#if anyone else has any tips for anon feel free to reply to this post!!!

[princess-selfships-blog]

so i recently decided to grab a url for self shipping bc i found out this was an actual thing and not somethin i just did specifically. i havent set my blog up yet but do u have any tips/helpful advice/etc when i do? :0 also ur blog is very cute!

well hello there! funny you should ask, as i only set my own blog up properly a couple of days ago! thank you for the compliment btw that means a lot to me 💖

my top tip is not to be afraid! which i know is hard sometimes, i sure felt shy when i first made my blog. i STILL feel a bit shy about some things tbh, like i’ve yet to actually reblog pics of my f/o for some reason? (which i really should do bc y’all need to drool over my dreamy husband with me ok) but as far as talking to people and interacting goes, everyone has been incredibly kind and enthusiastic and wonderful so far! so don’t be afraid to pop into peoples asks or dm’s and ask about their f/o’s!

another tip is that unless u know every fandom under the sun, there will probably be people whose f/o’s you’re not familiar with - i’ve found that everyone is really patient about explaining them, though, so don’t let that stop you from talking to people! some of the nicest people i’ve spoken to so far have had no idea about my f/o’s source material and i’ve had no idea about theirs, but we’ve had lots of fun gushing about them all the same!!!

let me know if u decide to get your blog properly set up and start posting and i’ll be happy to talk you through the initial jitters + hear all about your f/o! 💖💖💖

[tittyblade]

tumblr etiquette 101

a list that is nowhere near exhaustive, from yours truly.

First off, welcome! Whether you’re a twitter veteran looking for anything but whatever twitter is, or a new user just done signing up, glad to see you in our ranks beloveds! Welcome home. Refer to this quick tour to make sure your fandom experience (or tumblr experience in general) is a positive one!

Disclaimer: I know it’s long, but please try to read or skim through til the end if you’re new here! This is by no means meant to be a rule book (for the most part lol), only a guide to help you get settled easier!

1) Your blog

This is where people will see and interact with you, so put some effort into it!

Try to choose a name (url) that’s simple. You can see it as your brand, it’s how people will perceive you and remember you. If you’d like to interact with other users here (and not use the site just for the content) it’s better to have something short and sweet, preferably without spaces. (Of course, these are only suggestions.) Rest assured, you can change it literally any time you want.

Have a theme. Utilize the tool that lets you edit your blog’s color or the font of your bio! You can make it match your profile picture, or your blog if it has a theme of its own. Make it feel homey :]

Fill in your bio. People will be checking out your profile probably more often than you think. Don’t leave it empty! Put in any information you’re comfortable with sharing and isn’t too personal (like your age if you’re a minor, or other TMI that can be found on other people’s carrds). It’s always better to add a name/nickname people can use to refer to you by, but feel free to use your blog description to shitpost still.

You can have an intro post. More often than not, you’ll see a blog have a pinned post, a post permanently appearing at the top of a blog until you pin another post or unpin it. You can make one of those, if you’d like to introduce yourself in more length, link any other socials or a carrd, and show others visiting your blog how you tag things so it’ll be easy for them to navigate. Not an obligation.

Keep your anonymity and your safety. It should go without saying, but there’s no harm in repeating it just in case. Your comfort, privacy and safety has the utmost importance. Don’t share any information you don’t want to. Don’t share your age if you’re a minor, or any other incredibly personal info. I’d encourage you to go by a nickname that’s not your real name, (blog name, your brand, remember?) since there’s safety in anonymity, and that’s lowkey one of the big deals of tumblr, but that’s up to you still.

Choose what you want to be visible. Your liked posts and who you follow are all things you can set to keep to yourself and hide from the publics eye, how handy! You should go through all the setting while you’re at it, set it to your comfort.

Side blogs are a thing. You can have multiple blogs that you can use for different things (see: different fandoms, art blog, etc) to keep them organized or away from your followers. Just remember that the replies and off-anon asks you send will be from your main blog, as well as where you follow other blogs from.

2) Interacting with others

You’ve set up your account, now comes the fun part!

Follow to your heart’s desire. If you care about others seeing who you follow, fear not! In tumblr, usually only two types of blogs keep their following visible to others: newbies, and big blogs using it to point people on other good blogs’ direction. Just turn it off, and go ham following people.

Customize your dashboard. Gonna mention just two things here: this is another reason why it’s really important that you follow blogs without sparing, your dash will collect dust otherwise; and you should turn off “best stuff first” in your dashboard settings, to have a better community here and all.

Follow tags. You can set it in your settings that posts with your followed tags appear on your dashboard.

You can check the og post for edits and context. When you see a reblogged post you don’t understand the context of (or don’t recognize the character in case of fanarts), click on the profile so it will take you to the original post. From there you can check the original poster’s tags to get the context, or see if there have been any edits made to the post, since when you edit a post it doesn’t update any past reblogs.

Send people asks... This is how you make mutuals, people! Do it off-anon if you’d like them to know your blog, or anon if you’d rather not! (You can still end your messages with a signature to show you’re the same person, -[name] is one example.) Send them nice messages, ask their opinion on something, discuss things, or just straight up shitpost lol. Go wild. The sky’s your limit and it’s definitely more than 280 characters.

...and let them ask you! You can set your preference in the settings, do it on desktop tumblr to access more settings tho! What you can customize on mobile is limited (like letting people ask you things anonymously, that’s only on desktop settings). In my personal opinion, it’s always better to tag their username (or a nickname you give them, if they’re a friend) on that post, since you wouldn’t want your interactions with your friends to get buried in your blog forever.

Comment on posts. If you have something to say but don’t want the post to appear on your blog you can add a comment. The owner of the post will get a notif for it, but for anyone else you need to tag them.

For the love of god, reblog. People will only see your liked posts if you have it visible to public and they specifically go on your blog to look at them. You like something? You reblog. It’s already hard for posts to circulate properly, if you don’t reblog them literally no one will see them. If not for anything do it for the artists. Just hold and drag on mobile to fast rb.

3) Your Posts

Finally here! Don’t be a lurker, post and engage!

Make use of “read more”. If your post is long, add it. That’s what you clicked on earlier to expand this post. On desktop leave an empty line and you’ll see three dots appear, and on mobile type :readmore: on that empty line.

Draft a post to come back to it later. Pretty self explanatory.

Queue your post. Whether it’s your own post or you’re reblogging, make use of the queue feature to a) not spam reblog and fill up the dashboard of people following you and b) keep your blog active while you’re gone. Mess around in the settings, it’s fairly easy to set up.

Schedule your post. Same as queueing, the only difference is you get to choose the exact time your post will go up. Handy if you want to schedule a post for certain dates like april fools, or 5 years in the future for some reason. 

Format your texts. You can do all kinds of fancy stuff here (that’s a link, try pressing on it). Twitter doesn’t have this, make use of it. Changes depending on whether you’re on mobile or desktop. (Desktop has less features.)

Check your stats. If you’re trying to understand the algorithm better or want to look at some pretty graphs you can get your data on that on desktop tumblr.

@ people in comments. You’ll get all the notifs when people comment on your posts but they won’t see your reply unless you tag them in your message.

4) Tags, and tagging a post

This is where my earlier statement “this isn’t a rule book” stops being applicable. It’s not a war crime to go against these, I won’t come chasing you (don’t take my word for this) but you’ll work up a bad rep. Just saying lol.

Do NOT crosstag posts. It’s really tempting to add unrelated tags to increase your posts’ interaction, I know, but that’s not what tumblr is about. Don’t be a dick and make other communities’ experience worse for them.

Always tag your posts with “crit/critical/discourse/etc” if it calls for it. There’s no exceptions to it. This is the reason you see people migrating to tumblr. Let people enjoy things.

Don’t main tag a critical/negative post. If your crit post is about “Thing”, you add the “Thing critical” tag, but not the “Thing” tag. People block crit tags if they don’t want to see it, don’t shove it in their faces by main tagging it. 

If you don’t want to see something, just block it. Another reason why people are able to survive on tumblr. You don’t start discourse, you don’t make call-outs, you block. You can find something for every community you can think of if you go looking for it. The worst of the worst probably won’t ever appear on your dash, but if you’re worried or feel the need for it, you know where the block button is.

Feel free to shitpost or ramble. More often than not you’ll see people rb a post with a comment, and their elaboration will be in the tags. The tags are only visible on your profile and the notifications of the owner of the og blog. Just a thing people do.

Reblog artists’ posts with nice comments in the tags! Commenting on a drawing is usually done through the tags (Not an obligation, again, just a thing people do. Feel free to add your comment on the rb itself if you’d want other people to see it tho!) and leave nice messages for the artists! It’s a win-win for everyone involved. 

If you have more than a single follower, always use the common tw warning tags. You don’t need to tw everything, but tw’ing some common things is the bare minimum human decency. Keep it safe for others. 

Tag a post “long post” if it’s really long. Pretty self explanatory. Don’t make people scroll through all that please lol. 

You can use them to organize your blog. This is more of a pro tip, if you’d like to not miss a post in your blog, cause they will start pilin’ up soon enough.

#Liveblogging is pretty fun. If you’d like to talk to people during streams, don’t forget to add the relevant tags still! Again, you won’t show up on people’s dash otherwise.

Whew! That got out of hand. Hopefully I didn’t bore you too much. Check out blogs like @heritageposts and @hellsite-hall-of-fame to honor our past o7. @mcytblr-hall-of-fame too maybe :eyes:. Anyways, don’t forget the most important rule of them all:

Enjoy your stay! You’re meant to have fun on here while also making friends (if that’s your thing). Just be kind and respectful of others, you’ll get the hang of the rest! <3

[hallow-witxh]

Here comes the booooooy~

Hello!

