#i will be fantasizing about that forever

[silverselfshippingchaos]

I want to personally thank k.enzo's ex for that one scene where she talks about how he used to kiss a birthmark on her inner thigh

[rayveneyed]

nanami kento is the kind of man that makes people swoon without even realising it.

he's the kind of man to walk into a luxury store after work, suit jacket folded over one arm and a bouquet of flowers in the other -- his blonde hair still mostly perfect from the high-end pomade he uses. he scours the shelves, frowning to himself, while the attendants whisper and giggle amongst themselves near the tills -- an argument over who will be the one to talk to him, because he's intimidatingly pretty.

("just look at him," one whispers. "he's definitely buying something for a girlfriend."

"a wife," another disagrees. "c'mon. he's giving husband vibes."

someone hums. "but i can't see a wedding band."

"his mother, maybe?" says one other. "oh, i love when guys come in shopping for their mother."

"nobody's mother is getting a bouquet of a hundred red roses--")

eventually, one of them is volunteered as a sacrifice -- smiling and sweet as all attendants should be, she clears her throat. the others, crowded around the till, watch the exchange closely. "excuse me, sir. is there anything we could help you with today?"

her mouth is dry and her hands are clammy -- and when he fixes her with those narrow, burning eyes, her throat bobs.

"ah, yes." and his voice is deep and gravelly and drawling, and her stomach turns. she can only imagine what her coworkers are thinking -- hell, she can only imagine what she's thinking. her mind has stopped short. "my girlfriend likes this brand quite a bit. i thought i'd pick her up something..."

disappointment brews in her stomach -- and it's stupid, she knows it's stupid, because obviously a guy like that is taken. and -- she glances down at the roses -- obviously he treats her super fucking well. of course he does, because why wouldn't he? "oh, perfect! do you have anything in mind?"

"well, actually..."

he ends up buying one of the priciest gift boxes available -- fancy body care and perfume laid out in their signature boxes, decorated with ribbon and dried lavender -- no argument, no fight. he doesn't look for something cheaper, doesn't try to haggle or remove something to decrease the price. he adds, and adds, and adds -- and when she mentions a special offer at the till, a little add on for an extra 2000 yen, he accepts it readily. he inserts a black card into the card machine (of course, a black card), takes the beautifully wrapped bag, and thanks the girls for their services -- and just as he's leaving, his phone rings.

of course he answers the phone with hello, darling. of course he begins to ask his girlfriend about her day, the girls think with some amount of annoyance -- of course. maybe the curse of retail isn't entitled assholes expecting you to wait on hand and foot for them -- maybe it's the handsome men coming in to splurge on their girlfriends while you're painfully single and working for pennies.

[dreamerdrop]

Forcefem stuff is not functionally different from say, a young definitely-not-a-lesbian who fantasises about an attractive older woman who will ~corrupt~ her into being gay, or like evil gothic mind control Vampire fantasies and the like.

It is literally just "thing I want is not something other people consider acceptable to want and thus the fantasy requires me being absolved of the sin of wanting it by having it forced on me instead so that I just simply have to accept it as part of life now". That's the starting point.

And then once you get past the internal issues about why you want that thing in the first place, you get to start making jokes and having fun with it as a kink.

For the young lesbian who fantasises about being ~corrupted~, it's joking about how her girlfriend made her gay by being so pretty, knowing full well she was already gay and is okay with that now, who might also ask her girlfriend to dress up as a Vampire and pretend to hypnotise her, you know, that kinda thing.

Like, this is such a common concept, why do some people get all hand-wringy about forcefem specifically?

[wildsaltair]

not just a snack but the entire five-course meal plus coffee and dessert. I'll have mine in my room

[lgbtlunaverse]

After reading tons of people whose opinions I respect either hail it as essential reading or tear into it as abuse apolagia I have finally decided to actually read Conflict is not abuse" by Sarah Schulman and I gotta say, I think its message is really undercut by Sarah Schulman's apparrent belief that cutting someone off makes you the devil.

