#im tired of dealing with bad roleplayers

[iamautisticidiot]

Ugh okay so like, I did say I was done with ask blogs BUUUTTT I do still love roleplaying and I do miss rping with some of my wonderful followers.

I have two new rp blogs, @logan-howlettrp and @wade-wilsonrp that I just made. Yes I know it's my autism making me obsessed with the characters but I promise I'm not gonna abandon them.

Also that movie was awesome and I loved all the jokes in it.

[calleo-bricriu]

So, this is some absolute horse shit I thought I'd left in 2018.

You see, these two (justasimplesecretary/fear-in-psychology and wewhoareflawed) were part of a small group, with A being someone I'm 99% sure has an OC whose first name starts with the same letter, who decided they didn't care for a Grindelwald player who went by Miss T.

I have no dog in this race, I've only spoken to Miss T on a couple of occasions and had one short thread. I do, however, have almost 30 years of group RP experience one way or another under my belt and have absolutely no tolerance for people who act like this toward a player they just happen to personally dislike, nor do I think they ought to be allowed their feeling of safety in being anonymous; people like this bank on the fact that nobody wants to “start drama” so they never get called to task in public for their poor public behavior.

Fortunately for me, I realized long ago that that attitude means they just know they can keep getting away with it

But from what I was able to find out from the involved parties they decided they disliked Miss T for reasons along the lines of:

- Refused to let their character Godmode/be more skilled than Grindelwald.

- Refused to ship with their character.

- Got tired of plots where their character always had to be the center of attention or I'd pitch an OOC fit until they relented.

And Miss T eventually got sick of it and cut them off, which is entirely fair.

And they made a "burn blog" which is still up here https://only-good-somethymes.tumblr.com/ Since I don’t trust them not to delete it (they’ve renamed it at least once), the most recent post on that blog was one I’d written specifically after one of that blog’s owners demanded to know what ‘good callout’ vs. a ‘bad callout’ was: https://shark-eat-you-for-lunch.com/post/177429861259/hey-lets-talk-about-callout-posts#_=_ There’s very little reason for me to post the IM logs in which they’re both all giggly about their involvement in this until they realized I wasn’t laughing with them but, I do have those transcripts.

They also started going around sending anonymous messages to people who wrote with Miss T or who followed Miss T saying things like, "You know Miss T is into clopping right?" in some bizarre effort to discredit or embarrass Miss T.

Eventually Miss T deleted one blog and disappeared from Tumblr for awhile because of the harassment; I think they were back for awhile over the winter, but I forget the URL they had

I found out about it because two of the people involved somehow thought I'd find it hilarious; one hinted that she knew who was behind it and the other eventually told me and both were somehow blindsided by the fact that I read them the fucking riot act for their behavior.

But, silly me, I accepted their apology, their "it won't happen again" and what do I see on my dash this afternoon?

The same three bratty children still making the same jokes and behaving in the same way.

I don't know how any of them could still think this kind of thing is okay or makes them look good, and you can best believe I've filled in people I know are mutuals to warn them about the kind of behavior these people have no problem dishing out toward players they decide they don’t like, because they've proven they'll turn on you if you do something they don't like and have also proven that they may also just try to start a targeted campaign of harassment.

Make no mistake, almost 30 years of dealing with group RP that has included people like this has taught me that they will absolutely be nice to your face until you do something they don’t like, at which point their “friendship” will seem to cool and you’ll eventually find out they’re shit talking you to their newest group of friends. That’s a standard MO with roleplayers who think it’s funny to harass or make fun of other roleplayers they don’t like for whatever reason.

If you ever wonder why some people seem to have entirely new friend groups every 6 months while their old group is still active, it’s usually because they behave like this and eventually get asked to leave.

What those who are mutuals with myself and these two choose to do is ultimately up to them, and I’m certainly not going to tell anyone who they can and can’t roleplay with, but I have exactly zero problems in letting people I consider friends know the kind of behavior I experienced when those people were in my RP circles.

People who want to play with matches better be prepared to have a Fandom Old come in carrying napalm until you sit your asses down and either stick to your own private circles or learn to behave like proper adults.

I do not apologize for any part of what I’ve just said; the three of you have proven over and over again that you’re genuinely catty, two faced, nasty little people and I won’t even say I expected that from people who were 16 and 18 at the time, because I know several people in that age range who would look at this and be just as pissed off that someone would think your behavior is acceptable.

And, frankly, I hope Miss T is still around and writing Grindelwald, because their interpretation was great to read outside the threads that felt forced when you brats wanted all parts of the plot to be all about your characters.

I vaguely remember a name they had about two years ago but can’t find it anymore, and I really hope catty little brats like the above didn’t drive them off from writing entirely.

P.S. Pointing out someone’s objectively terrible behavior is not a “hate post” nor is it “starting drama”. If those three didn’t want drama they would have just taken the L and moved on when they had their falling out with Miss T.

[fistofthesun]

                    This shipping call does NOT mean that you’ll 100% end up shipping                     with me, but I’ll take my time to discuss this matter with you and try                     to push the things into this direction. The muses will decide then                     whether they want it or not, don’t worry! (Technically we’re just playing                     two cupids with sickly pink bows and shooting our muse’s butts to see                     whether they’ll hate or love us for it.)

