoghan (The Banshees of Irisherin, Dunkirk) proves he's more than capable of being the leading man and is joined by rich ensemble including Rosamund Pike, Jacob Elordi, Richard E. Grant and Carey Mulligan. With stunning visuals and some of the most shocking things you'll see onscreen in 2023, Saltburn is a stirring work of art.

5. The Holdovers

It's been a long time since a new Christmas movie can live up to beloved holiday classics and Alexander Payne makes the closest effort with The Holdovers, a 1970-set dramedy about a miserable teacher at a boys academy who is stuck essentially babysitting the "holdover" students who didn't go home for the holidays. Joining the always-brilliant Paul Giamatti is newcomer Dominic Sessa as his troublesome student and Da'Vine Joy Randolph, who gives a powerful Oscar-worthy performance as the cook mourning over the loss of her son. The Holdovers is the perfect film to warm your heart over the holidays this year and every year going forward.

4. Past Lives

Perhaps one of the more unsung heroes of 2023 cinema, Past Lives is a touching story about love and what if. Greta Lee stars in a breakout role as a married woman who rekindles a relationship with a childhood friend from South Korea but rather than going down the typical "will they, won't they" or "love triangle" paths this film easily could've taken, Past Lives delves into the emotional complexities with such tenderness that only writer/director Celine Song could've told (the film is semi-autobiographical).

3. Oppenheimer

If anyone knows how to make a biopic an epic, it's Christopher Nolan. Oppenheimer is essentially two films rolled into one- a tick-tock thriller about the creation of the atomic bomb as well as a political drama that J. Robert Oppenheimer endured. Cillian Murphy gives the performance of his career and leads a gigantic ensemble cast in a film that despite its 3-hour running time goes by fast. And while Barbie may have won the box office battle, Oppenheimer certain won the war in more ways than one.

2. Polite Society

Polite Society is a brilliant action comedy following an aspiring stuntwoman who believes her sister is marrying into a sinister family. In the style of a Tarantino movie, up-and-coming filmmaker Nida Manzoor makes a strong feature debut that is the epitome of a fun popcorn movie, which have been in short supply in recent years.

Poor Things

Yorgos Lanthimos has quickly risen as of the strongest filmmakers of this generation, proving so once again with his latest film Poor Things. Emma Stone gives an Oscar-worthy performance as a woman brought back to life who embarks on a journey of self-discovery and autonomy and is accompanied by an excellent supporting cast. Like a modern-day Tim Burton, Lanthimos was able to create a mesmerizing universe with incredible production design, a whimsical music score, and stunning cinematography. Going to the movies is meant to be an escape, and Poor Things perfectly encapsulates that.

[bitter-as-wormwood-13]

I feel like you could make a meme about like "Kids in interfaith households when its Chrismanukkah" but I don't even know what photo you'd add

Passeaster also happens but that one's less fun

[bookshelfmouse]

Do you think an interfaith relationship can truly work? My bf and i are in this situation and im starting to think its true that it doesnt/it takes more than i can handle sometimes

Hi, anon,

I’m not an expert on these things but I think it’s important to define what you mean by “working.” Is it avoiding arguments over faith? Constructively having conversations about faith? Simply enjoying each other’s company?

It also very much depends on how seriously each of you takes your faith. It’s easier to have an interfaith relationship when faith doesn’t really matter to one, if not both, parties. If you’re a devout & practicing member of your faith and your partner is something like a Christmas-Easter Christian, then it’s really gonna be a one faith relationship (ie, your faith). This isn’t a problem when you’re the only two affected by this difference of faith.

The real issue comes when considering marriage and children. Practically speaking, a dual faith household is a no faith household where children are concerned. Any true faith, done properly, is not an interchangeable thing. It’s a matter of the eternal. If you want your children to have faith, you must choose one faith and follow it wholeheartedly. This still will not guarantee that they stay in the faith of your choice for the rest of their lives but it gives them a much stronger start (raise up a child in the way he should go, etc.). When it comes to marriage, do each of your faiths have the same understanding of what marriage means? Do they have the same approach to sexual ethics? Marriage, whether in a faith or with no faith, is hard. Very hard. I would ask yourself if faith differences are a kind of difficulty that you are okay taking on on top of the regular set of challenges of marriage.