Thank you for your patience with me as I work through my issues, and thank you all so much for keeping my blog active and alive. Though I've been absent and unwell both physically and mentally for some time, I'm ready to come back with a few changes to help preserve my sanity. I appreciate each of you more than you know!

Just as a quick review (and introduction to those new followers of mine); hi there! My name is Ander, and I've been a practicing green/herbal/kitchen witch and Pagan for the past several years. As of lately, I work closely with Aphrodite, Salacia, Melinoe, and as of very recently, Dionysus. Most of my posts are beginner-friendly information-based posts, as well as tips, ideas, and lists. I'm disabled and currently waiting for approval for SSDI, so I am frequently tired and may take some time to answer messages, asks, or comments. That being said, I am re-opening asks (no anon, as I have received more than a few nasty surprises) so feel free to reach out with questions or comments.

To get back into the groove of things, I will be reblogging a few of my older posts as I work on a wave of new posts. :)

As for changes, y'all can expect just a few things.

Instead of daily posts, each post will be scheduled for either every other day or every three days depending on my brainpower. Most of the time, I will write multiple posts and schedule them, so my replies to any comments, questions, or tags on posts may take a day or two.

Each post will have the same beginning tags, with a few more related to the specific post type at the end. This is for the sake of reaching more people's home page, making it easier to set up in my drafts, and keeping it all organized in my head. You are welcome to reblog without the tags, copy/paste the tags, or create your own.

If someone is causing trouble in the comments (again); tag me. I will delete their comments and block them.

As for reminders about my posts:

My Ko-Fi will be linked at the bottom of each post. You are never, ever required to tip/buy anything from it, but I appreciate the views and any help that may come through! There are also open commissions on there as well, as well as this post listing them if you don't want to go through Ko-Fi.

If you want to argue with me or someone else in my comments, take it to your DMs. No one wants to scroll through nasty messages.

That being said, if you see a mistake (information-wise, a typo, anything), you are welcome to point it out or ask about it POLITELY in the comments. Nastiness will result in your comments being deleted and you blocked.

This is a safe place for LGBTQ people. Any slurs, negative comments, or bigotry will not be tolerated here. I am a trans, queer person myself and I won't have people gatekeeping MY OWN PRACTICE because their mama didn't love them enough to teach them how to accept others for who they are.

Yes, there are trauma jokes in a few posts. Whoops.

If anyone has any questions, comments, ideas, or requests for certain content, please feel free to comment or send an ask. I am more than happy to research anything you may be needing to know.

Again, thank you all so much for keeping my blog active, and I'm so excited to be providing content for y'all again!

Love y'all lots. Thanks for having me <3

Support me on Ko-Fi or visit my store, Hallow Grove!

[dorimena]

may i have aizawa or todoroki where they're in a meeting and the reader is controlling the vibrator in their hole 👉👈 (also can I be 🍦 anon as well?)

Of course you may! Aizawa’s came to mind first, but I’ll be sure to also post Todoroki’s later this week, so your sin is multiplied. And yes, you can! 𝖂𝖊𝖑𝖈𝖔𝖒𝖊 𝖙𝖔 𝖙𝖍𝖊 𝖈𝖔𝖛𝖊𝖓𝖙, 🍦 anon (๑˘︶˘๑)

𝔠𝔥𝔞𝔯𝔞𝔠𝔱𝔢𝔯; aizawa shouta

𝔴𝔬𝔯𝔡 𝔠𝔬𝔲𝔫𝔱; 2.0k,

𝔴𝔞𝔯𝔫𝔦𝔫𝔤𝔰; sex toy (vibrating butt plug), public sex, slight exhibitionism, implied humiliation kink, implied degradation kink, implied bondage, implied edging, cursing, dom!reader, sub!character

𝔬𝔱𝔥𝔢𝔯 𝔱𝔞𝔤𝔰; gender-neutral reader, Aizawa wanted to impress you, sidekick is a voyeur, Aizawa suffering to not show he’s actually a bottom is beautiful.

𝖁𝖎𝖇𝖗𝖆𝖙𝖔𝖗 𝖎𝖓 𝖙𝖍𝖊 𝖍𝖔𝖑𝖊.

“Don’t you dare think about it.”

He shakily grumbles to you, closing his eyes momentarily as he tries to compose himself again, crossing his arms to make himself seem unbothered. After all, it’s not every day he’s wearing a vibrating buttplug in public.

“Dare think about what, Eraserhead?” The CEO of some hero agency’s voice asked curiously.

Shit. Now everyone is looking at him. Why is he even wearing this thing?

Oh right.

Before the impromptu meeting about some tip of the whereabouts of another underground drug trafficking ring, he was in the middle of preparing a… surprise for you, when you came back home from wherever you went. But you somehow found out beforehand, because you showed him how the control was in your possession after you caught up with him in the hallway on your way to the same meeting.

So here he is, wearing a promised ‘super intense’ vibrations, black silicone with a matching ‘diamond’ butt plug under his luckily loose hero outfit. 

Grunting to subtly clear his voice and keep it steady, he looks back at the addressing man.

“You want to simply use us to continue patrolling the same areas everyone else seemed to map out already. That-”

You interrupt his answer by turning up the intensity a bit, knowing it’s most definitely poking at his sensitive spot by now. You’ve seen his sly attempts of shifting and adjustment. You’re humming, looking over at him to see how his mouth has clamped shut but his lips are trembling. His body’s rigid, tense, and his back has straightened up considerably. You’re pretty sure you heard him moan lowly.

“Eraserhead?” The man asked again, raising an eyebrow at the sudden loss of words while the room falls silent- shit, they can’t know about the vibrator! Aizawa doesn’t even know how loud it is, he only cleaned it and skipped the trial part.

Swallowing harshly, he hopes his voice isn’t going to betray him and is loud enough to cover up the mysterious buzzing. You aren’t going to be nice with this apparently.

“Th-that we should begin the next s-step…” Never mind, guess his voice fucking hates him and his train of thought.

“I’ll, uh, take that into consideration, and I suppose it could lessen…” and whatever is said after that leaves Aizawa´s focus as you increase the vibrations again, making his thighs want to match the speed and his mind suddenly scream at him to ‘keep yourself composed.’

A vibrator is nothing new.

A butt plug is nothing new.

A vibrating butt plug is new, and doing it in public during an important fucking meeting is making him feel a lot that it’s overwhelming him.

You aren’t even going to let him think or compose himself as you move a little closer to his side, acting like you’re paying attention to what the others are saying, before pinching his inner thigh. 

No one’s paying attention to you two anymore and are starting to get loud, and you wanted him to see that before you murmur.

“Thank you for the gift. I’ll make sure to use it to its full potential.” Now that has him suddenly praying for whichever higher celestial being is there to hear him to please, please, please not let anyone catch on to what’s going to happen.

So, you turn the vibration up a few more settings, holding back a laugh of amusement as he jerks violently in his chair and your hand finds itself trapped between his quivering, muscular thighs, that soon enough begin bouncing as he tries to find purchase on something, anything. His hands gripping the fabric covering his arms isn’t helping. Leaning forward to rest an elbow on the table and resting his forehead on his palm, he uses his other free hand to wrap around your wrist near him because the feeling of your skin touching him always keeps him grounded. Surely this doesn’t look suspicious.

To anyone who would be looking, it just looks like you’re trying to not let the unnecessary noise get to him, but really he’s desperately whispering “slow down, s-slow down!” as he tries swallowing any other embarrassing noise that should only be heard in the bedroom, and soon enough gripping your wrist harder, trying to make your trapped hand touch his aching bulge, twitching for attention.

A strangled whine escapes his dried throat, and that catches the attention of some random sidekick nearby. And when you turn the toy off, Aizawa huffs in disappointment before glaring over at the younger male. It’s enough to have the sidekick smile awkwardly before turning away, feigning ignorance to whatever he might’ve heard.

Now that the coast is quickly cleared, you lean in to swiftly ‘fix’ his weapon and with a hush tell him not to “let anyone know” before turning up the intensity again, this time making sure it’s at the highest the small machine can offer.

Remember when he said he was promised it to be ‘super intense’? He regrets it. He really, really regrets it.

He quickly tries grabbing whatever part of his binding cloth is closest with his mouth to help gag, at least muffle, his sharp cry of your name, gritting his teeth as he tries not to be louder than the debate happening. But with the tip of the butt plug pressing really hard onto his prostate, he can’t help jerking his hips forward and back while letting out airy whines of anything yet nothing.

You’re just watching his reactions, drinking in every slip of noise he makes. You know he’s going to slip up sooner or later, with the way his hips are slowly losing control and his legs are twitching too much to not pass off as suspicious.

Even his cute whines are becoming wanton moans of your name, the binding cloth being forgotten as he loses concentration. He can feel how wet his boxers are, how sticky they feel against his hardened member that twitches on tempo with his thighs. He needs you to touch him there. Please, please, please.

“Pl-please?” He exhales shakily, choking on a small groan as your right hand wiggles around to free itself from his weakening grip.

Before you could answer, you hear someone call his name. Quickly turning off the toy, your left hand lets go of the control in your pocket as you place it on his forehead.

“Eraserhead, are you alright?” The same man from earlier asked. You wonder why he’s so attentive.

“No, sir. He seems to be picking up a fever.” You finish with a worried expression morphing onto your face.

“Oh, then he should go home-”

“I don’t mean to interrupt, but it’s best if he stays. He wouldn’t have come if you’re just gonna send him home.”

You’re so clever, knowing how to justify his loose composure and charm the head prohero behind this mission. He would’ve continued mentally praising it, but he was rudely interrupted since you decided to turn the toy back on to the highest setting.

