#it's a very useful tool to deal with arseholes in the world

[she-ra-ra-skirt]

Then learn to manipulate back. Learn all the signs of a well balanced individual and mimic it back to them. Like enjoying helping your friend (empathy), disliking loud noises as it stops you from concentrating when you study (able to concentrate and follow a clear line of thought in order to study and learn) and so on.

I've got out of many conversations by very carefully telling them what they want to hear and then never seeing them again. Learn what terms they want you to use but don't actually say them.

My bug bear at the moment is when criminals say they feel remorse. No one says that in every day life, you feel sorry, you feel regret but nobody ever feels remorse. So learn that they want you to feel eg remorse and give them examples of how sorry you are that you said the wrong thing, that you really want to learn to do better in the future.

It's a survival skill that more people need to use. If you can mask, you can lie to the face of a bad doctor and tell them whatever they want to hear so that you stay safe. You know how to read people, so if they are nodding, then keep going in the same way, if they start to stiffen and hmm a bit, change your approach slightly.

I truly believe any neurodivergent person can be framed as manipulative if their doctor dislikes them. What is masking if not manipulation if you view it uncharitably enough?

[writingfromkitchenator]

Tony ~ Twister

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Requested by @arinemura

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Warnings: Guy being an arsehole

Tony knew the moment you walked into the workshop that you were bored, a slight pinch in your expression that instantly made him chuckle.

“Of all the things Y/N, that you could possibly be doing, you still have to come and see me.” He said, smiling at you.

You pout at him.  “Come on Tony, we've been couped up for ages, can't we go out somewhere?  Like we used to?”

Tony raises an eyebrow.  “You mean when we were younger and went on got drunk before not remembering who was in our bed the next morning?”

Rolling your eyes, you lean on his table. “Not as far as that, no, I think I'm a bit over the one night stands, but at least lets go out for drinks.  I feel like all we ever do is work now.”

“There are plenty of drinks here Y/N.”

You wave your hands.  “But that's just it Tony!  It's here!  Let's go out! Be around people again! What's the point of being super heroes if we just stay at home?”

Tony laughed and put down his tools. “Alright, point taken, let's clean up and head out.  Anyone you wanna get to tag along?”

“Nope.”

He stares after you as your bounce towards the door, a grin on your face.

“This is a besties night out Tony, it's been too long since it's just been us with no one else their noses where they don't belong.”

Tony chuckles after you.  “Your shout then?”

“Even stevens buddy!”

It wasn't long before the two of you were seated comfortably at a bar, talking casually and easily like you used to before the superhero life took over.  Neither of you were going to admit it to the other, but you'd missed this.

“It's nice to feel normal again,” Tony said in a quiet moment. “I never really thought about how much I missed this.”

You smile at him.  “See, it pays off to listen to my whinging every once in a while.”

You stare at each other for a moment before you clear your throat and see that both your glasses are almost empty.

“It's my round right?”

Tony watches you head to the bar, his finger tapping absently on the table as he thought.

You were quick to order, staring at your hands a little awkwardly as you waited, not wanting to look around at Tony, afraid to make it more awkward than what you already felt.

Someone stood next to you, their shoulder brushing yours, making you subconsciously tense.

“Hey,” You glanced next to you, a man in his mid 30’s standing there, smiling.  “Good night for drinking huh?”

Inwardly, you blanched, and took a very slight step away from him to try and get your personal space back.  “I suppose.”

He nods as if you'd said the most interesting thing in the world. “You here alone?” He doesn't give you a chance to respond.  “Can I buy you a drink?”

“No thank you.”

He doesn't take the hint and leans on the bar, still smiling. “Come on, I can buy you a drink and maybe we can head back to my place, get to know each other.”

Tony rose to his feet, seeing that the guy wasn't leaving you alone, an anger curling in his stomach.

You stood there in shock for a moment before you frowned at him. “Do you take me as some sort of cheap whore?”

His smile falters.  “W-what?”

Tony's step faltered too, shocked for a moment before he broke into a grin.  He’d almost forgotten how blunt you could be.

“Well, you’re offering me one drink, so that’s what? Around ten dollars, if that? Depending on the drink?  And then just like that, you expect me to go around to your place to act like rabbits?  How many people has this worked on exactly?”

The guy visibly flushes.  “That’s-that’s not what I meant!”

“No?”  You raised an eyebrow at him.  “Then why not actually try something nice instead of going straight to thoughts of what’s between your legs.  It’s rather unbecoming.”

Your drinks arrived as Tony stepped up next to you, wrapping an arm around your waist, not hiding his grin as the guy sputtered next to you. “You okay sweetheart?”