In my opinion (and experience), an interfaith relationship will only work out long term if (1) neither party takes their faith seriously or (2) one person converts. I would ask yourself and your boyfriend how much faith matters to each of you, and if conversion is a possibility. These are very hard questions to answer, and the outcome can be heartbreaking, I’m not gonna lie to you.

Know I’m praying for you! This is definitely not a complete answer, but my DMs are open if you want to talk more❤️

[be-gay-do-heists]

as much as i really really love hardison’s jewish speech in ep 1 of redemption, sometimes thinking about how they led into it kinda rubs me the wrong way

[apollonic]

me: im so annoyed at how pervasive xmas is in fandom, ugh

me, five minutes later: time to put up the tree!

[beaniebaneenie]

So my first testing post showed up in the tags (thank you to everyone who replied and liked!) but after I reblogged floral’s, it didn’t. 

Let’s see if this one does. 

I have so many headcanon/theory posts planned once I can post with any degree of certainty that y’all will be able to read them lol... if there’s any y’all particularly wanna hear me yell about, send me an ask!

Danny was raised in an interfaith household (Jack is Christian, Maddie is Jewish)

Danny’s eyes shifting through the ski-safety colors thingie is an indication of his power level

the Ghost Zone is actually Niflheimr, the Norse realm of the dead (and all the stuff that goes with that... like the Far Frozen being Jotunheimr)

Danny has undiagnosed ADHD that kinda goes haywire as he gets his ghost instincts

Danny was a star student before the accident, which is why Lancer rides him so hard

Danny’s ghost-eyes can see way better than human ones, and can see way more things. This has varying results on his mental state, depending on what he’s looking at.

the accident gave Danny other side effects: migraines, chronic pain, he runs cold, his metabolism is screwy from one day to the next, etc

when they were kids, Dash was Danny’s first best friend- which is one of the reasons his current behavior hurts so much

AU where the Ghost Zone is semi-sentient and very similar to the Never Land, and picked Danny as its ‘champion’, very similar to Peter Pan’s relationship with the island in the original novel

the Fentons may use technology to hunt ghosts, but it turns out that a lot of the old ways are WAY more effective (blood blossoms, iron, salt, sigils)

as part of his lower body temperature, Danny’s tastebuds are dulled... and now, he’s a HUGE fan of spicy food, because it’s food he can actually taste

if you know what you’re doing and you use the right name, Danny can be summoned... even if he’s not in ghost form. He’s not currently aware of this.

as he grows up, Phantom ages along with Danny- but there are some slight differences in appearance that keeps people from making the connection (except Wes of course)

at one point, the Fentons all go to a Packers game and Ghost Shenanigans ensue... Phantom shows up to save the day, with some interesting (and hilarious) unforeseen results

[writingwithcolor]

Hi, thank you all so much for running this blog--I was hoping I could get your feedback on a Jewish MC. The crux of my question is whether I, a gentile, would be out of line depicting her experiencing internalized discrimination from her own father (who in my first draft was Catholic, but I think that will be changing to a TBD protestant denomination).

The backstory I have for her right now is that her mother is Jewish and places great value on the history and culture of being Jewish, but is not a particularly religious person. Her daughter refers to her as having sometimes attended events at a local reform synagogue and making note of the high holidays but she is, overall, not someone with strict religious observances of any kind, and for a long time she and her husband (raised Christian but deeply agnostic) raise their daughter on the idea that it's important to understand where she and her family come from but that how she ultimately pursues faith--whatever that faith may be--is up to her. Both parents introduce her to the stories and lessons they grew up with but don't pressure her to attend religious events, etc. unless she has a personal, independent interest in doing so. For the first 16 or so years of her life this is how she's raised and her family is stable and her parents seem deeply in love. So far beta readers from households with one Jewish and one Christian parent have told me this backstory seems fine to them, though I welcome any feedback you have, too.

