#i want a fucking HUG and a CUDDLE

[tchotchkez]

iunno guys i just want to be loved & held tightly for a moment or two is that so much to ask

[dr-spectre]

The way my fucking jaw hit the floor seeing CALLIE PULL OUT THE AIR GUITAR AGAIN AFTER SO MANY YEARS!!!!

AND THE LITTLE TWIST TOO!!! AHHHHH!!!!! HER JOYFUL BIG ASS SMILE AND WAVE TO THE AUDIENCE I CAN'T TAKE IT!!! I'M MELTING INTO A PUDDLE!!!! MY HEART IS LITERALLY GOING "BBBBTTTZZZZ!!!!!!!"

I feel so warm and fuzzy.... so energised.... I can't fucking go to sleep because all I'm gonna be thinking about is Callie Cuttlefish and when I think about Callie Cuttlefish I GET EXCITED AND SO HAPPY!!!!!!

She's both my serotonin AND dopamine pill. And I am ADDICTED!! I NEED MORE OF HER!!!!

WHAT IS HAPPENING TO ME?!?!?!

[untitledgoosegay]

re last reblog I do see fanfic culture pushing/replicating a certain model of "what trauma looks like," "how trauma works"

this is a problem across all areas of society obviously, but transformative works are, well, transformative. they're about crafting and modifying narratives where the fan-creator sees a flaw or a lack -- often for the better! don't get me wrong, I've done my fair share of "I take a hammer and I fix the canon," it's the main thing that gets my creative gears spinning -- but what happens when that "flaw" is simply a narrative not conforming to popular expectations?

some people just don't get PTSD from events that sound obviously traumatic. they're not masking, and they're not coping; they just straight-up didn't get the permanently-locked stress-response that defines PTSD. they walk away from a horrible experience going "well, that sucked, but it's over now." some people do get PTSD from events most people wouldn't find traumatic. we don't really know why some people get PTSD and others don't. but fandom has an idea of events that must be traumatizing, of a "correct" way to portray trauma. you see the problems with this lack of understanding in e.g. fans pressuring the devs of Baldur's Gate 3 to add dialogue where the player character badgers Halsin about his own feelings on his abuse -- because he must be traumatized, and his trauma must fit a certain mold and presentation of sexual trauma, under the mistaken impression that anything outside that narrow window is somehow "wrong" and disrespectful or even harmful to survivors.

take, for another example, the very common trope of a traumatized character who hates touch or sex "learning" to like touch or sex as a part of their healing process. certainly that can be healing for some people; other people will never like, or want, touch or sex, because of trauma or because they just don't. the assumption that someone who doesn't want sex or doesn't like to be touched must be traumatized, must be suffering from this perceived lack, is seriously harmful -- to asexual people, to people with sensory issues around touch, and to people for whom healing from trauma means freedom to refuse sex or touch.

and there's a secondary trope, one that's slightly more thoughtful but ultimately repeats the problem -- that once someone has learned that their boundaries will be respected, they'll feel it's safe to soften those boundaries. once they feel safe refusing touch or sex, they'll feel comfortable allowing it on their own terms. but many people don't, and many people won't! many people will simply never want to be touched, and never want sex, and they are not suffering or broken or lacking because of it. the idea that proving you'll respect someone's boundaries entitles you to test those boundaries -- the paradox is obvious, and yet this is something i've seen hurt (re-traumatize) people i care for.

people are imperfect victims. people don't heal in the ways you expect. many people have positive memories of their abuse, of their abusers. many people hurt others in the course of their trauma, in ways that can't easily be unpacked in a 5k oneshot. very few narratives of trauma and recovery actually fit the ones put forward by popular children's media and romance novels -- which are the ones I most see replicated in fandom spaces, because they provide the clearest narrative and easiest catharsis, and so they're easy and soothing to reach for.

that's not necessarily a bad thing! i am not immune to goopy romance tropes. i am not immune to teary catharsis. not every fic has to grapple with ugly realities. but there's a problem when these narratives become predominant, when people think they're accurate and realistic depictions of trauma, when the truth of trauma is unpleasant and uncomfortable, and doesn't fit any single narrative, let alone one of comforting catharsis

[frankthesnek]

You know what low key makes me sad? The scene in Avengers when Fury finds Steve at the gym to recruit him.

