#if we were moots on twt follow me and dm

[moonjxsung]

STAR IM DEVASTATED so i have a priv twt acc right w some irls and this stay from stayville req-ed me a long time ago and i was soooo happy that i was mutuals w someone from stayville and i THOUGHT everything between us was cool? but today they unfollowed me and removed me as a follower and im devastated i dunno why they did that :((( i don't think they had a problem w me saying nsfw stuff cuz they previously tweeted things like "cancelling someone over saying smth nsfw abt an adult is stupid" and also ive seen them interact w nsfw minsung posts so i dunno if me tweeting smth like "i wanna suck flxs cock sooooo bad" couldve made them wanna break the mutual??? i dmed them too and i was like "heyy is there a reason you don't wanna be moots w me anymore </3" and not even minutes later they turned off their message perms and im devastated. its STUPID bcs they'd barely interact w me Sure but it felt nice to have a stay be my friend on my priv twt that's usually just for my irls and i </3 it's ironic that they did that too bcs just earlier today (before they broke the mutual) i noticed that my followers went down (i have a very low amt already. like. 25. not even joking) and i tweeted "yall dont wanan be friends w me anymore </3" bcs like. my followers are QUITE LITERALLY only my irls + a skz writer so i was (i think rightfully??) alarmed that the number went down!!!! man im just Sad about it and SIIIGH i know i shouldnt care so much bcs at the end of the day they're just a person online but the least they could've done was dm me back and explain why and GHFSDDSJHFKJADDSDSAAAAA you get me!?!! also im sorry i dropped this on you randomly feel free to ignore LMAAOOAOAO can i be 💫 anon? thank yew <3

(Adding 💫 to the anon list!!! Also fun fact that’s my favorite emoji of all time. Slay)

I feel like I’m the LAST person who should be giving advice abt this bc one of my mutuals and a very good friend of mine who I’d been talking to every day randomly blocked me on everything this week after me literally being there to console this person for every little thing and playing into this pretend homoerotic friendship we had even though she was clearly looking for another boyfriend and would get mad if I even called another girl pretty (???) I wish nothing but the absolute best for her but like…. The double standard is WILD. to not provide closure to a months-long friendship is just genuinely a very mean spirited thing to do imo.

(If she’s reading this, best of luck with everything and I hope you know I cared for you a lot more than you think I did. I distanced myself because you were clearly looking for someone to fill a void in your life that I could simply not fulfill, and I didn’t want to lead you on, nor be kept around like I wasn’t allowed to talk to other girls either. Regardless, I hope you know I used to sleep with my phone on full volume in case you called, and I deleted a page worth of poetry in my notes app for you I meant to deliver on your birthday. I also deleted your number so I have zero way of contacting you, but I will always be here if you need me. Take care and I love you always, I hope you still see me when you look up at the moon)

It’s not the first time I’ve lost an internet friend to the magical world of blocking, but fortunately the attitude I’ve developed towards it is that none of this is real!!! These are people on the internet miles away you’ve never met irl and they have no real impact in your life whether they remain following you or not. I’ve lost internet friends nearly a decade ago that I don’t even remember anymore. Better ones will come along!!! Especially stays! This fandom has so many beautiful remarkable people who are actually worth following and they wouldn’t cut you off like that. Sending so many positive vibes your way and I KNOW that the universe will send you some better mutuals. In the meanwhile I will be your internet bestie and I would never unfollow you for nsfw content or without some form of an explanation. And I also want to suck Felix’s dick. 🩷🫶

(I love you, don’t be so hard on yourself!!!! You’re wonderful, angel 🩷 anyone would be lucky to be moots with you)

[alister312]

a bit disappointing to see you reblog that thing from amporella, i’m disappointed in her too because i thought she was better than making a post like that but it’s weird to make a mean post with bad intent just bc you don’t like smth. i’m a moot with you and it feels like a bad omen

hi anon! I’d really prefer to keep my blog discourse-free so I’m not gonna harp on this but I wanted to respond nonetheless bc I also believe in being open. I’m also going to put this under the cut as it contains discussion of some heavy materials and I don’t want any of my followers to have to read it if they’re uncomfortable.

Firstly, I reblogged Ella’s post answering an ask about her grievances w the AU (not specifying out of respect for keeping the tag discourse free if possible, but iykyk) around when it first got posted. It’s has since gained a bit of notoriety. At that time, I was horrified with what I read and felt it was important to warn others, should they be the type to browse sp twt or insta or should the comic make its way to tumblr.

