#im tired of dealing with bad roleplayers

[iamautisticidiot]

Ugh okay so like, I did say I was done with ask blogs BUUUTTT I do still love roleplaying and I do miss rping with some of my wonderful followers.

I have two new rp blogs, @logan-howlettrp and @wade-wilsonrp that I just made. Yes I know it's my autism making me obsessed with the characters but I promise I'm not gonna abandon them.

Also that movie was awesome and I loved all the jokes in it.

[calleo-bricriu]

So, this is some absolute horse shit I thought I'd left in 2018.

You see, these two (justasimplesecretary/fear-in-psychology and wewhoareflawed) were part of a small group, with A being someone I'm 99% sure has an OC whose first name starts with the same letter, who decided they didn't care for a Grindelwald player who went by Miss T.

I have no dog in this race, I've only spoken to Miss T on a couple of occasions and had one short thread. I do, however, have almost 30 years of group RP experience one way or another under my belt and have absolutely no tolerance for people who act like this toward a player they just happen to personally dislike, nor do I think they ought to be allowed their feeling of safety in being anonymous; people like this bank on the fact that nobody wants to “start drama” so they never get called to task in public for their poor public behavior.

Fortunately for me, I realized long ago that that attitude means they just know they can keep getting away with it

But from what I was able to find out from the involved parties they decided they disliked Miss T for reasons along the lines of:

- Refused to let their character Godmode/be more skilled than Grindelwald.

- Refused to ship with their character.

- Got tired of plots where their character always had to be the center of attention or I'd pitch an OOC fit until they relented.

And Miss T eventually got sick of it and cut them off, which is entirely fair.

And they made a "burn blog" which is still up here https://only-good-somethymes.tumblr.com/ Since I don’t trust them not to delete it (they’ve renamed it at least once), the most recent post on that blog was one I’d written specifically after one of that blog’s owners demanded to know what ‘good callout’ vs. a ‘bad callout’ was: https://shark-eat-you-for-lunch.com/post/177429861259/hey-lets-talk-about-callout-posts#_=_ There’s very little reason for me to post the IM logs in which they’re both all giggly about their involvement in this until they realized I wasn’t laughing with them but, I do have those transcripts.

They also started going around sending anonymous messages to people who wrote with Miss T or who followed Miss T saying things like, "You know Miss T is into clopping right?" in some bizarre effort to discredit or embarrass Miss T.

Eventually Miss T deleted one blog and disappeared from Tumblr for awhile because of the harassment; I think they were back for awhile over the winter, but I forget the URL they had

I found out about it because two of the people involved somehow thought I'd find it hilarious; one hinted that she knew who was behind it and the other eventually told me and both were somehow blindsided by the fact that I read them the fucking riot act for their behavior.

But, silly me, I accepted their apology, their "it won't happen again" and what do I see on my dash this afternoon?

The same three bratty children still making the same jokes and behaving in the same way.

I don't know how any of them could still think this kind of thing is okay or makes them look good, and you can best believe I've filled in people I know are mutuals to warn them about the kind of behavior these people have no problem dishing out toward players they decide they don’t like, because they've proven they'll turn on you if you do something they don't like and have also proven that they may also just try to start a targeted campaign of harassment.

Make no mistake, almost 30 years of dealing with group RP that has included people like this has taught me that they will absolutely be nice to your face until you do something they don’t like, at which point their “friendship” will seem to cool and you’ll eventually find out they’re shit talking you to their newest group of friends. That’s a standard MO with roleplayers who think it’s funny to harass or make fun of other roleplayers they don’t like for whatever reason.

If you ever wonder why some people seem to have entirely new friend groups every 6 months while their old group is still active, it’s usually because they behave like this and eventually get asked to leave.

What those who are mutuals with myself and these two choose to do is ultimately up to them, and I’m certainly not going to tell anyone who they can and can’t roleplay with, but I have exactly zero problems in letting people I consider friends know the kind of behavior I experienced when those people were in my RP circles.

People who want to play with matches better be prepared to have a Fandom Old come in carrying napalm until you sit your asses down and either stick to your own private circles or learn to behave like proper adults.

I do not apologize for any part of what I’ve just said; the three of you have proven over and over again that you’re genuinely catty, two faced, nasty little people and I won’t even say I expected that from people who were 16 and 18 at the time, because I know several people in that age range who would look at this and be just as pissed off that someone would think your behavior is acceptable.

