#i’m tired 🙃

[bohemian-nights]

There’s something I’m really trying to wrap my head around: if you hate Nettles for breaking up Daemon and Rhaenyra then what difference does her skin color make?Like, I’ve definitely criticized Martin for his habit of having an older man finally meet his soulmate who just happens to be a young dark haired tomboy but I’m consistent about it. Why would Nettles being white make her more palatable? She’s still breaking up a ship

When I say that Nettles being race-bent would make her more appealing to this fandom, I’m basically going off of the pattern with other fandoms when it comes to Black female love interests and how this fandom has been treating her so far.

Go into any fandom(The Bear, The Flash, Marvel, Sleepy Hollow, Vampire Diaries, The Flash, Twisted, Riverdale, you name it, it’s there) and watch how they act when a Black girl might get/gets with the resident fandom hottie that everyone lusts after.

Like clockwork suddenly there are a million and one excuses on why she can’t get with the guy or how their relationship is “wrong”(she doesn’t need a man she’s strong and independent, why can’t she just be friends with him, they have no chemistry, it’s abuse, she’s a lesbian, etc).

Google fandom misogynoir and what pops up will leave you feeling a mix of vindication cause you aren’t going crazy and severely depressed because no one really accepts accountability or gives a sh*t so the problem keeps festering for years.

People will try to gaslight you into thinking nothing is wrong(which is what they are currently doing with Nettles since her fanbase is small) until people are finally forced to admit that there is a problem once they've been called out by white people or several articles have been written about their vicious behavior. By then it's too late.

Most Black people leave fandoms for this kind of abuse because when you are treated like less than in real life then when you try to have some fun like everyone else you are still treated like crap. Fandoms should serve as a source of escapism, yet for Black fans they are just another headache.

The only reprieve Black women have is when we create our own shows and movies (which people still get mad at but that's another discussion) and even then sometimes you are still dealing with a load of bullcrap(Shonda Rhimes I am looking at you).

The reason why this happens is because sadly fans use most of these female characters as self inserts. And while Black girls have no problem seeing themselves in other women the same isn’t true for other women(and that has to do with the ignorant belief that they are better because they aren’t Black).

These people are not used to not being put on a pedestal for nothing other than having the right skin tone so when once in a blue moon that doesn’t happen(or it looks like it won’t happen) it sends some into panic mode and thus comes in a need to put those Black characters back into the undesirable box.

The HOTD/Dance fandom in particular has a problem with this.

See how before this show Laena used to be thought of as Daemon’s great love, but the moment she became Blackish she was tossed to the side in favor of saying Miss Maegor was his great love, called her N-word, and compared her to a monkey. People don't have a nice word to say about show!Laena unless it's to support a ship where their self-insert is at the center of that didn't even happen with essentially no canon basis.

And you can’t use the excuse that the fans don’t ship it because Daemon was a crappy husband to Laena. After all, Dumbnyra wasn’t portrayed in a healthy light either yet it’s the most popular ship in this fandom by a long shot.

Now, I obviously don’t think everybody would suddenly start shipping Dettles if she were white or race-bent, but for a great deal of the people objecting to the ship and hating on her, it seems that Nettles’ race is the main reason why:

The fact that you have Dumbnyra stans(the last highlighted one) respecting Alys(a character from another team who they actively dislike) more than Nettles says it all and if that’s not enough then you also have this:

I guess props to them for at least acknowledging that Nettles is Daemon’s lover, but saying it’s fine to replace her with a white woman? Okay😒

Another anonymous individual straight up admitted they don’t want Daemon with a Black woman:

And it’s not as if people haven’t actively wanted Nettles to be race-bent, denied she’s Black-ish in the first place(see people thinking that it’s impossible for Black people to have brown skin🙃), or said that she was going to be played by insert non-Blackish.

Even when that beach photo was leaked no one really bothered looking for the two Black actresses in the pictures(some dumba** literally thought a obviously Black woman wasn’t Black and instead was a white woman in Black face because she wasn’t the color of the night sky🤦🏽‍♀️).

Team Green is not innocent either because the only value they see in Nettles is as a prop for a racist white woman’s awakening or as a gotcha moment to say Daemon is a pedo:

I would take you guys saying she's a child and her relationship with Daemon is icky seriously if you didn't ship the white version of Dettles, Alysmond.

