#i think the adhd is winning woe

[soupysuki]

made a bsky https://bsky.app/profile/soupysuki.bsky.social

gonna start posting more WIPs there to hold myself accountable on making progress on the ten million projects i have at once ('w')

[fandomlurker333]

I can appreciate this take a lot! A lot of people are screaming throuple and just writing the porn (which I get! It’s fun!). But I had a similar feeling of OH. But they’re all horrible for each other. lol They have such a mismatch of needs and I don’t think the relationships we’ve seen as they stand: Tashi/Art marriage and Patrick/Tashi fucking are all that functional.

I do think that for the most part these relationships are them throwing themselves at each other rather than healing, BUT I have been working out some of my woes through character analysis and internal explorations one at a time and I’m starting to think it’s possible (with therapy as you said).

I think their largest issues are Art’s chronic insecurity and lack of sense of self, Tashi’s depression/lost career and possibly having developed mild narcissistic tendencies due to that, and Patrick’s…well, Idk about anyone else but I actually read Patrick as nueroatypical (I’m thinking high functioning autistic spectrum and/or adhd + cyclothymia. But that’s just my take. Whatever it is, I don’t think he’s managed it very well at all.)

I think their dysfunction is absolutely a result of them not knowing how to deal with their pain.

But I think some healing can be done together! As long as they are able to communicate, to understand their own needs and support themselves as well as each other.

I feel like the end of the film was meant to be the very beginning of something. Just the spark of an idea of them coming back to one another. But the real work starts after.

I think it would probably be a step-by-step thing too. I can see Patrick and Art working to draw closer first, with that strong foundation of their childhoods to build off of. Obviously having to resolve the issue of so much time and distance and both being willing to forgive. But it’s clear at the end of the film that the door is open for that. They grew up together. There’s a real root of knowing that I think could carry them through the toughest parts early on.

And Tashi and Art’s marriage finding some breathing room and maybe even some renewed delight for having Patrick present and loving on them both. Kinda seeing each other again through his eyes type thing. Remembering they’re more than who they have been to each other for over a decade. I don’t think Patrick/Tashi would be having sex at this point, but I can see like….tennis dates where they bicker. Just them all learning how to be in each other’s space for extended periods of time and enjoy it. 🤣

And maybe Art wouldn’t resent Tashi so much for not being able to give him everything (so much has been taken from her — she just doesn’t have all that much left. She’s doing her best.) and maybe Tashi would feel more fulfilled seeing them play each other and knowing Art is really loving tennis again. Connecting with them both in that space and finding joy in tennis again, so it’s not just routine and pain and loss for her.

With that healing happening concurrently, I think they’d get far. And then once those relationships are more secure, and Art and Tashi learn how they relate to each other when he isn’t winning for her (which would be something new. But maybe something to explore.) then Patrick and Tashi, having learned way more about themselves in relationship and how to communicate, might start working on their side of the triangle lol.

To your point about whether these relationships would dissolve if they were healthy…hmmm, I’m inclined to say they would shift, but not entirely dissolve. The boys clearly had something they were invested in and though they’ve changed, I think there’s some core that hasnt and I know I’ve been able to maintain 15 year relationships with people I have known since childhood. I think their relationship evolving isn’t out of the question.

Tashi was evidently drawn to them both together in her younger years and I can see her still enjoying them. I don’t know that, once she’s whole, she’ll need them in exactly the same ways they will want/need her, but I can still see her wanting to have them in her life. I think they can have value to her outside of the functions they used to serve for her. I think it’d be kind of wondrous figuring out what that looks like.

I could see it being explicitly sexual with Patrick at least. And kinky with Art. So I absolutely think they’d work out the intimacy. (Because you know Patrick would be down for anything lol) And of course they’ll be partners co-parenting. All of them. I can see a healed Tashi learning to enjoy teaching kids. Taking on more protege. And letting Art and Patrick come help at her tennis camps.

Art running the foundation as Tashi steps back. Realizing that he’s actually pretty good at this business thing and going back to school for a master’s in non profit leadership. Meeting new people. Making friends. Getting invited to a pottery class and seeing he loves to work with his hands.