And, frankly, I hope Miss T is still around and writing Grindelwald, because their interpretation was great to read outside the threads that felt forced when you brats wanted all parts of the plot to be all about your characters.

I vaguely remember a name they had about two years ago but can’t find it anymore, and I really hope catty little brats like the above didn’t drive them off from writing entirely.

P.S. Pointing out someone’s objectively terrible behavior is not a “hate post” nor is it “starting drama”. If those three didn’t want drama they would have just taken the L and moved on when they had their falling out with Miss T.

[fistofthesun]

                    This shipping call does NOT mean that you’ll 100% end up shipping                     with me, but I’ll take my time to discuss this matter with you and try                     to push the things into this direction. The muses will decide then                     whether they want it or not, don’t worry! (Technically we’re just playing                     two cupids with sickly pink bows and shooting our muse’s butts to see                     whether they’ll hate or love us for it.)

                    Note, however, that this shipping call DOES NOT affect my Mateus-verse!                     Khashin will stay single there until I’ve found the right single ship partner,                     that’s all. This shipping call here is for private roleplays (IG,Discord) and also                     Tumblr (roleplaying, screenshots, musing and everything you can share                     on this site here)  o n l y. My Mateus verse is special; I will NOT easily                     enter any relationship there since Khashin does NOT cheat and stays loyal.                     Flings yes, but no serious romantic relationships unless I think my muse                     would burn the world for yours. 

                    This shipping call is NOT capped! The more the merrier, I can swing                     with quite many people at the same time, lmao. I am always trying                     to put equal effort into just any ship anyway, that’s how I am. (If I am                     ever now, please, you have my permission to kick into my butt. Really,                     really hard. And make me. I am more likely to be really hype if you are                     trust meeee people who have seen me talking about ships in Discord                     do know that lmaoooo. )                         

✔Open to ALL VERSES! ( Mateus or WoL - WoL is private only, anyway.) ✔Open to all races, genders, servers! (Though I highly prefer Mateus roleplayers) ✔IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A LONGTERM SHIPPING PARTNER - HERE I AM! I’m still proud to say that I’ve only dropped two ship partners in the past six years – and that due to very reasonable reasons like them being abusive etc. ✔REALISTIC AND HEAVY DEVELOPMENT! If you ever wished to ship with a god damn perfectionist like I am who is trying to flesh out every tiny detail in a relationship – I volunteer as tribute. ✔I write smut exclusively with ship partners, by the way. But I think that goes for most people. ✔Discord required!

                      I have to brag for a little here to say that I’m a highly active and                       dedicated ship partner who will never drop ships without given very                       good reason in ooc. But I demand honesty, respect, understanding                       but also that someone is putting equal effort in it. If I approach you                       for discussing this and you ignore my messages I’ll not try so again. If you                       happen to show exactly zero commitment and let me do all the work for you,                       you’ll see that I also lose interest to do anything. Fair warning. I’m no longer                       running after people. 

                                                               MORE DETAILS. 

       Please o n l y like this shipping call if you fulfill the following requirements:

➤ You are 100% certain that you want to bear the entire process; whether it ends good or bad. There is the possibility that I’ll have to tell you – or you me – that this ship is not working after all. Also, spoiler, I’m a spammer and I’ll bomb you with messages. ➤ You are 100% certain that you have the capacity to ship with me. Reads as: if you are super occupied with your favorite ship partner already and think you can’t offer me enough opportunities to rp, talk etc with me, please do not like this. I had my fair share of this in the past, will not do so again. I’m an extremely dedicated ship partner, I expect equal amount of effort in it. I’ll not run after people. I cannot stress this enough.  ➤You are 100% certain that you have the interest and also the will to dedicate quite some time in the ship. Shipping with me is all about realistic development. I want the ship experience to be full of development, plots etc.- but I will NOT work for you.  I expect, once again, to not be the only one who puts effort in it. ➤You are 100% certain that you will be interested and stay longer than for two weeks. This is self-explanatory. ➤You are 100% comfortable with adding me in Discord and speaking to me on a daily basis. Good communication with my ship partners is something which is the most important to me. ➤You fully understand that RL comes before RP. You are aware of it that I’m often occupied with work, my boyfriend – but also raiding – and that I will not always be around. This sounds like I’m never around, I know, but I promise you I’m super active in Discord and can talk with you technically 24/7. ➤ I mean, it’s written in my rules, but I’m only shipping with people who are 18+. Of course this also applies to muses. ➤You have to be slightly masochistic to deal with all my angsty needs. And hopefully you also appreciate good fluff.   ➤ Please also note that my Khashin does not cheat on his partner and is 100% loyal as well. He also won’t go poly. So if you want to have any of these things, you’ll have to look elsewhere. (He’s a possessive dipshit, no way he can ever go poly in a serious relationship.)  ➤Your IM has to be open if you don’t have me in Discord already! I’ll message people at some point. If you ignore my message, I will not try to reach you again. I’m kind of tired to message people and they never replying to me. I got some anxiety too, ‘ya know? 

