#im like obsessed with my own grieving process.

[ritzcuit]

just that Out of the ppl i know whose dads have died, mostly its "dad was present in their lives" or "dad was a shit freak rest in peace bozo" so i dont hear a lot of "actually i would have loved to gotten to know him but unfortunately Lol" ... i know its not rare at all tho

[pussypopstiel]

It’s been a month since he died and it still dosent feel real. One thing im always worried about is that saying “my uncle passed” dosent communicate the severity of the loss. I feel like when you say uncle people assume it’s far enough removed for you to not be affected by it, they don’t see him taking a hand in raising you, him taking you to minigolf courses, him picking you up after school. They don’t see his smile, his warm hugs, his stupid jokes, they don’t smell his cologne. I’m afraid I’m taking up too much space- like I shouldn’t be grieving his loss so hard. His own son seems so put together- not even eighteen and he’s lost his father. What reason do I have to fall apart? On what grounds do I deserve to grieve till my voice breaks? I feel like there’s no time, I don’t have any space to let go, because if I sink into that hole I’m not sure I’ll come out so easily. It’s been a month, it could’ve been yesterday, it dosent feel real, I try to make it less real.

I’ve become more bitter in this month, or maybe a better word is somber. My heart dosent fill as fully as I think it use to, I think I’m trying to imitate what I once felt, trying to hard to be normal. All the while obsessing over the thought of death- cause, when one person in your family dies- you become gravely aware of the fact that someone else in your family will die someday. It dosent matter if it’s two years in the future, ten, fifty, who knows, all I know is that I’m looking into the eyes of the people I love most in this world and my only thought when looking at them is “one of you is next.” A selfish part wishes it was me, the rest of me knows I couldn’t destroy my family like that- just to escape the emotional burden of throaty wails soaking your shoulder.

I’ve told maybe like, two people in my life- and it’s been teachers who prompted the question of “so how was your vacation?” And ofcourse I have to punish their kindness in remembering what I was doing with a somewhat tragic tale. I haven’t told anyone else, no friends. I’m making plans to hang out with people just so I don’t loose them- but it just aches more than usual. I can’t take this seriously, I can’t take anything seriously. I can’t bitch and moan and whine for too long without the fire being stolen from my breath, without the spark of passion fizzling out moments later. I try- but it’s hollow. I feel like you might be able to see a deadness in my eyes if you were to pay attention- but I don’t think most people do. Another part of me just thinks I’m a good actor. I don’t know.

When someone in your family dies, it isn’t just their death. It’s their funeral, it’s the mourning process, it’s mixing with each persons mental health. My dad is spiraling and I live with it, my mom is trying and I live with it, my grandparents hold in their cries and I live with it, my aunts bite their tongue and I live with it. I live with it all, I feel like Im living in his grave, I wish that sickness took all of us- or maybe just me. Maybe I’m being over dramatic.

It’s been a month since you’ve been gone, and nothing is the same, but I’m trying to be normal. This isn’t even a fraction of the thoughts swarming through my head, but it’s honest all the same. I love you

[angelsarewatching]

*coughs* because i am mentally ill and unstable to make headcanons my wife was kind enough to give me Her krueger headcanons because this man is Not alright in the head. at All. and sometimes it's hard for writers to get in his head because he's just soososososo fucked up he's so fucked up (im completely normal about him i prommy)

anyways ok so. krueger!!!!

-he's super super indecisive. extremely. he's so Good at decision making in the field bc natural leader or some shit but when it comes to the smallest shit ever like should he get water or orange juice he overthinks it and then suddenly just gets grape juice. like

-golem golem golem his friend golem 🥺🥺 (they're Not friends)

-manipulative. very. knows what he wants. gets what he wants (through changing himself to achieve his goals) embodiment of gaslight gatekeep girlboss

-lies. so much. a lot. too much that sometimes he forgets what's actually true. has fabricated backstories and personalities. he uses Personality A to gain friends. is charismatic. then he uses Backstory C: Suburban life, raised in Germany, had a decent life, ex-girlfriend cheated on him, and that's how he's in the pub right now.

-so good at lying though. because no one ever bothers to check.

-makes new friends. listens to the drama. then causes drama. spectates for a while for amusement then disappears. repeat

-not Ok in the head. but we already know that.

-actually a convicted murderer.

-literally everything he does is for amusement OR part of a very intricate plan he made to get something he wants or both.

-plays 4D chess with people. for fun. bizarre, intricate, and complicated calculations in his mind. like "if i ask X for Xyz, i won't get it, but if i ask A who is close with B, and get on their good side, then B will notice, because B hangs out with A a lot, and who is closer with X than A, and-"

-somehow knows how to read people. Scarily good at reading people. obsessed with learning how people tick. and human psychology. and human behavior. a walking fucked up lovechild of sherlock and dr jekyll

-can't process his emotions well. he knows what emotions are. knows the emotions that other people experience just by looking at them. but when it comes to His emotions. he's kinda stuck. the familiar ebb of arousal and the thrill of excitement and danger is nothing new to him, but feeling actual sadness is replaced with hollowness and numbness(?) that doesn't last very long.

-does not know how to grieve for people. understands what sadness is and what it does to people but cannot experience it for himself. he doesn't know why people just.. move on when people die.

-in his line of work, he's seen his comrades die, of course. but he doesn't understand why their families mourn. he was never really close with anyone, not even his parents or siblings if he had any--so he's generally confused why when someone is "close" with someone-they're upset when they die or disappear. can't they just find someone else?

-something REALLY fucked up his childhood psyche for him to come out as a scarily smart person that understands what certain emotions do to influence people's behaviors but doesn't actually feel them himself. his parents or the environment he was in as a kid is probably to blame.

-from the start i think Sebastian was ok. he was normal. but his family did not so normal things. his "normal" is what other sane and mentally stable people would call "terrible" and "horrifying".

-calculating. cunning. calm. uses other people's feeling and emotions against them or for his own benefit. he does it like second nature. he didn't know what it was when he was younger, but it just came to him naturally. manipulating people. lying. faking feeling emotions like "sympathy" when hard times struck. even though he doesn't actually Feel those things.

-backstabbing. a cheat. a traitor. a dangerous man.

[inhonoredglory]

another character based question - how do you feel about mikasa? a lot of fans dont like her, im curious about how you feel! - armin anon

Hellooooo Armin Anon. OMG it’s been forever since I had the time to sit down and do a proper meta, and I apologize.

First off, I finished the manga!!! (So, spoilers ahead for anyone else reading this.) I had to lie down after reading 139. It’s a tremendous story and I’m still taking it all in. The set pieces and personal/emotional stakes of everything that happens is just astounding. If it’s one thing Isayama does good, it’s the gut-wrenching personal anguish that underlies the action. I’m absolutely floored. My favorite bit was probably the timey-wimey stuff in Paths and Eren. That blew my freaking mind. But onto Mikasa!!

