#it's always the most conventionally physically attractive guy who wins

[minty-playhouse]

Every time I see one of those "sexy [blank] tournament" polls going around I see you guys missing the point of what "sexy" means

[cloutchaserkineme]

wagging

4:38 p.m. October 13 on land somewhere

I was honestly so intrigued by how many people seem to hate Kelly and Max together. I always give things like this a grain of salt, especially with WAGs, since girls always get the brunt of the hate when it comes to high-profile sport couples, because these men are "successful" in a heteronormative sense (they are physically fit and able-bodied, in a male-dominated sport etc.) and therefore the public wants whoever is their partner is to be the same type of successful (beautiful, single, and complements something of the guys' persona). Especially since he's a Libra sun lmao, these signs tend to get the absolute shit if their partners don't "match" them, a manifestation of Venus and Saturn's hatred of non-symmetry.

I've only been interested in F1 for a week, and am just catching up to the dense lore of this highly exclusive and limiting sport, and like any other person I pick my favorites for the most arbitrary reasons- Lewis Hamilton, because he dated my FIlipina queen Nicole Scherzinger, and is probably the only POC driver on the grid who I know actively speaks up on social issues at risk to himself and his career; Alex Albon for consciously choosing to be a Southeast Asian king as well as being a loud and proud WAG to Lily He; and Max Verstappen, for featuring in Cleo Abrams' F1 videos (which kickstarted my interest in this sport in the first place).

But I am of course wondering why people don't like Max's girlfriend. Or at least, the internet circles that I am in don't have a favorable view of her.

(The internet circles I am in talk about her father supporting the Brazilian fascist Bolsonaro, as well as her liking her father's post referring to the Black/mixed race driver on the grid using a racial slur, and Max supporting the PR statement released about that. But I am not talking about my beloved mutuals and our anger at white supremacy somehow finding its fucking way in all aspects of the world. I am talking about the girlies who absolutely hate Kelly just for being Max's girlfriend, when there are tons of reasons we really should just not care about them, or the sport at all.)

It baffled me because on paper M/K are arguably good- both creatures of the racing track, successful scions of F1 families. Him, the best racehorse in the racehorse competition; Her, daddy's girl who grew up around the track, respecting and admiring the horse race. He is a "successful man" in that he dedicated his life to excelling in sport, a move which fulfilled his father's wishes (a win for patriarchy), and she is a "successful woman" in that she is a conventionally attractive supermodel, did not eclipse her father's success, and had a child with a person who belonged in their sphere of influence.

And yet, this girl is haaaaated by the fans among the current WAGs. Baffling! And it's not even because she's conventionally pretty! Alex Saint-Mleux was also hated when she debuted, but the halo effect at least worked on her (a trend that fascinates me, how people also arbitrarily hate women in the spotlight, because I have never seen these F1 WAGs hang out and have fun as a group outside of the paddock and the men in their lives. If they keep their friendship private good for them, but the original WAGs of Victoria Beckham's time were pictured on their outings together... it might be because most of them are of different ages, or the current celebrity culture in the time of cameras makes privacy a luxury now compared to then, which is why the WAGs of F1, arguably considered a more luxurious sport than others, hate being public but! I digress.)

Anyway! synastry of Max and Kelly on the chart here (Inner wheel is Max's confirmed time with an astro.com A rating, while outer wheel is Kelly's natal chart, generated at 12 noon due to lack of confirmed birth time- so ignore the ASC and POF)

First off- that 12H synastry clouds this relationship to the general public. Whatever Max thinks of her, we will never know, but we can intuit from the chart that he thinks of Kelly as an ideal woman- his Scorpio Venus (traditionally "partner" or "wife" in a man's chart) hits her own natal Venus, and perhaps if she was born from early morning to late afternoon, also conjunct her Moon (physical body and expression).

For Max, women usually show up as:

sharp and confusing. the 12H is the house of undoing, unconsciousness, and hidden/foreign objects. he likes the thrill of the chase but won't fully understand why he runs so

wanting something more from him. scorpio as a mars-ruled sign is a sign of action, will, and drive, but the expression of it in water can sometimes make it more intense- think of being stabbed with a large icicle compared to an icepick; or a stalactite falling from the cave ceiling compared to other irregular shaped rocks.

foreign, to the point that the girl may stand out as "being the only one" or isolated. the 12H is hidden from the 1H traditionally, the same way that the conscious mind (1H) could never comprehend the true meaning of dreams and the subconscious (12H). and it is the house where the person literally couldn't know anything- it is the stuff behind them. the 12H is enemies, undoing, jail, prison, places abroad that you will never explore, sleep. not necessarily bad things, but certainly things that make you feel excluded. but how can you be cast out if you didn't know you were exiled in the first place, right?

anyway yeah- that's the general view on how women, as a romantic partner, show up in max's chart.

to overlay her planets on his, there's two hotspots that are of interest- one is kelly's fiery mars that is very happily expressed in aries, and also rules her scorpio planets. her way of action, of being a woman, her feisty, assertive, and perhaps rebellious side intrigues him. what he feels restricted by, she finds freedom in. max, like every other racer currently on the grid right now, is a creature of speed, of action and drive, but the warrior in him is confined to a grid, to a track, to the car. it is good for him that he is naturally smart and detail-oriented, and that F1 takes place around the world (change of scenery is important for sagittarius), so he can find his own satisfaction despite these limitations.

however kelly is really great at choosing the straightest path from a to b. she is direct, and won't subscribe to limitations as well as max does. she will do what she wants. while this might be a turn off for other men, i don't think it is the same for max- he is a martial person. he likes when things go zoom, he likes thrills (not fights- which i will get into when i compare the lestappen synastry soon), and kelly being straightforward and direct is exactly what he wants to see. also her mars in his 5H of romance is literally at its most simple explanation- he finds her attractive and she gets him hard.

the other hotspot is her moon. depending on what time of the day she was born, kelly might have scorpio or sagittarius moon, but I haven't really done a deep dive of her public persona to check which one it is most likely to be. whatever it is, her moon- which represents the physical body as well as emotions/heart- may be hitting his 12H scorpio venus, OR his mars in sagittarius, which is a very potent moon-mars synastry, at which point, it is game over for anyone else who wants to be called mrs. max verstappen.

because whichever one it is, max isn't letting go of her.

max has a gentle streak outside of the hellzone that is the circuit, he has moon and mercury in virgo, along with scorpio venus- traditionally feminine planets in cold signs. he has a close relationship and respect for his mother, he seems to get along well with penelope, and even though he hates the media so he won't participate in most of the marketing bonding strategies on camera, he is constantly referred to as connecting to the other drivers by texting them, including them in conversations, or acknowledging the retired legends.