What I'm most concerned about, though, is when she's a teen and her parents divorce. Right now I have the reason for their divorce as being that they fell out because her dad becomes a bit of a Christian zelot and becomes less and less respectful of his wife's religion and background as he gets deeper into this mindset. The reason he becomes like that is essentially that when 9/11 happens MCs mother, who grew up with the story of how her grandparents fled from the Soviet Union because of religious discrimination under Stalin, only narrowly managing to immigrate as far as the US before the breakout of WWII, powerfully empathizes with the people suffering from the horrible rise of Islamophobia we saw in 2001-2002. Her husband, on the other hand, does what I saw a lot of people in my family and community do and becomes increasingly religiously conservative as a reaction the percieved "threat" of the Islamic world. (This is all clearly identified in the book as his being in the wrong.) One of the ways this manifests is that he starts pressuring his daughter, the MC, to attend church services with him and become Christian. His rationale is that he just wants what's best for his daughter--to be "saved."

MC's mother has no tolerance for that crap, as she shouldn't, so they fight quite a bit going forward and eventually separate. Mom gets custody of the MC.

While her father never says anything openly antisemitic--implying those ideas but never stating them explicitly--he does respond to 16 yr. old MC basically asking him if he would still love her if she pursued her mom's faith by saying some bullshit along the lines of "well honey I just love you and want the best for you," as his answer. She never says to him that she's cutting him out, but after this moment she's never close to her father again and by the time the main narrative takes place 10 years later, she hasn't spoken to him since she was 21.

This backstory helps build a foundation for a lot of themes for the MC in terms of different ways alienation manifests in her life, how she trusts, and what we can and cannot forgive our parents for, so I like it from a narrative standpoint, but I would deeply appreciate your feedback on whether writing this kind of experience for a Jewish character is inappropriate for me to be doing. And, if not, do you have any suggestions on ways to modify this backstory, or would you recommend scrapping it entirely? Thank you so much.

Interfaith family broken up when Dad becomes a jerk and a bigot

A difficult situation definitely but I don’t have a problem with the setup. If this isn’t based on your own observations, it’s probably a good idea to get a beta reader with experience around bigots of the same stripe as Dad to make sure the awful stuff Dad says uses word choices and ideas that feel authentic. If that IS your experience I am so very sorry and I hope you have other wonderful people in your life to make up for it. 

--Shira This seems very well planned, and thought out. It's also very real, and will be an emotional read I'm sure. As long as your character isn't forced to give up her Jewishness because of her father, and provided that you are careful during fight scenes between the parents earlier in the work (to ensure that the mom doesn't end up seeming like the Shrill Jewish Woman stereotype), I think you are on solid ground. Good luck!

--Dierdra

Also, I just caught that you said "internalized discrimination" from her dad -- that's not what internalized discrimination means. Internalized discrimination is when someone is feeling negatively about their own group, because they've absorbed bigoted ideas from outside. Discrimination from someone who isn't yourself isn't called “internalized” even when it comes from someone as close as a parent. But that's just a little language correction.

--Shira

Oh no, this backstory is so sad! I hope your MC has a happy ending with some very mutually supportive relationships.

I agree that this shouldn't be a problem as long as you take care to avoid stereotypes on a more micro level in specific scenes. As for the overall idea, nothing jumping out at me. You've clearly put so much effort into creating a believable background for your character and its influence on her current psyche - that gives me confidence that you will write humanised characters rather than falling back on tropes!

Also, don't know if you knew this but something to note with interfaith families: if MC's mother is Jewish, she is a Jew in Jewish law. It doesn't matter what she believes or practises or how she was brought up. (I don't say this to invalidate patrilineal Jews or oppose anyone self-identifying the way they want, but just halachically. You should be aware that many more religious Jews will consider her that way.)

