#i'm bad at socializing online

[qweerhet]

every time there's a rise in fascist action and power in the us, there's an en masse feminist response of like. affirming that gender is an ontological trait, you can tell what gender someone is without them directly stating it to you, appearance is indicative of gender (rather than just being correlative particularly in conservative populations), gender is a useful signifier of ideology separate from factors such as class and race (and may even be more causative regarding fascist ideology than class or race are), there is no form of gendered oppression targeting men, and there is no form of gendered privilege afforded to women.*

it's annoying! i do not like it.

*nb4 someone gets on my case about how gendered targeting of men is "just" racism/ableism/etc and gendered privilege afforded to women isn't "truly" privilege as men who reap the benefits of patriarchy are still higher in the social hierarchy than women who reap the benefits of patriarchy: we have entirely different modalities for viewing interactions of privilege + power + hegemony. your modality is, in fact, part of what i'm critiquing. it refuses to recognize gender itself as the oppressive structure, and patriarchy as a structure enforcing gender. we can chat in good faith if you want to understand this lens better but like i'm not going to be arguing about it or trying to make a Discourse Post(tm) defending my ideology.

[theflirtmeister]

My cat died over the weekend whilst I was away from home. Before I knew, I had a dream where we were sitting outside in the garden and he was fat again and happy.

[princessnijireiki]

sometimes it is very jarring to read a piece of writing or art that is so crystallized in simplicity that it seems deceptively casual until the efficiency of emotion hits you in the next fraction of a second. sometimes that's just the truth peeking through, sometimes it's a deliberate precision strike, but wowza.

anyway, ya girl is getting back into reading daily + I had gotten used to a lot of not at all good media over the last recent while (had to leave an abusive housing situation, just girly things, but on top of that they also watched a lot of bad TV lol) so... phew! art is back baby

[myjustice]

calling arlecchino furina's abuser is the most insane thing i have ever seen in my life.

[seventh-district]

not even gonna tag this properly bc i don't wanna get Involved but i do have some Thoughts i need to get out into the void so here we go

(aaa quick edit: CW for mention/discussion of Boothill leaks)

[trans-yllz]

I think we gotta start recognizing that "things accepted online/in leftist spaces" and "things accepted by the general public in the real world" are two very different things. like no actually gnc men are Not suddenly seen as okay because there are drag queens on tiktok. men are still beaten and harassed and ostracized and Killed for being feminine. in the us. in my very liberal city full of ppl with blue hair and pronouns I am made to feel uncomfortable and unwelcome for being a gnc guy. the tiktok comments on videos of men wearing make up are not indicative of the beliefs of most people

[chrisbangs]

hello... (and bye ig 👋)

[crazyboy3million]

My favorite Northernlion take is that you should save all of your complaints about day-to-day social interactions for your spouse so that they can be locked away forever after one conversation. those thoughts are not suitable for being posted on the internet

[starpros-sunshine]

What's with all the "Them and Us" stuff I mean. I thought the whole point of this acceptance stuff is realising that despite all the little differences everyone is still kind of similar in the way that they should be granted at least the basic but of respect everyone deserves? Call me naïve and childish but isn't the point of all this to Not have the clear distinction between people who are slightly different? Isn't the whole point to Not have a "Them" and an "Us"?

[storybycorey]

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[morphestic]

I wish to be part of something so badly but my boringness and fear of creating bonds stop me from joining anything

[lost-in-frog-land]

never am I so aware that I'm succeeding at curating my own fandom experience than when I see a long essay post about how toxic a fandom I'm in is. Like I'll be reading that shit like "huh I didn't know they were doing this. I thought we were just having fun why are people being mean?" never once being aware of any of that shit. come to think of it that pretty much sums up my experiences in most social scenarios. hm.

[lesbiancharliedalton]

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[outeremissary]

Having one of those weeks of "is this the monthly Malaise or am I about to have a real mental health rut"

[mwagneto]

I haven't talked to any of my irls since friday and they're all worriedly texting me but like what the fuck am i supposed to say. "sorry i am literally unable to talk to anyone who doesn't know just how deeply mentally ill i am and also i thought so hard about fictional gay people i forgot how to speak hungarian. dont worry this wont last long, probably only 2-3 business years and then i'll be normal except of course season 3 will be coming out by then so it's all gonna start over. see you!"

[icewindandboringhorror]

everyday I miss miitomo .. aaa