#i'm all for contraceptives but seeing as i am gay i have no use for it aside from regulating my periods

[hardtchill]

Don't want to be nosy but how do you don't get it for such a long time? My period is so regular I don't even need a calendar so this is alway a mystery to me

I have PCOS so my period basically disappears at random and then returns with vengeance. Doctors told me to change to a celery diet and start using the pill to try and get it regular or i wouldn't be able to have kids.

Thing is that i don't want kids so i honestly see no reason to ruin my life by eating a diet that will depress me or take a pill that causes more issues than it solves

[ourdreamsareneon]

it's crazy the level of discourse there is about antis/pros and how teenagers just devolve into purity culture so quick. I'm sure I used to be like that, but somewhere between dating gang members and reading copious amounts of philosophy the world became a lot more gray to me when I entered my twenties and I've realised three things that I think are important for teenagers to know:

To quote my favourite childhood book series: "People aren't either wicked or noble. They're like chef's salads, with good things and bad things chopped and mixed together in a vinaigrette of confusion and conflict." Sure, going to car meets, selling drugs, drunk driving, stealing cars, playing chicken with cops are all examples of bad things that you shouldn't do but am I going to sit in my lovers bed and tell him that this life he was born into that saw all his friends die in drive bys and that saw his own dad pull a gun on him when he was a kid makes him a shitty person? Even though I can see all of the good in him, and can tell he doesn't want to do this, I should ignore it and focus on the negatitives? We have all done bad things, we all do bad things, and we all will do bad things. It doesn't make you a bad person.

Purity culture hurts everyone. There's a great book about this called the History of Sexuality that delves into how purity culture and the censorship of sex is at its essence the capitalist authority controlling the means of reproduction. At large scale 'pray the gay away' and 'contraception is a sin' make it so that men and women couple up more (instead of same sex coupling) and have unprotected sex. On a smaller scale 'AO3 is evil because it has pedos' and 'watersports is the grossest thing ever' do the job of the capitalist authority on a more digestible level. Us vs Them no longer is 'alt right vs communism' they use your words to make it 'pure good hobest people vs pedos who like piss play.' you are making bullets for your enemy and handing them your own damn gun. I promised I wouldn't make this whole post this one point tee hee sorry if you want me to elaborate just ask lol

Fetish ≠ real world experience. I'll build my own pyre as an example: I love me some good CNC (consensual non-consent) in my fanfics but in real life sex I have a praise kink so bad I have cried during sex multiple times. I am into tooth rotting sweet stuff and the kindest people in the world in real life. The media you consume 1000% has an effect on you, I'm not arguing that. I am however arguing that if you have media literacy and know what media is and is not harmful to you, it shouldn't effect your real life drastically unless you have other shit going on. I know this is rich coming from the "I have dated people in gangs" guy because that may show what kinda guy I'm into but prommy that's not a sexual attraction thing, it's 100% a lifestyle thing that again I will elaborate on if you want. Point being, porn ≠ reality and what gets that blood flowing isn't necessarily a reflection of how good or bad you are (ofc there are kinds of porn that are bad but that's beside the point and a very complicated thing for me to type while I'm this sleepy)

thank you for coming to my ted talk. pls I am begging on my knees for people to stop having black and white world views but i also know that's just a product of being a teen so if you are a teen pls! go out there and! consume media from different cultures and people with different lives to you! the world is at its best when it is wide!!! and full of love <3

[pinheadspinhead]

Introduction Post :)

Hello!! Please call me X. I'm a trans gay man and pretty much only attracted to transmascs. My pronouns are he/him. I've been on T since 2019 and got top surgery in 2024.

I post usually about tying someone up and sucking dick. I post quite a bit about cnc and use the f slur pretty commonly, but I will tag everything in case anyone doesn't want to see it. (list of tags under the cut)

I am also in a committed monogamous relationship, so I will not answer dms

DNI + List of kinks and tags below :^)

DNI

Cis people please do not interact.