You smiled at him.  “Perfectly.  This gentleman was just being taught a lesson, that’s all.  I’m sure he won’t forget it anytime soon.”

Tony laughed and led you away from the bar, his arm still around your waist as you could feel the guys eyes on your back as you returned to the table.

“How long have you been waiting to use that on someone?” Tony asked as you sat.

You grin.  “A while, felt good too, although perhaps a little contradictory.”

Tony shrugs a little, taking his drink and clinking it against your glass.  “We all have mistakes Y/N, as long as we learn things, that’s the most important thing.”

You chuckle, a little grimly.  “Look at you, getting all advicey on me.”

“Look at you, actually not needing it for once.”

Both laughing, you take a drink and return to small talk and then silence, Tony watching you and seeing you becoming more and more comfortable with the location.

He drains the rest of his drink.  “Come on, let’s get out of here.”

This surprised you.  “What?  But the night’s still young and-”

“We’ll be more comfortable back at the tower,” Tony said with a smile, taking your hand and tugging you along.  “Less arseholes and memories too.”

You didn’t protest at that, simply shaking your head and smiling after him.

Back at the tower, Tony left you alone for a bit, saying he had to get something, but to help yourself to drinks, which you did, leaving Tony’s ready for him when he got back.

As you waited, you came across a picture of you and Tony when you were younger, before any of the changes had happened and you’d drifted a little bit, both grinning and maybe a little foolish, but there was no doubt of your friendship.

It was strange as this hadn’t been your intention of the night, you’d simply wanted to get away from what you lived day in and day out at the moment, and instead you found yourself reminiscing on older times and even reflecting on the choices that you’d made back then.

It was almost strange to think that if you’d listened to a very different thought back then, the one that was now plaguing you again after tonight, things could’ve been very different for you and Tony.

A noise distracted you and happened to look out the window to see Tony landing in his Iron Man suit.

You pick the picture down and raised an eyebrow as he walked inside, exiting the suit.  “What are you doing?”

Tony grinned and then held up a very familiar box. “Buying a game for old times sake.”

You stared at it.  “Twister?  Really Tony, aren’t we a bit old for that?”

He chuckles and shakes his head, heading the centre of the room as he opened the box.  “Not a chance, and anyway, I’ve got to keep my winning streak going.”

“Oh, that’s how we’re going to play is it?”  You asked, grabbing his drink and handing it to him as he sets up the mat and wheel.  “Don’t think things have changed since we both got into this life?”

Tony grins at you and spins the wheel.  “Guess we’ll find out, won’t we.  Left foot, red.”

You grinned and didn’t waste anytime jumping on and taking your turn to spin.  “Right hand, blue Mr Stank.”

“Oh, that’s cute, did Rhodey teach you that one?”

“You really think he was going to resist that?”

“I think Rhodey and I need a talk.  Left hand, blue.”

The game continued and more than once you had to fight off a wave of giggles as you both tried to make it as awkward as possible for the other, memories coming back of both being very drunk, neither of you interested in bringing others home, and trying to outdo each other.

Finally, you found yourself awkwardly twisted underneath Tony, his face inches from yours.

He grins.  “How you going there sweetheart?”

You huffed.  “Funny, I thought that name was an act.”

Tony goes to shrug but then thinks better of it. “Think what you want, it's your choice really.”

Rolling your eyes, you shake your head.  “Don't tell me the great Tony Stark is too afraid to make a move?”

He gives you a very calculated look for a long moment, giving you just long enough to question what he was about to do next.

“It's your turn to spin the wheel.” He said quietly.

You glanced over and saw that the only way to reach it from the angle you were at was going to be by pressing yourself right against him.

A determined glint reached your eye and you held his gaze as you moved, reaching for the wheel as you drew closer and closer.

For a brief second, Tony's eyes flickered to your lips and then back to your gaze, making you grin as you hovered right below him.

“Am I making you uncomfortable?” You whispered.

“Y/N, you couldn't do so if you tried.”

Smiling, you kept reaching whole trying to keep yourself exactly where you were.

Just as your fingers tapped the wheel, your other arm and legs gave out, landing you on the mat with an ‘oof'.

Tony starts laughing as you stare up at him, a little shocked that it had ended just like that.

You recovered quickly and pouted.  “Well, that's hardly fare.”

“Face it Y/N,” He continued to chuckle.  “I'm better than you are; it's as simple as that.  You never could work out what I was doing till it was too late.”

You roll your eyes, even as he keeps laughing.  “You have one hell of an ego on you Tony.”

He stands and holds out his hand to help you up.  “Only when it comes to you, which reminds me, do you want to go on a date next Tuesday?”

