#i’m tired 🙃
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There’s something I’m really trying to wrap my head around: if you hate Nettles for breaking up Daemon and Rhaenyra then what difference does her skin color make?Like, I’ve definitely criticized Martin for his habit of having an older man finally meet his soulmate who just happens to be a young dark haired tomboy but I’m consistent about it. Why would Nettles being white make her more palatable? She’s still breaking up a ship
When I say that Nettles being race-bent would make her more appealing to this fandom, I’m basically going off of the pattern with other fandoms when it comes to Black female love interests and how this fandom has been treating her so far.
Go into any fandom(The Bear, The Flash, Marvel, Sleepy Hollow, Vampire Diaries, The Flash, Twisted, Riverdale, you name it, it’s there) and watch how they act when a Black girl might get/gets with the resident fandom hottie that everyone lusts after.
Like clockwork suddenly there are a million and one excuses on why she can’t get with the guy or how their relationship is “wrong”(she doesn’t need a man she’s strong and independent, why can’t she just be friends with him, they have no chemistry, it’s abuse, she’s a lesbian, etc).
Google fandom misogynoir and what pops up will leave you feeling a mix of vindication cause you aren’t going crazy and severely depressed because no one really accepts accountability or gives a sh*t so the problem keeps festering for years.
People will try to gaslight you into thinking nothing is wrong(which is what they are currently doing with Nettles since her fanbase is small) until people are finally forced to admit that there is a problem once they've been called out by white people or several articles have been written about their vicious behavior. By then it's too late.
Most Black people leave fandoms for this kind of abuse because when you are treated like less than in real life then when you try to have some fun like everyone else you are still treated like crap. Fandoms should serve as a source of escapism, yet for Black fans they are just another headache.
The only reprieve Black women have is when we create our own shows and movies (which people still get mad at but that's another discussion) and even then sometimes you are still dealing with a load of bullcrap(Shonda Rhimes I am looking at you).
The reason why this happens is because sadly fans use most of these female characters as self inserts. And while Black girls have no problem seeing themselves in other women the same isn’t true for other women(and that has to do with the ignorant belief that they are better because they aren’t Black).
These people are not used to not being put on a pedestal for nothing other than having the right skin tone so when once in a blue moon that doesn’t happen(or it looks like it won’t happen) it sends some into panic mode and thus comes in a need to put those Black characters back into the undesirable box.
The HOTD/Dance fandom in particular has a problem with this.
See how before this show Laena used to be thought of as Daemon’s great love, but the moment she became Blackish she was tossed to the side in favor of saying Miss Maegor was his great love, called her N-word, and compared her to a monkey. People don't have a nice word to say about show!Laena unless it's to support a ship where their self-insert is at the center of that didn't even happen with essentially no canon basis.
And you can’t use the excuse that the fans don’t ship it because Daemon was a crappy husband to Laena. After all, Dumbnyra wasn’t portrayed in a healthy light either yet it’s the most popular ship in this fandom by a long shot.
Now, I obviously don’t think everybody would suddenly start shipping Dettles if she were white or race-bent, but for a great deal of the people objecting to the ship and hating on her, it seems that Nettles’ race is the main reason why:
The fact that you have Dumbnyra stans(the last highlighted one) respecting Alys(a character from another team who they actively dislike) more than Nettles says it all and if that’s not enough then you also have this:
I guess props to them for at least acknowledging that Nettles is Daemon’s lover, but saying it’s fine to replace her with a white woman? Okay😒
Another anonymous individual straight up admitted they don’t want Daemon with a Black woman:
And it’s not as if people haven’t actively wanted Nettles to be race-bent, denied she’s Black-ish in the first place(see people thinking that it’s impossible for Black people to have brown skin🙃), or said that she was going to be played by insert non-Blackish.
Even when that beach photo was leaked no one really bothered looking for the two Black actresses in the pictures(some dumba** literally thought a obviously Black woman wasn’t Black and instead was a white woman in Black face because she wasn’t the color of the night sky🤦🏽♀️).
