#i'm upset for various future reasons

[acourtofthought]

"Lucien is unwanted by everyone, nobody likes him"

"But he is a good male." Cassian's heart strained at the pain etching deep into Lucien's face as he tried to hide his disappointment and longing. "And I came up here because Feyre said I should. I need to kill a few hours before I'm to meet with her and Rhys. She thought I might enjoy seeing Nesta at work." Elain, the wretch, had taken the seat between Feyre and Varian, about as far from Lucien as she could get. But as Eris strode by...I could have sworn there was something like sadness - like regret, as he glanced at Lucien. The Lady of Autumn's favorite son - not only from Lucien's goodness. But because he was the child she'd dreamed of having ...with the male she undoubtedly loved. "He cares for you." "He is a good male," I repeated. / "I don't like to see either of you unhappy." Friends, I realized. They had somehow become his friends. "He'd already made many friends across the courts and had always been good at talking to people." Ups and downs in friendships, misunderstandings, etc., does not mean a character is unwanted or disliked. Rhys was upset with Lucien at various points throughout the series but guess what? Lucien was upset with Rhys too! For good reason, reasons Feyre continued feeding into at the start of ACOWAR. Feyre was upset with Lucien at points throughout the series? He was upset with her too! He called her an asshole to her face and she admitted it to be true. Sarah continues writing scenes for Lucien because he is important to the overall story. Some of those scenes consisted of disagreements, obstacles, overcoming past beliefs, etc., but the point is they were introduced and resolved and led to the characters building a stronger foundation with one another. If Lucien was unwanted than he would simply disappear from the story like Briar, like Hart and Bron, and so on. Instead Sarah continues to connect him to future plots like Koschei, she has the fan favorites (Feyre, Rhys, etc) remind of us of how much they need Lucien because of his connections, she has Feyre JEALOUS that Lucien is choosing to spend time with Vassa and Jurian over staying with her, we're told how Lucien has super special private meetings with only Rhys and Feyre. As of the most recent book we have Cassian feeling sorry for Lucien regarding his situation with Elain (and Cassian thinking nothing of Az's love life). We have Rhys going to bat for Lucien regarding Elain and ordering Az to stop being an idiot. We have Nesta making conversation with Lucien, we have Feyre asking Lucien to check on Nesta's progress, we have Rhys and Feyre inviting Lucien, the only non Night Court / IC character to Solstice (their FAMILY holiday, something not even the wraiths attend) and Starfall. Tamlin turned his back on Lucien? Tamlin turned his back on his entire court. It's called depression and is not some tally mark for anti's to use as proof that Lucien is unwanted. "Elain clearly doesn't want Lucien". And yet she keeps his gifts and has not formally rejected their bond. She had no issues telling Nesta off, no issues returning Az's gift, so why exactly is she so hesitant to tell Lucien to stop coming around if she truly doesn't want him and never will? Nesta also ignored people because she was running from something so chances are good we're seeing the same with Elain. In one breath we've got anti's claiming that Lucien is forgotten, unimportant, unwanted, hated by all. In the next we've got them claiming E/riel is next while Lucien will receive the book after, where he's so important that he'll defeat Koschei alongside Vassa.

[meraki-yao]

Now I'm curious to know all the "candies" between Nick and Tay 👀 lol I don't ship them but I also find it interesting that some fans really ship real people together and gather evidence or proof of it. If its fine with you to share it pls do 🙏 but if not its also fine :)

Huh...

Actually, sure! I kinda wanted to share some of these at times but again I understand that rps is a complicated subject.

A couple of quick prefaces though:

1, If you’re uncomfortable with the subject, again, please don’t read under the post

2, I don’t have all the candies because I really just view them in passing, so I’m just gonna write/translate the ones I’ve seen, remember and find at least a logical speculation

3, I need to reiterate this in case my position in this gets misunderstood: Me writing about “candies” isn’t because these are MY opinion or things *I* found or *I* believe in them being evidence. I am just a translator and messenger.

4, (this one is gonna sound a little academic lol) Two things I realized when thinking about this “candy eating” culture is that Chinese people have a very difference understanding of platonic/romantic affection/relationships with the Western world, and that they look at the candies with rose-tinted glass. Chinese/Asian people are generally a lot less affectionate with their personal relationships, for example friends wouldn’t say “love you” to each other if they’re just friends, nor would they expand their friend group to the others easily or other stuff. And these people who look for candy go into their “investigation” already with the belief that “they are together”, everything remotely resembling a close relationship will automatically be interpreted as romantic. I thought about it a lot, and honestly among the “candies” I’ve seen, most of them are a matter of interpretation: yes those are things couples will do, but it wouldn’t be weird if friends did it too. So they’re not that seriously or up for further speculation. There is I think only one “candy” that I can’t quite say the same, which I will explain and elaborate on in this post. 

5, Please remember that the people who do this do it in good nature: something I didn’t make clear in my post yesterday, which is on me, is that the fans do want them to be together, but they’re not like… yandere level or something. If they’re just friends the fans won’t be upset or betrayed or anything, they just prefer to see them as romantic. They don’t mean any harm, and they don’t cause any harm because China is physically and digitally too far away for them to actually fuck shit up, and they understand the lines of parasocial relationships: those who met with Taylor during his China trip in December know to, and didn’t bring up this in front of him. They know where to draw the line, and whoever doesn’t and starts becoming a problem gets kicked out of the community. This is meant for fun.

6, Ok Future Meraki here, turns out, there’s a lot to translate, a lot more than I anticipated Jesus Christ and I do want to get this post how within today and make it a reasonable length, so I’m just gonna do two events and the one that I mentioned in 4. If yall want a part 2 let me know.

Ok with that being said, the main event under the cut:

In December they made a whole article about “candies” from December, and to quickly summarise (again noted that all of this is speculation, I didn’t and can’t fact check them, and I’m just a translator) (also this ended up way longer than I anticipated so for photo reference if you can please go to the link of the original article):

Academy Gala:

Nick and Taylor both attended the gala: Since the strike ended up to that point, the two times Nick attends a public event, Taylor’s there too (GQ men of the year and Academy Gala), and for both times he’s wearing Cartier’s Tank Must Watch (remember this watch, I’m gonna elaborate on it later because it is the only candy that even I can’t say it’s a matter of interpretation)

In various pictures of the night’s party that other people took, the boys can be seen together in the background

How the photography worked that night was magazine photographers wandered around the venue and randomly found people to take some relatively candid photos: so people who were walking/sitting/in any way sticking together would be photographed together. So best friends and married couples would be photographed together, which is what happened to Meryl Streep, Greta Gerwig, Saoirse Ronan, and Christopher Nolan, Cillian Murphy and their wives. With that logic, Taylor and Nick were caught by the photographer together TWICE, in clearly different places. Later Korean fans (with the same “candy-searching” mindset) read the time on Taylor’s watch in the photos: one was 8:30, one was 9:50. The implication is that they were together for at least that period of time (nearly 1.5 hours)

In both photos of the boys together, Nick’s elbow is…straight up leaning into Taylor's chest. In a photo with Kaia, Nick’s friend and co-star from Bottoms (Brittany), there’s visible space between Nick and Kaia but none between Nick and Taylor (… okay I’m gonna pop in with my own opinion on the latter one real quick: I really think that one is just Nick being a gentleman)  

During that night, Taylor re-posted an Instagram post from July onto Little Red Book: but the things is in the comment section of the original Instagram post, Taylor teasingly pretends to not know Nick; and according to the posting time and the time calculated in 3, Nick would have been watching him post that to Little Red Book.

