#idk if i'm 100% recharged again

[wehelddarkness]

x

[therhythmafterthesummer]

Sliding into your ask again. I KNEW CHRIS WAS DEMI!!! I swear because you're demi Wereroomies are just... *sighs, can't choose the right words* one of THE series for me.

So-so-so-so could you please tell me about Chris' journey as demi? How he figured out, his past relationships etc. Anything you'd like to share 😉

If Pretty's gonna be demi too, I'm gonna scream!!!

P.S. I haven't seen your beautiful cat for a long time, how's kitty doing?)

HAVE A NICE WEEKEND!! it's been a rough week for me

If

aww, i'm really flattered🥺 idk it makes me really happy to see so much acceptance towards the ace spectrum in general hahah and to enjoy the series because of it???? warms my heart.

it's been a rough week for me, too, and somehow tonight just got even worse dsfhsjdkhf but i'll live. i hope you get some time to rest and recharge, bb.

here's a pic of Raven from today!! she's doing fine. cute as ever.

now, for the juicy question.... i'll leave my answer under the cut cuz it's gonna be long.

first, i'm gonna say that, just like it happened with his thing for thighs, i hadn't realised i had made him demi until fairly recently while i was writing a drabble... i tend to just write whatever comes to mind and then it's like i have a revelation afterwards lol. so after i wrote a particular phrase i was like "wait a damn minute..." (i'll leave the phrase at the end for those that are curious), and i started back tracking to Chris' instalments and realised i had been writing him this way for a long time now (not to say from the very beginning).

with that being said, i am currently not 100% sure if Chris as a character is aware that he's demi or not. just because i haven't decided which option i want most lol idk if i want him to already know before meeting pretty mum, or if i want him to go through that journey of finding the label for him with her... regardless, the way he handles his romantic/sexual feelings has always been... like demisexuals do, you know?

i think Chris Wereroomies might've had two (max three) partners in the past, and i'm sure they were all either friends or someone he met through friends that he ended up hitting things off with fairly well. he never understood how Changbin was able to go sleeping around with random people, because, for him, what was the point of sex if it wasn't to enjoy a good time with a specific someone? it genuinely felt like a ginormous waste of time and energy otherwise.

Chris is an alpha, yes. which makes it so he probably has a high sex drive in general, but that sex drive only ever exists when there is already an important person in his life. that's why we've read his inner voice talk about having "a lot of self-control" and why he was able to spend ruts on his own. his already existing predisposition to not feeling sexual attraction from the get-go probably made it so his cravings during his rut were nothing but the very minimum his wolf had, so even if he was frustrated it was still manageable.

while i'm writing this, i'm wondering if he ever spent his rut with anyone at all... if his previous relationships lasted enough for that to be a possibility.... i'll have to think more on this one tbh lol

but anyway... being demi is also probably one of the reasons why he'd been told he was "too intense" in the past. it's very likely that in his previous relationships he had developed these feelings that the other person simply didn't have or didn't feel as strongly, so of course they thought he was intense. what i suppose happened was that his high sex drive and his predisposition to being a hopeless romantic was somewhat contained when he was going through periods of time without feeling attraction towards someone, but then he did meet someone he was attracted to and he suddenly had all these needs that were just too much to contain.

then pretty mum came along...

in Alpha Dog, the narration tells us:

"Chris often prided himself on being a rational being, with a lot of self-control even for someone with a condition just like his, but as soon as he took in the shape of your body, it was almost as if he could feel his human mind short circuit and hear his inner wolf howling in desire.

He’d never been much of having a ‘type��� when it came to his partners, at least not physically. Sure, there were certain attributes he preferred, but in the grand scheme of things he’d fancied people with all different types of looks. That day, though, as he struggled to make coherent sentences and act normal while he showed you the place, Chris realised–quite puzzled, he might add–that maybe he did have a type, and maybe that type was you."

the day he met our dearest pack mum was the first time he ever felt any sort of sexual attraction for a stranger.

this is obviously due to his supernatural bond with her (aka due to him imprinting. yes, he had imprinted then, he just didn't know), but at the time he was just confused as hell because he'd never gone through anything similar. i'm sure that many times in the past he'd seen people with similar body types to pretty mum's and he was like "ohh, that's attractive", but recognising someone as attractive doesn't necessarily mean he wanted to fuck them (if you're demi, you know how this feels like...). so of course he thought pretty was attractive, but to the point of wanting to touch her all over??? after hardly saying more than twenty words to each other??? nothing he'd ever felt before, tbh.

essentially, that day he met pretty those very minimal wolf cravings he had turned up a notch, but it wasn't until he actually got to know her that it all started escalating. his inner wolf's cravings, his human needs, it all started piling up inside of him once he started developing that personal connection with her... which is why the first rut he went into after she moved in was so unbearable. he no longer had minimal urges, he was full on horny for this woman and he could hardly cope.

this is so long, my god hahahah but those are the thoughts i have so far related to Chris Wereroomies being demi. hope this answer is satisfactory !

i still need to think more about pretty mum and her past in order to determine if she's demi or not... but that's something for another day hahahah

so, finally, if you're curious, the phrase i wrote that made me have this entire epiphany of demisexual werewolf chris was this:

"When it came to romantic partners, he never cared about looks or gender or designations. All he cared about was finding a connection. And, in a more shallow approach, about big juicy thighs he could hold onto… But even then, the physical aspect of it would never stop him from pursuing someone (...)"

thank you for this question, bb! it took me all day to answer, but i enjoyed thinking about it. hope it's coherent enough hahaha

[lazar-codes]

Random Rambles

Note: I originally wrote this on June 17th and just stored it in my drafts to rot, but then I thought I might as well let the world hear me yapping, so here you go! There might be more to come in the near future.

TLDR: I talk about a lot of useless stuff, like my thoughts on productivity and art. Basically; being solely focused on productivity == not good, and art is fun again.

I have random strings of thought going on in my head and so I'm just gonna write and see where it takes me.

Thought 1 - Productivity:

I want to say that I haven't been a productive person these last few months, but that's not true. However, I feel like this "productiveness" that I've been doing isn't what a lot of "productivity-focused" people would consider productive. I've been seeing a lot of posts online about how to become more productive, or maximize the result by minimizing effort, hustle culture, etc... and idk if it's because I'm getting older or what (sure, I'm in my mid-20s, but mentally I'm 84), but to me this is so unbelievably un-maintainable. I get wanting to improve at stuff, but you'll burnout so fast and feel like shit after, I don't know why people go through that. Hell, that's how I felt with programming; it's super exciting to get started on it, but after months of going at it with very little breaks, it's hard to get back into it once you stop because you realize you don't like it as much as you did at the start, and that's fine. It doesn't mean you're a failure, it just means it's time for a break and to try something else. It feels like there's an expectation to have your identity tied to one thing only, but that's not right. Imagine how nice it is being able to do multiple things in different fields. You can switch your focus to work on something completely different while waiting to recharge. Sometimes it's better to take things nice and slow (if time permits, that is), and enjoy the process rather than the product. The problem is that that's not how the world works, and that sucks. At this point in time, it's a struggle to have a work-life balance for most careers, especially with the rise of hustle culture and gig jobs. And so I guess in my own way, I will continue to quietly rebel against that while I can and accept that it's ok not to be 100% "productive" and to spend time doing things I enjoy, even if it doesn't lead me anywhere in the long run. Ok, this is the end of this line of thought.

Thought 2 - Art:

Now, I want to talk a bit about art. I've recently been watching random videos on the art community and its drama, and oh god. Apparently the community in some apps is really bad, and I can't wrap my brain around why that is. For example, I heard that a lot of artists are discouraging and mocking new artists because of their lack of skill with regards to anatomy and style. I can't even comprehend why someone would do that...? At some point in everyone's life they're a beginner at something, and instead of helping them rise and being excited that someone wants to enter this new world, people put them down. It makes absolutely no sense. Before I started doing art for myself, I hated doing it and would only draw for class in elementary school. But after a teacher gave me an "A" in art class, I was so encouraged to continue because someone believed in me and thought I was good, and that feeling helped me enjoy art. And to think that instead of giving new artists these feelings people just shut them down, is so disheartening. How do you form a community if everyone rejects everyone else? I've been doing art for myself for 12 years now and have gone through long periods of no art, followed by some small bursts of inspiration, and the thing that I remember the most fondly is the friends I made and how excited I was for those specific people to see what I've created. And we'd all hype up each others' art, which motivated us to do more art, and it was the best positive feedback loop one could ask for. And now, things seem so separated and divided and discouraging.