There's a seriousness that you'd never seen in his eyes before, one that made you question exactly what was going through his mind.  “You want to go on a date with me?”

Tony grins and heads to the bar.  “Well, I think it's about time I did something right by you, and I think we've both put this off long enough now.”

You couldn't help but smile at him.  “I'd love to Tony, but I don't want you thinking you've ever done me wrong, okay?”

“Deal.” He said with a nod, smiling.  “Now, what do you say we make a couple more drinks and put a movie on?”

You grinned.  “Well, you've got the drinks sorted, guess I get to pick the movie.” You walked towards the DVD cabinet.  “Maybe a disaster movie?  Say...Twister?”

Your smile widens as Tony laughs and you couldn't be more grateful of how the night went, pulling the movie free.

[secret-diary-of-an-fa]

Secret-Diary’s Annual Awards Show, 2018

Here we are. Xmas is over for another year and the last dregs of 2018 are circling the plug-hole of time like inedible week-old gravy. Soon, the drain-unblocker that is New Year will be emptied on top of it, disposing of it forever… and nobody will be very sorry. It’s always possible that, in the last four days of the year, something incredible will happen. Maybe Will Self will invent time travel and go back to the early 1600s to become Shakespeare. Maybe Theresa May’s face will swing outward like a poorly-secured cupboard door and reveal an electric aquarium where a panel of Sea Monkeys control all her movements and decisions. Barring both of those two events, however, I think its safe to say that 2018 was a complete write-off.

Mainly, this year has felt like an unnecessary and unwanted continuation of 2017. 2017: Part Two, if you like. Brexit continued to drag on like a wounded moose looking for a place to die. The idiotic decision to cast Whittaker as Doctor Who, made in 2017, was enacted here in 2018, causing waves of uncontainable ennui to sweep a nation. The Space Elevator still remains resolutely unbuilt and Elon Musk (mankind’s Token Sensible Person) doesn’t seem overly inclined to do anything about that just yet. In short, we’re standing at the far edge of a year that has been, by and large, a complete and total waste of everyone’s time… especially mine. I’d normally leave my End Of Year Awards for New Year’s Eve or New Year’s Day, but fuck it. Almost everything else this year has been  vaguely disappointing, so let’s stick to the theme. We’ll ejaculate these awards out early and get it over with. You all know how this works by now: I make up some tenuously-related categories and proclaim a cultural event or piece of media the winner according to the dictates of my own diseased logic and the voices in my head. Let’s just crack on.

THE AWARD FOR BEST DVD OR BLU-RAY RELEASE Normally, I try to make the category names funny, but the best DVD/Blu-Ray released in 2018 was the remastered Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy Boxset. Somebody cleaned up a six-episode sci-fi show from the 1980s and stuck a bunch of special features on it and it was instantly better than anything actually produced in the present day. That’s funny enough in itself, assuming you find cultural atrophy funny.

THE INSTANTLY-REGRETTED WANK AWARD FOR BEST MOVIE STARRING A SEXY FISH MAN … Goes to The Shape of Water, which may actually have come out last year. I also really enjoyed Aquaman, too, but I can’t pretend it was a superior piece of film-making. You know what, though? The fact that there are two movies about sexy fish men having non-conformist adventures says something important. It says “OUR CG ANIMATORS HAVE FINALLY FIGURED OUT HOW TO DO WATER, SO LET THE GOOD TIMES FUCKING ROLL!”

THE BERNIE MADOFF AWARD FOR MOST SUSPICIOUS DISCREPANCY … Goes to Doctor Who’s score on Rotten Tomatoes. Yeah, you knew you weren’t getting through this drivel without having to listen to my opinions on Doctor Who again, so let’s just get it out the way early. Critics gave the most recent series of Whittaker-flavoured Who a 94% rating. Fans gave it 31%. So people who can’t risk saying something culturally unacceptable because they could be fired loved it, while people who cared enough to review it unpaid and had no consequences to fear fucking loathed it. Let’s try not to blame Whittaker, for this though. It’s actually Chibnall’s fault, with his determination to minimise the sci-fi elements in the world’s most beloved sci-fi show. And the BBC’s fault for hiring Chibnall. And all our faults for not dragging every single BBC exec into the streets and whipping them to death years ago. Jodie Whittaker casting was a point-scoring ploy on behalf of a cynical organisation desperately trying and failing to be progressive, but never forget that it’s just the tip of an iceberg made of frozen penguin shit.

THE SPECIAL AWARD FOR RUINING AN ENTIRE NATION … Goes to Donald Trump, who is a fucking arsehole of truly unprecedented proportions. At the time of writing, he’s currently throwing a massive temper tantrum and has shut down entire branches of government just because the real politicians won’t give him the money he needs to build his preposterous, unworkable and illegal border-wall. Thanks to this one pathetic tool’s incalculably large ego, America is currently in a state of abject chaos.