I would like to clarify what exactly made me so horrified: the serial killer letters bit. I dislike the ship discussed in the post and I’m not the biggest fan of dark themes personally for my mental health, but it’s also whatever. People are gonna do things I dislike— I simply won’t interact with them. However, to use a serial killer’s writing describing how he killed and consumed a child as captions for an art post?? That crosses a line for me. Especially because we do unfortunately live in an age where people see something cool and don’t look into it further. The idea that people, ignorant to the origins, could take the lines and use them again thinking they’re just a fun, edgy thing this cool AU said makes me really upset.

Since reblogging, I’ve received a DM on behalf of someone who is a fan of the AU and they told me that those captions originate from a vocaloid song taken out of context. It does give an explanation to the usage, but it also proves my worry that people do simply take cool things and use them with no research. I’ll say the same thing publicly that I said to the person in DM— while the creator might not have been aware of what they were doing at the time, they’re aware now. It’d be wise for them to delete the posts, or at least edit the captions. Perhaps apologize and explain things more publicly, so that any other concerned outsiders (or even insiders) don’t think they’re glorifying a serial killer by using such a concerning piece of writing in something as casual as a South Park AU.

[favberrys]

So basically i wrote a post on twt about how many (NOT ALL BUT THE MAJORITY) of male authors of anime/manga/tv shows/movies can't write female characters with complexity and i my account got suspended for "violent content", while in reality i just expressed my point of view as female fan who consumes these products. All the ppl who qrted my post where men telling me i was wrong, and said stuff like "read x anime" or "but x author writes great female characters", i need you all to realize that those authores who write good female characters are a minority, maybe two male authors out of ten. Istead of admitting that there is a problem in the way men represent women in media and i, as woman, called out that bad representation, they felt attacked personally and started defending their fav authors. I never even said the names of the male authors.

Very curious that all the women agreed with me and that all the people mad at me were men, incels who got my account suspended for expressing myself in a civil manner. I read the rules of twitter and i never violated them and it makes me angry that people who hurt others through twitter with bullying, racism, homophobia and ableism can keep their accounts and keep hurting people.

Anyway i tried to apply the procedure to get my account back, but i don't think it will work. I tried to use my other accounts to log in on twt and twt suspended all of them. I also tried to create new accounts and they were all suspended. I don't care abouf rts and likes, i just want to get my mutuals back, bc they were the reason i still used that forsaken app and i'm heartbroken about the fact that by time twitter allows me to get back they will all have forgotten about me, i met so many amazing ppl and since i followed many of them just on twitter i won't be able to talk to them anymore. I finally found a community i liked, with all its flaws and perks, and now i can't be part of it anymore and it wasn't my choice. These people who can't handle an opinion expressed without offending anyone, managed to get me suspended, i'm both angry and sad about this.

I have no idea how to find my moots bc i don't remember the @ of all of them.

Nothing else to say guys, just venting

[stormblessed95]

Hey Stormy!

I’m pretty sure I found you from your first post or one of your first post. It was a post talking about how Jimin was always there for JK in times of injury and actively participated in conversations surrounding JK’s wellbeing. I found you by searching up Jikook on Tumblr and I remember seeing that you were a new blog with not many posts, but I was impressed by the post I mentioned above and followed you right away. I was new to Tumblr back in April 2021 and did a whole bunch of lurking, actively searching Jikook and reading other blogs to see which ones I liked. I basically was running my own recruitment of Jikook blogs to follow lol and you were one of the lasts blogs I found by way of searching before I settled in. I pretty much read every post of yours in real-time because I have never missed a day on Tumblr since I arrived (I need a life I know haha). I feel like I’ve watched you grow on here and settle into your own way of doing things. I was here for when you first told us you wanted to start your now infamous Masterlist (I remember someone basically made a detailed one for you and sent it in as an ask), I was here when you were running out of room on your Masterlist and needed suggestions to make it longer than one page. I was here when you still used to respond to asks with other bloggers posts in them but then quickly changed to ask permission from other blogs before addressing such asks. I was here when your anons used to be on all the time then shifted to your limited time only ON approach haha (fun fact: you once forgot to turn them off when you said you were going to and I sent in an ask to remind you that they were still on!). Oh and I accidentally found you on Twitter too haha; in summer 2021 you wrote a post that went semi-viral on Jikook Twitter and I saw a random comment that credited your @ for it, and I’ve been following you there ever since too. As others have said I really like how you write and how thorough and factual-leaning your posts are (btw I’ve read most of your comments left on other blogs too). You go Glen Stormy! I’m glad I found your blog and I’ll continue to read everything you post. 💜For pretty much all the blogs I follow, I read many of their posts to get a feel for them before I committed to following them but as I mentioned above, I followed you only after one post so I guess that means you’re special haha xo 💕🫶🏽💕

Oh my gosh, is it this post??