Good luck with your story! I would read this 😌

--Shoshi

[bintturaab]

I live in a country with a Muslim population of 95% and this is an Islamic town for you. Schools here are not well educated and raise stupid herds. as well as preventing institutions trying to provide Islamic education. They shut down independent Islamic non-governmental organizations trying to do so and accuse their managers of even being members of a terrorist organization. what do you say about this. in schools they force our children to prostrate before an idol. If you don't want to send your child to that school, the state will confiscate your child and they will never let you meet. think about this

I'm very much familiar with this situation, but what makes you think darul kufr is any better? I personally know of sisters whose children have been confiscated from them and given to non-muslim household to be raised by kuffar. A muslim child. Being raised by kuffs to prevent radicalisation. And I know more than one sis who suffered from this. I know sisters, and these are good friends of mine who live in the West, one was threatened with her siblings being taken away and the other was threatened with her children being taken away. And the schools in the west from a very very early age indoctrinate lgbtq+ values and interfaith and other such nonsense and if the parents show any kind of protest, children are threatened to be taken away. Not to mention I know a sis who kind of got into trouble for having surah tawbah on her phone? And many other sisters were physically attacked for their hijab. I don't understand the point you're trying to make. You seriously think life in darul kufr is better? How? I'm not saying Muslim populated countries are ideal. Some are worse than others. Like Saudi, its hostility towards muwahhideen is astonishing, and the length that they would go to for spying, surveillance and sting ops as well. Many other such "Muslim" nations are also problematic, I'm not denying that. Like the situation you mentioned. But that means that you find another alternative place, and if it's possible for you to shift, you do so. Because then at least you'd be living amongst the muslimeen and not kuffaar. This is a grave matter in the Shari'ah that people need to start taking seriously.

Surah An-Nisaa, Verse 97:

{Indeed, those whom the angels take [in death] while wronging themselves -  [the angels] will say, "In what [condition] were you?" They will say, "We were oppressed in the land." The angels will say, "Was not the earth of Allah spacious [enough] for you to emigrate therein?" For those, their refuge is Hell -  and evil it is as a destination.}

“This noble ayah is general for everyone who resides amongst the polytheists while he is able to make Hijrah and he is not able to perform his Deen, and so, he is wronging himself and committing something forbidden by Ijmaa’ and by the explicit evidence of this ayah.” 

[Tafsir Ibn Kathir, 2/343, and Ibn Ateeq, Ad-Difaa, p. 13.]

The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:

“I am not responsible for any Muslim who stays among polytheists.” They asked: ‘Why, Apostle of Allah?’ He said: ‘Their fires should not be visible to one another’, and he (saws) said, “Whoever joins the polytheists and lives with them then he is like them” and he (saws) said: “Migration will not end until repentance ends, and repentance will not end until the sun rises in the West.” 

[Al-Musnad, Vol.4/99, Abu Dawud, Kitab al-Jihad, Vol.3/7, Hadith 2479, and ad-Darami, Kitab as-Siyyar, Vol.2/239. Albani classifies it as Sahih. See: Sahih al-Ja’mi’ as-Sagheer, Vol.6/186, Hadith 7346]

Ash-Shawkaanee (رحمه الله) said:

“The statement, “…then he is like them,” is evidence for the prohibition of residing with the Kuffar and the obligation of separating oneself from them. Even though the Scholars have discussed the authenticity of this Hadith, the statement of Allah testifies to its authenticity: 'Then sit not with them, until they engage in a talk other than that; (but if you stayed with them) certainly in that case you would be like them.' (an Nisa: 140) 

[Nayl al-Awtaar” (8/177)]

The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: 

“I have nothing to do with any Muslim who settles among the mushrikeen.” 

[Sunan Abi Dawood (2274) and is a Sahih hadith, al-Irwaa’, 5/30]

‘Abdullah Ibn ‘Umar (رضي الله عنه) said:

“Whoever settles amongst the disbelievers, celebrates their feasts and joins in their revelry and dies in their midst will likewise be raised to stand with them on the Day of Resurrection.” 

[Ibn Taymiyyah said in his book: Iqtidha’ as-Sifat alMustaqeem, p.200, that the chain of narration of this Hadith is Sahih]

Shaykh ul Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (رحمه الله) said:

“The state of a place reflects the state of a person. It is possible to be sometimes a Muslim and at other times a disbeliever; sometimes sincere and at other times hypocritical; sometimes good and pious and at other times rotten and corrupt. Thus, a person becomes like the place of his abode. The migration of a person from a land of disbelief and profanity to one of faith and probity is an expression of repentance and of his turning away from disobedience and perversion to belief and obedience. This is so until the Day of Resurrection.”