But I'm not all doom and gloom here today. The reason what I said above is bothering me so much is because I've gotten a sudden burst of art inspiration this year, and even though I don't know what sparked it, I'm riding this wave out as long as I can, and I'm having such a good time! For the past 3 years I've been sketching in pen and hated it, but after spending 3 months doing pencil, I've gone back to pen and have fallen in love with it again. A lot of people say that drawing in pen improves your art because it forces you to think about what lines to draw and helps you draw faster, but I realized that those are the reasons why I wouldn't want to draw in pen. Instead, I've found that pen allows me to commit to my mistakes, and instead of being bummed about the sketch not looking perfect, I'm forced to continue and am encouraged to capture the overall vibe rather than the small, perfect, details. And you know what? I love that! Sure, I'll fill a whole page of ugly sketches, but when I'm flipping through my sketchbook and see those again, I don't think they're ugly at all. They convey an idea, and if I want to expand on it and make it pretty, I know that I can. As for the second point of drawing faster; like I said in Thought 1, I think it's better to take things slow and focus on enjoying the process instead of the result. I think it also stems from going against the productivity mindset and the whole short-attention span thing that we all apparently have, where instead of getting things done right away so you can move onto the next thing, you should just sit and focus on one thing at a time and get completely sucked into it. My last finished art piece took nearly 7 hours, and I might get back to it and change some things, but those 7 hours feel like they went by so fast because I was having so much fun! And I think that's the ultimate thing; are you having fun? Because if not, then why bother? And that can be applied to any hobby. I think that's why I'm not doing any coding projects at the moment, because I'm not having fun and I see it as a chore when it shouldn't be.

Thought 3 - Fanart and TV shows:

Now, a lot of my hobbies go through phases, where at most I'll be into 2 different hobbies at the same time. Luckily, hobby 1 (watching tv shows) is directly motivating hobby 2 (art) and I've got such a good cycle of working in my sketchbook because I'm obsessed with the show I'm watching (Money Heist) and drawing so much fanart. And as a side-note, I've only posted 2 digital pieces of fanart for the show and have refrained from looking up existing fanart (I'm avoiding spoilers like the plague), and I gotta say, it feels super isolating because I'm not sharing any of this with anyone, but it also feels really freeing? Like, I have no idea how other people draw the characters or what they like/dislike about the show. I feel like I'm a kid again without internet, just drawing what I want because I like it and the subject matter, not to just show other people. Sure, I already have a piece that I posted and want people to see, but again, I had so much fun working on it that attention to it is merely an afterthought and not the goal. Not only is that cool, but I'm also enjoying something without knowing what the general population thinks about it, and that's so freeing! There's no bias going into it because I haven't heard anything about it. Man...if you can't tell, I'm having such a good time. It's kinda making me want to abandon social media so that way I can experience a bunch of new stories without knowing anything about it beforehand. It's a shame I'm too addicted to scrolling...

[softguarnere]

HOLD THE GOD DAMN PHONE!! I don’t think I’ve ever sent in a ship request for you…(have I?? fuck idk??) and I am appalled

Can I please have a ship babyyyy? xxx

I can send a description through if you want but also…kinda feel like you know me enough to go completely freehand with it hehe

Babe of COURSE you can have a ship 💖💖 We do know each other pretty well, so I'm gonna try to do my best (but honestly, you're so cool, do any of these boys even deserve you??)

I ship you with . . .

Ron Speirs!

I'm not gonna lie -- I've literally been associating the two of you together since I wrote Pull That Trigger, since you were one of my first requests and it was the first time I wrote soft!Speirs stuff hehe. I'm 'bout to have a lot of fun with this hon

Badass power couple, are you kidding me?! Talk about turning heads when you walk into the room. No one is gonna mess with the two of you

In canon era, y'all would totally see each other for the first time in an officer's meeting. He sees you and Nixon joking around while you ready your intelligence reports and he just freezes because holy shit, she's hot, and am I allowed to date a fellow officer?? And because he's Ron Freakin' Speirs, he's gonna do what he wants anyway

You truly bring out the best in each other (it's the introvert + extrovert dynamics for me) Don't get me wrong -- Ron is great as a leader and at taking command of a situation, but homeboy has some trouble putting himself out there in social situations, and if it were up to him, he would just kind of stay on the fringes of the crowd and observe. But you're so outgoing, and you introduce him to so many new and interesting people, that he finds himself actually kind of enjoying going to parties, if not just because he likes watching you have fun in your element.

Omggggg, guys would be coming up to flirt with you left and right, and he would just put his arm around you and give them the look, and they're running for the hills

(Also, Ron's not a huge fan of drinking, because he likes to be in control of himself. But there was one memorable occasion where he had one too many drinks. Let's just say that he's a cute, sappy drunk, and that this may or may not be how he confesses his feelings for you)

As an introvert, he's gotta recharge his social battery, though. His favorite part of parties is when they're over, because then y'all get to go home, and he just gets to unwind and feel like himself again. His favorite way to recharge is 100% having a lie-in the next day, just holding each other. (He'd kill anyone if they knew, and he has trouble asking for it, but he likes to be the little spoon, which is just *chef's kiss* 🥺 but that's between y'all 🤫😉)

If you ever get a little too dark-brain, he is there for you in whatever way you need. This man would wait on you hand and foot, bringing you tea or coffee and blankets (or a grilled cheese ;) ), or giving you space. He'll hold you for hours on end if you want. Contrary to popular belief, he's not completely averse to emotions, and he'll do his best to understand what you're going through, even if it's just to listen while you get your emotions out, because he wants you to know that he's there for you, and he's trying his best

Forehead 👏 kisses 👏 are 👏 his 👏 specialty 👏Other people would be shocked to learn how gentle he is with you. You're truly just such a safe space for him where he feels like he can unmask and be himself, and he's probably told you so many things that he's never told anyone before, and just UGH, I'm tearing up thinking about it man

Also, touch his hair, touch his hair, for the love of GOD, touch his hair, it makes him so soft!!!!!!!! If he's not sleeping well or has a nightmare or something, your touch immediately soothes him. If you're just chillin' and you run a hand through his hair -- shivers down his spine, he LOVES it

He's lowkey SO COMPETITIVE hehehe. (Straight up, there are stories in his biography about him racing with people on the Currahee runs, so you know I had to work it in here somehow) He loves going to the gym with you, because he feels like he's in his element and he gets to spend time with you. But also he is gonna try to race you on the treadmills or smth, because it's Ron we're talking about. (You always beat him, and he can't even be mad about it, because he's so *heart eyes emoji* for you)

This man would move mountains for you, and he'll truly be happy with whatever kind of future you want. You want to stay in the military? Works for him -- you guys can keep climbing the ranks together. You want to settle down somewhere? He's already calling his old accounting firm to see if they have openings.

Whatever you do and wherever you go, he's going to make sure that it has good weather and good views, because he's pretty sure that he could handle living almost anywhere in any situation, but he's gonna make sure that you have the world

Sorry this took a sec babe 😘 I hope you liked it!

[gojosattoru]

hi ana! ♡♡ i believe this is my first time sending you a message and im not really active on here besides to rb while i make gifs but i just wanted to say how elated i am to know we’re mutuals! i didn’t start taking making anime gifs that seriously until i started getting really into it recently and I’m SO happy and lucky that i found your amazing blog filled with so much of your talents. when i learned that you also do it for work with the cute story time you shared i was in awe?? it led me to look at your cute icons and your past themes and omg ur such a sweet and talented soul. i kept forgetting to send an ask and seeing your latest text post gave the biggest reminder to also tell you that slumps or times that can feel like one is creeping up on you are not forever! i know that feeling of being overwhelmed with so many ideas and projects coming while having a huge load to finish but i always try to remember to focus on whats happening now than the past and especially future! and i srsly second what hyu said, isn’t she the best!?! <3 and it really helps to ground yourself in the moment - even taking frequent breaks like solo dates at a cafe or walks to find that spark back again. idk how many times I’ve felt super overwhelmed with everyone and reminded myself to go back to basics that can be as simple as taking a walk :) ILYSM!! remind yourself that you’ll be okay, easier said than done but remember that your unfavorable thoughts will never be true - they are not you! the real you is strong, SO LOVED, and can get through anything unscathed. i adore you, your energy, and art. 🖤

