#it’s beautiful to know Allah is the ever constant and when you connect to Him you’re truly holding on to absolute truth and

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WHEN ADAM MET HAWA

The Purpose of Creation by Shaykh Aslam

A brief summary of his lecture, May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ ala bless him and his life, for delivering such beautiful lecture. Masha Allah.

The first creation of Allah : Pen The pen was told to write, so it wrote.

The first creation of Allah Ta’ala that was sent to Earth: Adam and Hawa (as a pair)

The sole purpose was to regenerate offsprings just so to be reconnected and rejoice, to be the dweller of the Garden of Paradise.

“We will connect the children & parent in the Garden of Paradise”

Regardless of the condition of the children. Pious or not, Allah Ta’ala will grant them the same ‘rank’(darjat) as their parents– just as long as the parent and the children die with Imaan.

“ There is no conditions in rejoicing the children with the parent because a parent’s love for their children is UNCONDITIONAL; good or bad, they love their children nonetheless.”

Masha Allah, the mercy of Allah Ta’ ala. Indeed, He is All-Merciful (Al-Rahīm).

JUST AS LONG AS THE PARENT AND CHILDREN RETURN TO HIM WITH IMAAN.

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The Purpose of Mankind: Worship Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ ala

The prophets were given scriptures to HIGHLIGHT the Garden of Paradise. i.e. Torah, Bible, Al-Qur’an Al-Kareem.

“I did not create Jinn & mankind except that they worship me”

“Worship” -> To submit oneself totally to Allah Ta’ ala. (desires, needs, wants, etc.) 

Worship also means to “recognise and know”

But indefinitely, mankind will ask: “But Allah, how do I devote myself to you in totality? I have mouths to feed, bills to pay, survive. I need to work in order to survive”

Surely, Allah knows mankind will question.

“And I do not want no mankind or Jinn to be the provider of risks”

Indeed, it is Allah who is the All-Provider(Al-Razzāq).

Fulfil your duty diligently to please Allah, and rest assured everything will be blessed upon you and be provided for you.

“If we die without recognising Allah, our entire life is wasted.” – Anon (mgbh)

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There are people amongst us whom is the ‘friend’ of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ ala.

How to recognise them: When you look at them, you will be remembered of nothing but Allah and His magnificent and perfection creation. You would look pass that person’s features, you look pass his name, you basically look pass him as a person, but Mashaa Allah, you will be reminded of nothing but Allāh Ta’ ala

They will have an “aura” radiating them.

It is because their hearts are drowned in Allah. It is their honour and dignity towards Allah that reminds you of Allah, through their face. It is when in their presence, you will try not to sin. you will try not do anything that is an act of disobedience for when you see their face, you are reminded of Allah and you fear displeasing your Creator. Mashaa Allah, magnificent.

“Its like a realisation of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala radiating on their faces” – Shaykh Aslam

Even if the ‘friends’ of God isn’t perfect, even if their actions and faith are a juxtaposition, what matters most is the love they hold for Allah Ta’ala, that is planted in the depth of their hearts.

“ Love patches the discrepancy of actions, but actions can never patch the discrepancy of actions. “ – Shaykh Aslam.

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“ God gave mankind freewill despite it being predestined by Him” – Anon

It is true; God gave us a conscious mind and Imaan to pick between choices, be it good or bad, and each choices leads to a series of paths which leads to a never-ending series of paths; to think that every possible path are all predestined and written by Allah Ta’ala. Subhaan Allah.

Mankind will ask: “So if God knows what’s the good and bad of each path, why doesn’t He just lead us to it?”

It is only because He gave you a mind and Imaan to pick good and evil on your own. It is only because He wants you to choose your own path of life on your own, with the knowledge and mind He has blessed you with. So to speak, if you pick your own choice, and alhamdulillah you succeed, you will feel satisfied and contented, and you surely will say “I made the right choice”. Even if you fail in succeeding, it is still satisfactory for you picked YOUR OWN choice, YOUR OWN path.

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The best thing is to submit in totality to Allah Shubanahu Wa Ta’ala (in regarding to the heart)

When you are in love: tired, sleepy, hungry will not be in your dictionary. You will not sleep just to spend every waking moment with the thing/person you love. You will not feel tired for them/it, anything just for them/it.

To be in love is like having a burning, warm sensation deep within the core of you.

The heart is the most consuming organ in your body. It is the core of you. Other organs, limbs are just accessories and is all working because of the main source; the heart.

The heart consumes anything & everything it is attracted to. Social-Media, Gadgets, Anything and Everything. As long as the heart is attracted to it, it consumes it.