And my heart for stay-at-home dad Patrick. Who always forgets to change over the laundry and leaves his keys everywhere and puts the babies shoes on the wrong feet. But my god he loves those kids so goddamn much. Patrick learning to cook for the family and getting really good at it because he hyper focuses on that just as well as he does anything he really gets into. Patrick finally having a home with the two people he loves most and figuring out how to create some routine and stability for himself within that container.

I think it’s possible! I think they can do it! It just takes work.

Skepticism about the Throuple

Now before I get booed. I’ll have you know when I first watch the film, I was definitely team throuple!! It was when I saw it again that I was less enthusiastic about them as a throuple. I think that’s very much the fault of the film itself, if they are supposed to be a throuple we’ve should have seen more of them together as a threesome!!! We focused primarily on the three pairings! It didn’t have to be them in an official threesome. So we can see how them being together is their best state. It mainly comes down to the fact that we sort of talk about them conceptually and we don’t actually see them really mesh well together as polycule. Yes, I believe that they would 100% go back to that hotel after the match and bang it out. But an actually poly relationship? They are all way too dysfunctional for all that. They are not even functionally dysfunctional. The idea is that other person can come in and triangulate whenever each pairing has a problem. I don’t see that happening. They very much would just start ganging up on each other. None of them would really help diffuse the situation. Tashi would feed into the conflict between Patrick and Art. When Patrick and Tashi would get into it, Art would take Tashi’s side. And if things are bad with Art and Tashi, Patrick would just come in to undermine their relationship. Like…. I feel like they’d need therapy to make it work, but if they actually got therapy I’m not sure if any of them would stay together. I get the idea that they do a throuple instead of therapy and just don’t think it could work without therapy. That’s if therapy doesn’t just get them to severe these relationships for good. Idk maybe I need to watch it again to regain my interest in them together.

[coffee-at-annies]

Maybe it's just me about sports in general, but it feels like fans are quicker to gloat about the players even though they've been contributing in other ways (on ice and off ice) when a team is struggling. Scenario: Team A is on a 10 game winning streak in November, all is good from the outside, every player is praised. But come February they hit a massive losing streak and the wheels come off: depth players are scapegoated despite all their efforts, players shuffled around the lineup with some not fitting in their new lines, chemistry is off and every player is getting blamed even unfairly. Then comes along the hindsight takes of should've kept this, should've traded for that when nobody has no clue whether the team would've been better off had they done that.

And while we're at it, is it unpopular to feel bad for BJC? Ever since Hextall protected him over Canner + signed his extension, the fanbase at least from Pens Twitter quickly soured on him when he couldn't sustain his hot start. A one year extension would've been more reasonable instead of two, I get why they wanted him exposed to Seattle instead, he's played decently but he's getting a lot of flak whenever the Pens are slumping. To quote a random post online I came across from a fan of another struggling team, it's easy to say that a team needs to replace a depth player (esp when he is an older player playing beyond his actual capabilities as a fill in for injury) even though he's not been bad, but fans wouldn't say that if the team is on a roll. Y*he tweeted out his pre-extension vs. since then which is why I shared this.

Hey sorry its been over a week. My brain was pretty broken when you sent this and then I forgot it existed because ADHD is like that sometimes. I’m gonna do my best to address some of what you said and my opinion on it.

it feels like fans are quicker to gloat about the players even though they've been contributing in other ways (on ice and off ice) when a team is struggling

I’m a little unsure what you mean here. Gloat is the word that’s throwing me off. I think you’re talking about fans talking shit, but usually when I think of the word gloat, I think of I told you sos or I was rights and I don’t really associate talking shit with gloating unless you’re saying I called it, I knew they’d be terrible. Currently Ren and I are gloating because we were right that the pens would figure their shit out and all we needed to fix the PK was for Teddy to come back from war. I’d consider shit talking a player gloating if you’re gloating about being right about someone sucking.

Sports fans are fickle. They’re quick to panic and quick to react. They’re quick to bet and quick to fold. A cold streak gets people scared really easily. A hot streak gets people euphoric in a way that makes it feel like we can never lose again. Hockey is an inherently silly sport. Ice is slippy. Sometimes bounces just don’t go your way. The Devils had a franchise record win-streak snap on Wednesday because of 3 no-goal reviews. Matt Murray technically got a shutout despite the puck hitting the back of the net. Shit happens. You gotta roll with the punches.