Like, for a book ostensibly about not overstating harm it is deeply ironic how apocalyptically it portrays the very mundane act of "not wanting to talk to someone." It's Childish. Tyrranical. Poisonous to individuals and entire communities alike. If you send someone an email asking them not to contact you anymore you are ruining your own ability to have healthy relationships with anyone. Ever. People like this should be forced into conversation with whoever they wish to avoid and it would be for their own sake because the mere act of not talking is so inherently harmful it cannot be allowed to occur, at any cost.

Every time the book says something I think is profound and useful and I start nodding along it is inevitably followed by a take that blocking someone on social media means you have the mental development of a toddler. Or that if someone is "hiding behind technology" (only wishing to talk to someone over the phone instead of face to face) this is a collective problem that the entire community needs to band together around to prevent, no matter what the person doing the "shunning" thinks. In the book's own words: "More and more people have to join in together to create change. The conversation is not over just because an escalator insists that it is."

As a reader, that attitude seems like the exact kind of militant overly paranoid thinking that a book like "Conflict Is Not Abuse" would want to prevent, but as I read further the overwhelming impression I get is that Sarah Schulman is actually fine with endlessly harangueing someone and turning their entire community against them, as long as it's for the crime of shit-talking your ex and not wanting to be around them.

[sehtoast]

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[flowerakatsuka]

i said this to laur, but i feel like it deserves to be on tumblr, too. this post is extremely karacore.

[99yikes]

ok so heres what im thinking--

[uncanny-tranny]

I wish the world was kinder

I do, too, but unwaveringly, work must go into making the world kind.

You know, I've learned the kindness in the world isn't just reflected outward, but also inward. When you are kind to yourself, you are kind to the world; when you are kind to the world, you are kind to yourself.

You don't have to make the world kind on a grand scale. Nobody can, truly. But what you can do is be understanding to yourself and be understanding to others. We are flawed. We are so very deeply troubled. But that is what makes us shine, ultimately. Being kind is hard, but it's worth it in the end.

[elliesbelle]

NOW I HEAR YOUR VOICE EVERYTIME THAT I THINK I’M NOT ENOUGH

[phregnancy]

for people wanting drunk phil. this may be the closest we get on camera.

[tpup]

You fantasize a lot about being a trans woman. That puffy nipples post you made in march made me do a double take when I saw your url was tpup (trans man url.)

Interesting interpretation of my posts! I specify that I'm TME in my bio; I don't wanna mislead people. My posts are not about me fantasizing about being transfem 🤷‍♀️

A lot of posts of mine are made with transfems in mind; I was in a long term relationship with someone while she was transitioning & a lotta my posts come from me enjoying being part of that. I'm also for the first time in my life feeling comfortable as a woman, and enjoying that exploration, but I always try to mention I'm TME so as not to mislead TMA people.

I'm t4t, a lesbian, and generally more comfortable & feel most sisterhood with transfems. I don't identity as a trans man (although I have in the past) I guess I'm something closer to a cisgender transsexual lately. I'm a woman, I like being on T, and I think I want to pursue phalloplasty some day.

[opens-up-4-nobody]

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[discountbottom]

Oh god I think my egg cracked in a taco bell bathroom

[iknowwhereyousleepatnight]

ugh got distracted with being depressed and shit and now i only have a week to finish a yaoi project ive barely started im starting to see the benefits of psychopharmacological treatment

[twilight-good-yall-dumb]

Sometimes I feel like we don't talk enough about the romance of being perceived. For me at least, it is the ultimate form of romance. When somebody is so utterly infatuated with somebody that they can't help but notice all the intricacies of them...??? YES! I've started to notice how much I crave that and how much I adhere to it in my writing. So many of my favorite love songs are the kind where somebody just lists things they've noticed about the person they love. And when this happens in a book or a movie or any kind of story???? Kill me! Like literally put me down because I've gone rabid!!!! When the love interest points out the MCs endearing nervous habit, when they comment on the color of their hair in the sun, when they talk about how much they love the sound of their voice, etc etc etc!!! Like to be loved is to be perceived, to be observed, to be paid attention to! That is adoration!!! Y'all don't get it because you want the grand gestures and the sex and the expensive dates and the Instagram face sexy looks, blah blah blah! I just want for people to dissect and discover the person they love and to find endearment in all that makes them! It's so GOOD!