Nick got a photo with Taylor’s friend Jay Ellis (Jay and Taylor follow each other on Instagram, and Taylor comments under Jay’s post), even though Nick and Jay don’t seem to have any direct connections. Kaia and Taylor started following each other on Instagram after the event.

While other people who got photos with Taylor posted them, in Taylor’s Instagram Post for the night: He only included his photo with Nick, the rest are all solo portraits of himself. Not only that: he edited the background of the photo so it’s just them, and proceeded to put the photo in the middle of the post.

a bunch of Taylor's good friends, including Taylor’s cousin went to like Nick’s post for the academy gala night. Taylor’s sister Ash shared Taylor’s post to her stories: 2 photos of Taylor himself, and the one photo of Taylor and Nick. Taylor mentioned in a past interview if he had any emotional or relationship (I don’t know which one is the right translation, the original wording is 感情) issues, he would talk to Ash. (please note that I didn’t not and don’t know how to fact-check any of the things mentioned above except for Ash’s Instagram)

Conclusion/ Speculation (okay the academy gala part alone took me 40 minutes what the fuck): I cannot reiterate this enough: THIS IS JUST SPECULATION DO NOT TAKE THIS SERIOUSLY but under the assumption that Taylor and Nick are a thing, the serious of shenanigans that happened that night, especially with the family and friends stuff in 6,7,8, was interpreted as they announcing it to their personal social circle. AGAIN THIS IS SPECUALTION DON’T TAKE THIS SERIOSULY 

Taylor’s China Trip

On 7th December, Taylor had a photo shoot at the GQ gala venue, but spent the rest of the afternoon taking photos and signing things for fans. Among those, one was the photo of him and Nick from the academy gala just three days ago. He was visibly extra happy and showed off the photo to the crowd, unlike the other photos which he simply gets it, signs it, and then gives it back.

This day was also the start of “Taylor giving Nick/Henry a moustache”: throughout the trip, he drew on four photos of the two of them

(This one is a … really big stretch) among the four, one of them was the GQ magazine shoot, and he first drew the moustache on Nick’s face, giggling “I’ll sign on Nick’s face”, signed his own signature, then just when he was about to give the magazine back he suddenly changed his mind and said “wait wait I wanna do something on my face”, and then drew a crown on his head while muttering “crown prince”. And the thing is… historically, George Villers had a moustache. And then he drew a moustache on Nick and a crown on himself. Also, one of the most popular Chinese RWRB fic on AO3 is called “The King’s Palace”, and the premise is putting Henry in George place as the social climber and the Duke of Buckingham (it is literally George’s character with blonde hair and a different name), and Alex as the crown prince who ascended to the throne and is also utterly infatuated with Henry. So… yeah.

When he drew the fourth photo, which was the piano scene, the fan who asked said “Oh you’re so nice to Nick!” and according to their description (there’s no video), Taylor blushed a little and said “yeaahhhhh” with a big grin

While Taylor was in China people were stirring shit up on Twitter about him, and during the Twitter drama, Nick liked Taylor’s Academy Gala post.

The boys liked the same video on Instagram but from different accounts (a video about a pony in the snow)

During the trip, Taylor was seen wearing a white button-up with blue stripes. Nick has been seen wearing a shirt that looks identical before.

Cartier Watch (aka the one that makes me do a double take)

Taylor used to wear a lot of Cartier watches until he started wearing Tagheuer last July due to a commercial partnership

Nick likes wearing Omega watches. In fact, Henry’s watch in the movie is Nick’s own omega watch. He also has a commercial partnership with Omega.

But then starting last year, both of them were seen wearing matching Cartier’s Tank Must Watches (the silver on with a black surface and a sapphire crown): Taylor can be seen wearing it in the 5th photos of his September post, while Nick can be seen wearing it during the GQ gala, the Academy Gala, in Milan during fan interactions, and last weekend in his TIOY co-star’s Instagram story.

And the thing about this watch is (and here is where I need to reiterate that I’m just translating, I didn’t fact check this) 1, watch is a typical thing to give a lover, and you must be familiar with their wrist size 2, Cartier is a pretty romantic brand 3, the price of this watch is closer to what Taylor’s used to wearing but much cheaper than Omega 4, This specific watch is a popular watch to give a partner/lover, 5, David and Victoria Beckham’s relationship was discovered because paparazzi saw the Cartier watch he gave her and connected dots together

Jesus Christ at this point I should consider getting a part time job in translation

This was fun but this took me so much time, it’s ~2000 words long

Again, all of this was found and speculate for fun, and mean no ill will, and haven’t, and won’t harm the boys, please understand that and don’t take this took seriously. If you find this interesting and want a part two, let me know.

[sjw-publishings]

Hey Everyone,

I don’t tend to write these kinds of posts on my tumblr page, however I feel this is necessary.

In the event you are not aware, Dumb and Jocked, the main person I do collabs with, and also who is someone who most people might consider to be one of the backbones of the Tumblr TF community, has deactivated his account and left us last week.

Most of the people and I do not know exactly why or how this happened, but it's the reality of the situation unless he somehow does return in the future.

Some tumblrs might still have some of his stories reblogged, including mine, however some of which cannot be accessed as they are stuck at the ‘read more’ page. Notably his longer stories ‘Branded’ and both parts of the major collaboration we did together in ‘Narrow residences’.

If anyone has any of these stories saved somewhere, it would be great if you could either link it to me or post it on Tumblr.

Below will be my farewell to him, in the event he ever does somehow read it. This probably is not the best farewell letter, but it's the best I could do in such short notice and also posting it publicly. —————————————————————

Hey Dumb and Jocked,

Thanks for reading this, and I'm sad to see you go.

We’ve worked on various collabs together and it was fun throughout the years discussing various ideas here and there with you.

Unfortunately, after you left, it just feels really upsetting looking at the stuff you wrote. Even those that were saved from reblogs and reposts from other blogs. While I do want to keep them for memories and also because I did collaborate on some of them, it just feels much sadder trying to indulge in your stories or continue in sequels of it.