Team Green is not innocent either because the only value they see in Nettles is as a prop for a racist white woman’s awakening or as a gotcha moment to say Daemon is a pedo:
I would take you guys saying she's a child and her relationship with Daemon is icky seriously if you didn't ship the white version of Dettles, Alysmond.
All of this isn’t a coincidence. Nettles’ race is literally the thing that makes these people uncomfortable with her character, her relationship with Daemon, and her presence in the show(and the book for those who actually read it and didn’t immediately descend into a fit of rage at the mere mention of her name). She’s disrespected and treated like sh*t from this fandom because she's Black.
Again everything wouldn’t be peaches and cream if Netty wasn’t who she was, but as it stands, Daemon and Nettles would not be met with such visceral hate and repulsion if Nettles were white(or even non-Black) instead of a Black girl which non-Black fan girls refuse to actually relate to.
#bnasks#bnask#nettles#daemon targaryen#daemon x nettles#daemon targaryen x nettles#hotd fandom misogynoir#bncommentary#anti hotd fandom#anti asoiaf fandom#i’m tired 🙃
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#‘’let people be cringe in fandom’’ is not working anymore since fandom now constitutes thousands of strangers or literally just yourself#I’m tired 🙃
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All for a moment of peace 🌷🍓🍃
[Linktober 5: Species/Race]
#linktober#zelda#tears of the kingdom#totk#Zelda totk#zelda tears of the kingdom#linktober 2023#legend of zelda#zelda fanart#daeyumi art#Sonia#TotK Sonia#rauru#totk rauru#totk Zelda#im so tired i haven’t finished a drawing in a week & im feeling hella guilty abt it 🙃#anyways Zelda needs the biggest hug that’s all i’m saying#ALSO sonia deserved better#why do all their designs have to be so complicated tho#i mean the designs r beautiful & i love them#but i hate it here lol
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I made a post about how the show doesn’t hold Viserys accountable as a perpetrator since he’s continuously praised in the narrative (and this is reinforced by the producers saying shit like him and Alicent having a “loving marriage”) and I can’t even tell you how many comments I’ve gotten saying that I don’t “understand” that this is a medieval show and can’t be viewed through a modern lens.
And that got me thinking. Because I agree, we shouldn’t view the show through a modern lens, but so many viewers do. That’s why they accept things like Rhaenyra being next in line to the throne, Laenor agreeing to run away and leave his entire family behind to ‘live his life’, Cole ‘overreacting’ when Rhaenyra doesn’t want to run away with him, Rhaenyra having bastards born from a loving affair not being a big deal etc etc
So I wonder; why do people only bring this rhetoric up concerning Alicent? Why is Viserys marital rape of her excused as ‘that’s just how things were’, but Rhaenyra’s usurpation is vile sexism?
Why is Alicent a woman trapped in a medieval setting while Rhaenyra isn’t?
#I know the answer: it’s because she’s a self insert badass princess warrior 🤩#sorry for another rant post but I’m tired guys#people trying to mansplain medieval sexism to me is 🙃#slowly driving me insane#anywayyyyy#hotd critical#anti hotd#Alicent Hightower
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It’s disability pride month, and if you are disabled in the U.S. from Long Covid I want you to know that you’re not alone, and you’re valid in whatever you feel. Whether that’s sorrow at your new problems or rage at society for failing you, you are valid, and it is truly messed up that society is continuing to fail you.
#disability#trauma#chronic illness#long COVID#COVID#Tbh I’m not sure if I have long covid or not but I keep swinging between despair and fury#The brain fog SUCKS#I might have always had it but it feels especially bad now?#And I have all kinds of respiratory problems that got exacerbated#And possibly chronic fatigue but it’s unclear#And I’m one of the lucky ones!!!#I can still exercise without needing three days of bed rest after!#I was so RELIEVED when it turned out I could do that#I did like. Three weeks of breathing rehab to make sure#Not sure if it helped but now I’m not getting post-exertional backlash nearly as much anymore#And I didn’t lose my sense of smell or get my taste messed up#And I don’t need a respirator just an inhaler and some allergy meds and to take frequent breaks#And like. I know so many people have it worse#And that suuuuucks#But EVEN THIS makes me want to scream and rail half the time#Update as of Sept 2024 — this is no longer true#Got Covid again and now I can’t exercise without being too tired to move for three days#🙃#Probably will die mad about this actually#I had SUCH a good time working out one night#But then the next morning#Nope#head-to-toe muscle pain#couldn’t do any chores#Couldn’t even feed myself
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no youre completely right - im a gay (trans)man and i legit wanna see so much more about the women bc There Is So Little. I wanna make a lesbian oc who gets bent in half by taash. im very normal.