                                                         Some more things:

I will sort people out if necessary. OOC does not equal rp, of course, but if the ooc-communication is simply not happening, I cannot ship with you. As easy as that. It’s required for plotting, headcanon exchange etc. and therefore required. On top of that I’ll sort people out when they are overly creepy etc. Of course you can back off any time you want as well. This shipping call here is a safe place for anyone; not only mine. Suffice to say, if I notice you only liked that post here without reading everything of it, you’ll be also excluded. That’s not nice buddy.

Also, one final note, do NOT push me to smut with you, even if we agreed to ship. Personally I find smut to be extremely important for development and I’m comfortable in writing/reading it – even have several smut threads at once with my ship partners – but I am NOT okay with shipping with people solely for smut. This is a big no-go. If you just want to lick over Khashin’s steel abs, sorry to disappoint you – it’s not going to happen. I ship for development, for the ups and downs, for the fluff, for the angst, for the tears, the anger and also the joy the muses can feel – and not solely for smut. Do NOT like this if you are not up for working for it and for getting the development going. (Don’t get me wrong, I like to write smut but I highly favor development.) Likewise I will never force you too, obviously. If you never want to write it that’s also fine; but then you need to be okay with at least kind of discussing it because I kid you not, A LOT of development will also happen in those scenes, especially with someone like Khashin. I mean, he has lost any feeling inside his hands, the first times will certainly be quite emotional particularly if his partner does NOT know.  It will be crucial to add me to Discord. Please do so! I will also message people once via IM, but I will not run after them!

[yuichiroswife]

Happy Valentine’s Day~!

//I wanna say a big happy Valentine’s Day to everyone who follows my blog~! It really means a lot to me that so many of you have stuck by me through both good times and bad times. So many of you have supported me from the very start, while others are just beginning to join. Honestly, this is the first time I’ve ever had so many friends in my life and I can’t tell you just how happy it makes me. I’m in tears as we speak. So I just thought it would be nice to wish everyone a lovely holiday. I’m also gonna tag a few of my partners/friends/family that I wanna specifically wish a happy Valentine’s day. So without further ado, let’s get to it:

@forgottenlunarchild - Anne, there is so much that I have to say about you but I’m afraid that if I do... I won’t have any room for anyone else. Haha~! No, but seriously, we’ve only been friends for a few months now but it absolutely feels like forever. You understand me better than anyone has ever even attempted to in my life and I can’t thank you enough for that. I cherish you so much that it’s not even funny. I just feel that we have a really special bond together and if I didn’t have you, I don’t know what I’d do. I love you so so much and happy Valentine’s Day~!