A Cruel Yet Beautiful World

I remember way back when I started the anime that I started liking Mikasa first out of the group. I liked how sullenly silent and no-nonsense she was, and I liked her loyalty to Eren. Her emotion, especially when Eren died in Trost, was palpable and terrifyingly beautiful. Her grief was incredibly realistic––rushing off with a death wish that even she couldn’t succumb to in the end, because of the drive to fight that she got from Eren. In a world like SNK, her relentlessness breaking through her grief was incredibly moving. And her philosophy is basically the driving theme of SNK: “This is a cruel world, and yet so beautiful.”

This is the same moral message she gives Eren when he can’t find the strength in him to fight Annie––and gives him that warm, understanding, inscrutable smile that allows him to finally accept his own monsters, fight Annie, and save her and Armin. (One of my favorite panels of her from the manga, actually.) Mikasa is basically the first character we meet who embodies this contradictory morality, which grows to engulf SNK and other characters as well (Levi, Reiner, and Armin especially come to mind). Which could be why I was drawn to her at the start, since the complex moral outlook of SNK was the primary reason I fell hard for this story.

(And gosh, it’s tragic to realize that it’s teaching moments like the scene above that made Eren into the person who could influence his own child self to murder, the person who could wipe out so much of humanity, the person who could take Ymir’s challenge to free her by destroying the love of the person who cared the most about him. I’m still processing yo.)

Acker-parallels

I started really analyzing Mikasa when I had to defend her from a friend of mine who accused her of resenting Levi (for beating up Eren) and that’s why she attacked him so violently in the RTS serumbowl. Because of my research into rebutting that, a lot of my affection for Mikasa now comes in seeing the little ways in which she cares and trusts other people, including Armin, Levi, Gabi, and Jean. And her quiet sensibility that goes beyond her love and protectiveness of Eren.

With Levi in particular, I find a lot I like about her. Because you can definitely see her annoyance at him, but she also trusts him more than anyone else in the Corps outside of Armin. After Levi’s violent encounter with Historia, she was the only one who implicitly trusted Levi’s judgement, backing up Armin’s more reasoned logic. She sees beyond her own emotions and even moral feelings and realizes the world is cruel enough that sometimes people have to do dark things to help others and survive.

This is very much the same statement Levi made to the 104th when he had asked them to follow Erwin’s orders when the commander’s plans were questionable on the surface: “Do you trust him? Those dumb enough to say yes… come with me.” These two understand each other on a moral level, and they ask for their comrades’ loyalty without demanding it, because they each know that everyone’s conscience is their own.

There’s a clear parallel between Mikasa and Levi, not only because of their Ackerman heritage and sensibilities (loyal to a fault to their chosen person, impossibly strong, quiet and grim), but their frustration when they cannot protect the people they are responsible for. They both know they are the strongest around, and if they cannot fulfill on that power, a lot of people will die.

There are many moments in which Mikasa puts aside her personal feelings to do her soldierly duty, from leaving Eren to help with the evacuation of Trost to leaving Eren and Armin to fight the Colossal Titan alone in Shigonshina.

And then there’s the fact that Levi’s the one who could break past Mikasa’s headspace and distraction so that she can do the right thing. He understands her strong emotion, he respects it, but he also knows when that has to be put aside for the greater good. But he doesn’t put her down for having those emotions, either.

Strength from Eren, Humanity from Armin

Mikasa’s love and loyalty to Eren challenges her tremendously after the timeskip and her sorrow at Eren’s change is what really stands out to me about her character in the Marley arc. The absolute grief in her eyes when she tells Eren what he’s done is devastating, and it shows just how much goodness and compassion she does have.

And yet she longs to understand Eren, to trust him, to believe there can be something redeeming, and not merely jaded and tired, in what he taught her so many years ago––to fight, to win, to live.

There’s such a difference between these same words said here by Mikasa, so many years later, after so much heartbreak, to the anger and flame that were in them when she first heard them, back when she realized that this was the way of the world. That death and killing happens in the natural world everyday and that’s how you survive. That the world is both cruel and beautiful.

And yet as the years wore on, as Mikasa grew closer to others, found purpose in protecting others, sought a life with Eren… as she wandered further into the forest of life and society and relationships, she lost some of that simple injunction... to live is to fight, to fight is to win. She, like so many of the 104th and the others on this journey, found that it’s not enough to just fight and live and be satisfied. We really want it all to mean something, to have our actions be redemptive. To allow ourselves to believe that we do what we’re doing because we’re not just saving ourselves, but saving others, “saving the world” like Yelena points out (in the forest therapy session pfff). And it’s that drive for something bigger in our actions that grieves her so much with Eren, because as she wants her own actions to be fundamentally good and selfless, she wants his actions to be moral as well.

So while Eren is the person that frustrates Mikasa and motivates her to become stronger and braver than she ever was, Armin is the person who humanizes Mikasa and allows her the space to be gentle and vulnerable. She comforts Armin, confides in him, puts her faith in him, and puts her life in his hands.

She trusts Armin with Eren, and she values Armin’s intellect and compassion, qualities she doesn’t have in nearly as much quantities as he does: “There are only so many lives I can value. And… I decided who those people were six years ago. So... you shouldn’t try to ask for my pity. Because right now, I don’t have time to spare or room in my heart.”

This bit from her confrontation with Ymir and Historia was a defining moment for me with Mikasa. It’s honest and realistic in a way that few of us care to admit about ourselves, and it’s just super chilling and badass coming from her, too. It also shows how much she fights for Armin and Eren both. They are the two people she loves the most in the world, and she never gave up on saving either of them––from death or from themselves.

I’m looking back on Trost now and finding so much irony with the ending to SNK. In Trost, she was the one to give up on Eren, telling Armin that it was hopeless to try to extract Eren’s personality from his Titan form. And yet, like in the end, it’s always been between Armin and Mikasa to try to salvage Eren’s humanity. In Trost, Armin tells Mikasa to leave––to go do what she’s good at (saving lives)––and to entrust Eren to him.

It’s a huge expression of both Mikasa’s trust in Armin, and her belief in Armin’s abilities and friendship for Eren. And in the end, it’s the two of them again debating on if there’s any humanity left in Eren. The bond they share is intimate and deep. With all the military doubting Eren and scheming to take away his Titan (with even Jean and Connie unavailable to them emotionally), it’s only Armin and Mikasa against the world––the only two people who can truly consider Eren’s actions and hold off on judging him. And you can feel their love for him even as they doubt him.

And like back then, it has always been Armin who understands Eren most, the one who recognizes his own evil and Eren’s and finds a redemption in having others stop you, because you cannot stop yourself.

And that’s the thing I really take away from SNK and from Mikasa’s journey, that we all have devils inside us, and yet there is still beauty to be found, within us and in the world––from the natural wonders that Armin dreams of, to the comfort of purpose and companionship that Mikasa has in Eren. Love and wonder is what redeems us of our devils. And yet love itself is complicated, and can turn ugly in its obsession. That giving up that love is what makes the love selfless and beautiful, what absolves us of the selfishness within us. That’s what Mikasa learned. And in the end, she was able to release that love for the good of the world.

So I guess to sum up, I really love Mikasa. I can see why her dogged loyalty to Eren might annoy some fans, but I think there’s a lot more to her than simply that, and in fact, her journey and growth is heart-rending and one of the most symbolic arcs of SNK and fundamental to its entire theme. She’s a badass with a lot of emotion and depth behind her cold mask.