THE AWARD FOR MOST NEEDLESSLY HARROWING TV SHOW Did you see The Haunting of Hill House on Netflix? If not, congratulations: you might need slightly fewer anti-depressants than people who did. A spooky romp through the lives of people who used to live in a haunted house turns into an uninterrupted misery binge when it starts digging into their feelings. One of them is a drug addict, one of them is depressed in a dangerous and unstable way, one of them has issues with intimacy, one of them is a writer reliving his own miserable past for a living and one of them is a straight-up, 24 carat arsehole. Oh, and they all sort-of hate their beleaguered father for not saving their mother (who was mad as a tin of pigeons) from Death By Ghost. Thanks, Netflix. 2018 wasn’t a deep enough well of despair already.

THE AWARD FOR MOST UNDERAPPRECIATED HUMAN BEING … Goes to Jeremy Corbyn, who spent his Xmas dispensing broth and socialist good-vibes in a soup-kitchen. He’s constantly attacked and ridiculed in the media… possibly because the British media isn’t used to dealing with high-ranking politicians who aren’t psychopaths. Also, he once accidentally high-fived Dianne Abbott's tit, thereby gifting the world the most entertaining five seconds of television in history.

THE NAKED BRIAN COX AWARD FOR MOST BEAUTIFUL THING EVER … Goes to Sapphire and Steel, a TV from the 70s that I recently rediscovered. Trying to explain it in normal English will undoubtedly make me sound like a man whose brain is slowly eating itself, because it defies all ordinary conceptions. Nevertheless, I’ll try. It’s about two elements from the period table who are also people from a higher dimension who handle anomalies in space-time using methods that make perfect sense but aren’t necessarily clear to the audience. This prevents entities that often manifest as patches of light or shadow from breaking into time from outside and stealing people or feeding off the resentment of the dead. Make sense? Well, it will when you watch it, and you absolutely should watch it.

THE NAKED STEVE BUSCEMI AWARD FOR MOST EYE-GOUGINGLY HORRIBLE THING EVER This is actually a tie between that time Theresa May attempted to dance and… pretty much the entire year itself. If 2017 was like watching a man fall off a cliff, 2018 has been like watching him hit every outcropping of rock as he plunged downwards towards a merciless ocean.

THE AWARD FOR MOST SLATHERING BETRAYAL OF A FAN-BASE … Goes to Fallout 76, which, by all accounts, turned the bleak, lonely world of Fallout into a perfunctory MMO with all the beloved series’ characteristic and recognisable features sucked out or watered down. A great game series screwed over in the name of chasing casual gamers. Oh, when will the industry learn. Never. The answer is never.

THE SHATNER AWARD MOST DRAMATIC OVERREACTION TO AN UNDERWHELMING SITUATION … Goes to the UK tabloid ‘news’ papers, who went into swivel-eyed paroxysms of outrage and confusion when a handful of drones brought air traffic to a halt at Gatwick Airport almost a week before Xmas. They squealed angrily about how ‘possible terrorism’ and how Xmas had been ruined for thousands of people (despite the fact that they were perfectly entitled to just get on other flights a day or two later). It later turned out that there hadn’t necessarily been any drones, and that air traffic had been brought to a standstill because the police got confused and mistakenly thought that there were.

And that’s more or less it. Lots of other things happened in 2018, but I never made any concerted effort to remember them, beyond noting that they were all pretty bloody stupid. Roll on 2019. I have no reason to believe it will be any better than 2018, globally speaking, but maybe I’ll finally buy a copy of Red Dead Redemption 2 and stop caring.

[stimtoybox]

what do i do when people make fun of me for a fidget spinner? i have horrible anxiety and it helps me massively and idk what to do.

Anon, please know that none of this is your fault. None of it. Bullies (and making fun of someone, especially for their disability aid, is bullying, which is itself a form of abuse) put us in a position of awful power imbalance, one that is often impossible to challenge without a great deal of development and growth on behalf of the bully. The vast majority of conventional approaches to bullying overlook this fact; they try to approach it as though there’s some change we the bullied can make (if we stop crying, if we’re nicer to the bully, if we try to be more “normal”) because that’s easier than trying to educate and change the person inflicting harm. It is, though, always an attempt to put a band aid over a gushing wound, and it always hurts us, the bullied.

I wrote my anthropology honours thesis on scapegoating and sacrifice, so I understand the mechanism of bullying quite well.

