#it's become very fixated on like categorising ur gender rejection in a way that ends up just. making even more genders to constrain u

[reloha]

@cruelsister-moved2: #and I kind of felt really sad when they were talking about how like they feel in some ways figuring yourself out is way harder now#bc there is this pressure to like figure out who u Really Are Inside#and instead of being like well maybe my identity goes far beyond gender and like i don't need to find some microlabel#in order to like define who is Me#it's become very fixated on like categorising ur gender rejection in a way that ends up just. making even more genders to constrain u#it's hard to summarise it was like v wordy but I thought this part was so true#for sexuality as well not to tack it on but we have really gotten into the same mindset w sexuality now as well#THANK U @VAKAVANHASAATANA for the ID it wont let me @ you in the text </33

@totallyboatless: #embracing this more and more recently#‘your soul is a man and that’s why being trans is okay’ is like…i dunno it doesn’t sit right#i don’t think souls have gender at all if they exist#but i WANT to be a man here and now#so i am one#it makes me really happy to be one#i love myself more#the idea that would make certain cishets see my identity as ‘less valid’ is frankly wild#trans stuff

@illuminatingsceadugenga: #genders the clothing of who you are#maybe its not tailored#but it should fit#and it should make you feel good

for real! (from kadji amin)

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What I’ve realized is that I believe that the matter of gender is practical and relational. It’s not about who you are inside, it’s more about how you would feel most comfortable in the world. It’s not ‘Who are you?’ but 'How do you want to live?’

Had that been the discourse when I was coming up, I would have breathed a sigh of relief. I don’t have to figure out who I am on the inside, I just have to figure out how I want to live.

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[cruelsister-moved2]

for real! (from kadji amin)

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What I've realized is that I believe that the matter of gender is practical and relational. It's not about who you are inside, it's more about how you would feel most comfortable in the world. It's not 'Who are you?' but 'How do you want to live?'

Had that been the discourse when I was coming up, I would have breathed a sigh of relief. I don't have to figure out who I am on the inside, I just have to figure out how I want to live.

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[aeide-thea]

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What I’ve realized is that I believe that the matter of gender is practical and relational. It’s not about who you are inside, it’s more about how you would feel most comfortable in the world. It’s not Who are you? but How do you want to live?

Had that been the discourse when I was coming up, I would have breathed a sigh of relief. I don’t have to figure out who I am on the inside, I just have to figure out how I want to live.

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—Kadji Amin, interviewed here by Jules Gill-Peterson

#and I kind of felt really sad when they were talking about how like they feel in some ways figuring yourself out is way harder now #bc there is this pressure to like figure out who u Really Are Inside #and instead of being like well maybe my identity goes far beyond gender and like i don't need to find some microlabel #in order to like define who is Me #it's become very fixated on like categorising ur gender rejection in a way that ends up just. making even more genders to constrain u (tags via @tallnoser)

for real!