[im-justso-bored]

Week 4 of Clown Theories and Analysis

S3E04 - Still Got It

First I wanna say, this episode did the impossible for a lot of us, I think, and got me to actually feel bad for Niko, even if it was for only 10min lol. Also i didn’t like a lot of things about this episode but by the end of the episode, a lot of it made sense. Like how they changed the location titles with the names of the characters which I realized after finishing the episode was done to fit the structure of this episode which makes sense. Literally every time, I saw someone’s name, I was like “do they not know who their fanbase is? we know who these characters are, we obsess over them on the daily” Anyway, I’m gonna adopt that format and use it for this review as I rewatch

Eve - we all know Eve needs therapy, she’s had more than enough trauma but i really need her to go to have someone tell her to stop being in denial about her attraction to V. Like she kissed her, had that whole stuffed bear moment at the end of 3x03 and now is spamming tf out of Niko. im glad that tie has finally been severed although it did come at the huge cost of Eve’s emotional and mental state. i’m really interested in episode 6 to see how this really shapes Eve. also Dasha dug her own grave with that kill, there’s no way Eve is going to believe it was V. V wouldn’t cross that line and she’s had many opportunities to in the past. Also it was said that the bond between Eve and V would grow in terms of trust and understanding of each other, so I have no doubt that Eve will figure out it wasn’t V.

The scene with Jaime and Eve was great. im glad they finally somewhat mentioned Raymond. I think Eve was about to say something about her killing Raymond before she got distracted by what Jaime said. that was the most so far that we’ve seen any reaction from Eve regarding that. Also Eve’s reaction to the teddy bear in bed “What do you want from me?” Like Eve, you know damn well...

Konstantin - So K definitely stole the money and had Kenny killed. As well as the accountant and as we all know from this episode, the accountant’s wife because of the email she got from Charles. i think he stole it to get out of the Twelve and get off the map (possibly with Irina). And exactly what Irina is saying is what is going to happen “It’s going to catch up to you and you’re going to end up dead”. 

Villanelle - i’m really not a big fan of how animated they’ve made V. Going back to season 1 and seeing her now is a huge contrast and not in a good way. Like she was always silly and a bit childlike, but never over the top. I was really happy with how they portrayed V during 3x03 especially with the car kill, that brought me back to s1 V but this episode fell flat for me. I hope it’s toned down a bit next episode. I can imagine that her character will be toned down more after episode 5 as I can’t imagine her reunion with her family (or maybe that’s not her family) ending well. 

I loove the fact that V really tried to bake a cake for Eve, my heart 🥰 

I also love the way they ended the episode with her, it was a nice set up for the next episode. I wonder how V will react to Niko’s death. it’s no secret she doesn’t like him but i can imagine she would feel bad for Eve and angry at Dasha for killing him because of what it will do to Eve. 

Carolyn - Fiona’s performance this season has just been exceptional. I really like the line that Carolyn said about respecting each other’s grief to Geraldine. Carolyn is such a unique character and we all knew that Kenny’s death would affect her in some way but didn’t know how. I think Fiona and SH have done a great job of showing her grieving process. 

Dasha - I concur with what everyone else has been saying, that French lady from the 12 (Or maybe not from the 12, I still have a feeling Dasha isn’t actually working for the 12) can step on me. 

so i said it before but i really think Dasha dug her own grave by killing Niko and either Eve or V is going to kill her. I saw a theory that i really liked about how Eve doesn’t like actually killing someone but she’s always been really interested in the kills that V carries out and that never seemed to bother her much. so maybe it wouldn’t bother her as much if she asked V to do it for her instead of her doing it herself. i would really like to see that. it would further the bond and trust between her and V which is what is supposed to happen this season.

Niko - we all saw it coming, but like it still hit hard. i don’t like him but he didn’t deserve to go like that. he finally got away and was just trying to live his best life. RIP. that’s all i really have to say about that lol

OVERALL - i really didn’t like this episode the first time i watched it but watching it a second time really made me appreciate it more. that’s really how i’ve felt with all the episodes for season 3 so far. i can feel the season building up to something but i have no idea what that something is. i have a few theories like about Dasha and Konstantin but in terms of V and Eve, that could really go anywhere. but like i said, im not worried about Eve thinking V killed Niko. i’m worried about how this season will end for them. but we’ll see! we’re halfway through and i’m still really enjoying this season, i’m both excited and nervous about what the second half has to offer!

[saint-ossifrage]

God i wish I had your determination for fic writing 😭 can I ask how you go about doing outlines, bc im horribly disorganized and I have no clue and would like to learn 🥺 (if thats okay to ask rip)

Ok so first of all. I am so sorry this got so long. Second, thank you for asking about something I love. I never get to talk about this. Unfortunately, that means I have way too much to say about it. I don’t know if you were expecting something as detailed as this...either way, take it with a grain of salt. Different people set up outlines how they like, this is just how I do it. Ok, here we gooo!

What I’m doing right now is working on a detailed chapter-by-chapter outline. I started with a vague plot that I didn’t even think I would write out because of the complexity/length. It turns out my hubris will be my downfall!

Anyway, I started with three broad plot points. Beginning, middle, and end. Example: A gets taken. X happens during their abduction. In the end, B and C rescue them. They’re broad on purpose because that makes it more flexible as I flesh it out, which is important in case I figure out there’s a plot hole or a different scenario I prefer. Then, I start nitpicking as I expand it. I like to ask simple questions. Ex. Why did A get abducted? This helps me determine what happens leading up to the fic and pushes me through the story. Consider character arcs throughout this process.

(I also ask myself how that might affect canon, but that’s because I want this fic to fit into canon without completely changing the ending. So, I lay out the pros and cons of trying to shove my fic into canon. Would this change it too much? Would it make sense at all what with X and Y? I’m kind of a freak about it when I put my mind to it, so you should by no means feel pressured to do the same!)

Once I figure out if it works or not, I start laying down the groundwork. I use Artistotle’s story structure because it’s easy to understand for me. I'm actually drawing out the chart right now. I start by assigning the exposition and rising action to chapters. Additionally, I like to know my ending because, otherwise, the middle might get muddled due to excessive meandering.

Here’s how I lay out chapters:

So on and so forth. This is just how I do it, you can format it however you want! You can have as many scenes in a chapter as you like. I try to stick to 3-4 depending on length for my own sake. I also strive to make my scenes and, more importantly, chapters end on a specific note. It could be happy, hopeful, suspenseful, sad, or even a cliffhanger.

(FYI, I specified DAY/TIME - which would be something like TUESDAY MORNING or MID-TUESDAY, etc. - because I was getting confused about how many days passed in a past fic and how that affected the current fic. I’ve learned my lesson. I estimate how much time a scene would take so I can count up how many days pass over the course of the chapters. This isn’t necessary, of course, but I included it just in case.)