Bullies find people who are different, be that for reasons of sexuality, disability, class, race, gender. Someone visibly not them in some way. Through bullying someone different, the bullies and those who aren’t bullied affirm their sameness and, through bullying, they form connections to each other, a community. Humans, in this respect, are awful creatures: we form our strongest groups and communities by deciding that someone else isn’t deserving of being in that community and attacking them for whatever arbitrary reason we decide justifies that hate. Our strongest communities are founded on uniting over the fact that others are worthy of mockery, hate, abuse, assault, death. Bullies bully to feel safe, to feel connected to the in group by isolating the out group, and the people who most aggressively turn to bullying are those whose position in the in group is precarious (or felt to be so, in their eyes - this is why able-bodied white cis dudes make the best bullies when they see a changing world as an attack on their privilege). Bullies find an illusion of self-worth in bullying, and they’re fulfilling a basic human need to be connected with others. They just enact one of the very worst human qualities by finding this connection in isolating the most different. That isolation can be done by violence or voicing outright hate; it can be done by poking fun. They’re just different faces of the same process.

I say all this so you understand that there’s very little you can do. It’s hard to make a bully stop, because it requires a degree of self-reflection and self-awareness that most bullies don’t have.

So, based on the experience of someone who was bullied, teased and mocked (and often still is), don’t do any of the following:

Try to mock them back.

Point out just how wrong they are.

Point out that spinners are actually popular right now.

Snap at them.

Argue.

Tell them that they’ll be sorry someday. (Please don’t do this one. Please. If there’s one thing that I could tell my past self, it’s this one. I had a bunch of older girls shriek this one at me every day for a year because I made the mistake of saying this once. Teenage me was not good at social skills.)

Get visibly upset, especially if it involves crying. (This is unfair and wrong. It’s also half the reason why my bullies kept right on bullying. Again, that we’re in a situation where we have to so control our responses is an example of that awful power imbalance.)

Say nothing. They can read facial expressions/body language. If you’re feeling any kind of distress, they know, and that’s response enough for them. I know all the bullying advice says to say nothing, and I know that never worked for me. Saying nothing makes bullies feel as though they’ve won, and that doesn’t help us.

Our goal is to make bullies feel as though bullying costs more effort than it is worth. Our goal is to be annoying. To take their soccer game and drop it onto a basketball court. They’re arseholes, right? Not worth your time and effort or emotion. Not worth an explanation or justification. Try your hardest not to get upset; try your hardest to be obnoxious.

I think your magic word, anon, is “and” or “yes”. Something short, easy to say, non-committal, annoying when repeated. You’re going to say it even when it makes no grammatical sense. Like this:

“What are you using that for?”

“And?”

“Only kids use those toys, you know?”

“And?”

“You’re not answering my question!”

“And?”

“You don’t even know how to English if you can’t answer a question!”

“And?”

I wouldn’t use “no” because it makes it look more like you’re fighting them. (Seriously, they’ll use the smallest things against us.) By agreeing and repeating, you’re not fighting them; you’re giving them nothing to push back against, nothing they can use against you. They will try to escalate, try to turn everything you say into a new attack. Just keep on saying that one word. You’re making teasing you pointless and annoying. Even if you’re upset, even if you’re finding it hard to control your emotions in the moment, do this. It’ll help you practice this as a response, and the more practiced you get at this, the more effective this obnoxious response will be. It might take a long time, but they are more likely to give up this way than any other.

(Try not to snap or cry, as much as is possible. Again, unfair. You’re going for a bored tone, if any at all. If you need to feign concentration on your homework or classwork, do so. These arseholes are boring you. Quadratic equations or train timetables are far more interesting than having to explain your disability aid for the millionth time - and this isn’t something you need to justify or explain. It’s none of their business.)

You don’t have a weapon to use against these people. You can, though, just refuse to engage in battle on their terms. You are not playing their game. You’re playing yours.

(Plus, being this degree of obnoxious can be seriously entertaining once you get a little practiced at it, especially because, by any standard, you’re doing nothing wrong or hurtful!)

Remember, anon: you have every right to use your spinner. You don’t owe classmates or coworkers an explanation. Your spinner is your disability aid and you don’t have to justify that. Their words are meaningless, their thoughts irrelevant, and you do not have to engage.

This is going to be scary and unnatural. (You may want to write a script based on what they’ve said to you and practice speaking it out loud or with a friend.) It’s really the only tool I have to offer, though. All I can say is that silently taking it has never worked for me; being obnoxious in return turned two bullies into guys who treated me like their best mate. It can and does work, as hard as it is.

Good luck, anon. I’m metaphorically crossing my fingers for you!

- Mod K.A.