[Majmu’al-Fatawa, 18/284]

Ibn Hazm (رحمه الله) said:

“Whoever joins the ‘land of war’ and disbelief, of his own free will and in defiance of whoever amongst the Muslims calls him to his side, is by virtue of this act an apostate, by all the laws of apostasy, in Islam. Whoever is able to kill him must do so. His property is unprotected, his marriage null and void, all his rights are swept away.

But whoever flees to the ‘land of war’ for fear of oppression, who neither opposes the Muslims in anything nor bears any malice towards them, and who was not able to find any refuge among the Muslims, is free of any guilt since he was compelled to leave.

As for someone who takes the Muslims as his enemies, offering his help and his service to the disbelievers, he is a disbeliever. But those who would emigrate to non-Muslim lands in search of wealth or prosperity to live under their protection, while they were able to go to live amongst the Muslims in their own land, but still do not withdraw themselves from the disbelievers; such people are not far from the fold of disbelief, and we can find no possible excuse for them, so we ask Allah’s Forgiveness.”

[Al-Muhalla’: Vol. 13/139-140]

Al-Hassan Ibn Salih (رحمه الله) said:

“Whoever remains in the land of the enemy, will be treated like the disbelievers, so long as he was able to join the Muslims but did not do it. If one of the disbelievers accepts Islam, but still remains with the disbelievers, even though he was able to go to join the Muslims, he is to be treated like them; neither his blood nor his property will be protected.” 

[Al-Jasaas, Ahkam al-Qur’an, Vol. 3/216]

[saprophetic]

Just saw a trailer for a hallmark movie while my grandma was watching the Waltons, and the main character was like. "I just got my test back, and I found out" or something like that and "that im 50% jewish!" And then I see a bunch of Christmas and Hanukkah decorations mishmash together before my grandma changed the channel.

im very much not trying to be a killjoy because its cool to have jewish stuff thats kind of. breaking thru the mainstream xtian hegemony and im sorry this comes off as me being an asshole bc thats super not my intention

firstly i Understand why so many chanukah movies involve xmas and interfaith families do exist (my household for instance celebrates the jewish holidays as well as xmas) but i am Extremely tired of chanukah movies that... heavily involve xmas. i just want, like, one thing that is Only For The Jews. give us a chanukah movie that has absokutely no xtians At All. give us a fuckin rosh hashanah movie, thats a more important holiday! or better yet, give us a PURIM movie holy shit that would be fun!!! im just tired of xmas saturating literally everything.

and on like a more serious note, dna testing to "prove" jewishness is very much something that like. ultra orthodox jews in israel do to claim that converts (as well of joc) arent "really" jewish. and like i know that for a lot of people, finding out that theyre jewish can be very exciting and im happy for them! but pushing judaism as something you can only practice if youre "really" jewish biologically (which i have a lot of thoughts about that but am in too much pain to make coherent) is very much something thats done to discredit converts and jews of color (and especially black jews) so every time i see something about it my hackles go up

[narraboths]

harley quinn is canonically from an interfaith household and celebrates hanukkah but none of the adaptions ever mention that? it's something canon in the comics that just, very rarely makes it out of the comics

its the antisemitism

[yoiea-blog]

The meaning, purpose and types of Marriages

Marriage is a union of two individuals. It is important because it lays a good platform for parenting. Many people marry because they want to have kids so that they can continue with their lineage. However, there are other exceptions that might not allow procreation based on the set up of the marriage. Therefore, understanding different types of marriages is very essential because you get to be exposed ion what is happening around you and it can also influence your decision on the type of marriage that you want.

There are several marriages in different parts of the world. This is based on customs and religions. Others are based on civilization and the classes of people. All this has contributed to the development of various types of marriages. These marriages vary in most aspects. The concept of marriage involves mutual understanding and some cultural and religious influence. People marry for different reasons and times. There are different types of marriages as we shall see later in this article.

