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we need to do something about the lack of male shibari content available on the internet, cause-

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Uh- are you aware of the meaning of proship?

Proship has never meant anything except a combination of three ideas:

Ship and let ship (your ships don't harm me and vice-versa) and YKINMK (your kink is not my kink, and that's okay; my kink stories don't harm you and vice-versa)

Harassment over fiction is not acceptable

Censorship of fiction is not acceptable either

Any other definitions are made by antis, not proshippers, and are an attempt at revisionism to justify harassment based on false claims.

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I think I'm opening myself up to getting future death threats or whatever by talking in this subject IDK much about so I'm horrified but. Man.

IDK much about this "pro.ship" shit just that I think it started from Voltron ship wars and that it seems anti-Safe Sane Consensual-kink adjacent & shit but I do know this feels like the same flavor of bullshit that was shoveled down my throat as a tween & teen. With a different coat of paint. Just in a self moderating community variation. This can be VERY DAMAGING and traumatizing.

This is like the post-2015(?) version of Abstinence Only Sex "education" which was pushed in the 2000s. For example: the state of Texas required federally funded schools sex education programs to never discuss contraceptives or "safe sex" only that sex is bad, risky, morally wrong, etc. only that it's bad. No nuance no nothing. It's risky behavior that can ruin your life, equivalent to underage drinking, and doing drugs. If you have any form of sex or relationship beyond hand holding you become "used" and "gross". You are bad and unlovable. (With complete disregard for victims of COCSA or CSA that may be subjected to it too.)

It was based on fear tactics, heteronormative relationships, with a nice heavy layer of misogyny (girls are sluts but boys are players!)

This made my friends and I hyper critical about other teens who so much as made lewd jokes. "Oh they must be bad people. I bet they do drugs and underage drinking" kinda shit, and destroyed my ability to engage with "bad" content in any capacity other than FEAR SHAME GUILT and DISGUST. I AM STILL UNPACKING THIS SHIT. I AM ALMOST 30 YEARS OLD. About a natural part of human existence. It caused a rift in a friendship I had with my best friend from Middle school who had been interested in sex. She thought I would hate her because she had sexual feelings or thoughts and I was FIRMLY VOCALLY anti-sex.

It's just shifted from Heteronormative PIV Sex (they didn't touch on LGBT stuff it was the fucking late 2000s) to Policing Media, Interests, Fandoms, and Kinks or kink adjacent communities that often host traumatized, kinky, LGBT, individuals. Or just normal ass cishet people.

It's bullying. "How dare you be different! How dare you engage with something other than immediate disgust. You must be a horrible person!"

For example: furries are one of the last communities that are "socially acceptable" to bully because it's becoming more mainstream that being "non-PC" can ACTUALLY get you fired for discrimination these days. Furries were the punching bag of the 2000s Internet and we've improved a lot but it's 2024 and the "go kill yourself u furfag zoophile" is still going strong.

Because furries are "weird". "It's zoophilia!" they cry. Like how all gay men used to be "pedophiles into little boys" The furry fandom is made up mostly of LGBT people and it's just the most socially acceptable group to continue to harass with homophobia and "eww sexual deviants!" Because the face you see is a cartoon dog instead of a human being. So much furry hate is just disguised, hidden LGBT hatred.

This isn't exactly the same as what purity culture is doing with stuff like the "dark" side of fandom. (Or God forbid someone have an 'icky bad' kink.) But it's the whole fucking issue of you'd rather fight for fictional victims who can't turn around and say "ACTUALLY-" than help real fucking people. And you end up with traumatized individuals screaming at each other:

"well *I* never coped by using problematic content! I'm morally fantastic!" "I got better!" "You can't write or draw content about that unless you're a victim of it and ONLY using it to cope therapeutically! (If you have it as a kink you need to be shot dead)!" Is the same kind of shit as "a white person can't write about any other culture" "you can't write a story about an LGBT person if you're not LGBT!" "All gays need to be rounded up and shot" Then good fucking luck feeling represented in some way in ANY form of media.

