#it's great give it a shot

[butts-bouncing-on-the-beltway]

Literally 90% of my work as a therapist is helping people learn a template for healthy conflict resolution because they've just never had one before. There's so much power struggling and "my way or gtfo" stuff that happens once people get a modicum of authority over another person in their lives whether it be an employee or a partner or a child.

I really really cannot emphasize enough how much worse the constantly degrading stress of the last 3 years has made this phenomena either. People's sort of.....capability to process and make a healthy decision en media res so to speak is really worn down because they've been pushed so far for so long and they're understandably worn out. But that means making more decisions more often that lead to undesireable outcomes which require (you guessed it) even more decisions. And a certain point you really just need to be able to stop, take a beat, and try to give yourself a shame free reset, but that can be hard to do.

So seriously. Conflict resolution skills. Assertive communication skills. I am a huge fan of Initiator/Inquirer style communication, and of naming the emotional needs underneath the automatic thoughts! (E.g. automatic thought reads: I need you to spend more time with me -> underlying emotional need is named as I am feeling vulnerable and want to seek comfort with you).

Additional reminder to the general public: you don't need to be having an active problem to seek therapy, and if you want help learning this stuff you can usually find group, individual, couple, or family therapy options that will help you learn them at your pace and tailored to your strengths and needs!

[finifugue]

Imagine being Jack Harkness, seeing the Doctor flirt and fall in love with a brown-haired, blue-eyed, cocky, sardonic american man from the future in period dress only in it for the money with a cool ship and a tragic backstory who risks his life to save his blonde female friend and gets left behind to die and being like. dude.

[beetleandfox]

I love how unsanitized The Terror feels. Like there’s grime everywhere. You can tell those men smell bad. When they do surgery you can hear the bone being cut, when they get sick they look genuinely ill. The main character’s actor even has pockmarks, he LOOKS like he could be from the 1800s! And idk, I think it’s cool that we’re so aware of the characters’ carnal desires. They’re hungry, thirsty, freezing, etc, and it is so obvious that they have a body with needs!!

I think this also accounts for how horny the show feels, even though everyone is bundled up 90% of the time and there are no real romantic subplots. Besides the fact that it’s a very carnal show, it just has the intimacy and grime of true horniness. Is this thing on

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Welcome to the Dungeons of Fear and Hunger.

[st4rbwrry]

nicki is the prime example of an older bitter woman. she need serious help fr. like to hear her on live stuttering and going on and on about megan and her deceased mother is sickening. she stooped low af fr. all over one line. megan ain’t even say that girls name and it got her yapping out her mouth like somebody grandma. and she’s only proving everyone’s point about her nasty ass husband. now if megan say sum bout her father or brother???? don’t go crying to kenneth or papa about how everyone’s against you cs you’re the queen of rap blah blah.

[aliencatart]

so the story goes....

seriously such an amazing series and i'm going to be missing these kings very dearly

[lilaccatholic]

I am once again thinking about the reluctant ruler whose arc justly and correctly includes assuming the throne and taking responsibility for the people set before them

[ghostinacardboardbox]

My one hope for Cinderella’s Castle is that the proshot isn’t so over produced like npmd. The npmd proshot is gorgeous visually but completely loses so much of the choreography and staging due to its amount of close ups and cuts. I just want a good view of the staging in each scene that lets me see the choreography well.

[espurr-roba]

wanted to work on the khux fight animation but didn't wanna animate, so... rough Player model sheet! a good time as any to get the rest of the colors down lmaoo

[abelllia]

Me before listening: The Holmwood Foundation? Sounds intriguing, let's give it a go

After listening:

Larkin when I get you-

[cyanbeetle]

J’onn and Ma’al from @jesncin’s incredible reinterpretation of them! They’re my absolute favourite guys and everyone should go read sons of mars right now

[theminecraftbee]

still really funny to me that we it can be argued that the maid dress thing becoming TRADITION was martyn’s fault. because originally it was a joke about a thing he said on stream that… escalated. but then he said it was tumblr’s natural defense system. and we all went. actually YEAH IT WILL BE. and now it is because it is funny. thank you martyn,

[tow-bees]

spalmton

[maximura]

NI-KI | Vogue Korea

[kenobion]

Andrew Garfield on The Late Show With Stephen Colbert

[feroluce]

So I went to the wiki page for the henghill Bullet & Brain mission of 2.2 looking for some dialogue I had missed and

a) I found something incredibly tasty that slotted into some other thoughts I'd been having, more on that on another day, and

b) I saw this super fun little trivia at the bottom, which!

I knew Penacony characters like Boothill took a lot of inspirations from old movies, but I didn't realize it was even in his and Dan Heng's relationship, that's so cool!!

It fits them very well, it's such a fun reference. "Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid" was an old buddy Western film (from 1969- nice) about a pair of outlaws. Butch Cassidy was the leader of a gang, and described as clever, affable, and talkative. Meanwhile, his closest companion, the Sundance Kid, was known as a man of few words.

Cassidy's original birth name was much more plain, but similar to Boothill, he took on a new moniker when he became an outlaw. "Cassidy" had been the last name of his beloved mentor, who taught him how to shoot and ride. And Sundance Kid was known as he was because Sundance was the name of his hometown, and it was the only place that had ever managed to catch and jail him, back when he'd been younger (also similar to Dan Heng, but ouch).

These two stick together like glue throughout the length of the film- through Cassidy's leadership of the gang being challenged, through a train robbery gone wrong, through being pursued by mercenaries, and even through fleeing to Bolivia and trying to start over together.

I don't want to say too much more, since the mission title is referencing one specific movie that I've never seen. I kinda wanna watch it now, though, just to see the inspiration that went into Boothill and Dan Heng and how they get along. I just think it's really sweet that these two were literally made to be the best of bros, how lovely is that. 💕