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i've been a lifelong ryan and marissa stan but now in my late 20s and after living a quasi-situationship, i can finally understand just how messy r/m were and how exhausting their dynamic would be. still love them and it's tv and what not but now i get why some people throw the toxic label around. also their attachment styles are interesting to think about, ryan's deffo avoidant and marissa's probably a fearful avoidant. they basically met at a time when they both had a lot of healing to still do to be healthy together
Ah yeah I get this. The version I have of them in my head absolutely has them sit down to talk their shit out eventually but I think it's apparent from at least s2 on, and the forthcoming book basically says this, that the show benefits from their miscommunication. It shoots them in the foot, but the show actively engages with Ryan and Marissa never being on the same page due to their avoidance issues. It only propels the plot and the writers' room was only looking for tension when it came to their storylines. So my love for them still to this day is taking elements of those building blocks and imagining a healthier scenario for them that's not always looking to be torpedoed by a writers' room who stopped knowing how to properly write for them by s2. I can understand why other people don't do the same lol. But so much of viewing this show, to me, is looking at what they gave us at face value and realizing that it's torture/trauma porn for Marissa and how absolutely gross that is. And trying to pivot from that whenever I can just so I can enjoy it at all. Still no word from the book on how harmful that is as a narrative for a teenage girl. It's like they still don't get why she was so relatable to at least half their audience.
I think the word toxic gets carelessly thrown around a lot and RM are thrown into really dark and counterintuitive plots but I don't get why people think their actual relationship is toxic. They're avoidant but moreso because plot + dealing with adult feelings/situations at such a young age. Marissa feels she can't speak to her boyfriend about her feelings so she leans into a third party character meant to be her emotional support. That's, like, actually really sad. And it's not right, but both those plots resolve themselves without Ryan and Marissa having a real conversation about it! Insane. The show didn't want them to resolve anything because then there's no more constant conflict. They aren't even allowed to talk about the assault or shooting! Or even the death of one of those third party characters. It's just.... such bad writing. The writers' room hated them bad after s1 and it's really obvious.
ETA: Sorry I completely forgot to mention your own situationship. I'm sorry that it seemed (on my end here) to be a bad thing in the end. I think they can be really tricky and a way for a lot of men (though not exclusively) to string people along and that really sucks. Emotional maturity is something I'm still working at myself and it's really hard. So much of what I've seen of situationships is like settling for all someone can give you and I don't think it's inherently all that bad really, but everyone involved deserves better. And better tools to confront those things.
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Hmmmm I think they should have kissed
#gotham 2014#nygmobblepot#edward nygma#oswald cobblepot#listen this song is a bbbbbbanger#their deranged codependency may just be their greatest charm point#they make me ill#they make each other ill#the greatest lesson I've ever learned from doing traditional art is that I WILL mess up--just barrel through it and finish the damn piece#looking at you page 4 lol
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★ 100 // “The Holy Bible”
#jjba#jojo's bizarre adventure#steel ball run#sbr#gyjo#johnny joestar#gyro zeppeli#tools used:#bible...#acrylic paint#posca paint pen#WE'VE FINALLY HIT THE TRIPLE DIGITS!!!!#Originally I was going to draw just Johnny. But no. These two walked together and couldn't have done it alone without the other.#I will leave you with some shrinekeeper lore: Miracle is my favorite word and has been for as long as I can remember.#I couldn't exactly tell you why. Maybe it's because the concept of them is fascinating. Maybe it just sounds pretty to say.#Whatever the reason: it drew me to reading a book that would change my life at a time where I felt at my lowest.#And that book is... not this one LOL. I wouldn't say I'm Christian.#It was another book that had Jesus in it though. Actually you could say he wrote it.#A Course In Miracles... when I saw that title I thought “hey. that's my favorite word.” So I read it. It changed my worldview.#The book asks you to follow lessons every day for 365 days. And somehow... I did it.#And throughout that time and even to this day you could say I've gone on my own spiritual journey with JC. I luv Jesus.#So when I learned that Johnny's narrative was essentially about finding God it deeply reminded me of my own journey.#This shrine feels like ACIM 2.0... I think that's ultimately the reason it's called a shrine and that every offering is a prayer.#Thank you for following me along this journey thus far. I hope I can make many more miracles happen!
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Kid Killer actually kills Kid
Happy Holidays everyone!! Here is my piece for the @dcmkkaishinevents for @miss-emotion
#I got to draw characters I've never drawn before and I loved the prompts you gave! I hope you like it!!#kaishin#dcmk#kaitou kid#all shinichi promised was to help him mess with hakuba smh#shinichi kudo#jodie starling#andre camel#james black#youd think id learn my lesson about doing comics but i couldn't help myself and did another one akdjflakjdfalkjf#case closed#detective conan#magic kaito#magic kaito 1412#ksss23works#kaishinsecretsanta23#ksss23#my art#do not repost#also like low key spoilers for what happens to camels hair lmaooo
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"When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends."
- Was told this is a Japanese Proverb; couldn't find any info on it outside of that
This is so accurate. I cannot emphasize it enough. If someone is chill being around horrible people (and they're not a victim, to be clear) knowingly, get the fuck away from that person as soon as you can. If you can't, then I suggest growing distant from them. If they're ok being around heinous people, they're not going to be there for you when those people put you through heinous shit. You deserve better.