[sarahhaverfield-blog]

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Yes, I think our company could all agree they are just one of the absolute most ostentatious points on earth. It attacked me the other day that there are actually heading to be actually a LOT of pompous, egoistic, lifestyle from father's loan and also possessing 4 A after being actually assembly-line pressed via some private school southerners at Uni. When that is actually coming to be extra and also more an available tip that folks don't like to view ads (if they truly ever carried out!), as well as this at an opportunity. The accuser of pretension - normally assuming on their own to be the genuine bargain, in property from a taught and also critical thoughts - strongly believes that in another place in the world there is actually a genuine article that the pompous trait or even individual aspires to be, however is actually falling short of or overemphasizing it. These are all very noticeable as well as weary opening techniques that most sharp prospects understand. That could work from time to time as well as gain you some benefits, yet generally this is actually an absurd, apparent game and as our experts both know, this does not work! Yet insurance claims to ordinariness and also salt-of-the-earth merit are on their own ostentatious.

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Video game growth is such a source consuming threat already it's tough for people doing it to justify bumping up the threat through taking chances along with disruptive suggestions. While you can speak about the quotes themselves in a suction and also whether they are actually meaningful or pointless, I believe that considering the means folks strongly turn down and/or rush to tag them is a lot more appealing. And also let me tell you one thing ... being at that stage in the game at the young grow older that I was actually pissed off greater than a couple of folks to mention the minimum. Despite which wrote this, when even those individuals familiarized to buttoning their lip as well as silencing if they can not claim everything nice presume you are actually thus pretentious and total from astonishing self-importance" that nobody may be angered by them mentioning therefore ... you're undoubtedly some of the art world's arseholes de les arseholes. As well as it is actually coming from this tangle of emotions and tips around condition that the outrage from pretentiousness pulls its complete charge. He had not been at all pretentious; pretty the opposite, he was therefore sensible that I thought that I was actually consulting with an outdated pal. When I mention composing, people consider papers, manuals, and magazines and also their chances from getting published are actually slim. The fifth video game uncovers that Magenta got sick, although this is actually still unknown exactly what her health problem was. Folks scrabbling up the lesson ladder are commonly described as being actually pretentious. As entertainer Brian Eno monitored in his 1996 log A Year Along with Swollen Appendices: The common belief is actually that there are real" individuals and also there are those making believe to become something they're not. It's certainly never going away and has actually been their because human beings could possibly stroll's around us and yet this is actually steall considered a hopless hipster imagination by lots of people. Like, I believe that's achievable for a game to become TWENTY% legitimately centered" and 80% pompous. A lot of our team have actually discovered that there are actually some people that appear to get in front of the pack. Saying regarding rules, laws and also correct or incorrect ways of doing traits is one means of speaking about the amateur as well as the professional; social categories that create pretentiousness an also knottier problem. The staff provided the largest laminated as well as most sophisticated menu Leo had actually ever before seen and after that poured 2 big glasses from freshly created icy herbal tea. Entirely accountable, totally efficient, completely quantifiable, and entirely lacking any of the pretentious communications nonsense therefore beloved by the ad agency world that carried out fix, as well as will possess grown, in to the excellent solution for everyone within the marketing mix. Originally this was actually visiting be a 12-step program, however that is actually not that complicated, so compeling 12 intervene itself seemed very pretentious. Pretentiousness provide class a lingering sense of unnaturalness"; something faked, claiming falsely, damaged. I don't have a debate for The Ruby Sutra use or even shipment, I just adore it a whole lot, you can easily never ever know what's heading to attack your heartstrings, some movies are actually hrs from fresh sadness and also never ever shake a singular tear from me, completion of this puzzle game carried out and also is actually all I can point out. The inverse is actually usually real that most of people I encounter who like tarkovsky find scientific research as well as math as eventually insignificant pedantry as well as area a higher worth on the financial institution of creative matter they have actually accumulated, as well as coincidentally have also never ever carried out any significant reading in ideology, a lot of dismissing anything looking like the analytics or even more deciding on a correct one" and learning more to confirmation bias their way to personal satisfaction. Allegation prepares the amateur from the qualified in an activity set up through tradition, credentials and institutional commendation. It is actually certainly not a ready anyone that despises it when things are left up in the air and also those that perform have trouble discovering their very own story in the course of the process of playing the game. Individuals assume that if one thing is not probably complex in always keeping with the ability of their adult thoughts or simple, novel and instantly mind blowing in always keeping along with the pulverizing ideas of youth after that this really isn't claiming everything deep" (which like pompous is actually one more word I've never possessed an use for). Because some folks talk in a different way to you, my estimate is you were actually simply having a jab. The pompous gem will certainly after that assess what methods are gotten in touch with, exactly how this is actually produced and produce examination situations for that. Yet just about any individual can see the further significance responsible for this account which's just what stops that off being pretentious. The impact is actually to incorporate the techniques of set discovering and game playing to deal with the advertising notification in buyers' minds. 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Totally responsible, entirely efficient, absolutely quantifiable, and absolutely lacking any one of the pretentious interactions rubbish therefore loved by advertising agency globe that did handle, and would have progressed, into the excellent service for everyone within the advertising mix. Initially this was actually mosting likely to be a 12-step system, but that is actually not that complicated, thus obliging 12 steps in on its own seemed really pretentious. Pretentiousness provide class a staying sense from unnaturalness"; one thing forged, pretending, tampered with. The inverse is actually often real that a number of people I encounter who just like tarkovsky find science as well as math as eventually pointless pedantry and area a higher value on the bank of creative matter they've accumulated, as well as coincidentally have actually likewise never carried out any severe analysis in ideology, numerous overlooking anything looking like the analytics as well as more selecting an appropriate one" and also learning more to verification predisposition their way to self satisfaction.

