#it's not only ruining someone's health but risking their life and putting a toll on their future

[balkanradfem]

So fucked up and cruel for m*n to impregnate women. How could you do that to a person.

[merioux]

im gonna be honest nobody in the ostc fucking likes me asides from my friends since a little something happened and it somewhat crapped down my "reputation" i guess. i need to come over that aand accept that if it wasnt over my designs and art id be given a weird look 24/7. lol. someone tried ruining my chances of being a guest artist of something just because we dont like eachother and someone else ripped off my oc because we dont like eachother people want me gone ahhhhhhhh i wish i could completely migrate to the lisa fandom but im a bit too young for that rn, atleast in my own opinion. i dont want to risk it taking a toll on my mental health considering lisa is one hell of a game LOL. i love this game but id prefer waiting that im a bit older to make it the "only" thing idk how to put it in words??? im bad at explainig aghhhhhh; i genuinely cant believe the community of a game so life ruining has been way nicer to me than a community of trading fucking objects with limbs like pokemon cards. idont really care anymore but its sad ppl dont really like me alot, however im glad ppl like my lisa stuff though i feel happier focusig on that and my friends an drawing . ah

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[bokubonk]

your name

warnings: hurt/comfort, angst, insecurity, cursing

characters: Tanaka x gn!reader, Saeko

date: 04/11/21

word count: 1.6k+

It was Friday and you were heading to the convenience store to buy snacks for your weekly movie night with Tanaka. It was something you looked forward to all week considering he was the one you liked and these movie nights gave you hope that maybe he liked you back. After all, he never invited anyone else to them and they always led to you falling asleep in his arms, which he never protested to. 

It had been going on for a long time now since the two of you were childhood friends but over the years your feelings developed and now, you held onto the hope that the hours the two of you spent together meant something more. 

You walked with a bounce in your step, quickly picking out your favorite snacks, knowing the two of you had similar tastes. You rushed to pay for everything and quickly hurried out the door, wanting to be there to greet him once he came home after practice. 

He always scolded you for waiting out in the cold when you could be waiting inside but you wanted to be the first one to welcome him home so you always waited. For you, it was worth the risk of getting sick. 

You leaned against the wall, hands fumbling with the straps of your bag. It was getting colder and you were a little worried that something had happened. Normally, he got home within fifteen minutes of you being there but it had been almost forty five minutes and he had yet to show up. 

With furrowed brows you decided to knock on the door, hoping that maybe Tanaka had been told to stay behind to practice and your expression brightened when you saw Saeko.

“Oh? Y/n, what are you doing here?” she inquired, her voice raspy and her cheeks flushed from what appeared to be a cold. “Did he not text you?”

Your smile dropped and your chest tightened.

“What do you mean?” 

You nervously gripped the bag of food in your hand, reaching into your pocket to pull out your phone.

Your eyes widened when you saw the message on the screen that had clearly been sent hours ago. 

I’m going on a date tonight so I gotta cancel movie night. I promise I’ll make it up to you.

“Oh,” you murmured, blinking away your tears. She stared at you with pity in her eyes and you put on your best smile, hoping she wouldn’t be able to see through the cracks. 

“I guess I’ll just head home then. Have a good night,” you said, struggling to keep your voice steady. “It’s getting late so you should stay inside and rest,” you handed over the bag of snacks, “I know it’s not going to do much for your cold but you should eat these if you’re hungry.”

She shook her head, her eyes full of concern and she went back inside to grab her keys. “C’mon, I’ll drive you home. It’s not right for you to be out so late at night without anyone with you.”

You shook your head.

“It’s okay. It’s not that far of a walk anyway. I’ll be alright.”

“That brother of mine may be an idiot but I know how much you mean to him. I just don’t understand what he thinks he’s doing, going out on a date with someone else.”

You let out a laugh, “Yeah, I guess that makes two of us.”

It wasn’t a surprise that Saeko was sympathizing with you, considering how obvious your feelings were for her brother. Often, you saw her winking at you whenever she would spot the two of you cuddling in his room. Anyone could see how you felt about him if they looked hard enough but you figured you didn’t matter enough to Tanaka for him to realize you were in love with him. 

Perhaps this was your time to let go of him. Maybe this was fate’s way of saying you should give up. 

You let out a bitter laugh and steeled your nerves for what was to come. But you were comforted with the thought that at least he would be happy with whoever he went out with tonight even though you wished with all your heart that it was you. 

By the time you came home, you were no longer in the mood to eat anything, your thoughts so preoccupied with who he was on a date with. 

What did they look like? Did they make him smile? 

You laid awake, thinking about all these possibilities and you hated yourself for it. You hated yourself for still holding on even though you promised to let him go. 

It certainly didn’t help that you had the weekend to dwell on your thoughts and it was taking a toll on your health. Your dark circles were more prominent and with Monday coming up you weren’t sure how you would face him. 

So you did the next best thing and decided to avoid him at all costs, walking the other way whenever you saw him in the halls. You wondered if he even remembered you were missing from his life but from the goofy smile on his face whenever you stumbled into his path, you figured you had been forgotten. 

It hurt to know that after so many years, you had been so easily forgotten but you were glad that at least he found someone who made him happy. 

But when Friday came, your plans to ignore him went down the drain when you saw him waiting for you after class ended. You tried pushing past him and pretending you hadn’t seen him but he only came after you, grabbing you by your wrist and dragging you into an empty classroom to talk. 

“What’s going on?” he demanded, “Why are you ignoring me?”

When you only responded with your silence he let out a sigh, “If it’s because of movie night then I promise I’ll never cancel on you ever again. The date sucked anyway.”

“I don’t want to hear about your date, Ryu,” you replied, trying your best to ignore the tight feeling in your chest.

“Hey, hey, why are you crying? I said I’m sorry. Do you want me to take you shopping to make it up to you? We can have movie night every night if you want, anything, please just stop crying.”

You could tell he was desperate, but you were too hurt to allow things to go back to the way they were before. It had been too long that you allowed yourself to have feelings for him when you clearly knew he didn’t feel the same. After all, if he did then why would he go on a date with someone else.

“It’s fine. We don’t need to have any more movie nights. I’m getting pretty busy anyway. I’m sure you have to practice late too. You should prioritize volleyball.”

You kept your voice steady even with the tears streaming down your cheeks but that only made him more frustrated. Tanaka knew you were upset but unlike before, now you were refusing to forgive him and he was worried that he had fucked it all up and this would be the moment he lost you.

“What the fuck, y/n? Why are you being like this? I already apologized. What more do you want from me?”

He didn’t mean to be so forceful with his words but your cold demeanor worried him and he was desperate to bring things back to the way they were. 

“I want you to love me,” you sobbed, unable to bear putting up a front any longer. “But I know you don’t and I’m trying to let you go so please just leave me alone.”

His eyes widened and his jaw dropped. “Who the fuck said I didn’t love you?” 

“You went out on that date,” you sniffled.

“Yeah? Were you jealous?” he asked, his voice soft. He cursed himself for making you cry but he couldn’t hold back the affection in his voice now that he knew you felt the same. Tanaka only wished he had known earlier or he would have never wasted his time going on a date with someone else. 

“Of course I was,” you scoffed, “You don’t see me going on dates with anyone else so why would you go out with someone else if you had feelings for me.”

“Because I was trying to get over you and I didn’t want to ruin our friendship,” he admitted, lowering his head in a sort of bow. Now that he thought about it, he realized just how stupid he was and he hated himself for ever thinking it was a good idea in the first place. “But I ended up fucking myself over anyway because the date sucked and you started ignoring me.”

“I wasn’t ignoring you,” you muttered while he lifted his head and quirked an eyebrow at you. You rolled your eyes and he gently took your face between his calloused hands so you couldn’t look away. 

“Hey, y/n,” he murmured, his eyes bright. “Ask me why the date sucked.”

You furrowed your brows, unsure but you followed his command anyway.

“Why did your date suck?”

“Because it wasn’t with you,” he replied, leaning closer until he was inches away and you were a hairsbreadth away from kissing. “You were all I could think about and it got to the point where I accidentally called them by your name.”

“Now, tell me. Can I finally do the honors of taking you out on a date?” he questioned.

“Yeah,” you answered, your breathing hitching as he closed the distance between the two of you.

“Good, because I wasn’t going to take no for an answer.”

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[nanatsumu]

📞 RENT A BOYFRIEND

03. a heart to hold

akaashi smiled at your texts before shutting off his phone and softly throwing it onto his mattress, watching as the device lands safely without rebounding onto the ground before continuing to brush his teeth.

you and akaashi went to the same university together: he was a sophmore majoring in english, while you were a freshman majoring in human physiology at the time.

you were still getting used to the campus and how to get to all your classes, and there was also the challenge of adjusting to the bustling city of tokyo since you grew up in the countryside basically your entire life. even before you moved to hyogo during your middle school years, you lived in miyagi which wasn’t too different from hyogo so you were quick to adjust to your new home.

so when you were looking for your seminar class, you didn’t realize you walked into the wrong class until the professor had called you out. you knew he didn’t mean to embarrass you since he was just doing his job, but it didn’t help that the class had over 200 people occupying the room and it seemed like all eyes were on you.

blood rushed to your cheeks as you muttered a quick apology before running out of the classroom as fast as you could.

coincidentally, akaashi had watched this scene unfold from the 10th row of the classroom and it was only when his friend had pointed it out that he realized the corners of his lips formed a smile on his face.

the university you guys attended was fairly populated so he doubted you two would ever run into each other again, but then the universe seemed to have other plans for akaashi because on one fateful day, he saw you sitting by the window at the cafe he had been going to for a while now. with his easygoing personality, akaashi was able to strike up conversation with you when he walked up to you and asked if you were the girl who walked into the wrong classroom a few days ago.

he found your flustered expression cute and from there on out you two grew closer and closer as time passed. akaashi was your rock and the person who stood by your side through thick and thin. slowly, he taught you what it meant to be loved again— but still scarred from your previous relationship with suna you weren’t sure if you could open your heart up to another, so you decided to push these feelings away and you weren’t even sure if your feelings for akaashi would be reciprocated anyways.

but you also remembered that one time (a few weeks after you met akaashi) when he introduced you to his close friend bokuto and when the energetic male had asked if you were his girlfriend, akaashi joked around and said you were but then quickly dismissed it with a wave of his hand. you didn’t think too much about it then, but when his touches on you started to linger for a second longer than it should’ve, you started to have some hope that maybe your friendship could blossom into something more.

but all of that hope suddenly came crashing down one day when you overheard his conversation with bokuto on the phone during one of your friday movie nights.

you didn’t mean to eavesdrop, but when you heard bokuto asking akaashi what his feelings for you were, you thought that maybe you could spare to be ‘asleep’ for a few more minutes. but you soon regretted your decision because anything could have been better than hearing the words ‘i could’ve never like her like that, she’s like a sister to me’ fall from his lips. and that was the moment you decided that you would never allow anybody else into your heart ever again, because it seems like every time you think that you found the right guy, you’re always left alone to pick up the pieces of your broken heart.

