#if you support all neurodivergency you will support me watching cartoons for little babies at morning!!

[katyspersonal]

Hello, I just want to say that your art is amazing and not to worry because fandoms are made more fun and tolerable by people like you who really care about the source material and not using it to spread hate. I hope you keep making art.

Heeeeeey! Don't do me so dirty - I DO spread hate..... towards people that don't care for the source material and just want to hate. XD Aren't we all just hunters vs beasts loop, not realizing we are ALL beasts with the only difference in time passage?...

Ffgfuhhjv okay but seriously, thank you very much for the nice words, anon. It just sometimes feel like there is little to no point because not many other people are deep dive fans learning every single detail. Randos that do not even like the source material all that much come in a fandom to use the stories and characters that we hold dear to sell their products and their ideas.

And don't get me wrong - we love products! Keychains with Henryk and Gascoigne? Hell yes I'll take both! Doll plushie? I'm buying the entire stock! Like, good, THANK YOU for the products! Official merch is so often underperforming in quality or missing characters we really want to hold. But like... won't it be nicer coming from someone who loves the source material for what it is and is willing to listen to the actual fans when they correct them about wrong take or design error? I remember there was a newbie that started doing STONKS very soon thanks to their skill but I could tell they were dramatically lacking source material knowledge and just checked what takes were popular in the fandom to deliver them (leading to missing important characters, doing wrong lore assumptions and even drawing strongly wrong colors of characters). But they proven that they respect the hardcore fans and listened on being corrected, and it was so refreshing!

That's why no gatekeeping should be absolute, because any other person that is not well-versed might be willing to learn more and gives us credit. But reverse happens too - us 99 lvl autism fans get mocked for "having no life" or "being obssessive" or "having no girlfriend", and this is just... bad. Fandoms should be safe space for loosers, geeks, autists and alike first. The normies got the whole world yet they choose to come to one place where we can obssess over a thing and bully us FOR obsessing because... why? Right, because this is a good grinding ground for audience. Endless loop of 'but no one cares about original universes!' vs 'but we want people who care about the source!' that I don't know how to break either. Right, nobody should feel obligated to dive into [insert a fictional univerce] just to get enough people to hear out what they ACTUALLY wanted to say, but also there is a good reason WHY this or that fandom is so popular - because source material spoke with people's very hearts!

In grand scheme of things, of course, the true problem is that nowadays EVERY single person is looking for their purpose in creative field specifically, because alternative jobs are just so terrible and soul-crashing for the same low income. So as far as it goes on, fandoms ARE threated as grinding area for "platform" for those creative jobs to go swell. The big problem is that not everyone's very ESSENCE is to create, yet everyone has the potential and skill (if they study enough). And creative work is the last resort where peoples souls do not get destroyed. That's why I hate AI "art" so much - it is destroying the last place where a SOUL can exist and grow and heal. But really, the true issue is that alternative jobs should be less soul-crashing - so people who are not built to be creators can work at factories, in offices, malls, stores, transport, etc without feeling like such pitiful existance is not even worthy of this low ass paycheck. And that... well, not getting fixed anytime soon, if at all. I am speaking as someone who used to work a normal job but capitalism disease rotted it TOO, and now it is not about being useful but about doing the sales plans and too many jobs for one person, and it IS soul-crashing. -_-

Alright, sorry for the rant, I just have a lot to say on the matters of fandoms! I think the most ironic thing is how fandoms also often attract the opposite; so very dark, fucked up fictional universes that teach you how to just give up and die tend to attract nice and level-headed individuals, but wholesome, bright and lovely ones that teach kindness attract the most toxic people ever, but I don't have theory on why is that. I just know one thing - whatever will be my new fictional special interest, I am not touching any E or PG-13 rated universe with a ten yards stick. Only 16+ and darker, babyyyy!

[mickeys-malarkey]

You forgot pirate and the answer is “how dare you make me choose but I lean towards cake and dragon.” 🍰🐉

…A little over half a year, maybe? It was kind of a gradual realization. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hm… The fact I can claim a title as one of the few authors who can easily and naturally write a story without a bunch of unnecessary s3x in it?

… <Gestures vaguely at Society>

I'm apothiflux, so usually “nay” but sometimes "meh, sure, whatever."