“O-Oh shiiiiit.” He hisses, opening his legs as he just accepts and welcomes this sensation. This is definitely out of his usual character, but having this butt plug thing tease him for hours, even when off, it was enough to keep him horny and just be ready to satisfy the ache in his dick and the burning desire running throughout his body.

Hell, he’ll even call you whatever you want if it means you’ll let him cum sometime soon so he can pay attention to what’s going on.

Who cares if he’ll walk around with sticky cum on his thighs or leaking through to his pants. That’s the good thing about wearing black.

You eventually decreased the speed so that it’s at a somewhat safe setting, not wanting to overwhelm him so soon after covering his ass, but also to see how long this could drag. He did say it was your gift, so let’s take it to its fullest potential.

Hours passed since you’ve had this toy buzzing inside of him, and even if he’s supposed to feel grateful, he feels more frustration than gratitude. Sure, you’re being considerate, that way he was able to properly take part and become a little more attentive with the meeting, but his painful erection and oversensitive prostate would love to oppose.

Luckily, the meeting looks like it's coming to an end, and even with his occasional hiccupped whines and hushed moans, you’ve grown bored of such constant reactions and you’re missing his outstanding earlier performance. Surely nothing bad is going to happen; he’s put off his ‘fever’ for so long.

It’s time to help him. Pity he’s talking right now.

“So, we’ll send these g-guys... fuck.” Aizawa whispered the last part, twitching with the sudden increase of the speed.

“What was that?”

Just as he was going to reply, you finished increasing up to the last setting once more, humming curiously while the same ‘worried’ expression from before appeared on your face.

His face is completely red, whether in shame, embarrassment, in flushed pleasure, who knows. His eyes are quivering as his brain tries to register the overwhelming intensity of the vibrations, and he thinks he can even feel it in his brain.

He quickly dismisses whatever he was going to say with a singular hand motion, sliding his notes towards you so that you can finish sharing his idea to the others before they turn their eyes on someone else.

Even if the attention isn’t on him anymore, he can’t help but like the idea that they already know what’s going on, with the way the same sidekick from before is also blushing and seems fidgety. He’s trying so hard not to rub himself against your pliant hand, which you never finished slipping away, but he’s so, so sure if he does feel you, he’ll just sob.

It’s too much.

“T-too mu-uch. T-turn i-it down- augh.” He’s trying his best to whisper, but really he’s so overwhelmed he dumbly moans it out into your ear.

You shake your head, ‘accidentally’ brushing your fingertips over his bulge. If only this toy had another setting, maybe that would help make him shameless.

His eyes and throat are burning, shame eating away at his stomach before being overcome slowly by the need to cum. Has he always been this dirty? This easy to let defile? No, god no, but with you he can’t help it. Why else would he have bought a ‘super intense’ black silicone with a matching ‘diamond’ butt plug? It’s obvious he wanted to show it off, be a good boy for you, to treat you right.

So, seeing how you don’t want to turn it down and kind of going against your words of not letting anyone know, this is what you truly want, right? Him not-so-quietly and not-so-nonchalantly lose control over everything going on, with the slight exception of his breathing, while you continue to expose him like this to an uninterested crowd. Maybe he would like a crowd to watch him and mock him? Maybe call him a slut while giggling about how disgusting he is? Being tied up and strapped with a bunch of more vibrators all over his body? Being covered in so much cum he’s too dirty to be touched by anyone?

His grip with himself is loosening and his hips are trying to chase after your fingers or try to grind down some more onto the butt plug. Combining his growing need with his shameless fantasy, he couldn’t warn you properly, or himself, before he abruptly cums hard in his pants, a sob of “please” muffled by  your quick right hand and the one with the remote lowers the speed so it helps ride out his unexpected high and not hurt him. 

The only thing is, that you forget just how long his orgasms can last with just butt play. It’s a toe curling, leg shaking, dick exploding orgasm. It’s enough to suddenly make you wonder if he’ll be able to walk on stable legs.

The meeting ends with everyone confirming all conclusions while you’re whispering sweet affirmations and praises into his ear, pressing your palm harder onto his mouth with every other sob of your name, shameless dumb moaning and the occasional hiccups of gratitude.

Now, how to bribe the poor horny sidekick who has been not-so-secretly watching this whole ordeal into staying quiet?

[florencesmachine]

tell me what's going on

Why tumblr user donottearmedown/luciequeenofelfame/luciehvrondaie is an embarrassment: a Masterpost

Hi if you’re here it’s because you’ve heard that tumblr user donottearmedown is an embarrassment and you’d like to know all the details! Let me break it down. It all started with this post by @minacarstairs (Tessa (yes @minacarstairs’s name is Tessa sorry if that makes this post confusing)), in which donottearmedown originally reached out to Tessa by sending her something along the lines of “Do you ship heronstairs/herongraystairs?” And Tessa replied with something along the lines of “Yeah lmao herongraystairs rights!”

(I wanna note that Tessa was being very polite, and continues to be very polite to people who disagree with her opinions on heronstairs/herongraystairs. She even began her original conversation with dont tear me down by saying it’s a matter of personal interpretation :) it’s donottearmedown who made the conversation mean-spirited)

(Also Tessa pls correct next if I’m wrong on any of this thnx)

And then sometime later, the conversation above ensues in which donottearmedown, seemingly perfectly reasonable at first, disagrees with the ship and offers a link to look at. (She throws this link around any chance she gets. She really fucking loves this link.) I got involved because in her answer, Tessa replies back with a link from a post I made from my own blog starting back in 2018, and then continued to add to it until my account got terminated (long story). You can read through both posts and check out all the replies! But basically we realized during this interaction that donottearmedown wasn’t looking to have a friendly conversation and was, in fact, batshit crazy. They were saying some absolute brain dead shit like that people shipping heronstairs is the same as people shipping Alec x Clary. Here’s the screenshot:

donottearmedown came back the next day to reply on several of Tessa and mine’s post which she wasn’t even tagged in, such as this one, and this one that had absolutely nothing to do with her because I make that same post every year. Here’s a screenshot from my old account last year via Instagram:

(there are more posts she replied to but I can’t be bothered to look for them, I’m sure you can find them on their blog if you can spare the braincells)

Racism by donottearmedown:

So, Tessa received this anon which tipped us off to some of the other tomfoolery on donottearmedown’s blog. We decided to look for ourselves and lo and behold, here’s the post of donottearmedown accusing Cassandra Clare of having a “Chinese kink” for writing Jessa:

Which, first of all, makes no sense because there’s like 2 Chinese characters in TSC total. If anything CC has a straight white boy kink lmao. But by saying this she was basically implying that the ONLY way Tessa (book!Tessa), or anybody who loves Jem, can love him is if they have a “Chinese kink”. Which donottearmedown can’t seem to be able to understand is an incredibly racist thing to say and think.

They also reblogged this BLM link and proceeded to tag it with absolute nonsense like “#smoke weed #lose weight #wessa”. I don’t know if her intentions were to mock the BLM movement but I still found this to be so incredibly disrespectful and tone deaf.

I also feel like I should mention this ask sent to Tessa in which donottearmedown implies she ~could be~ Asian, but it’s “none of her business anyways” (as if being Asian would absolve anyone of being racist akjsksjsj), but based on the fact that she has a track record of lying and pretending to be a person she’s not (as you will soon see :)) I call bullshit lmao:

I think that was the last of our interactions until today? Tessa and I were distracted because we have, you know, real lives.

But anyway, that brings us to today.

donottearmedown started replying to posts from mine and Tessa’s blogs which she wasn’t tagged in, again, and made several days ago. This one literally wasn’t even about her, it was about someone else that had engaged with one of Tessa’s posts. I made that post over a week ago and had already forgotten about it, but clearly donottearmedown never stops thinking about us 😳

NOW I WOULD LIKE TO POINT OUT THIS POST SPECIFICALLY.

Why? Because donottearmedown and luciequeenofelfame (now luciehervndaie) interacted on this post, as 2 seperate entities. luciequeenofelfame had also interacted with Tessa and I’s original posts at the beginning of June (you can check the replies on the posts!) coming to donottearmedown’s defense, and praising her for her opinions and other shit like that.

Here’s the screenshot. As you can see here, luciehervndaie reblogs from donottearmedown and adds on to their opinion:

Now here’s the kicker: donottearmedown and luciehervndaie are the same person.

As in, this bitch literally made up a second blog so that she can pretend to be someone else agreeing with her own opinions and cheering herself on.

Here’s the proof:

I made this post calling out donottearmedown on their racism. I didn’t bother tagging her in the original post because I knew she was stalking my blog and would see it eventually anyway. 😌 And they took the bait, as you can see.

AND THEN I got the notification that luciequeenofelfame had replied to my post. Here’s the reply:

Now here’s where donottearmedown/luciequeenofelfame made an oopsie! 😳

Notice where luciequeenofelfame says “1. I didn’t delete it lmao”. She’s responding to my tags on this post where I’m calling out donottearmedown on her racist post, and my tags read:

“#the fact you went and deleted this post because you KNEW you were about to get slammed #comedy”

(context: @wilhelminacarstairs looked on donottearmedown’s blog recently looking for the post I screenshotted in the link above, and he couldn’t find it so I assumed she deleted it so that I wouldn’t call her out on it. Although she claims she didn’t delete it, so! Maybe it’s still up! Feel free to look for it and let me know lmao)

Now, in the tags I am obviously talking to donottearmedown, correct? So then why is luciequeenofelfame replying that she didn’t delete anything? 🤔 AND JUST AS IM ABOUT TO REPLY-

Wow, looks like I can’t reblog the post. Why? Because luciequeenofelfame has deleted it, and then IMMEDITALY changed her url to luciehvrondaie, hoping it would cover her tracks. Little does she know, tumblr notifications are forever:

As you can see, donottearmedown/luciequeenofelfame/luciehervndaie realized they made an oopsie, so she deleted her first response and posted it again from the blog she actually MEANT to post it from. Damn if only she knew that @minacarstairs @wilhelminacarstairs and I keep screenshots of e v e r y t h i n g :/ Then she might have gotten away with it! 😩

But yeah lmao here are the posts I made about it immeditaly afterwards calling her out on it because I thought it was funny: X X X X

She defends herself on some of them saying shit like “wow so I’m just making up blogs for support wessa? The majority of the fandom supports Wessa so I’m all of those blogs according to you? I’m thousands of people?!” Or just trying to change the topic back to heronstairs and ignoring the allegations altogether. Like, no luv we’re not saying you’re every single Wessa blog ever. We’re just saying you’re these 2, and we’re right lmao. If you look through both their blogs they also post about the same fandoms, and more damning, make a lot of the same spelling errors. Seriously their speech pattern is exactly the same. Feel free to look through them if you want, and if they don’t start mass-deleting post trying to cover their tracks.