you shuffle around a bit which alarms akaashi, but just as he is about to apologize for waking you up, he realizes that you’re still asleep and lets out a sigh of relief before noticing that a piece of hair fell over your face.

he leans in closer and brushes the stray lock out of your eyes, allowing his gaze on you to linger for a bit longer. he knows it’s wrong for him to take advantage of you like this while you’re asleep, but he can’t help but close whatever gap is left in between you two and capture your lips in for a chaste kiss. and unbeknownst to the ravenette, this action only further broke your heart and added confusion into the mix because who would kiss someone who is like a sister to them?

after that day, you took it upon yourself to set an invisible border between you and akaashi because you weren’t sure if you could handle all of these mixed signals he was sending you anymore. akaashi wasn’t blind either, he was the setter of a powerhouse school back in high school which meant he had keen observation skills, so it didn’t take him long before he realized that you were distancing yourself from him a bit more than usual. although there wasn’t a huge change in your behavior, akaashi noticed that whenever he would scoot the tiniest amount closer to you, you would always widen that distance between you two double the amount. and this upset akaashi because you were always so intent on being as close to him as possible, so why were you only drifting farther away from him?

and to this day, you managed to keep your feelings at bay and not act upon them in fear of getting rejected. you would have confronted akaashi about the kiss, but you didn’t have the guts to. you didn’t want to ruin whatever you had going on with akaashi because you read the signals wrong. who knows? maybe he got a little tipsier than usual that night and wasn’t thinking straight— that would explain why he kissed you despite his protests of you being just a friend.

you were content with your friday movie nights night where you two would snuggle up on the couch and watch a rerun of your favorite movie. and you were content with him randomly showing up to your apartment with a bag of take out in his hand because he noticed you were looking a bit more fatigued that day so he wanted to stop by and make sure you were doing okay.

so why should you be greedy and try to ask akaashi for more of him? he was already a good friend and was the one who had helped you to decide whether or not you should switch majors because human physiology had been taking a toll on your mental health.

you figured akaashi would want to focus more on his career rather than hold himself back with a girlfriend, so not wanting to put your friendship with the stoic male at risk, you opted to staying silent about your growing feelings for akaashi until those feelings would fade away into nothing more than a platonic crush.

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༄ next: spotted in the ice cream aisle

++ A/N: i feel like there might be a little bit of confusion with this chapter so i will head straight into the explanation:

(P.S THIS IS A CHAPTER SOLELY DEDICATED TO EXPLAINING AKAASHI AND Y/N’S FRIENDSHIP) akaashi and y/n are best friends who met in university after y/n graduated fresh out of high school. they started off as friends but slowly y/n started to harbor romantic feelings towards akaashi since they started spending a lot of time together. it was only until akaashi was on the phone with bokuto that one night that y/n realized that the romantic gestures akaashi had been doing for her were only platonic because “she is like a sister to him.” and this is where things get tricky!! the only reason why akaashi said that was because y/n was sleeping on the couch and akaashi was sitting right next to her so he didn’t want to outright say “oh i have feelings for y/n” since he didn’t want to risk you actually being awake and hearing him confess his feelings to you indirectly. so this is where things also get confusing for y/n because even though she heard akaashi say that she was just a friend with her own ears, he keeps giving her mixed signals by doing stuff a boyfriend would do. time skip to present time: akaashi and y/n are still best friends and y/n is able to act normal around him since her feelings for him finally died down (but she still has some lingering feelings for him) whereas akaashi.... we’ll get to him later because this can serve as a potential catalyst for angst in the future hehehehe....

+ also this whole thing correlates to the first chapter where y/n and her friend group are introduced because she mentioned how she “wasn’t ready for any one other than herself to hold her heart” and that applies to suna and akaashi because first of all: she was heartbroken after finding out that suna cheated on her with her best friend so anyone would be traumatized by that. and second of all: even though akaashi and her aren’t necessarily ‘together’ she still got heartbroken because he was the only other guy she ever liked in her life and she got rejected before she could even confess. so that’s why y/n is so defensive about the ordeal kuroo got her into because she’s just scared of getting hurt again :((

++ and also they are no longer in university since they both graduated already and are very responsible (cough) working adults :)) so most of the scenes in this chapter are things that happened while they were students which explains why y/n is able to not be as cautious around akaashi anymore since a lot of time has passed since then

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[netflixaddictedd]

today a football player came out as gay. We don't know who he is because he didn't feel comfortable in stating his identity, we just know that he plays in premier league. This is the letter that he wrote:

"As a kid, all I ever wanted to be was a footballer. I wasn’t interested in doing well at school. Instead of doing homework, every spare minute I had was spent with a ball. In the end it paid off. But even now I still have to pinch myself when I run out and get to play each week in front of tens of thousands of people. However there is something that sets me apart from most of the other players in the Premier League. I am gay. Even writing that down in this letter is a big step for me. But only my family members and a select group of friends are aware of my sexuality. I don’t feel ready to share it with my team or my manager. That’s hard. I spend most of my life with these guys and when we step out on the pitch we are a team. But still, something inside me makes it impossible for me to be open with them about how I feel. I dearly hope one day soon I will be able to. I’ve known since I was about 19 that I was gay. How does it feel having to live like this?Day-to-day, it can be an absolute nightmare. And it is affecting my mental health more and more. I feel trapped and my fear is that disclosing the truth about what I am will only make things worse. So, although my heart often tells me I need to do it my head always says the same thing: “Why risk it all?” I am lucky enough to earn a very good wage. I have a nice car, a wardrobe full of designer clothes and can afford to buy anything I want for my family and friends. But one thing I am missing is companionship. I am at an age where I would love to be in a relationship. But because of the job I do the level of trust in having a long-term partner has to be extremely high. So, at the moment, I avoid relationships at all. I dearly hope I will soon meet someone who I think I will be able to trust enough. The truth is I just don’t think football is ready yet for a player to come out. The game would need to make radical changes in order for me to feel able to make that step. The Professional Footballers Association say they are ready to help a player to come out. And they have said they will offer counselling and support to anyone who needs it. This is missing the point. If I need a counsellor I can go and book a session with one whenever I want. What those running the game need to do is educate fans, players, managers, agents, club owners — basically everyone involved in the game. If I was to make that step I’d want to know that I would be supported at each step of my journey. Right now, I don’t feel I would be. I wish I didn’t have to live my life in such a way. But the reality is there is still a huge amount of prejudice in football. There are countless times I’ve heard homophobic chants and comments from supporters directed at no one in particular. Strangely it doesn’t really bother me during the matches. I am too focused on playing. It’s when I get back on the plane or the coach and I have time to think that it gets to me. As things stand my plan is to carry on playing for as long as I feel able to and then come out when I have retired. It was great last month to see Thomas Beattie raise his hand and admit to being gay. But the fact he had to wait until retirement tells you all you need to know. Footballers are still too scared to make the step while they are playing. For the past year I have been getting support from the Justin Fashanu Foundation, not least to cope with the toll this is all having on my mental health. It is hard to put into words how much the Foundation has helped. It has made me feel supported and understood as well as giving me the confidence to be more open and honest with myself especially. Without that support I really don’t know where I’d be now. I know it might get to the point where I find it impossible to keep living a lie. If I do my plan is to retire early and come out. I might be throwing away years of a lucrative career. But you can’t put a price on your peace of mind. And I don’t want to live like this forever."

And that is why a show like Jamie Johnson is so important. Gay footballers live in fear. Fear of what their teammates will think, fear of what the fans will say and fear of ruining their dream. It's 2020, and football is probably one, if not the most homophobic enviroment in sports. Gay footballers should be able to be who they are and do what they love without fear of being insulted and discriminated. Like this footballer said, everyone involved in the game should be educated about this topic. Jamie Johnson is doing an amazing job portraying the fear of ruining your dreams just because you aren't straight, and that is why, people should watch this show.

edit: please, don't try to figure out who he is, he clearly wants to remain anonymous and I know for a fact that a lot of people are already looking for clues about who he is. Please respect his privacy.

Edit: I found the full letter, that's heartbreaking.

[tiwaripoojaaa]

WFH is great until your mom yells from behind “uth chai bana de”

If you’ve ever been stuck in torrential rain waiting for a delayed train after a long day at office, the chances are pretty decent that you’ve thought about working remotely at least once or twice.

There was a time when Work from home was a fantasy for everyone until we all got attacked by pandemic. Wherein we actually want the hectic schedule rather than working remotely. WFH is in favor for someone as an introvert like me and a disaster for an extrovert who loves roaming around in the office greeting everyone with a smile and gossiping with every second person in the office. Without having an office where you need to share pleasantries with your coworkers, boss, and clients, you need to find alternative methods of socializing with people on your own time.

  Challenges:

     Sounds appealing right? No more setting the alarm for 6 am. No more sitting in your cubicle all day, your only escape a measly hour for lunch. You can set your own hours and work when you feel it. Freedom is yours!

Expect it doesn’t work that way.

Juggling work, household chores, and parenting responsibilities along with fear of infection and job loss can put a dent in performance, motivation and productivity. On the other side of the coin, when you work from home, you no longer have a clear geographic division between workspace and your personal life. Ideally, your home is a place of relaxation, safety, and security. It’s a place where you subconsciously slip into a calm, easygoing state of mind , putting the stresses of the workday behind you and have a beautiful evening with your family.

Feeling of disconnection and social isolation:

   Even in normal situations, managing remote employees is more challenging than managing regular office workers because Emotional health is a priority now because living and working in confined conditions for a long time takes a mental toll. Moreover, people who have so far been accustomed to working in an office setting may find remote work very lonely. Only now have team members and managers begun to realize how much time and effort it takes to communicate properly across screens. They cannot reach out to each other as easily as they would in a physical office, and this makes people feel disconnected from the company. Direct reports may feel that their managers are out of touch with their reality and cannot help them solve their problems.

Screen Fatigue: You’re probably hearing people complain about ‘Zoom fatigue’ or ‘meeting fatigue’. Managing remote employees via video conferencing has given rise to a new challenge – that of screen fatigue due to back-to-back meetings. People are turning away from their screens in exhaustion, citing headaches and eye strain. It is more tiring to look at a screen for a prolonged time than it is to have face-to-face conversations. It is more tiring to look at a screen for a prolonged time than it is to have face-to-face conversations. In addition to the laptops, team members are also looking at conventional screens like phones, tablets, or television. It fatigues the eyes, causes loss of focus, and decreases attention span. Naturally, people cannot work efficiently because of these issues.