i’m just tired man!!!! it feels so obvious how disproportionate it is when you’ve got. a cast of characters that we know almost equally little about. and a few of them explode in popularity and it’s like spongebob sticking his hand out the curtain. literally all a character needs to do numbers is to be a light-skinned man
#like you bring up taash!! we know equally little abt taash and emmrich. why is one FUCKING EVERYWHERE and i’m like. scrounging for scraps#sometimes i feel like there has to be a secret other main dragon age tag that has the real stuff in it#but maybe it’s just the tumblr userbase idfk#i feel like i’ve seen a little bit more of neve since the trailer but still not anything on the level as everyone’s fave boys#and before you hit me with ‘lucanis was in a couple short stories’ harding was in the literal entire last game. and she and neve had comics#there’s obviously something to be said about character types too. a lot of people love dark and broody#vs harding keeps getting described as Girl Next Door and that’s much less popular. fine i’m not going to argue abt individual tastes#but like. neve isn’t popping off??? on the columbo fansite????#everyone’s talking about emmrich’s experiments and research but no one talks about bellara’s??#like personally. ok. lesbian opinion so take that for what it’s worth. but i don’t understand all the lucanis thirst#davrin i could understand. davrin can get it. he gets way fewer thirstposts than the other men (hmmm interesting im sure it’s nothing 🙃)#i’m just like. tired. i don’t want to say people can’t enjoy what they’re excited about#but it adds up!#i feel guilty complaining when i am also not doing a lot of Female Character Poasting but like#there’s only so much i can do as someone who can’t draw and has been too busy to keep on top of all the breaking news
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i hate having 94 year old joints at 27
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i’ve had a shit week but yesterday i had my horse therapy for 3 (!!!) hours, and today i’m visiting a riding school for a lesson to see if i want to start riding there .. very nervous but excited :)
#i wish i could tell you all about the therapy but it’s so much!! and so wonderful!!#one of the horses there is unofficially my therapy horse now :’D her name is eva and she’s very fast which i learned when my therapist-#-had us run with our horses in the paddock#i was struggling to keep up with her but i’m quite fast too#i get tired quickly though 😭#eva is a very funny lady i think we’ll learn a lot together <3#wintertime starts this weekend however#which means it’ll be pitch black at like 15:00 or 16:00 🙃
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You walk into the theater. I’m wiping down my lighting board with a wet wipe like the bartender in a Western
“What’ll it be,” I drawl, “warm or cool?”
