#it’s my gayday!!!

[iscreamkitty]

VERY fast aprirai drawing for lesbian day :DD they’re just chilling…and flirting teehee

[depressedtheatrekiddo]

(Kinda spoilers from Good Omens?? idk it's the first time I do this:d)

I just watched Good Omens. OH BY HERMES GUYSGUYS it was so fucking perfect??? Like first episode and I was so in love (not love like love, love like I want to hug and be them so bad u know) with Crowley. Because WHAT AN ENTRANCE, QUEEN GUYS QUEEN.

And then I just. CHANGE OF FACES. I WAS DYING SO BAD BC I THOUGHT "WHAT THE FUCK IS HAPPENING NOW??" but a few seconds later I was laughing so hard and my mom watched me like giving me THE face "wtf how did you become this goblin shit girl" but really I don't care. I'm Spanish so at 9pm, while finishing my art homework (I'm really so bad at painting BAJAJAJAJA) u can find me whispering "Que cabrones, que cabrones" and "They did it, they did it" one time after another.

Oh Hermes, that was the best feeling in my life, it was a long time ago when I really felt something with a TV serie so I just loved to feel and laugh:)

Have a nice day sweetheartss<3

[ninjapaste]

Gayday im on my gayroll slayyyy

[makingqueerhistory]

Hi I want to say two things 1) you all do fantastic work, thank you so much!! and 2) if you all get time/have resources/are generally able to, would you consider talking about Tunisia?

Hello! Thank you so much, I am so glad that my work has landed well for you! As for queer history in Tunisia, I would absolutely love to look into it. It may take a minute, as currently I am focusing on polishing up some of the older articles, so here are some resources to bridge the time a bit!

[defira85]

Hey gayday happy birt

How did you get past my guards

[starbitship]

Doodle for my friend GAYDAY!!!!!

[a-bunch-of-rats]

made this for our drag account as a pfp because we were using art from someone else ( @/gayday but their art account whose user i dont remember) and wanted to make our own thingy!

Otis Motis is our drag name, but either we made it our dragsona because he was already a headmate and influenced our creative process OR creating the character made him become a headmate, we're not really sure!

he's not a rat, he just really likes them and vibes with them a lot. he might be anthro though? unsure but he's sending happy emotions while we're writing this so taking it as a sign that it's yes!

Otis is nonverbal in headspace!

He's very visibly autistic while fronting also, stims a lot in a more stereotypical way than other headmates

anyway, posting this because he wants to introduce himself to you!

sort of switching while we're writing, apologies if this is messy! -Ashton

Hi!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it's me!!!!! i wanted to show the picture because it makes me happy :)))))

i dont look like this at all but it's very much my vibe !!!!!!!! idk exactly what i look like , the image is very blurry when i try to think about it >:O( only see clown makeup and primary colours and balloons and sunshine:)))

maybe i dont have shape actually!!! :O0

(O is nose and 0 open mouth!!)

i am the essence of clown BO))

byeeeeeeeeeee

[thenon-fictiondays]

I have the word "cock" blocked in Tumblr and for some reason it hidden last LN update...

It ended up being because you use the word "cockblock" you fucking madlad.

PLS work for Yen Press it was a fantastic read.

Hearing Hanzawa having an amazing Gayday and Cockblocking students in the same sentence was glorious

*prints out this ask an sends it to yen press stapled to my resume and a note that says 'pls hire me*

[erigold13261]

Sorry if I sound nit picky but… if queerness is so common in your NSR universe, why is homophobia and transphobia prevalent?

The same reason why it is in our universe. People are assholes.

The world is not a monolith, just because the one city we and handful of people we see are queer or allies doesn't mean that is true for everywhere. Vinyl City is a more supportive and queer city, so of course queer people would flock to a place they feel safe or know their rights won't be taken away.

We have seen plenty of families/people that are super supportive, like Alyona, Nova's parents, Mama, Neon J, Zuke and West's parents are implied to be supportive and so is Eve's mom. But we also see people who are not supportive, like Matvey, Tila's parents, random assholes and internet trolls. People can also change over time, like Neon's parents who became supportive or West and Joust who were pretty shitty people who then turned out okay(ish).

Queer people attract queer people. Same with neurodivergent people. It is safer in numbers and a lot of queer and neurodivergent people get outcasted and turn to each other for help and support. Like my friend group in high school/middle school started out with a bunch of "cishet" kids and now we are all some flavor of the rainbow in one way or another. Even before any of us came out, we had an internal/subconscious gayday that led us to each other.

The world is really big. There will be communities that are super supportive with tons of allies. Then there will be places that are very hostile and unsupportive, even dangerous to be. We are just seeing the world from the perspective of queer people who have weeded out and curated their friend groups/work environment to be as supportive and accepting as possible.