Oftentimes there will be a narrative thread that will wind through multiple - if not all - chapters and this can get very confusing to keep track of. I have to consider how it will develop and build on itself, so I take some time to think through it in a separate bullet list. I write down the basics. For example, if a character gets sick at the beginning of the fic and gets steadily worse, it would look somewhat like this:

Or, if a character is grieving, I jot down the 5 stages of grief. Then, I start brainstorming about how their specific externalizations of each stage would look like.

On my doc, I have four sections. Section 1 is for the broad plot. Section 2 is for the detailed chapter outline. Section 3 is dedicated to the threads I’m fleshing out. This is also where I put the Q&A's. I’m kind of a control freak so I even highlight very important things, like motives for characters. This layout is just so I don’t get confused, but it’s not necessary.

Then there is Section 4: the scrapped bits. It’s important to be flexible while building your outline. You don’t need to completely throw away things that don’t fit! Just stick ‘em in Section 4 or some equivalent and let it rest while you cultivate this story.

Going back to the outline - I give each scene a working title that’s dumb as hell, for fun. Again, not at all necessary, but it makes me laugh. Plus, I like having chapter titles sometimes, and I can get inspiration from a scene title if it fits.

I use this outlining method specifically for multi-chapter fics. I wrote a very long crossover chapter fic in the past and it was a huge, unwieldy project. I know it's sort of the standard, but posting a chapter before the rest of them, or at least the next one, is written made it hard to keep track of all my loose threads. That's why I did a 180 and started obsessively organizing things. Unfortunately for my readers, I developed this method halfway through the fic. Oopsies :3

That’s about it. I did my best to explain it, but I’m not sure how much of this is comprehensible to someone who isn't inside my brain. If anything is unclear please ask me about it. If you can’t tell, I like talking about writing. I don’t mind. I’d feel super bad if my explanation was confusing. I hope it helps 💗

[drfitzmonster]

"does grieving the person i am not interfere with accepting the person i am?" god this is the question ive been asking myself. i feel so acutely the pain youre talking about. i started therapy a few months ago and its like been so rough. cause i started feeling again which ik is good long run. but all im feeling is pain. and mourning my trauma. and whats that line between healthy mourning and spiraling into the depression and devastation of it? sometimes i miss the numb but ig that was worse too

also god how can you articulate my exact self so specifically? yeah. everytime someone comments on my appearance, if its my weight or lack of makeup or my clothing choices that dont fit their idea of ‘woman’ i get so mad bc its on purpose. ik its prob not the healthy response but after all my trauma and having my body taken away from me before i had words for it and then yrs later again when i knew exactly what was happening. like this is my only defense. and then im made to feel ashamed for it

and your right. cause it doesnt work. bc at the end of the day nothing we do to change our appearance will stop a monster. bc it was never about us or what we looked like. and thats validating and reassuring. but also devastating and terrifying. and how do you heal from something like that? where do we take back control in a healthy way ya know? ..ahh sorry this is my sad ramble, ignore me im sorry. shoulda just said im sending you a hug (i am if thats ok) instead of expounding in your inbox.

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hey there friend. you don’t have to apologize for sharing your feelings with me. while it breaks my heart that other people have been through the same kinds of trauma i have, and are hurting, it also does help me feel less alone. we cannot change what happened to us, we’ll never be able to erase that. so i think one of the most important and healing things we can do for ourselves and for each other is reach out and share our experiences with people we trust, and just be there for each other, support each other, even if it’s just to listen or say “i understand how you feel.”

learning to let yourself feel again is really hard. it’s so overwhelming at first, and so painful and it can be so agonizing. but it gets easier, bit by bit. you start feeling positive things too, you start building connections with people again, or rebuilding connections with people you’ve isolated yourself from. you feel alive, and you even start to feel good sometimes. you start having good moments, happy moments, and sometimes even good days.

but it’s rough and hard work. you started therapy a few months ago, you’re still at the beginning of the recovery process, which is the hardest. i’m really glad you’re seeing a therapist. i’ve been seeing my current therapist for over two years and i would not have been able to make nearly as much progress if it had not been for her help, and the help of my friends and chosen family, and the support of all the kind and caring people i’ve met here and through my writing.

i’m not sure exactly where the line is between healthy mourning and unhealthy obsessing, but mourning is a vital part of the healing process. i think that it may be something your therapist can give you some guidance on, how to grieve in a healthy way that does not interfere with you moving forward in your recovery.

there’s a quote from rilke’s letters to a young poet that had a really big impact on me and how i think about my own trauma recovery:

“If there is anything unhealthy in your reactions, just bear in mind that sickness is the means by which an organism frees itself from what is alien; so one must simply help it to be sick, to have its whole sickness and to break out with it, since that is the way it gets better. In you, dear Mr. Kappus, so much is happening now; you must be patient like someone who is sick, and confident like someone who is recovering; for perhaps you are both. And more: you are also the doctor, who has to watch over himself. But in every sickness there are many days when the doctor can do nothing but wait. And that is what you, insofar as you are your own doctor, must now do, more than anything else.”

we are patients and doctors at the same time, that is, we have to take care of ourselves to facilitate our own healing. sometimes our job is to just make it through the day. to let ourselves feel whatever we are feeling, to accept and acknowledge those feelings, because this is what enables us to let them go, and to move forward. i have learned from experience that fighting our feelings doesn’t work. trying to disallow ourselves from feeling whatever it is that we are feeling only makes things worse. we get stuck in conflict, stuck in the exact feelings we don’t want to be having. it is better to let ourselves feel, even when it is painful, even when it is confusing and unpleasant and upsetting.

try not to worry too much about whether the things you have done to protect yourself are healthy or not. they’ve helped you survive this far, and as you progress in your recovery you will learn new healthy ways to cope with your trauma, and you will let go of some of the coping mechanisms you’ve used in the past. some will always remain, and that’s ok.

i hope this is helpful or reassuring in some way. thank you for sharing your feelings with me i really do appreciate your openness and honesty. i hope you have a good day today and i wish you all the luck with your recovery. 💗💗💗

[rcsefleur-blog]

hi all !! this is an introduction to my freshest muse and newest baby yeo eunchan otherwise and more commonly known as ‘chan’, he’s a sweetheart but of course because its me and i can’t resist giving my muses slight torture, he’s a tormented sweetheart. if you look at his pinterest here you’ll get an idea of his style better since that’s pretty essential to him as a muse in this case hshd. below the cut you can find out a bit more about him and if you hit the like, i’ll be sure to throw him at you for plots !! lets get into it: 

BACKSTORY: 

chan’s childhood wasn’t particularly dark or strained. he is by far the least tragic out of all my muses. but for me, that’s still pretty tragic by mosts standards. growing up he always had a very supportive father in regard to his homosexuality and androgynous qualities. he grew up in a happy home and despite not being rich he was very fortunate to have rich opportunities come his way. to be fair he’s pretty easily pleased but most of his experiences thus far have been plentiful

perhaps that is why his luck has to run out somewhere down the line, in the worst way it possibly could. his mother passed when he was young due to cancer. it was a grave and difficult time for his father as well as the rest of the family. his father crumbled eventually, in the hospital with health issues now that are so severe he’s due to pass any day and is basically in a vegetative state already. chan was left to raise his five year old sister nari and take on the responsibility. 

for this reason, he could be considered a struggling single father as he’s pushing his own dreams and goals aside to accomodate for nari and make sure she has the best upbringing which is comfortable for her, where she can see chan as a father figure as well as an older brother now, who can be relied upon and responsible. balancing the line and the roles between brother and father isn’t always easy though when the lines are constantly blurred. he has sacrificed most of himself and his youth to keep nari happy and healthy and mostly untouched by the death of their parents. 

this hasn’t been easy though, it’s left chan isolated and with no one to speak to but the five year old girl a lot of his feelings get locked in a box and left unexplored, he cannot have a moment of hesitation or weakness because then that will affect nari. his mourning process and grieving has been put on a backline, and he only really allows himself to break down in quiet moments without nari. such as when walking through the forest to be with nature, visiting their graves or on the edge of his bed having a good cry when nari is fast asleep due to the feeling of living in the empty space where his parents used to fill it all up. 