I was shocked that you would leave us out of the blue, however a part of me anticipated this.

I'm mostly speculating, but this is a hobby that can be rather controversial and you contributed a massive ton, likely without any compensation. You were quite private in general and talked about stories and bounced off my ideas now and then.

You sort of have a clean gateway if you decide to ever leave for good, as you probably are not really close to anyone here other than writing TF stories.

Some of us hoped that you might return, and speculated maybe it's tumblr accidentally banning you and you would get your account back, but as the days went by, it only reaffirmed that my anticipation was likely correct.

I myself mostly continued on tumblr for you, and I'm not sure if I would continue now that the main reason and person I stuck around for has left without letting any of us know. It is something I will have to decide for myself in the future.

If you ever do return to Tumblr or decide to message me privately to talk about things, that would be great. I do hope you return, even if you don’t write stories that frequently or even at all, so we could talk for a bit.

However I know that I won’t wait forever.

That’s all I will write in this letter. It was fun writing and discussing TF stories with you while it lasted.

-Sjw Publishings

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for distancing myself from my partner?

I, (17NB) and my partner (17NB) had a rough year. Thier family is super religious, and so is the place we live in, and we've had many fears about being outed. My family is less religious and I mostly raise myself so admittedly he's a lot more paranoid, and rightfully so I'd say. But ever since we've started dating I've had to ask them multiple times to improve thier communication.

To start off, I wish they were upfront, or atleast more firm about us breaking up, atleast in the first year. That wouldve solved a lot of heartbreak if they didn't want to be with me.

They dodged the question of physical intimacy of literally anything more than holding hands or cuddling multiple times, and yet mentioned they were ace offhandedly to a friend instead of giving me a straight answer (which I wouldve been fine with, I just wish they told me.) They tend to get angry quite easily and resort to snappish/ short answers, and, especially since them having a conversation with thier mom questioning thier sexuality, tend to abhor the smallest inkling of physical contact or sign that we're together, even if we're around friends who know, or alone.

After the conversation with thier mom, they asked to break up, but i basically pleaded for another chance and they agreed. I know it's my own fault at some point for beating a dead horse, but I recently had a conversation that kind of snapped the rose-tinted glasses right off.

We were discussing our futures, and there's a somber agreement neither of us will see each other again after school. Thats not what I'm upset about. They described having kids in a hetero marriage and joking to thier kids about the "wild" stuff they got up to in highschool like experimenting in a queer relationship, basically saying our entire 3 years of dating was a fluke or joke or experiment.

I realised this was the straw that broke the camel's back, they didn't really initiate or seem as eager as me about the sparse times we could go out alone together, they gave me a half finished craft I had to sew myself while I gave a painting for valentine's day, and various examples of bad communication. They're a good friend, I'm not so sure about partner.

So, I'm kinda trying to stop this year. I stopped frantically calling in school and rearranging lessons to be with them, I didnt spam text or think about making any gifts so far, I asked to have a..spicy experience with a friend or two (that my partner agreed with me doing). In my head I guess I told myself that we might call ourselves partners but the word just lost its meaning for us both.

So far, it's okay. It hurts, because it seems more like we're just friends instead of dating, but I want to focus on myself and my studies to get out of our really conservative area. Still, I feel guilty and a little resentful. I know I should've just accepted breaking up, but we're kinda codependant. They and I both know we can't be without each other.

They love me so much, I know that. They've done so so much for me and dragged me out of a horrible place pretty much single-handedly, they're just not great at communicating or emotional maturity. Also, they seem to think queer people go to hell in some self-imposed notion of religious guilt, and when I express resentment towards religions that push homophobia on thier followers they seem weirdly defensive of it.

For context, I have BPD (my partner has, for a long time being my 'favourite person') and what I'm reluctant to call "severe" trauma but it's been described as that. I'm genuinly curious to know if this is a result of some upbringing-induced overreaction or if its okay to just kinda give up on my own relationship. Yes, I'm aware that the best thing would be to break up but I dont think I could ever leave them, for some stupid reason.

What are these acronyms?

[the0nlyallison]

Updated Introduction

Allison | 17 | United States | ambivert | she/her | straight

Notes challenge

July Notes Challenge

Books/Authors: Dean Koontz | Stephen King | Percy Jackson series

TV shows: The Office | Never Have I Ever | Atypical | 13 Reasons Why

Music: Bon Jovi | Nicki Minaj | Olivia Rodrigo | Ariana Grande | country | 2000s pop | some rap | southern rock | 80s

Hobbies: reading | writing | cleaning | studying | planning | working out | scrolling through various socials

Achievements: NSHSS ambassador | author of two poems | top 10% of my class | high honor roll

How I act: I match the energy of others. If you're an ass, I'll be an ass. If you're yourself, I'll be myself. If you're nice, I'll be nice | I don't have average feelings; I feel them as extreme | I get defensive if someone says something to upset me | I get real depressed easily

Academics/future: I take college courses, though I'm in high school. I'm working to get my associates degree in psychology at MUO to be a psychiatrist | planning on joining the Army National Guard

College classes I've taken/am taking: intro to lit | general chemistry | intro to psych | ASL I | American Government | ASL II | developmental psychology

Other blogs:

@allisonswritings where I post my poems and chapters of books

@ilovetorunandjump for my sports, achievements, athletic goals, and things i see on social media

@allisonsacademics my academic goals and achievements

Pets: I have two dogs (Peanut and Flynn) and two cats (Kit Kat and Georgie) which i will and have posted a lot of

Dni: homophobes | racists | sh accounts | the usual

Socials: discord, Pinterest, Wattpad, YouTube all the0nly_allison | Instagram allison.hatcher25 | BeReal allison.hatcher | tiktok the0nlyallison

Tags I'll start using frequently:

Asks: allisons asks (I also include the name of the person who asked; if it's anonymous I put anon)

Conversations: messenger convos | discord convos | Google chats convos | Tumblr convos

Pets: Georgie | my baby

Guys: Maple Syrup (Chase, from old blogs) | Benji (my ex bf)

Content: random thoughts | song lyrics | polls | reblogs | conversations | vents | possible art posts??? | shopping hauls

Followers: 147

Mutuals:

@mqstermindswift (Nicky <3)

@brave-olive (Olive <3)

@kit-the-gaygent (Kit <3) (know irl)

@mackennalea (MacKenna <3) (know irl)

@123letsgobestie (Marie <3)

@likegoinghome (Matthew <3)

@shuhuaspookie (Aria <3)

@urbanflorals (Emma <3)

@percabeths-blue-cookies (Harley <3)

@deprivedofbraincellsandsleep (Zia <3)

@kimu-dem (Ki <3)

@lighter-like-a-feather (Kasi <3)

And all the others (I'm sorry I can't remember shit 😭😭) let me know if you want added or removed

[lunar-years]

How do you think Jamie’s mental health issues present/the effects of his father’s abuse in adulthood especially when being in a relationship with Roy and Keeley.