@xkilluas - Dia, me and you go way back a whole three years. Having you as my Mika’s twin was so much fun and having you as a friend is even better. I remember when we found out that our birthdays were only six days apart so we had a whole birthday week on Tumblr. I really love how close we got in such a short time of meeting because you are one of the people that I really hold close to my heart no matter what. We’ve both been through a lot together and I want you to know that I’ll always be beside you whenever you need someone. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@monophagia - Veeerrrroooo~! Let me just say how much I look up to you. You have been my idol for the longest time ever. I think you’re just an absolutely amazing person and a beautiful artist. I don’t care what anyone says, you are one of the best people I have ever met and I won’t stand for others being so rude to you, even if I can’t do much. You are always valid in my eyes and if you ever want someone to talk to, I’m always here for you. *hugs tightly* Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@theothany - It’s Kira-Senpai~! You were like... one of my very first follows and the very first Guren that I interacted with on Tumblr. You were the literal shit (the good kind) in my eyes when I first joined Tumblr. I always thought your writing skills were so amazing and that you fit Guren’s character so well. It was a shame to see you leave Tumblr for so long but to have you come back again is just amazing. I’ve really missed you and I’m glad we can talk some more again. ^^ Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@ichinose-yuki - Han, at first I didn’t know what to make of your OC since Guren never had an actual sibling in the Light Novel or Manga, but I’m really glad that I gave you a chance because it blossomed into a beautiful friendship. Me and you have known each other for a whole year now and it’s been nothing but funny mischief. I really enjoy how much we talk about our OCs to each other and how we help each other with IRL issues as well. You are like my sister from another mister. I really hope we can see each other someday soon. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@maniacal-namanari - Alis, you’re such a sweet little cutie. I love both you and your muse so much, like... I cannot express it in words. I know that things in your life as of late have been really hard, but I hope that things get better and know that I’m here for you if you ever need someone. You’re such a nice person and deserve the best, keep doing a great job at turning your life around. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@elyon-kurae - Lily, my sweet little angsty friend, you are a beautiful artist and an amazing friend. Don’t let others, especially your family, put you down for anything ever. Your feelings matter and know you always have a special place here on my blog. Both you and Elyon have a place in me and Mika’s heart. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@laserkittenlucy - Kitty~! It’s one of my besties~! I love how our friendship started over being tired and rambling about cheese. I actually still have that cheese poem you wrote, haha! Anyway, you are one of the sweetest people I have ever met and I wanna say thank you for staying by my side through so much stuff. You really are a true friend and I hope you know how much I love you. Happy Valentine’s Day and tell your girlfriend I say the same to her please~!

@theliquoricelord - It’s Bay-Bay~! I hope that you’re doing well today and I also want to apologize for not responding to our chat yet, I get distracted by literally everything and forget stuff. I wanted to throw you in on this list since you’re really fun to talk to and I really enjoy listening to the things that you like. I hope we can continue our conversation soon. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@thepurrfectchat - Wolf-kun~! Hello from the other siiiide~! *shot* Let me just say that I cannot express in words how much you mean to me. I am so happy that we became friends two years ago, like... you don’t even know. I found it so adorable how you were scared to talk to me, even though I’m trash, and it made me so happy to know you wanted to interact with me. You are my favorite Chat Noir roleplayer to be honest with you. You do such an amazing job and your writing is just so beautiful. Thank you so much for being my friend. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@sinceritxte - Vexxie~! Fam~! My bestie~! You are one giant meme and I love you. Talking to you so much on Facebook is so much fun and I cannot express just how much I love you. I love how our friendship started over you screaming about Mikayuu and Shunaru in my IM box, which caused me to start screaming back about Gureshin as well. Me and you just clicked so well and like... I’m so grateful for it. You have stuck by my side through a lot and that means a lot to me, especially since I know how bad your situation is at home. You’re a true fighter and I look up to you in that sense. Not to mention that your artwork is beautiful. I hope that life gets better for you really soon. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@ultimateuob - Sammi~! I love talking to you so much, especially about Danganronpa and all of your ideas for Rantaro or fan fictions. Honestly the day you followed me, I legit screamed for like an hour. You’re such a sweet person who doesn’t get enough credit for what you do. You don’t deserve to be treated as badly as you do and if it were up to me, I would smother you in love and plushies. I hope you realize how much you mean to me. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@dusk-hero - I miss you so much, Li! I really hope that you’re doing well and that life is going right for you because you’re honestly such an amazing and caring person. I remember when we first met and how nice you were to me. You were actually the very first Kureto to ever interact with me and that made me so happy. I was a bit scared at first but after some time, I absolutely fell in love with you and the way you mused for Kureto. Everything about you just made me so happy and I always felt calm around you. I really hope that you see this and I hope that you have a nice day/ Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@lieutenant-ichinose - Eteif, you’re such an annoying little monster I swear- I’m just kidding~! You are my adorable little IRL sister and I love you so much. I don’t think that I’ve tell you that enough. You’re always so busy with school and volleyball that I barely ever get to see you anymore, but that’s okay because you’re doing something with your life and you’re gonna make something of yourself. I’m so proud of how smart you’ve become and I’m so proud of you for coming in second place of all two hundred freshmen in the entire school for the ranking of Valedictorian. You’re already way beyond me. Keep working hard so you can get out of this hell hole that we call home, don’t be like your failure sister and make everyone proud! Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@stestylius - Stephie~! Ah Stephie, sweet little Stephie. I remember the first time we ever interacted. It was on your Yuu blog, back when I thought you were a boy to be honest. I’m sorry, haha! It was very interesting the way you played Yuu and eventually I ended up meeting Nakia and Kagero. I will admit that I wasn’t fond of Nakia at first but then she really grew on me. I especially love our Pirate!AU the most, we have to continue that at some point! Don’t even get me started on all of the lovely artwork you made for the both of us during our roleplay adventures. That massive monster Mika attacking the pirate ship was awesome! I was screaming about it for weeks. You’re one of my dear friends that I hold close to my heart and I don’t know what I’d do without you honestly. I hope that life is being kind to you and I wish you a happy Valentine’s Day~!

