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My cat died over the weekend whilst I was away from home. Before I knew, I had a dream where we were sitting outside in the garden and he was fat again and happy.
#also hi i had a bad mental breakdown and deleted all social media and thinking about being online makes me want to kill myself#anyway my cat died + i miss him already + i cant believe i'll never get yelled at again or get claws stuck in my leg or hold him like a bab#he used to make biscuits constantly even if he was just sitting on the floor like he was so full of love#he used to lay on the path in the hope that strangers would pet him#he got so fucking thin and confused and couldnt meow anymore#anyway i'm off to delete tumblr again
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sometimes it is very jarring to read a piece of writing or art that is so crystallized in simplicity that it seems deceptively casual until the efficiency of emotion hits you in the next fraction of a second. sometimes that's just the truth peeking through, sometimes it's a deliberate precision strike, but wowza.
anyway, ya girl is getting back into reading daily + I had gotten used to a lot of not at all good media over the last recent while (had to leave an abusive housing situation, just girly things, but on top of that they also watched a lot of bad TV lol) so... phew! art is back baby
#I tend to disappear online + frankly also in person when things get bad so I'm baby stepping back into active/visible content on socials#like my fb is still just pretty pictures or news atp & my twitter has become very frivolous#and my ig is mostly only active in stories I only make a real post a couple times a year max#so. inching back into true blogging I guess
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I have genuinely hated almost everything about the internet for about a decade now. Why am I still here?!!
#It's so bad for my mental health a lot of the time#not to mention that social media doesn't even have any pluses that I can see anymore#I miss the blogger era#like pre-influencer#when people just had blogs to share their thoughts on stuff#and their art#Or like back in LiveJournal days or even really early Tumblr era when there was actual community online#the free sharing of art - writing - and ideas#I have friends I made online in 2008#that I still talk to#fairly regularly#but like of all the people I met online from about 2014 onwards#I'm only still regularly in touch with a couple#and I don't even socialize with people#or contribute creatively online any more#and really haven't since about 2017#the whole culture of the internet has drastically changed#hell even google doesn't work anymore because of stupid AI#like honestly#why am I still here?#habit I guess...
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calling arlecchino furina's abuser is the most insane thing i have ever seen in my life.
#ooc. ( ready...action! )#i love that furina is so popular but with her popularity#the characters around her also get misinterpreted so horrendously#i can't fathom how#saying arlecchino is furina's abuser is up there with saying neuvillette is her dad bad takes bad takes!!#i'm sorry i have not been around lately#the holidays are over so my clients are back to their regular content creating schedules so it takes up a lot of my online time#& exhausts my social battery#especially when some of the people in their chats are just a lot to deal with
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not even gonna tag this properly bc i don't wanna get Involved but i do have some Thoughts i need to get out into the void so here we go
(aaa quick edit: CW for mention/discussion of Boothill leaks)
#today's gone Badly and i'm upset but instead of venting abt it i'm gonna channel that energy into doing a bit of tag rambling abt Boothill#well. less abt Him and more abt uh. self-analyzing my anxiety surrounding contributing to fandoms. he's just today's catalyst#like. i know it's mostly a me thing. i'm hypersensitive to criticism and very conflict avoidant + socially anxious + perfectionistic etc.#so I'm the one that keeps myself from posting more stuff out of fear of being criticized or called-out for what i've made#bc inevitably Someone's gonna see it and think its OOC or a problematic take or they'll misread my intent. etc etc what have you#but like. that's inevitable. there's no way to communicate every single thing with all of the nuance required to avoid misunderstandings#and other times it's not a misunderstanding it's just a difference of opinions and that's Fine!! there's no accounting for personal taste#there's no accounting for several things actually. taste‚ bias‚ lore-knowledge‚ differing levels of chronic-online-ness‚ etc#so this isn't me complaining abt the state of fandom culture (although i do think. sometimes. ppl take shit a bit too seriously)#but anyways all of this is mostly just anxiety-fueled. it's not like i very often actually even receive negative feedback or anything#if anything ppl tend to tell me that i'm overthinking it and killing my own fun and worried that my stuff is more OOC than it is#which like. yeah. Yeah u right :) but that's just the way that i am! always losing the idgaf war i suppose#anyways what's Boothill got to do w this ur wondering. well. i've been thinking abt the quickly emerging concept that he's illiterate.