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dearloonies · 2 months ago

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Do you think that Allen's wish was to die by his own terms

#dgm #dgm spoilers #he was a soldier fighting for a war that killed his comrades and himself #its war people die #but with the way war and politics works #soldiers are just pawns for higher authorities to use and dispose #Humans are greedy and selfish but that's makes them human #it doesn't necessarily mean it was ok #what more could he possibly want other than to die by his own choice?#allen who was always following #never quite being his own person #past allen #past!allen #past allen walker #dgm 252 #dgm 253 #d gray man #d.gray man #nea d campbell

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bumblingbabooshka · 14 days ago

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Thinking about marriage/women's rights on Vulcan Some may think that T'Pring not being allowed to divorce Spock was because he was going through the pon farr but if she were allowed to divorce him at all she probably would have done that a long time ago, confirmed by T'Pol when she's speaking with Koss, who isn't suffering from the pon farr. She says that he can choose another mate (without invoking a fight it seems: note the difference between a 'mate' and a 'challenger') and after he makes it clear that nothing she says will change his mind about marrying her, she finally threatens to declare a kal-if-fee. It's clear that Vulcan women cannot divorce/refuse to marry a man they've been betrothed to under any circumstances if A) He himself doesn't consent to ending their marriage or B) She doesn't have someone else waiting in the wings to be given to in his stead. Though, if the challenger she selects fails to win the fight, she'll have to marry her betrothed anyway unless (again) he decides he doesn't want her after the challenge. That seems like an incredibly unfair system, heavily biased towards men. SNW is an alternate universe in many obvious respects but most egregiously in that T'Pring has a lot of non-canonical agency over her relationship with Spock. It's interesting to me that Vulcan society has women in many positions of power and treats women as equal to men from what I've seen despite these laws. We don't really see Vulcans exhibiting a misogynistic attitude towards women in general but in TOS (perhaps because of its general writing style but it's still interesting to note) both Sarek and Spock take on patriarchal attitudes specifically regarding wives. Amanda says that 'of course' Sarek commands her because "he is a Vulcan and I am his wife." It's worthwhile in my eyes to note that she specifies 'wife' instead of attributing this attitude to women as a whole. Again, with TOS' writing style it wouldn't be out of place for her to say "he is a man and I am a woman." Spock, while in a pon farr induced irritation, states that it's "undignified for a woman to play servant to a man that isn't hers" - again implying that there's something specific about being a Wife in Vulcan society which is different from being a woman in general and demands subservience to a husband. This could perhaps stem from the extreme sense of ownership that Vulcan law has permitted men to have over women. A woman legally cannot point blank refuse marriage. There is no option which guarantees she won't have to marry her betrothed other than death. When T'Pau speaks of T'Pring she refers to her as being 'property' and Stonn, before being interrupted, states he's made 'the ancient claim' - we don't know what this is because he gets cut off but it's obvious they're both using the language of Vulcan law. Men are permitted true freedom to choose. If a woman wants to choose someone else to be with there is no option available to her other than the kal-if-fee which might result in the death of the one she wants to be with. And, if her lover fails, her husband can still just decide he wants to marry her and she'll be forced to. T'Pring gives two scenarios: One where Spock 'frees' her and one where he doesn't - it's still ultimately his decision which is clear when he ends the conversation with "Stonn, she is yours." This again isn't just because of the pon farr as T'Pol also goes through this. Koss can choose another mate and when the option is talked about there's no implication that this would result in any sort of fight (both by the casualness of its mention and by the fact that there's no formal word for it unlike the kal-if-fee.) Also, the fact that Koss does eventually grant T'Pol a divorce and it's all fine means that T'Pol isn't lawfully required to have another man waiting if her HUSBAND doesn't want her. It's ONLY required if SHE doesn't want her husband. Tradition must take precedence over individual desire UNLESS!!! You're a man. Then it's fine. Like, your parents might not be happy but legally you're golden.