@joker-yogi - Vess, I honestly never thought that we’d be as close as we are now. Back then I used to avoid many people because I was afraid to interact with so many different people. You were actually one of those people. I didn’t know how to approach you so I just kinda stayed away and watched from afar. Though after some bad events I had with my ex-girlfriend, you were one of the main people to come and check on me to see if I was alright, which really surprised me. From then forward, you became like... one of my best friends and I can’t thank you enough for it. Having all those Skype calls with you were so much fun and I can’t wait to do it again soon. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@snipec - Rinny, baby~! I love you so much~! I remember when you first messaged me on your Shinya about being friends since I followed your art blog. I was literally so surprised that you asked me that to be honest, mainly because out of so many people, you asked me. I know it probably doesn’t seem like a big deal, but it is for me since I never had many friends. I loved every single chat we had, especially when we were both fangirling over Shinya and Mika. Your artwork is just so beautiful and I cherish every bit of it, even if it’s just scribbles. Haha. You are such a sweet little angel and I can’t thank you enough for everything. You always make me so happy. I wish you a happy Valentine’s Day~!

@resoluteseraph - Hiiii, Yuuichirou-Mun~! I’m sorry that I can’t actually call you by your name or a nickname since I never had the chance to learn your name. ;; I hope you can forgive me for that. Well... I suppose I could call you Eureka since that’s part of your name on Discord but that’s entirely up to you. Anyway, I really hope that you’re having a lovely day today and hope that you are able to spend today with someone you love and cherish. I really enjoyed the few times we talked and I love seeing you on my dashboard. I hope that we can talk more in the future, happy Valentine’s Day~!

@yuu--chan - Mika~! I miss you a whole lot and really hope that your life is going a whole lot better than it has been. I saw all of the stuff that happened on your Instagram and let me just say, you didn’t deserve all of that. You are a very sweet and loving person in my eyes. You are an absolute angel and I love you. You were one of my very first Tumblr friends and I consider you one of my best friends. We always had so much fun talking until like... five in the morning. I really hope we can do this again soon. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@tatsu-rose-bathory - It’s Georgie, my little Tumblr sister~! Okay, you were my second follower on Tumblr and can I just say how much it means to me that you’ve stuck around? I used to be so scared of you and your blog because of how many really popular people you used to interact with. I was terrified that they would see me try to be your friend and laugh at how mediocre I was, but after talking to you and roleplaying those first few times, I absolutely fell in love with both you and Tatsu. I love the dynamic we have for our muses as well. It’s just so nice. I really hope you’re having a nice day and happy Valentine’s Day~!

@korosukoto - Ceru, you little bugger! Having you back in the roleplay community is so awesome! Granted that you’re in a completely different fandom now, but that doesn’t really matter to me. You make an amazing Koro-Sensei and you had me completely fooled when you first started messaging me. I thought you were someone else, haha! It means so much to me that you took into consideration about me missing how we used to roleplay together. I’m really happy to have you back. It amazes me how perfect you are for Koro-Sensei, it seriously feels like I’m talking to him! Not to mention you make a really good Kureto with my Mika and an amazing Kouen for my Ja’far. I also have to thank you for always being there for me through LITERALLY everything for about... four or five years now. I love you so much and hope you have an amazing Valentine’s Day.

@saigo-no-utahime - Hina~! I was really surprised by how alike me and you were from the very start. To be honest, I never expected us becoming friends or anything like that. I mean, our blogs were so different... yet we somehow ended up talking to each other and now we’re besties. You are a very sweet young woman who a lot of people misunderstand and it really makes me angry how rude people are to you. Know that you’re always welcome here on my blog or in my IMs. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@seventeenthprogenitor-chess - Shimmer, my sweet twiny. I don’t know where I would be without you honestly. You have been the person that has guided me through so much for our entire life together. I know that I would have been utterly lost without you. You were always the one who would pick me up when I fell both mentally and emotionally. You never left me by myself, even when you were dealing with your own problems. You are legit my saving grace, the light at the end of a dark tunnel. You’re a blessing. Never in a million years will I ever forget everything that you have done for me. I hope that you’re having fun in college. I miss you and happy Valentine’s Day~!