awwww sweetheart this literally made me tear up! honestly you are so so sweet and i felt so speechless when i saw your message darling!! ; A ; gosh i'm overwhelmed!! thank you very much for coming and send me your support too darling!! like you said we are recently mutuals and seeing a message from you to give me some of your comfort and love made me burst in joy bby! i adore adore ADORE your gifs and i was so happy you used my tracking tag hehe that gave me the opportunity to know you, see your awesome content and have the pleasure to meet and speak with you bby! *hugs* i'm super grateful to know how you enjoy my edits and icons, it's super super delightful darling really appreciate your love for them!! ; u ; and don’t worry sweetie, you can always send me a message whenever you have time ^^ this made the end of my week so much enjoyable i really thank you for that bby! it’s been tough and i’ve been trying to focus on what i have been working but my boss is always saying to stop what i’m doing and start on the new ideas so that’s why it made me feel so stressed lately... i just hope she won’t do this so much right now cause i really want to finish everything so that i can work on the new stuff in the future!! to start to sell merchandise we need to have enough stuff to begin our business that’s why i want to work on the projects she gave to me in the beginning and then when we have enough of it done, we can do the new ones.. *sighs* that’s why i am bit overwhelmed with ideas and feeling a bit tired.. but like you said i will rest this weekend and try go outside and go for a walk and enjoy myself! hopefully on monday i will be completely recharged and keep on doing my work 100% ^^ thank you once again for hearing me out, for sending me your lovely message and for being so kind darling! hope we can talk more in the future to know each other better hehe ^^ really will take your words to my heart and think on them whenever i feel down bby! ilysm too sweetie!! this means a lot to me seriously!! *smooches you all over* wish you a wonderful weekned and can’t wait to see more of your works <333 hehe take care too my love thank you again! this was so precious ; U ;

[lotti-lyric]

Hi! I don't know if you're still doing it, but I saw your post and I wanted to request a romantic matchup! I would probably be at General Studies. (Also, I'm new to tumblr, it's here that I ask, right?)

So, I'm a female (she/her all the way), asexual and sex-repulsed, also minromantic (attracted to male presenting people, even if the person in question is a cis-girl) with preference towards he/him. I'm Brazilian, which means I speak mostly Portuguese, then English, and finally a little bit of Spanish (and I will mix all of them in the same sentence sometimes lol). I'm only 1,48m (4'10"? 4'11"? Idk), and my body could be described as mid-size/very curvy, tho it can all be easily hidden by an oversized shirt and sweatpants (when I'm wearing those clothes, people tend to think I'm 12 :\)

I have light skin (I'm white) that can get easily tanned, as long as I don't stay under the sun too much (I have a mild allergy to sunrays). My hair is very wavy, but there will be days where it'll look like it's straight, and others, curly (I don't even bother guessing anymore, it's always a surprise lol). My eyes and my hair are dark brown, it even looks a little like black. Beauty marks everywhere, as well as body hair.

I'm an Aries and an INFP-T. Very introverted, quiet and shy, I can't socialize very well with people whom I don't know or I'm not close to. I have anxiety and social phobia. Once I'm comfortable enough, I'll be laughing 90% of the time, very sarcastic and it's better if I don't start talking about books or music, cause I won't stop soon. I don't have a friendly face and a lot of people stay away because of it (tho it makes me sad, I also use it to scare people who are mean to me or my friends). I'm very aloof and distant, kinda oblivious, but I do care a lot, just don't like showing it. I'm not into physical contact with friends, but a SO may be an exception.

Because I'm a formally gifted, now burnout, kid, I hate being wrong and I tend to base my worth according to my grades. If I'm not good at the first try, why give a second chance? (Spoiler: I know why). Oh, I also like to dance, write and draw, don't like to dress up nor wearing makeup. Being comfortable is everything! I love colorful things, so cloudy/rainy days make me sad. I'm insomniac and I can't sleep till everyone around fall asleep first.

I know it's a lot, sorry. I hope you don't mind and thank you very much in advance!

charlotte’s interlude 💗- hi!! so so sorry again for the delay!! i hope you’re doing well and enjoy! have a great one! i’m so sorry again :((

warnings; anxiety mention

i match you with…

Hitoshi Shinsou!!

this for you both, it matches the vibe!! ^

def thinks it’s super cool you can speak multiple languages!! he’d learn some to try and understand when you use them all!! 💗

he doesn’t necessarily enjoy socializing either so you both like to keep to yourselves and each other!!

just two introverts chilling together to recharge!! ✨

absolutely adores your laugh!! he’s got a super dry sense of humor and is super sarcastic so you both just play off each other

so many sarcastic comments and cackling in between 💀💀

he’d listen to you rant about books or music all day!! he’s genuinely listening too, taking in everything you say!!

he understands that you don’t like to show how you care, he knows you do and trusts you 100%!!

he supports you and always make sure you know your worth outside academics, that you are a worthwhile person!! he makes sure you value yourself!!

you two are always comfortable!! if you’re forced to dress up for something, screw it, you’ll go casual together!! all for one 💃🏼

all in all, v v supportive we love to see it

[tartagliaxx]

call me stupid or whatever, but i spent like 20 wishes on the permanent banner and i finally got another 5*, which is skyward pride. was it worth it? perhaps. i still have like 10.6k primos so i still have guaranteed for albedo bc my pity on the event banner is 50.

i also already ascended skyward pride to lvl80 and i'm conflicted on whether to replace diluc's r5 lvl90 prototype archaic with skyward pride considering the sub stat is energy recharge and diluc doesn't need that like, at all. i suppose i could give it to chongyun or razor? but i'm gonna have to build them then, which is gonna suck up my resources even more.

but ngl, skyward pride on him is so eye catching. he's dressed in all black while this gigantic shiny blue-green coloured weapon that seems to have ancient texts or smth hangs on his back. the contrast is rlly pretty.

and i feel like i don't even have a proper team now. i benched diluc for a while bc i ascended qiqi to lvl80 and she does rlly well with xiao, but i don't have an archer on my team, which gets pretty annoying at times. zhongli is a must have bc his shield saved me so many times. and bc i just love kazuha's playstyle, i also benched venti for him. i wonder what position albedo will be in once i get him bc my team is just all over place rn, well, if he's gonna rerun this time that is.

i'm almost done with exploring the inazuma islands too, like i've been playing so much that i already have 4 out of the 5 islands 100% completed, and the last one is 94%. i literally am speedrunning through inazuma even if i have no intention of doing that. also, i already caught like 300 fish in my world alone. stardew valley has prepared me well for this lol

— r. anon

ooooooh skyward pride!! congratulations!! i’m not too sure which is better but skyward pride has a higher base attack than prototype archaic so maybe diluc would benefit more from that? having high energy recharge on diluc would make ult spamming like… a hundred times easier too but its not like he needs it so idk. maybe enhance skyward pride and do dmg testing? then again, aesthetic could be so much more important too… aahdgshahshahbaha idk idk 😭😭 im now facing a dilemma even if it doesnt apply to me directly… why must i be born as an intp-t?

i dont even bother w teams anymore. i just.. smash the people i feel like playing as that day w no regards to synergy and build. heck, im currently running fully built ayaka, lvl 3 talents (but maxed out otherwise) raiden shogun, lvl 70 kaeya with +0 artifacts and lvl 20 rosaria with literally nothing to her name. nothing.

woaaaa that’s so quick tho?? i havent been able to play much bc of school and the billion and one papers that they’re handing us smh. i have the first 3 islands at 50% at least but the new ones are stuck at like 10%. as for fishing… i have 100 alr i think… im not too invested in it but the collector in me is begging me to get all the rods and r5 the catch. i think i’m about 30% in that goal? all that but at what cost?

[zodiyack]

a peaky blinder ship maybe? uhm let's see, i'm usually shy but i get loud when i'm close with you. despite that though, i need to recharge my social battery once in a while so i like being alone. i love books, my friends say i'm creative and i focus and give a lot of effort with my work/studies to the point that i forget abt my health. i'm usually blunt with people i don't like buy it takes a lot for me to be angry. im very affectionate with people i like. thank u bub, i love ur works♥️♥️🥺

Thank you, love! I ship you with Bonnie Gold!

You, as a person who is long of nose (slow to anger), are not expected to be the one Bonnie goes soft for

but he does

I feel like competitions, you’d get a little riled up, but in the end you already know he’s gonna win.

Cuddles with Bonnie consist of;

hiding/falling asleep in/on the hay (y’all have pull hay from each other’s hair in the end though, especially if it was hiding)

curling up into his side after a match

he holds you close while you warm up by the fire

cuddling whilst on the move with the other gypsies

so on

I feel like Bonnie’s kind of the same as in being shy until you get to know him

And being with him and his father, you don’t have to worry about needing to recharge!