Fasting of the heart is the righteous thing to do. That way, you safe guard and keep the purity of your heart.

“ Fasts your heart from anything & everything other than Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala. “

Fasting of the heart is to detach your love from the temporary worldly wealth and the ephemeral pleasures of this world. For love towards the temporariness of this world is dissatisfactory and insufficient; which will leave your heart bereft and enmeshed.

Attach your heart to Allah. Submit yourself in totality to him. Quench your heart with the knowledge and wisdoms of God– The Al-Qur’an Al-Kareem. For Allāh Ta’ala is ever sufficient.

“ The heart is too precious to be given relentlessly. ” – Shaykh Aslam

Those that fasts the heart:

“ They played the richness of the dunya(present world) at their fingertips but they do not let the dunya play the richness of their heart. ” – Shaykh Aslam regarding millionaires who fasts their heart.

Nonetheless, that does not mean you can not enjoy the luxury of this dunya. Just remember that the paradise of this world is to recognise & know Allah.

“ Seek the Jannah of this world in hopes our path and journey will be directed and guided to the Jannah of akhirat (hereafter). All in the essence of Allah“  

Ameen.

The end of the 2h Lecture given Shaykh Aslam (mgbh)

Q & A:

1. Incest between first generation of Adam & Hawa children?

Ans: In those days, marriage between siblings are permissible/allowed in the sole purpose of regenerating, and repopulating.

Permissibility depends on time of accurance, Now allowed -> Last time forbidden Last time allowed -> now forbidden

2. Soulmates in Islam? YES. YES. YES. Soulmates exists.

Soulmates are souls that recognises each other and has an immense instant connection, despite never have met before. “Hey, I feel like I know you, met you before. But I can’t remember. Have we met before?”  Instant love. Unconsciously and unintentionally, the soul falls in love with each other. Soulmates do not necessarily happen between opposing gender. Soulmates exist in the same gender as well.

Those that are not meant to be with each other, no matter how much you try, you put in effort, there will still be disputes, constant fights. At times, it could be so drastic that when you see a person’s face for the first time, you are instantly repulsed and already generating a sense of dislike.

THERE ARE SOULMATES. Mashaa Allah.

3. How to guard/ purify one’s heart? Ans: KNOWLEDGE.

“ And know there is no GOD other than Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala.”

intelligence VS. knowledge

KNOWLEDGE WINS.

“ Intelligence has limitations, whereas knowledge knows no limitations. Knowledge is like the ocean; its vast. “ – Shaykh Aslam

Allah is Al-‘Alīm (All-Knowing), HE does not have an akal (intelligence).

3 simple steps to guard/purify the heart: #1: Seek Knowledge #2: Practice acquired knowledge #3: Share knowledge

4. Was Adam taking the forbidden fruit the original sin? Ans: No.

A sin is making a firm intention of doing an act of disobedience that displease God.

Unintentional are not sins.

5. How do I keep my faith strong and firm while being in an environment that does not practice/ may affect my practice of Islam?

Ans: “ Be around the good company, and good will come your way ”

UNLESS

Circumstances that you are the only one in the household that is practicing Islam.

Do not worry about how They will affect you but rather think of how YOU can affect them that, with your practice can encourage or affect (positively) to your surrounding. Keep your faith strong, stay rooted no matter what comes your way. Allah tests those that HE loves. Inshaa Allah, He will grant you strength, for the right cause.

Sincerely, love Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala.

disclaimer: These are derived from whatever I could afford to note down. And some are explanations are based on my own perceptions, but I do try to keep it vague and neutral. May Allah Ta’ala have mercy on me if I have wronged. May Allah Ta’ala ease your affairs, shelter you from harm, heal the hearts that are suffering in silence, and may HE be the sovereignty to your heart.

Assalamu’alaikum.