@seventeenthprogenitor-horn - It’s my sensei, Nadeshiko~! You have taught me so much about helping others and how to learn from my mistakes. You have such a big heart and I can’t believe just how loving you are, especially after knowing what you’ve had to live through and witness while growing up. I know that both of your parents and your older brother would be proud of you. You took something extremely depressing/negative and turned it into something positive that you can build yourself off of. You have become my role model and that’s why I call you my sensei. I remember when we met as small children and you couldn’t understand a word I was saying because you only spoke Japanese. Teaching you English was so much fun and you’re gotten really good at it. Thank you for always sticking by my side, even after you went back to Japan. It means the world to me. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@nobleelegance - Semmi~! It’s so sorry that you’re stuck with that nickname now because of me. Anyway, I wanted to tell you just how thankful I am for you teaching me a lot of the things I know now. If it weren’t for you, I’d probably be dumber than I am, haha. Really though, it means a lot that you would take time out of your day to help me so often, especially since you’re so busy with school. You’re like a little brother to me and watching you grown into a fin young man has really been an eye opener for me. It feels like just yesterday that you were a little kid that didn’t know what he was supposed to be doing and now look at you, got the intelligence of someone who’s in their fourth year of college.I know that your mother would be proud of you, because I know I am. Happy Valentine’s Day, sweetheart~!

@thirteenthprogenitor-crowley - It’s my partner in crime~! Rei, I absolutely love having you around. You always make me laugh so much and we always get into some kind of trouble. I’m really glad that we met and you’re like an older sister to me, one that understands the struggles of not being considered the “successful older sibling” because you’re out done by the younger one. Let me tell you something though, that’s perfectly okay. You don’t have to be the absolute best, you don’t have to be the smartest or the strongest. You’re perfect how you are. That was something some really close friends taught me and something you always tell me. Know that the people who matter, are you, your close friends, and the family that cares about you. I will always be on your side. Happy Valentine’s Day, Rei~!

@theforgottenprincetepes - Candy~! I really love hearing you sing for me on special holidays. I also want to say how proud I am of you for being so amazing with you writing style. You’ve come such a long way from how you used to write. Please make sure to always do your best, okay? I hope you have a nice Valentine’s Day~!

@fallenelegance - Teddy the teddy bear~! I hope everything with your situation at work has sorted itself out and I hope that you’re having a really nice day. It’s been a while since I’ve last seen you but that doesn’t really matter because you’re still on of my besties. We totally need to hang out and play Void again at some point. Anyway, please keep being absolutely hilarious and thank you so much for being a real friend to me. I love you and happy Valentine’s Day~!

@thunderdemon-raimeiki - Mag, hello you beautiful girly. I am so proud of how much you’ve grown into a beautiful young woman. You have struggle for so long and have been through so much. You are really strong and I know that you’re gonna make it in life. Please remember that we’re all here for you no matter what happens. I love you and happy Valentine’s Day~!

@aoiozora - Hey Aoi~! It’s been a while since I’ve spoken to you and I really hope that you’re doing alright. You were really fun to talk to the few times we talked via asks and we both enjoyed a lot of the same things, such as Owari no Seraph and Mystic Messenger. I’ve been looking at your blog pretty often as of late so I apologize for any possible spam I gave you. Anyway, happy Valentine’s Day~!

@travis-thedemonvalkrum-x - Damien, you are one crazy motherfucker and I love you for it. You’re another person that I never imagined making friends with, but I don’t regret it in the slightest. Both you and Vess are two of my best friends who I wouldn’t trade for anything in the world. You’re like a little brother to me, honestly. I always look forward to talking to you. I really hope that today is treating you right. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@lestkarrkingofeurope - Tsunami, the salty wave of purification salt~! How are you doing? ^^ I really hope that you’re having a good time today and hope that the rest of your year goes well. I wanted to thank you for all the times you stood up for me with a lot of the really nasty and rude anonys. You’re a very kind and fun person to talk to and watch from the dashboard, I always look forward to your content. I wish you a happy Valentine’s Day~!

