#is the lesson i've learned

[mischas]

i've been a lifelong ryan and marissa stan but now in my late 20s and after living a quasi-situationship, i can finally understand just how messy r/m were and how exhausting their dynamic would be. still love them and it's tv and what not but now i get why some people throw the toxic label around. also their attachment styles are interesting to think about, ryan's deffo avoidant and marissa's probably a fearful avoidant. they basically met at a time when they both had a lot of healing to still do to be healthy together

Ah yeah I get this. The version I have of them in my head absolutely has them sit down to talk their shit out eventually but I think it's apparent from at least s2 on, and the forthcoming book basically says this, that the show benefits from their miscommunication. It shoots them in the foot, but the show actively engages with Ryan and Marissa never being on the same page due to their avoidance issues. It only propels the plot and the writers' room was only looking for tension when it came to their storylines. So my love for them still to this day is taking elements of those building blocks and imagining a healthier scenario for them that's not always looking to be torpedoed by a writers' room who stopped knowing how to properly write for them by s2. I can understand why other people don't do the same lol. But so much of viewing this show, to me, is looking at what they gave us at face value and realizing that it's torture/trauma porn for Marissa and how absolutely gross that is. And trying to pivot from that whenever I can just so I can enjoy it at all. Still no word from the book on how harmful that is as a narrative for a teenage girl. It's like they still don't get why she was so relatable to at least half their audience.

I think the word toxic gets carelessly thrown around a lot and RM are thrown into really dark and counterintuitive plots but I don't get why people think their actual relationship is toxic. They're avoidant but moreso because plot + dealing with adult feelings/situations at such a young age. Marissa feels she can't speak to her boyfriend about her feelings so she leans into a third party character meant to be her emotional support. That's, like, actually really sad. And it's not right, but both those plots resolve themselves without Ryan and Marissa having a real conversation about it! Insane. The show didn't want them to resolve anything because then there's no more constant conflict. They aren't even allowed to talk about the assault or shooting! Or even the death of one of those third party characters. It's just.... such bad writing. The writers' room hated them bad after s1 and it's really obvious.

ETA: Sorry I completely forgot to mention your own situationship. I'm sorry that it seemed (on my end here) to be a bad thing in the end. I think they can be really tricky and a way for a lot of men (though not exclusively) to string people along and that really sucks. Emotional maturity is something I'm still working at myself and it's really hard. So much of what I've seen of situationships is like settling for all someone can give you and I don't think it's inherently all that bad really, but everyone involved deserves better. And better tools to confront those things.

[thecheesecracker]

Hmmmm I think they should have kissed

[johnnyshrine]

★ 100 // “The Holy Bible”

[faynke]

Kid Killer actually kills Kid

Happy Holidays everyone!! Here is my piece for the @dcmkkaishinevents for @miss-emotion

[khaire-traveler]

"When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends."

- Was told this is a Japanese Proverb; couldn't find any info on it outside of that

This is so accurate. I cannot emphasize it enough. If someone is chill being around horrible people (and they're not a victim, to be clear) knowingly, get the fuck away from that person as soon as you can. If you can't, then I suggest growing distant from them. If they're ok being around heinous people, they're not going to be there for you when those people put you through heinous shit. You deserve better.

[ghosthorse]

getting really emotional about how dubenich picks the leverage crew because they only ever work alone, and in both the nigerian job AND the last dam job the way they outsmart him is to go find people they trust and ask for help.

[abovetherainandroses]

Pete & Patrick + Grand Theft Autumn/Where Is Your Boy, through the years

2007 / 2008 / 2009 / 2013 / 2014 / 2015 / 2016 / 2017 / 2018 / 2019 / 2021 / 2022 / 2023

bonus: so much for (tour) dust staging ver. (2023)

(1) my video / (2) x

[trashmallcw]

i'd die for them

(and i have)

(many many times)

[prettysymbiosis]

And if I said this is Liam's Zayn?

[delimeful]

me: wow i wonder why i can never find anything in my files

my files:

[simspaghetti]

☑️ Use the Excavator to Drill for Treasure! +0.5

Current Gen3 Points: 19.5

[liamket]

i think i slept enough yesterday staying until 3 am will do no harm me thinks

[khaire-traveler]

For those who struggle with trauma, CPTSD, and the like, before agreeing to take on another commitment or make a big decision, pause and check in with yourself. Do you really want to do this? Do you really feel fully comfortable with this choice? Are you just agreeing because you know it will benefit others, even if it doesn't benefit you? Trust me, this will save you a lot of heartache later. Always be true to yourself.

[flightybuttlass]

this, amongst other things, hopefully before the end of the month (please, god)

[meganechan05]

"Let me see your face"