Anyone I see in my notifications who does not have an age over 18 in their bio or an introduction post will be blocked. Blogs that say "adult/over 18/etc." will be blocked. Blogs that say "20s" will also be blocked. ("30s" and up are fine tbh. don't really expect a teenager to lie abt being that old).

I've gotten a few systems in my notifications. I would at least like the host's age or the alters' running the accounts ages in the bio as well as alters that are minors not interacting when possible.

Minors are welcome to browse, I think it's fine to look at porn in safe and responsible ways, but please DO NOT like or reblog my posts, send me asks or dms, or follow this blog. You are welcome to view my blog as long as you do not appear in my notifications. If you do view my blog, I encourage you to seek out resources like contraceptives and education on things like aftercare and BDSM safety. Also, please keep in mind that this is blog is not a good representation of sex.

Blogs centered around non-sexual age regression please don't interact. No hate, I would just prefer not to see littles in my porn notifications.

Men DNI blogs. I am a man and I would really appreciate not being put on sapphic blogs as a trans man, thank you.

Harry Potter fans stay away from me your favourite author wants me dead or in prison and i think you're ridiculous for caring more about books than people. I will block you without even thinking about it.

People who openly post about ED or SH. Please seek help. The communities you are in are very harmful to yourself and others and they are absolutely not indicative of any sort of popular beliefs. This content is extremely triggering and I absolutely will not tolerate it if I see it.

There are also certain kinks and fetishes that make me a little uncomfortable and I would appreciate if blogs centered around those fetishes do not interact with me. These include:

Ageplay

DDLG

Feederism

Chasers

Detransition/Fakeboy

Dom men who post extensively about violent fantasies involving women

(This list may grow over time)

An Incomplete list of kinks I enjoy:

Bondage/Rope Play/Gags

Monsterfucking & Vampires

Priests lol

Pirates, Cowboys, Period Clothes

Mugging/Kidnapping Fantasies

Choking/Impact Play

CNC

Degrading

Threesomes/Orgies/Gangbangs/Spitroasts

Intoxication

Free Use

Dry Humping

Exhibitionism

Knifeplay

Tags

I tag everything with the same few generic tags. I only really tag for the sake of content warnings in case there's something someone doesn't want to see. I don't tag my content warnings without "ftm" in front of them because I do not want cis people interacting with me.

Ftm Intox

Ftm Cnc

Ftm Free Use

F slur

Ftm Knifeplay

That's all for now :) I'll update this post as I think of more things :)

[boolpropper]

post-roe dump from a lowly simblr

I wanna apologize, because my posts from my gameplay are all queued and I don't know how to pause them in these dire times -- it feels insensitive and inappropriate that any of my sims content continues to go up right now. I feel really wrong being active at all on any social media after the news we received in the states on Friday. I only have, what, 30 followers? So I know my platform isn't big. But for posts to keep going up once a day from my gameplay from a time when I had bodily autonomy (only weeks ago)? Feels really wrong. And I sincerely apologize. Some of them are romantic/sexual in nature, because of the budding relationships in my Sim State University hood -- that feels even more off-key to be posting.

This isn't to bash anyone who does continue to post their gameplay. Just me saying that the sims gameplay posts you're seeing from MYSELF, if you follow me, are NOT current and do NOT reflect my current priorities or feelings. I am angry. I am furious. I am so, so deeply sad. Like I said, it feels inappropriate and tone deaf for cute fun little posts about gay college relationships to be going up when I know that gay marriage and contraceptive access and freedom to engage in consensual gay relationships are all next on the chopping block in the United States.

God, things are so scary. Most states are now in a complete ban on ab0rtion. Canada is preparing for American refugees. The world says America is unrecognizable. People are taking to the streets daily, nation-wide. And nothing changes. We are sincerely fucked and I'm so scared. The government does nothing to protect the ones they warn are going to be impacted the most by this news. They're asking us to donate money to progressive political parties. Are you kidding? After we voted you in, turning out to the polls in numbers not seen since RICHARD NIXON, you have done NOTHING to expand the courts or codify ab0rtion protections. And what do I do now? I rally. I march. I join human rights volunteer groups. And the work is meaningful. But it feels as if it is in vain. I find it difficult to do anything I need to do, or that I enjoy. How is ANYONE coping?