From what we’ve seen on the show alone I think Jamie is very well adjusted in general and has a bright and amazing future ahead of him in every sense ❤️

Cycling back to how his mental health issues present... we actually got a lot of canonical insight into this and to me it's an unpleasant cocktail of repression, overcompensating/excitable euphoria, shutting down, and depression. His repressive tendencies run pretty deep and it's been easier for him historically to push forward by pushing certain emotions down. When he gets triggered by being constantly around his dad in Manchester, he fucks off to Lust Conquers All. When he's upset in Amsterdam, he's cartwheeling down the streets with a hyper sort of constant energy. he's veryyy "i'm so depressed I act like it's my birthday everyday." Then you have moments like Wembley and the week leading up to Mom City where he freezes and falls into subsequent bouts of depression.

To me, I think quite a bit of those episodes stem from the fact that he's spent so long repressing his trauma that he fully does not realize he has it nor has he spent any time openly confronting it. Jame very much that guy who will drop THE most upsetting personal lore whilst laughing and then not understand why the room has gone silent. He can't remember what happened in Amsterdam. In Mom City he tells Roy he doesn't know he's upset, and when Keeley is listing off all the reasons he might have for not being himself lately, he's so overwhelmed by that because he hadn't even considered those reasons, or more aptly hadn't let himself stare them in the face.

Personally I think therapy helps him a lot and he takes to it like a fish to water. Finally he has someone to help him name the things that have happened to him and then help him process and reckon with those things in a healthy way. I definitely think he would learn to lean on others a lot more and develop new coping strategies to lessen instances like the one that drove him to Lust Conquers All.

That said, I think those first few weeks/months/years would be TOUGH. He's dealing with realities about his own life that he's spent much of the course of that life continually shoving down, and there's a lot of big words and diagnoses being thrown his way that overwhelms him even as it eventually relieves him to know there's a name for it.

It would be particularly difficult for him if that level of reckoning was happening at the same time as other big changes in his life, for instance getting together with Roy and Keeley and all the other anxieties that would come with that, or trying to reconnect with his dad. How long and in what capacity James Tartt Sr. remains in his life has to have an enormous impact on how his trauma related stuff presents, esp. given what we see in the finale. His father is very obviously his most prominent and longest-standing trigger. It's that sort of combination, along with him allowing himself to feel emotions outside of shutting down in the face of triggers, that I think could lead to panic attacks.

As for the royjamiekeeley aspect...they all deal with various mental health issues and are incredibly understanding and supportive ofc. As with all things, they have to find their footing and figure out through trial and error how to best help one another, but once they get it down they are incredibly solid. They help Jamie lessen his exposure to the stuff that triggers him (incl. his dad, in whatever way that works) and know how to best help to bring him down from panic attacks, how to talk to him when he's in various funks (he does the same for them), etc.

So it boils down to: I think future Jamie is on very solid footing but that doesn't mean he never stumbles. He's got a lot of healing left to do but I firmly believe he's up for the task.

[bob-mirum]

Okay, I think it's time to write a new post regarding requests and other things! Please read.

My art-status Commissions: No (only for rubles now, I plan to make a price list in the future) Art-trade/Collab: Optional and mostly with people I know well. (I won't mind if you write to me asking for a trade/collab, but I can refuse in case of various reasons) Requests: Yes There are several rules and notes regarding requests! Main note: at the moment I have a fixation on Pizza Tower and am not sure if I will return to requests for tf2, so now I am actively drawing only for Pizza Tower.

1. I understand that sometimes you really want to get your request, but please don't write your requests two and more times, it clogs up my ask box, and I have to do delete many your requests.

2. There are a LOT of requests and I think it's obvious that I wouldn't be able to do all of this even if I wanted to. Therefore, I would just like to ask you not to get upset if you haven’t received your request from me.

3. Before you write your request, I kindly ask you to see if someone has asked for something similar before. You can use tags to check, it's a cool thing. I'm not forcing you to do this, but it would be great if my ask box didn't clog up even more. x)

4. I don't drew other people OC's (only for my mutuals, friends and people I know well)

5. I don’t welcome the topic of guro, yandere, excessive cruelty and etc (anxiety go brrr), but I don't rule out that I can do something like this on my own, it's just that such cases are quite rare and basically a lot depends on my sick inspiration lol

It should also be noted that my blog is 16+

[dandelion-wings]

Hey I'm sorry but I read all your posts about In a Windless Land today and it's all I've been thinking about all day for various different reasons so now, if I may ask, what is Jean and Lisa's relationship like in this AU? :>

Also, it might not be the most plot relevant thing, but I was very curious about the bit about Jean and Diluc's past where Diluc accidentally burned Jean when he first recieved his Vision... What happened?

Haha, I'm glad you think it's fun! :>

The exact details of Jean and Lisa's relationship are kind of up in the air still? Despite initially positing this as a Jean/Kaeya AU, I have given in to the urge to make Kaeya aromantic again here, which has serious magical and ritual implications (again, fairytale leanings here--"true love" is an actual magical force that Kaeya assumes he's shut out of), but also means the relationship that develops between them isn't a romantic one but a partnership of mutual respect. (Kaeya is trying very hard to make Jean happy in Khaenri'ah as its future Queen, not as his wife, which is a nice but vitally important distinction.) Which leaves the field open for Jean/Lisa, one of my favorite things! XD But also, Jean did not come here to ruin this alliance by cheating on her husband, and also I don't know how much space I'd have for that subplot, so it may not manifest within this story itself. Regardless, though, Lisa is Jean's counselor and guide throughout on how to be a surfacer (from Mondstadt, even) in Khaenri'ah, helping her navigate customs, attitudes, and, of course, the magic. She trusts and values Lisa a lot, and sees her as kind of a lifeline when she's overwhelmed, because Lisa will always pause what she's doing to pull out some tea and give Jean a comfortable space to relax. :>

(Diluc, on the other hand, deeply mistrusts Lisa, because he realizes when she's chewing him out over the names thing that she has some inkling about his brother and she won't tell him what it is. Which is why the librarian he ends up relying on is Enjou. Who is getting such a good grade in secret agenting for that particular coup. :3c )

As for that childhood burn, I honestly didn't have a lot of details in mind beside my persistent headcanon that Diluc, getting his Vision so young and having a temper, very likely had control issues around his Pyro when he was mad! I'd vaguely imagined it as something like, he and Jean were sparring, she was clearly winning and said something about it that really grated, and he inadvertently sent fire down his sword and scorched her. I didn't have a clear picture, though. Just that it was an unconscious lashing-out and the first time he'd actually hurt someone doing so, which was shocking and upsetting for them both.