#and it just. has me feeling a lot of ways. and watching ppl disagree over it has me feeling some Bad ways. bc it's def a loaded topic!#if you'll pardon the pun there. and i don't rlly have anything new to add other than that i'm conflicted abt it.#like yeah i saw the leaks days ago. of him mentioning 'not hitting the books' much as a child when we ask him why he sends voice messages#or voice Transcriptions ig. ykwim. and like. *braces for impact* ...i liked it? like. it doesn't feel right to call it endearing#i'm not trying to infantilize him. ok that's not the right word either but ugh. you know? what i mean?? who am i kidding even i don't know#it's not quite right to say that it feels like Representation either. but it's something close i guess#as a southern person myself who didn't receive a 'complete' education due to factors that weren't to do with my intelligence#the concept of seeing him as a capable force to be reckoned with and respected who also happens to have not received much formal education#i like that. i do. but there's so many issues w it at the same time. like. as i said‚ being southern myself has me Wary of the way Hoyo is-#writing him. as well as of the way that the fandom is taking the bits of his lore and running away w them. and i'm Very aware of how ppl-#will see a southern character and be All Too Eager to agree that they're lacking intelligence based on our Redneck™ stereotype#sigh. and before we even go too far with this. it's not even confirmed that hes completely illiterate. which is a valid criticism i've seen#there's Multiple reasons that could make him prefer voice to text. but regardless. i'm just worried that ppl will misconstrue my intentions#like. example: that edit i made the other day of him saying 'no thanks i can't read'. wasn't me playing into the stereotype of-#'haha dumb country boy can't read!' it was. in my eyes. something he'd say as a joke to make light of a potential insecurity#like. i think there's far more depth to Boothill's character if ppl could look past the surface. and i dont wanna contribute to the problem#but sometimes ppl Will have stereotypical traits and i wish the same could apply to characters as long as it's done Thoughtfully.
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I think we gotta start recognizing that "things accepted online/in leftist spaces" and "things accepted by the general public in the real world" are two very different things. like no actually gnc men are Not suddenly seen as okay because there are drag queens on tiktok. men are still beaten and harassed and ostracized and Killed for being feminine. in the us. in my very liberal city full of ppl with blue hair and pronouns I am made to feel uncomfortable and unwelcome for being a gnc guy. the tiktok comments on videos of men wearing make up are not indicative of the beliefs of most people
#idk its just very weird to see ppl imply that gnc men are accepted actually#like what world are you living in that thats true#strangers make weird comments to me all the time and I see a noticable difference between how I am treated and how gc ppl are treated#I am misgendered on purpose All The Time by randos#like absolutely point out that gnc women are treated worse/have not been accepted in spaces where gnc men have/etc#but you cannot be saying that being a feminine man is now seen as okay that is so wildly untrue in like the real actual world#this goes for a lot of other things as well#like when a woman is a creep and ppl are like 'well if the roles were reversed yall would say its bad'#and its like yeah maybe online or in your liberal friend group#ppl who call men out for things don't call out women for the same stuff#and that should be discussed#but for most of the public no one is calling out men for creepy behavior#like notoriously#also even online ppl are very hateful??? like all the time#the top 5 comments on a video of a man wearing a dress may be telling him that he hashtag slays#put I promise you for every compliment there are dozens of people calling him slurs#anyway please please please touch some grass engage in social issues outside of instagram I'm begging#ghost posts#text
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hello... (and bye ig 👋)