Traveling has the perfect opportunity for that as well, like being by yourself, probably reading, while on the road or sitting by a fire and doing so

Frankly, Bonnie forgets his needs as well, so expect Aberama to ...well, best explained by a situation;

You and Bonnie are reading together in his caravan

Aberama pokes his head in, “Bon, you eat yet?”

His eyes widen and he makes eye contact with you for a split second

He asks again and Bonnie, hesitatingly, answers

“No sir”

Aberama sighs and tells him that there’s still some food out BUT RIGHT BEFORE HE’S ABOUT TO LEAVE, he turns and squints at you

“You eat either?”

As much as a fuss he makes about the whole ordeal, Aberama likes to take care of you guys

You’re cared for and loved just as much as Bonnie because Aberama sees you as a child of his own after you and Bon get together

To be 100% honest, it catches Bonnie (and the rest) off guard the first time you’re blunt with someone.

Let’s say it’s Gina Gray because, lets be honest, she’s a real pain in the-

So you and Bonnie are hanging around with Michael and, poof, speak of the bitch

“Michael, c’mon.” She always complains about him hanging out with you and Bonnie

Every time she pokes at things like your clothes or your looks, you just roll your eyes. “Not like you’re doing any better, hon.”

Pol and you have bonded over disliking Gina

Part of your reasoning for disliking her is her influence/power, and the way she abuses it, over the once sweeter Michael you knew

and you let Michael know that

“In a second, Gina.” “No, right now.” “One second-”

It sickens you how much he lets her get away with crap.

“Shut the fuck up Gina,” you spit through clenched teeth, “Either leave, or grow some fucking patience.”

She glares at you but you could give less of a fuck

“I wasn’t talking to you, (insert some name that starts with the first letter of your name but is nowhere close to your actual name ‘cause I feel like she’d purposely get someone’s name wrong to piss them off)”

Bonnie’s ready to throw hands but you press your hand against his chest softly as a little reassurance that you’ve got it under control.

“Neither were we until you decided to include yourself in our business.”

OR SOMETHING I’M JUST REALLY SUCKY WITH A RETORT IDK

Basically, he learns that when you are blunt, he should mind his own instead of trying to get involved

Aberama kinda backs toward Polly who watches with a proud smile

That’s really all I can think of, I hope you liked it!

[edengarden]

Hiii!!! I'm here for that regular bnha matchup👉🏿👈🏿 I really love the hq one u did omg!! It's *chef's kiss* kekdjdjdkdhd!!!! Here's the info:

Appearance: I'm fem, black, 5'1, slightly athletic & curvy-ish figure (lol), short? (mid-neck) hair, straight, dark brown eyes, size 9 shoe size (I still dk if it's relevant but oh well lmao)

Personality stuff: infp-t, Hufflepuff, Taurus sun, scorpio moon, sanguine, chaotic good, ambivert, a BuzzFeed quiz told me I'm a Pinto bean and a pumpkin spice mocha (do what you will with that info jdskdj)

Positive traits/qualities:

I'm super enthusiastic!! I love hyping people up and being energetic in general! I'm always down to try new things and have fun! If anyone is not feeling appreciated I'm ready to make sure they know that they're a queen/king and they're amazing!!!

I'm optimistic! I like to look at the brighter side of things and I always try my best to find a silver lining in any situation! Positive thinking helps me get through tough spots in my life because there's always hope for something better in the future!!

I'm observant!! I usually like to sit quietly and observe my surroundings. Especially in a new environment. Irl I like to read people's body language to asses their mood so ik how to approach them lol. I also do little things like remembering what they (friends/family) like to order at restaurants or something they pointed out at random that they liked. (Idk if I'm making sense lol)

Negative traits/flaws:

I'm annoying. Sometimes I just like being a little shit and cause mischief (being the youngest child does that to a person) but I think sometimes I'm too enthusiastic/energetic that it can be seen as obnoxious/annoying so I usually try and tone it down so I don't bother people...

I'm argumentative. When I have something to say I have to speak up. I try not to step on any toes but I can't help but argue with someone when our views on something clash. I like hearing different sides of debates though so I always give others a chance to talk. I don't go picking fights but if I feel like my opinion is being disregarded/not heard I will argue until it's known!!

I'm forgetful. Sure I'll remember random stuff like 'what my friend said in that one coffee shop last year' but important things like appointments? Birthdays? Assignment due dates? Idk her 😭 I try my best to write anything important down cause my memory is a selective sieve and it'll keep the most useless/random shit.

Hobbies: I love: Reading, writing, listening to music, learning languages, playing saxophone (I'm still learning tho lol), swimming, watching anime and cooking!

Music taste: any type of rock (punk rock, grunge, j-rock, metal), pop, kpop, RnB, jazz, dubstep, lofi hip hop, rap, bangers from: Elvis, the beach boys, Khalid, Ateez, Kendrick Lamar, p!atd, mcr, fallout boy, Nirvana, BTS, mxmtoon, Marianas trench, twenty one pilots, stray kids, Jay Park, crush, Dreamcatcher, Skrillex, MJ, troye sivan etc

Traits I look for: idk kind, funny/fun, loving/lovable, loyal (idk I ain't picky)

Traits I don't like: (nobody's perfect, just don't be a racist, xenophobic, sexist asshole lol)

More fun facts:

My love language is touch! I live for hand holding, cuddling, hugging, tickle fights and more!! 🥺

I love learning new stuff and rn I'm learning how to draw, paint, play music on sax, a new language and new recipes! :3

I love traveling!! It doesn't even have to be too far, as long as I don't know where I am it's an adventure! I usually end up getting lost whenever I travel (rip) but it's fun finding your way around and makes the trip more exciting!!

My current aesthetic: Sunflowers, striped turtle necks, warm blankets, rainbows that come out after storms, friendship bracelets, watching movies cuddled up w/someone, the joy of being alive. <3

It's mostly the same lol I just added a little something at the end :D Can't wait to see who I'll get! Don't forget to stay healthy & drink lots of water!! Take care 💙✨

I’m matching you up with Tokage! (You didn’t specify your gender preferences I hope this is alright ;-;)

You guys. I can’t even decide where to begin. The ENERGY- oh my god, you’re so enthusiastic, she’s so enthusiastic?? And you also recharge each other’s batteries so it’s a never ending stream of optimism and cheers!! People can’t believe the two of you are together but then again they watch you two go and they wonder how you two COULDN’T be a couple.

And her?? Thinking YOURE annoying? Fucking never. She’s the same as you to an extent and we KNOW she wouldn’t doubt your affection for her, but for the love of god if it does bother you, talk to her. She’ll have you thinking differently in NO TIME. this girl uses her words and she uses them well. And the two of you ARGUE. but it’s mostly fun arguing, Tokage isn’t the type to be so cocky as to not admit when she’s wrong; she’ll fight for her point if she knows it’s valid. Otherwise, if YOUR point becomes the only valid one, she’s giving it to you. She wouldn’t want to lose you over some stupid pride thing.

Oh my god, she’s 100% the type of person who’ll go “hey remember like two years ago when...” and theN MENTION SOMETHING STUPID OR EMBARRASSING YOU DID THAT YOU COMPLETELY FORGOT ABOUT

Tokage loves physical affection, both giving and receiving. She’s just so proud to call you hers?? Let her hold your hand and watch her always call dibs on you during training (Vlad never lets the class choose their partners anymore because of you two lol). She’ll tone down the PDA if you’re uncomfortable or if others warn her that they don’t like it, but otherwise?? She’s always by your side unless you need some space.

My god the two of you just have SUCH a fun relationship!! It’s never dull or boring, trust me.

Songs!!!

- my boy, Billie Eilish

- Feel It Still, Portugal. The Man

- butterfly addiction, Cö shu Nie

- Let’s Spend the Night Together, David Bowie

[mrs-mikko-rantanen]

Uhm, my day was decent? I mean aside from the fact that mornings exist and I did not want to wake up in time for my shift at work. But. And the end of the day when I have literal hours to do stuff after.. it works out cuz. Usually I get off and its oh shit I have enough time to halfway emotionally recharge and then its time for bed.

But. I got in and E^2 had put like. My name down on the schedule, and. That was great really. And we had this sheet for sign up of, basically what areas you want to be personally responsible for. And I signed light and it was great. And I dont think anyone really noticed cuz the manager wasn't there and no one else really looked at the schedule or anything else. But. It made me happy.