[sanityshorror]

Is there any writing tips you can give me to create OCs??

My advice comes from the perspective of an author who creates characters to tell stories, as well as a multimedia creator - so this advice is more general creating advice (rather than advice for just making OCs - which there's nothing wrong with to simply create OCs!), so this may not be exactly what you are looking for/may not fully apply, though I hope this helps! Advice below cut↓

Are you creating because you want fame and popularity, or for no reason other than your passion for it? If it's for fame and popularity and not purely from passion - don't. Fame and popularity must be 0% priority, it must come from the heart. Create the characters you want, create the stories you want to - not what you think others want and will like. You are your own target audience.

What is the character's purpose to exist? What is their story to tell and the reason to tell it? What is the backstory? Who are they, as a truly 3D being - like any real person is ?(you know this has happened when suddenly, your characters have developed 'minds of their own' and you no longer feel you can control them - you will know what I mean when you experience what this truly feels like.) How does their name and appearance reflect them, as a person? How would their time period and culture have shaped them? You will find more questions like this and you should be asking yourself every single question you can think of regarding your character - including the reason why your answer is what it is. The answer should be in character and make sense for said character.

Do extensive research on all topics and experience that you do not have direct, exact, lived experience which you will portray in your creations. Also, if the characters are from the past, do extensive research on their time period. Be very aware of what subjects are sensitive and do not touch them unless you are confident you can handle them with the needed maturity, awareness, capacity, etc to do so.

If you do not have direct, exact lived experience with things you portray in you character and work, you need to do extensive research, listen to many people who do have that experience, and talk to people personally about their experience - though, be aware of if it is a subject you should not ask one about and only ask (still keep the questions vague) if they offer first to share.

I give this following advice in #5 as an extreme horror creator, and I'm including this as I assume that you ask me because this is the genre you want to go into creating: A) you need to be 18+ to do this, plain and simple. This is not a genre appropriate for minors to be creating for, there are various reasons for this. B) your work needs to have a message, however, getting graphic and brutal (though you should not be creating extreme horror unless you are able to execute this properly), in your face and over the top with it - that's completely okay. Making people uncomfortable and disturbed and upset is the goal of extreme horror - not entertainment or to comfort. C) give an explanation for an antagonists reasons, though never an excuse nor ability to redeem. D) cross 'red lines' E) understand you will be controversial, get lots of backlash, many people will simply not have the comprehension to understand your creations. You need to be prepared for this and you need to just ignore it. Opinions only matter from people who are into the same genre. F) you need to practice a lot before posting. G) You need to consume and understand the points of other extreme horror media.

Commit. You must have the passion to truly commit. This must be something you are willing to dedicate years and years to. Understand you are a beginner and have so much to learn. Be receptive and take constructive criticism from those more experienced than you. And don't give up. Failing and making mistakes is essential to improvement. It's how you learn what not to do in the future. Those with lots of experience who point these things out are trying to help - not insult.

Don't ask bigger creators for promotion of your work. Don't try to push your characters on theirs.

If you do gain a following, be humbled and never, ever let it go to your head. I've seen this happen to so many people and it's always their downfall.

Push yourself out of your comfort zones. It's how you grow as a creator.

Uh..... "you only get one shot, do not miss your chance to blow, this opportunity comes once in a life time, yo!" Basically. Never let a chance at achieving your dream pass you by due to self doubt or anxiety. Especially a truly big chance. These are truly rare, most people will never gain any following - hence why you shouldn't care about fame to begin with. BUT.. ."Look, if you had one shot or one opportunity, to seize everything you ever wanted in one moment, would you capture it or just let it slip?" okay I'll stop with Lose Yourself but those lyrics are true.

I hope this helps you (and others)! Best of luck!! /Gen /pos

[piplupod]

WIBTA if I said, word for word, "please do not comment on my body or the food that I am eating, it makes me very uncomfortable as someone with an eating disorder" when anyone makes any sort of remark on my metabolism, the health factor of my food, the calories I am taking in, or how skinny I am, even if their remark was meant in a positive way?

this is a genuine question ! i am just very tired of putting up with comments on all of this even if people mean it to be complimentary. hearing "wow you're lucky you have a fast metabolism" when I eat a cookie is actually really fucking upsetting for me for various reasons that I don't want to go into.

so I am trying to come up with a firm painfully clear response that isn't mean but will make people back the fuck off and hopefully think twice about commenting on stuff to me in the future. but I worry I'm going to become a jerk that nobody wants to be around :')

[editorandchief]

Is It Too Late? | Peter Parker/Harry Osborn

Summary: Peter confessed his feeling for the reader after a long time. Peter Parker x Stark!reader x Harry Osborn

Warning: unwanted kiss

Request: Nah.

Walking down the street Y/N had no where in particular in mind but she knew she wanted to be as far away from the compound as possible.

She might have kept walking for hours if not for the sweet smell of coffee and pasties that halted her in her tracks. walking towards the café she had locked in her sights she failed to notice the man she was headed for a direct impact with until contact was made.

"Oh shit I'm sorry." The man apologized instantly.

"Don't be, that was completely my fault." She replied. "Are you okay?"

"Actually I'm Harry." He smirked holding out his hand. "And your crying...Was the joke that bad?"

Reaching up and wiping her face Y/N hadn't even realized she was this upset about it. "No, god I didn't even realize." She said looking up meeting his blue eyes. "The joke was bad, I wouldn't be surprised if it did end up making someone cry one day." Taking his hand to shake.

"Well I'll keep that in mind..."

"Y/N Stark."

"I thought you looked familiar" He said letting go of her hand. "Harry Osborne. Are you okay?"

Y/N gave him a pointed look while wiping the remaining trace of tears from her face. "Actually I'm Y/N." She repeated his joke back to him.

"Right it was a stupid question." Harry admitted holding his hands up in surrender. "I have another question though...What's it like having Tony Stark as a dad?"

"I wouldn't know, What's it like having Norman Osborne as a dad?" She replied smirking at the question that most people asked her -and most likely him as well- while growing up.

"I wouldn't know." Harry smiled. "Boarding School." Harry stated pointing to himself.

"Strategic Avoidance, on his end of course." She sniffled a bit still overcoming the previous emotion.

"Would that happen to be the reason for the..." Harry trailed off gesturing to her eyes.

"No," She replied waving her hand in dismissal of her tears. "This is a long, stupid story. I don't even know why I'm crying, It's just stupid."

"Well I'll tell you what, I was just headed over to that café over there." Harry informed pointing to the café Y/N was headed towards before their impact. "It smell great and looks like the perfect place for a long, stupid story. What do you say?"

*-*-*

Peter Parker paced back and forth in front of the group of male Avengers reading the article from his phone.