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SHIT LESBIAN DISCO INTERVIEW

Jaheda from Shit Lesbian Disco and I first spoke in February 2017 when I was attempting to find radical female-run spaces in Manchester. As well as discussing her successful women-only project, Jaheda inspired me personally to not compromise on my beliefs and helped me to understand that my feminism can be what I want it to be. I went to the first Shit Lesbian Disco in April this year and was overwhelmed by the positive space that she had created - a diverse space without aggression, fear, and violence. In July this year we talked at length about what Shit Lesbian Disco is, what other people can learn from them, homophobia, racism, class, misogyny, and why you should come and experience it for yourself.

Olivia: What is Shit Lesbian Disco?

Jaheda: Shit Lesbian Disco is an event created so that women can have a space that is dedicated to them and ran by them, and performed by them and engineered by them. It’s a night out for women, whatever your sexuality, as long as you're over 18 you can come along.

We've called it Shit Lesbian Disco, because as a lesbian I've been to so many shit lesbian discos where we're only given a tiny little box room, and a mate will spin some tracks and the venue isn't all that great. But without them I wouldn't have met any women. So it's like a little private joke to other lesbians and bisexual women who have attended these nights. Because you live them, you love them, and without them you wouldn't have pulled. But we live in 2017 so we don't have to compromise on quality. It's just banging.

O: What's the response been like?

J: It's been really really positive. The venue thinks its an absolutely fantastic idea because not only is it a really safe night, the security staff hardly have to do any securitying, the bar staff make a shit load of money back behind the bar as well as tips, there's just no trouble or any madness, the women who pay into it enjoy it. I’m 41, and I'm from a generation where I remember places where women's spaces existed, you’d walk in and there were venues and nights women only. The generation younger than me, like yourself for example, the experience of that huge space with a shitload of women you guys haven't had, so what I've found is that a lot of younger women have been like 'WOAH' and have never felt something like that.

For heterosexual women, a lot of their lives are determined by men, and there's a lot of men involved in their world and their decision making — so when they come to a space, initially they're a little bit tentative and what I've found is they've never been around a space where they don't have to negotiate their bodies, and there's not predatory men grinding up against them, cos lesbians kind of don't do that  (there is, one or two, cos we're not exempt from arseholes), so they're able to come out and enjoy themselves with a bunch of their girlfriends, and I've encouraged them to do that. I’ve said 'have a girls night out and if you hate it I'll give you your money back', nobody's asked for their money back yet, so I'm happy!

O: Could you think of any lessons that other people could learn from you to create positive and safe spaces?

My main tip for anybody creating any sort of space, whoever you are, be true to yourself - if you will attend your night, then it's a good night. No apologies, no compromise, stick to what you believe in and it will work.

Don't think about money! Money paralyses people because they think where am I going to find 3000 pounds to cover this and cover that and blah blah blah but it just comes. Cos money's one of them things, it's paper and metal, it will come. That's it, one way or another, it will come.

O: Good advice. When I was at your night the DJs had a fight. We spoke about it and I loved your response, can you tell me about it again?

J: Well the DJs had a moment, bless them, where one had an idea of where they wanted to go with the set, another had an idea where they wanted to go for the set and they had a clash and one of them had a strop and another one had a little hand on their hip and another one was a bit awkward like 'Oh shit oh shit!' and it was really funny to watch.