Breakdown of effective communication: Perhaps the biggest challenge of managing remote employees during the COVID-19 pandemic is effective communication.  As you and your team members must have discovered by now, it isn’t quite as simple as shooting off a few emails and calling a meeting. Your direct reports can’t casually walk up to your desk for a quick chat. You can’t see each other in the office and you have to make an effort to know who is working on what. This ‘blindness’ leads to an interesting situation–people tend to think the worst when they receive a negative message. For instance, if you get a brusque e-mail from a colleague who you know is having a bad day, you tend to brush it off. But when you’re working from home, you have no context on what is happening at the other person’s end. This causes more misunderstandings, negativity, and friction within the team.

Communication & Coordination Challenges

It’s hard enough to hold productive in-person meetings to coordinate different team members’ efforts to remain aligned. When everyone works from home, it becomes all the harder to stay on the same page.

Human beings rely on nonverbal communication when they speak. But emails, phone calls, and even video calls remove much of the nuance from how we communicate. Just think back to the last time someone misinterpreted an email or text message you sent for a quick example.

This problem is so inherent in virtual businesses that an entire industry has sprung up to solve it. Team collaboration and communication tools like Slack exist specifically to make it easier for companies to stay in touch and stay organized. GoToMeeting is another popular choice for companies to stay in touch using video conferencing.

  Since the majority of the global workforce is not used to working from home, this sudden change has led to many problems. They are just adjusting their seats to meet the organizational needs amidst everything that is happening around the world. Work from home is prominent but comes with a lot of challenges like communication and coordination with team, failing network is the biggest interruption “Uncle wifi nahi chal raha check karo” which impacts productivity, you may get distracted by your dog or just feel like going through some memes on Instagram (which unknowingly turns from seconds to minutes to even a hour sometimes) or just sibling’s silly fights or just in a mood to workout.

Productivity:

Sitting at home by yourself all day takes a toll. Humans are social animals. They need interaction with other people. Without a water cooler to swap jokes, stories, and shop talk around occasionally, telecommuters can get lonely. People working from home sometimes struggle with productivity. Working away from your co-workers, with only remote online meetings, risks emotional disconnection and apathy. It can also encourage procrastination .

You might find that it helps to have particular clothes for working at home. Dressing for work can set the right mental tone for the day – and avoid the awkwardness of being dialed in to a virtual meeting while you're still in your pajamas! Also, avoid going into certain areas of your home, or sitting in certain chairs, for example, so that you know when you're in "work mode," and when you're not.

Productivity at office was optimal as there were no distractions, you had a great working environment and also who doesn’t like working with their colleagues and friends like family rather than completing the given tasks alone. The lack of interaction that often comes with remote work can also be a detriment to team building – something that is built during meetings, lunches, chai/ coffee/ cigarette breaks or even water cooler conversations.

Challenges faced by HR:

HR managers have been at the center of these pandemic-generated changes from the beginning. They had to navigate new health and safety requirements, support managers in the new normal, reduce headcount in some cases, and keep up with required administrative processes. Organizations now have to rely more than ever on their HR departments to ensure their workforce feel as safe as possible during this unprecedented and unpredictable times.

Some of the challenges are-

Performance Appraisal like you actually are not aware if the employee has given its best due to working remotely as compared to work from office.

 Team collaboration like if you have to give any cross training or learn a new process.

 Employee engagement is also affected due to pandemic as there is no connect with the management and just virtual meets or seminar or activities conducted by HR but all of this has been now fixed into a rectangular display which is not giving desired results.

 Health and safety is the utmost priority of the workers and as employee is an asset of the organization especially after pandemic HR also needs to look into health and safety measures.

Promotion cycle is been simulated as company actually doesn’t have the same promotion cycle period which eventually demotivates the employee.

  Challenges in Business continuity

If you’re working for yourself and think you can disregard administrative work, think again. You’ll probably end up doing more mundane administrative work than you ever did at your old day job. Ignoring business basics, like paying your bills, preparing your taxes, and invoicing clients, is a sure fire way to not only ruin your business but possibly trigger an audit with the IRS in the process.

Traditional jobs tend to come with paperwork, such as work reports, time sheets, travel expense reports, and accounts payable requests for freelancers and vendors. Still, each individual worker’s administrative work pales in comparison to the total amount needed to run a business. Beyond administrative work, businesses need systems in place to streamline all repetitive tasks. Otherwise, entrepreneurs spend all their working time on mundane work that doesn’t actually generate revenue and quickly go out of business. 

Organizations are facing unprecedented times as the measures being deployed to slow the spread of the coronavirus (COVID-19) are impacting capital markets, supply chain, and business operations. The uncertainties of the current environment serve as a powerful reminder to senior decision-makers of the need for risk management and crisis planning.

Business continuity will be on a toss due to few obstacles like technical problems such as data loss, data protection, technology failure, incident management software and so on, Workforce will need to be retrained to be update as per the new changes, taking utmost care of cash flow management like does the organization have sufficient funds to continue operations or have a plan of how to address unanticipated expenses.

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 Its just not the cons, here are some pros:

Remotely working comes with a slew of benefits from no setting up alarm, no daily commute in the morning, No strict dress code (unless you have online meeting!), get a more flexible work schedule to being work anywhere in the world, and every benefit comes with a challenge like managing your own schedule and time like we suddenly look at the clock and realize their kids want food, you need to have a proper division between workspace and personal space. Humans are social animals they need interaction with people, occasionally talk or no face-to-face interaction can get people lonely.

  New Learnings from the #NewNormal

As days progress, we see a positive adoption of the isolation, which was initially difficult to adjust to. So be it working from home, connecting with colleagues and teammates at a slightly more personal level, managing chores, and working more efficiently. People are now working around to make way for a new style of living.

Tools such as Zoom, Skype, and facilities such as conference calls earlier used exclusively for official meetings are increasingly used by people to connect with family, friends, and relatives. Every small act of kindness and courtesy, which was earlier absent, is now making a huge difference. People are now more appreciative of life, of things that were taken for granted before.

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Masterpiece (A Park Jimin Yandere AU)

Summary: You thought it was just a painting until you bought it. You thought the man in the frame was beautiful until you saw him. You thought it was a masterpiece until you were ruined.

Pairing: Yandere! Jimin×Reader, Taehyung×Reader

Warnings: Contains mentions of smut, deaths, blood, obsessive behaviour and mental health issues. Please read at your own risk.

Your hands were placed firmly on either side of your bathroom sink, steadying you as you stared at your reflection in the mirror.

 Correction.

 As you stared at him through the reflection in the mirror.

 You couldn't tell how long you had been standing like this but you sure knew that you were about to pass out. Your hair was damp and it stuck to your skin, the towel wrapped around you absorbing the tiny drops of water that glided down your shoulders. There was a suffocating silence in the bathroom, the cool air from your bedroom making goosebumps rise on your skin. 

You were hallucinating, you concluded. How else could park Jimin be standing behind you right now? Paintings didn't come to life. Even though you liked that idea, they just didn't. Your mind was in a daze, unable to comprehend what your next move should be. But you had to do something. Maybe call out for help? Taehyung and Nan were right downstairs, weren't they? 

No, Y/N. They'd probably make you go back for another therapy session.

You swallowed thickly before inhaling deeply. Jimin stood still behind you, his smirk unmoving along with his eyes. If you didn't see the rise and fall of his chest, you would have thought he was a statue. 

"You're not real." You whispered, your eyes becoming moist due to the lack of blinking. Another beat of silence passed before Jimin's lips twisted into a grin. Your breath hitched, your fingers tightening their grip on the counter to keep you standing. He cocked an eyebrow, tilting his head to the side and resting it on the doorframe. 

"You tell me." Came his reply. His voice was gentle, like a lullaby. You didn't expect anything less but in all honesty, you weren't really anticipating any of this. This was pure madness. You were going mad. 

Your curiosity got the best of you and you just had to turn around, your eyes meeting the absence of the very man who was driving you nuts. To say you were relieved was an understatement, a grateful sigh leaving your lips almost immediately.

Okay, you aren't going mad. You're just sleep deprived.

You placed your hands on your hips, slowly stepping out of the bathroom and scanning the room for any kind of sign that someone had been here.

"Looking for me?" 

You flinched, your eyes falling on Taehyung as he stood with his arms crossed at your bedroom door. You gave him a disapproving glare for scaring you before walking past him towards your closet. Taehyung chuckled and followed you, his hands wrapping around your waist as you opened the doors to your wardrobe. Your heart did that thing, a frown gracing your eyebrows at the familiar feeling. It was because of Taehyung. No kidding.

You felt his hot breath on your neck, his lips meeting your shoulder right after. His hands gripped your waist tighter, pulling you against his body. As much as you wanted to tell him to leave, you couldn't.

"Tae, what are you doing?" You breathed, wincing when he bit down on your shoulder harshly. He peppered your neck with kisses until he reached your ear.

"What do you think?" He rasped, sucking right beneath your ear. You let out a soft moan before he turned you around. You wrapped your arms around his neck, pulling him closer, your lips pressing against his firmly. His tongue ran across your bottom lip, his fingers digging into your hips roughly and making you gasp. He deepened the kiss, lust clouding over both of you. 

You never had self control around Taehyung. Everytime you decided that you wouldn't do this to him, his touch had you melting. 

"Fuck, I love you."

The irony.

You immediately pulled away, your hands pushing Taehyung away from you. His hands loosened their hold on your hips, his chest heaving as an aftermath of the snogging you both had done. Taehyung closed his eyes in frustration, your shoulder brushing against his as you rushed past him.

 Taehyung wanted to slap himself for saying those words to you. He knew better than that but he just couldn't hold it back. He had to let you know how he felt, although your reaction told him that you already knew. For years, he stood by you, waiting for you to mirror his feelings but you never did. And every time he asked, he got the same answer. 

"I can't deal with the kind of emotional investment that a relationship requires."

You clenched the front of your towel, your other hand going towards the doorknob of your bedroom door. Your head began to throb, indicating that you were gonna be downing aspirins in a couple hours. Today was a little too eventful for you and not in a happy way. Everything was just going wrong.

"Just- just please tell me what I can do to change your mind.." 

Your hand froze on the doorknob, a subtle ache passing over you upon hearing the desperation in Taehyung's voice. You almost gave in. Almost. With a sharp inhale, you opened the door and turned to Taehyung, your eyes fixed on the maroon carpet of your room. You couldn't look him in the eyes, too scared to witness the pain in them. All because of you.

"Leave." You stated sternly, pursing your lips and waiting patiently for him to do as you said. You heard him chuckle bitterly, your fists clenching by your side. Your eyes fell shut as he walked over to you, his warm breath fanning your face before he placed a kiss on your forehead. You pursed your lips tighter, an apology begging to be let out. 

"Take care." Taehyung mumbled against your forehead, glancing at you one last time before leaving you alone. With shaky hands, you slammed the door shut, falling on the floor with your back against it. 