And when we do see the unsupportive side, it is mostly in the past or happening to people without a choice to choose who they associate with (such as the Sayu Crew's families). Tatiana and Neon didn't choose to live in hateful houses just as much as Catherine and Nova didn't choose to be brought up in loving and safe (home) environments.

It is easier to walk away from a shitty "friend" than it is to get away from family. And even then, if you are in school, it can be hard to get away from asshole friends and jerks. So bigotry would seem more common in the cases of young people or families that you are stuck with. Though, of course there are still times where you can't get away from a bigot because of the situation.

That is probably why bigotry seems "prevalent" in my NSR universe. We are mainly seeing the past and present through the lens of "friends" and family. Like Neon's family being unsupportive, but that can be countered with his friends and navy crew that were supportive of him. Or Tatiana with a dick of a father, yet her mother was supportive along with the Goolings, Kliff, and a bunch of other people. Even the Sayu Crew who have varying levels of intolerance from their families still have each other, NSR, and a whole bunch of friends to support them. So while it does seem like bigotry in NSR is prevalent, there is just as much support and acceptance that is shown.

There will always be shitty people out there. Even in the most queer city there is. Heck, for an example of this, look at Zed. He is a person who HATES loud noises living in probably the center of the music capital of the world (not implying Zed is an allusion to anti-lgbtq mindset). But just because Vinyl City has a ton of queer people doesn't mean there won't be bigots.

Plus, a lot of the "random" bigotry that happens to the megastars is from online people. It is so much easier to be a dick online than in person, so people take this opportunity to spout homophobia, transphobia, all other kinds of phobias and hate-speech. It is easy to see the extremes of people (on both sides) online since they can come from anywhere with super easy access.

So I can see why you might think that because the NSR crew we see being made almost entirely (if not actually entirely) queer people, then "there shouldn't be bigotry" but that is not the case unfortunately. Just like there are pretty queer friendly cities in our world, there are also cities you can't even APPEAR queer without getting targeted for a hate crime or even worse. This is the same with the NSR universe.

There are towns and cities, little villages and counties, even just neighborhoods, that all have different beliefs. People will go to places they feel safe (whether that is a queer person wanting acceptance or a bigot wanting "freedom from gays"). Though this kind of separation does happen in cities (like the districts we see being completely different from one another) there are still a lot of melting of communities and beliefs that happen. Which is why there will always be bigotry, as there is no way that everyone will always be accepting of everyone else.

You can even see this in the queer community. Where exclusionists will tell Bi people to choose a side, that Ace and Aro people are basically straight, or that Nonbinary is not a "real" gender. So just because there are a lot more queer people in NSR, doesn't mean it is free of problems and bigotry.

Sorry if this is WAY more than what you were asking. I just had a lot of fun writing this. And don't worry about thinking you are being "nit picky" because I LOVE explaining my reasoning for everything I do as I usually have a lot of ideas behind my decisions. Though that isn't always the case, I do still love trying to come up with justifications for my world building. Otherwise, I could have just said there's bigotry to give the plot something to do without any real justification.

[monoukotori]

my boss bragging about his gayday while I am sitting next to him 3 kilometers deep in the closet is very funny to me

[infiniteglitterfall]

I assumed it was new! But apparently My.Kali is an online zine from Jordan that actually started all the way back in 2008!

At first it was only in English. In 2016, for its 60th issue, it began publishing in Arabic too.

The only English-language publications to report on it at the time, as far as I can tell, were Haaretz, Tablet Magazine, and the Times of Israel. RIP to the Advocate!

(In near-defense of the white gay Western media, OUT did do a very similar but much shorter story about it that both links to and sort of copy-pastes the Times article.

The Advocate eventually mentioned My.Kali in 2018. Though only as part of a piece about a really cool report called, "Activism and Resilience: LGBTQ Progress in the Arabic-Speaking States in the Middle East and North Africa Region.")

The Times article talks about My.Kali's content in some depth; points out which articles in Arabic are different (and actually more interesting/"controversial") than the English-language content; and firmly debunks Western claims that My.Kali had gotten death threats.

Haaretz also covered the magazine's Arabic-language debut, in a fantastically snarky article that explains that My.Kali is "named after its founder Khalid Abdel-Hadi," whose nickname is Kali and who has even appeared on the cover.

"Abdel-Hadi came up with the idea for the magazine when he was just 18 and still in the closet. He and other university students banded together with the aim of creating a publication whose goals were battling homophobia, advocating for the legalization of gay sex, the legal recognition of transgender individuals and the empowerment for LGBT youth in the Middle East and North Africa.

"But wait just a minute! What’s going on here? Aren’t trans people being stoned in the Middle East, gays being dropped from roofs and lesbians forced to have their tubes tied? After all, isn’t this the fundamentalist-fanatic-Arab-Muslim world that oppresses women and persecutes minorities and kills LGBT folks for breakfast?