#as a note do NOT read the comments on any T'Pol marriage clips on youtube they're full of 'haha women amiright' jokes about #how she's leading Trip on and being a bitch for not choosing him etc - if you become interested in female characters you learn #quickly just how much people still hate women displaying any amount of complexity/doing anything that isn't just falling into a man's arms #even if that hatred doesn't take the form of outright vitriol (aka: 'I feel so sad for Trip bc T'Pol's marrying some other guy')#Trip: T'Pol listen this arranged marriage stuff is no good - you've gotta be free! You have to do what YOU want to do!#T'Pol: -legally seen as property of her husband in the eyes of the law- ...............#<- not dunking on Trip it's just funny how easy it makes it seem - but!! He doesn't know all the facts #as evidenced by him saying T'Pol might 'call off the wedding' to her mother - T'Pol can't legally call off shit #It's also interesting how gender isn't really mentioned in any of the clips I've seen - it's very clear to me that T'Pol has no options #specifically because she's a WOMAN within her culture but that's almost like a quiet undercurrent and not focused on as a main #point of dissatisfaction - which I imagine it 1000% would be for Vulcan women when men have infinitely more freedom #Vulcan Man: I don't wanna marry this lady #Vulcan Law: Ok #Vulcan Woman: I don't wanna marry this guy #Vulcan Law: Noted. So - if you and your lover are willing to risk his life there's a chance (if he wins) that you can get out of marrying #him BUT if your husband kills your lover and still wants to marry you you DOOO have to marry him sorry you just gotta #<- this also makes it incredibly dangerous to in any way warn your legal husband that a kal-if-fee might be incoming #the element of surprise is a HUGE advantage when it comes to winning a fight to the death (which your lover can train for)#Vulcans #T'Pol #T'Pring #star trek #I don't think this is bad necessarily (as a fictional worldbuilding thing) but I wish it were explored more #It's especially interesting because it's an aspect of logical Vulcan society - it's clearly not logical but it's also clearly rooted deeply #in tradition which may mean Vulcan long ago used to have a much more extreme gender bias towards the male population #it just implies a lot that Vulcan has these old laws which are unfair towards women yet they still follow BUT women are treated as equal #citizens OUTSIDE of marriage! Maybe there was a feminist movement before? Is there another brewing? Where are the Vulcan feminists!

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aaternum · 2 days ago

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fights honorably / fights dirty

prefers close - quarters / prefers range

chats during / goes silent

low pain tolerance / high pain tolerance

attacks in bursts / attacks steadily

goes for the kill / aims to disarm / fights defensively / strikes first

is provoked easily / provokes their opponent / teases

gets visibly frustrated / shouts while attacking

uses strategy / focuses on the battle / experiences conflicting thoughts during battle

rushes in recklessly / tries to read their opponent before engaging

fights wildly / fights calmly / fights apathetically / fights with anger / fights with excitement

fights because they have to / fights because they want to

fights without regard to wounds / runs away when wounded / hides wounds / takes a blow to protect another

prefers a blade / prefers a gun / prefers hand to hand combat / prefers a bow / prefers a shield / prefers a personalized weapon / prefers magic or spells

their greatest weakness is physical / their greatest weakness is mental / their greatest weakness is emotional

transforms for battle / fights as they appear

relies on strength / doubts their strength / relies on speed

uses everything they have / proceeds with caution / hides their full potential

exhausts quickly / has high stamina

behaves arrogantly / brags after landing a hit / belittles their abilities

uses psychological tactics / uses brute strength

avoids civilians / strikes down civilians

damages surroundings / avoids damaging surroundings

signature fighting style / makes it up as they go

mastered skill - set / learning their skill - set

fancy footwork / sloppy footwork

messy fighter / elegant fighter

accepts defeat / refuses defeat / begs for mercy

compliments their opponent / insults their opponent

uses unnecessary movements / moves efficiently / barely moves

prefers to dodge / prefers to block

defends their blindside / has no blindside / leaves blindsides vulnerable

uses all available advantages / strictly uses one main method

plays around / holds back / fights ruthlessly / shows mercy

waits for an opponent to be ready / strikes when opponent isn’t ready

fears death / fears pain / fears killing

has ptsd / avoids fighting

has lost a fight / has won a fight

has killed / refuses to kill

wants to die standing / would succumb slowly

tagged by: @generalzelgius (thank you sm! <3) tagging: @incandescentia, @nezumivc103221, @wintryrevaerie, @solivcgant, @mannequinentity, @inseparableduo + you reading this! c:

#━━ Ⅻ ⊰ dash commentary / ♡ ❜#I feel like i should clarify that GENERALLY ryu only fights demons/supernatural beings that are harming others #so she's not gonna sit there and let her opponent get through their whole magical girl transformation just so they can fuck her up #that would be insane behavior. she's gonna strike when she has the chance and if that means playing a little dirty to do it #then she will because she's not trying to die #that being said she would never try to harm someone that isn't being harmful to others #so sparring and the rare one off occasions where she does get into fights she doesn't necessarily want to harm someone in #she would fight more honorably and defensively #OK MWAAH

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thedreadvampy · 1 year ago

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The thing is I am definitely not happy or chill in the Immediate Sense lately but I am, big picture, so fucking happy with the person I am.

It's like. My brain was made by and for consistent trauma and since that trauma stopped about 5-7 years ago, it is incredible what the amount of resilience and cleverness and flexibility and thoughtfulness I developed to survive can do when it's not being all spent on surviving. like I had a hundred ton weight on me so I had to get REALLY STRONG to stay in the same place and not get 100% crushed, and when that weight came off I found I can use the strength it used to take to stand up and I can leap tall buildings in a single bound.

I was talking to my mum the other day and she said, "you've got the 'fuck it' energy at 30 that most women don't find until their fifties at least" and I'm like yeah man. Imagine how unstoppable I'll be in 20 years.

#red said #i don't know that i can express this clearly but it's the most encouraging thing in my life #my mum's always been proud of me but just lately she seems to actually really admire me #like she's genuinely impressed. she thinks I've surpassed her. i don't necessarily agree but it's a really nice quiet joy.#anyway like this sounds super up myself and it kind of is.#but also it's part of realising just how heavy the weight I've been carrying around with me for 25 years was #like not to be ridiculous but i have realised again this week. that it isn't that everyone's been raped that much and doesn't talk about it #i just have been raped an Unusually Consistent Amount. i have spoken to a lot of people who have had much more horrifying things happen.#I'm not sure I've talked to more than a couple of people who've had a similar level of total consistency of abuse from all angles #and the one is not heavier or harder to bear that the other. but. i think i spent most of my life listening to people's awful experiences #and going ok well nothing i went through looked that bad so it's microtrauma #obviously microtraumas build up but still.#then the older i get and the more i have these conversations the more I notice that stuff which to me is a microtrauma #is a lot of people's defining trauma. and they're reacting appropriately which means i am SO SEVERELY UNDERREACTING #told my friend the other day about a time someone who i still like and respect was having sex with me when i paralocated my hip #and then just kept getting really annoyed with me for not being ready to have sex again while i was literally crying with pain #until i caved and just tried to find the last painful position #and my friend was like pal what the fuck that's horrific #and i was like i mean no that's normal I've had sex with like maybe 3 or 4 people in my life who i haven't had similar stuff with #like i am genuinely thrown when i am allowed to say no to sex and have it be the end of the conversation. and not end up having sex #out of guilt or out of physical coercion or through physical rape. and i have had sex with probably like 40 people at this stage?#and I'm not sure it's as many as 4 i haven't had that experience with tbh #so like. I'm slowly coming to terms with the idea #that i may have actually been doing a hell of a lot of heavy lifting.#like i developed a sense of self that can survive being constantly crushed and at this stage is fucking diamond.