"Y/N Stark and Harry Osborn in a Billion dollar relationship." Peter read glaring at Bucky looking away quickly after he glares back. "The two teens, both heirs to billion dollar corporations, (Stark Industries and Oscorp) have been spotted out multiple times on various romantic rendezvous over the past three months, this is not only a big deal socially but it has some people wondering about the economic effects of the two merging in more ways then one, in the future."

"It's a very well written article." Sam commented looking around the room.

"Mr. Wilson this isn't funny." Peter commented placing his phone in his back pocket. "I did what you guys told me to do and now she's dating someone else."

"Kid we told you to make her a bit jealous..." Bucky reminded.

"I told you it was a bad idea." Steve said as Clint confirmed that he also told him it was a bad idea.

"That's what I did!" Peter shouted holding his arms out.

"We meant flirt with a stranger for like five minutes max." Same clarified "You went on three dates with another girl."

"I didn't know she was gonna go and date....him." Peter spat out. "Plus it was kinda cute to watch her be jealous."

"Don't say that to her." Clint warned quickly. "ever."

"What do I do know, am I just supposed to sit back and watch her live a life with some other guy." He asked flopping down on the sofa. "That would kill me."

"Listen kid, the way I see it you have two options." Bucky said leaning forward in his seat. "You can either tell her how you feel, like you should have in the first place, and see what happens or...you can move on and you guys go your separate ways."

*-*-*

Walking into the compound Y/N was rushing to meet her dad before her date with Harry, she was dress up because he was taking he out for her birthday.

"Y/N!" Peter called out as he rushed to open the door for her before following her in. "Can I talk to you for a second?" He asked as he attempted to keep up with he quick strides as they made their way to the elevator.

"It had to be quick, I'm meeting my dad and then I have to go." She informed pressing the button that would take them to he living room of the compound.

"Are you going somewhere?" Peter asked looking her up and down as she looked even more stunning than usual.

"A date with Harry." She confirmed with a smile. "He's taking me out for my birthday."

"Oh god, it's your birthday. I forgot the present I bought you."

"It's fine Pete, you can give it to me some other time." She assured as the elevator door opened up to the dark room. "So what is it you wanted to talk to me about."

"I've got something to tell you." Peter said reaching for her hand stopping her from walking farther into the room. "Something I should have told you a long time ago." turning to face him.

"Peter what..."

"I love you Y/N." Peter blurted out. "I've loved you since the moment we met, I think. and I should have told you when I knew but I was scared and I didn't but when ever I'm around you the only thing I can think about is how happy we would be together, and I want to be able to hold your hand and go on dates....kiss you."

Before she could reply Peter quickly leaned forward planting his lips on hers. it was a small kiss too long to be a peck, but too short to be a kiss. It was everything Peter expected it to be and more, what he didn't expect was the sharp slap across the face that came promptly after.

"What the hell is wrong with you Parker?" Y/N asked glaring at the young hero. "What makes you think that was okay?"

"I just wanted to tell you how I feel about you."

"After all this time? Tonight of all nights? Peter its my birthday, I'm 30 minutes away from going on a date with my boyfriend and you thought it was a good idea to confess your feeling and kiss me." She says. "Feeling you claim to have since you met me but didn't stop you from dating other people."

"I only did that to make you jealous." Peter rushed out a defense for is actions. "I asked some of the team and they said I should make you jealous so you would realize your feeling for me, but you were so cute when you would get jealous so I went on a few more date-."

"You liked seeing me jealous?" Y/N spat through gritted teeth. "So you told everyone else how you felt except for me? I never needed to realize my feelings Peter, they were pretty obvious, you were the only one that kept talking about Liz this and MJ that and then you date someone else because you like seeing me sad."

"No."

"You liked the look of heartbreak on my face too much to end it."

"That's not what I meant."

"You got some sort of sick gratification from my pining for you while you had a girlfriend." She continued. "And now you want to tell me that, that was just you showing love."

"I know I should have told you from the start, and now isn't the best timing but I had to tell you before it was too late."

"You are too late Peter!" She shouted. "You are about four months too late. I love Harry, I don't know if he loves me but I love him, Peter. He treats me great and he's there for me when I need him, he doesn't enjoy making me feel less than. I loved you too Peter but I thought you were happy, so I stepped to the side because I was happy that you were happy. I understand getting it off your chest, you have every right to express your feeling but...kissing me, now while I have a boyfriend Peter is out of line and it's selfish and it's a shitty thing to do."

Peter stood there watching in silence as Y/N continued her tearful rant.

"And it makes me feel shitty for letting it happen and that's not fair...It's not fair to me and it is not fair to Harry." She says as tears fall from her eyes. "And I don't want to keep this from him but god I don't know how I'm going to tell him what I've done." She says more to herself than to him as she walk backwards only to stubble in something on the ground. "Friday turn on the lights, please." She calls in frustration.

As the room aluminates with light Y/N looks down, only to see she had stubbed on a balloon. Looking around the room she sees the floor was half hazardly  covered in colors of her favorite colors along with streamer and in the middle of the living room stood the team along with Harry as well as Mr. Osborne. 

"Surprise." Loki says awkwardly throwing out some jazz hands.

Y/N stood in shock at the realization of what had just happed. In her mind not only did she cheat on her boyfriend but she had done it in front of him, his father and the team. Looking over to Harry to see him glaring she couldn't take it anymore, turning and leaving with a quick apology. 

Harry's glare didn't waver but it was never for Y/N, all the hatred he felt was for Peter Parker. Marching towards him Peter didn't stop Harry as he punched him in the face, Yes he was spiderman so it didn't hurt as much as Harry would have liked -not that he knew that- but it still hurt. 

Harry grabs onto the collar of Peter's shirt and goes to hit him again only to be stopped by Steve holding him back. 

"That's enough." He stated placing a hand on his shoulder. "You should go check on Y/N, she needs you." 

Giving a nod to the super soldier, Harry started to go in the direction you had fled only to stop and turn to Peter once more. "Stay away from my girlfriend Parker." He snapped before going to find you.

*-*-*

Harry found her balling her eyes out as she sat on the floor of her bedroom. Walking slowly towards to he thought about what he could possible say to make her feel better. 

"Harry." Y/N said as she looked over at him. "I'm so sorry." 

"It'll be okay." He replied.

"No it won't, I shouldn't have let that happen, I should have pushed him away." She listed all the ways she went wrong. "I don't know I s-should have..."

"Hey," Harry interrupted taking a seat next to her on the floor wrapping his arms around her. "There was nothing you could have done, this isn't your fault and you can't blame yourself for someone else's actions."

"Please forgive me...Please don't leave me." 

"Baby, I'm not leaving you for something that isn't your fault." Harry reassured. "I love you too much to let you go." 