As for the scenario you outlined, that was basically the pens last season. We can what if and speculate but that’s all it is, speculation. The thing is you can’t stop fans from speculating. What ifs are a part of sports. So much of sports is up to chance that you can’t predict everything so well what if this happened or this happened or this happened. Its a talking point. Sports has a lot of those.

A thing I think that’s worth mentioning is that fans aren’t the only ones doing these sorts of talking. Reporters are people to and they’re some of the people driving the narratives. Of course they are, its their jobs. They’re paid by the word and by the click. The reason everyone was talking about Geno’s contract woes after R*ssi broke the story is because it was easy money in a slow offseason news cycle.

These people are paid to tell us stories, but that doesn’t mean they’re unbiased. I personally really like JFresh on twitter because he’s very up front about how ZAR is his emotional support defensive analytics darling. R*ssi has always been really up Geno’s ass and Y*he has always been weirdly hard. A lot of reporters like to be hard on players and call it tough love or objectivity and I’m like nah. I’d honestly prefer a reporter who tells you their favorite player than pretend they don’t have one. They’re fans with opinions too and if they view someone negatively then it will embolden some fans who are fickle.

is it unpopular to feel bad for BJC

I’d say no but I already talked about him vaguely here. Look you can’t make people say nice things about a player they’ve decided to hate. Look at how pensblr feels about archibald and desm*th. Pens twitter has decided to hate BJC and there’s not much you can do about that. You can’t make a worstie into a bestie even with the best playing. Plenty of ppl still don’t like Archibald despite the fact that he’s playing pretty good for us.

it's easy to say that a team needs to replace a depth player... even though he's not been bad, but fans wouldn't say that if the team is on a roll

Fans absolutely can and will. We’ve been on winning streaks and I’ve still criticized desm*th. He can get a shutout and I’d still think he’s a streaky goalie and we need someone with more consistency. People love to assign blame and find fault. The team being on a roll will quiet some of the opportunistic haters but it won’t quiet everyone and people will always talk shit. There’s always something someone could do better and those sorts of people will find it.

The best you can do is curate your online experience and block people. You are not obligated to give everyone the time of day or every thought the same amount of weight. If all they post is negativity about BJC and they don’t have a nice thing to say then what is the point of continuing to listen to them? They obviously aren’t going to change their mind so why keep giving them space and a platform. Its not even worth it to argue because arguing online is using your own platform to give them more visibility. This is why people who send Anon hate won’t block you first, they want you to platform their assholishness and validate them by responding publicly, by getting upset.

If this is making you mad, then take steps to remove yourself from it. I’ve got ppl in hockeyblr blocked because they wouldn’t have a nice word to say about the pens if it killed them. I’ve got ppl in pensblr blocked because I didn’t like how they talked about players and fellow fans and I didn’t want to see it on my dash. Curation of online experiences is hard, but if something is making you mad or angry, you can take steps to distance yourself from it. Its kind of the same principle as don’t like, don’t read, but for the shit people say online.

[rabbitindisguise]

Something that baffles me is that people think being disabled is "easy"

Bro I have been in Gifted Math Class. I've taken the GRE. I've gone to college and middle school. I'm moderately okay at those things! I got a decent GPA! I got high scores even though it was difficult!

Sometimes being disabled is a game you're just not supposed to win ever and that's the hardest part. Being given rules that have no conditions that exist that could be reasonably described as winning the game. Picture double standards of femininity but for your pained expression in the emergency room. Stuff that could mean life or death for you and you have to play mind games with the nurse to figure out how to hit the right buttons so they don't ruin your day by accidentally putting you into anaphylaxis.

The worst part is that physically disabled people are "woe is me, this is harder than anything a mentally ill will ever experience" when I know for a fact that the only reason I've survived this long is like, practice from trying (and succeeding!) to get diagnosed with ADHD

When I was living with an ableist person they would constantly talk about the comfy clothes that disabled people wear instead of regular person clothes. As if the trappings of comfort symbolize something greater than someone's actual ability to be a person in general. As if the privilege of not having a scratchy tag has to be paid for by labor doing something meaningless.