@human-s - I keep wanting to call you the nickname I have for my dog because you share the same name. Lola, you are just a sweet little muffin who needs to be appreciated and loved. You play a lovely Shusaku and I enjoy seeing you appear on my dashboard. We haven’t talked too much as of late which kinda sucks but sometimes that can’t be helped, you know? Anyway, I just wanted to tell you that you should never let anyone stop you from doing what you enjoy. Happy Valentine’s Day~!

@childoflegend - Kyra, the smol angsty bean. I hope that you have a very nice day that isn’t filled with stress or anything like that. You deserve to be appreciated and loved no matter what anyone else says. I’ll fight them all for you. I’m always here if you ever need to talk and I want to say just how much I adore your edits and drabbles, along with your artwork. Never get discouraged when wanting to pursue something you love. Happy Valentine’s Day sweety~!

[radmanraditz]

Raxceni-Mun’s Zero Tolerance of Shipping/Smut Drama, and OOC Jealousy

Quick disclaimer: If you are shipping with me/want to ship with me and are motivated to do that because you want to write detailed smut, expect intimacy without putting in the work for figuring out how our muses would have an emotional bond with one another, AND/OR you get jealous easily from seeing other shipping partners having physical and emotional intimacy with my muse...

THEN GET THE FUCK OUT RIGHT NOW!

Unfollow me, and drop our threads because my roleplay style and Raditz portrayal is not right for you! 

We appreciate slow burns and chemistry in this house! RadmanRaditz is not your source for an insta-romance smut fest!!!

To say I am still pissed from what happened a couple nights ago would be an understatement.

As I have said before, I have no issues with anyone coming to me and telling me they lost interest in a thread, ship, or roleplaying with me all together. I appreciate and respect those who are comfortable doing that, and handle it in a mature way. At face value that is what this former rp partner was doing – but the longer this person talked, the more clear it became that they were salty and had a lot of wrong ideas about why I was not responding to them as quickly as they wanted, or with what they were looking for.  

It is okay to feel disappointed, but you should never EVER assume the worst out of other people because they won’t write what you were hoping/expecting.

We are REAL fucking people running roleplay blogs. We have mental and physical health issues, we have real life responsibilities like work, school which comes with projects and homework that take hours/days, and a social life away from Tumblr and RP. We get moody, and we have had past experiences that cause us to feel comfortable/uncomfortable writing smut.

What I am happy to see is pretty much everyone understands this without me having to say anything to them.

For a long time I have both unconsciously and consciously avoided shipping because of something that happened to me not too long after I created my first RP blog. That situation really impacted how I viewed shipping with other people and I did not want to put myself into situations where people might get pissy and lash out at me because I did not feel up to writing romantic or smutty things with them. (What? You mean there was a time Raxceni wrote detailed smut without feeling weird about it?? Yes, but I was and still am highly selective about who I write detailed smut with.)

Did this former partner have a valid reason to be upset with me? Both yes and no. But mostly NO. The multiple reasons why that answer is a NO is why I am super fucking pissed off. 

Normally I try to avoid gossip, but this is not fucking gossip when this directly affects me and what I am comfortable with doing on my own blog as a hobby. I will not name anyone I am talking about, and the only thing I am condemning is how they handled the situation. Not who they are as a person or as a roleplayer. Not everyone is a good partner for each other. 

This is a really long post that gets into some personal stuff, so I will put a keep reading thing here.

Their valid reason for being upset was with me “neglecting” most of my storyline threads, and mostly responding to one while also goofing around with some other newer partners for the last few days I was active. They were the type of rper who wrote shorter responses and responded quickly when active, and I was not surprised that they called it quits cuz they got tired of waiting on me.

But here are some background facts that make it not okay to get upset at me over IM:

They were comfortable talking to me OOC and a week or two ago we were actively roleplaying with multiple responses to our threads.

This person never complained about my speed, did not talk to me about serious plotting – we only did casual ideas – and never showed any signs of being unhappy with the direction of the thread, nor asked if we could do anything to fix it.

A positive thing I experienced when rping with this person was when our characters were gearing up for a sex scene, I told her about how uncomfortable I was with jumping into doing a fully-detailed scene, even though I was getting into it. I did not want to flake out on this person in the middle of things, which is what could have happened/has happened since I developed my aversion to writing smut roleplay. Plus, I do not really like bending my rules for one person, unless I am willing to rewrite my rules and do it for everyone. So we had a good discussion about it over IM instead, then skipped ahead in the thread.  