                    Note, however, that this shipping call DOES NOT affect my Mateus-verse!                     Khashin will stay single there until I’ve found the right single ship partner,                     that’s all. This shipping call here is for private roleplays (IG,Discord) and also                     Tumblr (roleplaying, screenshots, musing and everything you can share                     on this site here)  o n l y. My Mateus verse is special; I will NOT easily                     enter any relationship there since Khashin does NOT cheat and stays loyal.                     Flings yes, but no serious romantic relationships unless I think my muse                     would burn the world for yours. 

                    This shipping call is NOT capped! The more the merrier, I can swing                     with quite many people at the same time, lmao. I am always trying                     to put equal effort into just any ship anyway, that’s how I am. (If I am                     ever now, please, you have my permission to kick into my butt. Really,                     really hard. And make me. I am more likely to be really hype if you are                     trust meeee people who have seen me talking about ships in Discord                     do know that lmaoooo. )                         

✔Open to ALL VERSES! ( Mateus or WoL - WoL is private only, anyway.) ✔Open to all races, genders, servers! (Though I highly prefer Mateus roleplayers) ✔IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A LONGTERM SHIPPING PARTNER - HERE I AM! I’m still proud to say that I’ve only dropped two ship partners in the past six years – and that due to very reasonable reasons like them being abusive etc. ✔REALISTIC AND HEAVY DEVELOPMENT! If you ever wished to ship with a god damn perfectionist like I am who is trying to flesh out every tiny detail in a relationship – I volunteer as tribute. ✔I write smut exclusively with ship partners, by the way. But I think that goes for most people. ✔Discord required!

                      I have to brag for a little here to say that I’m a highly active and                       dedicated ship partner who will never drop ships without given very                       good reason in ooc. But I demand honesty, respect, understanding                       but also that someone is putting equal effort in it. If I approach you                       for discussing this and you ignore my messages I’ll not try so again. If you                       happen to show exactly zero commitment and let me do all the work for you,                       you’ll see that I also lose interest to do anything. Fair warning. I’m no longer                       running after people. 

                                                               MORE DETAILS. 

       Please o n l y like this shipping call if you fulfill the following requirements:

➤ You are 100% certain that you want to bear the entire process; whether it ends good or bad. There is the possibility that I’ll have to tell you – or you me – that this ship is not working after all. Also, spoiler, I’m a spammer and I’ll bomb you with messages. ➤ You are 100% certain that you have the capacity to ship with me. Reads as: if you are super occupied with your favorite ship partner already and think you can’t offer me enough opportunities to rp, talk etc with me, please do not like this. I had my fair share of this in the past, will not do so again. I’m an extremely dedicated ship partner, I expect equal amount of effort in it. I’ll not run after people. I cannot stress this enough.  ➤You are 100% certain that you have the interest and also the will to dedicate quite some time in the ship. Shipping with me is all about realistic development. I want the ship experience to be full of development, plots etc.- but I will NOT work for you.  I expect, once again, to not be the only one who puts effort in it. ➤You are 100% certain that you will be interested and stay longer than for two weeks. This is self-explanatory. ➤You are 100% comfortable with adding me in Discord and speaking to me on a daily basis. Good communication with my ship partners is something which is the most important to me. ➤You fully understand that RL comes before RP. You are aware of it that I’m often occupied with work, my boyfriend – but also raiding – and that I will not always be around. This sounds like I’m never around, I know, but I promise you I’m super active in Discord and can talk with you technically 24/7. ➤ I mean, it’s written in my rules, but I’m only shipping with people who are 18+. Of course this also applies to muses. ➤You have to be slightly masochistic to deal with all my angsty needs. And hopefully you also appreciate good fluff.   ➤ Please also note that my Khashin does not cheat on his partner and is 100% loyal as well. He also won’t go poly. So if you want to have any of these things, you’ll have to look elsewhere. (He’s a possessive dipshit, no way he can ever go poly in a serious relationship.)  ➤Your IM has to be open if you don’t have me in Discord already! I’ll message people at some point. If you ignore my message, I will not try to reach you again. I’m kind of tired to message people and they never replying to me. I got some anxiety too, ‘ya know? 

                                                         Some more things:

I will sort people out if necessary. OOC does not equal rp, of course, but if the ooc-communication is simply not happening, I cannot ship with you. As easy as that. It’s required for plotting, headcanon exchange etc. and therefore required. On top of that I’ll sort people out when they are overly creepy etc. Of course you can back off any time you want as well. This shipping call here is a safe place for anyone; not only mine. Suffice to say, if I notice you only liked that post here without reading everything of it, you’ll be also excluded. That’s not nice buddy.

Also, one final note, do NOT push me to smut with you, even if we agreed to ship. Personally I find smut to be extremely important for development and I’m comfortable in writing/reading it – even have several smut threads at once with my ship partners – but I am NOT okay with shipping with people solely for smut. This is a big no-go. If you just want to lick over Khashin’s steel abs, sorry to disappoint you – it’s not going to happen. I ship for development, for the ups and downs, for the fluff, for the angst, for the tears, the anger and also the joy the muses can feel – and not solely for smut. Do NOT like this if you are not up for working for it and for getting the development going. (Don’t get me wrong, I like to write smut but I highly favor development.) Likewise I will never force you too, obviously. If you never want to write it that’s also fine; but then you need to be okay with at least kind of discussing it because I kid you not, A LOT of development will also happen in those scenes, especially with someone like Khashin. I mean, he has lost any feeling inside his hands, the first times will certainly be quite emotional particularly if his partner does NOT know.  It will be crucial to add me to Discord. Please do so! I will also message people once via IM, but I will not run after them!