"Just two months ago, Xulhaz Mannan, editor of the only gay magazine in Bangladesh, was brutally murdered by Islamist militants. And Bangladesh and Jordan, you know, they’re the same thing. They’re both Muslim. And here I am acting like one of those pie-in-the-sky leftists, writing about an LGBT magazine that comes out in Arabic in Jordan, as if before you know it we’ll surely see Islamic State tanks rolling through the Iraqi desert waving rainbow flags.

"Hey, not to worry, before I get carried away here I’ll make sure to describe the horrors that we know and imagine. So — yes, in Iran, Saudi Arabia and Yemen, homosexuality is punishable by death. In Egypt, gays are arrested on trumped-up charges, for alleged membership in a certain cult, and in Syria and Iraq there have been cases of gays being shot in the street.

"....Meanwhile, it turns out that gay sex has been legal in Jordan since 1951. Just for comparison, as Edward Siddons noted when he interviewed Abdel-Hadi for i-D magazine, homosexuality was still banned in 'enlightened and progressive' Britain until 1982."

There IS one online queer English-language magazine that mentions My.Kali before this. GayDay interviewed the founder in 2012.

Things are hard for us everywhere.

It's very common to see people objecting to queer/progressive support for Palestine by saying that Hamas would shoot you or drop you off a roof.

It's equally common to see people objecting to any mention of queer life in Israel as "pinkwashing."

BOTH of these arguments are, in my opinion, bigoted talking points that de-platform and silence LGBTQIA+ people in the MENA region.

Hamas abducts, tortures, and shoots anyone in Gaza who dissents. It's famous for dropping members of the Palestinian government (not us queers) off of roofs, when it was violently kicking the Palestinian government out of Gaza in 2007.

Hamas is fucking terrible, to the point where hating queers is just ambient noise in all the rest of its oppression.

I've seen queer Palestinians talk about dancing in queer clubs in both Ramallah and Tel Aviv. Being kidnapped, tortured, and monitored by Hamas. Kissing on the beach. Losing their crush to the war. Going to the Jerusalem Pride March. Being forced into conversion therapy.

Secret hangouts and secret sex parties. Straight marriages as a cover, where you rent a separate apartment for your real relationship. Feminist events as a cover for lesbian community.

Moving in with other queer Palestinian roommates in Israel for the "job opportunities," and being with your wife and kids on the weekends.

Feeling excluded or pushed out of the queer Palestinian movement because they want to focus on queerness within Palestine, or heteronormativity, or religious conservativism, or collaborate with Israelis, rather than focusing primarily on ending occupation.

The pattern everywhere, globally, seems to be that we primarily face oppression from far-right religious groups and governments. They set the tone for the rest of society.

Sometimes very directly, by censoring the media and controlling our lives. Sometimes more generally, simply by having both power and opinions.

We face the same basic dynamic everywhere. Whether it's in Palestine, Russia, France, Israel, China, Canada, Brazil, New Zealand, Pakistan, or Uruguay.

The big difference between queer safety in any of these countries doesn't come from the people, the religion(s), or the economic system.

It comes from how conservative the current government is in any given place, whether a place has very conservative religious groups, and how powerful those groups are.

Also:

Trans activist and rabbi Abby Stein wrote a great piece for Tablet the following year that shouted out My.Kali.

And shout-out to Instinct magazine and Gay Star News, which wrote about the topless trans cover model you see above in 2018, with the amazing statement: "There have been transgender individuals on the cover of My Kali before, but they have always been transgender females.  For the first time, a transgender man is featured."

I don't think I've ever seen someone using "transgender females" to mean trans women, and I am so here for it.

My.Kali: "is the first LGBTQ+ webzine for and from the Middle East and North Africa. they aim to demonstrate diversity and fight repressive forms and norms with art therapy, photography, and visual innovation. The magazine tackles issues related to women’s rights, personal politics, gender related matters, freedom of speech, alt-communities, and new media. This allows for a window of hope where societies’ minorities can find solidarity, offering a safe atmosphere of reassurance and certainty in the midst of regional turmoil."

[depressedtheatrekiddo]

Dio diminutive for Diomedes, but sometimes people call me Sofia.

Cool, I love it.

I had to do it. I'm so so sorry. I'm so fucked up.

[benegesseritofficial]

Bad news it turns out my gayday isn't gaydar. What I'm picking up on is trauma

[tart-with-heart]

I have half a voice but I went to my local queer night called gayday and had the best time xoxox

[justapayneaway]

I gotta be honest, I thought Noah was already out that boy made my gayday click more than a radiation detector in Chernobyl.

I always thought he was gay, but at the same time he was so young and I knew that he wasn’t out yet.

Glad that he was able to do that in his own time 🌈

[depressedtheatrekiddo]

Listening to my Sirius playlist after being on a dinner with my very large and very christian family is the most real thing I could do now.