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This past week it seems like almost every one of the people who came to see me in my office looking for a place to vent started off by saying, “I have a problem with my parents…” They were young and old, male and female, of various cultures and ethnic groups and were all wrestling with their respective relationships with God and their own hearts because of their relationships with their parents. It’s easy to find discussions in Muslim communities that focus on how Islam says parents should be treated by their children. You don’t always see so much that speaks to how parents are supposed to take care of our children. Many of the people who come to see me have issues in understanding their relationships with their parents. More often than not, there is a blanket misconception that somehow equates honoring one’s parents to believing one’s parents are always right. It’s confusing to many when it’s ok to disagree and if that disagreement is somehow tantamount to displeasing God. In some instances, clear limits are transgressed but somehow justified by this idea that a parent can do no wrong. I’ve sat with men and women, young and old, who can tell you horrific stories of how those who are entrusted to look after them have not upheld that responsibility. Issues with verbal, physical and sexual abuses at the hands of fathers, mothers whose only form of communication with daughters is by yelling and voicing disappointment, forced marriages, feelings of being unloved and neglected, and much more. But somehow it is those who are going through these things that find it the hardest to say that kind of treatment is wrong. A young woman came to see me once and told me how her father was negligent of her and her sisters and abusive of her mother. She said he drank a lot and not only had open affairs with many women, but kept their pictures around the house. She described everything with a certain calmness and at the end of asked a question that I did not expect. “Is it wrong for me to dislike my father?” I posed this scenario to an audience I was lecturing to in a mosque outside of NYC. I then broke them up into group of 10 and asked them to discuss what they would tell this young girl if she came to them with the same case and question. When we came to discuss as a group, not one person could comfortably say that it was ok for her to dislike her father. Where does this hesitation come from? I would argue that it is rooted in the simplistic discourse that we have around family development and familial duty. Islam is about reality and it’s time to start dealing with the reality that not every parent knows how to be a good one. Most people in general have a desire to know if they are good, and the way they affirm that goodness is from the acceptance of people around them. A lot of Muslims derive their sense of validation from the approval of their parents. A parent’s happiness somehow indicates the happiness of God, and getting a parent upset becomes extremely problematic, because how will God be happy with one who gets their parents upset? It’s not fair to let a child think they are somehow deficient by taking unfair advantage of a misconstrued idea of what it means to respect parents. We are producing generations of young people who are scared to take risks because they get no positive reinforcement from their elders. That, coupled with the reality that every possible type of anger is unleashed when one makes a mistake, makes it really hard for some children to grow. The two biggest instances where issues seem to arise are marriage and career choice. Conversations on these and many other subjects become hard to have due to a critical gap in communication. A child confused and backed into a corner doesn’t really know what to do now. In most instances, the emotional trauma builds up and young people turn to unhealthy outlets to deal with the pain they experience from a parent unwilling to listen. I’ve sat with young girls who have developed eating disorders because their mothers tell them they are not beautiful enough and that’s why no one is marrying them, young men who cut themselves because they can’t deal with being a constant disappointment to their fathers, and people of all backgrounds who start to lose touch with their Islam because seemingly all of it is justified from this regurgitated discourse of “your parents are always right.” Ibn ‘Umar said, “Allah has called them the ‘dutiful’ (al-Abrar) because they are dutiful (birr) to their parents and children. Just as you have a duty which you owe your parent, so you have a duty which you owe your child.” Starting the communication is easier said then done. If you find yourself in the place when you have a child, please take a moment to reflect deeply on how you treat him or her. Do you tell them you are proud of them? Do you treat them the same as your other children? Are your daughters and sons treated the same? Do you hug them and tell them that you love them? When they make mistakes, do you help them to understand? Your children will look up to you and it’s important to play a role in their lives, but you can’t live your life through them. If you find yourself in a situation in which you don’t connect with your parent, find someone to speak with about it. Don’t let emotions build up inside that should be bottled up. Will every parent come around? There will be some parents who won’t understand and others who will eventually come to understand what it is that you are going through. The end goal should not be complete agreement, but opening up a channel of communication that lets both parties feel respected and understood. Taking the steps necessary to deal with the situation should include speaking with someone who understands you and your given circumstance and can provide a safe space to express your thoughts. This probably won’t come through listening to a lecture on youtube or even at a conference, but rather should take place face-to-face with someone who knows and understands you and can help you in your given circumstance. You are important enough for specific attention. The Prophet Muhammad was an amazing parent and grandparent. He would play games with his grandchildren Hasan and Husain, tell them he loved them, and be there for them in so many different ways. His relationship with his daughter Fatima was so beautiful. She is said to have resembled him more than anyone else and she would be with him in many different gatherings and meetings. When he was in final stages of life, he was seen whispering in her ear. At first she cried and then she laughed. When asked what is it that was said to her, she responded, “The Prophet first told me secretly that he would expire in that disease in which he died, so I wept; then he told me secretly that I would be the first of his family to follow him, so I laughed.” When she is about to pass away months later, we are told that she readies herself with a bath and clean clothing, eagerly anticipating being with her father again. Would our children react the same way if they knew they were going to spend an eternity with us? If the answer to that is no, then we need to start making some changes. Start by telling your child that you love him or her and don’t let them ever believe for a moment, regardless of what they do, that you will ever stop.

Khalid Latif