When I decided I'd prefer dating someone who didn't find me attractive in “that way.” When my art classmates fawned over every nude art piece meanwhile my only two reactions were “the heck are you on about? I see a boring anatomy textbook” and “ACK!! EW!! What in the— you find this APPEALING?!?!” When I informed my ex that I knew no matter who I married they were gonna be more interested in “that” than I was. When my ex just suddenly asked me my thoughts on asexual marriage seemingly out-of-the-blue (it took my autistic brain like four years to realize that he was actually asking if I was ace)... I should've known a lot sooner. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Um, “chaotic and/or supernatural nerd?” Whatever the heck type of guy you call Dib Membrane, The Doctor (as in Doctor Who), Dipper Pines, Grunkle Ford Pines, and Newt Scamander.

Yeah, I love the idea! 💛

Romantic: My demiromanticism says “friend-shaped” (which likely means neurodivergent since apparently I mostly attract neurodivergent friends), lol. Other than that, Lutheran, wants kids, respects, values and supports me, capable of honest communication and mature compromise, non-life-threatening job, IS NOT anti-doctor/medication like my ex was, etc. Platonic: See this thing I wrote and this other thing I wrote, I guess?

“Are you a firework? Cause you're breathtakingly gorgeous but I don't want you anywhere near my genitals.” (I do not take credit!! I saw it on Pinterest and thought it was the best thing ever, roflol.)

Either infodumping, stimming together, exquisite corpse-style story/fanfic writing or just companionable silence. You know, like, just existing next to each other. 💜

Electroswing~!

Hahahahaha, Niche Interest is my middle name. 🤓 Comics/cartoons/manga/anime/manhwa/aeni/etc. and their art styles/history/etc, neurodiversity/neuroscience, indie games, cryptozoology, puzzles, cryptography, I could go on.

Either Locke and Key or Red Band Society (L&K only had the one scene I think but still what the heck, RBS got so explicit and constant we had to stop— I WAS WATCHING IT WITH MY FAMILY! THEY ADVERTISED IT AS A “FUN, WHOLESOME SHOW FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY!!” WHAT THE ACTUAL FUDGE).

Platonic. Cuddles. 💛💛💛

Ahahaha, well, one time I sent my ex a comic I found that was about Noah's ark getting overrun by rabbits and Noah being like “okay do I need to separate you two?” and I was bewildered when he informed me it was a s3x joke and not just a baby joke. So, you tell me. 😝

No, but I want one. I'm using an opal one I already had as an aro ring.

YES TO BOTH.

Real. Lemonheads. 🤤🍋 Or— OR CALYPSO BLUE LEMONADE!! I don't think I've had it since the pandemic started, I miss it so dang much… 😭💙💙

Uhhh fantasy, sci-fi, surreal, supernatural horror, basically anything not based in reality.

Maybe? If he's very, VERY good at listening, respecting my boundaries, etc? My ex really put me off of the idea, though… 😔

Automatically skip s3x scenes and aggressively interpret songs I've been informed are one big innuendo as what I originally thought they were about, instead. Also, be glad my autistic sensory issues require I wear long, baggy clothes because I don't wanna be Perceived That Way™ anyways.

I mean, I haven't really said it to anyone's face yet but I doubt they would be, roflol.

I put “demiro-ace ♦️” in all of my social media bios, so… technically? My mom and littlest bro are the only ones who seem to have noticed so far, though. My mom looked it up on her own and woke me up one morning to ask if she understood it right and I— 🥺💕

Pft, see number 4.

Fun Aspec Ask Game:

Space, dragon, or cake ace?

How long have you known you were ace? 

Favorite part of being ace?

Least favorite part of being ace?

Intimacy, yay or nay?

What kind of moments make you think “oh yeah, I’m definitely ace”

What’s your theoretical type?

Are you in / would you want a QPR?

Describe your ideal romantic/platonic partner

Say your best aspec pickup line

Most underrated form of intimacy?

Favorite music genre?

Any really niche interests?

What’s the first movie/show you think of when you think “unnecessary sex scene” or “unnecessary romantic subplot” 

Rather than sex/romance, media would be much better off with more ____

Do you experience the aspec obliviousness when it comes to innuendos or the like?

Do you have an ace ring?

Do you want kids, or pets? 

Instead of sex, I’d rather have ____

Favorite movie/book/game genre?

Could you see yourself in a relationship with a sexual person?

Name something you do that’s ace culture

Are people surprised when you say you’re ace, or not?

Are you out to people? 

If you could live somewhere with only aspec people, would you?