You tucked your knees under your chin, blinking rapidly to prevent yourself from crying. You felt dizzy, your head spinning as you tried to stay conscious. The events of the day were taking a toll on you, your body slowly shutting down. You whimpered and crawled to your bed, getting under the blankets with much difficulty. You were still in your towel, your fingers ripping it off you and tossing it to the ground. A single tear made its way to the side of your face, your eyes staring at the ceiling. 

"No matter how much you try to push me away, I'll always be here."

"You'll never be alone, Y/N. I promise to be your rock."

"I don't care what everyone says, you are my best friend and I'm not letting anyone take that away."

"We both could just stay single for the rest of our lives. No relationship rollercoasters!"

A sob escaped your mouth, your hand immediately going to cover it up. You were alone in your room but you still felt exposed. As if a hundred eyes were watching you break down. This was intimate, even in your own personal space. You didn't wanna cry. No. You weren't weak.

Taehyung's words kept running through your mind, making you wonder why things changed. He used to be supportive of your single-forever tag and now, he wanted the opposite of it. You wouldn't have cared if he got into a relationship, he was still gonna be your best friend. But the problem was, he wanted this with you. And something told you that he was in too deep for you to do anything about it. 

With a heavy exhale, you closed your eyes, the headache taking over along with the mental exhaustion.

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Tears streamed down your face endlessly, the ropes digging into your skin as you struggled against them. The basement was dark and eerily quiet, the only noises coming from the gagged girls who lay unconscious at the corner of the room. It was a mistake. You should have just taken the long way home. So what if your dad would have gotten mad at you? At least you would be home. Safe and sound.

The dirty rag tied up around your mouth was wet with your saliva, protests leaving your mouth as you tried to scream. You still didn't know how you got here. All you remembered was that alley. That damned alley. 

A loud clanking of chains grabbed your attention, your eyes widening as you froze. Someone was coming, you could tell. Your chest heaved as you waited patiently for your kidnapper to show himself. You guessed it was a male. It had to be.

The silhouette of a man made its way to you, your head leaning forward to see who it was. And the second he stepped into the light, your blood ran cold. Cameron D'silva, your new neighbour who had managed to make you crush on him. His eyes were darker than you had ever seen, his dirty blonde hair a mess. His lips curved into a smirk, a sadistic one. You immediately shook your head, not being able to believe this. The one time you liked a guy, he ended up being a kidnapper? Wow. 

"Hello, Y/N. You don't know how good I feel to finally see you here. All tied up for me." He chuckled, running his fingers down your arm. You flinched, making incoherent noises until he rolled his eyes and took off your gag. You coughed, licking your lips before speaking.

"Why are you doing this?!" You asked, your vision hazy with the amount of tears that constantly pooled in your eyes. Cameron raised an eyebrow, giving you his sweetest smile. You wanted throw up at the show he was putting on. You couldn't believe that this was the same guy who had taken you to the fair as a date. 

"You see, I like you, Y/N. I really do. And it has always been a fantasy of mine to tie my girl up while I give her the time of her life-" You spat on him, glaring at him with all the hatred you could muster. You were disgusted by him. There was no way you would let him touch you. He clenched his jaw, wiping away your saliva from his face before chuckling bitterly. 

"You aren't the first one, Y/N. All those girls have defied me only to end up with the same fate. But don't worry, I promise I like you more than them. They are nothing compared to you." He said, grinning at you and playing with your hair. You gritted your teeth, ready to bite back when he harshly pulled your hair, making you scream in agony. The cynical expression on his face had etched itself in your memory, his eyes portraying the insanity that he possessed.

"I can't wait to ruin you…"

You jolted awake with sweat beading on your forehead, your heart pounding against your ribcage. Your throat was dry and your hands were clammy. Even in your naked state, you were sweating. You took in your surroundings, sighing in relief upon seeing your own bedroom.

Just a dream.

Even though you convinced yourself that it was just a dream, you found it difficult to breathe. Your lungs were on fire and your mind kept replaying the bitter dream again and again like a broken record. No matter how much you ran, that night always came back to haunt you. 

Your body trembled as you pulled the blanket up to your neck and rested against the headboard. You were slowly slipping away. Unfortunately, there was no Taehyung this time. He was gone and you had to help yourself alone. Your breathing turned shallow with every passing second, your head throbbing in pain. 

"Breathe, Y/N, breathe. You're safe here. It's all over." 

Your eyebrows furrowed, your attention moving towards the voice you had just heard. Your room was empty, only your breathing echoing through its walls. But whoever it was, your mind definitely reacted positively to the voice. You could feel yourself relaxing, your brain registering the fact that it was all really over. It had been years since that night and you were completely alright. Your eyes darted around the room, your body twisting around in the sheets to find the source of the voice. 

Hadn't you heard it before? 

You wracked your brain as you got out of bed, quickly putting on a robe over your bare body. There was definitely no one here, right? Suddenly, the realisation dawned on you, your eyes falling on the portrait in front of your bed. You had heard this voice during your little hallucination drama. Bingo!

Were you going insane for real?

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Reaching a Limit

Lorena Casey Stellato. Head of the Stellato Clan’s business matters, and slatted to be main adviser to the next head of the family when the time comes. Also known within the clan as Medusa Stellato. 

Current status? 

Waking down the aisle and completely fed up with her current life. 

She hates the dress, hates the venue, and hates the man waiting for her at the end of the aisle. None of it was chosen by her. Her dress? Her mother’s doing. The venue? Chosen by the groom’s family. The groom himself? Chosen by her father and is what is hated the most.

Speaking of her father, if that man could even be truly considered a father in anything but a biological sense, she could feel a slight coldness emanating from him as he walked her down the aisle. It was a clear ‘Don’t you dare ruin this!’ sign from him that was about to be completely discarded. 

While everyone else had been busy planning this blasted wedding and ‘partial merger’ of clans for the past two years, she was planning something of her own. They did not ask for her input on anything. She had no choice in any matter of this forced marriage. At first she tried to voice her opinions and objections. Try to get them to see this was not as good as they thought it was going to be.

However, they refused to listen.  

Not even the fiance. 

But then, Medusa supposed it was no real surprise. That man her father chose for her did not really respect her. Belittled her and her accomplishments. Seemed to just barely believe that she was a very intelligent woman. She knew he wasn’t really marrying her. He was marrying the family. She was just the way to bring their families together, for him to be in the favor of her father. 

Fine. She was accustomed to only being seen as a tool or means to something else as it was. Her father, Vincent, never truly saw her as a daughter anyway. Had she not proved that she had an sharp mind and intelligence, or a knack for doing business related things...

She knows she wouldn’t be here right now. He would have tried to have a son to replace her and she would have been tossed out, or sold off somewhere, or even killed. And her mother would have let him. 

But Medusa was finally tired of all of it. This...farce of a wedding and the engagement leading up to it was the last straw. 

They didn’t want her to be part of the planning for it? Fine. She could just continue to handle business matters...and plan her escape. Or death. Even that was more preferable. Her health wasn’t the greatest lately anyway. Still, every moment she was on her own that wasn’t being taken up by her duties...she was doing something to get away from it all

Finding someone to get the ring off of her right pinky and make an exact duplicate of it. Finding someone else to enchant it to mimic the it’s effects but allow herself to be able to remove it. That had been first and foremost. And that alone almost...ended everything. Having her powers finally released after being sealed away by her father and that blasted ring for so long, it was overwhelming. She barely recalls what had happened throughout that day except at the ed when she had put the fake ring on and later went home and explained away her exhaustion by saying she had done a lot of work. And had several files and records she could use to back up her claim she she had done a lot of work related things that day as well. 

After that it was trying to practice in secret when she could to learn her powers and control them. Learning the layout of the surrounding lands around her home and around the venue where the ceremony was going to take place. Taking notes of paths she could run or places she could hide. Finding caves she could possibly reshape even slightly to help her. Practicing making illusions that matched these areas well enough to be convincing. 

And still working hard enough and doing other things so no one would suspected that she was plotting something. Covering her tracks and planning everything well enough to reduce being caught in the act. 

She had to follow through with everything until the last possible moment. Or else it wouldn’t work. But it would be worth it. Worth it to finally escape being manipulated, controlled, underappreciated, and miserable. She would no longer have to be wary of her memories being tampered with, or her father’s punishments and ‘motivational’ tactics. 

One way or another, she would be free.

“Lorena...this is the part where you say I do. This what the rehearsals were for. Are you even paying attention?” the groom’s slightly harsh whispers brought her back to the moment. Everything else had been on auto-pilot after her father had brought her to the alter. Now was the true moment. “You look a bit pale...did those incompetent helpers tie your corset too tight? Is that why you can focus right now. Tsk. I’ll deal with them later,” he continued. She didn’t answer. “Afraid to admit it? Or you don’t want them getting in trouble? You women...”

“You are an inconsiderate bastard, and I never wanted this marriage in the first place,” Medusa said, and loud enough for everyone attending to hear. She took off the engagement ring and threw it soundly on the ground between them. “I do not and will not take you as my husband! Ever. There is no love between us. You do not even respect me. It will not work and all it is-at it’s heart-is a scam both you and my father are trying to play against each other. And I will no longer play any part of it!” she declared and, lifting up part of her dress slightly, began to run for the exit. 

However, as she reached the doors a wall of ice blocked her. She turned slightly to see her father standing, his eyes glowing faintly with a scowl on his face, looking her way. “This is a bad time to be having second doubts Lorena,” he scolded without raising his voice. “You’re clearly not feeling well. Take a few deep breaths and then come finish the ceremony. Then you can have some time to rest before you come back for the reception. And then you will feel so silly about how you are acting right now,” he continued. 

Medusa did not falter. She knew he was angrier than this. He was just doing damage control, so that he did not look bad. She knew very well what would happen if she went back and did as she was told. She would not be herself after she ‘rested’. But she was done with this, and she had an advantage. 

“No. I know very well what I am doing and saying. I am not just speaking or behaving oddly because of illness. I am done with the abuse I have suffered because of the family, and what I stand to face should I go through with this unwanted marriage that I had absolutely no say in until now.” she said back. She then made a deliberate show of taking off the fake ring that subdued her powers. 

Medusa almost laughed at the shock and flare of anger that shown on her father’s face. She dropped the ring and her own eyes began to glow. “From now on I will be my own woman, or die trying,” she said before pointing at the ice wall and shattering it with a spike of stone. “Goodbye.”

Once more she lifted her dress slightly and took off running. Raising her own wall of stone behind her. She cared not about the shouts and sudden talking that arose. No doubt full of confusion and outrage and other things. She just had to run. Get to one of the places she had scouted out before they caught up to her and tried to drag her back. 

When Medusa made it to the forest that was near by she quickly went to the first place she had mentally noted. Wasting no time she grabbed a sharp rock and started tearing into the dress to get out of it. She had some satisfaction destroying the dress but she could not relish in it either. Once she could get out of it she threw it down and tossed aside the heels she was wearing. Leaving her in just the corset and undergarments. 