Being disabled is hard because able bodied neurotypical people make it hard as punishment for something that has no good answers to begin with. So may all your pants be your favorite pants because none of them give you sensory overload and may the snippy comments be few and far between. You don't need to earn comfort that's just given to everyone else with no strings attached. Getting to the point of just knowing what comfort even is and what it feels like? That's hard enough.

[ganymedesclock]

As a Lance fan, I’m officially tired of Langst

It’s really hard for me to get behind posts about how Lance is so unmourned and ignored by the team and how other characters are so mean to him, because they blatantly ignore so many scenes where the obvious blatant text of the scene is that the team pays attention to Lance and thinks highly of him.

Especially Allura. People act like because Allura dated Lotor in s6 that clearly has to mean she was thoughtlessly dancing on Lance’s heart or something ignoring that right there in s5 Allura saw her father’s old sword, a weapon from her own destroyed culture, in Lance’s hands, and pretty unsubtly talked up the idea of Lance being worthy of following in Alfor’s footsteps. Her beloved father, her beloved people, who are things Allura keeps very close to her heart, and seeing Lance holding that explicitly Altean sword her response was “it’s in good hands, then.”

Hell, people even actively point to scenes of the team being attentive to Lance as proof of his abuse and isolation.

Like almost every langst thing I’ve seen seems to insist they want Lance to be treated better but that’s not really the case, is it? It just feels like the appeal is imagining Lance broken and helpless and withering and suffering, because I guess that’s fun to fantasize with and I guess all these people who say they love Lance have decided he’s the weak link out of the team.

If this sounds bitter, it’s because it is. Lance is probably one of the characters I find the most intensely, personally relatable out of the team, and as an autistic, ADHD guy, as someone who people would probably describe as sensitive, I notice a pretty damn obvious pattern where characters that I find deeply personally relatable are always targeted for this sort of thing. Canon depicts them as competent, friendly, likable people who have a lot of talent and yes, sadness and struggles and imperfect interactions too, but full characters who are living their lives and dealing with their problems effectively.

And in sweeps fandom wailing about how the cruel world has dashed this helpless butterfly upon the rocks, torn him to pieces, he’ll never recover- and I get tired of it. It feels like a personal attack. Why are sensitive people never allowed to be heroes who are celebrated for their strength? Because again- nobody in canon has a consistent problem admitting Lance is a hero. You know who has a consistent problem admitting Lance is a hero, to the point that their vision apparently clouds over with TV static as soon as canon shows an unambiguous obvious image of Lance being praised and valued by his team?

The fandom. The people who are allegedly stanning him. I skim AO3 and it’s like somehow we stopped entirely writing about a heroic, charismatic teenager who meaningfully addresses his unhappiness and works to be a better person and are suddenly writing about a Victorian novelist’s conception of a woman.

Here’s fanon Lance, leaning over the balcony, a lace-gloved hand clutched to his bosom while someone unimportant, probably Allura, tells him to come inside before he gets consumption. A tear delicately crosses his cheek. “woe, fate. When will my true love, Keith, return from the war? For he, and he alone, is the only person to ever appreciate me.”

Hunk, sitting in a nearby tree, who has been patiently throwing flower petals for ambiance this entire time, remembers that he is playing a prop, and does not actually exist.

I like Lance. I like Keith. I like the idea of Lance and Keith being a couple.

I hate the idea of Lance being distorted into this devastating black hole of emotional wallowing where the only way he’ll ever be happy or properly appreciated is if the entire plot is derailed and everything beaten over itself until there are no other paladins, there is Only Lance, who pilots Voltron alone, because everyone else has their schedule booked solid prostrating themselves before Lance’s image and attending his fanclubs and kissing his hand. All must love Lance, constantly. The moment they turn their eye to any other thing, for a second of their time, it is an irretrievable wound and Keith needs to run on stage to hold Lance’s corpse, Shiro, how could you, he was relying on your undying adoration to survive!