Still haven't gotten my name tag changed and honestly I dont think I'm going to. Cuz. I feel like I'm just being a bother asking again. But. It is what it is I guess.

I got off at five and its now nine and ive just been vibing in the car listening and singing to Spotify since I got off just trying to keep the sad at bay. And I should probably go home but. I dont want to. Cuz I know I'm just gonna wallow in the sad and self destructive tendencies if i go home.. If I ask nicely will the fae take me in as one of their own and I can become a cryptid in the woods?????

I have a three day weekend coming up and im considering doing a touch up on my hair since its really washed out. But I cant decide if I wanna keep it fully red or try and do like an ombre double tone thingy.. but I'm not sure what other color I'd try to do to the tips? Idk

I kinda wish my hair was longer so I could do like. The galaxy hair thing? Where its various shades of purple and blue and some pink and it looks different depending on how you style it. But I also know attempting to grow my hair out longer than I already plan to is a bad idea, cuz the sides and back are already getting too long and I hate it. But I wish I could do fun stuff with it too

Oh well. The duality of man i guess..

Uhm. I bought a giant plastic egg the other day, that reminds me of a dragons egg kinda. And I'm trying to decide if I should keep a hoard of dice in there or a hoard of crystals. Cuz. Dice and the clacky math rocks. But. Also shiny crystally gems

Speaking of dice I also really kinda want to try and get into a dnd group, but social anxiety and I have zero idea where to start with that so. That's fun.

Im currently resisting the urge to go and get more holes and metal in my head too. I just. The red hair makes me feel cool and powerful and I wanna look punk and

Sorry I've been rambling for like half a novel. I'll stop now before I get annoying. I mean I definitely already am. But you asked for asks and distractions and 👉👈 I love you

Id ask about your day but you seem to want a distraction from that sooo. How about, got any fun headcanons to share??

Thats awesome on the name front!!! I saw that and I got really excited for you when you posted the picture this morning, honestly I think you should bring up the nametag again, esspecially if its showing up on the schedule too. (Oddly enough I kicked around the idea of using a new name with friends and sruff today which is weird mostly bc like i like my name irl, its fairly androgynous and it makes me happy and i love my online name bc it means me :))

My vote is two tone!! I almost did a pink/purple ombre with my hair this round so I say do ittttt (that's also what I say about the extra holes and metal. Do itttttrrr)

That would be a hard choice but u do really like the idea of a giant dragons egg full of dice ngl. I need to find some people to play with too. I'm trying to get b and c in on something but idk if its ever really gonna pan out the way I want it too. My town actually has a pretty active dnd community but I am way too new and way too socially anxious to ever join something like that so I feel you there.

100% not annoying, each paragraph made me smile more. :)

My day was actually mostly ok, i just sorta ruined it with Danny at home. I just pointed out that the idealized dream band life that I wanted and thought I had was what she got and that it made me kinda jealous and she pointed out (correctly) that I'm jealous of so many aspects of her life that she now has a list of things she can't talk to me about for fear of setting me into a spiral and just. Yeah. That wasnt fun.

But work was ok. The kids all were really tierd so there was a fair bit of crying going on, but the weather was really nice so we got to go outside with them for a long time and that was very nice. I also got some really sweet cuddles from a few of them that made me very happy.

Oh! I also have a funny story about them!! So I was squatting (my main position is almost like Spiderman bc I'm down on the kids' level but i can also get up and move if I need to pretty quick) and one of the girls goes and gets a book, then stands right in front of me and points at the floor and says "sit" in the most authoritative voice I have ever hear from a 1 1/2 year old 😂 as soon as I sat down she was in my lap and opening the book so I could read to her.

As far as headcanons.... Sadly my brain is bouncimg mostly art ideas for the Tamgled au and not anything of substance so I may take a crack at that later. Otherwise I keep thinking about whumped up Will crying on the floor and Maurie finding him. Really I'm just thinking about Maurie and Will being bros. A lot. So much. God I love them.

[sailorhyunjinz]

hello again my lovely cherry! I am exhausted and tired and sleepy and tired ! so this will be quick luv

feed urself some solids ! swallow urself some liquids! lay down in a comfy anywhere and turn that brain all the way off so u can recharge completely! dot do those lil half assed eager chargies either, if I catch you charging urself up to 25% then unplugging cause that's good enough I'm taking away ur writing privileges okay, charge urself up to 100% then wake up and conquer the day

go do everything productive and nothing that isn't!

goodnight my love <3

oh- this is so sweet, thank you,,, I’ve been having a lot of 25% charges LMAO CAUSE YA KNOW,,, work-

And idk I think I’m in a bit of a writing slump since,,, like its so slow. Everything is just slow and I don’t have any motivation to write like,,, AH ALL THE FICS IVE FELT VERY LIKE “AH I WANNA WRITE THIS ALL DAY<33” I’ve finished-

And starting a new one seems to daunting 🥺 BUT THANK YOU FOR REMINDING ME!! I hope you sleep well and make sure to eat a good, filling breakfast whenever you wake up~~

[paradise-creator]

Hellooo!! I love love LOVE the diamond box matchup you did!! You're amazing!! Your blog is incredible!! Now I'm here for a romantic haven box Haikyuu matchup pls🥺

Appearance: My name is Kay! She/her, black, straight, 5'1, I have a slightly athletic & curvy-ish figure (lol idk), short-ish hair(like mid-neck), dark brown eyes, shoe size 9, I like to dress comfy so I'm always in oversized hoodies, sweatpants, sneakers, sweatshirts and shorts. I like colorful clothes too, high waisted jeans and shorts and boots. I'm not very fashionable but I try lol.

Personality:

Basics: infp-t, Hufflepuff, Taurus sun, scorpio moon, sanguine, chaotic good, ambivert.

Some positive traits: I'm optimistic, friendly, energetic, organized, enthusiastic, observant, happy, open-minded, loving, encouraging and inquisitive!!

Some negative traits: I'm annoying, perfectionist, insecure, forgetful, easily distracted, kinda lazy, argumentative, too nice at times and clingy.

I love learning new things!! Currently I'm learning Korean, how to draw, how to paint and songs on the saxophone.

When I'm up for it, I love fun physical activity!! Going for a hike, going to the gym, bungee jumping, mountain climbing, going camping and etc :D

Although I love going out, nothing beats lazy days at home. I can spend hours by myself and still be happy. When alone I usually sleep or watch a movie/anime or practice my drawing or saxophone or try and learn something new!

I have a horrible memory and can never remember important dates 😭 I've forgotten my own birthday a few times (rip) so people can get mad at me for missing appointments, forgetting birthdays and other important days. I try my best to organize everything necessary on my phone calendar so I can be reminded.

I love seeing people happy! Nothing can fulfill my day more than knowing I put a smile on someone's face! I usually try my best to help out anyone who needs it and to the best of my ability! This has led to me getting taken advantage of in the past but I can't help but try and make others happy. I've developed a thicker skin and some trust issues as I've grown up because of it.

I love hyping my friends/family up!! Do you need a boost in confidence? Here I am, ready to help you remember the absolute king/queen/royalty that you are!! I'm usually very energetic and enthusiastic about many things and I love spreading positivity around!!

My love language is physical touch! So touch is very important to me in my relationships. Though I am insecure so I tend to think that I smother the people I care about with too much affection idk lol. I live for hugs and cuddles and hand holding 👉🏿👈🏿 but because of that I feel like I'm very clingy and annoying skskfksjd

I'm introverted in nature so although I mean usually full of energy and love making new friends, I can't do it for too long lol. My social battery runs out really fast and I have to hide away and recharge before I can be fully social again, otherwise I won't be my best self. I treasure personal time and understand when people need time for themselves too.

I love spontaneity!! I love living in the moment and doing stuff just for the hell of it!! Wanna go on a road trip? Dance in the rain? Build houses for charity? Go to McDonald's at 2am? Go on a long walk? SIGN ME UP!!

I can also be lazy and unmotivated to do stuff. If something doesn't interest me, I'd find myself incapable of doing it or I'd do it with great difficulty. I'm one of those 'do something when inspiration/motivation hits you otherwise it'll be absolute shit' types.

But when I do have motivation/inspiration that's when my perfectionism comes in and I have to do it in the best possible way and anything less is an insult to me, my family, my ancestors and descendants lmaoo. Unfortunately I subconsciously set a very high bar for myself which can be overwhelming and stressful but when I manage to produce work of that quality, it's very satisfying and rewarding jshkshdhsj

I have more to add but I feel like this is getting way too long 💀 lemme just move to the next section heheheh

Hobbies: I LOVE listening to music, learning new things, watching movies/anime, sleeping, reading, writing, playing saxophone (I'm still learning tho lol), swimming, drawing, journaling, making friends, and cooking!