BONUS:

I don’t know how true this is, but according to @fair-but-wilde-child on this ask, donottearmedown is ALSO the infamous twitter stan that complained to CC about TLH having too many gay characters.

EXTRA BONUS:

luciequeenofelfame/luciehvrondaie (donottearmedown’s second account 😌) is the account responsible for that wessa vs jessa comparison chart that went around a while ago LMAOOOOOOOO embarrassing

tl;dr: donottearmedown/luciequeenofelfame/luciehvrondaie is a biphobic racist who’s opinions are so bad she has to make a second account to agree with herself

🥺 tragic

Also I wanna say for the record, as @minacarstairs ans @wilhelminacarstairs will testify, I guessed a while ago these accounts were the same person when I noticed their speech patterns were eerily similar, and how luciequeenofelfame always seemed to reply to donottearmedown’s posts IMMEDITATELY after they were posted. 

So the lesson for today? Cinthia is always right. 😤

[islandchallenge]

Bit of a strange question, and feel free to not awnser this one, but do you guys have any tips for making a kin help blog/ a blog similar to yours? Love the blog in its entirety and you guys seem to know what you're doing haha.

Hello! That’s not a strange question at all, and I hope this helps you! We’ve all 3 have been doing this stuff for 3+ years, and have gone through a few blogs to end up where we are now! It helps we’re all friends too. Lillie currently has their own multi-fandom editing blog outside of this while Lana and I have ours together! Everyone does it differently but this is what I make sure to do:

Make sure you have a DNI or a Blacklist available, even if you don’t make a carrd! It helps to have some info on what you do and don’t do, even if it’s one source!

Once your blog is set up, ask around a few blogs you know for a promo (it helps better if it’s a rebloggable post!) so you can get some immediate followers!

I’d make a few self indulgent or test posts with the tags you want to use to see if that draws any attention and helps get you started with your formatting!

It’s not necessary but if you have any sort of theme, it may draw in a particular audience more (ie: pokemon kins, bnha kins, etc) but it’s optional!

Remember you don’t have to reply to asks if you don’t want to, and it’s also okay to deny or delete any asks for any reason if you can’t get around to it!

Try to avoid problematic people (if you know them), or problematic sources (if you know them) and remember it’s okay to block anyone for your comfort!

You can do whatever you want with yours, but simple themes to start might be easier to manage and keep things more organized especially starting out. You can use ours as any inspiration or help if you need to, it’s perfectly okay!

This blog is for YOU and for FUN, so please find a healthy routine that fits your schedule, it’s okay to take breaks or post 1 thing a day if you can’t do more. Do what you love! Passion > numbers 💚

I hope this helps! If it doesn’t and you need anything else, let us know!! Good luck anon!!

[not-poignant]

1/2 I've had a discussion about commissioned fanart/fanfic with a friend lately, and we disagree. For me, it goes against everything I know ff to stand for to get compensation for it (though freely donated ko-fi by readers, that I can get by). But my friend asked, how ff is different from fanart? "Fanartist strive on ko-fi, patreon, etc, they regularly sell fanmerch... it's a discrimination against ff writers if they are not allowed to get the same support fanartists get". 

And I get where she's coming from... but I still think FF are different, and I can't articulate why. =/ I know you feel similarly, your patreon is always strictly for your original creations. I'm wondering what your thoughts are about this? *Why* is fanart different? *If* it is. (Btw, you don't need to reply, I just figured I ask because you always seem to have such insightful comments and opinions. But anyway, have a great day!!) 

*

Hi anon!

I apologise because I doubt I’m going to have a very clear answer to this. So I’m just going to highlight my wishy washy thoughts because that’s all I have.

* Firstly, I think there is a huge double standard for anyone who thinks it’s fine to accept money for fanart but not for fanfiction. Both are transformative works that take a lot of time and effort to make. Period.

There is a reason for the bias that I’ve observed. And that’s because most professional authors, creators, directors and scriptwriters have - for decades - been pro-fanart and anti-fanfiction, and some of that has trickled down into attitudes in fandom. Even today, pro-fic scriptwriters will say ‘oh I love the idea of fanfiction but legally I can’t read any’ while repeatedly reblogging or retweeting or sharing or even reposting fanart with delight. And that’s the ones who are pro-fic.

But over the decades, there have been plenty of famous authors and properties in particular, who were pro-fanart (though not pro ‘profiting off fanart’), but anti-fanfiction. Anne Rice and Robin Hobb come immediately to mind. Some of these people even commissioned fanart themselves, while taking fanfiction authors to court. The double standard there is huge. If you’re posting fanart on your page but hating on fanfiction authors as a professional, you probably need to examine your biases.

* Secondly, personally, I think it’s unethical for me to accept money for my fanfiction OR fanart. I have no double standard, they are both the same to me.

* Fanartists literally making entire livings off their fanart makes me uncomfortable. Particularly when they’re making more money than the original creator or the original property. I have less of an issue when it’s like, Marvel or Disney, but then, those huge organisations can afford lawyers and send C&Ds (Cease & Desists) and are powerful enough to shut down and destroy accounts (and sadly, artists). But in the case of smaller fandoms, unfortunately it means you can end up with scenarios where some fanartists are making much more than the creators who created the property in the first place. Imho, I don’t like that. But that’s a nuanced, complicated issue for which there are no easy rules.

There are definitely increasingly ways people can profit off fanfiction and do. I think it is immensely hypocritical for anyone who financially supports fanartists to then draw a dubious/mythical line in the sand re: saying fanfiction authors making a profit is wrong. I’m sorry anon, but it’s an attitude that’s literally ‘They can do it but you can’t lmao I have no reason sorry but I guess you don’t deserve to pay your bills for your fanworks but these people do because of their fanworks have a nice day.’

***

Sometimes I wish I really did feel better about making money off fanfiction. I think I’d be making more money if I did. But I just don’t feel okay about it, personally, in myself. I don’t expect anyone else to hold themselves to the same standard, a person’s gotta eat. I’m just lucky I can eat because of Fae Tales.

Fanfiction authors are definitely finding more and more ways to make money off their fiction, usually via Ko-Fi tips, or even just placing fanfic on Wattpad and getting money via that. Even through Patreon (though if they get reported, their account will be closed down and suspended). But the struggle is real. Meanwhile the big name fanartists get huge booths at all the conventions and are treated like celebrities making profits off of fanart, and are more likely to get professional offers re: jobs, including fanart in their portfolio. Try doing the same thing as a professional author. You’ll be treated as a joke.

Yes, the double standard is fucking annoying, and it’s also just crap. There’s probably a reason most people can’t think of a good reason why one group should get paid but not the other, for both doing literally the exact same thing in different creative forms. And that reason is ‘because there is no good reason.’

If fanartists can make a profit so boldly and wildly off of other creative properties, then fanfiction authors should be able to as well, without fear of criticism that’s directed specifically at them but not fanartists. That’s just...internalising the hate that professional creators put out into the world, and that hate came from a fear of their works being stolen by writers, but not by artists. There might be a secondary fear around it hurting fandom, but that’s something that most people don’t really talk about, and it’s not like anyone brings it up re: fanartists selling prints.

Imho, for me personally it’s complicated. I follow a set of rules for myself that I created over twenty years ago, and I don’t know if I’d have the same rules if I was only just starting out in fanfiction now.

But also I’m just grateful that my fanfiction is just always free, and I can do whatever I want without ever having to worry about the bottom line, or income. That’s very freeing for me on a literal level, and it means I can relax. I would lose that if I was making a profit off of it.

But yeah otherwise, in a world where fanartists get to make wild profits off of what they’re doing? It’s frankly just straight up unfair if fanfiction writers can’t. It’s a double standard that hurts people.

[one-abuse-survivor]

Hi there. I have a super basic question which is kinda dumb but... I feel like I rely too much on people when I have bad days, and it is burdening them too much when they have their own stuff going on. I don't know how to handle things by myself. I still live in my abusive parents house so I am around it all the time and still don't know how to help myself. Any advice on things I can do to be less reliant on my friends? (Currently unable to leave parents house, but working on it asap)

Hi! Don’t worry, there are no dumb questions :)

I can relate a lot to this ask--I used to feel very similarly when I was still in my abuser’s house: like I was burdening my friends whenever I talked about it, and like I deserved to suffer silently and not being able to keeping all of it in was a sign of weakness. During recovery, I’ve had to unlearn this fear and learn that it’s okay to not keep my pain to myself, because the people who care about me don’t consider me a burden and they want to help. So, first of all, I wanted to tell you that it’s okay to need to rely on others, even if it doesn’t feel like it a lot of the time. No one is meant to battle through life alone.

That being said, it’s completely understandable to want and need to learn some techniques to handle things by yourself, especially if it’s distressing for you to rely on others and you don’t have the space to unlearn that just yet. So here are a few tips that I think can help handle the bad days: 

- Try to practice self-compassion. 