PERSONALITY: 

chan is a makeup artist, he does it professionally for models and artists all throughout the industry but he also does it for fun, becoming pretty popular as a person who gives tutorials on youtube and instagram as an ‘influencer’ but he really hates that label and prefers to simply think of himself as an artist. he also does the bit of fashion blogging and photography on the side. 

he considers himself an adventurer and for that reason he also travels a lot, usually while he is there he’ll study as he does photography for a course as well as a part time student and his main interest is in ancient architecture and art. most of the time he’ll roadtrip in his styled up vintage pick up but occasionally its flights to more beachy area’s, his two favorite places are greece and italy and he spends most of his time in those places if he can.

chan has a very vintage sense of style and he enjoys doing most things the traditional and old school way. although he does add a modern mindset to a lot of it. aesthetically style wise envision chan as fingers full of plenty of rings, ankle bracelets and arm cuffs with loose puffy sleeved shirts and ripped up mom jeans or high waisted ones. he cycles mostly everywhere on his vintage style bike. 

very much a gentle soul, little bit of a nerd and activist in the sense he wants to save the earth. he can be really intense about learning about nature and how to preserve it. he has always felt the most in touch with the natural world compared to the hum and chaos of the modern world and city life. he’s no saint of course and he’s still a sucker for coffee but other than that he likes to think he does his best. 

paints and draws very amazingly likewise, he prefers to draw flowers and people the most but he’ll work with whatever he’s got on hand. usually you can only catch him whipping out a sketchbook if he’s feeling stressed or overwhelmed as a form of escapism and quiet time. 

he is a little bit of a quixotic type so sue him, like one of the ‘have you ever fallen in love’ 'five times a day’ types but it’s not obsessive, it’s more of an admiration he considers all people beautiful and worthy of love in their own way and would state most of them are art to him. you could be the worst person and he’d be all ’ you dont have all the facts’ 'which are?’ 'i love them’.

although he doesn’t identify as genderfluid, he has a very genderfluid and androgynous sense of fashion and often wears clothing and makeup typically labelled as being more feminine. he likes a soft and classy look that usually consists of a good lip tint or ultra glossy lip and a natural but glittery smokey eye look. think kinda like the instagram influencer ivanbaaaaah for reference. 

MISC: 

growing up chan struggled with religion a lot, he and his family are very religious but his sexuality caused some issues. his father had always been supportive but his mother was a different story, unfortunately his memories with her aren’t the fondest. though he has a very dark history with religion, he loves to be in churches that are empty or abandoned for moments of reflection. often he wonders if he doesn’t even have god as the one consistent and reliable thing in his life, then what the hell does he have. he feels even now sometimes that he’s letting god and his mother down for the way he is but there is less shame now than what he suffered when younger. 

everything in his life basically revolves around nari, she goes most places with him and any task he’ll find a way to make fun for her, he doesn’t spoil her but he also doesn’t ever leave her to go without even if that is at his expense to do so. they love to bake together and he does that pretty often. 

has a part time job as a barista on night shifts and also in a patisserie. he works from home on his influencer content again to accommodate for nari and he also takes his course in photography and media online to best suit nari so he doesn’t have to leave her with a babysitter too often as he believes that’s no childhood and him just being lazy in his duty towards her as her parental figure at this pivotal time in her life. 

he’s putting off most of his dreams and aspirations right now for until nari is older, he could’ve been much more famous as an influencer but he chose not to be and put those opportunities to broaden his career on hold for a while because having a famous sibling in her life wasn’t the kind of overwhelming attention and pressure nari needed to be surrounded with right now. 

he honestly just wants to make sure nari grows up feeling safe, comfortable and happy as well as confident in herself and chan. she’s his primary responsibility and he considers himself her closest bet to a father now so he wants her to feel she has that bond with him as well as the bond of him being her brother. 

PLOT BUNNIES: 

a babysitter plot would be great, someone who he can rely on and uses often to leave nari with when he has no other choice and particularly on nights when he has to work. ideally it would be someone nari felt very close to and idolized so he knew they had an amazing relationship and she’d be happy and relaxed when he was gone. he’s very over protective of her so he’d also have to feel pretty close to the person. it could go any way really, it could be a pining thing, a best friend thing, whatever honestly. 

this boy definitely needs a confidant so throw that at me any day. 

friends who can help him reconnect with religion and spirituality in different ways so he knows there’s always a way for him to feel tied to god somehow and a god who loves him and best suits his needs somewhere even if it isn’t necessarily in the religion he grew up with. 

work buddies at the cafe he works in or patisserie would be amazing too. 

maybe a tutor/study buddy kinda person he met online through doing his course of media and photography to make sure he was making up for the classes he was missing out on by not being able to attend day lectures in college. 

just people with the similar hobby of photography would also be awesome or models even that he can do a couple of freelance jobs for on the side when they need him. 

muses for him to draw they’d be very special people indeed bc chan will rarely whip his sketchbook out in front of anyone let alone ask to draw them. 

more single parent muses would also be awesome eventually or older siblings who kind of take on that role half the time so have some idea of what its like who he could meet through taking nari to things like nursery, etc. 

neighbor bc who doesn’t love a good single dad and his neighbor plot  who’s all like woah that guy is super young and he has a kid but im also sure there’s no woman on the scene and wow they’re noisy and its kinda infuriating but its also cute as hell cause he’s a hella good dad and in the mornings i can hear them baking and doing food fights or playing together and i often see them messing about coming back from grocery shopping etc and actually its kinda touching?? 

gay pals cause we love gay pals as well as ur everyday pals we love a platonic bond between fellow gays. 

love interests of any kind rlly, pining situations, crushing, flings, ex’s ( they’d have had to have ended on good terms tho bc chan just can’t hate anyone ), first times e.g. sexually, boyfriend, kiss u get the idea 

[gabisart]

Art school has given me a block against drawing fan art do you have any tips to help such a block

First of all, I’m sorry you are feeling like this because of art school, but i guess we all have been there at some point hahaha Oh boy, this is going to be long….