max has a certain delicacy that he might not even realize is there, but since kelly embodies (moon) this, literally, he feels connected to her in ways he can't with other people. it is very isolating, to be max verstappen, three time world champion and son of jos verstappen, and despite living parallel lives with other drivers, they don't get what it is-

it being, women die on the track. not literally, thank god, but actually, women as an archetype, a medium of creation/agriculture, the first sign of civilization- this is the patriarchy's motorsport, F1 engines and its innovations are a remnant of war & destruction, playing and improving on the heart of dead beasts in steel bodies. choosing glory over women, women as supporters and on the sidelines, and some part of him recognizes that this thing that he has dedicated his life to wouldn't be a safe space for that energy. but he can't give up the race, the same way he couldn't help but be born to his mom.

however, kelly could survive in it- she's a child of the war races too. he feels comfortable knowing she won't be chewed up and spit out by whatever monster of male-first principles feeds off of women and their lives on this track.

that one interview kelly gave where she said that there was something "magical that night" that her and max met, she probably wasn't exaggerating. whether kelly has her moon in his 12H or 1H, or whatever house max's planets fall in her chart, the attraction is there and it is blinding. this relationship could also probably be a source of undoing for max, but i don't think that's likely. i also think that max, despite being a teenager when they first met, was probably waiting all these years for her to be single enough to make his move but then again, i am just a chick on the internet who speculates using esoteric means. i don't know what happened there, just what is shown right now.

i also think that max could only end up with two types of women- one who was born and raised in the same fire from the start, like kelly, or one who is completely removed from the F1 ecosystem entirely, like, idk. a coffee farmer in belize who moonlights as a go go dancer at crazy horse whose special interest is the history of color palettes; or a former astronaut-turned-mugler muse; or a professional, duly-licensed clown for hire who also happens to own a construction company that specializes in eco-concrete. just someone who is so different from what he is that they would never be affected by the pitfalls of a life on the racing circuit. either way, she's got to keep up with his high octane life as much as possible.

(and smart. they have to be smart and loving with their words. he would not tolerate it otherwise. 5H and 12H connections are all good for casual relationships, but the 7H is where the first marriage is seen- and his L7 is Mercury exalted in Virgo 10H, next to his moon. whoever ends up marrying him will attract a lot of criticism as well as idolatry- which is why they have to be witty as hell to transmute that energy into something beautiful.)

However, his Saturn 5H and his Sun, in the exaltation of Libra, may mellow it out over time. No matter who he partners with, as long as he stays with them for a long time, the public will soon warm up to them. Saturn likes longevity, a lesson that some Libras on the grid don't seem to care about, but I digress.

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2:12 p.m. October 14 2024 (because I went out with friends yesterday and cooked soup and slept like a baby)

[taylovelinus]

look I know I’m literally preaching to the choir here, but it drives me insane how many heterosexual women allow themselves to date the most mid men on the face of the earth. all the incel talk about how women only date “chads” is patently, provably false if you happen to know any actual het women (and is simply projection on mens’ part). women who could literally be runway models regularly date men who look like the creature from the black lagoon. and yes, looks aren’t everything, beauty fades over time, 100% agree. but it just bugs me so much precisely because most men would consider marrying a woman they didn’t find physically attractive to be INSULTING to them.

think about all the movies and tv shows you’ve seen where the protagonist is an average to below-average looking guy, who always ends up winning over a shockingly gorgeous woman by the end of the story, usually because of his humor or wit or other personality trait (so most 2000s romcoms lol). how many movies can we name where a conventionally attractive man pines over and wins the affections of a woman not considered conventionally attractive? (besides Shallow Hal, which debatably might not even fit into this category, and of which I’m sure many thinkpieces have likely already been written, so I won’t write another here.) how many where a conventionally unattractive woman is herself the protagonist? I doubt we could name very many of either. it’s so ingrained in our culture.

men feel entitled to date an attractive woman, that they are owed it, and most would find the notion of partnering with and marrying a woman they find unattractive to be genuinely demeaning to them. yet I know SO many women who date (and are marrying! and having sex with!) the most neanderthal-looking men just because he’s “good enough”. and like I said — looks aren’t everything. it’s true, and I know and agree with that, even if it sounds contradictory with this post — it’s just my point is that the VAST majority of men would NEVER do that for you. no matter how kind, intelligent, funny, capable, hardworking, accomplished, empathetic, or thoughtful you are, at the end of the day, if he thought you weren’t attractive or “fuckable”, he wouldn’t be with you.

het women, PLEASE raise your standards and keep them high. if you don’t find him sexually attractive, you don’t have to be with him. you don’t have to justify it to anyone. you can reject anyone for any reason. you don’t have to settle just because you’re afraid you won’t find anyone else. it is better to be single than to settle, EVER, for ANY reason. if he doesn’t check EVERY one of your boxes, don’t waste your time. life is beautiful and wonderful and fulfilling without being partnered with a man. you don’t need to settle. there is joy and success and fulfillment outside of relationships.

[alvadee]

i always think it's so insanely stupid when people mock others because they find "not conventionally attractive" or downright "ugly" people hot. like the whole "sis, you can do better" meme was funny in the beginning when it still felt more targeted at women who date ugly AND useless men (as in they have no obvious redeeming qualities) but i see that comment so often now just because someone's so doesn't have immaculate bonestructure and isn't ripped.

it's not only mean spirited it also demands an outrageous and worrying level of conformity. and obviously the most insane thing about that way of thinking is that the logical conclusion of it would be that everyone is supposed to pine after a rare type of physical beauty and everyone else who can't date a person who looks like that has to pick from the reject pile and be unhappy with someone they're not attracted to...

if we just accept/encourage that all types of people find all types of people hot it's much more likely everyone ends up happy because there's someone out there for everyone.

like, i have a friend whose type are rat boys, guys that kind of look like...rats, in a way... and we can joke about it! and she jokes about my taste but we still support each other's weird taste! what good is it if your type is brad pitt, chris hemsworth or jason momoa?? like, good luck looking for dudes like them but uhm there just aren't a lot. the person who finds a much more average looking dude hot, isn't weird, they're just lucky they have a much easier time finding someone they're attracted to, a win for them!

this whole attitude of there being a right way to be hot is honestly just propaganda so conventionally attractive people can still enjoy the social capital their looks give them and to make people miserable about themselves and their partners.

[brightbeautifulthings]

Puddin' by Julie Murphy

"My magic truth--the thing that has changed everything for me--is this: the body I have shouldn't change how deserving I am of my dreams."

Year Read: 2019

Rating: 5/5

Context: There are mild spoilers ahead for Dumplin'. Trigger warnings: bullying, fat-shaming, racism, anxiety.

About: Millie Michalchuk has been to fat camp every summer since she was young, but this year, she has her heart set on one of the most prestigious journalism camps in the country. She knows that girls her size will have to fight to be in broadcasting, but after winning runner-up at the Miss Blue Bonnet Pageant, she's determined to chase her dream. She just has to break the news to her mother. Callie Reyes is pretty and popular, a member of the dance team, The Shamrocks, and girlfriend to one of the richest guys in town. When the team's funding is cut, Callie and some of her teammates are caught in an act of vandalism--but Callie is the one who takes the fall for it. The consequences put her in daily contact with Millie, and the girls discover they may have more in common than they ever imagined.