#👋😭 hi...#i haven't come on in about a month and i didn't realize a month passed by like that... i've kinda stopped using any apps on my phone#i barely even talk to my friends anymore lol 😭#i just saw my follower count this morning and realized i hit 13k and i was like 🥸 huh...#uhhhhhhh 😭 idk i wanted to say thank you i guess 🫂#i'm done with stayblr and tumblr in general 😭 this much has been obvious for a while now... i tried to fit myself back in during 5star but#i think i realized i've outgrown the vibes here and in online spaces in general... i don't really enjoy it anymore 😭 which is weird cause#i've used tumblr since i was in middle school so 🫡 end of an era some would say...#i think it sucks because i don't have the same feelings about this place or skz or anything in my life right now... i tried to ignore it bu#it's so obvious now that the entirety of december passed without me really talking to a single person / without me using social media /#without me really doing much except for like homework and assignments lmao#i think genuinely i've stopped enjoying everything i used to like and i don't know why 😭 it hit me the other day bc i don't even enjoy#pc collecting anymore which is CRAZY considering how much time and money i've put into that hobby so 👋🥸 who knows what goes on#i haven't consumed any skz content since rockstar dropped 😭 and that also feels weird to me... idk... i would say maybe i'm going through a#depressive episode but i don't really feel how i do then... i think i'm just tired like i always am and that's just how i am now .. i think#i'm just not really interested in things anymore? weird but .. yeah idk😭 if i knew what was wrong i would Fix It sndjdndkd mostly i'm just#sad because i haven't been talking to friends... i keep ignoring everyone and not replying to any texts from anyone because ????#i tell myself i will do it later but i know i won't ... idk i genuinely don't know why i'm struggling to talk to ppl anymore 😭 i've become#even more of a reclusive hermit than i already was 💀 and the worst part is i feel normal abt it#i don't feel /bad/ i just feel guilty that i'm not replying to ppl bc i don't want to hurt ppls feelings... on my end i feel Normal abt it#like i ??? is it weird that i'm so detached from everything that not even a month ago made me so happy..? that's weird right 😭 like idgi#i don't feel (as) depressed (as i usually do) but clearly ?? smth is wrong ?? like ik i'm not a clingy sentimental person but ? it kinda#makes me sad wondering if i really don't care abt ppl anymore ... but i think 😭 it's also the object permanence issues that come with adhd#not seeing or talking to the ppl i love . not doing my hobbies or seeing the groups i care abt . makes it easy to not care or forget what#they make me feel etc etc ... i get it... but idk 😭 if that's what this is . well wow it sucks ASS.. cause i feel guilty for not feeling#anything at all ... 😭 idk how to explain that HENSKDNISJS anywayyyy 💀#i came on cause i wanted to say thank you for 13k followers 😭‼️ and that i probably will not be online anymore unless i really want to say#this was a really long winded way to say i feel bad but i'm done with stayblr fr 👋🥸 i tried so hard for the last 2 years to make it feel#like home again but it stopped ages ago so 🥹 that's ok.. i still cherish my memories here 🫂 anyway thanku and sjsjsksksks bye i guess 😭#who knows maybe i'll enjoy it one day again and come back :') never know what the future holds 🫡
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My favorite Northernlion take is that you should save all of your complaints about day-to-day social interactions for your spouse so that they can be locked away forever after one conversation. those thoughts are not suitable for being posted on the internet
#every time i see someone share that stuff online i get a little more insecure about the way i interact with people#i think it's a big part of why my social anxiety is soooo bad#I'm worried I'll see an unflattering picture of myself on Instagram that someone took after I said something awkward to them by accident
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#this may not mean much to those who haven't followed me for long#but for my long term followers I thought I'd share a super positive update about my oldest 17 yo son#you may remember that for years he's suffered immensely from anxiety depression and panic attacks#he's since been diagnosed with autism which explains a lot of it (as has my daughter)#but it was so bad we had to take him out of school in 7th grade and it's still questionable whether he'll graduate#he's spent 5 years having almost no social contact other than online & hasn't been able to participate in anything but family events#because of anxiety and panic attacks#but y'all#Y'ALL#he just started his FIRST JOB#we worked with voc rehab & they got him a job at a thrift store run by parents of an autistic child so they know exactly what pace he needs#and he WAS ABLE TO DO IT#you have NO IDEA how amazing this is for him#and how much of a relief it is for me#because this means he's doing better#and he may actually find his way out of this and be able to build himself a bit of a future#it's amazing you just don't know how amazing it is after the last five years of struggles we've been through#so sorry that was a novel but I'm just so proud of him#he has it in him I know that he does#he just needed a break from life for a few years to find that bit of strength
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I wish to be part of something so badly but my boringness and fear of creating bonds stop me from joining anything