In the olden day, marriage was so simple. This was because a man and a woman would only marry and the woman would perform the household chores and the man would take the work of providing for the family. It was clearly defined by the norms and beliefs. The functions were structurally assigned based on the status of both genders. Some other practices were perceived to be taboo. However, those days are gone. The modern generation has taken the whole concept of marriage to a different level. They have come up with different types of marriages based on their lifestyle. Therefore, bt the end of this article you will get to know the different types of marriages which are applicable in the current society. Read on and find out.

Civil marriage

This is a type of marriage that is recognized by the state. It is majorly officiated by the government officials. It is a legal marriage that should meet some legal procedures because you are provided with the marriage certificate by the state. It is one of the most known marriages and most people prefer this type of marriage. It is popular in most countries and all legal institutions are allowed by their respective institutions to legalize such a marriage. It is also practiced by a good number of people in various parts of the world especially the elite members of the society. The couple always goes to the office dealing with the marriage and some witnesses will be required. In case of any issues within this marriage, you can go to the court of law and present the documents to the judge as some evidence. However, in such a marriage divorce is allowed because both partners have an equal right to file a divorce.

Religious marriage

This is a marriage that is based on religion. Since there are various religions in the state, this implies that each religion will be doing their marriage as per their religious ways. This is a marriage that is majorly done in religious places and it is made official by the religious leaders. This is the marriage that will require the partners to go to the religious leaders and a religious ceremony is performed. Most of these marriages require some witness and some always present the couple with the marriage certificate. Different religions have different ways of performing their marriages. Islam for instance permits polygamy which allows the man to marry even up to five wives. On the other hand, Christians practice a monogamous type of marriage whereby a man should marry only one woman. Additionally, divorce is not allowed because they are bound by a mutual agreement.

Interfaith marriage

There is social diversification in the society which has enhanced interactions beyond religious beliefs which have led to interfaith marriages. In this type of marriage, there might be a need for one partner to convert to the other religion so that they can have a common religious platform to avoid conflicts of interest. However, If you can’t convert, then you can choose to marry but both of you can pursue your respective religions. The challenge comes when it comes to raising your kids, you will have to decide on the religion that you will use as the base of raising your kids. Converting might be a challenge since one might be in love with the religion they were raised on. If one converts or if you choose to live with your varied religions, then this is still an interfaith marriage so long as two religions are involved. This type of marriage is gaining popularity in several parts of the world because of civilization and the need to achieve unity. Therefore, those practicing interfaith marriage should prioritize their love more than their religious background. There has been a different perception of this type of marriage because of external influence from friends and relatives.

Monogamous marriage

This is among the most popular types of marriage that you will come across. It allows a man to stick to one spouse for a lifetime. The only way you can end this marriage is by divorce. Without divorce, then the only thing that will separate you is only death. This is one of the marriages that is known by a good number of people. It is also a marriage that requires a lot of commitment from the two partners. Trust should be the basis of this marriage. You will realize that the concept of monogamous is borrowed by other types of marriages like religious marriages. In this generation, it is perceived to be the most viable option because most people prefer small and manageable families.

Polygamous marriage

I can term this type of marriage as the opposite of monogamous. In this type of marriage, you will have more than one spouse. It is termed by some people as the plural marriage. This is the marriage that is seen by many as a thing of the past. But some cultures still encourage this type of marriage. In some places, this marriage is always against the law. It is not a popular marriage this day since most people prefer having small families. In this marriage, there is a polyandry type of marriage. This is when a woman is married to two men. Though this is always a rare thing, it is practiced in some parts of the world. Some religions like Islam allow polygamy because they have a different ideology about marriage. The bottom line of polygamous marriage is procreation. It emphasizes having more children. Its popularity is slowly fading away as a result of increased civilization and the cost of living which makes it hard to sustain such a marriage.