Thoughts: I'm not sure I can be objective about this book. It was exactly what I needed, and I found myself enjoying every single page, so much that I ended up loving it even more than Dumplin'. It's not enough that Murphy has given us two fat protagonists with their own love stories who totally rock; now she's given us one of the best enemies-to-friends girl/girl friendships I've ever read. Dumplin' fell a little short for me because it was mostly romance (although Willowdean totally deserves her HEA). While Puddin' has its own cute romantic plotlines, it also has a strong friendship thread and a stunning, believable character arc for Callie. Plotwise, it's a lot stronger, and that may have made the difference.

But it may also have been the characters. I liked Will a lot, but Millie is the teen queen heroine that girls (fat, thin, and everything in between) deserve. She's sunshine and positivity personified, but she's not without her own flaws and doubts. The girl has goals, and she's willing to put herself out there for them. I love her acceptance of her body and her refusal to let it stand in the way of what she wants. Again, the novel stresses that it isn't only skinny, pretty girls who should have their happy endings, and they shouldn't have to conform to a societal standard for beauty to get what they want out of life. There's a bit of fat-shaming, but it's always countered on page (sometimes in the best ways).

Callie is less likable at first. She's a mean girl, plain and simple, but she's by no means flat or static. She has her own set of insecurities in being Latina next to her very white/blonde mother and sister. The novel strips her of everything she thought was important and forces her to find a real cause for her considerable talents. Millie and Callie's friendship is slow to start and comes with its own challenges, which makes it all the more believable. Callie also comes a long way in terms of development, so I found myself cheering for her by the end. I enjoy the way she owns her strength and, at times, her meanness. Being a better person doesn’t mean changing her temperament to match a Disney princess’s.

The minor cast is like hitting a diversity checklist, and I love it: characters of color, characters with severe social anxiety, a wlw relationship, an ace character, characters with physical differences or who aren't conventionally attractive. I hope Murphy keeps writing about this friend-group because I would absolutely pick up a companion novel about Hannah or Amanda. I have Ramona Blue waiting on my shelf, and if it's as good as these, I'm probably going to end up reading everything she ever wrote. Highly recommended for fans of contemporary YA with strong friendships and a dash of romance. (And can we please, please have a Puddin’ movie, Netflix?)

[rationaromanceblog]

Reflections: Folly in Love

I envied beautiful girls as a teenager believing I would never be one of them.  I am a wonderful person, I at least knew, and I resented that because I didn’t have external attractiveness no one would get a chance to find out. I was a little chubby with glasses and frizzy hair. I wasn’t told I was beautiful the way other girls were praised, and took that to mean the opposite.  I came to resent attractiveness. When I get to choose mates, I will not let their attractiveness get in the way of my ability to see how amazing they are. I will be above all levels of shallowness.  I decided. But I wasn’t expecting that of other people. So I  made it my mission to become attractive. I spent a lot of time and effort in my teens losing weight and trying to get rid of my curls in order to be more acceptable and hopefully given a chance. Thin beats fat. Straight beats curly. At age 17 I saw the conventions and followed them. Never bothering to question them.  I moved to Denver as a senior in high school and started to get attention because of my efforts. 

By then I had established the rule within myself that I was not going to let someone’s lack of conventional attractiveness stop me from dating them. But in doing so I  ignored the fact that I should be attracted to them in all other ways too. I liked Daniel only enough to enjoy his company as my friend. I hoped that was enough to catapult a romance. Unfortunately, it wasn't.

If dating is a game then winner gets the girl. It’s pretty simple.  To win the game you are the best possible selection. You become the cream of the crop and start to attract people towards you. So, what is the best?  And how do you become the cream of the crop? That part is fairly arbitrary and possibly random. But you at least know what you like. You know what traits and characteristics matter to you, so you go with that. You aim to get better at being a person in some form. Making more money? Being more attractive? Learning a skill? Becoming funnier? Sure, why not? Whatever your chosen tactic; Grow. Potential mates will become interested. Congratulations you are becoming attractive. Add kindness and confidence and you are almost irresistible. Don’t like this advice? Do what did cheat and take some shortcuts. 

There is a distinction between being a person that attracts and being physically attractive, although they are often the same. Attractive people will most likely attract people. Even horrible people (Take Ted Bundy for instance) will manage to pull people towards them (Although you could make the argument that Ted was charming too). The reason for that is is rooted in biology.  But luckily for conventionally unattractive people, attractiveness is greatly subjective. (Phew!) So even if you don’t consider someone physically attractive, if they aim to be the best and have confidence and self respect the lack of perceived physical attractiveness will not matter so much. You will also attract people who enjoy your physical aesthetic. And there will always be people that do.

The relationship between Daniel and I was full of shortcuts. We played the game through a non conventional  method. To play the game properly you have to become someone who attracts, and you simply have to choose those who you are attracted to. Neither of us did that.

The idea that I was not attracted to Daniel being different than Daniel was not attractive is a distinction I want to make not just to save face. But to say that there are more factors. I ignored being attracted to him because I hoped to be morally superior. But I knew I was forcing an attraction  and ignoring how I really felt. 

Dating Daniel also took the work of having to love myself and put it on him. It was my  job to create self esteem and love. But I hoped if he loved me enough, I didn’t need to. He showered me with affection and compliments, and when it didn’t work he blamed himself for not being able to show me my own loveliness. It was an impossible mission destined to fail, and an unhealthy one. I’ve never met a more determined person, however. He spent the year going to work. I think if I had let him, he would have spent the next decade working this angle. Just assuming it wasn’t successful because he wasn’t doing it right or enough time hadn’t passed. Rarely do we stop to question why we do the things we do. Especially that young. Daniel’s tactics were a way of short cutting the rules of the game.  

I could describe his tactics easily using the Nice Guy and Friend Zone terminology.  The reason we generally find these methods apprehensive and trite is because they use characteristics we perceive as positive: being supportive and kind and add motive. To get the girl the Nice Guy highlights themselves as “different”.  That inadvertently gets them around having to be the best. ‘I am the best by not being like the others.’ I heard this message plenty from Daniel. If I can cajole you into choosing me for what I can do for you then I can win the game by following my own set of rules. He made himself available to me and exemplified servitude would have no choice but to fall in love with him in his eyes.  I mostly felt indebted. The subtle difference being you support and are available to those you love because it feels good to, not as a means to an end. A Nice Guy will never admit that they are doing what they are doing out of a sheer desire for sex or romance. They might not even recognize it in themselves.

 The Friend Zone comes hand in hand with the Nice Guy. Its where the Nice Guys lives. It is the result of intention under the guise of friendship. I wasn’t oblivious to Daniel’s intentions. He owned that he liked me from the beginning. He used his devotion and friendship as a bargaining chip to date me, outright. So at least there was minimal deception. He made comments once he had established that he liked me that by choosing to stay friends I was putting him in the Friend Zone, and I would agree but say we both were making that choice. I wanted to pretend he didn’t like me so I could keep his friendship and he hoped his friendship was the key to getting me to like him.