She grabbed the outfit she had stashed nearby but paused a moment. It sounded like some kind of commotion in the distance and it worried her. She quickly threw on the light burgundy jacket and matching skirt, leaving the blouse behind and not bothering to button the jacket, before slipping into the flat dress shoes she had. She could not risk trying to put on the blouse as it had buttons as well. It was perhaps the one folly of her planning. Either way, she took off running once more before the sounds could get closer. At least now she could move faster than before. 

However, her health, and the corset, took its toll on her sooner than she hoped it would. She knew she would not be able to make it to her next spot without collapsing. So Medusa went to the nearest cluster of trees, put herself in a decent spot within them that was lightly hidden and curled up on the ground. 

The next part she was nervous about. She was always nervous when she practiced it. But it was an option she had to use. She would not be able to sustain an illusion for long enough. She took a few deep breaths before creating a stone oval around her. It was just big enough to fit her, but it had to be small enough to be convincing. It had to look like it belonged there. The outside looked rough and weathered, but on the inside for her it was smooth and had a few little holes so air could come in. 

This was it. 

Either she could hide long enough for them to pass by or give up...

or she had just created her own tomb.

And for now all she could do was think of the one boy she saw when she was little that she can’t really remember. Maybe she had actually met him briefly. She wasn’t sure anymore. Medusa knew her memories of him, and of the event had been tampered with, and being older now did not help either. All she could say for certain was that it was a gathering of some clans. She had been dragged along by her parents. And this one boy had captured her attention for one reason or another. 

But she could never stray too far from her parents. And she thinks the boy had brothers. Maybe she didn’t meet him but had heard someone else say his name? Medusa wishes she could get those memories back. Maybe then she would know if she had crossed paths with the boy again since then. If she knew him now without realizing it. 

Medusa supposed it did not matter now. Even if she wonders these things. Wonders what that boy grew up to be, if he was married, or other things...she may not make it out of this situation alive. 

And even if she did...it may be too risky to find out anyway.

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8 Signs That Scream That It's Time To Get Help For Depression

When it comes to our mental health, depression is probably the worst disorder imaginable. Depression is a very devastating condition that can take a toll on every aspect of your life, but the problem is that many people don't take it seriously. However, the truth of the matter is that it is quite challenging to truly understand what depression truly puts a person through if you haven't experienced it yourself. Depression is an utterly hopeless state of mind, accompanied by a plethora of negative emotions like self-hatred, remorse, guilt, anger, and an impending feeling of doom. Depression can make people lose interest in everything, from their health and relationships to their job and hobbies. Depression is also more common than you may think; according to the estimate of the WHO, more than 264 million people of all ages suffer from depression worldwide. Furthermore, a significant number of people don't even seek treatment for their depression, either because of the lack of proper support or because of the social stigma that surrounds mental health disorders. Keep in mind that no matter how dark things seem right now, depression is one hundred percent treatable. However, if you want to minimize the damage it does to your life, it is important to seek treatment for depression at the right time. Therefore, here are eight signs that you should look out for in yourself and others around you. If you notice them, it's probably time to seek treatment for depression. An irregular sleep routine: Depression impacts almost every aspect of your life in one way or another, but one of its more noticeable and direct effects is an irregular and unhealthy sleep routine. Depression and sleep have quite a challenging relationship. Some depression patients may have trouble getting enough sleep, while others may sleep too much. Both of these conditions negatively impact your mental and physical health, and they can make your depression even worse. Firstly, insufficient sleep can make you mentally fatigued, which makes it challenging for you to maintain a healthy mindset and combat day to day stress. Secondly, sleeping too much can also leave you drained, and studies also suggest that it can damage your cognitive reasoning. Therefore, if your sleep is being affected because of depression, you should know that things are getting out of hand, and it's time to consult a therapist. You should also know that everyday trees can also make it difficult for you to sleep, which can exacerbate your depression. Therefore, you should look for natural ways to counter stress, and cannabis is an excellent option. Therefore, you should look for some weed vape pens, which are safer than smoking weed directly. Irregularly fluctuating appetite: Similar to its effect on your sleep patterns, depression can also cause irregularity in your eating habits. Some people with depression tend to have a decreased appetite, whereas some fall victim to eating disorders like binge eating. Now, any irregularities in your diet can be extremely impactful on your overall health. If you are purging food and avoiding eating, you are depriving your mind of several much-needed nutrients like magnesium, calcium, and Omega-3s. Binge Eating: Binge eating is also very bad for your mental health. People with binge eating disorders usually aren't eating anything healthy, and they aren't only depriving their body of healthy nutrients, but they are loading it up with toxins that have to be removed. Moreover, binge eating is also very detrimental to your self-esteem. Therefore, if your depression is starting to affect your appetite and makes your diet unhealthy, you need to consult a psychotherapist as soon as possible. Loss of interest in everything: Depression has a devastating impact on a person's mentality, and it develops a hopeless mindset in them to the extent that they lose interest in everything. It doesn't matter what you are trying to do; depression makes you feel bad about it. When depression hits you hard, it can feel like a nightmare to do absolutely anything. No matter what you do, depression has a way of making you feel negative, which is why most people with depression lose interest in absolutely everything. Most of the time, they don't even want to get out of bed. Depression makes people lose interest in their friends, family members, health and well-being, career, and even hobbies. Depression can make your life drab to the point that you may feel dead inside. Another reason behind this is that people with depression feel like they don't deserve to be happy, and they might even actively sabotage anything that could make them happy. Moreover, people with depression feel like they are a burden on others, and hence they lose interest in hanging out with their friends and family. Similarly, depression makes people lose interest in their career, they don't care about their studies or their job, and every second of it can start to feel like hell. This obviously leads to productivity issues and bad performance at work or school. Therefore, if you feel like nothing excites you anymore, and you are losing interest in everything you loved because of your negative mindset, you should understand that consulting a doctor is essential. Increased suicidal thoughts: In the worst case, depression can even lead to suicidal thoughts. This is one of the worst and most dangerous symptoms of depression, and if you even notice the slightest hint of it, you need to consult a therapist. It is especially important for the people responsible for supporting people with depression to be on the lookout for signs of suicidal thoughts because most of the time, people with depression won't try to stop themselves from thinking about suicide. Furthermore, if someone with depression is ruining antidepressants, and they are under the age of 25, then the risk of suicidal thought can be elevated. Increased suicidal thought is a side effect of antidepressants, and you need to be very careful and alert about it. Some people with depression may also try to hurt themselves differently, which is a very bad sign. Moreover, antidepressants can also increase suicidal thoughts in people younger than 25 years old; therefore, be very careful when using them. Some people with depression might not try to commit suicide, but they may try to harm or hurt themselves. These are symptoms of severe depression, and it is essential to consult a doctor if you notice these symptoms. Increased irritability and anger: Depression is a complicated disorder, which affects different people in different ways. It can also impact men and women differently, and where women may also get irritable when they are depressed, increased irritability and anger are more common in men. People with depression may lose their temper of seemingly insignificant things, and late on, they will also feel guilty about it, making their depression even worse. Therefore, if you feel angry all the time, at others and yourself, and you find it very difficult to control your anger when you are feeling down, it's time to start looking for some form of treatment. Emotional instability: Depression is an extremely overwhelming mental disorder, and if it isn't treated and you don't get the proper support and care that you need, depression can make you emotionally unstable. Depression can make it very challenging for you to get a grip on your emotions. You may feel overwhelmingly angry at one moment, and in the next instant, you may start crying uncontrollably. Moreover, when you are depressed, you may find yourself in episodes of extreme sadness and regret, making you cry uncontrollably no matter where you are. When you are severely depressed, you feel like you are on an emotional rollercoaster, where your feelings and emotional responses may change at a moment's notice. So, if you are experiencing similar mood shifts, and they are taking a toll on your life, Your emotions seem to go up and down at a moment's notice, and you don't have any explanation for it. If you are experiencing similar mood shifts, you should start seeking treatment for your depression. Changes in your overall personality: Castle, depression can bring significant changes in one's personality. You can even say that a person is different from their actual self when they are depressed. Depression can make you socially distant and introverted. It can lead to a pessimistic and overly-negative mindset. When you're depressed, your mind has a way of taking everything negatively. Depression can also decrease your self-confidence to the point that you aren't even able to defend yourself. Depression causes you to underestimate your abilities, making you feel like you don't have any worth. However, it is important to understand that these changes that depression is causing in your personality aren't reflections of your true self. You need to separate the disorder from your personality if you want to get rid of it. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is an effective way to recognize these negative thought patterns and separate them from your personality. Therefore, if you feel like your personality is becoming overly negative because of depression, you need to seek treatment.   Written by Thomas (thefunguys@afreakengineer.com) Photo by Fernando @cferdo on Unsplash Read the full article

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Disinformation in action

This is a rough draft for something I want to write on twitter. I usually never plan out my threads, but as I’m going to be criticising a Dutch journalist, I want to be on my best behaviour.

So a little bit of background: Talitha Muusse is one of a team of presentors for the Dutch talkshow Op1. This show invites guests and pundits over to discuss the news and current politics, and is hosted on NPO, the state news channel. You can see her profile on here: https://twitter.com/talithamuusse

Since the pandemic started, there’s been a lot of discussion about saving the economy vs saving lives. (I won’t go in about how this is a false dichotomy, I’m just presenting how the discussion is framed). Part of this discussion is whether at-risk-groups and the elderly should shield themselves, while those who are not at-risk and are young should just continue as if life was normal. For some people this seems like a reasonable alternative. The economy has been doing really bad lately and a lot of these measures (social distancing, curfew, restaurants closing) have been pretty taxing to a lot of people - mentally, and financially.

It does sound tempting, doesn’t it? Go back to normal while a group of people isolate themselves. Or at least, it sounds tempting if you are a certain type of person with very little empathy or understanding of other people beyond your own social bubble. Because if you just think this a little through, you can see that this is madness. Even if you don’t know how many people are in an at-risk-group or are elderly (almost a quarter of the population that we know of, not to mention that many people don’t even know they’re at-risk until it’s too late), even if you don’t know how damaging COVID-19 can be (lasting neurological damage, people stuck with symptoms that won’t go away for months), you can still see that people can’t easily isolate themselves. A person in an at-risk-group isn’t a perfect little island, this person has family, friends, married, a partner, children... Requiring them to isolate themselves means that they usually also isolate with their partner, their children, anyone else... All of a sudden this isn’t just one person, but a whole family that is avoiding outside contacts. Often this is very difficult, because most people can’t afford to isolate themselves - they have work to go to! Some people live in arrangements like student housing - a lot of people packed together in one space, how can you isolate there?