Personally, I love it. I love women's behaviour, good, bad, and ugly. I believe that as women the expectations of our behaviour or the expectation of the quality of work is higher than our male counterparts. We are made to feel like we have to be excellent, we have to get an A+, and still we get paid less and we get less work, whereas some men in the same field with the same qualifications or less can get jobs in abundance and get paid twice the amount that myself or any other people. It's nice that the DJs acknowledged that they had a bit of strop, but as far as I'm concerned, it's not a fatal thing, it's just human nature, human behaviour, that's it, cos who am I to be punishing people, get over yourselves, patriarchy!

O: Speaking of the patriarchy, do you ever get bored with having to justify it being a women's night, why do we have to keep having the same conversations?

J: Because until rape is a crime that you can be convicted for without the victim having to be punished through the system, without our bodies during a war situation being used as negotiating tools, until I can walk down the road without being catcalled and without someone calling me a slag, until equal pay is actually equal pay, until a dress is just an item of clothing that a woman wears because they want it to be airy or they want to show their legs, spaces for women need to exist. And I'm not just talking about women who are assigned women at birth, I'm talking about trans women as well as cis women. Because on a daily basis the minute I step out of my house I have to deal with being a woman, never mind being a black woman or all the other layers that I come with, being a woman I have to deal with, I have to constantly make conversation about it or argue or stand up for something, that's the reason why.

O: It gets exhausting.

J: So exhausting, but this is nothing in comparison to the suffragettes, it's nothing in comparison to what Tracy Chapman went through, it's nothing in comparison to our ancestors, who paved the way for us to do this, so yes it's exhausting but imagine if we were still in a place where we had to hide our female bodies - and in some places in the world we still do - so, yeah, it's boring, and exhausting, but it's necessary so we have to keep doing it because the girls who grow up to be women later on their fight is different, but hopefully we've made it smoother - fingers crossed.

O: I think so. So, what’s the most positive change you think has come out of Shit Lesbian Disco?

J: I really don't know yet, cos we're still a baby. This is our second year and fourth event. Aside from the fact that we are the largest in the UK that is women only, and when I say that I mean literally every single human in the building is a woman, and also it's the fact that it's the very few spaces that openly celebrates trans and cis women coming together.

For me, on a personal note, the most positive thing that's happened to me is it has challenged my perception of what a woman is. Because I am still a product of a society which means I am laced in homophobia, I'm laced in sexism, I'm laced in racism, it's the world we live in. So I have to question my beliefs to be able to create a space that I'm trying to create and every day it challenges me. Because sometimes I'm having to say, 'Really? Why? Are you?', all these questions, and who am I to question it?

And luckily, there's a team of us. So you for example, I could come and say, 'Olivia, this happened the other day, and somebody said this, and this is how I responded, do you think I could have responded differently or what would you have done?’, and because you are Olivia of this background of this age, unless I speak to an Olivia, I don't know how to connect to that. Then hopefully my understanding of that type of woman grows, and I'm not just putting you in, 'middle class white woman blah blah blah, I hate them all!' it makes no sense! And growing up, I was quite militant, I'm a black woman, I'm muslim, I'm all of these things, and to all intents and purposes the world is against who I am. But it's not, the minute I sit down and speak to an Olivia, I realise, that actually it might be one Olivia out of 1000 that's actually against me, so rather than taking everyone with that one brush, I take time out and realise that maybe I won't hang out so much with this one, but I'll hang out with this one, I'll find out what this ones thought is. But even the ones that have negative thought, I'm still learning something, and vice versa.

O: What is your plan for the future?

J: To have two events a year up to 2019, and then on 2020 to have have a massive festival where 3000 women minimum come to it. And again same ethos. Everyone who is working front of house is all woman, all bar staff, all security, all engineers, all artists and musicians and all patrons who pay. So that's a much larger and harder project. I've just got to make that bit more of an effort to find all the musicians I need. To find the artists. To have the bravery, balls or cunt to say 'sorry, if you do have male musicians, for this event you're going to have to have a female musician’.

For an event so huge, it means that we're gonna need lighting, sound, stage hands, everything, possibly even rigging. And that's where the difficulty is going to come in, cos there aren't as many women in business in the technical side. And the women that are, they get to a certain point and then they leave cos of the mass amounts of misogny as well as sexism. So we're looking at training about 20 women and partnering up with, fingers crossed and touch wood, Z Arts and Manchester International Festival to make that happen. But I've got to prove to these organizations that this event is gonna work. And so far, I think I'm doing alright.

O: I think so. So, is there anything else that you want to say about Shit Lesbian Disco?

J: Come to it. If you're a woman or reading this, come to it. And experience what it feels like to be surrounded in the variety and diversity of what you are as a woman. Come and feel that feeling, it is great, it's so good. So please come to it, that's it.

**this interview has been edited for length**

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