Ultimately I am grateful for the experience. Daniel’s resolve strengthened my own.  Every time I wanted to leave he tested me in a way that forced me to come to my own side.  I was so full of ‘shoulds’. I should be attracted to him. I should be happy. Leaving Daniel earned me a level of self confidence because for the first time I had to fully own what I did and didn’t want, without his input.  It was a year long practice in understanding myself and having my own back. 

In a funny way Daniel also taught me how to be a great partner. He was so devoted. I knew that there was something very special in that. I hoped to cherish my partners the way he cherished me. He was a great example of what being a good partner looked like. By the end though, I didn’t care.  What I wanted more than anything was someone that I could love with intense passion. The way I never felt with Daniel. So I left in search of that. 

[sharksfood]

so this thought just came into my head and i want to explore it.

in my life i’ve only seen 3 films so far that i read as books before they became movies. im not counting comic books/graphic novels that became movies bcs thats a little different, books that became tv shows, or plays that became movies. but its interesting to think about that.

i didnt read harry potter until well after the films (all of them lmao) were released, i’ve never read how to train your dragon, i’ve never read the hobbit/lotr, the animated alice in wonderland came out in the 50s, i have only recently read the last unicorn, i read World War Z after the movie came out (and ive never seen all of the movie), and i read the neverending story when i was cast in the play.

the books that i read before they came out in film are; The Chronicles of Narnia: The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe, Warm Bodies, and Goosebumps.

Goosebumps kind of fits but it was made into a tv series first, and im not sure if i read the books or saw the shows first. i did both, i know that much.

I read Warm Bodies only bcs I wanted to see the movie but thought the book would be cool to read (its amazing and has a completely different feel from the movie), and Lion Witch Wardrobe was bcs my dad read it to me when I was younger. That and The Magician’s Nephew are the only Narnia books ive ever read.

I was going to try and read Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children before the movie came out, but that work out for me.

if you want to count comics and graphic novels, then the list gets bigger. but comics already have the characters drawn out, so unlike books, you dont have an idea in your head on what the character looks like. that is so often changed in film, plus you loose so much detail and nuance when you go book to screenplay to film (this is also true with comics, but its still different)

However, and the biggest reason as to why I’m thinking about this, two movies will be coming out in the next few years, and both of them are based on my favorite books of all time (aside from the alice books of course). 

The first is Captain Underpants! I know that this is a book series with words and pictures, so technically its a graphic novel series, but they’re kids books! and those tend to have an awful lot of pictures. This series was my FAVORITE (other than the alice books) as a kid!! they were fun, hilarious, relatable, and just all around super great. So when i saw the trailer for the animated film that’s coming out this year based on the series i was ECSTATIC!! Were it live-action i would be bummed out since kids picture books usually fair better when animated (im not a fan of the diary of a wimpy kid movies....) but this animation is handled a lot like The Peanuts movie. The animation look like a color and 3D version of the exact art style!! its wonderful and im SO EXCITED

The other one, and this i am VERY VERY nervous about, is Ready Player One. that is my favorite sci-fi novel ever. i often say its my favorite book ever bc it deserves more love! and i do so much love it. ive reread it i dont even know how many times. and what do you know, they’re making it into a movie!! when i heard about this i had so many mixed feelings, and most of it has to do with the style of the book and the characters.

-Ready Player One Spoilers-

In Ready Player One the protagonist starts out as a dirt poor, fat, unattractive teen boy, and later he gets more physically fit/healthy and rich. he claims to still be unattractive at this point (mostly bcs he jues doesnt like how he looks and he looses all his body hair). this is very important to the character! i’m afraid that in this movie hollywood will do as they always do and make him a skinny conventionally attractive teen from the get-go. people will probably pull the Holes excuse of “the filmmakers didnt want to make the actor gain a bunch of weight and then loose it all” BULLSHIT they can cast a fat actor! and through his training and as they film the movie he can loose some weight or they can use movie magic (like when they made chris evans a scrawny little thing). its not that hard, people.

Another character, and this was super important to me and was a big subplot, is that Wade best friend, Aech, whom he only knows through the game (OASIS) plays as a white, straight, guy avatar, but they’re actually a black lesbian named Helen. And she plays this avatar to protect herself and to get a job and be taken seriously within OASIS. is super sad she has to do this, but its a big part of her character. she’s also fat as well, and im REALLY worried that in the movie she’s going to be a skinny straight white girl.

Two other characters who have important characteristics are Art3mis (Samantha) and the creator of OASIS James Halliday. Art3mis is Wade later love interest and GF. She is notable bcs her avatar is just like her, a chubby girl with black hair, but sans her port-wine birthmark. I know they’ll keep her birthmark, since its an intimate reveal, but they’ll probably make her skinny and i hate it. Now it’s only half canon in the books, but i’ve chosen to go with it, but at one point Wade talks about James Halliday’s childhood and his personality and all that, and mentions that he might have been autistic. Now, since it’s only he “might have been” in the books, the filmmakers will probably not make him autistic. That’s fucking sad to me, I mean, it would be amazing!! This character is one of the smartest, most famous, most prolific video game programmers/designers in history!! And he’s autistic! That is some wonderful representation and the filmmakers should jump on that opportunity. It’ll inspire so many autistic people who have a passion for video games to pursue their dreams. But, i have a hunch they wont go with it.

Two other characters, Daito and Shoto, are Japanese young guys who claim to be brothers (and their characters are) but are just friends in the real world. My initial hunch was that the filmmakers would keep them Japanese, but given the recent whitewashing of important Japanese characters, I have my doubts.

My few other concerns are that this movie won’t have 80s pop culture as the main style and focus of the era they book is set in, not to mention OASIS and most of people’s interests. It’s incredibly important to the novel, but so many dystopian movies choose to go with gritty, futuristic, edgy stuff. The other concern is how they will handle the real life vs OASIS look, since over half of the book takes place inside a VR video game. I’ve seen news that they are utilizing VR technology, but i havent read too much. I’m wondering if they’ll animate all of OASIS and the avatars and action and anything in the video game! That would be awesome.

So these are all my thoughts. I havent looks at who they’ve cast yet, so I’m going to do that right now. I do know that Steven Spielberg is directing it, which could be fantastic or terrible. Okay, cast time.

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So the IMDB doesnt say who is cast as Daito and Shoto, but Wikipedia says that Win Morisaki of PrizmaX will play him, which is great! I hope that’s what happens.

Art3mis/Samantha will be played by Olivia Cooke, who in my opinion is way too old. She’s older than me! The character’s age (i think) isnt mentioned in the book, but she’s got to be 17-20, and Olivia Cooke looks older than that. She’s also not chubby, but hey, maybe they’ll fit that. She also doesnt have the birthmark, but that’s gonna be makeup. (wouldve been cool if they found an actress with a port-wine stain on her face...)