“Well, we can just take care of that by having them temporarily live in hotels or the like!” Again, this smacks of a statement made by someone with very little empathy for others. So, we’re going to take these at-risk people, lock them up in a place for months, maybe years, not allowing them to see their family or friends (if you think I’m exaggerating, this is literally what happened with homes for the elderly here in the Netherlands) while the population goes about its business? Apart from how callous this is, how inhuman it is to treat people like this, the risk for these also goes up by a huge factor, because the only thing that needs to happen is for the virus to enter this space in one careless moment (a nurse doesn’t wear their mask properly, a deliveryman doesn’t realise he’s asymptomatic...), and all of a sudden you have all these deaths on your hands. Do you want that? Again, if you think I’m being hyperbolic, all you need to do is look at the staggering deaths in care homes.

Thinking all this out is not so very hard. I’m not a scientist, I’m a motion graphics artist. If I can think this out, then you can bet your bottom dollar that a lot of other people smarter than I am have thought this out. And indeed they have! We have the John Snow Memorandum, cosigned by thousands of scientists, arguing exactly how this strategy is doomed to fail: https://www.johnsnowmemo.com/

They also mention how reality is a lot less simple than people who believe in shielding think it is: COVID-19 is a nasty disease that causes a lot of internal damage to people who get it, including people who did NOT belong in at-risk groups (according to some articles, almost 10% of young people develop long-lasting complications from the virus!). Even if it doesn’t kill you, it will wreck you.

It’s like looking at a hurricane and saying that because it didn’t kill anyone in the area, therefore hurricanes are harmless!

Muusse has been arguing for just this strategy on Twitter. https://twitter.com/talithamuusse/status/1359608618778247169?s=20 (scroll down, it’s a small thread). When she gets criticised, she says this: https://twitter.com/sari32264489/status/1359644650244608001?s=20

Note how she carefully avoids mentioning actual examples. She just says we should think about this, and the moment people ask her how this shielding should be done, she just says ‘other countries did this’ and doesn’t provide examples of succesful shielding. Which, if they were succesful, why are there no names? Maybe because people finally know enough about Sweden to know that they were not succesful at all? That the UK is, to put it politely, an absolute clusterfuck? She even goes so far to say this: https://twitter.com/talithamuusse/status/1359658325504372737?s=20

‘it’s as dangerous as driving, so it’s perfectly fine to live with it.’ We’ve been in this for a year. To say this is to either be staggeringly ignorant, or supremely cynical. Everyone with a shred of empathy or a little bit of logic knows the enormous amount of damage COVID-19 has wreaked upon the human body. How many lives it’s ruined. In the UK more people died of COVID than did during the blitz. https://7news.com.au/lifestyle/health-wellbeing/uks-covid-death-toll-worse-than-the-blitz-as-global-case-numbers-pass-100-million-mark-c-2036769 These are staggering numbers. To try and poo-poo them away reveals a lot about the person saying this than I probably wanted to know.

So, why am I targeting this specific person? Well, to non-Dutch people, Op1 has an immense reach. It is a channel with a lot of means and a huge platform. It is state-sponsored, much like the BBC is. To have a presentor work there and espouse these views is very worrying to me. And to be clear, this isn’t just something she is doing in her free time. She is a very open advocate against measures to curb the virus: https://www.mediacourant.nl/2021/02/op1-ster-talitha-muusse-klaar-met-coronamaatregelen-slaat-door/

Views like this will not get us out of this pandemic. It will prolong it and more people will die. It’s as simple as that. People with these kinds of views are no better than climate deniers, no better than people who deny smoking causes cancer. It is worrying to me that we’d rather listen to these people instead of people who actually ARE in the at-risk-groups. For the last year everyone has been talking about them, but there have been maddeningly few instances of actually talking WITH them. If we did, perhaps we might have some better strategies for battling COVID-19, instead of the same tripe that has been proven over and over again to not work?

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Harder Than it Looks

Day 8 in the 25 Days of Christmas 

Summary: "You started coming to me to get me to stop writing bad things about you but I can't help it if you're a shitty hero. You couldn't even get that cat out of the tree. No it's not because we're exes."

or

Dating a superhero is never easy. 

(Continuation to Lightning Mask)

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A/N: Many of you liked Lightning Mask so I'm back with a continuation to it that I really hope you all like! Please keep in mind that, although the story is based off of the prompt in the summary, the fic is a little less light hearted and a bit more angsty than that. P.S. the story under ~ is a flashback. Enjoy!

Read on AO3 

Dan's biggest achievement in life was graduating from university and getting his degree in journalism. He could finally leave his job as a barista in a coffee shop and get himself a job he loved.

Working at the coffee shop was enjoyable at first. It helped him pay the bills and allowed him to meet Phil Lester. Getting the chance to get to know Phil, flirt with him and eventually date him was something he would always be grateful for.

But the coffee shop lost its charm when Dan and Phil broke up. His favourite customer no longer had a reason to come by everyday for his caramel macchiato and Dan no longer had a boyfriend to spend his lunch breaks with.

If a year before someone had told Dan to cherish his moments with Phil because they wouldn't last, he would have laughed at in their faces.

Dan and Phil made the perfect team. Phil was out every night fighting Storm as the Lightning Mask while Dan waited for him home, ready to help if he got hurt. Dan was quick to learn how to bandage up gashes and cuts and was even learning how to suture a wound when one of Phil's cuts were a little too deep.

All good things must come to an end and Dan had to learn that the hard way. Their relationship couldn't handle the pressure of Phil being the Lightning Mask.

Dan still smiled ruefully when he remembered his words at the beginning of their relationship. Phil warned him that dating a superhero was tough and dangerous; Dan was stupid not to listen.

~

Their relationship went downhill when Storm found out where Dan lived. He was not aware of his identity, which both Dan and Phil were thankful for. Storm knew someone the Lightning Mask cared about lived in Dan's apartment complex. It was enough to put Dan in danger.

At first Dan was stubborn and refused to move out. "This is my home Phil! I've been living here for months and I won't let Storm ruin this for me."

It set off a series of arguments that put a heavy toll on their relationship. Things only got worse when Dan ended up having to move out anyways because his landlord was fed up over his apartment building being targeted by the Storm.

It all came to a head when Phil showed up on his doorstep with injuries Dan couldn't treat. Trying to convince him to go to the hospital was pointless, but Dan still tried.

"You have two broken ribs, a sprained ankle and a huge bleeding gash on your forehead Phil," Dan snapped, at his wits end. "How can you keep insisting not to go to the hospital? I'm not a doctor. I can treat minor gashes and bruises, not broken bones and sprains. Please just go to the hospital."

Phil shook his head resolutely. "You know I can't do that, it's too risky. I'll just lie in bed until I heal, don't worry too much about it."

Dan helped him to bed with no arguments but then sat down next to him looking dejected. "I don't think I can do this anymore Phil," he whispered. "You're not even trying to protect yourself and instead you go looking for Storm with no thought over your own health."

"What do you expect me to do Dan?" he snapped, feeling worn out from all the injuries he sustained. "I can't wait around for Storm to attack the city. If I find him first, I have a better chance of stopping him. If you really loved me, you would understand that."

Dan was left to stare at him, appalled. "If I really loved you? I've spent this past year staying up all night waiting for you and hoping you won't be injured. While other couples spend their Saturday nights on dates, I've spent mine treating your injuries. I've lost count of how many date nights you've walked out on because Storm showed up and you needed to stop him. I never complained and you have the guts to imply I don't love you."

Dan knew Phil was angry and upset over another failed attempt at stopping Storm. He knew several civilians got hurt and Phil blamed himself. The hero was taking out his anger on him and Dan could usually handle it.

He would get in bed with Phil and put a movie on until Phil calmed down enough to talk about it.

This time it was different. Dan wanted to do the same thing as always. He wanted to get in bed, cuddle with Phil and wait for his injuries to heal before bringing up their argument to talk it over. But he was hurt and so tired of always coming second to Storm.

Phil's following words were the nail on the coffin. "I never asked you to do any of that. You're the one who insists on bandaging me up even though I heal and it's your choice to always act like a mother hen whenever I come back a little hurt."

Dan shook his head, finally coming to terms with what he had known for a while but didn't want to accept. "Well, I'm sorry for caring about you and your safety. I love you Phil but somewhere along the way you seem to have forgotten that I'm your boyfriend, not your personal nurse."

He got up, intending to walk out before Phil could see the tears in his eyes. "I'll spend the night in the guest bedroom. You should stick around until you heal properly before running off after Storm again but... I don't think you should come back again. I'm done."

Phil looked shocked over the sudden turn of events and tried to get up but his broken ribs still weren't healed enough and he slammed back down. "Dan, we can talk about this."

"No, we really can't."

~

The following months were hard on Dan. He switched the television on to see all the battles between the Lightning Mask and Storm. Even after everything, he still loved Phil and wanted to make sure he never got seriously injured.

During the first few days after their break up, Dan kept expecting Phil to show up at his place with injuries that needed looking after. Dan hoped to see Phil again, thinking they could talk about it, just like Phil had asked to do on that last night.

Phil never showed up. It was almost as if their relationship never happened and all Dan was left with were the memories and thoughts of what could have been.

When Dan started working as a journalist with one of the leading newspapers in their city,  Dan thought of it as turning over a new page and getting a fresh start. At least until he was told what section of the newspaper he would be covering.

"We've introduced a new section to our newspaper and I think you're perfect for it," his boss was saying. Dan was excited. Finally he would get recognised for doing something he loved. Getting to be in charge of a section in the newspaper after only a few weeks of working there filled him with pride.

"How would you feel about being in charge of our Lightning Mask section?"

Dan saw his hopes and dreams getting crushed right in front of him, feeling bitter with disappointment. Was he ever going to get away from the Lightning Mask?

Knowing he couldn't refuse without sounding rude and hurting his career, Dan tried to look excited. "That sounds great! When do I start?"

*

Dan thought his job would involve writing articles about the Lightning Mask, hero of their city and his ex-boyfriend. What he was not expecting was for his boss to ask him to take on a critical view.

"You want me to criticise our city's favourite superhero?" Dan asked in confusion. "Everyone loves him! They'll hate our newspaper if I even dare to say anything against him." Dan couldn't help but think there were more important things to write about than critiques towards the person keeping their city standing but he didn't say so out loud.

"Haven't you been watching the news?" his boss asked. "The Lightning Mask seems to have lost his touch. People still love him but they're also confused over what's been happening. We can exploit that to our advantage and you're the one who will do that Dan."

Dan didn't like it. Things between him and Phil did not end on the best of terms but bringing him down while the hero already seemed low was cruel. He couldn't say that without losing his job.

"Fine, I'll see what I can do."

*

"Is this your way of getting back at me?"

Dan screamed and turned around to find Phil sitting on his sofa as if it was a common occurrence. "What the hell are you doing here? You scared the shit out of me."

"Sorry," Phil said, but did not look apologetic. "I was happy for you when I found out you graduated and got a good job. I've got to admit I wasn't expecting you to use your new platform to get back at me though."

Dan caught sight of the newspaper in Phil's hands and winced. His last article had not been positive. "I'm not writing that stuff to get back at you, I'm not that petty," he argued. My boss put me in charge of a critical section about you. I've tried working my way around it but you are not making it easy for me. It's not my fault if you've been a shitty superhero lately."