I actually know this very well, i kinda stopped drawing about 2 years ago (on paper as i used to), because i was too stressed over school and such. Last year i took a drawing class so i could try to start drawing again and it went pretty bad hahaha. I realized what was blocking me was the feeling of not being taken seriously there, no matter what i did. My feedback was always poor, not because my work was bad but because they (the teachers and colleagues) would just say “oh, it’s nice/pretty/beautiful”. It may sound a bit arrogant, but it’s not. If i’m attending an art couse, i was supposed to learn something, listen to what would make my work better and stuff, and i wasn’t getting any of that. So, i had an awful burnout period.

While i was on vacations and still feeling pretty bad about what happened in that class, i started thinking what art really means to me and why i still make it. I realized that art (to me) is my way to see and understand the world, and this made me feel so much better about my ‘obsessions”, my style, my process of creating art. I also realized i don’t have to show it to others, it’s mine and it’s enough.

All that being said, these are my “tips”:

Try to understand your views on your own art. To learn how to respect and enjoy and appreciate your own pace, your own style, your improvement.

Enjoy the moments while you’re working on something. Sometimes we spend too much energy worrying about the final result and it makes us frustrated how it won’t look like exactly to what we were planning. Many times different outcomes aren’t bad, you can learn a lot with these “surprises” - in bad and good ways hahaha

Don’t take teacher’s opinions as the ultimate truth. They are people just like anyone else and they can be very insensitive and rude or just don’t care about the students at all (yeah it hurts hahaha). Oh, you have the right to disagree with them!!! - or go completly passive aggressive in the next presentation (been there hahaha)

Many times we keep our self esteem too linked to our art. If we get bad results, or bad feedback or some of our work “flop” we feel like we’re not good enough and it’s very discouraging. Take a break, take a look at your old works and see how much you have improved. It’s all part of a bigger journey with lots of ups and downs.

Explore new medias and materials - maybe painting feels tiring now? So why not trying photography? Or writing? Or whatever hahaha go crazy

Buy new materials - it doesnt have to be anything expensive. I bought a new eraser last week and im dying to use it now hahaha (and it’s the same cheap eraser by Pentel i always buy)

Treat youself and your art as you would treat someone’s else. You wouldn’t say somebody’s work is AWFUL UGLY EWWWWW YOU’RE NOT A REAL ARTIST - so why say it to yourself?

Writing my thoughts always helps me to relax and overcome these bad moments, maybe you could give it a try.

Surround yourself with art that inspires you. Even if looks weird to other people hahaha. Once i had a painting project about grieving stages so i spent 2 days listening to The Blackest Day by Lana on loop til i finished it HAHAHAHA and it was amazing

Talking to other students is also a good thing because youre probably learning more from them and their opinions and experiences than from your teacher’s.

Oh, on inspiration…. It’s sound WILD but we may not be aware of how our work can so much to someone else. As an inspiration and how it makes them feel. I’m always !!! when I read some of my fave artists (usually musicians but yeah) talking how bad they can feel about themselves or their work and then get surprised by how many people from all around the world like it.

Take a break and spend some time with no art in mind. There’s always this kind of hush that we GOTTA be productive, GOTTA make art all the time. An artist is not a machine, it’s ok if not everything in your life is art.

TO FINISH (im sorry hahaha) remember that every artist has a different way to deal with it. Maybe what i wrote won’t help you (but i really hope it does), and that’s ok. Just be kind to you and your art, learn how to enjoy your moments of creating and making art more than just struggling for a result and with time you will be more in control of how it works for you.

Trying new subjects and styles is also nice. Maybe doing some studies from artists you like. I always go with Botticelli because i LOVE his lines (Visiting museums and art shows is always refreshing and inspiring)

Best of luck, baby! 💖💖💖💖

[smol-pilots]

can you believe it’s been 15 days since jonghyun’s death?

15 days since every kpop fan grieved after that talented, amazing man. 15 days since everyone (finally) realized how important mental health is and how deeply it can affect people’s lives and their perception of life. 15 days since people assured jonghyun that he “did well” and should now rest peacefully. 15 days since people wrote messages to their idols, telling them that they should not overwork themselves, they should take some rest, take care of their health and that they (the fans) are there for them and will support them no matter what. 

and then it quickly got too far. people began assuming their idol’s mental health, lists began spreading around with names of idols that are (supposedly or not) suffering from depression. which is: wrong. you have no right to assume someone’s condition because you do not know what this person is going through. and it is not “making sure these people get extra love”. everyone needs love and support! and by naming people that need “special treatment” by the fans and companies ... it’s not doing much, it’s only making people sick with worry.  

soon after, people forgot about jonghyun’s death. maybe not forgot, but moved on (which is of course good, good for yall that you paid your respects and grieved for the time that you needed to process this). but as people kept saying that his death changed the kpop community and “ended fanwars” ... they were very wrong. because soon after, people had seunghyun in their teeth, saying how his marihuana abuse and medication abuse that resulted in him attempting to take his life in june this year mean nothing. “he did it because he’s a cr*ckhead who couldn’t deal with consequences of his actions”. it’s like they literally quoted loser, bigbang’s song (that’s personally my favourite): “im a loser, a loner, a coward who pretends to be tough”. it made me so angry because they literally said he deserved to die and how he wouldn’t even be missed. people deal with their illnesses differently and suddenly he was judged for his coping methods. 

then, of course, another annoying fan war began, as expected betweens armys and exo-ls. who lip syncs and who doesn’t which is such a stupid thing to argue about but at this point, i’m not even surprised anymore. and then yoongi began ending his lines with silence and “all live band” to prove that they don’t lip sync. okay. i agree that it’s an amazing thing, considering their dancing is phenomenal and it takes a lot of work. on the other hand, exo (and other sm groups) often perform with the singing already prerecorded or whatever way that is not completely live. okay! like exo-ls shouldn’t come after bts and accuse them of lip-syncing and bts has the right to prove everyone that they were falsely accused. but! there’s no need to bring down exo and treat them as they are nothing just because they don’t sing live. i would definitely love it if exo sang live more but at the same time: they have concerts. they sing live there. they show how they, in fact, can dance and sing at the same time. and having this stupid fight because of those 10 minutes on stage at those shit ass awards ... you really thrive on drama, you fucktards. shame on you. 