All of this isn’t a coincidence. Nettles’ race is literally the thing that makes these people uncomfortable with her character, her relationship with Daemon, and her presence in the show(and the book for those who actually read it and didn’t immediately descend into a fit of rage at the mere mention of her name). She’s disrespected and treated like sh*t from this fandom because she's Black.

Again everything wouldn’t be peaches and cream if Netty wasn’t who she was, but as it stands, Daemon and Nettles would not be met with such visceral hate and repulsion if Nettles were white(or even non-Black) instead of a Black girl which non-Black fan girls refuse to actually relate to.

[the-social-recluse]

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[daeyumi]

All for a moment of peace 🌷🍓🍃

[Linktober 5: Species/Race]

[adragonprinceswhore]

I made a post about how the show doesn’t hold Viserys accountable as a perpetrator since he’s continuously praised in the narrative (and this is reinforced by the producers saying shit like him and Alicent having a “loving marriage”) and I can’t even tell you how many comments I’ve gotten saying that I don’t “understand” that this is a medieval show and can’t be viewed through a modern lens.

And that got me thinking. Because I agree, we shouldn’t view the show through a modern lens, but so many viewers do. That’s why they accept things like Rhaenyra being next in line to the throne, Laenor agreeing to run away and leave his entire family behind to ‘live his life’, Cole ‘overreacting’ when Rhaenyra doesn’t want to run away with him, Rhaenyra having bastards born from a loving affair not being a big deal etc etc

So I wonder; why do people only bring this rhetoric up concerning Alicent? Why is Viserys marital rape of her excused as ‘that’s just how things were’, but Rhaenyra’s usurpation is vile sexism?

Why is Alicent a woman trapped in a medieval setting while Rhaenyra isn’t?

[9ofspades]

It’s disability pride month, and if you are disabled in the U.S. from Long Covid I want you to know that you’re not alone, and you’re valid in whatever you feel. Whether that’s sorrow at your new problems or rage at society for failing you, you are valid, and it is truly messed up that society is continuing to fail you.

[mabaris]

no youre completely right - im a gay (trans)man and i legit wanna see so much more about the women bc There Is So Little. I wanna make a lesbian oc who gets bent in half by taash. im very normal.

i’m just tired man!!!! it feels so obvious how disproportionate it is when you’ve got. a cast of characters that we know almost equally little about. and a few of them explode in popularity and it’s like spongebob sticking his hand out the curtain. literally all a character needs to do numbers is to be a light-skinned man

[jennifersbod]

i hate having 94 year old joints at 27

[saturnvs]

i’ve had a shit week but yesterday i had my horse therapy for 3 (!!!) hours, and today i’m visiting a riding school for a lesson to see if i want to start riding there .. very nervous but excited :)

[stagefoot]

You walk into the theater. I’m wiping down my lighting board with a wet wipe like the bartender in a Western

“What’ll it be,” I drawl, “warm or cool?”

[simgerale]

me after attempting to get back into sims and realizing i had a lot more to do than play the game

[twistedappletree]

guess whose car just broke down lmao

[laeana]

Now imagine asking someone of the fandom to just put an anti tag when they’re being ass to a driver and them answering that “you can’t lecture others cause you write fanfictions!” Like what’s even the link?? Apparently it’s “morality policing” to just ask people not being toxic. Great …

F1 fandom *sigh*

I swear like, you can dislike a driver, but you can do it while using properly the anti tag. So that no one that doesn’t want to see it sees it. It’s just being decent and having a good fandom experience together.

[threnodians]

honkai star rail fandom: “tHe OuTfItS aRe ToO cOmPlIcAtEd!!!”

*honkai star rail makes some playable characters that wear simpler clothing*

honkai star rail fandom: “uGh ThEy LoOk LiKe A fOuR sTaR!!!”

... don’t even get me started on how basically everyone hates that the people from the xianzhou alliance wear the same style of clothing... chinese clothing... almost as if... they’re from the same place... and have the same culture... therefore the same style of clothing... hsr fans learn how to use your brains please oh my god

[leverage-ot3]

is there anyone who is in witchy spaces that follows me? I really need to vent to (and to pick the brain of) someone about an interaction I had with people in a facebook group I’m in who refused to acknowledge cultural appropriation (a white person doing paid trainings on hoodoo and stuff) and insisted there is no such thing as a closed practice

[eddiesxangel]

If tumblr was to do anything to have an update HAVE A MUTUAL ONLY PAGE

[bass-alien]

if the big sad could just leave me tf alone for one night that would be so dope lmao