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getting really emotional about how dubenich picks the leverage crew because they only ever work alone, and in both the nigerian job AND the last dam job the way they outsmart him is to go find people they trust and ask for help.
#dubenich says these 4 people will immediately turn on each other and then the first thing they do is go find sophie#and then he's like ok so i've learned my lesson time if i can't divide them i'll make it impossible for them to act#SIKE BITCH they learned how to make friends while you were in prison! and you're the reason they learned!#leverage
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Pete & Patrick + Grand Theft Autumn/Where Is Your Boy, through the years
2007 / 2008 / 2009 / 2013 / 2014 / 2015 / 2016 / 2017 / 2018 / 2019 / 2021 / 2022 / 2023
bonus: so much for (tour) dust staging ver. (2023)
(1) my video / (2) x
#peterick#pete wentz#patrick stump#fall out boy#where is your boy#storm gifs#commentary time#that was the ONLY vid i could find for 2008 lol#as far as i can tell they did not do this prior to 2007#latest vid i found of them not doing it was a show from oct 2006#earliest vid i found of them doing it was a show from sep 2007#they played the song ONCE in 2019 and i found ONE vid of it#kinda wish i'd started the 2013 gif later and ended it later bc the way pete just stares after patrick really gets me#but alas i'm too lazy to redo it so just watch the vid#also not to be biased but the way patrick looks intensely at pete in the gif from my show is SO good#WHY did i decide to do every year. however it is too late for regrets#anyway they make me smile to look at so it's fine#“more than an hour” gifs next? maybe? but prob only 4-6 bc i've learned my damn lesson
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i'd die for them
(and i have)
(many many times)
#outer wilds#echoes of the eye#outer wilds prisoner#outer wilds spoilers#echoes of the eye spoilers#i've also learned a very important lesson#when i'm in a creative rut just think about outer wilds for like#30 seconds and i'll be out of it again#me: doesn't draw in 6 months#me: listens to the eote ost on repeat for an entire evening and just gOES-#omg tumblr can you PLEASE ruin the quality for me#yes ty it's beautiful <3#my art
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And if I said this is Liam's Zayn?
#fucking it's you.......#it's you#could it be that it's a lesson that I never had to learn?#I looked at it like a blessing and now it's just a curse#I don't know why...... I don't know why#jesus h christ#zayn#liam#zayn malik#liam payne#ziam#and then the message at the end#the love BEEN felt!!!!!#he didn't open his eyes one time#seriously just watch his body language#I've seen the you & I clips okay I've seen the eyes sparkling I've seen the tender shrugging shoulders#liam payne was in the air tonight#zayn tour#sttstour#stts
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me: wow i wonder why i can never find anything in my files
my files:
#this is my own fault and yet.#*as i title another doc incomprehensibly* i will never learn my lesson i will never change#can you tell i've been going through my google drive?#why are there 3 different organizational systems used in these screenshots? well you see. i forgor#lime.txt#queue
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☑️ Use the Excavator to Drill for Treasure! +0.5
Current Gen3 Points: 19.5
#i've got tonsilitis for the 3rd time in 3 months why does my body hate me so much#always happens when i hook up with someone new as well?? feels like im being punished for sleeping w yet another bisexual mustachiod man 😭#you'd think i wouldve learned my lesson from last time but apparently not 🤡 i have a type im sorry#TS3#TS3 Legacy#TS3 LEPacy#HIXCompletionistChallenge#Sims 3#Simblr#Piccolo Lepacy#Piccolo3#Maggie Piccolo#HIX Scoreboards
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i think i slept enough yesterday staying until 3 am will do no harm me thinks
#look at this dumbass never learn his lesson#listen the whole day i've been melting and i want to enjoy the slight drop in temperature of the night ok#i talk
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For those who struggle with trauma, CPTSD, and the like, before agreeing to take on another commitment or make a big decision, pause and check in with yourself. Do you really want to do this? Do you really feel fully comfortable with this choice? Are you just agreeing because you know it will benefit others, even if it doesn't benefit you? Trust me, this will save you a lot of heartache later. Always be true to yourself.
#reminder#this is a massive lesson I've learned recently at a really difficult time in my life#but it was definitely needed because i didn't realize just how much of a self-betrayal this can be#trust yourself but above all LISTEN to yourself
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this, amongst other things, hopefully before the end of the month (please, god)
#I've learned a valuable lesson about not having stuff ready for production at the very beginning of the year#in my defense I usually have time to develop concepts while I'm home for the holidays but shit was just too crazy last year#flighty brand
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"Let me see your face"
#i joined some chinese apps and when i tell you that im being fed Kingohger content#I mean I'm being FED#Those sites are a fcking FEAST even with the language barrier (curse you baby me for crying over chinese lessons)#so far they like some of the doodles I've put out and got some new moots bonding over HimeRita which is great#but fck i gotta learn Chinese if I wanna communicate better (speaking too bc I only know beginner Canto and 0 Mandarin)#kingohger#king ohger#ohsama sentai kingohger#rita kaniska#rita kanisuka#himeno ran#hymeno ran#himerita#hymerita#kingoh doodles
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