Secret marriage

Just as the term suggests, this marriage has some secrecy in it. It is a marriage that the family members are kept hidden in the marriage. The might be some reasons why the spouses choose to keep the family from knowing the union. This brings in the idea of a secret marriage. It is majorly done as civil marriage but some religions which might allow the marriage. In this marriage, the spouses may also choose to marry each other secretly and later choose to celebrate the union with the family and friends. This might be the reason that the couple wanted to keep the special moment to them. Another reason might be due to financial challenges. The spouses might not be ready to spend big for the wedding so they choose to have a secret marriage. Most people who practice this type of marriage prefer a minimalistic lifestyle which is hidden from the public domain

Left-handed marriage

The term might seem like two left-handed people getting married. However, it is a union between two people who belong to different social ranking. It is also termed as the morganatic marriage. It was common in the olden day when there were social ranks and people from the same class never encouraged marriage with people from another class. In this type of marriage, the spouse of the lower rank will not enjoy the privileges of the person of the higher rank. I believe that this was meant to remind the spouse with a lower rank than he or she was not part of that higher rank. In our current society, this marriage has lost meaning this is because people marry because of love these days. This has eroded the social classing that was there in the olden days.

Mixed marriage

This is a type of marriage that involves two people from different races. In the past, this type of marriage was not allowed and some laws were against this type of marriage. In current society, this marriage is allowed. But there is still some resistance that comes from the people. This is because the parents or friends might not allow the marriage. This marriage requires spouses to learn other person religions and also cultures. This is to avoid conflicts after the marriage. It is also advisable to get to this type of marriage open-mindedly. This will benefit the spouses since these two people have different culture and their lifestyle. If you are I this type of marriage then it will be good for you to understand your partner to live in harmony. This type of marriage has also enhanced unity between different races because it advocates loving beyond your boundaries. This helps in creating a conducive social environment that accommodates people from all races without feeling like they are outcast. However, its popularity is still low but based on increased social interactions there is a possibility that it will gain good ground and you might witness more of it in the future.

Same-sex marriage

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This is a marriage between the same genders. This type of marriage is not allowed in most countries but some countries have allowed this type of marriage. The base of this marriage is the existence of lesbianism and also gays. This has led to the introduction of the same gender marriage. Though most cultures do not allow this type of marriage, it still exists. This marriage has faced lots of rejections because it is perceived to be against social norms. It is not popular and some countries have banned it by enforcing strict laws on those who are found engaging in such a marriage.

Love marriage

This is a common type of marriage in the current society. This is because most people marry because of love. This has led to the introduction of love marriage and it is a common type of marriage. This type of marriage can fit in the other categories because love is the major cause of marriages in our current society. I must acknowledge that people marry for different reasons. Some are based on a specific period while others marry because of money and other privileges.

Arranged marriage

This is a marriage that has been arranged by other people. The couples will just settle in after the marriage has been arranged based on several reasons. Maybe the families involved might want to benefit from the marriage. Another possible cause of this marriage might be the reason one might be having challenges of finding the right spouse. This makes the family intervene and find a spouse on behalf of him or her. A professional matchmaker might be involved in an arranged marriage. If the two people do not match then the marriage might not proceed. Some dating apps provide matchmaking. This marriage might seem like a forced marriage but it is not because there might be an understanding between the two people and also the families. This type of marriage has some basic dynamics that are based on it. The couples who succeed in this type of marriage are those that had a perfect match based on their goals, ambitions, and lifestyle

Zombie marriage

Are You Living In A Zombie Marriage?

In this type of marriage, you are still married but the truth is that the love and the bond you once had are long gone. In this marriage, you might still be appearing to the family having some time with the family but that love and bond between the spouses are gone. Sometime you might wonder why you are still married to each other. The reason might be the children that you two have. This might be the reason you haven’t divorced. In this type of marriage, you might be stuck on the old routine but the bond is not there. The good thing in this marriage is that there might still be a chance to get back to where you were before. You can choose to rebuild the relationship and have the best out of it. This is when you two choose to have the best out of your marriage. There might be several reasons that made you get to where you are and this can be turned over. In this marriage, the spouses might have had a great relationship and that love that holds the relationship together, but due to some reasons the bond faded and you arrived at this stage.