Phil looked offended and Dan had to bite his lip to hold back a laugh; this wasn't the time. "Shitty superhero? This is just great. I risk my life everyday for this city and this is the thanks I get."

"Phil you couldn't even get a cat out of a tree yesterday. How can people feel safe from Storm if their superhero was outsmarted by a cat?" he reasoned.

It figures that after months of not seeing each other, their first conversation was an argument. Dan was reminded of why he had ended things. "Are you here to yell at me for doing my job? Because if that's the case you can leave. I'm not giving up my dream job to spare your hurt feelings."

"I miss you."

Dan froze. What was he supposed to say to that? Truth was, he missed Phil too. He missed him so much that he often found himself unable to sleep at night, missing a warm body cuddling up to him.

"You don't miss me," he settled on. "You just miss having your own personal nurse to treat your injuries after fighting Storm. Dan wanted to believe Phil missed him, he really did, but he had come second place to Storm too many times.

"I was out of line," Phil said, shaking Dan out of his thoughts. "I never doubted your love for me and I never should have implied that I did. People got hurt that night, and I was angry but I should have never taken it out on you when you only wanted to help. I know what you sacrificed to be with me. Dan... I love you. If you tell me to leave, I will but I needed you to know."

As if Dan could ever ask him to leave after such a declaration. He pulled the hero in for a kiss that made up for all the nights they spent alone, wishing they still had each other. "You're an idiot, but I love you too."

Phil ran his fingers through Dan's hair, looking at him with so much love Dan was surprised they made it so long without each other. "You were right, you know," Phil said, breaking their silence. "I haven't been the best superhero. I let my personal life distract me from protecting the city. Storm is getting stronger everyday Dan and I don't know if I can stop him."

Dan felt dread flow through him. If Phil was scared of Storm and what he could do, then the situation was even worse than he thought. "I don't have superpowers like you so I can't fight Storm by your side, even though I wish I could. But you're not alone Phil. I'll be the guy in the chair," Dan joked, trying to break the tension. He was rewarded with a laugh.

"Since when have you known how to hack the internet?" Phil asked, amused.

Dan rolled his eyes. "Fine, I have no idea how to hack the Internet," he conceded. "But I can give you instructions while you're out there fighting Storm and I can try to keep you from getting killed. I'll be a weird mix between guy in the chair and personal nurse."

"How did I survive these past few months without you?" Phi said, looking at him with fondness. "You can be my guy in the chair as long as you promise me to stay out of danger.

Phil saw him about to argue and interrupted him before he could. "I'm serious Dan. You're the most important person in my life. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if you got hurt because of me."

Their conversation was interrupted by the sound of police sirens and screams coming from outside. "That's my cue, I have to go," Phil said, looking at Dan like that was the last thing he wanted to do.

"This is reminding me of the day I found out you're the Lightning Mask." He pulled Phil in for a quick kiss and then let him go.

"Go, but you better come back in one piece. I still have to show you what you've missed out on these last few months," Dan said, throwing in a wink for good measure.

"I'll try my best."

A/N: How did you guys like the continuation? I read all your lovely comments (on AO3) and many of you were interested in knowing more about Lightning Mask, kind of an origin story if you will. I have so many ideas for this character but since I'm on a bit of tight schedule for the 25 Days of Christmas, it would be impossible for me to write a really long fic and fit all that in for one of the 25 days.

What I was thinking of doing was to work on a fic that would continue where this one left off. That's why I finished this one in an open ended manner, so that I could continue it if I wish. 

What do you guys think? Is that something you would like to see once the 25 Days of Christmas are over? Please do let me know!

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Very Berry Legacy

I’m super excited to announce the very berry legacy challenge! I made this challenge with my friends @bluberry-sims @simsinablanket @sweetersims and @thestolensims

Basic rules:

Every generation in this challenge is named after a fruit, so they should be dressed (clothes, hair, makeup, etc. and skin if you want to) in the color of the fruit and can be named after it as well. The rules for each generation will have two traits, but you have to pick the third one, it can be whatever you want, so every game will be different! The Sim must complete the aspiration and career in that generations rules unless they state otherwise.

Generation 1- Grape (purple)

You’ve never cared much about love or getting married. All you needed in life was your job. You didn’t have many friends and no siblings, you kept to yourself. It’s all because of one incident that shook your life. You want the best for your only child, so you got married.

Rules:

Travel to Sixam

Befriend an Alien (you can open the lot in Oasis Springs that requires max handiness skill if you do not have Get to Work)

As a young adult, have just one best friend, have a one night stand with them and end up pregnant (or the friend is pregnant).

Your best friend has kids but the spouse died a long time ago 

For the sake of the baby and because you are really good friends, you get married

Max Rocket Science or Handiness Skill

Traits: Gloomy and Genius

Career: Scientist or Tech Guru

Aspiration: Renaissance sim

Generation 2- Green Apple (green)

You always dreamed of starting a family and settling down in the suburbs. You forced yourself to stay in the first relationship you’ve ever had “That’s the one, I’m staying with them forever”. But once you were at the wedding, you imagined being with them for the rest of your life, just them, no one else, you ran away. None of your friends even tried to help you, you never had real friends.

Rules: 

Complete all jobs you have to level 5, then quit

Get 4 skills to level 6, and 2 to level 8

Leave someone at the altar

Have 4 serious relationships (romance is at about 60%), but break up with them

Barely know your own children, leave kids with a family member

Only have two “accident” kids, twins (you can cheat this)

Never Marry

Traits: Hates Children, Non Committal

Career: Business, Whatever you want (but your sim would hate) , Social Media

Aspiration: Serial Romantic

Generation 3- Strawberry (red or pink)

Your parent’s love life was always dysfunctional and you wanted to be different so at a young age you had multiple boyfriends or girlfriends but all you ever wanted was to find your soulmate. Once you were a young adult you got engaged to your high school sweetheart but one day you caught them cheating on you and you were devastated, but you find out a little later that you are pregnant with his baby. One thing that you always loved was working out. One morning when you go out to the gym you meet someone there and fall in love with them. You guys get married and have 2 kids but he/she dies as an adult from an accident you are left as a widow and never re-marry

Rules:

Date lots of people as a teen

Get engaged to highschool sweetheart

Find out your fiance cheated on you

have one child with your ex-fiance after you break up

Meet future spouse at the gym

Have two children with your spouse

Have spouse die as an adult

never re-marry

Have at least level 7 fitness skill

Traits: Romantic, Active

Career: Athlete

Aspiration: Soulmate

 Generation 4- Potato (brown or white)

 You never really wanted to do anything “worthwhile”. Just watch TV all day and blog. Oh, and play video games. You just want to play video games. You don’t go outside, you will eat basically anything, and you refuse to work. You still live with your mother/father/sibling. They may be working hard to give you things you need, but you don’t notice.

 Rules:

Never marry

have a one night stand(your brother/sister made you go out) and it resulted in you pregnant/getting someone else pregnant. if your sim is male, the woman drops the baby off on your doorstep, leaving it for you to raise alone,

get kicked out by parent/sibling and live homeless with baby until you can purchase a simple, one room house

Once homeless, get a job doing something you hate, like a businessman or something

be miserable for the rest of your life, but hide it from your child because     you don’t want them to think that they can’t do anything they want in the world

Traits: lazy, glutton

Career: Anything your sim would hate

Aspiration: Computer Whiz

 Generation 5- blueberry (blue)

You were always afraid people didn’t like you. You dated once in high school. They cheated on you. You could never forget or forgive. When you finally found the love of your life, you couldn’t believe it. You married them, had kids, everything was going great. Until one day, you thought they were cheating on you. That’s when your life became an entangled mess.

 Rules:

Have your first ever relationship cheat on you

Find love after many relationships (you thought they were cheating on you, or didn’t like you at all so you broke up with them)

Get married to them and have kids, start a normal family

Assume that your spouse’s friend is their lover, and they are cheating on you

Cheat on them with your past relationship

Find out that your spouse never cheated

Live the rest of your life regretting it, but never tell your partner

Master the Music skill

Play music as a kid

Try to start a writing career, but fail at it

Instead, try your hand at the entertainer career, music path

 Traits: Jealous and Music Lover

Career: Self-published author, Music branch in the Entertainer Career

Aspiration: Musical Genius

 Generation 6- Mango (orange)

You were always very bright, in every aspect. You are smart, you have no trouble talking to new people, and you wear orange a lot. One day, that changes, someone you never really talk to, that one person who avoided you all of your life, she and her friends decide to beat you up. They tell rumors about you, they trip you, throw your stuff in the garbage, spill food on your clothes. You were irritated but nothing could ever get you down, there is always positives. But when they hurt your mother, someone you always loved and cared about, you couldn’t stand them hurting her like that. So you dedicated your life to finding the people who hurt others, and put them in jail.

 Rules:

Have at least 5 good friends at all times

Have a group of  people try to ruin your life

Have them hurt the your mother

Reach level 10 athletic skill

Win in a fight with each of the mean people

Live with your mother until adulthood/serious relationship, to protect her

Traits: Outgoing, hot head

Career: detective

Aspiration: friend of the world

Generation 7- Raspberry (red)

Your parents were so involved in your grandmother’s life trying to protect her that they never payed attention to you or any of your other siblings. Ever since you were a kid you said “I want be the best parent ever” and you wanted to have lots of kids. One day when you were 15 you figured out that you could not have children and you were devastated. So you adopted. One day your doctor contacted you and told that he might have a way to get you pregnant but it could cost your life. You risk your life and it ends up being successful and you have twins! From then on you vowed to be the best mother ever. And you were.

 Rules:

Work as a babysitter as a teen

Find out you can’t have children as a teen

Get married right when you become a young adult

Adopt three children

Get enough points for fertility trait from reward store

Have twins after a life threatening procedure (this can be cheated)

Max parenting skill (if you have parenthood)

Be a stay at home mom or dad

Have spouse work

Traits: Family oriented, Childish

Career: Stay at home Parent (babysitter as a teen)

Aspiration: Super parent (If you have parenthood) if not, Big Happy Family

 Generation 8- Lemon (yellow)

Although you grew up surrounded by your siblings, you have a mean streak nobody could deny. You often spent time alone at school because of this, and when somebody looked past that and saw the real you, you knew he was the one. You worked hard to give them whatever they wanted, a nice house, nice things, and even children although you were sick of them after spending too much time with your four siblings. You despised your children from the day they were born, choosing to invest yourself in work instead of care for them.

 Rules:

Date only one person, and marry them.

Only friend is spouse and if you want, parents.

Do not become more than acquaintances with your children, and try to get your relationship into the negatives.

Act friendly to the kids in front of the spouse.

Have negative relationships with siblings.

Maintain healthy and happy relationship with spouse and leave kids at home when you go on dates.

