#ily and appreciate this message and giving me the space to ramble about this!!!

[kazuwhora]

Ya kno you talking about how there’s that feeling of needing to “compete” against the societal pressures of liking someone who isn’t only wlw is something I hadn’t even thought of

As a bisexual girl I genuinely was very ignorant about that, I never even thought about that so if u don’t mind me asking (like genuinely if u think I’m dumb ignore me/this ask) how can someone who’s not exclusively wlw make their lesbian partner feel appreciated or reassure them in this sense?

- 🌸anon (if this isn’t taken?)

it is definitely something thats overlooked in the community and I feel like it's almost hard or sensitive to talk about as a lesbian because of the amount of biphobia out there especially in the wlw community BUT it is a valid thing that lesbians and other labels that are attracted to non-cis men have to deal with, and I think it's important to be aware of the pressures that we face because of that.

but in the end, it shouldn't fall completely on the shoulders of our partners to make up for the societal pressure we face regarding our sexuality, but a large component I know a lot of people struggle with is when bi people (or other similar sexualities) pretty much consistently talk, post, or fantasize about men only. it's 100% okay to have a preference and to imagine what you want to imagine, but it does get really really exhausting when the only content you see as a lesbian whether it be on social media, tumblr, or just in general is all m/f material. but like I said, it's 100% ok to have a preference and to share and post what you want to post. but it is really hard when lets say on tumblr, scrolling through your dash every thirst post or every hentai panel or every sexual related post is only m/f and never wlw.

from a relationship aspect? I think the best thing to do is make sure to understand and hear their concerns and insecurities when/if they choose to voice them, and understand that it's not a personal issue with you as much as it is a pressure of society that weighs on our shoulders. reassurance, affection for some, and a very clear establishment of what that person means to you and how much you enjoy what they do/bring to your life is probably the best way of conveying that!

ty for asking this!! I think its really important to have these conversations especially when it comes to bi and lesbian communities and relationships, because I feel like this heteronormative society pits us against each other whenever one side has a concern or insecurity related to the other and immediately divides us. I know a lot of bi girls are insecure about their relationships with a lesbian partner because they are afraid that liking men will make their partner like them less or look at them differently, and I think the second these valid concerns are expressed on either side it's immediately labelled as lesphobia or biphobia when really it's no fault of either side and falls completely on the shoulders of heteronormativity and toxic masculinity that is so rampant in our world

EDIT: I forgot to add a big thing I notice here is the severe lack of support for wlw content in regards to writing. while its not directly connected to relationships, it does have a huge effect on the confidence of lesbians when we write lesbian or wlw content only for the people that consistently support our m/f content to not even touch or interact with the wlw stuff. it sucks big time sobs

[gayhearteyes]

Thank you all for being here in 2017! I hope we can all continue to grow and become better people in the new year! I’m sending lots of love to everyone!!

Aaaaand one year is over! My official kpop anniversary was just a few days ago so I just wanted to thank all you people for making my year a little bit more.. endurable? (also just a lil side note: the edit took me 3 hours and i literally stayed up all night and i didn’t even sleep so i really hope you all feel appreciated and loved cause that’s what it’s all about !)

key:

💐 = we've never talked but i love seeing you on my dash!! (and if you ever need someone i’m here for you!)

💫 =  we don’t really talk (we’ve talked before though) but i definitely appreciate you!! (+ bolded: thanks for being there for me when i needed it)(+ in italics: thanks for tagging me in tag games!!!)

🌎 = you’re one of my favourites on here and i’d give you the world if i could!!

🎀 = i wrote you a lil sth at the end and you can read it if you like

#-b: @01euphoria💐, @01soft💐, @04yeol💐, @09club💐, @11yoong💐, @1gbt💐, @2dazd💐, @4bcks💫, @4oclockdawn💐, @4yung💐, @aelliseuya💐 , @aesthetically-trashy🌎, @ahjiminie🌎🎀, @aninternationalemo💐, @aurinkoinenvarjolapsi💐, @autumnjimin💐, @babygukk💐, @badlluv💐 , @baekheuyn💐, @baekphia💐, @bangtanimaginesletsgo💐, @bi-jeons💫, @blaine-r💐, @bloodsweatandgay💐, @blvckrvsv💐, @boyhaunts💐, @bubblegumice💫, @bunnyxiu🌎🎀