Hot and cold marriage

This is a marriage that I can term it as unstable. You might love one another like the recently married couples and the next day you will be fighting like two enemies. This marriage can be due to some small conflict or the failure to understand your spouse. In this marriage, the best thing you can do is being mindful of the other person. Have a proper way of communicating and also try to understand the spouse well. This is the marriage that has different moods every single day. Find a way to express yourself as you try to consider the feelings of your spouse and also the other person’s attitude. This marriage might be due to some failure to understand each other or maybe you two have different beliefs.

The bossy marriage

This is the type of marriage that one person takes control of everything. There is some kind of bossy attitude rather than a union. The boss in the marriage always plans everything that has to be done in the house. These people don’t give their partners a chance to express their views. You normally find these people like the ever right ones. They just see like their decision is right and it is always final. This is the marriage that one might look like a subject to another.

Marriages are the basis of social institutions that forms a family. Well, different marriages are being practiced globally as you have seen in this article. All these marriages have something in common. They are based on mutual understanding. Marriages have undergone some transition from the early days during such modern times. There have been significant changes in the way these marriages are being conducted. However, divorce is also getting rampant nowadays because people fail to understand that marriage is vital in society. Therefore, before you consider getting married to your partner irrespective of the type of marriage that you will prefer it is important to take time and know the merits and demerits of each marriage so that you are not bound by an agreement with which you will find it hard to cope with.

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[nerdygaymormon]

so, my boyfriend and i have been together for a long time. recently, ive gotten into religion. but, religion makes him uncomfortable. we really do love each other, but i dont know how to make this work. im honestly at the point where im on the verge of just.. dropping religion, because he means so much more to me. but idk ! its a messy situation.

Having the same religious beliefs, or non-beliefs, helps couplesbecause it’s one less thing that has to be negotiated and worked out. Even so, there arelots of interfaith couples who make things work. Studies show that there isn’tmuch difference between people who are in the same religion and people are arein mixed-faith marriages when it comes to arguing about religion.

Religion is just one of many thousands of factors thatdetermine if a couple stays together or splits. There’s lots of things todiscuss, like money, homes, family connections, household duties. Religiousbeliefs and practices are one more.

Part of religion is how you spend your time, your money andhow to raise the children (assuming one day you have some together). These aren’tissues that come up once, get resolved, and then put away. Instead these thingscome up throughout the course of a relationship.

1)     Don’t have one conversation and then “agreeto disagree.” Religious involvement is something important to you and so shouldbe something you discuss as you share your life together. In fact, the part ofyou that draws you to religion is part of what he loves about you, it’s a partof your personality.

2)     Actions speak louder than words. I see coupleswhere one doesn’t believe but still supports their spouse by being involved.Helps with the scouting program or making breakfast for an activity and so on.

3)     People change and the key is to hold on tight toeach other as you each change. Make maintaining a good relationship a top goal. To think that the person you fell in love with won’t change over the years is unrealistic. Treat each other well.

4)     Continue to discuss what is going on in your lives and things that are important to each of you.Focus on listening and understanding them, they should also work to understandwhy religion means something to you. Don’t assume you know where he’s comingfrom or what he believes, ask them. While you discuss differences, also focus on areasof connection, the values you have in common.

5)     Some say a relationship isa series of compromises, but I like thinking of it as a collaboration, a thing you each buildtogether. Discuss your differences and then find ways to bea team, to work together. Arguing about who is right or that you both have tofeel the same about everything turns the relationship into a giant tug-of-war

6)     Be respectful of each other and avoid judgement.Don’t decide you’re partner is not “saved” because they don’t believe and they shouldn’t think of you as areligious fanatic. There’s room for differences. In fact,the differences opens each of you to new things and there are waysthe differences complement each other.

7)      A big part of being involved in a religion is the experience of it. That’s something a person who isn’t religious may not initially understand. I’m not saying you can’t discuss theology & theories, but I think for your partner to understand why this matters to you, you should share about the relationships, the things that bring meaning to you. For example, how singing in the choir helps you feel united with others and feel a connection to something holy. Helping make a casserole for someone who is having a hard time helps strengthen the feeling you belong to a community of caring people.

8)     Give it some time, you won’t have it all figuredout at once. Just like other things in a relationship, it takes time to figureout and find a balance.