and now. baekhyun. not even 15 days after jonghyun’s death someone with depression spoke to baekhyun about their mental health. i hope you all know that 15 days is nothing. it’s nothing for someone that knew the deceased. groups had to go on with their schedules and if you follow taeyeon on instagram you can see how much she’s struggling and how much she misses jonghyun. the sm family is still grieving and nobody expects to see taemin, kibum, jinki and minho any time soon because it’s understandable it’s going to take a while. and even though other artists have seemingly moved on and are showing their happy personas, they still have to process this. and this person that turned to baekhyun and mentioned her condition to him... she said he looked sad and distressed and he talked to her about her illness and personal life. he was caring. and he made her feel better, he wasn’t inconsiderate at all. very unfortunately, the audio that she uploaded on twitter was cut in a way that made the translator, who mistranslated his words, start a drama that even made it on the news. that’s disgusting. saying that “he doesn’t understand depression” is ugly when that’s not what happened. and then the person, the only person that was there, the person baekhyun actually spoke to, apologized. she apologized to anyone that might’ve been hurt by all this which is so so wrong. that was her happy moment because he made her feel better and now everyone made a huge deal out of it when nothing bad happened. and even baekhyun himself posted an apology that he didn’t have to! because he didn’t do anything wrong! and it makes me so sad when he says he will be more careful with his words now, like no! you’re doing great, you’re an amazing human being who consoled a fan and you showed great empathy! and now of course people blame the armys which idk, i don’t think is right because it was one person i guess buT!!! at the same time this needs to be acknowledged: 

it is not uncommon for the whole fandom (of any group!) to try to bring down the group they don’t like and people often try to dehumanize and make idols and fans look bad and evil. it is not right. this behaviour is bad, the obsession to make your own group look like it’s above the others and everyone else is crap and it’s disgusting. everyone is working so so hard and they deserve to be loved and respected and appreciated for the work that they do. they don’t need the badmouthing just because you feel the need to bring everyone down in order for your group to be on this imaginary throne. i’m fully aware that every fanbase has  some bad people in it and imo what the fanbase has to do in that moment is to distance themselves from that person. but people often try to use it to prove how this only shows that their group is superior to others or when hell breaks lose in other fanbases some people try to use that to prove how “they” are nothing like “them”. there are so many stupid dramas going on between people when they should really be focusing on themselves and loving the members of their fav group, instead of bashing others down. if you don’t like someone, don’t pay attention to them. as someone who’s constantly on twitter and sees everything, it’s really hard not to reply to these disgusting tweets. from any fanbase. 

please, make sure the people you adore are loved, appreciated, respected, don’t take them or their hard work for granted but also don’t put them on a piedestal. they’re human beings just like us and they have good and bad days, happy days and sad days. and at the same time don’t hate on other people. i know this is hard, everyone badmouths someone sometimes but social medias such as twitter and tumblr and instagram and others are not a place to post this. everyone has a right to their own opinion but things like that being spread out in the open are bad because 1) people who disagree will defend their people and then shit goes south and 2) people can see this, idols can see it and i know their skin has to be thick because not everyone will love them but seeing stupid drama or even worse, false accusations will make them feel very bad (as seen in baekhyun’s case). 

jonghyun spoke so much about how he felt hurt by people’s comments and opinions on him. he worked so hard to make sure people see him for who he is, he didn’t want to be judged or misunderstood. he talked about how to deal with sadness and he worked hard to beat his illness. he also spoke about ways to console a person who is depressed. and then he took his own life. and for what? for people to be shocked  and then see them turn back to their nasty paths of slandering people, spreading false rumours about others and making fun of their mental illness? this is so sad.

in 2018 i wish for every person to be kinder. for people to be nicer to each other, more thoughtful, more supportive, more appreciative, more respectful. everyone, please, be a good person this year!

[blackwinged-soul]

...i may or may not be kin with blue pearl

i’m still trying to sort a fuckton of emotions over here. but uhhh

wwhen the fuck did THAT nexus connection open up

(--just now as far as I can TELL? bd’s been a deep connection since. uhh...? ..........shortly after That will Be All i’m sure. pre-connective “tissue”feels are there because, duh, a lapis laz’i. not close. but... ....Emotional About It.)

.......and i....

,...i ahve.......

....entirely.... too...... many feelings

right now.

(and i, at the very least am really RELATING to b.pearl for some reason, and i don’t know why.)

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{{ Adding more posts to Keep my Revelations.Journey in Discovering B/lue chronological!

May-Aug 2017 (The Trial, empathy, analysis):

May 29: http://beyondthetemples-ooc.tumblr.com/post/161220725682/i-dont-even-know-how-to-talk-about-it-just

I DON;T EVEN KNOW HOW TO *TALK* ABOUT IT

Just! LIKE

The EXPLOSION of POWER.

Did she even MEAN to do that–?! (Like, wishing she’d FEEL it? Or was that an Accident?)

i mean yellow’s look was very reminiscent of a big sister going “another one of these? come on sis we don’t need that”

and she didn’t cry that’s what’s killing me and Creating a Thousand Question MArks here.

i am fucking addicted to learning about the Dimaonds, seriously you have NO idea how i can possibly– how deep it goes– i ahve no diea how to exPLAIN it–

.i just

aaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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http://beyondthetemples-ooc.tumblr.com/post/161221152192

#THERE IT IS THERE'S THE MOMENT THAT FUCKING *SHATTERED* ME INSIDE NAD FROZE EVERYTHING IN MY EXISTENCE, T H E R E   I T   I S, .su wanted, su spoilers, every single fucking frame is just. gods. so... intense.... so emotionally ccharged?????, gah the animation is;;; way too emotion how do they DO that,

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http://beyondthetemples-ooc.tumblr.com/post/161223790342/i-think-half-the-reason-i-want-to-rp-blue-is-that

–i think half the reason i want to rp Blue is that analyzing her is an AWFULLY enjoyable thing.

(she’s so expressive? it’s not Hard to know what she’s thinking? or FEELING? And THAT’S where the magic is?)

and it’s so easy ot rELATE to her. like– lapis was exhausting for me to keep up with;; and i don’t know what’s Different about Blue… ;; (…besides being able to Connect more easily, for some reason. I genuinely don’t know Why; I generally don’t Connect with Very Emotional Characters like this… ;;;; )

…but her Current Workings seem clear enough to me.

I learned from trying to rp Lapis that if you don’t know anything, and your Brain / Instincts / Nexus weirdness aren’t giving any Answers, just roll with it. Work with what you DO know.

“Simply avoid Narrating what you Don’t Know About! It’s that easy!”

Aaaand it’ll be HELLUVA lot easier RPing a character when my options are narrowed down. 8F

(…i never get dammed up with writer’s block. I get writer’s FLOOD, and an indecisive ADD brain makes it Impossible to choose Which One to write about. o~o; if i only Know enough to write about one or two things? Well. Bring ‘em on, because I may not be any good at Headcnaon’ing when we have No Substantial Canon to work With on That Particular Subject. But when I’ve got a grain of an idea planted: I can reap an entire motherfucking field.)

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http://beyondthetemples-ooc.tumblr.com/post/161225492797/enlightened-introvert-listen-im-not-even

enlightened-introvert:

Listen, I’m not even kidding here. I had this problem in Steven’s Dream, too. When Blue Diamond makes all the other gems around her cry, I literally almost teared up. I think it’s probably the way the tears are drawn (big and gooey, probably would hurt your eyes) that just affects my empathetic mind, but I like to think that Blue Diamond’s abilities are effective in multiple dimensions.

…so, I’m not the only one.

#look i've got THEORIES and it's no scientific fallacy that multiple dimensions seem to interact.re: theoretical physics and quantum physics., (read: the way molecules at tinier levels than neutrons/eectrons seem to vanish out of existence even with the most acute 'scopes.), also: string theory?

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ask-all-of-homeworld:

Blue Diamond speaking. Sometimes, do you ever feel like you’re shattered WITH her?

...that's what I've been trying to say.