Leaning back and looking onto his eyes Y/N felt nothing but completely and utterly loved.  

"I love you too Harry."

[edwinspaynes]

why do you like cordelia so much? I'm p neutral to her and want to like her better

Ooh I get to convert someone to being a Cordelia lover like me!

The Badass and the Compassionate Heroine

One of the things I love most about Cordelia is how she's a woman of dichotomies, literally a merciful hero. Yeah, she's kickass and a Sword Girl, but just to say that only is a surface-level intepretation.

Why stop there?

Cordelia is, first of all, what every author who attempts to write the "badass" heroine wishes they wrote. Because she's brave and stubborn and headstrong, but those aren't her truest, at-her-core strengths. Down to her bones, her strengths are the types of traits that most "badass" heroines tend to shirk. She's compassionate; we see this over and over again to the point that she considers comforting a dying Tatiana. She's sensitive, emotional, caring, and empathetic. She can understand and embrace people even when they do terrible things. Exhibit B: her telling Grace that, though she cannot condone what she did, she respects her for having the strength to tell her about it. She's loyal, having been in love with James for many years and having corresponded steadfastly with Lucie for even more.

That makes her more "badass." She's discerning. She isn't a rash, impulsive sword-swinger. She's a fighter, but she's a fighter for the causes she believes in.

And she holds true to her principles. Unlike other kind, compassionate female characters written by other authors, she's not a doormat. Cordelia knows when to stand up for herself even when being kind - we see this with Grace in Exhibit B. That's one core example. Another is her very steadfast "do not cheat on me while we're married." She sets a boundary and lets herself be upset with James when he breaks his promise (through no fault of his own.) She tells Matthew, gently, that she wants him to quit drinking; she stands up to Lucie and tells her to get her head out of her ass despite her steadfast love and loyalty.

Cordelia is neither the "badass" stereotype nor the "compassionate" stereotype. She's simultaneously the best of both of those things and neither of those things. She's a study in subversion.

Uniquely-Portrayed Trauma

If you've followed my blog for a while, you likely know that I view TLH as a study of trauma and the way it impacts people. One of the reasons I think it's so successful at this is the various types of trauma characters faced and the stages they're in when confronting it.

Alastair is at the "I have trauma, I am hurt and angry, I am confronting this and overcoming it" stage. James reaches the "I have trauma and am struggling to communicate about it" stage in ChoT. Matthew knows he has serious trauma, even if he hasn't explicitly conceptualized it until ChoT, but he's super fucking avoidant (until Chot).

Cordelia is at a very unique stage of trauma, and it's a stage that I pretty much never see. Cordelia is just now realizing all of the things about her upbringing that Were Not Normal , and realizing that they fucked her up in hindsight. What the fuck about her isolation? Her talking to mirrors for companionship? Her very real feelings that her family has abandoned her and pulled away from her? Her dad's constantly behaving as though she could do no wrong? Those things have impacted her. Inarguably. And we're seeing her realize that well after the fact.

Cordelia, Optimism, and Adversity

One of my favorite things about Cordelia is her boundness kindness and the love that she always shows to those dear to her. Cordelia is a nice person. She's bright, and sunshiny, and optimistic no matter her circumstances, even when surrounded by The Horrors.

Even when she knows the importance of being a warrior, she never stops imagining a better world, a bright future. There's never a moment of doom where she loses all hope.

I love her so much and wish more people appreciated her, she's my girl.

[lizbethborden]

Here's something I'm thinking about re: what happened with Natalie. Full disclosure that I have not really caught up; at this point I'm too upset. But something that I struggle with as the daughter of an addict from a family of addicts, as someone who has struggled with mental illness and suicidal ideation and knows many other people who have done the same, is the sense that Natalie's death was foreshadowed, inevitable; that this, ultimately, was her "purpose." Given that she talks about having had a "purpose" in the wilderness, first as hunter and protector, then as recognized leader and #AntlerQueen, she pins her struggle in the adult, civilized world on her purposelessness--what use is she? Why is she even there? Why is she alive? Every severely depressed, mentally ill, and/or addicted person knows this exact feeling. For Natalie, it is emphasized and contextualized by her chaotic, deeply codependent relationship with Travis, her despair and frantic wheeling-about after losing him, her eventual suicide attempt in which Lottie's cultists intervene. Of course, the writers of the show don't allow her to die in this scene; they preserve her for another season or so to die for a "better reason," to achieve a "purpose."

The problem with taking this tack--preventing a senseless suicide, giving her a "meaningful" death in the end--is that the final message becomes: the purpose and the goal for people struggling with addiction and mental illness--specifically for a woman who crystallizes many of the circumstances that occur most often with these profound struggles, that is, the daughter of an abusive home, victim from a very young age of misogynist sexualization, exposed to and unwilling participant in scenes of deeply affecting violence including her own father's death--the purpose, the goal, is her death. There is no other purpose, there is no other future for Natalie, except to die. I do not think this was a conscious message planted by anyone; but I do think it results from a failure of imagination, the inability to concretely realize a future for a person struggling with those issues that have plagued Natalie since childhood. Abused, manipulated, lonely, addicted girls live to die.

I feel that the show's emphasis--and frankly, the fandom's as well--on the arrested development of the women contributes to this. Natalie is not a little girl in the show. She is a grown woman played by Juliette Lewis, who is 50 years old, and she makes a grown woman's choices. The inability to imagine Natalie as an adult human being and the fetishization (manic-pixie-dream-antler-queen-ization?) of young Natalie derive, yes, from what I think are just wrong opinions (sorry!) but also from an inability to imagine her worldview and mindset beyond that of an 18-year-old girl. It is a condescending approach to say of an addicted person that they're just mentally a child and can't cope or understand like the rest of the grown-ups. This message is applied to the other YJs in various ways, but strikes a particularly hostile note when applied to Natalie. In the minds of the writers and the fandom, it seems, her aging was a mistake, her growing into adulthood was a mistake; her addiction, her mental illness, and her suicidality are all proofs of such, proofs that she has never been more than that terrified girl with the gun aimed at her father, and in order to keep her that way--to excise adult Natalie from the story, to keep Natalie, in-narrative, on-screen, forever, as the abused, manipulated, lonely, addicted little girl--she has been killed. But it's okay. That was always her purpose, right?

[vickyvicarious]

The bracing breath Jack takes before beginning his entry.

also, starting with Jack? I'm quite curious what the reasons for the various reorderings are throughout re: Dracula. Sometimes it seems to try and more accurately reflect timing or for dramatic effect, but not always. here seems to be pretty neatly divided by timing but it just reminded me

"I fear that in some mysterious way poor Mrs. Harker's tongue is tied. I know that she forms conclusions of her own, and from all that has been I can guess how brilliant and how true they must be; but she will not, or cannot, give them utterance." MINAAAAA

oooh the dual voices on "vampire's baptism of blood" is great

"The same power that compels her silence may compel her speech." my brain is rotted by too many memes, I pictured among us and Jack and van Helsing agreeing that Mina seems 'sus'

the slow music as van Helsing talks about Mina changing...