Parzival/Wade will be played by Ty Sheridan. He was Cyclops in X-Men Apocalypse. He’s the right age, but way too fit and attractive. DAMN IT Well, I guess there’s always makeup and special effects, but i’m 80% sure now they wont make Wade fat.....

Aech/Helen will be played by Lena Waithe who is almost PERFECT. She’s much older than Aech, who is around 18, but like Samantha i imagine they’ll have make up and acting to cover it. My biggest concern is that she’s not fat like Aech, which means they’ll use a body suit or effects or Lena will gain weight, or they wont do anything.....

T.J. Miller will be playing I-r0k, who is another OASIS player and a bigtime douchebag jerk. This is perfect. We don’t know his age, or really anything other than his personality and avatar, and T.J. Miller is hilarious so this/ll be great.

Mark Rylance will be playing James Halliday, witch is fine by me. He’s not quite what I imagined, but thats what makeup and wigs are for. He’s worked a lot with Steven Spielberg, so that makes sense as to why he’s cast here. I just hope he can portray an autistic character well and with respect.... (would be better if he IS autistic but ya know.....)

Simon Pegg will be playing Ogden Morrow, the co-creator of OASIS, and thats perfect. No complaints.

Nolan Sorrento (the antagonist of the book and head of operations at Innovative Online Industries) will be played by Ben Mendelsohn, who was Director Krennic in Rouge One. He is much older and not quite and slimy as I imagined him, but this can totally work. I pictured Nolan Sorrento as Andrew Scott in my head, since he seems like the perfect evil, charismatic, slimy, attractive but ugly inside business man.

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So, after looking at the current casting choices im a little let down, but still excited! I’ll have to wait patienly for the trailer, since this thing is coming out in 2018. Dang, this turned into a Ready Player One post, but its been on my mind recently.

If you read through all of this, good job! let me know what you think! i probably dont talk about Ready Player One very often but thats bcs i dont know anyone in real life (other than my dad) who has read this book, and the online fandom seems nonexistent. Who knows?

But yeah, I guess I made this post bcs I wasn’t able to share the collective nervousness, complaints, and excitement of Harry Potter or LotR or Percy Jackson fans when their fav books became movies.

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My Boyfriend Loves Fat Women

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My Boyfriend Loves Fat Women

As a fat woman myself, I’m still struggling with how I feel about it.

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Ironically enough, I met my boyfriend during the thinnest month of my life.

I was at a friend’s birthday party at a bar when I saw my future boyfriend Brian from across the room, talking to the birthday boy. Brian was the type of guy I spent most of high school and college and my entire adult life pining after and never getting: slim, with dark hair and glasses, his jeans torn in all the best places. He had a beautiful mouth that was excitedly saying things I couldn’t hear, but was making everyone around him laugh.

If I had still been at my heaviest weight, I never would have approached Brian. As a fat woman, I have been taught that there is an order of operations for love: First, you get thin; then, you can date who you want. Until you do the first thing, the second thing is impossible. So for many women who struggle with their weight, it becomes a fight not just for their health or well-being, but a struggle to just be worthy of the love so many people take for granted.

Most of my life, my weight has felt like a search light from above that continually hounds me, putting the spotlight on my body even when I just want to hide. My third-grade class unofficially voted me “class pig” — a title I embraced with great gusto, because the alternative meant no friends. When I was 10, my dad ripped a box of Apple Jacks out of my hand while I was pouring myself a second bowl of cereal, and told me that I was “going to turn into a goddamn pumpkin.” The summer I turned 14, I was sweating my life out every day for an hour during swim team practice. Still, when I put on a bikini one day, my mother wouldn’t stop talking about my belly fat until I just wanted to throw the bikini away and never wear one again. I have always hated my body, and in retrospect, I’m not sure I was ever given the chance to love it.

But on the day I met Brian, I had just spent the previous year slowly winnowing off 50 pounds, almost entirely due to unemployment. I wasn’t buying a lot of food, and was spending much of my free time developing a nervous running habit that led me to spend hours every day trotting in circles around my neighborhood, trying to go somewhere even as my career was jogging in place.

So I was feeling brave, the stupid kind of courage that comes from unexpectedly having a body you never thought you’d inhabit, and wondering what kinds of things it might let you get away with. And I walked that crazy all the way over to the other side of the bar, and introduced myself to him.

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There was a three-hour period — between the moment Brian first kissed me, and the moment when I learned that Brian was predominantly attracted to bigger women — when I felt like I could do anything. In my mind, I had done the impossible. Seducing a thin and attractive person was like taking bronze, silver, and gold in the Former Fat Girl Olympics.

At some point that night, I remember lying next to him, still feeling unbelievably cocky from my victory, when Brian mentioned that I wasn’t normally his type.

My inner Douchebag Alert went off. Oh god, I thought. Is this the part where he lets me know how nice he is for throwing my chubby ass a bone?

“What’s normally your type?” I asked him, bracing myself for the part where he not-so-subtly intimated that he can usually do better than me.

I did not get the response I expected.

“I like bigger ladies,” Brian replied. “Very big ladies, actually.” He sounded as calm and as normal as if he were telling me the weather. He was not ashamed. I suddenly realized that this was not an attempt to put me down, but rather just a thing (a completely normal thing, to him) that he was disclosing about himself. In other words: It was conversation.

But the little part of me inside that had been cheering for hours suddenly got very quiet. But I am your type, I thought sadly. In that moment, I know that Brian had been saying that he didn’t consider me to be big, but I know as well as anyone that people can’t fundamentally change who they are attracted to. Brian was still attracted to fat girls, and I was one of them.

This, of course, did not take away from how into Brian I was. We started dating almost immediately, and became inseparable. When I described him to people, I would tend to use celebrities who I was currently in love with as a frame of reference:

“He’s exactly like a dark-haired Ben Folds, but younger, and with better skin.”

“He looks just like an American version of John Oliver, but with better teeth, and a more attractive nose.”

“Brian looks like Rick Moranis in Ghostbusters,” I said once during a Halloween party, apropos of absolutely nothing. “But, like, even better looking.”

It was during this time that I started slowly putting the weight back on. Not because Brian was doing anything to sabotage me — he was and is supportive of my wanting to eat well and exercise. It was just a result of being in a happy relationship, suddenly having a full-time job, and life getting in the way. Normal things.

Six months into our relationship, I found myself in a very desperate laundry situation. I put on a sundress that I thought might be a little too backless for my current weight.

“I figure if worst comes to worst, I can just find a wall to stand against, or walk backward a lot,” I said to Brian as I put it on, trying to preemptively apologize for an outfit that I was pretty sure was riding the line between flattering and gross.

Brian, however, loved the dress. Maybe even a little too much — I spent a lot of time while wearing it swatting his hands away from the open back. I felt happy wearing it, beautiful. Soon, I was wearing it all the time.

Then, I wore it to a party. Late in the evening, Brian turned to a mutual friend of ours, and eagerly, drunkenly opined: “Doesn’t Kristin look amazing in that dress?”