My music taste: any type of rock (punk rock, grunge, j-rock, metal), pop, KPOP, RnB, jazz, dubstep, lofi hip hop, rap, trap, krnb, anime OP's and bangers from: Elvis, the beach boys, Queen, Khalid, Ateez, Harry styles, Kendrick Lamar, p!atd, mcr, fallout boy, Nirvana, BTS, mxmtoon, Marianas trench, twenty one pilots, stray kids, Jay Park, crush, Dreamcatcher, Skrillex, MJ, troye sivan etc

Fun facts:

I'm more of a cat person but I live dogs and think they're adorable!!

I have four piercings and I plan on getting more soon!!

I'm a night owl, and get super grumpy in the mornings especially when woken up unexpectedly >:/

Although I love making friends, I only have like 1/2 super close friends and like 20+ acquaintances lol

I want to get a tattoo soon but idk what to get :(

I'm super addicted to coffee (rip) and if I don't take some for some time (like a week) I'll get the worst migraines and I won't feel better until I drink some coffee 😭

That's it!! I hope i wrote enough stuff!! Did I leave anything out? If you need more pls tell me and I'll send another ask :D Take your time!! I'm in no rush. I'll patiently wait even though you get writers block or have a large amount of asks 😌 pls stay safe and healthy!! Drink lots of water, sleep well and have an amazing day/night!! 💙✨

↬ ──:.⃗➹ +.*༉‧ᵕ̈°`*↷. ೃ₊✎⸙͎˚- ̗̀✧: ──↫

┊         ┊       ┊   ┊    ┊        ┊       ┊         ⊹

┊  ⋆｡   ┊       ┊   ┊    ┊        ┊      ⋆｡˚. ੈ

┊         ┊ ⋆｡  ┊   ┊   ˚✩ ⋆｡˚  ✩

┊         ┊       ┊   ✫

┊         ┊       ☪︎⋆                                      ⋆✩

┊ ⊹     ┊                     ⋆｡˚. ੈ

✯ ⋆      ┊ .  ˚                                   ⊹

           ˚     ✩

Dream catcher loading...

ɴᴏᴡ ʟᴏᴀᴅɪɴɢ

□□□□□0%

■□□□□20%

■■□□□40%

■■■□□60%

■■■■□80%

■■■■□90%

■■■■■100%

*ﾟ ﾟ･ ✧.｡. *. •.°

┊┊┊┊           

┊┊┊☆                 

┊┊☁️　　

┊┊┊    

┊┊                  

┊☆　

┊┊       

☁️   

┊  

☁️

Hello and Welcome my Starlight!

The Haven box includes:

- Match up

- Sun drop

- Journal of Feelings

- 3 am shenanigans

───✱*.｡:｡✱*.:｡✧*.｡✰*.:｡✧*.｡:｡*.｡✱ ───

I'd match you up with

Sugawara Koushi, Vice-captain of Karasuno

───✱*.｡:｡✱*.:｡✧*.｡✰*.:｡✧*.｡:｡*.｡✱ ───

Sun drops

- OKAY so like, as I read your description I thought of Akaashi or Yaku or Sugawara

- Me being the indecisive author I am had trouble picking

- But then I remembered that you loved to do spontaneous things.

- And that's when I realized that Sugawara is THE ONE

- You two would be deemed the "3 am couple"

- Or in the team it would be "Epitome of Chaos"

- He takes care of you

- He will alway remind you that you don't need to be perfect

- Insecurities? BE GONE

- Nagativity? BE GONE

- That's basically his motto

- He is both your mom and partner in Crime

- did I mention he will take care of you?

- CUDDLES AND KISSES FOR DAYS

───✱*.｡:｡✱*.:｡✧*.｡✰*.:｡✧*.｡:｡*.｡✱ ───

Journal of feelings

- Once this man realizes that you LOVE physical affection. He will give it to you. EVERYTIME HE SEES YOU

Kay entered the gym to watch her boyfriend play. She tried sneaking in and so far it has been great. She thought she was off the hook but then felt a familiar arms wrapped around her waist. "I found you~" Sugawara said with a smile.

- You both would often plan pranks and majority of the times, it would succeed

"Okay okay, so what are we doing today?" Kay asked the silver haired male. "Oh~ maybe we can scare Asahi or anyone for that matter with a beetle?" Sugawara suggested. "That's--no," Kay responded.

───✱*.｡:｡✱*.:｡✧*.｡✰*.:｡✧*.｡:｡*.｡✱ ───

3 am shenanigans

It’s 3 am in the morning. Almost everyone is fast asleep or in their homes, well almost. The night sky is littered with diamond in the sky. The streets were silent but it was comforting. A few people walked here and there. And a few cars passes by there and here. “What are we doing up so late?” A silver haired man said as he yawned. “We’ll be going to Mc Donald’s! What else?” The female responded as she smiled at him. “Is it even open at this time?” He asked. “Koushi, darling, it is open,” Kay, the lover of our beloved silvered male man said as she smiled. Sugawara chuckled and held her hand, the smile on his face was evident. “You know, we should be sleeping by now right?” He said as he pulled her closer. “And so what? I wasn’t planning on sleeping early! I slept the whole day yesterday and missed the chance to hang out with you,” The girl responded.

A small blush appeared on the male’s face and he giggled. “That’s very sweet bu-“ He was about to say but was silenced by the girl. “That was very sweet but we could’ve done this later on or tomorrow. Well, sorry to break it to you, Love. But, we are here,” She said as she pulled the male inside the fast food chain. And soon enough, the two got their orders and enjoyed their meal. “I don’t know why but this hits different,” Kay said as she eat a French fry. “It really does. Especially since you are here,” Sugawara stated as he patted her head. Now, she was the one blushing. As the two chatted, the other customers and staff glanced at them every now and then. None of them were annoyed at their interactions. On the contrary, they enjoyed watching them,

Some felt envious of their relationship. Some dreamt to have something like that. And others remembered the times of old. The two were so sweet, it’s almost too much. Laughter and chattering echoed through the building from both the couple and the people around them. Then they were dub the “3 am couple” as the two would often venture in that restaurant at 3 am in the morning.

───✱*.｡:｡✱*.:｡✧*.｡✰*.:｡✧*.｡:｡*.｡✱ ───

Author's note

I'm so so sorry for the long wait! This week has been hectic. Anywho, I hope you enjoy this matchup~ and thanks for requesting!

[actuallyadhd]

Hi! So I'm 15 and in school. What I really struggle with is that I'll sit down to do work (essays are where I have this problem a lot) and I'll be there for 4 hours and only get a tiny bit done. I turn my phone off and don't open any other tabs...I even set timers but I never reach my goals. It's incredibly frustrating because idk where my time goes and everything just drifts and I don't know what I'm doing to lose so much time. Is this a result of my ADHD? How can I stop this? thanks! :)

Sent October 18, 2018

It could be due to your ADHD.

I’m wondering if your goals are too large or something, so you’re basically shutting down when you sit down to work.

This might sound ridiculous, but stick with me and give it a try; it might help.

Okay, I’m going to make up a fictional homework roster and take you through the process I’m thinking of. Then I’ll summarize it into the steps to follow.

Cut for length.

In this imaginary semester, I’m taking Band, French, Math, English, Social Studies, and Art. Here is my list of assignments:

Band: practice all pieces

French: write a report on another country, all in French; practice vocabulaire

Math: Unit 3 review problems

English: read next short story; work on research paper.

Social Studies: read Chapter 4

Art: who are we kidding, I never had homework for art class

So four subjects and seven assignments. Let’s break it down further.

