#i should at least have a constructive conversation on parasocial relationships with shouldnt i

[quixtrix]

I am NOT attempting to influence and control your behaviour. what you are doing is theorising what another REAL PERSON has gone through and saying that he has gone through shit because of what he writes his characters into. what your intial reblog has come off to me is parasocial- specifically claiming to know someone based on the kind of content they create. what I was trying to do was advising you to step back from what I perceived as potentially parasocial behaviour.

you want to talk about white supremacy and cults? fine. i guess being a fucking PERSON OF COLOUR IN A RED STATE SURROUNDED BY WHITE PEOPLE DOESNT MEAN I KNOW SHIT. DOESNT MEAN I KNOW ANYTHING, WITNESSED FIRSTHAND THE CULT THAT IS WHITE NATIONALISM AND NEED TO BE EDUCATED BY A STRANGER ON THE INTERNET. just as you do not know adi shankar just because you have watched his shows does not mean you know me, a tumblr user who based on what you know and have seen was defending my favourite show in a fucking ship tournament. pipe the fuck down about my own personal knowledge about cults and white supremacy. I brought that up as an personal example of things that people write about without any firsthand experience in. and don't say that 'you've been affected by cults, therefore obviously you have trauma or actual experience.' if I wanted to talk about the cult of white nationalism, I would specifically mention white supremacy, white nationalism, something like that. I used CULTS, meaning the stereotypical religious cult one would think of when mentioning the term.

I've taken into account what the show presents us, I've analysed and rambled about different points about it multiple times. what I have not done is take into account what the actual showrunner has experienced because HE, AS A PERSON, DOES NOT SEEM TO BE WANTING TO SHOW US ANYTHING ALONG THOSE LINES ANY TIME SOON. art is absolutely about putting in your own experiences, your own emotion, but it is not something that we take as an open call to psychoanalyse the actual real life person.

we know vincent van gogh's specific mental issues through letters exchanged with his brother. what we know about adi shankar is through interviews. has adi shankar in an interview alluded to such a deep and personal trauma such as being groomed by an older man? no. no he has not. he has stated he immigrated to america at a young age, which if anything, should invoke the ideas of the american dream into our minds when consuming his work (and its especially applied to captain laserhawk as a show). this information does not allude in any way shape or form that he was groomed. if he wanted us to consume his art with the knowledge that he personally relates to the victims he writes into his stories, he would mention it somewhere in ANY interview he has ever done.

but he doesn't. because writers, musicians, and artists, are all real people. we are people on the internet who have little to know chance of intimately knowing about this man. we do NOT have a right to theorise and say that this man is a victim when he has not given us any hint that he WANTS us to know that. no, writing it into his shows is not a hint. it is not an invitation for speculation. he is not calling us to speculate about him, a real person. that is my main point.

to prevent parasocial relationships, we must remind ourselves that the specific information that a celebrity gives out to us, whether through ACTUAL ALLUSIONS, confrontation, or hints towards anything, is what we should use to speculate about a person. The tidbit about how shankar had immigrated to america at 15 should lead us to speculate about his life as someone who is an american dreamer. an interview with a celebrity is meant to give us insight to the thoughts that they would like to share. things are left out for a reason because there is a real person behind the idol. we especially forget this in our modern day and age of the internet. please remind yourself of this, no matter how much you dont want to because you're stubborn. how would you like it if someone you didnt know poked and prodded at your own deepest trauma? you alluded to it. surely you would want a total stranger to use your own writing as a way to say that you most definitely are a victim. do you, a person, not command a level of privacy despite allegedly bearing your heart to the world?

if you KNOW within interviews that adi shankar has ever even slightly alluded to being a victim of grooming, show me.

Propaganda:

Mutsuki and Urie: Listen. LISTEN. The communication issues. It's so *chef's kiss*. Urie is more or less canonically in love with Mutsuki after that time he impaled him and instead of getting mad Mutsuki gave him a hug. But he refuses to admit he cares about him even though it's fairly obvious that he's his favorite person. Also Mutsuki is obsessed with their teacher, who after a series of traumatizing experiences he stalks and tries to murder, so that's another rift in their relationship. Urie is so clearly jealous and also enables Mutsuki's unhealthy coping mechanism by just ignoring the fact that there is definitely a problem until it becomes too big to ignore and Mutsuki inadvertently nearly causes an apocalypse. And then they fight and Mutsuki tries to kill Urie. They're both such deeply fucked up people and they have such huge communication issues that they're practically on different planets and they've each tried to seriously hurt each other multiple times and they insult each other (or Urie insults Mutsuki before he falls deeply in love with him) and also Mutsuki is somewhat canonically trans and it's Not Handled Well but also they're an amazingly fucked up shit and I love them