When you’re having a bad day, it’s easy to get mad at yourself, to punish yourself for struggling, and to repeat many of the things your abusers say about you to yourself (for example, that you’re worthless, that your feelings don’t matter, that you don’t deserve basic things like food and sleep...). 

To be able to combat those thoughts with compassionate ones, one trick my therapist taught me is to picture a friend or someone you care about in your situation. What would you tell your friend, or your cousin, or another hypothetical victim of trauma, if they were feeling the way you’re feeling right now? I, personally, would tell them exactly what I usually tell people on this blog and what I’m about to tell you: that it’s okay to struggle and to feel the way you’re feeling right now. That you’re going through a very serious, very debilitating thing called trauma, and that you’re currently living in survival mode. When all your body is concentrating on surviving for extended periods of time, it’s completely understandable to struggle to do other things, like homework, catching up with friends, or working on your personal growth/thinking about the future. It’s okay if there are days when all you can do is survive. It’s okay if there are moments when you’re in so much emotional pain you end up self-harming or punishing yourself: you still deserve kindness after you feel like you’ve failed, because you’re doing your best in a very serious and dangerous situation that no one should ever have to go through. And for that, you deserve to be patient with yourself and to allow yourself the things you need (sleep, food, to cuddle a teddy bear for comfort, to cry...). Your abusers are already punishing you enough; you don’t deserve to punish yourself further. You deserve to treat yourself like you would treat anyone else in your situation, even when you feel like you’ve messed up or when you think you don’t deserve it.

- Find alternative ways of venting. 

When you want to vent about something that just happened at home but you feel like you’ll burden your friends if you tell them, instead of keeping it in, find alternative ways of letting all of it out. One option is to keep a diary, but depending on your abusers, this might be very unsafe to do, since they could go looking for a diary in your room and read it. The same goes for phone notes: they’re very useful to say everything you want to say without worrying anyone will read it, and they have the added bonus that you can easily delete them afterwards, but if you want to keep them to help with your memory issues and your abusers usually go through your phone, it might not be safe. 

If you still want to write down how you feel but none of the previous options work for you, you can also use my blog for that purpose, either through (anon or not) asks or via DMs. It’s what the blog is here for, and I already establish my own boundaries by only checking it when I can deal with it, so you don’t have to worry about burdening me :) you can also add a star at the beginning of the ask(s) and I won’t reply, I’ll just post what you sent. You don’t have to be logged in or even have a tumblr account to send anon asks! And if you want to DM me without getting a reply, tbh you can do that too--just let me know you don’t want me to reply at all and I won’t, and you can archive your thoughts there. I’m sure there are other internet spaces intended for this same purpose, too!

Additionally, if you want to vent without using words/thinking about what happened, you can do vent art (which can be as simple as scratching paper with a pen until it breaks tbh), exhaust yourself physically to let out your anger (just running at max speed for a few seconds helps me, but jumping, waving your arms vigorously, or going for a walk and going at a really fast pace while I listen to music also do the trick. But remember that you should only do this if you feel like it’ll help in the moment, and not exhaust yourself physically as a way of punishment!), or write stories where other characters feel how you feel (or where you can put any thoughts/feelings you’re having into words without making it about your current situation). I used to do this a lot, and it helped me express myself without being the subject of the emotions I was expressing, if that makes sense.

If anyone else has other advice, please feel free to add it!

[stargazing-enby]

Hey! I saw your post where you said you have anxiety and guilt issues when it comes to reblogging donation posts, and I was wondering if you had any tips on how to cope with it? It’s something I struggle with too and I had no idea it happened to other people! Also please don’t feel pressured to answer, I can always talk to my therapist, I was just interested in hearing from someone who also experiences it. I hope you’re having a good day! 💙

Hi! It definitely happens to other people I know, and I’m sorry you struggle with this too! 

I wish I had more tips than I do, tbh, but one thing that helps me a lot is having a pre-written reply for when people DM me asking to reblog donation posts. Like so: “Hi, I’m glad you reached out! Unfortunately, donation posts make me feel increased guilt and for that reason, I would rather not reblog it. I hope you understand, and I wish you the best of luck ❤"

That way, you don’t have to put yourself through typing a reply every time, which can be distressing. And yes, I’m aware I don’t owe anyone the personal information I include in that sample reply, but... anxiety be like that, sometimes, and it tells me that if I don’t give them an explanation I’m a horrible person, and I spiral, which is exactly what I’m trying to avoid. Of course, everyone is different, so if you’re scared of getting DMs like this I really recommend writing your own sample reply on your phone notes or somewhere else handy where you can copy and paste it :) 

This also applies to asks, though depending on my mood and mental stability I might just not reply to those; especially if they’re anon. It’s easier for me to ignore asks because Tumblr has a tendency to eat asks anyway, so I can always tell myself the person probably thought I didn’t receive it, or just forgot about it after a while because they can’t see it sitting there, unlike with DMs.

As for seeing the posts on my dash, I have blacklisted the tag #donations, which a lot of people use for donation posts. I’ve also blacklisted #guilt tripping, even though that doesn’t usually help XD but hey, there’s always the possibility that someone will tag a guilt-tripping post as such someday and spare me the anxiety attack, so why not! 

Also, if the same donation post is crossing your dash again and again and it’s not properly tagged for you to blacklist its tags, you can always block the OP of the post! That way you won’t see their original posts on your dash even if someone you follow reblogs them 😎

And, lastly, even though this applies mostly to other types of Tumblr posts that aren’t donation posts: if someone I follow consistently reblogs posts that have additions of the likes of “if you can’t reblog this unfollow me” or “I don’t care what your blog aesthetic is, you need to reblog this” or “X group of people won’t reblog this post because they just don’t care”, I’ll unfollow them. Like, I’m sorry, but I don’t have the time or the energy to keep reminding myself that I’m not a horrible person for not reblogging random stuff to my blog in my free time. Some people come to Tumblr to evade themselves from the world’s problems, or at least from some of them, and we don’t owe anyone an explanation as to why we don’t reblog something even though we agree with it. I wish more people understood this.

I hope some of this helps! Please remember that you never, under any circumstances HAVE TO reblog or reply to a single thing that makes you uncomfortable and that having a sample reply is something that helps me, personally, but if you’d rather delete those DMs as soon as you see them so you never have to think about them again, that is absolutely valid. You are allowed to set your boundaries and tell yourself “no, my boundary is THIS and I’m not letting this post step over it”. And you definitely never, ever owe anyone money just because they’re struggling!

[notjustabooksims]

Hi! This is probably dumb, but its quarantine and i wanted to start a simblr while i have time, any tips, advice, or just stuff in general for a first timer in this? Thank you 💙

Note: I promised @pan-pixie​ that I’d tag them in the post, since being on anon was a mistake. 😊

I don’t think it’s dumb. Though I don’t know if I have much good advice to give, lol. I’m not really much of an expert on simblrs. I started with my WP blog and came over to tumblr because I wanted somewhere where I could spam random pics... and the rest is history.

I’ve seen a kind of guide to the simblr community going around with terms and etiquette and stuff, but I don’t know where I saw it - if anyone knows, feel free to link it in a reply and I’ll add it here.

So anyway, I’ve tried to write this post all day and I have a hard time coming up with advice, but here are a few things I like to keep in mind:

You don’t have to stick to one blog theme. I post gameplay, interiors, random pics of characters, etc. If I tried to stick to just one thing, I wouldn’t have fun. If there’s one thing you have in mind that you really want to post - cool. If not - also cool.

Don’t get hung up on posting stuff that’s popular or whatever. Don’t worry about posting all the time. Keep it fun. It’s not your job.

Try not to compare yourself to others. (In saying that, know that I compare myself to others incessantly and my self-esteem is at times non-existent). One thing I’m trying to do is that when I look at others’ pictures and I think they’re better than mine, I reflect: What exactly is it about this picture that I like? Colours, composition, certain high quality CC items, lighting? And then I try and see how I can capture that in my own pictures.

Don’t worry about finding your aesthetic or style or whatever. Your personality shines through no matter what you do. It can develop and you can take it in specific directions, but it’s not something you have to force.

Also don’t worry about posting perfect pictures with gorgeous editing and ReShade and so on. Some days you just want to slap a filtre on gameplay pics and call it a day. That’s cool!

Say hi to people - like their stuff, write replies, compliment people. If you find a nice little community to hang around in, simblr will be a lot more fun. Tags help to get noticed, but engaging with others is even better.

I think that’s basically stuff I’d keep in mind, though if anyone else has some thoughts, feel free to drop them in the replies. I hope you have fun with your simblr. 💕

[neonhelper]

hi i'm sorry if this is an odd question to ask but i'm sort of new to roleplay and recently found out about sex/smut roleplay. do people get off or something when they do smut? i'm just not really sure the point of it and i don't know if i'm better off asking for a fade-to-black. i don't mind writing it for the actual writing aspect but i'm not really comfortable with someone masturbating or what ever. i'm sorry if this was a gross question or TMI by the way

Hi! It’s not an odd or gross question at all! Before I get into it, a bit of disclosure: I haven’t written any smut in at least... five years? Probably more. No real reason why. But, I used to write it a lot. I say this to say I do have some (dated) experience in writing smut in independent rp and group rp settings, but I got nothing on the specifics on the exclusively smut rp community, which is beyond me. 