Band: we’re playing five pieces and I have solos in two

French: the report is due at the end of November; vocabulaire is a weekly thing and we’ll be tested on Friday

Math: there are 100 review problems at the end of the unit and our unit test is on Friday

English: we’ll be discussing the story in class tomorrow; the research paper is due right before Christmas and has to be 10 pages long

Social Studies: the chapter is 30 pages long (5 sections) and there are 5 sets of comprehension questions and 15 review questions to do, plus a bunch of glossary words to copy out, and we’ll be discussing one section of the chapter each day in class for the next week

Break down the larger tasks even more:

French report

choose country

research country, focusing on culture

organize research notes into categories (e.g., clothing, food, music, entertainment)

write clothing section

write food section

write music section

write entertainment section

write introduction; include demographics and economic information

write conclusion

check over grammar etc.

make sure bibliography is done properly

English research paper

choose topic

research topic

organize research notes

make outline

write body of report, following outline

write introduction

write conclusion

check grammar etc.

make sure citations and bibliography are done properly

Now assign due dates to each mini-task and divide up the other assignments over the coming week (pretending today is Monday), so the list is going to look more like this:

Band: practice all pieces, spend extra time on solos – daily

French report: choose country – todayresearch country, focusing on culture – daily until November 11organize research notes into categories (e.g., clothing, food, music, entertainment) – November 12write clothing section – November 13 & 14write food section – November 15 & 16write music section – November 17 & 18write entertainment section – November 19 & 20write introduction; include demographics and economic information – November 21 & 22write conclusion – November 23 & 24check over grammar etc. – November 25–27make sure bibliography is done properly – November 28

French vocabulaire: make flash cards – todaypractice – daily

Math: complete 25 questions per day

English reading: read short story – todaywrite out thoughts and impressions – today

English research paper: choose topic – todayresearch topic – daily until November 15organize research notes – November 16make outline – November 17 & 18write body of report, following outline – November 19–December 12 (break down into sections when outline complete)write introduction – December 13 & 14write conclusion – December 15 & 16check grammar etc. – December 17–19make sure citations and bibliography are done properly – December 20

Social Studies: read one section per daycopy out glossary words and definitions while readinganswer comprehension questions for each section on that dayanswer review questions after the entire chapter is finished in class

It looks like a lot, but let’s distill it to just what needs to be done today and estimate how long each task will take:

Band: practice all pieces, spend extra time on solos (30-60 minutes)

French report: choose country (15 minutes)

French vocabulaire: make flash cards (30 minutes)practice (30 minutes)

Math: complete 20 questions (30 minutes)

English reading: read short story (10 minutes)write out thoughts and impressions (20 minutes)

English research paper: choose topic (15 minutes)

Social Studies: read section & copy glossary words and definitions (20 minutes)answer comprehension questions (20 minutes)

Wow, that’s still a pretty heavy workload: just over 3 hours plus practice time! Of course, some tasks won’t take as long as I’ve put, and others will take more time. The total is probably close to right, though it doesn’t include breaks.

Because yeah, we’re going to take breaks.

Now, I don’t know about you, but I don’t really do great with focusing on one subject for a really long time unless I’m really into it. So I’m actually going to reorganize this list to make it work better for how my brain works.

French report: choose country (15 minutes)

English research paper: choose topic (15 minutes)

Math: complete 10 questions (15 minutes)

French vocabulaire: make flash cards (30 minutes)

Social Studies: read section & copy glossary words and definitions (20 minutes)

Band: practice all pieces, spend extra time on solos (30-60 minutes)

Math: complete 10 questions (15 minutes)

English reading: read short story (10 minutes)write out thoughts and impressions (20 minutes)

French vocabulaire: practice (30 minutes)

Social Studies: answer comprehension questions (20 minutes)

Now things are broken up a bit more so it isn’t so daunting, everything has due dates to instill a sense of urgency, and my subjects are mixed up to maintain interest. And the key to actually getting through all of it is to take a 5-minute break after each task, as well as whenever my interest starts to wane during the longer tasks.

About the 5-minute breaks: I recommend active breaks, during which you get out of your seat and wander a bit, get a snack from the kitchen, etc. Whatever helps you recharge and won’t get you sucked in so that you forget to return to your work. For some people that is actually reading a book, which would be disastrous for me!

So, the steps I followed:

List all assignments.

Break down long-term assignments into smaller tasks.

Assign due dates to each of these smaller tasks.

Break down other assignments into smaller tasks.

Assign due dates to all of the tasks.

List all tasks that are due today.

Estimate how long each of today’s tasks will take.

Break up larger tasks even smaller (e.g., a group of 20 questions can be split into two groups of 10).

Arrange the tasks in a way that will maintain your interest.

Complete the first task in the list, taking 5-minute breaks as needed.

Take a 5-minute break when the task is finished.

Repeat steps 10 and 11 for each task in the list until done.

I hope this is helpful, and if it doesn’t tackle the actual problem you’re having, please write in again with more details so I can try again!

-J

[neurodivergentsupport]

Hey so i have 2 questions because I'm feeling bad 1. My dad is always super overwhelming and I love him but he gets mad if I ignore him or leave the room what should I do 2. My parents don't believe I can be autistic because I "don't stim" (I just do less noticeable things due to bullying) and my mom has selective memory. I think I'm going through autistic burnout because I feel like I've gotten "more autistic" and my parents think I'm faking it. Am I faking? How can i get them to believe me?

Hi! first off, I can 100% relate to all of this, my parents are the exact same way

Hi dad, I wanted to have a conversation with you about something that I feel might be helpful for both of us. I’ve noticed that sometimes, when I leave the room or (insert other behaviors that he responds this way to), you might feel as though I’m ignoring or avoiding you and feel hurt. I don’t want you to feel like I am disrespecting you when I do these things because I love you. This is why I want to explain to you that when I leave the room, it is not because I am trying to make you upset. I often feel a bit overwhelmed when i’m around you because (insert specific sensory things about him that make him overwhelming, like maybe he speaks loudly or something) which is hard for me to handle for a long period of time. When I leave the room, it is so that I can recharge for a bit before talking to you again, so that I can once again give you my full attention without getting overwhelmed and crabby because of it (idk how you personally respond to overload, this is just an example). I’m sorry that this gives you the impression that I am ignoring you, that was not my intention--it is just my way of taking care of myself. (at this point you could try to relate this to something that he experiences, like maybe needing to not talk to anyone before his morning coffee. Idk, that’s just a random example). Maybe together we can come up with a system for me to tell you when I need to be alone for a bit so that you don’t feel like I’m leaving you out?

Of course, this is just a basic framework. If you have a way of talking to your dad that’s different, by all means, use that instead. If you think some of these things might not work but others would, feel free to substitute them. This is just a starting point. 

Second question: You’re not faking. Autistic burnout is real and I’ve lived it. wrt getting your parents to believe you, I would go through the diagnostic criteria and write down specific examples of how you fulfill each criteria with as much detail as possible. I would also get some autistic-made resources on self-diagnosis, autistic burnout, etc. (@AskAnAutistic, @Butterflyinthewell, @Metapianycist, @CandidlyAutistic,@ Autisticliving, @Autism-Asks, and @Autismserenity are all wonderful autistic-run blogs with lots of resources about autism for autistics, and there’s lots more out there--those are just the ones I could list off the top of my head.) Some specific pages that might help:

https://candidlyautistic.tumblr.com/self-diagnosis/

https://mentalillnessmouse.tumblr.com/post/120683503329/self-screening-quizzestests

https://strangerdarkerbetter.com/2016/11/16/positively-autistic-a-list-of-positive-autistic-traits/

http://dysfunctionalqueer.tumblr.com/post/96292695187/simplified-asd-diagnostic-criteria

https://iancommunity.org/cs/simons_simplex_community/autism_in_girls

https://autism-asks.tumblr.com/post/161591699246/do-you-know-what-people-look-for-when-diagnosing

https://autism-asks.tumblr.com/post/161591618511/ive-been-followingreading-through-this-blog-for

https://autism-asks.tumblr.com/resources

https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/hcp-dsm.html

https://iancommunity.org/cs/autism/icd10_criteria_for_autism

https://icd.codes/icd10cm/F845

https://autism-asks.tumblr.com/post/159982546821/what-is-the-difference-between-autism-adhd-and

https://strangerdarkerbetter.com/2016/10/27/autism-with-a-side-of-adhd/

https://autism-asks.tumblr.com/post/161277964381/so-i-know-someone-can-have-autism-and-add-and-that

http://strangerdarkerbetter.tumblr.com/post/163742212738/hey-you-might-be-autistic

https://autism-asks.tumblr.com/post/166186812681/ive-identified-as-autistic-for-the-last-few

https://autism-asks.tumblr.com/post/168109574506/this-isnt-an-autism-ask-but-its-related-somewhat

https://autisticality.com/2016/03/21/inclusive-autistic-traits/

http://selfdiagnosisnetwork.tumblr.com/links

http://differentbrains.org/bottoms-up-the-innovative-thinking-style-of-the-aspergers-mind/

http://sbroxman-autisticquestions.tumblr.com/post/160626192191/lifehunger-my-biggest-special-interests-through

https://docs.google.com/document/d/16i4G2gC-zVR1RQtznhO2mBwvRPOQCfL9dGlb2Xztko8/edit#