This was another one that blew up on me unexpectedly for me. Lol and this was before I was more careful about keeping my accounts seperated. So I posted a more condensed verison on Twitter to fit the character limit and it got a lot of attention there too 🤣 So it doesn't surprise me that you found me there too! If you tell me who you are in return, maybe we can be twt moots too! If we aren't already 👀🥰

Thank you for finding me and sticking by me for so long! That's amazing!! I kind of feel like you and the others who've been here since the beginning have watched me go through the tumblr verison of your awkward teenage years. Lmao when I joined tumblr I had NO IDEA what I was doing, how anything worked, how to link anything. I would post a lot of "how do i do xyz" on tumblr. People would send in asks or DMs with tips and help. Someone sent me other blogs masterlists and how to create them. Like those of you who've been here since or before May 2021, yall are the real MVPs of this blog. 💜💜💜 and I appreciate you all so much! Thanks for always looking out for me too! Love you guys! 🥰

[whootwhoot]

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😌 😍 hey honey its the last day of 2020 for me here owo, and i’ve reached 100 followers by the end of this year!! holy shit, to be honest im dont post much TWT but really, thank yall for everything!! my first year of tumblr has come to an end lmAO, meet a bunch of amazing people here too  🥺 🥺 shitmyficisntfinished

so to all my followers and moots that i might have missed, thank you for supporting me owo, i enjoy your company on tumblr alot, i love yall to the moon and back ^^ and to all the writers i follow, I LOVE YOUR WRITINGS, ALSO THANK YOU FOR THE CONTENT AND GOOD LUCK NEXT YEAR OWO

continuing on under the cut 😚

@owlywrites yo owly, thank you so much!! You were the first person who got me on tumblr lmAO, plus irl you do alot for me, 2020 was really chaotic, i did alot of things i regret pfft, but still thank you for sticking with me till the end uwu, i really enjoy the talks, the gathering on your birthday and all that, in the end ilysm!! 

@cadenceh2o cady!!! you were the second person i met in the whole haikyuu writers community, and my tsukki kinnie lmAO, i didn’t know you were the one watching the live match with us last time until that night when we called with mia(?) i think. Anways thanks for welcoming me into this tumblr thing owo, ily too!! 

@ceo-of-daichi @mrs-kuroojinguji @sparklesparklekoushi  lydz, ana and mia owo!! i met yall in the server, and i really love talking to yall, yall are really really friendly and welcoming TWT it was amazing to be friends with yall such crazy good writers, thank you from the bottom of my heart owo!! love yall!! 

@jougogo hey kayyy!! I LOVE YOU, thank you for being the first to reach out to me TWT, i really love meeting you, you are one of the most wholesome person i’ve met owo!! keep writing!! i love you uwu!! 

@hikari-writes @yamagucji hikari and cupid owo!! both of yall are stunning writers and amazing friends, i hope to get to know yall more next year!! thank you for being so kind to me TWT, im really overwhelming sometimes but thanks for everything!! infinite hugs and kisses owo!! 

@dearsukuna TRICIA OWO!! i know you thru owly lmao, thank you for chatting with me owo!! you are one of the most amazing writers, i love your writings a bunch, congrats on reaching 200 too hehe, i hope to get to know you more!! love you hun!!

@savemycrustysoul @aj-draws  hey gwen, i would like to personally thank you for being on of the most supportive person i’ve met!! Aj, you are really really kind, thank you for being so welcoming^^, i love your drawings owo best of luck to both of you!!