Traits: Mean, Hates Children

Career: Business 

Aspiration: Soulmate

 Generation 9- Watermelon (pink)

Your mom hated you and that had a huge toll on your mental health. From a young age you had all sorts of mental illnesses, depression, anxiety learning disorders and many more. Growing up you did not have  happy life. One day in school you were being bullied and beat up. But out of no where a random kid in a mask saved you he grabbed you from the kids and yelled at them. From then on they never bothered you again and you weee so grateful for him but you never knew who he was. You were in therapy for a couple of years. Once released from therapy you were the happiest person ever and you were so grateful for the person who saved but you could never find them. So you became a detective and dedicated your life to finding the person to thank them for saving your life.

 Rules

Be depressed as a teen

have a stranger save you when you were being bullied by you never find out who it was

Go to therapy for mental issues until young adult

Change gloomy trait to cheerful trait

Become a detective to try and find person who saves you

Find the person and marry them

Quit detective after you find them and join entertainer in comedian branch

Have as many kids as you want

Die the day after your spouse from heart-brokenness

Get to at least level 7 comedy skill

Traits: Loner, Gloomy (change to cheerful once YA)

Career: Detective until you find person, then entertainer (comedian branch)

Aspiration: Joke Star (don’t start until YA)

 Generation 10- Blackberry (Black, Dark blue, or dark purple)

You were pretty happy as a kid always were with your parents and you loved their cute little love story, but once your mom passed away you swore that you would never be anything like her, you didn’t want to be sad ever and be a complete mess, So you broke things off with your current relationship, never spoke with your friends again or your brothers/sisters, never settled down or even had kids. All you did in your adulthood was to have fun by yourself, succeed in your job and visit new places constantly. You had the time of your life and once you died, you died having a happy life and having no regrets.

 Rules

Have a boyfriend as a teen and as soon as your mother passes away break up with him.

Have 2 good friends and when your mother passes away stop talking with them completely. Same goes with your brothers and sisters

Complete any Job of your choice

Live in each neighborhood at least once

Max out the Photography and any other skill of your choice

Go to a lot of parties, clubs and bars as an Adult

Never Marry or have kids

 Traits: Outgoing, and Ambitious

Career: Your choice

Aspiration: Your choice

That’s the challenge I hope you guys like!! we worked really hard on it

If you do this challenge use the tag #veryberrylegacy so we can see them 

Happy simming <3

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A Housing ‘Apocalypse’ Is Coming As Coronavirus Protections Across The Country Expire

— Published Wednesday June 10 2020 | Alicia Adamczyk | CNBC.COM

A woman walks past a wall bearing a graffiti asking for rent forgiveness in Los Angeles, California. Valerie Macon

If you or someone you know is facing eviction, CNBC Make It would like to hear from you. Please email money reporter Alicia Adamczyk at alicia.adamczyk@nbcuni.com.

Even before the coronavirus pandemic, the U.S. was experiencing what housing experts and advocates deemed an eviction crisis. More than 2 million people face eviction each year, far more than the number of people who faced foreclosure at the height of the 2008 mortgage crisis.

Experts expect the eviction crisis to get far worse in the coming months. The Covid-19 economic recession has hit renters especially hard. They make up a disproportionate share of service sector jobs, an industry that has been decimated as a result of the coronavirus shutdowns.

In fact, between March 25 and April 10 of this year, nearly half of renters aged 18 to 64 reported that they were having trouble paying their rent or utilities, were food insecure or couldn’t afford needed medical care, according to the Urban Institute.

Thousands of tenants have been missing rent payments over the past few months. People of color have fared worse than white renters due to the disproportionate job loss in their communities, the Urban Institute reports. About 25% of black and Latino renters reported not paying or deferring rent in May, compared to 14% of white renters.

To keep people in their homes, the federal government banned evictions in federally assisted properties through July 25, and some cities and states, including Massachusetts, New York and Michigan, put their own temporary eviction moratoriums in place. But many of those bans begin expiring this month depending on the state, according to Princeton University’s Eviction Lab, which tracks evictions across the country.

Plus, the extra $600 per week in federal unemployment benefits is set to expire at the end of July. That extra money is “what has been allowing many people who have lost their jobs to continue paying rent,” Solomon Greene, a senior fellow in housing policy at the Urban Institute, tells CNBC Make It. Coupled with the end of eviction moratoriums, the U.S. is likely to experience an uptick in evictions nationwide in the coming weeks.

Evicting people in the middle of a global health crisis puts them at greater risk of contracting and spreading Covid-19, turning “a catastrophe into an apocalypse,” Aaron Carr, founder and executive director of the Housing Rights Initiative, tells CNBC Make It.

“A lot of people could be on the streets,” says Carr. “Especially in places like New York City that already have a homeless problem, it could turn into a homeless nightmare.”

Eviction also has long-term — in some cases, multi-generational — financial consequences for individuals and families, Alieza Durana, a writer with the Eviction Lab, tells CNBC Make It. It can ruin a tenant’s credit for many years, making it harder for them to find a new place to live. It also takes a mental and emotional toll on those affected, and hits minority communities, particularly women of color and their children, especially hard.

“The human toll that an eviction takes on a person and family and community is really devastating.” — Alieza Durana (The Eviction Lab)

“The human toll that an eviction takes on a person and family and community is really devastating,” says Durana, noting that tenants who are evicted often experience job loss and higher rates of depression, among other issues.

And that’s before you add a global health crisis to the mix.

“Housing instability has huge health consequences even when we’re not facing a pandemic,” says Greene. “Exposure risk is so much more amplified and worsened when you can’t shelter in place because you don’t have a place to shelter.”

How to stop the coming crisis

If you are facing an eviction, Carr suggests contacting a nonprofit tenant organization in your area and your elected officials as soon as you can.

That said, the crisis requires a large-scale government response, according to experts. If state and local governments don’t step in to help soon, there will be a “tsunami of evictions and a spike in homelessness” nationwide, that will “devastate” not just individuals and their communities, but the economy broadly, Dinae Yentel, president and CEO of the National Low Income Housing Coalition, says in a statement to CNBC Make It.

“Now more than ever, housing is health care,” says Yentel. “Ensuring housing stability for all is both a moral imperative and a public health necessity.”

“Ensuring housing stability for all is both a moral imperative and a public health necessity.” — Dinae Yentel (National Low Income Housing Coalition)

Activists have been pushing for reforms and policies like increased rental assistance and rent cancellation since the start of the pandemic, though states have been slow to move and the federal government has done little to support tenants. One measure the government could take immediately, says Durana, is to ensure that renters who qualify for federal rental assistance actually get the funds. Currently, only one in four eligible recipients receive it.

Increased resources for tenants, like providing advocates and legal support to tenants facing eviction, would also help keep people in their homes in the years and decades to come, says Greene. He also advocates for targeted relief measures, like allocating roughly $100 billion to cover rent for low income tenants through the crisis, and mortgage relief for landlords.

There’s no good data set currently available to estimate how many people may face eviction because of Covid-19, says Greene. But the Eviction Lab has already noticed an increase in eviction filings since some moratoriums have been lifted, says Durana. And unlike with the mortgage crisis, that lasted years, all of the tenants facing eviction could find themselves without a home in just a couple of months after the moratoriums lift.

Greene hopes the current crisis will spur structural changes in the housing sector, including stronger protections for tenants nationwide, like homeowners experienced after the 2008 foreclosure crisis. “We’re overdue to have that kind of reform in the renters space, particularly for low income renters,” he says.

At the very least, housing experts and advocates hope the federal government will put in place a uniform, nationwide eviction moratorium instead of the ad hoc bans currently in place. In the middle of a pandemic that has claimed the lives of over 113,000 Americans, keeping people in their homes should be a priority.

And the HEROES Act, which was passed by the House in May but has so far stalled in the Senate, includes an extension of the nationwide moratorium on eviction filings, hearings and executions for 12 months, which Tara Raghuveer, director of KC Tenants, a tenants rights group in Kansas City, tells CNBC Make It is a “great start” to prevent renters from losing their homes.

“I do think any one eviction at this point is inhumane. It comes at potential human cost, the cost of life, if people are forced out of their homes,” says Raghuveer. “I don’t think even one eviction should be happening.”

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Why does military combat experience adversely affect marital relations?

There was an experiment done on 2,101 Vietnam war veterans. The experiment was to determine the ways in which combat decreased marital quality. This was based on three facts.

The reasons that make men good for combat, make them bad marriage material.

Combat causes PTSD and antisocial behavior, which causes marital issues.

Combat causes stress which ruins marriages.

In this century, four generations of United States men have had experience in the military and combat. Usually, after every war, the divorce rate goes up. Although this cannot only be attributed to Veterans, they are a pretty big part of it, especially after World War 2. A big reason for this is life disruption after the veterans came back from war.

Troubled men are more likely to go to combat for several reasons

If men have anti social or emotional issues beforehand, they are more likely to get put into a lower skilled combat position as opposed to more technical noncombat positions.

Most people with these behavioral issues can’t really avoid combat once assigned to a combat position.

They would most likely be used as bait on the battlefield, resulting in more combat.

Men with these behaviors already are more than likely to volunteer for combat roles because of their destructive and risk-taking behavior. These same tendencies make these men poor marriage material, and they tend to choose innapropriate partners for themselves. Of course, these problems do not make marriage impossible, but it does make them pretty difficult. In fact, military service has a tendency to attract partners.

Decline in health is always a stress factor in ending relationships and marriages. When these veterans come back, many of them develop PTSD, which can take a serious toll on their marriage because of the severity level it may have on a patient's mental and physical capacity. A big problem with this is that men with PTSD often seen combative solutions to problems instead of calm, collective, and communicative solutions.

Combat can cause hyperarousal. It’s no secret that boys usually have tendency towards violent behavior, and when they go off to war, that usually continues on into their adulthood rather than stopping by then. Men with less adaptive skills during their adolescence are highly more likely to come back from war with PTSD, emotional problems, and behavioral problems.

While there were only a few studies on this done before the Vietnam War, they were high quality studies. However, they were tampered by smaller groups and limited information about the subject. All those studies however have agreed with the conclusion that combat takes a negative toll on marital life afterwards, even if it’s after a longer period of time.

To determine all of these things the studies were done with specific people. For the findings about marriage adversity the people were asked if they had ever been divorced, if during their marriage they had had relations with at least three different people, did they ever physically abuse their spouse, and have the ever separated for a few days before the actual separation because of not getting along?

For the combat veteran part, they had to have been in a unit that fired on the enemy, stationed at a forward observation post, received incoming fire, encountered mines and traps, received sniper fire, patrol was ambushed, engaged Vietcong in firefight, engaged in North Vietnamese firefight, saw Americans killed or injured, saw Vietnamese killed or injure, or actually or thought they had killed someone.

These experiments are taken very seriously and the findings all conclude on the negative effect they have on marital relationships.