There is way too much langst that insists it addresses a deficiency that it made up in its entirety. There are too many RPs I’ve been in, too many speculative conversations, that are completely derailed to be all about Lance.

I have literally RPed a conversation between injured, rift-fried Lotor sitting in a prison cell and Lance where the Lance genuinely tried to insist that Lotor had it better than Lance did.

Lance has problems! He does! He’s allowed to have problems, he needs them as a complex and multifaceted character! But can we just... cut it out with the endless exercise in flagellation where Lance is the eternal victim suffering for our sins and actively demonizing other characters because they have the audacity to have their own lives and not cater to this pretend vision of Lance entirely divorced from canon?

Because canon gives us Lance being mildly disinterested in playing a game he’s never tried before where he lets himself be talked into it a second later, makes a total power fantasy character that the rest of the team barely bats an eye at, and, having a blast, decides to play another round with the rest of the gang, and I open the tag to see twenty thousand posts talking about how they can’t believe poor baby Lance is isolating himself.

This isn’t a struggle to comprehend what we’re watching here. I used to think maybe it was, that I could just patiently tow someone by the hand through the active text of the show where it illustrates that Lance is not alone, that he’s doing better than he started, that proportional to everyone else in the team he’s got struggles and upsets and also happiness and affection and solidarity.

But that’s the thing about Langst- is it’s a game that you win by being unsatisfied. It’s a game you win as long as Lance is suffering, as long as nobody loves Lance as much as you do- and because of that the majority of people writing Lance don’t actually want to be proven wrong. It’s at a point of active malicious distortion of canon to focus on how sad Lance is.

And I’m pissed. I’m pissed because I love Lance and this kind of shit makes me genuinely hesitate to bring him up in any context that doesn’t have me folding over myself eight different ways to make it clear that Lance is not crumbling into the abyss before our very eyes for fear a bunch of other people are going to seize my words and run away with them.

I’m pissed to hear that all the characters I relate to constantly reduced into helpless tragic baby victims who can never stand up for themselves and definitely didn’t shoot a man in the elbow of his prosthetic while falling backwards, with surgical precision, missing the hostage that he was practically using as a shield, and it wasn’t even that hard for him, or if he did it’s just proof that he has to do these herculean things and get no respect.

(Never mind Shiro and Pidge had both obviously not taken Lance’s marksmanship into account before then, but when he said “I got this” about that difficult shot they both sat the fuck back and didn’t interrupt him because Lance said he got it, and when he made the shot Shiro literally praised Lance by calling him exactly what Lance called himself at the beginning of the episode, y’know.)

So like... if we’ve all agreed we love Lance here, why are we consistently ignoring every good thing he does, every good thing canon has to say about him, every good thing his friends think about him, and then getting sad because the wasteland we’ve made out of Lance’s character arc doesn’t have anything good left in it- and that has nothing to do with the heaping pile of canon scenes we’ve just finished misconstruing or wholesale ignoring?

[sunnyfuneral]

Last post . here is what I know as someone with gifted friends and family and me being labled dumb as fuck and me loving all us below averages

Gifted kid discourse is about describing experience very common in GT experiences BUT not unique to compared to nonGifted kids in elementary school education. Thats it. You guys discribe shit that many of us non GT face and say it's because you were GT.

Ok when you were 8 you took some test and it turns out you had the right skill at the right time to be label extra good smart by white American standards. So you got extra special time in school.

I have met plenty of kids who took and passed AP class that were not in GT I am one of them. I got a C . GT kids do well and they suffer like all kids do. Other kids do well and still suffer . so fail as other kids do. In the same way yes. At the same time yes.

The difrence between GT and everyone else is the room you were in after lunch. Yeah its fucked up and bad and sad but like that the system the whole fucking thing

Plenty of uniquely skilled kids were not in GT. Plenty of kids (moi lol) were told they could do so much better and told that they were chosing to claim they did not know it. Many kids were held up to standards they could never reach. As is the nature of our shit school system. We were told we dont need help and we would figure it out (teachers have 0 time to help any of us)

I have yet to see one (1) thing that Gifted kids claim is unique that non GT have not faced. Like holy shit its almost like we went to the same schools and we all failed.