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mrgeekonthiswebsite:

Holy shit blue diamond is an empath

#~<33333333333, you have no idea how much my soul fucking SOARS at this honestly.

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JUNE 4 http://beyondthetemples-ooc.tumblr.com/post/161419121347/reasons-i-relate-to-blue-diamond-and-then-some

Reasons I relate to Blue Diamond (and then some):

- Distant presence. - Contemplative. - Melancholy. - Smiles are small and rare. - Watchfulness. Closely, intently. - Intense sense of justice and Right/Wrong. - Driven by loyalty. - Gentle… until you cross that line. - Immediate severity in my treatment of those I distrust. - Righteous FURY when somebody hurts those I love. - NEEDING time to process my emotions. - Prioritizing emotional well-being over productivity. - Closer to my little sisters than anyone else in the family. - …slightly rasping voice? - Draping, slightly-shapely blue clothes. - Poised elegance. - …until something manages to Affect me Emotionally. - And then, I become Obsessed. - Thinking, analyzing, needing to know the “why”. (Yes, it’s NECESSARY.) - We are not DONE until I UNDERSTAND. - I will not choose my RESPONSE until I understand. - Seriously upset when somebody breaks certain “codes”. - VERY upset when plans are changed by impulsivity. - “Can’t you RESTRAIN yourself?” - “Can’t you let me grieve?” (No, I cannot stop feeling.) - I am going to fight you if you tell me to Get Over It. - Feeling guilt over not doing enough, even when there was nothing I could have done. - Deep, pervasive mourning. (I couldn’t stop crying when Fizzy, my familiar, my first dove, my sweetest bird, died because the family neglected to give him water while I was gone. But largely in private, or with close friends.) - Clinging to reminders of that which was loved, and now is lost. - Not generally bitter. But very specific in my objects of fury. - Fury is a cold, sharp, glaring, and focused, controlled type. - E m p a t h y . (Emotional projection, when it hits me too hard…) - Psychic dream-connection to people like me. (I’m sorry…) - My hair even parts slightly similarly? ?? ??? (Middle-part, bangs forward over brow a bit, then curling against the cheekbone before it sweeps back, and comes over my shoulder from a little ways behind it. Not to mention, long and light-colored naturally.)

- What IS the use of feeling? Does it matter? I am.

#and i'm sure i'll think of more. but........ this was the list i came up with tonight. on little more than a whim

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June 7

Fun fact: My hair does the chest-loop thing when I wear my cloak.

(At a different angle. But especially when I move my head– you know, like you do when you’re watching the street for a vehicle you’re relying on for transportation? My hair pulls out form under the neck seam and tends to gather in front of me for some reason/

I used to compare it to a cybunny (from Neopets).

Now I’m just really freaking amused, and thinking if I ever cosplay her, I’ll just do it with a cloak, some light silver hair-spray-paint, and my own freaking hair.

[ariesnicolo]

📓!

ok i’ve been obsessing over a nile focused fic that takes place after the movie and it’s just nile exploring and enjoying and grieving and processing her immortality and her new life and spending time w everyone. im cheating w this one lol bc im pasting ideas from my notes app that aren’t coherent bc i write them down immediately when i have even the smallest of an idea about nile

- nile already fluent in spanish when they try and teach her the language post movie and she shares how her neighbors were fluent in spanish and the grandma in the house would watch nile and her brother sometimes after school/nights and nile tells them a little bit about her and how she taught her how to make some recipes and then she and her brother would show her mom on the weekends and it would be nice/sweet family time and eventually nile spent so much time w the grandma that she picked up the language + other people she went to school with + people at her job

- nile watching Vines bc she’s having a bad day and then nicky is like ‘hey what’s so funny. wait why are u crying’ and nile is like ‘i don’t wanna talk abt it just sit and watch w me’ so nicky sits down w her like ‘ok what are we watching’ and nile is like ‘vines they’re funny’ and nicky is like ‘.....you’re watching videos of vines?’ so nile explains and they watch vines and nicky doesn’t get it really but he likes how nile gets happier and laughs for the little clips. and then he’s like “you can talk to me. tell me what’s upsetting you.” and niles like “it’s my moms bday today. she’s 51 today.” cue nile gushing abt how amazing and sweet and dedicated her mom is and how she misses her and hopes she’s doing ok (as good as she can w her daughter recently declared dead) and how she misses her. and nicky just listens quietly while nile grieves for her family and mom and what she’s lost

- going to college- maybe just for a semester? just to see the vibes at first? bc she’s been pulling all nighters for like a week bc midterms and she’s tired and falling asleep any chance she gets so she doesn’t know if it’s worth it at that point (bc we’ve all been there). and nicky is handing her cups of tea while her head is slowly dropping into her textbook and joe is always putting little ceramics of bowls of cute animals or flowers on her desk when she’s somehow not there and andy offers to quiz her but gets sidetracked by how much nile has to memorize and study and how no one person can remember this much- trust me nile i would know-. then she gets her midterms back and they’re ofc good grades and she’s like ‘oh yeah. i can do this’ and enrolls in another semester/full degree program and repeats the whole experience again. flash forward to nile graduating and everyone being in the front row and nicky being embarrassing and taking too many pics and clapping too loudly and joe crying bc he’s so PROUD and andy doing the neck/back of the head hold-smile thing again

- joe & nile - slow day at an art museum just walking around and joe being like “i made that” at every painting and nile having to guess if he’s being serious or not. nile talks abt what she likes in each painting or how she wants to learn a certain style or always wanted to see a certain painting or sculpture or whatever. they go to the gift shop at the end and pick out something super ugly for each other as momentous of the day.

- training w andy- giving axe away. bc yeah

- quynh & nile doing something impulsive together like skydiving bc quynh has lost so much time and isn’t one to turn down an adventure/a good time (not that she was before! but it’s different now) and nile has so much time ahead of her and is willing to try stuff she couldn’t/was too scared to try before she learned she couldn’t die. so they do their impulsive thing together and it’s over and then they’re both laughing hysterically from the adrenaline rush of doing something stupid and dangerous with friends. (bc they’re besties!!!)

- nile sneaking off back to chicago against the advice of everyone and just walking around bc she’s missed it and wants to feel some sense of normalcy again bc her life has been feeling like a lot lately and she’s very overwhelmed. and telling herself over and over to not walk past her house or her prev school or her part time after school job or her high school best friends house or her fav ice cream place. and she doesn’t so she just keeps walking and eventually ends up at a graveyard and she knows it bc it’s where her dad’s headstone is so she just walks toward where she knows it is and then she sees her own headstone next to her dads. and then she just collapses and falls to her knees on the ground and cries and cries for her family for her lost life for her former life for her former self. for her. nile gets to grieve who she was and what she lost and what she can never get back bc of circumstances beyond her control and there’s nothing she can do and it’s not her fault and it’s not anyone’s fault. but she cries and it’s okay that she cries and it’s good that she cries. it’s healthy and she deserves to feel whatever she wants and if she wants to sob at her own grave to be able to keep walking then that’s what she’s going to do. she eventually gets back up and leaves the graveyard and just keeps walking around.

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