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nero-neptune · 1 year ago

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maybe i’m just easily annoyed (and the news is depressing), but i feel like people on here (or the internet in general lbr) are more willing to criticize/dismiss (even label unrelated things as) “white feminism” (even if it’s bringing up important/relevant issues) than talk about feminism at all. sexism exists in every community you can think of, within every race, ethnicity, social class, religion, nationality, sexuality, what-have-you. it’s easier and more entertaining ig to point out how feminism is lacking or who’s doing feminism “wrong” then attempt to bridge/fill the gaps and actually, Seriously Talk about sexism in detail (and not like it’s some sort of 2nd tier, we’ll circle back to this much later, type of oppression which i Really get the impression of, even within supposedly-progressive spheres) on the regular and not as a series of gotcha posts that get enthusiastically reblogged for a blip in time and then. crickets. like as far as the patriarchy’s concerned (like if i’m looking at this from their perspective), this nitpicking appears very divide-and-conquer. nothing goes anywhere. and things just keep slipping backwards. maybe i’m crazy (maybe i’m way off base), but isn’t feminism meant to help All women, even the ones you dislike? even the ones you hate? like what’s going on here? am i missing something?

#like i definitely was one of those people who dismissed certain issues as 'white feminist' but honestly #i feel like in the long run that's done a lot more harm than good #opening up different websites gives me whiplash sometimes like. oh you HATE women here. ok.#and then watching the news like. oh so EVERYONE hates women. that's crazy!#or maybe i'm just a debbie downer #i'm black btw if it needs to be said. like this isn't me necessarily defending white feminism but honestly #even the most privileged silver spoon conventionally attractive white bread women deal with horrific sexism #we saw that with amber heard (for a very recent example)#just bc 'white feminism' has a lot of blind spots doesn't mean we shouldn't talk about feminism at all #and at least on tumblr that's what it feels like has happened. i could be living in a bubble tho. we all have our blind spots #rambles #feminism #this is very stream of consciousness i just had shit to say.

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boycum3000 · 1 year ago

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"well every bi girl I've dated ended up being straight/going back to guys after >:(" omg really ☹️ does this indicate to you at all that maybe ... some self reflection is necessary? do we think that maybe this is a you problem ☹️ ? do we think that maybe this is telling us something not about bi women but... about ourselves ? :((

#like ok imagine telling on yourself like this. get a better strap game idk what to say #/hj cus like. a bi person dating the opposite sex doesn't necessarily mean anything lmao. theyre still bi.#like there doesn't necessarily have to be a reason ... you just dont see bisexuality as valid #so you assume that if a bi person dates the opposite sex it means they've 'given up on being gay'

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leatherbookmark · 1 year ago

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oh god okay i understand that maybe not everyone is as indecisive/comfortable with saying "it depends!" as me, but like, i'm sorry, i'm sorry, but i just can't take people who call izzy a villain seriously

#he's a little annoying dude. i swear to fuck #'the real villain in the show is the system and izzy is siding with the system' babygirl he's a pirate 😭 he really isn't 😭#he could NOT more clearly be -- he literally IS -- that kind of gay man who wears his leathers and anger as an armor because being scary ha #been his way of fighting The System => being consumed and destroyed by it; and who looks down and feels disgusted by flamboyant #and effeminate soft-handed gays because if they're this soft then they clearly haven't experienced this kind of abuse that would make them #harden up. ....you know what i mean.#like idk this show in general like... doesn't have a 'villain'? it's about stede (and ed's) journey and their development. not necessarily #about their Conflict With Someone/Something. i guess it might change in s2 but idk. there are just Situations in which they find themselves #and because of/md is a comedy no one really... holds things against other characters in a long-term way? izzy stabs stede and sells him #out to the english and ed punches him for the latter (which he says 'ok fair' about!!! like!!!) but does he go 'and for all the shit you've #done i'm Firing you as my first mate? no! he slams him against the wall and feeds him his toe but he's like. ok get up and back to work #and he doesn't seem particularly disgusted or upset with him in that final blackbeard's flag 2.0 moment. (nor manipulated; inb4)#like. it's a workplace romcom. the workplace is a pirate ship but it's a workplace and izzy is that annoying coworker who's a bitch and #often ruins everyone's fun but no one like... Seriously ostracizes him. more like applies some light bullying BECAUSE IT'S FUNNY.#COMEDY. do we remember that?#and like. it seems he's going to have a bit of a larger (?) role in s2... it really doesn't seem like the show sees him as a 'villain' or #even an active 'antagonist' either. like ok let's agree 2 disagree and may both sides block each others' asses into oblivion because god #knows both sides have some annoying people but mannnn sometimes... insisting that things Can be divided into Good and Bad... is worse?#shrimp thoughts #once again i wrote a tag novel about an incredibly silly thing. welcome to leatherbookmark