So why do i rant

Because i went to summer school. Becuase im fucking black and racism is built into the GT system. Banish the idea that you are outside us. You aRE US 100% . special because all kids are special. Unique because all kids are.

When i was in therapy my therapist many people with anxiety are very smart. I was failing all my classes. While getting diagnosed for ADHD I was told many smart folks have it to. I am not one of them.

There pervasive myth that intelegence is connected to mental illness and having ADHD and autism is dangerous and bad and not true.

Its lead to people thinking those disorders are rich and white things and that makes people reluctant to get help. (Thats what happends in the black community a lot)

The correlation is rich smart poeple have access to resources to get thier kids or themselves diagnosed.

GT kids seemed to be more ND because you are in a smaller class.

The others are you. You are them. We are all telling the same story but instead you went to the brainy summer camp on scholarship (scholarships that are almost always based on grades lol)

So now children what have you may or may not have learned

GT folks are just folks who won the genetic and social lottery. And the taxes made the winnings useless so now they are at the same net worth as everyone else. Woes is me

one fairly common experience of gifted children is wishing for pain. wishing you had some great big horrible thing in your past so that you can justify the pain you’re in, and so that you’ll deserve help. it’s exhausting and it fucks you up and to anyone out there who feels like they haven’t suffered enough to get help: you’re allowed to want help. you’re in enough pain. you deserve to feel better

[halekingsourwolf]

Head canoning/au: what if stiles was bit instead of Scott? Or in addition? DOB playing accidental werewolf stiles. Does it cure his ADHD? Does he embrace it? If Scott still dates Allison, does that make the drama more interesting and less cliched, less Romeo and Juliet, more how can you choose her over me? Or what if Peter bites stiles later in first season, when he mentions it canonically to stiles. How does stiles take to being a were? How do you think Sterek would be affected?

Continued: I mean, don't get me wrong, I looooove human stiles and wouldn't change him, love that he's sarcastic but fragile, love that he's a spark, or whatever, but not bullet proof... But I think he would handle the wolf stuff so differently than Scott did...

Oh Stiles would have 1000% handled turning very differently than Scott did, and season one would have been a completely different show. I’m going to start off saying that I agree, I love human!Stiles (and also spark!Stiles) too much to ever really be into the idea of wolf!Stiles or him turning, but it would have been interesting to see how that would have played out.

I’m going to run with the idea of Stiles being turned instead of Scott in this ask, because him being bitten as well would be a whole different ramble. 

First off, I think Stiles would have embraced the hell out of having superpowers. Scott enjoyed the benefits of being a wolf to get on the lacrosse team and win over Allison, but otherwise he was pretty desperate to be normal and ignore any elements of the supernatural going on in his life. Scott wanted a normal (well, popular sports star, but normal) life, but Stiles –– the geeky, World of Warcraft playing, superhero and sci fi movie loving geek that he is –– would have embraced the new wolf identity whole-heartedly. Remember, he was the one who actually figured out Scott was a werewolf (even jokingly) and helped him through learning control and connecting with his anchor. So I see werewolf!Stiles taking to be a wolf much faster than Scott did, if only because he would want to embrace it, want to learn as much as he could about it, want to be the best goddamn superhero werewolf he could be, because having superpowers is freaking awesome! 

So I think that, while for Scott the journey was one of “ugh, why is this happening to me” with a touch of “cool I can get a girlfriend now”, toward accepting that this was a permanent part of his life, for Stiles the journey would have gone in somewhat the opposite direction: from wholeheartedly embracing this awesome gift to slowly realizing –– as bodies piled up and hunters appeared in the picture –– that it might not be all sunshine and superpowers after all. (But I honestly think he’d handle that better too. Stiles is used to adapting to hard times, is a realist bordering on a cynic, and when he realized it was time to get serious I think he would have been able to ground himself and grow up fast –– though not without some serious griping along the way.)

