#intracommunity transphobia

[ego-similis-testudines]

I may very well be swinging a bat at a hornet's nest, but I find it very interesting that the crowd that (rightfully) says "Read another book" to Harry Potter fans among the J.K. Rowling bullshit has a not-insignificant overlap with the crowd that has also only read one book (and that book is Whipping Girl).

[rawstrap]

I've seen people say terf rhetoric is any hatred of men and I've seen people say terf rhetoric is anything transphobic said by anyone. the refusal to actually engage with the reality that terfism is primarily focused on oppressing trans women is in itself a form of transmisogyny. yes they hate all trans people, but it is quite easy to see who they primarily target with their words, actions and policies, you just don't want to care about trans women. claiming someone is a man hater doesn't mean you get to call them a terf or a radfem, thats an obvious, willfull dilution and denial of what terfs are.

[ryuuseirune]

i can't say i experience misogyny because that's "misgendering myself" and i can't say i experience anti-transmasculinity or transandrophobia because those terms are apparently offensive in some way. but i really think people just want trans men to stop complaining about their oppression so that they don't have to live with the fear that they're capable of hurting someone

[ego-similis-testudines]

Users marked green on Shinigami Eyes:

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User marked as green on shinigami eyes 1: trans women keep making these obviously sexual jokes and then get surprised when they get called out for it

User marked as green on shinigami eyes 2: it's insane that some trans men have the courage to even imply they could ever possibly be in pain

User marked as green on shinigami eyes 3: yeah normal nonbinary people are "valid" or whatever but so many want to use pronouns I don't agree they should use

User marked as green on shinigami eyes 4: aromantic and asexual people should all kill themselves

[intersexcat-tboy]

Calling people "afabs" is the "females" of the trans community

[magnetothemagnificent]

i feel like i vaguely remember you saying you were chassidic/grew up chassidic (or maybe i'm just imagining things lmao) and as a queer jew, this is so difficult for me. i'm so conflicted when it comes to chabad. on one hand, the fact that i'm a queer jew who isn't fully observant is hard. i know my rabbi would prefer otherwise even though he doesn't say anything, and the chabad community can be isolating in that aspect. on the other hand, i love the community. i love that my campus rabbi can answer my questions. i love that i know where to go for shabbat dinner. i love that they don't want to strip me of my queerness, even if they don't approve, and all they want is for me to live a fulfilling jewish life and do mitzvot. i hate that chabadniks aren't "accepting" of queer jews, but i love that they're welcoming of all jews, regardless of background. have you ever felt this way or am i alone in this

You are not alone in this.

It's absolutely true that I grew up Chabad. I am adamantly no longer Chabad, but I still engage with the community out of necessity and because, well, my family is still Chabad. And it's very very isolating, especially for me, because I can't even go stealth as a trans guy because other Chabad people know who I am, or at least who my family is. So I am in a constant limbo state of being treated as an outsider not just because of being queer, but not even being able to daven with other people- I'm not allowed on the men's side, and I make the women uncomfortable.

Though, I will counter your statement about Chabad being welcoming of all Jews, regardless of background. Chabad as an institution does not consider patrilineal Jews to be Jewish. It also doesn't consider converts who haven't undergone and *Orthodox* conversion to be Jewish. As an institution, Chabad also doesn't affirm trans people's gender identities, nor does it consider homosexuality to be anything but a test from G-d that one must overcome (sometimes even through conversion therapy). And, unfortunately, the closer you get to Chabad, the more you'll realize that. Campus Chabad is very different from institutional Chabad, it's very much a facade to try and recruit more Jews to become Chabad themselves, and yes that does mean eventually "giving up" their queerness.

So that's my caution to you. I think it's great that you're able to use Chabad as a resource - it's certainly better than not having any Jewish community at all- but it's important to be aware of who they are and what they're intentions are. It's kind of like the Salvation Army in a sense- I would *never* tell someone who is able to benefit from their aid to just not use whatever help they can get, but as an institution the Salvation Army is Not Great and getting too close will only end in getting hurt.

And here's some Jewish youth and/or young adult programming organizations (that aren't institutionally queerphobic) you might want to look into if they exist in your area:

Keshet

JQY

Moishe House

Hillel

It's tough out there, but you're certainly not alone. And the fact that you're seeking out a Jewish community is important and incredible, especially in these times.

[promiseimnotacop]

jsyk user genderyomi reblogs from ppl identyfing as baeddel/“transman-hater” (w their words). safe to assume she is one.

i do appreciate well meaning calling me out on shit i've reposted and whatnot but that does not to my mind warrant any kind of unfollow/deleting posts what have you

i have been seeing traces of this new wave is 'transmisandry a real thing/is baeddelism real and if it is is it actually a bad thing or kinda based' flooding my dash lately and have very deliberately stayed away from engaging in any of it/weighing up on one side or another.

thankyou for engaging here though in a more polite way!