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faradaykay · 2 years ago

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do you guys want to see my p5 aroace opinions... (everyone says no) okay since you guys insist i'll show you :))

#squishy talks too much #squishy plays p5r #AS USUAL THESE ARE JUST MY HCS BC I AM WEIRD AND ILL SO LIKE DON'T GET MAD IF YOU DISAGREE IT IS OK #ALSO on the spectrum does not necessarily mean no attraction so please don't make that assumption!!#also yusuke to me is like. i'd need a whole five paragraph essay to explain properly #but the simplest way i can put it is that he's allo in the most aroace way possible #DOES THAT MAKE SENSE. (it doesn't)#i'm trying so hard to find better words that won't take too long to explain but it's like. HFSDJ #also sorry only girls are aroace to me they just gave the men in this game such severe allo energy #also also anyone who's not here i just don't have an opinion on. sorry

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wheucto · 2 years ago

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#wheucto #wheucto speaks #wheucto liveblogs #screenshot #ii spoilers #the 'good ol' days?' mephone? when was that? not with cobs. which leaves out the first two seasons and his time with cobs before those #unless this refers to a time between.#maybe he does just long for the simplicity of the past... nostalgia.#and his memories with spring guy man thing are one of the few positive things from that time?#springy's words do contradict themselves. his 'motto' about the past not mattering because it's not the present don't really go along. wait #let me keep watching i'll keep writing tags #oh ok that's way more distressing.#NEways. since if the past was great_ then. actually that doesn't necessarily mean it's contradictory?#though i was going to say that a motto like that can't really account for all the nuance so. who knows #though the past still could weigh you down if you're just focusing on how great it was

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antirepurp · 2 years ago

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watching a video while working again and the narrator mentioned that anasui's design changing in the manga was bc of editorial reasons over him being jolyne's designated love interest and heaven forbid that be a woman so whether this is the true reason behind it or it was just araki having fun messing with people im now obsessing over this and lowkey debating of incorporating this into something somehow

#soda offers you a can #i mean if the gender is the only thing that changes here it doesn't necessarily make anasui any better as a character #like their behavior is still creepy and weird and might play into the stereotype of predatory lesbians tbf #but i like queer stuff and i want to say that it would make things more interesting #especially if you wanna get nitpicky abt that comment jolyne made abt ff looking gay #like idk something abt jolyne overcoming internalized homophobia and actually falling for a woman who cares abt her???#i think i'd be more ok with that tbh #this all said ermes would 100% be a better love interest for jolyne don't get me wrong #like anasui's got some issues that the power of love cannot fix lmao #jjba

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carriesthewind · 2 years ago

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So I just finished season 2 of Wondery's Suspect podcast, and if you enjoyed season 1's thoughtfulness and interrogation of the injustice and biases of the criminal legal system, ughhhhh....maybe skip season 2. I'm usually chill about subsequent seasons of podcasts departing pretty far from the original season's premise/presentation, but this was such a refutation of the original season that even though it was technically just (high production-value) true crime drek, I feel honestly betrayed and disguised at the end.

Season 1: educational, nuanced, thoughtful and thought-provoking; takes pains not to demonize anyone involved (even people that it presents as doing/having done incredibly harmful things) and to try to understand their motivations and pov; explores how past/other criminal (even unarguably atrocious) behavior is not sufficient evidence that someone committed a separate criminal offense (and how our human brains and biases will overweigh such "evidence"), and also how weird/unusual/bizarre behavior - behavior that seems bizarre or inexplicable to "normal" people - isn't sufficient either (and the dangers of how our human brains and biases might overweigh such "evidence"; presents contrasting juror viewpoints from a trial that highlights how hard "beyond a reasonable doubt" is to actually apply and what it looks like to wrestle with that standard, while also highlighting how real jurors absolutely do decide based on impermissible biases and assumptions; bluntly and explicitly refuses to provide (or even try to provide) an answer to the viewer about whodonit; and wrestles with how sometimes we can't actually know who committed a horrible offense and get justice for a victim (and their surviving friends and family)