c-d: @cartooncraver9💐, @catholicslutfrnk💐, @caughtinalies💐, @chansboy💫 , @chanyeolgivesmebutterbutterflies💐, @chanyevol💐, @chanyoelstark💐 , @chimsugababy💐, @choco-penguins💐, @chokepjm💐, @cimixie💐 , @cuteyg💐, @dadhakyeon💫, @daehyunismybiaswrecker💐, @dazzlynini💐, @dekusenpai💐, @deletaed💫🎀, @demonic-bf💐, @detectivetrabula💐 , @dissociado💫🎀, @donghanes💫, @dopejm💫🎀 e-j: @ereli💐, @feelingviibes💐, @flowerjimin💐, @flxwercafe💐, @gaykpopmoodboards💐, @gaym0chi💫, @gaymyg💫, @gentlejongin💫, @glitzyeol💐, @goldendaeguboy💐, @graysonisgay💐, @gs0uls💫, @hobsbf💐, @hobseoks💐, @holdinghim💫, @hopi-hobi🌎🎀, @hybridplantz💫, @iconicjoon💐, @iisanimelover💫, @incongruentes💐, @interstellaryoongi💐, @je0n💐, @jiminvoce💐, @jinniesloveforjin💐, @jjeonguuk💐, @jjouzoo💐 k-n: @k-memestrash💐, @kaikkim💐, @kaimisutra💐, @kimjonginsmom💐, @kittycatkiy💫, @kokobaekhyun💐, @ksoo-l💐, @lazycupcake🌎🎀, @loeychateau💐, @loeysoul💐, @lofiloey🌎,@luvdae💫, @malenctzen💐, @miniminimochi💫, @mn-yngi💫🎀, @mthlg💐, @mymjustforyou💐, @namjinne💐, @namjooneh💫, @namjoons-boy💐, @neckpillows💐, @nochous💐, @nochujr💫, @nxmjoons💐 p-s: @paniconminsuga💐, @parkchanyuel💐, @pcysluv💐, @pcysnuggles💐, @pcytrash101💐, @peachysuho💫, @pjmlm💐, @punki-cat💫, @rainpjm💐, @rymden💫🎀, @s10bh-n💐, @saewonnie💫, @sahuo💐, @sehunsbff💫, @shitty-bean-boy💫, @sleepyspringday💫, @smoolbunny💐, @softychoi💐, @space-triangles💐, @squishyten💐, @steadyangelnerd💫, @strongjeon💐, @sugakookievevo💐, @sugarbaek💐, @suho69💐, @sunkissedminyoongi💐, @sunknj💐, @sunshinebaekh💐, @syrenhug💐 t-z: @the-third-guy-from-the-right💐, @triptvych💐, @tvehyungs-gf💫, @ufo-boy💐, @vyoongiv💐, @welltakeitslow💐, @wizardingmockingjayintheimpala💐, @writewrotewrittenkpop🌎🎀, @y00ng1s💐, @yconmins💫, @yoonshearteu💐, @zombietwink💐

🎀 ~ @ahjiminie: matt! i hope you’re doing well rn! uni and having a job is probably really stressful rn but i believe in you!!!! you can push through it!!! if you need to rant about shitty people at work (if there’s any) i’m free! thanks for inspiring me to get better at art stuff and thanks for giving me advice in general hihi. i love you loads!

🎀 ~ @bunnyxiu: and let the gayness flow....... i know i don’t really get mushy when we’re talking but this is an official MUTUAL APPRECIATION POST so i just have to say... I appreciate you a lot! I love staying up with you and you know how much i love your art and i feel very special when you share like little snippets of it when you’re in the process of drawing ygm? it’s really cute. and even if you don’t appreciate my jokes.... i really do love talking to you about ANYTHING! heh. and you’re just a very CHILL (BY EXO SHOW YA SHOW YA SHOW YA SHOW YA SHOW YA BABY BABY BABY BABY SHOW YA SHOW YA SHOW YA SHOW YA) person. yup. and i really appreciate your presents. let’s put it that way. love u!

🎀 ~ @deletaed: thank you for tagging me in pcy posts. this might seem really weird that i’m putting you in this lil section but i really am thankful and i really appreciated when you did that. it made my days!!! ( i also remember that one time i was feeling kinda down and the post you tagged me in made me really happy. thank you so so much for that.)

🎀 ~ @dissociado: thank you so much for being there when i needed it. i’m so glad you were there. it really calmed me down. i’m here for you too if you need/want to talk!

🎀 ~ @dopejm: thank you for letting me rant and thank you for reassuring me that everything’s gonna turn out alright eventually. idk if you remember but on one day my dysphoria was really bad and you messaged me and just let me ramble for a bit and you helped a lot. it’s very sweet of you to offer your help and time as well. thank you so much. seriously.

🎀 ~ @hopi-hobi: you deserve the whole world and more!!! the whole universe!!!! and please don’t say you don’t cause it makes me really sad when i read that you don’t think of yourself like i think of you. (i’m also always right and i never lie so that’s that.) and i really hope we get to meet one day so i can take you to the sea! and we’ll watch the waves and it’ll all be calm and nice and ahh.. i really love you a lot. my favourite boy.

🎀 ~ @lazycupcake: do you mean my favourite girl on planet earth????? the best :( i love you so much and timezones rn really annoy me ahh but it’ll soon be normal again right? i really hope you enjoy your time with your family and that you get to have lots of fun. you motivate me to paint! you could say you’re my muse djkhfkjdsh i’m kidding that sounds really weird.. please don’t lose hope and continue to push through because i believe in you! i love you !!!!!!

🎀 ~ @mn-yngi: i don’t know if you remember but in may we talked a little and it really gave me hope and i just wanted to thank you for that cause i haven’t forgotten it.

🎀 ~ @rymden: hi i know we don’t talk much but i just wanted to tell you that i really like talking to you and you’re very nice and soft and everytime i see you on my dash it makes my day a little better. also every seungkwan post reminds me of you and it’s cute hehe.

🎀 ~ @writewrotewrittenkpop: adammmmm! the man with the biggest heart on earth!!!! i just wanted to tell you that i like talking to you even if we sometimes just send each other post. it’s cute. ily! (and i really believe you’ll one day meet your hakyeon/jongdae/baekhyun/yixing/taeyong/minho/mark guy and he’s gonna treat you super well because you deserve it. i can feel it.)