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4104252/

https://autism-asks.tumblr.com/post/160915224886/hi-just-wondering-is-there-a-way-to-stop

https://strangerdarkerbetter.com/2017/03/28/dsm-criteria-for-autism-explained/

https://ollibean.com/autistic-neurology-behavior/

http://polyglotplatypus.tumblr.com/post/161174448731/hi-i-just-wanted-to-ask-about-that-executive

https://autism-asks.tumblr.com/post/161526830741/hey-so-recently-i-realised-that-i-dont-pass-as

http://bernieandthejets.tumblr.com/post/161787728873/how-to-know-if-you-have-a-special-interest

http://littleautismthings.tumblr.com/post/162599722669/i-think-i-might-have-autism-but-im-not-sure-how

https://autism-asks.tumblr.com/post/162567722861/so-ive-never-been-diagnosed-with-it-my-mom-it

https://candidlyautistic.tumblr.com/post/162793226049/self-diagnosis

http://queerdoctorpalmer.tumblr.com/post/166016383184/leepacey-autism-is-extremely-misunderstood

http://askanautistic.co.uk/post/166633323489/how-do-i-reconcile-bein-smart-w-bein-autistic

https://autism-asks.tumblr.com/post/167387572481/hey-it-might-sound-stupid-to-ask-but-dont

Good luck!

[fuckstudy]

Hey there idk what to say but I'm on the verge of crying bc I feel so lazy. Even one of my teachers told me about it and I feel like a useless law student u_u I know we need to be disciplined and responsible but sometimes I just can't keep it up bc I feel tired :( idk what to do I don't want to fail my finals or retake curses bc I know I'm smart enough to be at the top but I'm not doing what I need to be in that spot :( #help

/hugs tightly/ 

Cry. Cry if you need to - if it makes you feel better, if it means that you’ll have clarity of mind for the steps ahead. 

Here’s the secret: not all law students are type A, disciplined and ‘responsible’ all the time. Heck, not all successful law students are disciplined, responsible, 10 hours of study per day.

We’re human. 

And that means its natural to feel tired, to experience burn out and fuck everything I’d rather maim myself than read another 100 pages on constitutional law. 

But that doesn’t mean that you can’t be successful. That doesn’t mean you can’t reach your potential. 

It just means you need to rest. To find your motivation. To reset. And recharge.

So that you can work at your full potential again.  

And you’re not alone. 

Just because you’re not disciplined, ‘pomodoro’, bullet journal, study 10 hours a day doesn’t make you any less of a good, smart or talented student. I can’t count the number of years I felt ‘inferior’ because I wasn’t studying as much as I thought I needed to. I was the classic ‘stress but don’t do anything about it until a week before the exam’ type student. In my final two years at law school, I crammed each semesters worth of work the week before the exam. In my final year I started and finished my thesis the week before it was due. All nighters were my jam. 

Was that ideal? No. Was it good for my mental, emotional, social health? Absolutely not. Do I advocate it? Not a chance. 

But in the end, I passed. I graduated. I did well. 

And I guess, that’s what I’m trying to convey... in a long winded manner. Don’t count yourself out of the race just because you’ve had a stretch of bad days, months, years. Don’t think you’re inferior just because you’re not studying the way everyone else is. 

You’ll get there. You will. I promise.

Why? 

Because failure, lack of motivation, lack of dedication - these factors alone do not determine your success.

Its how you respond to them that will. 

It sounds like your body and mind are imploring you to take a rest. Take a break. A day, an afternoon - a significant period of time. It may sound counter productive but law school is a marathon, not a sprint. Taking some time out now... well, think of it as insurance for the future. Refuelling the tank for the journey ahead. 

And when you’re ready, when you’ve cried your lungs out, binge watched every single tv show you have on your list, caught up with your friends - then chip away at the work. Get up, a start again.

Law exam tips (for the last minute fuck its due tomorrow type student) 

With regards to specific tips for revising exams (when you’re under time pressure or not feeling like it): 

Start by checking what topics are examinable, and what aren’t 

Consider the weighting of each section (might be helpful looking through how many weeks you spent dedicated on each topic) 

Highlight the key principles of law and the source (e.g. statute, the specific case) 

Have one or two factual case examples 

Problem solving structure 

Practice past exams - just IRAC that shit. Seriously. Just get really quick at issue spotting. 

And if you’re running low on time, go to your online legal encyclopedia or similar source (e.g. Lexisnexis, Halsbury, LawNow) and PRINT OUT THE COMMENTARY 

SERIOUSLY

DO

IT

Because it’ll sum up the principles, provide case examples (which you can then look up and flesh out)

BASICALLY ALL YOUR NOTES IN ONE. LEGAL PROBLEM SOLVING FRAMEWORK, DONE. 

then flesh out the commentary with what you’ve learnt in class. Or delete the stuff that wasn’t covered. 

Other resources

And here’s some resources that may help: 

Things you can actually do before going to law school that do not involve attempting to teach yourself the law (but also useful here) by @lawschoolruinedme

An important message from @medicalstate

Staying motivated

Dealing with failure

Studying for semester finals

Dealing with a shit grade  

Burnout 101 by @polcry

How to deal with burnout by @simmonestudies

How to deal with a burnout by @kawaiistudy

Exam guide ( incl helpful links to IRAC motherfuckers) by @polkadotsnstripes)   

A final note  

All in all anon, I just want to tell you that you’re human. And thats ok. That’s actually bloody fantastic cause humans are much more exciting, much more happier and balanced than animals that lock themselves in the law library for 15+ hours a day. 

You can achieve great things as a human. 

With sleep, a good support network and time to just breathe. 

And pass on my “fuck you, kind regards” to anyone who dares to accuse you for not being a ‘good law student’, just because you haven’t done [insert stupid cocky law assholery type comment brag about reading cases/ doing an activity/ volunteering etc here]. 

All the best anon.

I look forward to hearing about your progress. 

[kittyisautistic]

Hi! I've been talking to my therapist about feeling "different" and I told her some of the things that I was going through and she said that I should be tested for autism which I'm really anxious to do because I think then I'll feel less alone? In my weird way of doing things? I don't know but anyway I do have a question, what does it mean when people refer to spoons?

hiya friendo!! thanks for bein my first ever ask!! im gonna try to give you the best answer i can!! ^ w ^im not exactly sure what you mean by “weird way of doing things” but if your therapist thinks so, and you’ve done lots of research n stuff, and feel like you’re gonna feel less alone, i think its a suppeerr good idea if you get tested!! okok so about spoons, here’s the ACTUAL definition of what it means straight from google:

“The spoon theory is a disability metaphor used to explain the reduced amount of energy available for activities of daily living and productive tasks that may result from disability or chronic illness. Spoons are a tangible unit of measurement used to track how much energy a person has throughout a given day. Each activity requires a given number of spoons, which will only be replaced as the person “recharges” through rest. A person who runs out of spoons has no choice but to rest until their spoons are replenished.”

it’s pretty much a way that we can measure how much energy we have, how much we’re capable of doing with that energy, and how much we need to rest/relax to get some of that energy back. it’s like a lil energy meter (to me at least) that can show me how much energy i physically and mentally have left after doing a specific task for the day. for example, on autism amino (an app on my phone), i have a spoon calculator where i’ll keep track of how many spoons i have for the day usually out of one hundred. big tasks like getting up and going to school, which are super hard for me, can take away up to 20 spoons or more. so maybe after a full day, on a school day, i’d have like 30/100 spoons left. (i usually go by tens, and only 30 because that’s like a whole day of activities). say the next day is a weekend, so i do have time to rest up and get those spoons back, but all the energy i used from the previous day is still weighing on me, so after sleeping and resting an entire saturday, i may have 80/100 spoons left. which is fairly good considering i have a lot of struggles with the school day and such. also, spoons can fluctuate within a day too. say like, idk, i feel super good after a nap and empowered and i go from 80/100 spoons to like 90/100 spoons or somethin, and then we do a big activity and then i go back down to like 60/100 spoons. usually i never have 100/100 spoons because im constantly masking. i usually never even have like 80/100 lol, but you get the point!! if i ever run out of spoons, for me personally, it usually results in mental breakdowns, panic attacks, and more. sometimes i’ll just literally shut down and be the equivalent of a walking zombie. i hope that makes sense!! again, thanks for the question, i’m always here if ya need me! ^//v//^