Please visit wewontgoback.com to find rallies near you. Please go. Please donate to ab0rtion aid funds, ESPECIALLY in the southern states of the US, so that these people who direly need care can get where they need to go -- but only donate if you can. Please call your legislators. Please post on social media. PLEASE make a ruckus and talk to everyone in your life about this. Please share your story with people around you of how this impacts you and how you've utilized reproductive healthcare, if you have. Please send love from other countries and urge YOUR law makers to stick up for us and get involved.

If you're about to come at me with some pr0-life shit, you can fuck right off and i'll be blocking you. If you're gonna reblog me with some pr0-life SIMS content? Get a life.

[hugbound]

I think I'm opening myself up to getting future death threats or whatever by talking in this subject IDK much about so I'm horrified but. Man.

IDK much about this "pro.ship" shit just that I think it started from Voltron ship wars and that it seems anti-Safe Sane Consensual-kink adjacent & shit but I do know this feels like the same flavor of bullshit that was shoveled down my throat as a tween & teen. With a different coat of paint. Just in a self moderating community variation. This can be VERY DAMAGING and traumatizing.

This is like the post-2015(?) version of Abstinence Only Sex "education" which was pushed in the 2000s. For example: the state of Texas required federally funded schools sex education programs to never discuss contraceptives or "safe sex" only that sex is bad, risky, morally wrong, etc. only that it's bad. No nuance no nothing. It's risky behavior that can ruin your life, equivalent to underage drinking, and doing drugs. If you have any form of sex or relationship beyond hand holding you become "used" and "gross". You are bad and unlovable. (With complete disregard for victims of COCSA or CSA that may be subjected to it too.)

It was based on fear tactics, heteronormative relationships, with a nice heavy layer of misogyny (girls are sluts but boys are players!)

This made my friends and I hyper critical about other teens who so much as made lewd jokes. "Oh they must be bad people. I bet they do drugs and underage drinking" kinda shit, and destroyed my ability to engage with "bad" content in any capacity other than FEAR SHAME GUILT and DISGUST. I AM STILL UNPACKING THIS SHIT. I AM ALMOST 30 YEARS OLD. About a natural part of human existence. It caused a rift in a friendship I had with my best friend from Middle school who had been interested in sex. She thought I would hate her because she had sexual feelings or thoughts and I was FIRMLY VOCALLY anti-sex.

It's just shifted from Heteronormative PIV Sex (they didn't touch on LGBT stuff it was the fucking late 2000s) to Policing Media, Interests, Fandoms, and Kinks or kink adjacent communities that often host traumatized, kinky, LGBT, individuals. Or just normal ass cishet people.

It's bullying. "How dare you be different! How dare you engage with something other than immediate disgust. You must be a horrible person!"

For example: furries are one of the last communities that are "socially acceptable" to bully because it's becoming more mainstream that being "non-PC" can ACTUALLY get you fired for discrimination these days. Furries were the punching bag of the 2000s Internet and we've improved a lot but it's 2024 and the "go kill yourself u furfag zoophile" is still going strong.

Because furries are "weird". "It's zoophilia!" they cry. Like how all gay men used to be "pedophiles into little boys" The furry fandom is made up mostly of LGBT people and it's just the most socially acceptable group to continue to harass with homophobia and "eww sexual deviants!" Because the face you see is a cartoon dog instead of a human being. So much furry hate is just disguised, hidden LGBT hatred.