The silence that followed felt like the moment before someone hits the button on a dunk tank, and you know that you are about to tumble, helpless, into a frosty tub of punishment. I realized, belatedly, obviously, that to Brian, I did look amazing in that dress. Because I looked fat.

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When you are a fat person who is losing weight, people will come out of the woodwork to let you know how “amazing” you look — even my psychiatrist called me “the incredible shrinking woman” at nearly every appointment. Well-meaning people felt this constant need to make it plain that I was somehow better once I had lost weight, and it only made it that much more painful when people stop telling you how good you look, and stop saying anything at all.

For the first time since I had started dating Brian, I looked at myself and realized that my body, almost without my realizing it, was reverting to back to its former fat state. This is the real you, I thought. The other you was just a disguise. But you couldn’t fool everyone forever.

And the fewer compliments about my body that I got from other people, the more I would get from Brian. It got to the point where compliments from Brian were actually painful to hear — every time he said “You look beautiful,” all I could hear was “You look fat.”

I started trying on outfits in front of Brian in order to get his opinion. It was a good system. Anything he liked, I wouldn’t wear.

It was during this time that I started being mean to myself — really, truly unkind. I looked at myself for hours in the mirror the way a child might gawk at an ugly person on the street. I would push and pull the rolls of fat on my stomach with my hands as flat as I could, and try to imagine what my lower half would look like, unencumbered by what I had done to it. I’d meet every compliment Brian gave me with something equally cruel about myself. It was like my self-image was in a tennis match, and it was more important for me to be right than for me to feel good.

Brian’s expressions when I would rip myself to shreds eventually moved from sympathy to frustration.

“I love your body,” Brian would say, carefully. “Because Kristin lives in your body.”

Even though I was and am loved, I still didn’t feel that way — because in my mind, I had not earned it. You won, I would try to tell myself. You still earned love while gaining weight.

Then I went to an appointment with my psychiatrist, and for the first time in years, she said nothing about my body. Nothing at all.

No, I didn’t win, I would tell myself instead. I got what I wanted, but I didn’t do the work. That’s cheating. I cheated.

And though Brian is and has always been open and confident with his preferences, they started to embarrass me. Once at a party, he mentioned that Rebel Wilson was hot to a group of people we were talking to. A short silence followed, during which I actually moonwalked away from the conversation, as though trying to physically escape before a comparison between Rebel Wilson and myself could catch up to me.

Which is ridiculous. Rebel Wilson is fabulous. Why would I not want that for myself?

And what would happen if I lost all this weight? I would wonder to myself bitterly. Would Brian still feel the same way? Was I doomed to either be conventionally attractive or someone’s fetish object?

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Brian gets tired of my self-hatred. He has limits, he’s human, and more important, he’s a human who loves me and finds me attractive, and is frustrated with having to defend those choices to me, of all people.

Once, we were at a bar, and I saw a very large woman sitting at the edge of the bar. “Do you think she’s cute?” I asked Brian, in a way that clearly indicated she was not. It was a petty, mean question, and one I already knew the answer to. But I found myself wanting to hear him say it, like I could trick Brian into openly admitting that his idea of beautiful — and that his ideas about me — were so obviously, incredibly wrong.

“Yes, I do.” Brian said, not taking the bait. “She’s very pretty. What is your problem? Do you want another beer?”

One of the things I’ve come to understand is that, when you’re single, hating your body is more or less a victimless crime, if you don’t count yourself. When you get into a relationship, however, it becomes a constant referendum on the tastes and judgment of the person who loves you.

The other problem was that, the more that I poke at myself, the more Brian pokes at himself as well. While he is objectively not a very big person, he’s succumed a little bit to the 10 to 15 pounds everyone gains when they are happy and in love. But one morning, I saw him looking at himself in the mirror, grabbing the small pudge from his stomach, and agonizing about how much he felt it made him into a terrible person.

“That’s ridiculous,” I said. Because it so obviously was — he was trying to grab handfuls of his tummy for emphasis, but was struggling to even get one hand full.

“No, it isn’t,” he shot back, in that angry, desperate tone of voice I have so often used. “I am just a fat person, now.”

No, you’re not, I thought, and I wondered how many times Brian had felt like this: frustrated, annoyed, and helpless as he watched me tear down a thing he loved.

The thing that I have struggled the most with understanding is that, just like I am not just a fat girl, Brian is not just someone who likes fat girls. He is someone who has made it through this life, one that is inundated with social mores about what is OK and not OK in terms of physical attraction, and he is unmoved by any of it. How he handles this attraction is actually one of the most attractive things about him. He knows that his is not a popular opinion, and wastes no time caring about that fact.

I wish I could say that I am 100% OK with myself. I still do the thing where, when people compliment pictures of myself that I hate, I will wonder just how bad I look in all the other photos they aren’t complimenting.

But I do little things. When a couple of co-workers and I published this post about “one size fits all” clothing last December, I was terrified at the types of things people would say about my body. But when people were so overwhelmingly positive toward me, it reminded me of how important it is not to be your own biggest censor. I let myself believe the nice things people said.

Two years ago, I didn’t even realize they made bikinis in a size 18 — turns out that they do. Lots of cute ones. And this year, I intend to buy one, and wear it to the beach. And I will enjoy that no one will be able to complain to me about my belly fat (without looking like a crazy person). I will enjoy how excited that makes Brian, to see me happy in my own skin. I will let him enjoy the thing he loves without tearing it down. But more importantly, I will work to earn love from me, who is the person who will always play the hardest to get. I will flirt as hard as I can, and I will win myself back.

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just answer all of them. go

long.... long

1: Let’s start with a tricky one; what is the real reason you are confused right now?

im... not confused right now. maybe about this question? being confused isn’t generally a long lasting emotion, i don’t think?

2: Do you ever get “good morning” texts from anyone?

nope. it’s fine, i wake up at 2, anyway, usually.

3: If your significant other smoked pot, would you care?

i’m not a fan of smoke in general, but there’s zero moral problem with it, as long as it’s not in my face?

4: Do you find it easy to trust others?

not particularly.

5: What were you doing at 11PM last night?

was i drawing? i don’t know. probably talking to the salt squad.

6: You’re drunk and lost walking down the road; who is with you?

probably angela.

7: What would you do if you found out you had been cheated on?

be sad and upset, and talk about the circumstances and see what i think of the whole situation.

8: Are you close with your dad?

i think so. he’s the best.

9: I bet you kissed someone last night, right?

laughs no

10: What are you listening to?

nothing, right now, but harley’s snoring.

11: You can only drink ONE liquid for the rest of your life - what is it?

skim milk.

12: Do you like hickeys?

i think they’re cute

13: What time do you go to bed?

3am or later.

14: Is there someone who continuously lets you down?

not that i actually expect to do well to start with.

15: Can you text as quickly with one hand as you do both?

faster, actually.

16: Do you always answer your texts?

nnnnope.