@mimpthesimp ayeeee, ill dm you on discord AHAHHAHAHA, but genuinely, joining chs server might be the worse and best mistake of my 2020 lmao, we had fun and well, really really dumb stuff in there, but hey i met you so, still a win win LmAO, anyways i hope you keep drawing no matter what!! you are a gifted artist owo, i love that you put in hard work for almost anything, lets meet up irl if your cool with it btw AHHAHAHA, then i can get sharkie to come too, anyways thank you, so so much, for helping me and chatting with me despite not obligated to do so. i love you pancake!! ^^ 

🍉 anon, idk if you’ll see this, but i really really want to thank you owo!! thanks for talking to me, i always reply a little late so im sorry uwu, but thanks for popping into my inbox once in a while, love ya!! 

[gnflorida]

im kinda curious about how benji making an account resulted in him manipulating fans if you'd like to explain a little more :)

cause i get how that would be bad for both sides. i've seen so many people just using that accs dms as therapy session which is,,,not good imo. so yeah thoughts?

sure anon! i’m gonna put this under a cut bc it ended up being pretty long. but here’s my ramble on that little case study, and the danger of parasocial relationships in general:

tw // mention of grooming and sexual harassment (not with a fan but just as a point of discussion)

so we have benji krol and jorge garay. maybe you know them from being kinda relevant on tiktok like a year and a half ago, maybe you remember the accusations that practically ended both of their careers. i’m exposing myself heavy here, but i used to run a stan acct on twitter for them. i know it’s embarassing! i regret it too! typing their names still kinda makes me sick tbh! but i used to see a lot of myself in them, and the community was fun, and it was nice to see what i thought was a healthy queer relationship. we move on.

benji had a very close relationship with his stans, especially after quarantine started. he had multiple private/secret twitter accounts where he would take a very active role in the fandom. he’d spend so long on those accounts, to the point where there were times where we would tell him not to use them (and that in and of itself is very showing of what our dynamic with him was like). he would reply and talk to a lot of ppl on stan twt, myself included, but there was a small groupchat of about a dozen people that he talked to very regularly. he would tell them things that were meant to be kept secret even from other stans, and in some cases things that we know for certain he didn’t even tell some of his closest friends.

because they were so close with benji, these stans obviously got a lot of clout within the fandom (as they should have too! they were mostly all rly nice, i’m still moots w a few). but what was going essentially unnoticed there was just how much manipulation was occurring. i honestly don’t believe it was even fully intentional on benji’s part. but over the course of more than a year he manipulated them into defending him against almost every negative accusation he faced. these people would have screenshots and receipts from him personally, ready to pull him out of all potential drama or criticism. and he did this by presenting their relationship as a mutual friendship, as if there wasn’t a blatant and vast imbalance of power.

and then one day last august, the allegations came out. jorge, who was 18, was accused of grooming another influencer who was 15 at the time, and benji was accused of enabling and even contributing to the grooming. over the course of the following days and weeks, as it became apparent that these alleged events did actually happen, the fandom was forced to collectively reevaluate the things that had been going on for over a year, and how we had all ended up in a situation where we unknowingly supported those people. since then, various other information has surfaced that implies that benji himself was somewhat unaware of what was happening. you can watch his yt vdeo if you’re interested in hearing his defense, and the reason he’s not canceled off the face of the earth like jorge is. but the degree to which he may or may not be innocent is not really my focus here.

i cannot begin to express the shock of spending so long idolizing someone, genuinely learning a lot about who they are, only to have something so significant and disgusting revealed about them like that. everyone in the fandom kind of compared receipts and took an outside look at what had been happening and realized just how harmful the close relationship with benji had been. to quote one of my rant tweets from august 22nd: “i just feel so stupid because i would always say ‘we shouldn’t act like we really know them’ and. here i am sobbing anyways bc i still put too much trust in these people who are rly just fucking strangers”. and there were several dozens of people that were much closer to him and much more personally affected than me. plus hundreds of others that were involved in the fandom.

and that brings me into my main point here. this is a firsthand account of a very extreme example of manipulation within a parasocial relationship. i think benji did genuinely care about his fans, even if it was in a very self-indulgent and egotistical manner. but caring about your fans does not do anything to negate the harm that is done by manipulating your relationship with them.

it’s not that a fan doesn’t know what a given content creator is really like, because a lot of them do present their honestly selves to a considerable degree. it’s that there is no way to know what things you don’t know about a CC. no way to tell what will surface tomorrow and completely change your entire perception of them. and no way to interact with them on equal grounds. and because of this, i am extremely wary of any CC who presents their relationship with their fans as one of friendship, especially when a large amount of those fans are minors. it’s not inherently wrong persay, but it’s more dangerous than i think a lot of fans or CCs realize.