I think there’s probably two general reasons people write smut when they rp. The more common reason is for characterization purposes. Sex and sexuality can be a big part of a character’s identity, and writing smut is one way writers can learn more about their characters and develop relationships and plots for their characters. I haven’t written any smut in years, but when I did, it was fully for ship and characterization purposes. I’d write it because my muse’s relationship had developed to the point where sex was the next step for them, and incorporating it opened another level of their relationship. I’d write it because the plot my character was in was homewrecking and passionate and me and more partner were cool with writing out the details. But I mostly wrote it because it was fun. I had a lot of fun writing it, and I was comfortable writing it. I initially started writing it because it was something new for me and I was curious and wanted to develop my writing skills more in the genre, but I quickly came to like how writing it helped me find out more about my characters: their interests, their reactions to things, and how their characterization impacted this element of their life (what were their limits? their kinks? their past experiences? what did they consider to be intimate and what was more casual?). This post here kinda sums the general attitude up nicely. And that’s a major reason why some people choose to write smut: to develop their characters and because they’re comfortable with writing it.

However, as you asked, yes, there are people who write smut to get off. It comes with the territory, unfortunately. And I’m not experienced enough in the tumblr smut rp community to give any relevant tips on how to tell these people apart from the people who are writing it for well-intentioned purposes. But back in the day, when I was writing smut more regularly on different platforms before I came to tumblr, the way I could tell when someone wanted to write it to get off was in the way they tended to put smut above everything else. The writing usually wasn’t as nuanced. They liked to use platforms like Chatzys where they could count on quick replies. The details of the character didn’t matter as much as the act. All their threads ended in smut. It was more obvious to tell, then. Now, I’m a bit too far removed to know if there are any more relevant ways to tell. 

The most important thing to know is that writing smut is a choice. It is not a necessity to have a successful ship, or to engage in plots involving sex. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to fade to black. When it comes to writing smut, it comes down to how comfortable you are with writing it, and how comfortable you are with your partner. If you feel like you don’t know what their intentions are when they’re writing it, then just let them know you want to fade to black. If you’re comfortable writing it with them, discuss it with your partner and figure out how far you plan for your characters to go before writing it. I’d generally advise staying clear of the smut rp community/tags entirely, just because it is a smut-centered community and there are inevitably gonna be a good amount of people mixed in there who are writing it to get off. But in general groups and independent rp circles, you’re usually gonna come across less people in it for getting off and more in it for writing purposes. Independent roleplayers will usually have a smut rule in their rules detailing what they’re comfortable with upfront, while in groups, you can add a little note to your intros that you’re not big on writing smut if you’d like to put an extra barrier out there to keep the nasties away. 

It all boils down to your comfort level. Writing smut, fading to black, not putting your characters in the situation at all - that’s all up to you, and what you feel comfortable writing. Communication is key. Talk with your partner. Tell them your comfort levels, and find out what their comfort levels are. If they’re a new partner and you’re not comfortable enough with them yet, tell them you want to fade to black. If they’re a decent human being, they’ll be cool with it. If they try to persuade you, drop them.

If you are interested in writing smut and exploring that, cool! I have a tag here that’s filled with guides that can help you out. Remember to make sure your partner’s not a minor. If you’re not interested, also cool! I feel like this was a hot button topic on my dash a little while ago, so if anyone has anything to add on the subject, or any tips/tricks on how to suss out who’s writing smut to get off, please feel free to reply to this/message me/let me know and I’ll add it to this post for this anon here!

[antigoneblue]

hi, i just abandoned my old blog and started a new one to post my poetry like. last night and ik it takes a while to get exposure but do u have any tips for getting ppl to read ur stuff if ur new and have like 4 followers? (btw love love love ur poetry it just feels rly raw and emotional and ahhhhhhhh ur amazing!!)

hi!! this is something that everyone probably has different strategies on, so this is just my two cents. this got really long so i’m putting it under a “read more”

make your blog presentable & unique/true to your style. this might sound like a snobbish thing to say, but there are tons of people blogging on tumblr. if you want people to notice you and to linger on your page, try and choose a good username, a profile pic that fits your vibe, a theme that is clear and easy to navigate, etc. there have legitimately been times when i’ve wanted to follow somebody but their desktop theme has been so messy that i couldn’t find their follow button. make your blog look nice!! have a nice tagging system!! make it obvious that you put some amount of thought and deliberation into making it. 

interact with poets you admire. this does not mean that you shoot people messages like “follow for a follow”  though, like. personally, i never follow people who send me stuff like that. be sincere.  everyone loves validation. reblog their stuff and talk in tags about why you loved it. message them if they’re having a bad day and tell them that you care.  make rec lists with other people’s poetry & tag them in these. something i used to do was leave poets whose work i liked little poems i’d written for them in their askboxes, usually off anon. do things like that, but don’t expect anything in return. if someone feels like you are genuinely being supportive, they are more likely to want to support you too, as compared to the whole “follow for a follow” thing.  you’ll also make cool friends in the process!!

this should’ve been point #1 maybe but i’d suggest that you keep your poetry on your main blog. your main blog is what shows in people’s notifs for likes, replies, asks and follows. it is much harder to get your sideblog to be as visible, usually. however, i have friends who have poetry sideblogs and on their main blog title or bio they mention “PLS FOLLOW ME @ ______ WHICH IS WHERE MY POETRY IS.” which is fine of course, but i’m not sure how effective it is? i used to have a poetry sideblog in 2016. i had maybe 30 followers. it’s HARD.

use relevant hashtags. i’m going to be super duper honest, i don’t really remember which hashtags work best. i usually use spilled ink, poets on tumblr, free verse, poetry, and other arbitrary tags as well as network tags. see what tags poets you like use and try using those. don’t use tags that you don’t have any claim to use (like don’t use poc tags if you’re white, etc. but you probably already knew that. also some networks like soft poets society have closed tags, so don’t use those without their permission.) some poets encourage their followers to use tags they’re tracking (i track #antigoneblue, for example) so like. if you want to be noticed just see which tags seem to work! 

join networks. you’ll meet like minded creators, and you will also find yourself in a space where everyone promotes everyone else. networks are usually good places to get exposure, to get noticed, and also to grow as a poet! 

interact with prompts. some networks post discussions, like nosebleedclub used to (idk if they still do?). some users post prompts, like adam ( julykings ) used to. keep your eyes open for these. when you write for them, the prompters will usually check your work out, and if they like it, they may promote it as well! 

don’t feel bad about reblogging your own work. we’re all yelling into a void trying to get noticed here.

similarly - don’t feel bad reblogging posts like “i’m looking for more poetry blogs to follow, reblog this and i’ll check yours out.” do it!!  there’s nothing shameful about wanting to be noticed.

i can’t think of anything else, but i feel like i’m forgetting stuff. anyone from @inkflowsnetwork have anything to add? uhhh….. @avi-burton-writing - you don’t run a poetry blog but you’re a pretty active and integral part of the writeblr community, do you have anything else to add????? 

idk. if anyone wants to add something, or expand/ contradict one of my points, feel free to! all the best, anon!

[caithelps]

hi. i'm in a horror rp right now and it's a small group. i posted a short, general, open starter 3 days ago after responding to a few open ones, and a few others have posted starters after me. theirs have gotten replies and mine hasn't, although it's not badly written (imo) and is written in a way that absolutely anyone can answer. do you have any tips for me?

Hello, I’m sorry to hear you are being ignored. If I were in the same position I would reply to a few others and maybe message the admin(s) to let them know about the situation. I’m sorry if this was not the best advice, I haven’t been in an actual group for a while. But if you need anything else please let me know! And if anyone else has suggestions feel free to reply to this to help this anon out!

[thenearsightedmicroraptor]

Heya Raptor- as a fellow autistic and you being a prominent autistic user on my dash, I need some advice. I constantly feel burnt out because I got out of a very intensive class this past summer, and now I don’t have the mental energy to do p much anything. I can still do schoolwork and enjoyable stuff but the amount of mental prep to do it takes a long time. As a result I end up in ruts where I can’t do anything but my brain keeps telling me that I need to do the thing. (1/2)

Do you have any tips to get over this or how to manage it? Is this something in the autistic community that’s fairly common that I somehow don’t know about? I just keep feeling useless for this all the time and need guidance. Thank you. (2/2)        

Tumblr just straight up ATE my first reply to this ask, so here we go again. I could use this opportunity to make my second answer less long-winded and rambly but I can tell you already that that’s not going to happen. Sorry about the upcoming monster of a post.

Anon, you seem to be in what I like to call Figurative Spoon Dept. If you don’t know the spoon theory, ‘spoons’ is a metaphor for units of energy and is used by many disabled people, not only autistics, but all sorts of mental or physical disability.

Let’s say a person for whom existing is easy has 30 spoons to spend a day, and daily life generally takes 10. They almost always have 20 extra spoons, which is why they can socialize and be CEOs and go partying and walk tightrope across the Grand Canyon or whatever it is that normal people do (I don’t know, I don’t think I’ve ever seen one). and on the day where their spoon payout is a little less, like, say, 20 spoons, they’re going to be a little tired but ultimately fine, and they will recover the next day.

Autistic people use more energy on existing, so to translate, let’s say you get 12 spoons a day, plus-minus. You can still follow along with a 10-spoon routine, and sometimes you can use your extra spoons on  socializing or going to a party or tightrope walking if you really want to try that. Not every day, but you can do it without dying (providing you don’t fall into the grand canyon, then you’ll probably not feel as good, autistic or no)

And then you had to take a class that took 15 spoons per day. I guess you either had to do it or really really wnated to do it, so you did what neurotypical people might  refer to as “”“pulling yourself together”“” because they do not know what they are talking about.

And the thing about “”“pulling yourself together”“” is that if you are over your spoon cap but not by too much, you can actually do this. You can spend 15 spoons every day and still manage, at least somewhat, depending on who you are.

But when you then STOP having to spend those spoons, you open your spoon drawer to get the ten spoons you need for a normal day … and it’s empty. You have used spoons you don’t have. You have taken a Mental Student Loan and you are now in Figurative Spoon Debt.