Yeah yeah, Steve is glowing and sexy from working out, and his ass looks great in those sweats.... but think about that (not his ass the other thing). He's sweating. Like seriously sweating....

How long was he at the gym, by himself (having fucking flashbacks no less!) to have worked up that kind of a sweat? This is Captain America, its not easy to wind the guy but he is very clearly worn out and drenched here. The poor man has been all alone, taking out all his pent up painful memories and emotions on those bags for fucking hours probably. Then Fury just shows up to talk to him about the very thing he is having ptsd flashbacks about! Just uuuugh I hate it!

Steve I just want to hug you 🥺😭

[carlandoscars]

Me, trying to call Lando and tell him not to put all the blame on himself

[xenocorner]

Small sketch page of some of my marvel blorbos ;; Couldn't fit all of them in it nor had the time but hey I got the itch scratched kinda

[solitudeinmyself]

Damnit I just really want someone to cuddle and kiss rn 😫😫

[marv3l-drag0ns]

god DAMN college loneliness actually hits hard :-(

[the-red-hoodlum]

killing people who don’t get an animals consent before touching them &/or ignore when animals are visibly uncomfortable with being touched.

[stinkrascal]

listen if emmrich turns into a skeleton it wont kill me… i’ll still romance that old man… but like truly i dont want that at all. it will upset me just a little bit lmao

[dr-spectre]

This might be the cutest thing I've ever seen in my entire life.

I just... I just... I... AHHHH!!!!

EHEHEHEHEHE!!!! CALLIEEEE!!! MARIEEEE!!!! SQUID SISTERS EHEHEHEHEHE!!!!!!!!!

MWAH! MWAH! MWAHHHHHH!!!!!! SO CUTEEE EHEHEHEHEHEHEHE!!!!!!! I WANNA PINCH YOUR CHUBBY CHEEKS YOU FRIGGEN SQUIDS!!!!!

OH I WANNA RUSTLE YOUR PRETTY HEADS!!!! I wanna give you both big ol smooches!!!! I wanna hug you girls so BADLY!!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!

.......

....I'm sorry y'all.... The uh... the brainrot got to me and it took over..... it's gonna happen again... I'm scared....

[islanddboyy]

sometimes i wonder if you put my rabbit in a pen with loads of other white furred blue eyed dwarf rabbits would i be able to recognise her. cuz i mean shes just a rabbit. but then i remember the face she makes when shes scared or naughty or when youve just woken her up. the stain of her feet after years of never properly cleaning them. her eyes with gunk all in them because of her old age. and on the topic of age, all her whiskers she never had as a bunny. and i just hope that i would be able to spot her in a pile of other rabbits just like her because i just want her to know how much i love her

[teddybeartoji]

i had a dream where we cuddled with chubby toji and i felt sad when i woke up. in most of official artwork of him, he's always eating, a big man with a big appetite and when he finally settles down he's embracing that dilf lifestyle he was always bound to have.

i need to squish his tummy, so soft, love a big man

CHUBBY TOJIIIIIIIIIIIIII DAD BOD TOJIIII!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE A MAN WHO CAN FUCKING EATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT like it's sooo fucking hot holy fuuuckk mmmmmmmmmmmmm that dilf lifestyle yeah yeah yeah he's wrangling the kids and he's grilling and he's squeezing your ass he's the most perfect husband ever omfggg........... i will learn how to cook the most delicious meals just so i can feed him:333333 i love chubby toji so bad i wanna kiss his tummyyy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[aivy-saur]

When I have to wash my fav Leo plushie that I cuddle with 24/7 I tend to sulk while I wait for him to dry

[nobodybetterlookatme]

Okay time for me to 🥰 in the tags real quick lmao

[bastetnyan]

HE LOOKS SO CUTE-

LOOK AT HIM!!