Season 2: standard bog-issue true crime (just with a high-end production value and presentation); cops are great and let's not interrogate at all when we hear them explicitly lying to the Criminal, we've got real clear Good Guys and Bad Guys here; presents a narrative (and uncontested statements from speakers) suggesting that previous criminal/atrocious behavior is 100% evidence that a person probably also did the murder; weird/unusual/bizarre behavior is at minimum justifiably suspicious, and at maximum absolutely evidence that a person did Crime, and there is no need to interrogate our reactions and assumptions; interviews a single juror who (without any pushback or interrogation of her position) presents as unreasonable and unethical the juror who came in with a list of all his (reasonable) doubts and didn't think the prosecution presented a strong case - to the point of stating that he violated his oath/pretrial statements that he could convict based on circumstantial evidence (b/c he wasn't convinced by the particular circumstantial case presented) (meanwhile the interviewed juror was being 100% reasonable and Correct in being convinced he was guilty when she admittedly had no idea why he might have done it until she wrote a bunch of true crime fanfic "figured it out" after the trial); presents a narrative clearly intended to leave the listener with the impression that yay the cops clearly got the right guy, justice has been served, the gross/creepy/abusive dude really was the one who did it; and we all get to sleep at night with the certainty that the world makes narrative sense and justice can be wrapped up in a neat little bow and the only problem is how long it took the system to get there :)

Just, incredibly disappointing.

#the criminal injustice system #suspect podcast #just #fucking christ #like to be clear I'm not saying the guy that was convicted didn't necessarily do it #and they did a pretty good job convincing me that he was an abusive creepy and dangerous asshole who might have done it #(but also really failed to interrogate - for example - that just b/c a criminal team chooses not to formally present an insanity defense #that doesn't mean a defendant doesn't have have serious mental health issues that might explain some of their 'inexplicable' behavior)#in either the first or second episode there was an interview w/the mother of the victim's friend #where she was super suspicious of the behavior of the victim's dad and how how unusual and inexplicable and suspicious she found it #and that thread was just left dangling #and i was like #ok i see - the podcast is going to pick this back up later to discuss how her suspicion #while very reasonable from her perspective #was not actually evidence of anything #and the dad's reactions were also perfectly - from his perspective - reasonable #and it's going to tie into larger themes and discussions #lol #nope #it was just a red herring that was just supposed to make you think maybe the dad did it!

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sufficientlylargen · 1 month ago

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I mean, "ghostwriter" seems to cover a pretty wide set of things, ranging from "J. Random Writer and K. Alfred Famousguy collaborated on this book, and J did more of the writing but it was published as 'By K. Famousguy (with J. Writer)'" all the way to "J wrote this book entirely on their own and it was published as 'By K. Famousguy' with no mention of J whatsoever, and K and J both signed NDAs promising to never reveal the truth", and I think the ethics of these different cases differ widely.

But I don't think it's unreasonable to argue that ''telling readers person K wrote this book when they didn't" is unethical regardless of whether

K paid OpenAI to write it

K paid another human to write it

Another human paid K to pretend they wrote it, or

K bartered with Satan, who wrote it

We all agree, right?

AI to write your novel is wrong

A bargain with a demon to write your novel is okay

#this is an orthogonal issue from whether generating books via ChatGPT is ethical #like it's a question about how much it's ethical to lie to people #and I don't know what the right answer is #to what extent do readers have a 'right' to know how a work was actually produced?#I don't have any problem with pen names or anonymous publishing or whatnot #but e.g. I also don't think it's ok that Elon Musk bought the rights to call himself a 'founder' of Tesla #and it's not clear to me why that wouldn't also apply if Musk paid a ghostwriter to let him call himself the 'author' of a book #like Telsa agreeing to sell the 'founder' title doesn't mean it was ethical it just means Tesla cooperated in the lie #which makes it legal but doesn't necessarily make it 'right'#and I'm having a hard time thinking of a reason why that would be any different for written works

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worldwright · 6 months ago

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