#like friend groups or meetups or clubs or making friends or talking in groupchats#I cannot stress it enough when I say i'm boring#i've got /nothing/ to say 95% of the time#because i'm simply uninterested or i've got nothing “funny” or important to add into conversations#i'm friendly and polite for the sake of socialization because I don't know what else to talk about other than small talk and apparently#from what i've seen online and shit ; people hate small talk so what do I do then??#it never passes the small talk friendly stage so i'm always that 'friendly acquaintance who's just there'#is it me not knowing how to socialize properly or am I just overly introverted#istg people underestimate just how uninteresting I can be and it makes me feel bad towards my friends (or mutuals) I have because#what if they think I don't like them. what if they think i'm purposefully avoiding them. or what if they think I don't see them as a friend#i'm overly awkward and it kills me#i've gotten so used to my life with only 4-5 close people which consists of my mom; my cousin; and like. three close friends#that i'm struggling to keep contact with because 1) they live away from me and 2) I suck at texting on social media and reaching out#idk. I wish I were more interesting so my life would be more interesting#okay whatever now.#my silly little worries#sorry this turned into a rant/vent no one asked for; i'm just in my head this morning :/#// vent#// rant
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never am I so aware that I'm succeeding at curating my own fandom experience than when I see a long essay post about how toxic a fandom I'm in is. Like I'll be reading that shit like "huh I didn't know they were doing this. I thought we were just having fun why are people being mean?" never once being aware of any of that shit. come to think of it that pretty much sums up my experiences in most social scenarios. hm.
#i am always so oblivious to people being mean its insane#online it's because I genuinely do not engage with or see any of that shit very often and irl its because I am. bad at social cues#but like I just. never know.#someone will be like “Oh [fandom] is so toxic” and I'm over here playing in the sandbox with my friends literally unaware of The Issues
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Not a fan of how much social stuff is involved in trying to find an apartment because holy shit every time i get a response to me asking for a viewing that is like "sure here is the phone number of the current tenant :)" a part of me dies a horrible death
#I like to think my social anxiety is pretty much gone most of the time#but shit like this? Is fucking killing me holy shit#it is SO stupid like. I want to move out so bad. I KNOW it will tremendously improve my life and mental health if i move out.#I found an apartment online that i like. I have the means to contact this person Right Now. The only thing that's stopping me is ???????#insurmountable obstacle honest to god#hate hate hate it at least give me a fucking email address I'm begging you#last time i tried to get past that by just sending them a text on whatsapp and then spent days waiting for a reply that never came#and when i finally worked up the nerve to call the place was already taken#personal#aaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhh#yall pray for me if only to get me to shut the fuck up about apartment hunting LMFAO
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#i wish more than anything i could just leave right now and not tell anyone and disappear somewhere and only talk to like the few people#i talk to online on a daily basis and no one else#bc they're the only ones i'm ever going to connect with and relate to and i won't have to subject myself to anyone else ever again#and then my roommates will be able to invite the other person they've been wanting to live with who missed the boat#and is NOW after like a full year saying she's going to move here and is whining that we don't have any space for her in our 3bd#like ok i am just always going to be fucking excluded and left out#i literally will never be the person who's like. in. ever#i was never meant to be that person and i never will be and i'm socially fucking stupid#and i'm a bad person. deep down i'm a terrible person#i'm selfish and narcissistic and i only think about myself and i don't ask other people what they want or what they think#bc it doesn't even cross my mind i'm too busy thinking about what they think about me#i'm done
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every day i see people talking about things that I simply do not understand no matter how much I look into it and think about it and try to figure it out. i cannot tell if it's brainfog and fatigue or if I'm just ,,,, incapable of being intelligent enough for it all :[
