#im virtually useless at talking about polyamory with primarily monogamous people because i just

[mister13eyond]

relationship/poly talk

bae has apparently become the go-to person for questions about polyamory among his coworkers, which is extremely funny to me bc he, like us, just kinda landed ass-first in this whole thing by simple virtue of "we are all just really transparent and talk about our feelings a lot so things were never really that complicated to begin with" and so i think at least I have literally no practical advice besides 'be really good at communicating' and idk if it's the same for him but it seems very simple to be poly imo

every time i read polyamory guides they have this huge section on jealousy and managing it but i genuinely just. don't.... feel jealous like that.... the closest i get is FOMO, and that's not necessarily 'what if [partner] likes [person] more than me' it's "wahhh [person] is getting to hang out with [partner]? I wish I was hanging out with [partner] right now!!!"

which is like, extremely easy to fix, because you just go 'after you're done spending time with [person] let's plan to spend some time together too!'. bada bing bada boom problem solved