I hate Mina being left out again ughhh

the ominous music fading out into the lighthearted music as Quincey talks of wolf-hunting, and then back into ominous as

"We four?" this delivery is SO GOOOOOOOD. and the way Jack says "Harker was silent for a while" gave me chills imagining him. ohohohoho I love it

he sounds so clipped when he says they'll talk in the morning as well. he's going to talk privately with Mina first and foremost, and they will both decide what to do after that.

Jonathan's great upset at Mina being left out and people being somehow fine with that??? after how it turned out last time?!?! ...it's so good

I love van Helsing being the one to describe all this. Quincey and Art and Jack were all there too. They could perhaps correct some stuff, like Quincey saying he gave him tobacco or money or whatever, or explaining what "much blood and bloom" mean, but... nah

van Helsing's accent makes it sound like he keeps saying "the sin man" and I'm like, yeah, fair enough

the captain assuming Dracula is French is so interesting/weird

god I love the music

"for we have seen the owner of the ship, who have shown us invoices and all papers that can be." ~document supremacy~

the way Mina says "oh! I dread Jonathan leaving me" :(

And the delivery of those three "necessary"s is soooo good.

Man, the building energy of van Helsing's speech leading to "And now this is what he is to us!" and "shall make you like him! This must not be! We have sworn together that it must not!" also how he sounds like he is choking back tears when he says "to live in your own old, sweet way" and "men for whom His Son die"

His laugh is so wounded sounding

the drum as van Helsing describe what Dracula did to prepare

I love the sigh and refocusing in "But we are pledged to set the world free."

god, the way Mina says "unclean" with such disgust

"How strange it all is" Jonathan sounds so miserable

the music as Mina asks for his promise <3

Jonathan's hesitation to promise to deny Mina in the future.

How gentle their voices are

"I promise!" and as I said it I felt that from that instant a door had been shut between us." god this line. this delivery. agonizing...

the plea for a dreamless sleep is so sad. he sounds almost on the edge of choking up on the last word

[heresiae]

So, it happened, Mother and Sister finally broke me and I don't want to be involved in any way anymore in their fucking war (not sure if it's a was when only one of them has declared it, but anyway...)

And yes, I am still deeply upset that Mother abused psychologically Sister since she was 7 (we have 6 years of difference and I stopped living regularly at home since I was 14, I was not there to witnessed it) and Mother often manipulated me in reinforcing the abuse with me none the wiser (Sister told me everything only a few years ago), but the point is, I still love my mother and she's the only parent I have left.

I love my sister, nobody is more important in my life than my sister, I would kill and die for her, but she's over 30 now, refusing therapy or direct confront with Mother and I'm tired to be in the middle.

To say it in Italian, Hanno rotto il cazzo (literally, "They broke my dick", English is not very good for this kind of phrases... you're missing out, you know? Translated would be, "I'm sick of their bullshit").

So, Mother wants to drop down unannounced to Sister because she's refusing to answer her calls and also ripped her a new one a couple of weeks ago when Mother was pushing me again? Good, but she will not stay with me and I will not keep her plan a secret.

Sister is angry at Mother for various reasons? I will not coddle her anymore. She either confronts mother or her feelings with therapy but that's enough.

I'm tired. I exhausted by years and years of two neurodivergency never diagnosed or even considered. I'm about to be 40. The future is bleak (especially the environment). I'm single, so I'll probably end up alone if I don't get the energies to go back on the dating scene. I'm not able to keep my house anymore or the discipline to exercise at least once a week.

They either sort their shit out or they don't. I don't care. I'm done.

[girlspath]

Some advices for studying

Hello! In many countries, studies are underway, in some countries studies have not begun yet, in some countries there are vacations now. I want to share with you tips for a good study.

Let's go!

1. Sleep well. A good sleep affects your overall well-being during the day. There are several factors that affect sleep: nutrition, the presence of health problems, emotional experiences, noise on the street, etc. Sleep is affected by what you did before bed.

Before going to bed, you should: Eat a good (but not hearty) meal.

Take a little walk outside.

If you are nervous before an exam/test/control work then you should drink some tea. Tea with mint and (or) lemon balm is usually recommended. The main thing is to abuse this tea. Some herbs and teas have diuretic properties.

Before bed you SHOULDN'T:

Listen to a lot of loud music. Spend a lot of time on your phone. There may be problems not only with sleep, but also with health.

Take a lot of sleeping pills. This is fraught with very serious problems, up to including death.

Watch horror movies. This has a very strong effect on sleep and what will be dreamed. What you dream about affects your future sleep and the rest of the day.

Taking various sad events to heart. This is fraught not only with poor sleep, but also with further health and heart problems.

Chafe. It has a very negative effect on sleep.

2. Listen carefully to the teacher. Try to write down the learning material that the teacher says. This affects how you will pass control works, tests, and exams. In some countries, exam grades and certificate scores greatly affect admission to the chosen university / college.

Study things you SHOULDN'T be upset about:

Bad grades. This can always be fixed. I also had bad grades, but this did not prevent me from winning the stage of the competition and successfully passing the exams and entering the university.

If you're late. There are many reasons: road, traffic, business. I was running late for school mainly because of problems with my school bus. Once, due to weather conditions, the bus broke down, and I arrived in the second half of the lesson. But the teacher listened to me anyway, and as a result, I got a good grade. Conclusion : preparation is the main thing here.

Bullying at school. This is a very sensational topic. I also faced bullying, unfortunately. Mainly because of my interests and lifestyle. I'm a metalhead, I didn't have time for games and walks because the school bus was late and I only had time for homework.

If you missed classes, then you should contact your classmates and find out what topic (topics) was (were) in the lesson (or lessons), what homework is. If classmates don't respond on time, then don't be afraid to ask the teacher. In this case, don't be offended by your classmates, they may be busy.

3. Don't quarrel with the teacher. This affects the teacher's attitude towards the student and the student's performance in school.

4. Eat. Eat a lot but healthy food. It affects health and the body and mental faculties. Don't hesitate to ask the teacher for tea if you're cold. Buy a snack if possible.

5. Focus on your work. This will help you get the highest grade.

6. Don't be so shy if you have some health problems. Ask your teacher for help. If you feel sick in class, then go to the subject teacher. If it's at break, then go to the teacher on duty, if there are any.

7. Be happy! Studying at school is not difficult. There are more difficult things, like studying at university or working. School years are considered to be the happiest years in a person's life. Try to find contacts with other students even from other countries, there are various social networks for this.

I hope these tips will help you learn and grow well