How this became a bad thing is that I believe they legitimately got jealous when similar situations were happening with my other ships, but Raditz had some more intimate and emotional responses with those muses which was lacking in the one between their muse and mine. (Of course what do you expect when they have sex after meeting each other within a 24 hour time period in the thread?)

The evening this person approached me, you would think that since we got along OOC and that they are aware that I have had health issues all month long that they might want to ask me how I am doing and find out first if this is playing a part in how “little” I have been rping with them….but no. I get a very blunt message about them wanting to drop all our threads. So naturally, I wanted to ask why because we seemed to be on good terms and our last response to our thread was from three days ago. (Which for me is not that long ago because I am a busy person.) They responded with the fact that they lost interest.

Fair enough. I was wondering if this was because they wanted to start fresh, wait until I was ready to roleplay more actively…or if this was some kind of break up. (Cuz trust me, I could smell awkward break-up vibes all over this convo and even called them out on it at one point because I was tired of dealing with them not being direct after that initial statement of wanting to drop our threads.) Their reasons – though legit I believe – started sounding more and more like excuses and misconceptions about my interest in our muses’ ship and the plot of our thread.  

I told them it was fine to lose interest in a ship and our threads, but I also wanted to assure them that I was invested in our thread and our characters interacting. But this person did not really pay attention to anything I had to say.  

This lead to my former rp partner going on a passive-aggressive tangent about how their muses are special, well developed, and deserve to be loved, they were not fluffy characters, they weren’t Mary Sues, and how it felt like they were writing their muse into a box with me to make the thread and ship work. All of that really came out of left field for me because I never said or did anything that I thought should make this person say all of this. I am also completely against people trying to tailor their muse to fit mine for a ship. So I was already low-key insulted by this point, because although I did not get blamed for that, all the other stuff being said made it obvious that they were salty.

And instead of coming to talk to me about any of this, or just telling me simply that they did not think our muses were compatible, they were taking stuff way too personal and making a lot of assumptions about my interest, and my time.  They even insinuated that my AUs are not fully developed. Like…wtf? My AUs are fine, and I fucking know this. Do not try and tell me they aren’t just because you are not happy with our thread.

Yes, I roleplay with a lot of people, but I did the math, and 2-3 threads is a drop in the bucket. I am a writer. It is not just a hobby of mine, it is my art, my talent, my specialty.  Roleplaying with as many as 30 threads between my two blogs made me write faster, and were it not for my health problems lasting all month, I think I could have completed NaNoWriMo for the first time ever even while going to College full-time!

Due to the lack of interest from their end about my side of things, and because they were fully aware of my roleplaying style being different from theirs (I am slower and not a smutty ship-driven roleplayer)  AND the fact that I have been physically ill or suffering from physical pain all month…I believe it is fair to say they did not care about me, the mun, as much as they did about their own enjoyment.

Some roleplayers are like that, and I am not mad because they did not care.

I am pissed because their attitude reminds me of how I have been mistreated and abused in the past by others for wanting me to write shippy/smutty things with our characters, and me not giving them what they wanted. (And I know this is a common problem for others in our community.)

So yeah, I do not care that this person wanted to leave because they were not happy rping with me. That is fine. Bye Felicia. But I feel like I do have a right to be pissed with someone getting so salty and jealous over things not going the way they wanted, that they disregard me as a person and make assumptions about me while knowing that I have an aversion to smut-rp for the reason I mentioned above.

Instead of blaming my ability to write “detailed plots” and getting defensive about how special their muses are, maybe they should have just come clean about only being interested in doing smutty rp ships.

It isn’t like I did not know that before. I can see their other threads on my dash too when I was following them.

That person was just trying to hide their reasons for losing interest. Because they knew it was a petty reason. And they were being an asshole trying not to look like an asshole. Pro Tip: being honest with me makes you less of an asshole than trying to cover up the truth.  

I do not judge other people for wanting to rp smut and for that being a motivating reason to rp.

What I don’t like is dealing with some fucking salty jealous person who has to assure themselves that their muses are special little snowflakes who deserve to be loved by projecting their shitty ideas and insecurities onto someone else, knowing exactly why they are hesitant to write smut with others.  

So yeah I am glad they packed their shit and left. Begone. Get your shitty attitude out of my fucking face because I have no energy or desire to deal with people who are needy for ships or smut but do not wanna invest the actual time in developing intimacy or an emotional bond to get that sort of reaction out of my muse without it being OOC. I have shipping rules for a reason and if you cannot follow them, I am not your cup of tea and you need to go find someone else to help you get off.