17: Do you hate the person you fell the hardest for?

nope.

18: When was the last time you talked to one of your best friends?

looks at clock. looks back at this question..... 0.4 minutes ago

19: Is there someone that makes you happy every time you see them?

i get happy seeing pictures of my friends all the time!

20: What was your last thought before you went to bed last night?

probably some combination of “jason’s wearing a tie” and “it’s really hot in here.”

21: Is anyone else in the room with you?

no, but harley’s here!

22: Do you believe what goes around comes around?

in general.

23: Were you happier four months ago than you are now?

don’t think so.

24: Is there someone you wish you could fix things with?

 i haven’t gotten in any fights with anyone that i had much of an opinion on to start with, i don’t think, so no.

25: In the past week, have you cried?

ya.

26: What colour is the shirt you are wearing?

grey, in a tv static-like pattern.

27: Do people ever call you by your last name?

never, omg.

28: Is anyone ignoring you right now?

don’t think so.

29: Do you have a best friend?

ya.

30: Would it be hard seeing someone else kiss the last person you kissed?

i mean the chances of me seeing it are very low, so in that case, it would be difficult. emotionally? not at all.

31: Who was your last call/text message from?

mom.

32: Are you mad at anyone?

not actively, but there’s the passive “fuck you and everything you stand for” feeling about some people.

33: Have you ever kissed someone older than you?

yes, but not by much.

34: How old will the last person you kissed be on his/her next birthday?

probably 19?

35: How many more days until your birthday?

ummmm. pulled up an auto calculator, 197.

36: Do you have any summer plans yet?

yeah!

37: Do you have any good friends of the opposite sex?

i don’t know what opposite is really supposed to mean to me, but either way, yes.

38: Are you keeping anything from your best friend(s) now?

i don’t think so.

39: Do you have a secret that you’ve never told anyone?

ya.

40: Have you ever regretted kissing someone?

only because SOMEONE keeps making fun of me for it, lmao. but what are friends for?

41: Do you think age matters in relationships?

to an extent, yes.

42: Are you available?

not conventionally, but yes?

43: How many people have you had real, strong feelings for since high school ended?

um, two, i think. 

44: If you had to get a piercing (not ears), what would you get?

hips!

45: Do you believe exes can be friends?

depends on the people and the relationship, but i wouldn’t give it a hard no?

46: Do you regret anything?

i mean. who doesn’t.

47: Honestly, what’s on your mind right now?

well u ask be that last question then ask what’s on my mind, what do u THINK

48: Did you ever lose a best friend?

yeah, it happens.

49: Was your last kiss a mistake?

not particularly? wasn’t anything notable, really. i forget about it.

50: Why aren’t you pursuing the person you like?

:|

51: Has the last person you kissed ever seen you cry?

nope. hasn’t seen me in two years, either!

52: Do you still talk with the person you LAST kissed?

no.

53: What was the last thing you ate?

a Help Me Bowl Of Rice, as i call it. big bowl o microwave rice.

54: Did you get any compliments today?

not that i remember, but what do i know.

55: Where are you going on your next vacation?

idk if stopping in california counts as a vacation.

56: Do you own anything from other countries?

yeah, some souvenirs from europe, and obviously imported goods.

57: Are most of your friend guys or girls?

most of my friends are some kind of nonbinary, actually, but mainly feminine.

58: Where have you lived most of your life?

florida, regrettably.

59: When was the last time you took a long drive?

it’s been a long time. probably middle school.

60: Have you ever played Spin the Bottle?

yeah, but it was in like, fourth grade. truth or dare with elementary schoolers, hardcore.

61: Have you ever TPd someone’s house?

no.

62: Who do you text the most?

i don’t text much, so if we aren’t counting DMs, mom.

63: What was the last movie you saw?

moana!

64: What’s preventing your current boyfriend/girlfriend from going back to their ex?

the fact she doesn’t have an ex, i don’t think?

65: How many boyfriends/girlfriends did you have in 2011?

uhhh. zero.

66: Is the last person you kissed younger than you?

yeah.

67: Do you curse around your parents?

not around mom.

68: Are you happy with where you live?

not really.

69: Picture of yourself?

laptop camera photo, not amazing.

70: Are you a monogamous person or do you believe in open-ended relationships?

polyamory is good when communication is good.

71: Have you ever been dumped?

nope.

72: What do you most like about making out?

about WHAT

73: Have you ever casually made out with someone who you weren’t seriously involved with?

nope.

74: When you kiss someone for the first time, is it usually you who initiates it or the other?

usually it’s me. which is kind of horrendous, considering my relationship personality, lmao.

75: What part of a person’s body do you find most attractive?

i like tummies... want to poke......

76: Who was the last person you talked to last night before you went to bed?

i’d say angela but she fell asleep in the middle of some sentence i was saying, so i think i talked to someone in the sad guro groupchat lmao

77: Had sex with someone you knew less than an hour?

no.

78: Had sex with someone you didn’t know their name?

nop e.

79: What makes your heart flutter and brings a big cheesy smile to your face?

when i get thos little petnames from people i like..... call me a cutie and im blushin

80: Would you get involved with someone if they had a child already?

at my age, i’d have to really like them.

81: Has someone who had a crush on you ever confessed to you?

yeah. i’ve turned a couple people down.

82: Do you tell a lot of people when you have a crush?

not really. i think two or three people.

83: Do you miss your last sweetie?

my WHAT (no.)

84: Last time you slow danced with someone?

four years ago?

85: Have you ever ‘dated’ someone you’ve never met?

ya.

86: How can I win your heart?

if you’re sweet to me initially, i’ve probably had the thought. and if u keep feeding it, im there. give me like 3 affection and im smilin at u

87: What is your astrological sign?

scorpio, libra cusp.

88: What were you doing last night at 12 AM?

drawing, i think?

89: Do you cook?

yeah.

90: Have you ever gotten back in touch with an old flame after a time of more than 3 months of no communication?

nope.

91: If you’re single right now, do you wish you were in a relationship?

n/a.

92: Do you prefer to date various people or do you pretty much fall into monogamous relationships quickly?

i don’t date much.

93: What physical traits do you look for in a potential interest?

i don’t look for physical traits.

94: Name four things that you wish you had!

more money, cooler clothes, maybe a nicer laptop and phone? if i had to pick.

95: Are you a player?

lmao no.

96: Have you ever kissed 2 people in one day?

nope.

97: Are you a tease?

i don’t think so?

98: Ever meet anyone you met on Tumblr?

once, at a con. we weren’t close on tumblr, we didn’t hit it off great there. pretty sure we’re not following each other anymore.

99: Have you ever been deeply in love with someone?

ya.

100: Anybody on Tumblr that you’d go on a date with?

YEAA

101: Hugs or Kisses?

hugs?

102: Are you too shy to ask someone out?

story of my life

103: The first thing you notice about the opposite sex?

?? idk. noses, probably.