Like how anti-abortion people only care about unborn children bc the minute it's alive and out they don't give two fucks about supporting them. You want to look good and wholesome and better like a martyr or Saint so you don't get pulled into your own self cannibalizing judgemental community of "that's bad so that makes people who like it bad" shit. You're controlling through GUILT, FEAR AND SHAME just like the religious backed Abstinence Only Movement that severely hurt an entire generation of kids.

I am severely fucked up by that shit. You are teens or young adults, this is going to FUCK with your core beliefs. Just live your life with your friends, stop bickering with fandom communities about ethical fanfiction there are bigger fish to fry. Energy better spent elsewhere. Go volunteer at a shelter to help actual victims. Spread the word about resources to educate kids and prevent online grooming. Oh wait no that's ACTUAL WORK. Just make a PSA post on Twitter or Tumblr dot com to show you're A Good Person, there's your community service act for the week.

Stop screeching on Twitter about SHIPPING. Have a healthy discussion about it, debate, HELL YEAH, but OMG PLEASE don't make it your hobby or a core part of your personality I am begging you. It will hurt you and it will hurt others.

I'm just rambling but Jesus fucking Christ if you think having a weird noncon kink or thinking it's fun to write about is EVIL then the next group on the chopping block after you take down Problematic Ships is the rest of some BDSM group and after that it's The Leather Gays who are part of WHAT pride IS. After that it's the normal Gays™ then it's the Women™

Purity culture (at least in my opinion) is BAD. I AM TRAUMATIZED by it and struggling to not feel shame and guilt over having a fucking kink for wholesome BDSM, so much as my future husband popping a boner because he thinks I'm hot, or thinking I CAN kiss him one day without having to do mental gymnastics shit how I won't be getting a fucking DISEASE AND DYING or that everyone will think I'm a horny sexual deviant and that I'm literally trash (Look up the tape, spit cup, or flower analogy) and will never be loved by my family and friends if I commit the cardinal sin of engaging with something sex-adjacent.

The ONLY resources I can find to help myself is fucking "ex-christian" forums and I WAS NEVER A CHRISTIAN. I never believed in God. I never went to church. I'm just a victim of state funded Christian purity politics ravaging my ALREADY traumatized tween/teen/young adult brain. I grew up trying to be the model perfect goodest boy ever with good grades, never stepping out of line, never fighting my parent, or advocating for myself, doing everything I was told, because I was told and believed that if I was good and worked hard I would be okay. Now I'm almost 30, traumatized to hell and back, struggling with the fact that I'm probably physically disabled and will never know financial stability on top of it all. It's a lot.

The world is already cruel. Don't fuck up human lives over fucking fanfiction and ships. Please.

I'll get off of my soapbox now. Sorry. I might delete this later. I probably don't know enough about this weird fandom shipping shit to comment on it but it's just so similar to what fucked up my friends and I that I just wanted to put in my two cents. I'm not here to justify pedophilia or whatever the fuck goes on. I just want to say please don't hurt people over their stupid "bad" "gross" kinks or experiences.

Okay. Real talk for a second.

I think what bothers me the most about this post is how this person is spreading puritan rhetoric, making people paranoid, uncertain, and fearful about the media they consume and create... And then selling the cure to those fears back to them, through the same community that created all those fears in the first place.

"You think you're a freak because of things we instilled in you. You will always be welcome in the community that instilled it in you."

It's freakishly cult like. I really hope people don't fall for this.

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Here we go ! The 12K celebration, with a ring gag sequence. Featuring my 2 last OCs. Who would like to tease him ?! Poor baby... 😈

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Commission for rattybat2 This is the exact tooth rottingly sweet domestic fluff I wanna draw. So glad I could draw it on commission for someone. 🙏

With all the rigors of college life in the big city, it's deeply important to know one's "happy place", and schedule time to accommodate it. For Alan, that happy place is bound, gagged, and enjoying snuggles with his boyfriend. For Scott, it's binding, gagging, and snuggling Alan. For Debbie, Alan's cat, it's about being the center of attention and enjoying snuggles and skritches from her hoomans. This trio is truly living their best lives.

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It seems with the rate I’m being tagged recently in certain personal blog discussions that I need to re-post my primer on How Can An Asexual Person Be Kinky?