#i sure do feel like a fucking idiot lately!#I wish I wasn't (weren't?) aware of how stupid i am but unfortunately i am acutely aware of it and I can't seem to do anything about it#like... why am i unable to comprehend things. why can't i figure it out if I go learn about it. why does it just not Click for me.#becoming increasingly aware of just how little i know and how naive i am and i have to say ... its frightening me fhfkdl#i feel like i am going to be fucking mauled if i say anything ever or if i try to participate in any conversations of worth#so I've just been staying quiet constantly. but then I just feel disconnected from everything and everyone#because i never participate! i just stand in the bg and listen and watch!!#but what's driving me crazy is i dont even seem to be learning in any significant way!! even though im just listening all the time!!#why can't i make any progress in understanding shit 😭 why is it all still just as out of reach as when i started !!#i really feel like there is something very wrong with my brain but idk what to do about it dhfjdkl#I've been isolating a lot more than usual the past couple months because i just feel so useless and stupid compared to everyone else#but then i talk to ppl irl and i feel like I'm operating on a higher level of social awareness than most ppl#which then makes me feel bad bc i worry im somehow thinking im better than other ppl but its not that fhdkdl#i just get tired of like... guiding the conversation for ppl and smoothing over social potholes#like im always the one driving the conversational vehicle. and if i stop driving then we crash. idk if this makes sense#but then online im always the one who is one step behind everyone else and making blunders#so ... I don't know what to do anymore fhfjdkl i think smth has gotten very broken in my brain and idk what it is or how to fix it#UHMM ANYWAYS. this is ... a rant and a half. oops.#im the worlds most average joe cool though 👍 nothing to worry about or see here! (<- sarcasm i think)#this is one of my worst vents of all time actually fbfjdkl this one is just a real stinker#just kind of incomprehensible and way too self-pitying methinks. oh well! I'll delete it if i think better of it later dbfjdkl#pippen needs 2nd breakfast
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Having one of those weeks of "is this the monthly Malaise or am I about to have a real mental health rut"
#I think I feel a bit bad for not having seen success for a bit on a large project or one for other people#my to-do list... I'm trying#think I just feel socially weird too. as usual I would benefit from touching grass#I know I've been on more than is good for me lately and I'm just trying to distract from not liking how creative projects are going#or feeling lonely but not very socially confident for a while#for me social media is generally an extremely poor substitute for other forms of interaction (including other online interaction) too#it's like candy. it's fun in moderation but the more of it making up your diet the sicker you feel#and socially ambiguous in a nerve wracking way with how uncertainly part private/part public it is#especially on tumblr where so much interaction is indirect and one way. it's not how I function best I fear#it can be fun! I enjoy it much of the time. but it can also be very stressful and confusing.#a solid 'touch grass' (or touch snow) time is likely approaching if I feel weird a little longer haha#but jeez! I should knock some stuff off the list first.#I'm up too late tonight. I know that. lack of satisfaction on projects I know#okayyyyy I'll maybe prep one last thing (sunk cost fallacy) and go to sleep properly like I should've ages ago. morning will be rough.#I do miss the ways people interacted on Twitter#rambling#you should know half the time I have some way too long tags it's because I meant to say one thing and then just kept going without thinking#I think I talk too much online because offline I don't talk very much. not many people to talk to.
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I haven't talked to any of my irls since friday and they're all worriedly texting me but like what the fuck am i supposed to say. "sorry i am literally unable to talk to anyone who doesn't know just how deeply mentally ill i am and also i thought so hard about fictional gay people i forgot how to speak hungarian. dont worry this wont last long, probably only 2-3 business years and then i'll be normal except of course season 3 will be coming out by then so it's all gonna start over. see you!"
#I've barely moved from my bed since then let alone made any social contact how the fuck am i supposed to#communicate with anyone i met offline in the past year😭😭😭#i can literally only talk to my tumblr mutuals coz im genuinely too mentally ill to make myself palatable to normal ppl rn#that is a compliment @ my tumblr mutuals dw. but like mannnn i legit feel bad for my irls but at#the same time wtf am i supposed to do be normal? no can do unfortunately i live like this now#it was easier during rm coz the only ppl i talked to were 2 online friends and 2 irls one of#whom watched the movie with me in cinemas like 20 times we were both crazy#now I'm talking to like 40 ppl at the same time and im supposed to keep that up while not#being able to think about anything other than my hyperfix for more than 5 seconds? please 💀💀💀💀#i miss them but it's summer rn i need to dissociate and be alone and also eat my computer screen. yknow how it is#barking
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