#i’d say ‘give lesbianism a shot’ but girls and enby folks can do this to

[dumpster-fire-sapphic-failgirl]

So here’s the thing. Him doing it once could be an accident. It’s not cute. He fucked up. And anyone that wanted to toss him out right then, well within their rights. But if the forgiving sort wants to give him a second chance, that’s understandable too

But the second time he does it? He put lie to the apologetic sounding mouth noises that he made. A true apology is one where you change the behavior that made the apology necessary in the first place. He’s showing a fundamental lack of understanding of her as a person, no love for her or the works of art she makes, and that he is unwilling to work on himself for her, but he is willing to lie to her enough to keep her around

As outside spectators it is fun to call for his death. Well deserved, he is lucky that I don’t know who he is and that the gods have yet to grant me dominion over a murder of crows that would peck him apart

However, if you are the one in this situation, murder fantasies are… less helpful. You have value. The things that you create have value. Your partner is not being a good partner. And that is enough of a reason to start extricating yourself from that relationship. Ask yourself if they are still in love with you, if they are in love with the memory of you, or if it really seems like they love you at all. And ask yourself if you still love them, or if you love the memory of them. And if you love the memory of them only, acknowledge that is a person who no longer exists and that you are not obligated to stay in the hope they will magically reappear.

And if you are the kind of person who destroys the art/hard work of someone you claim to love, and you are reading this? Fix your heart or die.

Or maybe just fuck yourself with a rusty screwdriver.

anyway, gonna keep trying to get those crows

i have such a low threshold for bullshit now that i'm seconds from telling this woman on the crochet subreddit to leave her husband, even though i know it won't end well for me.

she made him a wool hat and stressed repeatedly to him that it couldn't be machine washed. he washed it anyway, destroying her work. she's trying to play it off like a funny anecdote, how it was sweet how sorry and sad he was in the aftermath, but then let it slip this kind of thing has happened multiple times/continues to happen in their relationship, because he refuses to accept her knowledge as a textile artist and constantly ruins the nice things she makes or buys for either of them. i think he should be killed.

[ardentmystacina]

#girl just kick him out#if he is willing to belittle her and ignore her on the things shes an expert about#destroy him#relationships#winnie rambles#take care of yourselves my lovelies#i’d say ‘give lesbianism a shot’ but girls and enby folks can do this to#protect your heart#only love a ghost if you get a gothic mansion and captain’s walk out of it

i have such a low threshold for bullshit now that i'm seconds from telling this woman on the crochet subreddit to leave her husband, even though i know it won't end well for me.

she made him a wool hat and stressed repeatedly to him that it couldn't be machine washed. he washed it anyway, destroying her work. she's trying to play it off like a funny anecdote, how it was sweet how sorry and sad he was in the aftermath, but then let it slip this kind of thing has happened multiple times/continues to happen in their relationship, because he refuses to accept her knowledge as a textile artist and constantly ruins the nice things she makes or buys for either of them. i think he should be killed.