*clears throat*

A PERSONS ABILITY TO EXPERIENCE SEXUAL ATTRACTION DOES NOT DETERMINE THEIR ATTITUDE TOWARDS SEX

AND

BDSM IS NOT ALWAYS SEXUAL.

I know this is very shocking for some of you, I do have an emergency inhaler and a prepared snuggly animal, but perhaps if you would just sit and consider it for a second you would realise that neither of those statements are contradictory nor should they be controversial.

Thank you for your time, have a pleasant day.

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this one is a weirder post but it bothers me how in the push to destigmatize kink over the last fiftyish years we only really somewhat achieved that with one specific brand of it, so now "mainstream" kink is this weird entity that does stuff like feature weird amounts of red and black, has a bunch of exposed metal and leather, favors strict punishment doms and subs with extensive sets of rules, leans strangely cishet, and doesn't leave space for ace people or disabled people

and if you like those things, that is fine. i'm not trying to yuck your yums

but i'd like to see some love for kink that isn't that. show me more of:

-ace people who just do bondage for fun or to cuddle in

-bondage and reward/punishment tailored for the needs of disabled people

-actually just more kinky stuff involving disabled people in general! we have sex too!

-more comfortable, warm colored, ergonomic spaces in dungeons

-sex pairs/groups who don't have strict rules and just do whatever they (consensually ofc) are feeling like in the moment

-nonsexual kink as a rule, not just for ace people

Because kink is for everyone (who enjoys it) and there's no one way to do it!

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I would like to shine someone’s shoes 🥺 not in the “let me lick them clean for you 🥵” way but in a, “oh! You have a dirty spot on that shoe. What’d you do at work today to get that? Here let’s sit and you can tell me all about it as soon as I go get the shoe polisher” type of way where your shoe is sitting in my lap and I’m scrubbing away at the marks and making them look brand new again while I listen to you talk

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hey i just uh. wanted to thank u for the new, very unexpected bondage vocabulary????? and the way you illustrated multiple different fancy knots is really cool. so I'm kinda bad at judging what ideas are within your interest/ability for sketch requests, but I can give a thumbs-up for that 😅

also I'm rather interested in that "control freak going soft and melty" miles dynamic you mentioned! if you want a loose idea, what about showing where edgeworth's gaze might be in such a scene?

like would his attention focus on phoenix's hands as they do things (tie him up, adjust the ropes, manipulate parts of the binding pattern, etc)? would his eyes give up on following anything, and just kinda drift closed or half-closed? he could be a stubborn middle-aged squinter with bad eyesight lol.

any of these could jump off into something you're interested in, or not if the sketch idea isn't quite grabbing you! i'm just happy you've shared some neat pieces on this site. (.................... also.......... the "unnecessary feelings" piece hides his lovely mouth. so I mean. what would THAT look like all melty 😳)

Thanks so much for the ask! This is what came to mind from your suggestion… I think his eyes would be mostly on the ropes until he managed to relax. After that he’d go unfocused and pay more attention to the sensations (and lazily appreciate his partner’s good looks). I love the idea of him getting a goofy little crooked smile when he’s in that headspace. Like he’s letting go of his cold calculating image.

As far as sketch requests/ prompts go, skill isn’t an issue! I don’t really do explicit stuff, I prefer to focus on faces and hands and emotions. I’ll consider sketch prompts from most fandoms, but my current favorites are Ace Attorney, Voltron, Black Jack, maaaaaybe Magnus Archives (we’ll see)

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Habeas corpus

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thank you thank you thank youuuuu for the wrightworth/solo miles shibari……… it’s giving me sm life. if you’re open to sketch requests, maybe some domestic shibari? like miles and phoenix reading on a couch together, but miles is tied to the chair or wearing a harness or something, like this is phoenix’s way of having him unwind?? you’re just. ugh you’re a wizard *italian hand gesture* especially with the EXPRESSIONS my god

They’re watching Steel Samurai

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Phoenix Wright but in a shibari and this time it in bed with rose petals that’s surrounded him. And merry Christmas 🎁

Civil Judicial Forfeiture

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My fifth round, Alan being helpless, caught in a fishnet ! The boy belongs to @eyebalman1 thanks for the commission 😊