I think the arc of the season probably would have changed a lot too, with Stiles as the core character. Along with his own research, he probably would have gone to Derek for answers and struck up a relationship much earlier on, wanting to learn as much as possible about the world he was now a part of. The main reasons he kept more of a distance from Derek in canon were because he was A) following Scott’s lead, since Scott was the one this was most affecting, B) he was scared of Derek (and certain feelings Derek was bringing out in him) and C) he was jealous that Scott and Derek were in this werewolf club together and he wasn’t, so he kind of wanted to nudge Derek aside to hold onto Scott better. All of which would have been different if Stiles were the one at the center of all the werewolf issues, with his own werewolf strength to match Derek’s.

(And in fact, he did go to Derek for answers a bit even in canon, like the scene in the police car when Derek was arrested –– and in an especially bad mood, I mean don’t get a guy arrested for the murder of his sister and then decide it’s time to chat. Just... bad timing there, Stiles –– and I think that would have been much more the norm in a world where Stiles was the werewolf.)

Since Derek would see Stiles actually invested in what was happening, actually wanting to understand (even in his snarky and skeptical way), I think Derek would have felt a lot more settled and secure than he did throughout canon season one. Derek’s main goals that season were to protect the stupid teenagers, get the stupid teenagers to take this seriously, and to feel a little less alone after losing Laura, and Stiles actually coming to him, wanting to learn, would change so much of that and leave him a lot more settled.

Ok, what else... I do think being a wolf would have probably cured Stiles’ ADHD, since the bite cured Erica’s epilepsy. Or at least... held it at bay. There’s a possibility that being exposed to wolfsbane, or other things that stalled out his wolf healing, would cause a resurgence of symptoms the way it did with Erica. Which would make wolfsbane exposure even more dangerous for Stiles, because it could potentially make him weaker and make it harder for him to focus on how to escape the situation.

As for Scott... I can see this going one of either two ways. Scott was very woe is me and Scott-centric throughout season one, and I’ll say somewhat understandably. He was the one who got the bite, who had his life flipped upside-down, and so it makes sense that he would be thinking about his own drama over other people’s. I’m also going to suggest that Scott’s overwhelming obsession with Allison was partly due to his being a new wolf (stronger senses, stronger instincts) and her being his anchor (being hyper-focused on her settled him). So, while I think a lot of Scott’s behavior was just down to his general personality, it’s also possible that a human Scott would have just reacted a bit more... normally, to getting a girlfriend. It’s also possible that, considering Stiles would be the one who was in trouble, the one whose problems needed to be focused on, Scott would have stepped up and been more focused on supporting Stiles in general. It’s easy when you’ve got a broken thumb to go “oh I have a broken thumb, feel bad for me, I can’t focus on your problems right now friend, my thumb’s hurting.” But if your thumb’s perfectly fine and your friend’s is the one that’s broken, you might be there and focused and more inclined to put them first and help them out.

(And yes, I just compared being bitten by a werewolf to having a broken thumb. I have no idea why. I’m sleep deprived with too much coffee in my system; let’s move on.)

So yes, it’s totally possible that human!Scott would put more focus on a werewolf!Stiles than on Allison, even causing him to leave her once he finds out her family are werewolf hunters. (Because again, it’s easy to keep dating someone dangerous when they’re threatening you and the poor loner werewolf you just honestly don’t care about :/ but if they’re threatening your best friend, that might change your attitude a bit.)

Of course, it could go in the complete opposite direction as well. Since we know Scott just wanted a normal life, the fact that Stiles was suddenly so completely not normal might set a wedge between them, even unconsciously. If that happened early on, it would probably push Stiles closer to Derek, push Scott closer to Allison, and potentially even lead Scott to side with the hunters if Kate or Chris managed to convince him that the werewolves were the dangerous monsters who stole his best friend from him. (And honestly this would be such an interesting dynamic to play out –– Scott trying to do the right thing, convinced by his girlfriend’s family that werewolves were the wrong thing. Maybe even convinced that killing the Alpha or Derek would turn Stiles back to being human, and that he’d be saving him by doing so. Leading Stiles and Derek into a trap by pretending to want to make amends, and then realizing his mistake when Kate ends up trying to kill Stiles too. And... damn, I want to write this now.)

Anyway, there’s so much more to explore here but I’ve definitely rambled on long enough. Awesome question, anon, thank you!

^ werewolf Stiles with Derek as his anchor ;P