#I laugh so I won’t cry 🙃#because I very much cannot get covid#so I’m being as careful as I can#but uh other people don’t always make it easy#techblr#lxblr#my life#theater#stagefoot original#stagefoot is tired#it’s tech week y’all#double tech week for me actually lol#because I did tech week for one show and then I was switched to another one that’s just starting today
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me after attempting to get back into sims and realizing i had a lot more to do than play the game
#hi everyone#I’m going around hugging you all#okay now that we are gathered here today#i will simply acknowledge that i have been gone for a very long time and then also acknowledge that maybe it was for the best#i relied on sims to be my only creative activity even if i tried to write a book at the same time#and also. i prioritized sims over real life responsibilities. that’s just a deadly combination lol#but I recently noticed I just replaced sims with Netflix. with YouTube. with anything that gave me quick dopamine#literally became addicted in a sense. still am but I’ve been cut cold turkey from most everything#I get off work and go. okay I’ve done the dishes and the laundry……..I could read or write or bake….#I try to write and sometimes i get a good hour#then I read for a few hours and then get tired of it#and I made cookies Tuesday so I’m waiting for those to be gone before baking again#I’m just so pitiful that I feel BORED and don’t know what to do#so I said….. okay what if I do sims for an hour.#I downloaded some new cc Tuesday and tried to play yesterday#y’all ……………….. I can’t find the energy anymore to set up elaborate scenes and pose my sims and plan posts#I said wow… this is boring without my intervention and fake story#I said wow…….. all this for what? for tumblr? yes I created cool things and provided joy. but is that inherintly important compared to my#own joy? my own everyday activities I should be doing?#y’all I do not leave the house unless we got out to eat or shop or travel to our parents#.. I have little desire to. I’m trying to find that desire#but my husband is busy with grad school and work and I don’t want to do anything by myself#I’ve found myself in one heck of a slump#I didn’t want to be human for awhile. just had no desires no interests no ambitions#I was slacking off SO HARD at work. I just had no drive to do well#I’m still working on it. I’m still trying to get caught up. I’m still trying to force myself to move every day.#but I am struggling y’all. and I can tell you that sims… sims isn’t helping rn but I want it to so bad. I want to get back into it#I didn’t mean to disappear on everyone. I got married and then life got busy and then I fell into this hole of nothing#I didn’t even WANT to crawl my way out. but my husband has helped a lot. I feel like such a child!!!!#I reached max tags. 🙃 bye love you all. till next time
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Another day, another dolla 🤑
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guess whose car just broke down lmao
#MEEEEEEEEEE AHAHAHAHA#SO NOW#on top of saving like $6k for a fucking down payment + rent on a new place#while still paying $2k+ on the place i’m in now#i gotta save to fix my fucking car#🙃#and i honestly have a bad feeling it’s the engine that crapped out#i didn’t have time to look at it bc i had to uber to work 😭#brooooooo i’m fucking tired of shit after shit after SHIT LEAVE ME ALONE GIVE ME A BREAK#P L E A S E#apple babble 🍎#non fandom#ajhdajjsjahdjajdhAJHDAJJDJS
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Now imagine asking someone of the fandom to just put an anti tag when they’re being ass to a driver and them answering that “you can’t lecture others cause you write fanfictions!” Like what’s even the link?? Apparently it’s “morality policing” to just ask people not being toxic. Great …
F1 fandom *sigh*
I swear like, you can dislike a driver, but you can do it while using properly the anti tag. So that no one that doesn’t want to see it sees it. It’s just being decent and having a good fandom experience together.
#f1#formula one#formula 1#f1 fandom#and that person was a Ferrari fan#but yk#but certainly not Ferrari as a whole#oh well 🙃#I’m tired of those people#Sebastian Vettel#I’ll tag him since it was about him in the first place#rolling eyes#just in general people#please don’t forget to use anti tag#it doesn’t cost much#and it helps everyone
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honkai star rail fandom: “tHe OuTfItS aRe ToO cOmPlIcAtEd!!!”
*honkai star rail makes some playable characters that wear simpler clothing*
honkai star rail fandom: “uGh ThEy LoOk LiKe A fOuR sTaR!!!”
... don’t even get me started on how basically everyone hates that the people from the xianzhou alliance wear the same style of clothing... chinese clothing... almost as if... they’re from the same place... and have the same culture... therefore the same style of clothing... hsr fans learn how to use your brains please oh my god
#⟡ — kayleigh.txt#i am very tired and cranky and sick of seeing the same shit being complained about constantly; i’m just going to start blocking people#like y’all are never fucking happy lmfao can y’all just stfu and let yourselves have fun 🙃
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is there anyone who is in witchy spaces that follows me? I really need to vent to (and to pick the brain of) someone about an interaction I had with people in a facebook group I’m in who refused to acknowledge cultural appropriation (a white person doing paid trainings on hoodoo and stuff) and insisted there is no such thing as a closed practice
#all the people that attacked me in the comments were moderators/admins btw 🙃🙃🙃#the wolf in me that wants to make sure people respect other cultures and hold others accountable wants me to continue responding#I am also tired and it’s almost 11:20 and it’s over 50 comments later and I’m fucking tired#not leverage#jackie talks#mine#delete later
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If tumblr was to do anything to have an update HAVE A MUTUAL ONLY PAGE
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