This isn't exactly the same as what purity culture is doing with stuff like the "dark" side of fandom. (Or God forbid someone have an 'icky bad' kink.) But it's the whole fucking issue of you'd rather fight for fictional victims who can't turn around and say "ACTUALLY-" than help real fucking people. And you end up with traumatized individuals screaming at each other:

"well *I* never coped by using problematic content! I'm morally fantastic!" "I got better!" "You can't write or draw content about that unless you're a victim of it and ONLY using it to cope therapeutically! (If you have it as a kink you need to be shot dead)!" Is the same kind of shit as "a white person can't write about any other culture" "you can't write a story about an LGBT person if you're not LGBT!" "All gays need to be rounded up and shot" Then good fucking luck feeling represented in some way in ANY form of media.

Like how anti-abortion people only care about unborn children bc the minute it's alive and out they don't give two fucks about supporting them. You want to look good and wholesome and better like a martyr or Saint so you don't get pulled into your own self cannibalizing judgemental community of "that's bad so that makes people who like it bad" shit. You're controlling through GUILT, FEAR AND SHAME just like the religious backed Abstinence Only Movement that severely hurt an entire generation of kids.

I am severely fucked up by that shit. You are teens or young adults, this is going to FUCK with your core beliefs. Just live your life with your friends, stop bickering with fandom communities about ethical fanfiction there are bigger fish to fry. Energy better spent elsewhere. Go volunteer at a shelter to help actual victims. Spread the word about resources to educate kids and prevent online grooming. Oh wait no that's ACTUAL WORK. Just make a PSA post on Twitter or Tumblr dot com to show you're A Good Person, there's your community service act for the week.

Stop screeching on Twitter about SHIPPING. Have a healthy discussion about it, debate, HELL YEAH, but OMG PLEASE don't make it your hobby or a core part of your personality I am begging you. It will hurt you and it will hurt others.

I'm just rambling but Jesus fucking Christ if you think having a weird noncon kink or thinking it's fun to write about is EVIL then the next group on the chopping block after you take down Problematic Ships is the rest of some BDSM group and after that it's The Leather Gays who are part of WHAT pride IS. After that it's the normal Gays™ then it's the Women™

Purity culture (at least in my opinion) is BAD. I AM TRAUMATIZED by it and struggling to not feel shame and guilt over having a fucking kink for wholesome BDSM, so much as my future husband popping a boner because he thinks I'm hot, or thinking I CAN kiss him one day without having to do mental gymnastics shit how I won't be getting a fucking DISEASE AND DYING or that everyone will think I'm a horny sexual deviant and that I'm literally trash (Look up the tape, spit cup, or flower analogy) and will never be loved by my family and friends if I commit the cardinal sin of engaging with something sex-adjacent.

The ONLY resources I can find to help myself is fucking "ex-christian" forums and I WAS NEVER A CHRISTIAN. I never believed in God. I never went to church. I'm just a victim of state funded Christian purity politics ravaging my ALREADY traumatized tween/teen/young adult brain. I grew up trying to be the model perfect goodest boy ever with good grades, never stepping out of line, never fighting my parent, or advocating for myself, doing everything I was told, because I was told and believed that if I was good and worked hard I would be okay. Now I'm almost 30, traumatized to hell and back, struggling with the fact that I'm probably physically disabled and will never know financial stability on top of it all. It's a lot.

The world is already cruel. Don't fuck up human lives over fucking fanfiction and ships. Please.

I'll get off of my soapbox now. Sorry. I might delete this later. I probably don't know enough about this weird fandom shipping shit to comment on it but it's just so similar to what fucked up my friends and I that I just wanted to put in my two cents. I'm not here to justify pedophilia or whatever the fuck goes on. I just want to say please don't hurt people over their stupid "bad" "gross" kinks or experiences.

Okay. Real talk for a second.

I think what bothers me the most about this post is how this person is spreading puritan rhetoric, making people paranoid, uncertain, and fearful about the media they consume and create... And then selling the cure to those fears back to them, through the same community that created all those fears in the first place.

"You think you're a freak because of things we instilled in you. You will always be welcome in the community that instilled it in you."

It's freakishly cult like. I really hope people don't fall for this.