Figurative Spoon Dept is a pretty cool band name, but nothing else about it is cool.

See, if you get eleven or twelve spoons a day, spending ten on your daily life isn’t a problem, BUT IF YOU HAVE TO PAY FIVE SPOONS EVERY DAY to the Figurative Spoon Debt Collector, you are left with like, seven. I think. I’m bad at math.six or seven there we go.

HOW TO MOST EFFECTIVELY GET RID OF YOUR FIGURATIVE SPOON DEPT:

- If something is Okay but Not Great, don’t do it. If there’s a social gathering you would usually go to because there’s free cake, skip it. Optionally try and get cake from somewhere else. If there’s, like, an entire free meal, and going would cost less spoons than cooking yourself, you can consider it, but generally, if something isn’t necessary or a great time, skip it.

- ask for help. Usually you might be able to do your dishes just fine, but if you can free one spoon up by having someone else do it, you’re one step closer to getting rid of your spoon debt. Maybe when you’re back to being spoonful you can do the same for them. If anyone belittles you for needing help, they are douchebags, and I suggest you politely set them on fire.(If politely setting people on fire costs spoons, you might want to wait until you’re on your feet again)

- DON’T DO THINGS TO BE POLITE. You’re invited to your cousin’s birthday party but your cousin is a literal dead fish that just sits there and smells bad and looks very sad in their party hat and you mostly go to make them happy because ohana means family and family means you don’t question how you’re related to a dead fish? Don’t go. Some people don’t count mental health problems as being “"real illness”“, but they’re ableist and ignorant and you might want to write them on the list of people we’re going to politely set on fire. Tell people you’re sick. I know it can be hard to see it as a real illness but it IS, your brain is an organ and you need this. Just stay at home okay.

- be good to your dank self. You might have to say no to things you genuinely would like to do on days where you’re really low on spoons, and this sucks, and you deserve whatever good thingsyou can get your hands on to make up for it. You want chocolate? Go get chocolate.

- be careful, even when things get easier. At some point, you might have paid so much of your debt off that you only have to pay three spoons back a day instead of five, but if you decide to go tightrope walking that same day, you might find yourself lacking spoons again. This doesn’t mean you’re back to square one, but it might mean a  few days of being Spoonless in Seattle. Sadly, unlike real debt, nobody can tell you exactly how many spoons you owe, so just look out for yourself.

Now go forth and do a lot of nothing!! I believe in you. It’s harder than it sounds, especially when you’re used to being able to keep up with a normal routine, but I’m sure you’ll get the hang of it. Just do your best to take it easy and make life as easy as possible.

Thank you for the question! I hope some of this helped. If there’s anything you don’t understand, then a) don’t worry, b) I was probably trying to be funny, and c) I am always up for trying to clarify (even though any explanation will probably end up long-winded and rambling. I’m sorry. It’s who I am as a person)

And ONE LAST NOTE: Do you know about the sunfish? Mola Mola? It drifts around and eats jellyfish. It survives on laying more eggs than any other vertebrate and by not being worth eating. It is the most useless fish. And nature can’t stop them. I greatly admire this fish. If you feel useless for any reason, any reason at all, think of the sunfish. Be as useless and unstoppable as the sunfish. What are people going to do? Try to stop you, from doing nothing? They can’t. Nobody can stop you. You are the king of the world.

[sebuntease]

My Ear’s Candy. (Mingyu Smut)

This has been in our inbox for months now definitely and I’m so sorry I only ever got to finish it now, to the anon who requested it, I’m so fucking sorry it took so long. There are still like 18 more smuts I have to finish and I’ve been working on my writing, I’ll also be editing some posted works if I get the chance to. Also, I’m sorry it’s short, this is probably one of the shortest smuts I’ve written probably cause I don’t know how to write oral just yet, but I’ll be sure to improve it. Thank you so much for waiting, and again I’m sorry if this was boring and stuff shit, I’m sorry. Wegkhagfkjawfa

-admin kate

this contains oral!sex, a little fluff, is kinda short. But I hope ya’ll like it.

“Te quiero.” Your boyfriend’s voice boomed across the loud speakers, it was the 2016 Thank You Festival and your boyfriend was featuring in Baek Ji Young’s ‘My Ear’s Candy’ with his fellow member Moon Junhui, Jun was a natural troublemaker you could say. You wanted to surprise Mingyu, because his schedule is always packed that he isn’t able to squeeze some time for you, but you understood that, it was his job after all and it was just something he loved doing, and you loved how passionate he was. So instead, you made some time for him, not only that but you had definitely noticed the extra lines on his forehead and his tired eyes, but even so his orbs held genuine happiness. He really didn’t want you to come today because he would be more nervous than usual because then he’d remember the last time that he had invited you to one of their shows, he remembered losing composure and it resulted in a good laugh with the members.

But shit, you knew your boyfriend was handsome, but boy does he look good in that suit, absolutely fuckable indeed. You love his tan skin just the way it was, his skin looked great on him. You never understood why he was so insecure about his skin tone, you’d always remind him he was perfect just the way he was. But maybe those never-ending questions that people would ask, ‘Why are you so tan?’ actually made him think about it more, when he really shouldn’t. But it really doesn’t matter at all, he’s so lovable that anyone would like him.

As you watched him intently, he was the only one you saw. You’d always be reminded of how much you love this person and how glad you were to be his significant other, and you were the lucky person, because not anyone could be in your place. Mingyu was everything you could ever ask for. As you stood backstage, you didn’t think you’d be this affected. You’ve seen him perform on stage loads of times, but his performance right now was sending tingles down there. He just looks so hot, you couldn’t wait for him to finish to give him a reward for working so hard. You also know how exhausted he was lately because you keep tabs on his members and they were more than happy to provide information about his condition, you all were great friends after all.

-

Mingyu walked off stage with Jun beside him, drinking big gulps as he quenched his thirst, his head still in the clouds after the performance. Bowing to everyone gratefully as they wiped off their sweat with folds of tissue, he didn’t notice you stalk behind the pillar just across from where he and his member stood.

“You’ve worked hard.” Their senior, Baek Ji Young had greeted the boys with the smile, and they return the gesture respectfully, bowing the second they saw her. A faint smile had spread across your features at their response.

Jun’s head swiveled around the place, looking for a familiar face, and just as his eyes landed on you, he gave you a knowing smirk. In which you replied with a sly thumbs up, you then noticed him chat with Mingyu a bit before speeding off, leaving your confused boyfriend behind. Just as you were about to tip-toe your way towards him, he sheds himself of the blazer he had on, even under his black shirt you could very well see his toned chest threatening to break through the thin fabric. You couldn’t help but swoon at the sight, you bit your lip slowly, the mere thought of  the countless things you could do to him and the countless things he could do to you.

You embrace him in a tight back hug and he jerks forward in surprise, but when he craned his neck to look at you, his face lit up like a Christmas tree.

“Y/N!” He held you close, you buried your face in his chest, his cologne strong even thought he was covered in sweat beforehand.

“You looked so cool!” You gushed, and he gives you an embarrassed smile. “You were watching?”

“Saranghae~” You mimic him from earlier, and he only pulls you in for a savoring hug, because he missed you and maybe because he was just a tad bit embarrassed, knowing you’d tease him all about it later.

“I love you.” He sang softly as he held you tight, and you feel your heart flutter in your chest. “You’re so cheesy, why am I even dating you.” You complain, but hide a smile as you bury your face in his chest.

“I really missed you.” He hugs you even tighter, making you struggle to breathe, he was a big man, he could bend you easily like a toothpick. You let out a squeal because of how tight he squeezed you, “Jesus christ, easy boy.” You joke, tip-toeing to pat him on the head, he pouts playfully, intertwining his large hands with yours, rocking back and forth on his feet as he leans close to you, eyes solely trained on your lips.

“Didn’t you miss me too?” He says lowly, in a suggesting tone that only you could hear. You bit your lip, looking around cheekily before replying, just as hinting.

“You bet I did.” You say softly, your eyes land on his lips, in which he notices and takes his bottom lip between his teeth. “But there is something else I kind of miss.” your hands graze against his belt, a mischievous look on your face, you feel him tense against your touch.

“Yeah?” He almost growls, with a very cloudy look in his eyes, his hands land on your waist, pulling you closer, not wanting to leave even an inch of space in between you, and you could already feel something stiff poke against your stomach.

“Yeah.” You purr, hooking your hands behind his neck, slightly tugging at his hair and you could faintly hear him let out a quiet groan. “You know,” you start in a seducing tone, and at this moment you were both just staring into each other’s eyes, just deliberately forgetting about the fact that you were surrounded by people, people that were busy bustling around.

“You did a really amazing job today. Proud girlfriend here.” You whisper, and he hums lowly in response knowing you had more to say. “And this,” You tug at the collar of the shirt at his nape, he feels himself ignite something from deep inside him. Every single touch you gave, left a trail of burning desire.

Was this the effect of not seeing you in so long? If it was, then it had already been decided that you weren’t going to leave him hungry today.

“Looks really great on you,” Your husky voice was music to his ears, he had to resist closing his eyes and just listen to you speak all day, he just couldn’t get enough. Loving the compliments and knowing where the conversation was going, he once again hums in response. “And I’d really love it if you’d…” You were stalling your words, making him grow impatient, his grip on your waist tightened quite considerably.

“If I’d what?” His hot breath fanned over your face, growing impatient, but he still dares to take the torture.

“If you’d maybe…” You trail off, making him groan in protest. “Fuck, what is it.” He demands in a harsh whisper, grinding your hips to his roughly, and you only giggle at how he was rushing you. You were very turned on at this point, and the bulge on his jeans was more than enough proof he was too. “You gonna keep on giggling like that?” He taunts, leaning in for a kiss, but your finger was on his lips in a matter of seconds, stopping him with a sexy smirk.