104: Is it cute when a boy/girl calls you babe?

it’s grown on me, actually, but no other derivatives of “baby” other than like “bbu” are okay, and bbu is purely platonic.

105: If a sexy person was pursuing you, but you knew he/she was in relationship, would you go for it?

i mean, depends on their relationship, and how they’re pursuing me?? i mean, if they’re insisting, im at least going to contemplate telling their signif one way or another. anyway, uh, probably not.

106: Do you flirt a lot?

kind of? i flirt in my way that doesn’t register as flirting, just as being a nice person, so it’s kind of always a failure, so i guess not.

107: Your last kiss?

oh, it was under the moonlight, beautiful water, semi-decent looking guy.... yeah, uh, not actually memorable. it was funny, though, he hit on every other available girl in his age range after me. i was the lovely first choice, isn’t that great? guess i’m cute.

108: Have you kissed more than 5 people since the start of 2012?

this ask meme is probably intented to be answered in 2012. astoundingly, the answer is still no.

109: Have you kissed anyone in the past month?

nope.

110: If you could kiss anyone who would it be?

ella needs a smoochie

111: Do you know who you’ll kiss next?

probably ella.

112: Does someone like you currently?

i think a lot of people like me. probably not in the way this question means, though, cries.

113: Do you currently have feelings for anyone?

well yes. but also ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ is a good partial answer

114: Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?

im not a fling kind of person

115: Ever made out with just a friend?

nope.

116: Are you happier single or in a relationship?

i’m equally happy both ways, i think? i don’t need a relationship to be happy, but it’s nice and makes me a different kind of happy.

117: Your own question that you want me to answer. Just write it.

ok. well then. did anyone read this

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‘Quite Humans Always Win’: Splendor Bias Inside the Administrative center

Don’t suppose that your appears to affect your activity possibilities, huh? The advantage is all that counts – and also you’ve got that included, right?

So why, then, did Mr. And Ms. The USA get those superb jobs – and now not you?

Ought to it’s … “Beauty bias?”

Weight bias changed into my topic in an in advance ATL article, and I requested, “Is there a bias In the Place of work against those who are ‘obese’? Is weight a covered class below the Civil Rights laws?”

“Lookism” may be defined as “discriminatory treatment closer to physically unattractive Human beings; especially Within the Place of the job however also in social settings. At the same time as now not classified Within the equal manner as racial, cultural, sexual discrimination, ‘lookism’ is widespread and influences how Humans are perceived in addition to affecting their opportunities in terms of relationships, job opportunities, and many others.”

As one psychologist stated: “we face the world where lookism is one of the most pervasive but denied prejudices.”

Indeed, a number of groups have maintained a “look coverage” (some discovered unlawful, typically while regarding religious dress, and most below fireplace), certainly one of which, as suggested In the Mother or father, required that all personnel seem and get dressed with an “herbal, conventional American fashion constant with the organisation’s emblem and ‘appearance fantastic Whilst exhibiting individuality.’ Employees need to put on a ‘smooth, herbal, classic hairstyle’ and feature nails which extend ‘no extra than 1 / 4 inch past the end of the finger.’”

In fact, “From the overdue 1860s till the 1970s, several American towns had unpleasant laws that deemed it illegal for humans who have been ‘unsightly’ or ‘unseemly to appear in public.”

Times sure have modified, huh?

“Beauty Is Goodness”

In a single eye-beginning paper, Professor Comila Shahani-Denning reviewed numerous studies and wrote of the “Beauty is goodness” stereotype in cinema, which portrayed “attractive characters … greater favorably than unattractive characters.” That isn’t restrained to the cinema – “Inside the location of employment selection making, attractiveness also affects interviewers’ judgments of process candidates.”

(Professor Shahani-Denning also cited that “some proof suggests that once the position being applied for is historically crammed by means of a male, the opposite of the everyday bias is located for lady candidates: attractive ladies are evaluated much less favorably than unattractive women.” Examine also this current ATL article, with the aid of my fellow columnist Jill Switzer, approximately ladies in regulation: “It’s how we get dressed, our hairstyles, our figures and different characteristics that don’t hamper men in any respect, however, may be the kiss of demise for women legal professionals when there are women jurors and/or if it’s a high-profile case.”)

A famous Stanford law professor, Deborah Rhode, authored one of the leading works on Splendor bias, and mentioned that a massive percent of overweight Humans were discriminated towards Inside the Place of business and that short men regularly get “the shortstop of the stick.” And a piece of writing in Newsweek claimed that “good-looking guys earn, on common, five percent greater than their less-appealing opposite numbers (8504ca0e3fb5bfcdbdf1e8263f0c30ef girls earn four percentage more),” predicted by using economist Daniel Hamermesh to total $230,000 over an operating lifestyles.

Desirable grief!

A Time article commented that “girls with above average looks reportedly made eight% more At the same time as underneath-common searching women had a 4% penalization. Whilst an appealing guy earned just 4% more, men who fell under common on the seems scale were docked 13%.”

I wager it isn’t genuinely surprising then that a phone survey located that nearly three-quarters of running women agree with that “look and younger appears” are vital in hiring, promoting, and rainmaking, and nearly one in five either already had a beauty processor could take into account doing so because of this.

“Being Cheating approximately Ugliness”

In case you still think that looks don’t count number, you would be as incorrect now as while you had this drummed into you as a infant.

The Time piece above cheerily chimed in that “the entirety that your mother informed you developing up is a lie because the Pretty Human beings Continually win.” (“You was my mother, you shoulda seemed out for me a touch bit!”)

In a Big apple Times essay entitled “Being Dishonest about Ugliness,” Julia Baird wrote that “Adults often tangle themselves in knots whilst discussing bodily appearance with youngsters. We attempt to iron out variations with the aid of insisting they don’t remember, attribute a more moral fortitude to the obvious or leap in defensively when a person is described as not conventionally attractive, or — worse — ugly or fats.”

Maybe we might have been higher off now if we have been instructed the fact as youngsters – she asked: “how is a baby to grapple with the savage social hierarchy of ‘lookism’ that commonly begins In the playground, if adults are so clumsy about it? The gain of Splendor has been long mounted in social technological know-how; we realize now that it’s not simply employers, teachers, lovers and citizens who favor the aesthetically proficient, however dad and mom, too.”

Perhaps a comment in Psychology These days put it exceptional, “We recognise that attractive adults and youngsters are judged to be extra intellectually capable, emotionally adjusted and socially appealing.”

Is It A criminal offense?

There is nothing in Title VII that prohibits Splendor bias in keeping with use, so long as There is no “disparate impact” on, as an example, spiritual beliefs or disability, which require a positive appearance, grooming, dress or coiffure. assume faith-required beards or tattoos, or missing limbs or baldness because of most cancers remedy.

And to my expertise, only some jurisdictions — such as Michigan; the District of Columbia; Santa Cruz, California; Madison, Wisconsin; Urbana, Ilinois; Howard County, Maryland; and San Francisco — have legal guidelines that protect against look discrimination.