[shamebats]

Hey! You! Yes, you, trans person trying to make sense of your personal experience with transphobia. I hope you haven't forgotten the following truths:

All other trans people have always been on HRT 10 years longer than you and started transitioning as fetuses. Not to mention they're all white, conventionally attractive (by the standards for the gender they id as) wealthy and have I mentioned hot? Yes, all trans people who are not you are incredibly hot and pass perfectly all of the time and you should be mad at them.

You and your closest trans friends, the only trans people whose perspectives you listen to, are the only ones who are right about what being trans is and should be like.

The less you know about a specific gender identity other than your own, the fewer people you've talked to, the less of their writing you've read, the more qualified you are to talk about their issues! You overheard a rumor about a trans person? Awesome, that's now the exact lived experience of every trans person who shares their identity label. You will know it is true when believing it makes you feel good.

When you write about a type of transphobia you experience, you should always call out some group of trans people who you believe aren't affected by it, or are not making your case correctly.

When a trans person is mean to you, badly behaved, bigoted or expresses beliefs that you don't personally share, it's always correct & good to make up an insulting term for them and it should definitely refer to either their gender identity or even better, what they were assigned at birth! Always fight fire with fire or, if you feel particularly slighted, a flamethrower that will also burn people in their vicinity.

You need to invent new binaries! Someone has to be from Venus and someone else from Mars. Never consult intersex nor non binary people when you do this with sex or gender.

Trans people who are different from you share none of your experiences and will never stand with you or protect you, it's very important & healthy for you to isolate yourself.

Activism is when you accuse others of having power over you. It's successful when they feel guilty about it.

All your problems are made worse by people who are trans differently from you. Make sure to take your anger out on them, never on cis people in power, who are too out of reach. But other trans people are right there for you to harass and beat down on. This is good for the community!

[genderoutlaws]

Why has there been soooo much biphobic discourse this pride?? When has infighting ever helped us anyways

bruh literally i’ve unfollowed so many ppl on twitter this year over just insane takes hating on bisexuals fr no reason, idk why that was the pick for who to clown on this year lmao. love u tho bisexuals

[starryjoy]

So, it seems like multigender people are now slowly becoming the focus of hate from exclusionist groups, which I can only assume happened because these groups felt forced to have to respect multigender people for a few months as the website's opinion of them was that they were cool, and now these bigots are finding each other and, claiming that it is in order to "protect other trans people", are shitting on the "fagdykes" around.

What I want to say is this: for the love of everything that is good, if you find a post that is claiming that one specific kind of generic trans person is hurting another kind of generic trans person, actually think critically about said post.

Did this imagined person have to be a kind of trans person? Would there be a reason as to why op would like you to think certain trans people hate all other trans people?

Do these certain trans people really find any advantage in hating other trans people? Do they have any reason to do so? Or are they also under the same societal oppression that hurts them for the same reasons as other trans people?

Do *you* find any advantage in hating these people? Or are you two under the same societal oppression that hurts both of you, and hating these people serves no purpose to anyone but our oppressors to keep us divided?

Stay strong out there everyone. We gotta stick together.

[intersexcat-tboy]

Imagine misgendering other trans people. Unbelievable.

Huh that's funny, what's that doing there? Misgendering in reblogs commenting on your post? The post where you said minorities discussing their oppression is how you know to immediately block them? After you misgendered me? And several ppl corrected you, pointing out it was misgendering?

(timestamps aren't accurate this was just sitting in drafts, every time I see her pop up through rb's she's saying something awful)

[magnetothemagnificent]

I feel like this should be common sense but I guess it isn't so uh. Maybe if you're making a post about about transphobia you shouldn't be referring to other trans people's genitals in slang (and often dysphoria-inducing) terms like "pussy" and "cock".

[atheismvids]

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The so-called champion of critical thinking spent weeks spreading conspiracy theories. He only apologized for one of them.

[pleuvoire]

the green trans allegory comics have officially jumped the shark huh

[m-12-7-jo]

I've been seeing a disturbing number of "queer safe spaces" describe themselves as things like "femme & them" and even worse "she+," conflating femininity & nonbinaryhood. cease this immediately. say it with me: nonbinary people are NOT women-lite and it is extremely violent and straight up incorrect to imply that all they/thems are fem adjacent. this is erasure and this verbiage does nothing but make gnc and nonbinary spaces unsafe for masc and male nonbinary people. nonbinary, genderqueer and other third gender people can be and are masculine and men, we can be hes as well as shes and theys, stop allowing yourself and your peers to view nonbinary as woman/femme-lite, signed a butch nonbinary person.