“Not here.” You whisper, looking around to see a few eyes on the two of you already. He stomps his foot childishly, but he knew he had to resist. It was risky, too risky.

He takes your free hand, “But I’m already hard.” And he slyly places it on his growing bulge, and you immediately pry your hands away, looking around nervously. You hit him on the shoulder to scold him, but he only chuckles at your reaction. “Keep it in your pants for little longer.” He then scoffs in disbelief, “Then you should’ve made me hard later, not now.” He groans, you giggle at his childish reasoning.

“Why did you make me hard if you weren’t going to do anything about it.” He continues to whine, you roll your eyes and drag him somewhere, as eyes were falling on the two of you too quickly. He’s literally a man-boy.

“Shut it, what if someone hears?” You look around for any doors to go through while scolding him, he just tags along behind you.  “Then they’ll know you seduced me, and what’s worse- you didn’t take responsibility.” He answered, as if trying to blackmail you and you only snort in response. You didn’t notice him halt in his tracks and smiles to himself as he saw a sign that read ‘Pantry’.

Isn’t there a damn bathroom in this area?-

Your thoughts were cut off when you felt a grip on your wrist, pulling you into a cramped room, it smelt of a supermarket, weirdly. And judging by the neatly stocked food and chips you had only figured it was a pantry, and that it was very dark.

But it worked.

“Well?” Your boyfriends voice startled you, it sounded like he was just in front of you but he was at least a foot away, leaning against the shelf. He had this cocky smirk on his face, and you knew that face really well.

“You really couldn’t wait, can you?” He just watched as you walk closer, by the tone of your voice that was unusually low, he knew what it meant. Finally, some release.

He wraps his arms around your waist, capturing you in a passionate kiss, the sound of lips smacking against each other and naughty hands filled the small space. His hands find their way down your back, taking a handful of each cheek, he squeezed your ass making you giggle into the kiss, taking him aback. You break the kiss, starting to suck on his jaw, and all you could hear was his ragged breathing and grunts, your hands trail down his stomach and over his clothed bulge, palming him through his pants he lets a string of curses fall from his mouth.

“Fuck yes.” He groans, his knuckles were turning white as he almost desperately gripped the shelfs like his life depended on it. Your kisses, touches, everything was just driving him to a corner, it was driving him insane. He loved it. You could feel him harden under your hands, and you slowly got to your knees.

Boy, did he miss this sight.

You look up at him with your doe eyes, with a cheeky grin you slowly undid his belt, and just as you were about to pull it out of the rings, you place a gentle kiss on his clothed erection. He sighs upon the sight of you, on your knees, ready to worship his cock. It was everything he’s ever dreamed of.

Knowing anyone could waltz right in, you had to keep quiet in order not to draw any unwanted attention, but knowing how noisy and verbal Mingyu could be, you wouldn’t be surprised. But you liked it, seeing him writher under your presence, was a sight you were very fond of. Pulling his pants down, almost painfully slowly, you were met with his beautiful length. It made your mouth water, beads of precum had already leaked through the tip of his cock, the veins were very prominent, and he was very hard. You had no idea how long it had been since he’s last been inside you, but one thing you knew for sure was that you wanted him in you, now.

But time wasn’t on your side right now, you’ve only got enough time for a quick blow.

“I really missed your cock.” You give the tip a small peck, the precum staining your lips, you lick the salty substance making Mingyu moan in anticipation.

“Yeah?” He mutters, both of you at this point were starting to sweat, this room had no ventilation, it was very cramped, and it was very uncomfortable, but the two of you didn’t really care. “You know what I missed?” He asked, holding back a sigh as you wrap your hand around the base of his length.

“The sound your pussy makes when I fuck you hard, just how you like it.” You moan at his words, taking him in your mouth midway, the vibrations from your moans if not doubled, then tripled the amount of pleasure he was feeling. Warmth just spreading along every inch of his body. He feels his toes curling in his shoes, and you were positive you were also dripping with arousal.

You had trouble taking him all the way in, so your hands covered what couldn’t be reached, his hand tangled in your hair, forcing you to take him even deeper, he was already jabbing the back of your throat and you start sobbing around his dick, large tears streamed down your cheeks, and whenever you’d gag, he let out such pleasured moans, you just let him do it. After a few minutes of merciless mouth fucking, he pulls out, a string of your saliva connected your lips to his cock.

“Look at you.” He says more to himself as he held you by your hair, taking a good look at the dried tears, some of his precum dripped from the corner of your swollen lips, and your lust-filled eyes. He’s never found someone all tired out, look so beautiful. He leans down to give a long deep kiss, he almost grimaced at the taste of himself in his mouth, but he just really loved kissing you. “Will you let me come in your mouth?” He held your chin in his hands, his thumb grazing your bottom lip as he gazed deep into your eyes, you were totally under his word.

“Are you going to fill up my mouth again?” You say with a beam of excitement, he smiles at your eagerness. “Do you want me to?” He asks lovingly, and you nod eagerly, shifting on your knees. He rubs his hand along his shaft, and you watch hungrily, he taps the head of his cock on your lips, and your tongue circled around his head before taking him in once again.

You take him in a deep as you can, starting off slow. Your hands are fisting his shirt as you swallow him in, the sounds of slurping, pants, and the sound of faint music in the background. This was crazy. Giving your boyfriend head in some pantry, if someone knew what went down in here, you weren’t sure if they’d eat the food from here anymore.

When you gag around his cock, he accidentally bucks in your mouth, and you sob. “Yes.” He growls, eyes rolling to the back of his head in complete ecstasy. He was so goddamn close, and by the pace you were going, and your fucked-up state, he feels all the blood rush to his head. You moan around him for the umpteenth time, and he’d just lost it. He’s milking himself down your throat, his cock twitched inside of your mouth as he came, His hot cum trickled down your throat, the substance thick and creamy. His groans as he emptied himself out of you were heavenly.

He pulls out slowly, watching you with his cloudy hazel eyes, you leave your jaw slack, and he almost melts down at the sight of your tear-stained cheeks, flushed face and messed up hair, giving him a view of his white thick cum that just swirled around in your mouth, he gives off a look of authority, “You look beautiful baby.” His voice was a mixture of proudness, and content. You give him a curt smile, and swallow his thick semen. As you did he kneels down, locking lips with yours, yet again, you tuck in his now limp member in his pants, and you could feel him rushing to end the passionate kiss.

“I have to get going, they might be looking for me.” He genuinely seemed like he didn’t want to leave you so soon, but he had to. You give him an assuring smile, “It’s okay, you go ahead. I’ll clean up.” You say rummaging the pantry for any tissue or cloth to just wipe the accumulated sweat, drool and cum you were certain you had around your mouth. But he seemed to have a disapproving look.

“But I feel bad, you didn’t get to cum-” He protests but you cut him off immediately, “Then you can make me cum as many times as you want later.” You shut him up with a quick peck on the cheek. His concerned face morphed into one of mischief, “Later?��� He gives you a cheeky smile, his tone was hinting.

“Yes, later.” You chuckle, seeing his excitement. “You’re staying?!” He wraps his large arms around you in a tight hug, but you could barely manage a ‘yes’ because of the lack of air.

“That’s the second time in one day you try to suffocate your girlfriend to death.” You say in a strained voice, and it was only then he lets go of you, now having an apologetic look. “But I thought you love my hugs.” He pouts.

“Do I?” You tease, and he only pouts even more, if that was even possible, seeing he was going to start sulking soon, “I’m kidding.”

“Sorry~ I just love you so much.” He acts cute, you had to hold back an eyeroll, he almost fails because of his deep voice, but since he looked cute anyway, you take it.

What did you ever do to deserve him?

But what he says next only made you anticipate what you were in for later tonight.

With a very innocent voice and face, the words rolled out of his mouth smoothly as he whispers into your ear. “You can just choke me all you want later then.”

So there you stood, watching his back as he walked away.

It was going to be one hell of a night.

[minscellaneous]

hi there! I’ve seen you mention posts about d&d campaigns your in/making and I’ve always wanted to play d&d but don’t know where to start or how to find people to play with that are my age/are ok w having a beginner. Do you have any tips for how to get started with d&d for someone new and how to find a group (do you play with groups online or do they have to be in person???) thanks for all ur help!! :)

hi!! sorry to get to your question so late! i’ve been especially busy this week with so much due and also a dnd campaign i’m dming at the end of it! 

and oh jeez, i don’t know if i really have any good advice for beginner players and how to find a game lol. i got really lucky bc my closest friends were interested in playing dnd and we were all beginners, including our dm who was a beginner at dming. so i didn’t have to go out and look for a dnd group in my area or online (and no, dnd groups do not have to be played in person). BUT, in my experience i’ve been in dnd discord servers where people talk about dnd and other tabletop rpgs and have people there looking for games to play or are looking for players. in fact, i’m starting my first online Monster of the Week game (which is like dnd? but much simpler) as a player over discord next monday! 

but i mostly play dnd with my friend group in person, so i don’t have much experience looking for a group online or just in general unfortunately :( my general tips for beginners are to just not be daunted by the amount of rules in the players handbook. when i first played, i never even read the players handbook, my dm just helped me out along the way. a good dm is a helpful one. and i think a suggestion for finding a group would be to make a tumblr post saying you’re a beginner and searching for a game to play, and tag it appropriately for people to see. chances are a dm or player may contact you about joining their game. or just scour the tags yourself. i’ve been in the dnd tag before and have seen posts by dms looking for players. but umm other than that, i don’t really know any place else you could look for a game? if anyone reading this has any suggestions for this anon, feel free to reply c: