#i remember saying once that i felt like a 1950s abusive husband when my computer was working slowly

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i feel like an abusive parent coming up with my posts because why is it that when theyre sitting in my drafts collecting dust i have parental urges and those are the smartest ideas i couldve ever come up with but then when i pop them out and finally drag them out of my drafts theyre immediately disgraces

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Visit from Liz - 6 November 2017

Liz came to visit me last Thursday and as a result I did not get to the AAAP meeting. I stayed at home to clean the bathroom and to do some housework. I will send another text message to the AAAP and tell them I would be interested in going to another meeting at some time in the future. Liz now tells me that she wants to be called Elizabeth and I felt like saying - whatever! I hardly ever see her so the name change is not an issue for me! A few years ago (like 2010) I would visit her every Saturday night and watch television or SKY at her home-unit. This went on for a couple of years and then I began going to Adrienne’s house - because Henry her partner had gone to jail! For a couple of years, I practically lived at Adrienne’s house - partly to look after Matheus while Adrienne attended court for Henry and his gang of 15 men. After the court case had gone on for two months - Henry and his gang got sentenced 15 years jail-time for the production and supply of methamphetamine! Then two years ago (practically to the day and it was after Jonah’s memorial service at Wesley College on 18 November 2015 - Desiree’s birthday - my daughter) that Adrienne and I had a big blow-up! I came home with Desiree and Siua at 4.00pm and Adrienne kept saying that she was going to bring some takeaways - as she had texted me twice while I was at home - waiting. However, I was still waiting for takeaways at 9.00pm - when she finally turned up - minus the takeaways! I was absolutely starving. I was then expected to jump into her car - drive to Manurewa to collect Matheus (she talks to Henry’s family for at least 30 minutes on these occasions - sometimes longer while I wait in the car) and the drive from Pukekohe to Otahuhu takes 45 minutes! Then she had to drop off her girlfriend in Pakuranga. So by the time, I would have got dinner that night - would have probably been mid-night and I was already starving at 9.00pm! So I then informed her I wasn’t going anywhere with her that night - I had promised to look after Matheus the next day. Adrienne and her girlfriend then marched off to her car and drove off! I set about cooking some dinner for myself! I was just getting sick and tired of being treated like Adrienne’s personal maid! Her behaviour towards me was getting really disrespectful, antagonistic, demanding, unfair, aggressive and the worst aspect of this behaviour towards me - she kept telling me that I had dementia! If I had dementia - I wouldn’t be able to look after myself and I don’t have any problem in that department!  A couple of weeks later Desiree told me that Adrienne was really angry and furious - as if her opinion of the above incident was way more important than my opinion of this incident! I just said - I couldn’t care less - she needs to look at her deplorable behaviour towards me! I have set my boundaries in place! As a consequence of this - I have only looked after Matheus once in the last two years! 

Anyway getting back to Liz’s visit to me. She looked really old and haggard (from a lifetime of chain-smoking). I noticed that Winston Peters (the leader of the NZ First Party) has become very wrinkly in the last few years - apparently, he is a lifetime smoker as well! She kept asking me if I had Wi-Fi - I kept saying yes! We watched Henry’s funeral on youtube on my computer. Liz was shocked to see lots of bikie gangs at the funeral service such as the Rebels, King Cobra, Blood Bank and so forth. After the service - you could hear the roar of the motor-bikes and smell the smoke and petrol - it was very impressive for Henry to get such a big send off! She asked about the music that was played in the background - I said I wouldn’t have a clue what the music is - who is singing blah, blah, blah! She then said she had to have a smoke outside and I said don’t worry about it - smoke inside my house! One cigarette in my house is not going to give me cancer or discolour my ceiling and walls! She then told me that she is not allowed to take her grandchildren anywhere in her car - because her car smells of smoke! So she then tried to give up and got down to two cigarettes a day! You never know - she may be able to give it up! My aunt Loie was a chain smoker for most of her life.  Then she got pneumonia and ended up in the hospital and the Specialist told her - she had to give up smoking and she did - which absolutely amazed me! However, aunt Loie died two years later of lung cancer! She died in in 2007 at 70 years of age. Liz has now got three grandchildren - Michael, Claudia and Violet.  Her two daughters and one son have one child each. She kept asking about Desiree and the number of children that she has and I had to keep repeating that she has two daughters and works full-time. Her daughters have one child each and they work part-time as teachers. Desiree teaches at Paerata. Shelley teaches at Glenbrook in a job share position and she and her husband have bought a house in Waiuku. Laura teaches part-time at Managatawhiri. I don’t know where her son lives - he married a girl from a very wealthy family in Patamahoe - they had a huge onion growing business! I can’t find their name on the internet. Liz then told me that she now drinks red wine - because I use to buy red wine all the time and drink it at her house.  Why I use to go to Liz’s house was because I had the car at that time and she didn’t have one. Now she has a car and I don’t! But she did tell me that she struggles to pay the mortgage, car payments and is only allowed to work 10 hours a week as a Caregiver (because she is on a benefit) - going to people’s homes and doing housework! Before that she was doing 20 hours a week and then all the Caregivers in New Zealand got a big increase in their wages. She then asked me “wasn’t I aware of the pay increase” and I said yes I was - but did not know how it affected people like her! I FELT LIKE SAYING TO HER - UNLIKE YOU LIZ I WATCH THE NEWS TWICE A DAY and have done so for many many years! I remember her telling me on one occasion that she rarely watched the news as it was boring! She also said that she never ever watched television during the daytime - trying to sound sanctimonious and self-righteous! I do if I am at home - I watch the News at 12 noon, then Dr Phil.  I have learned so much from watching Dr Phil - like basically what is acceptable behaviour for any occasions, setting boundaries, child abuse, drug and alcohol abuse and so forth.  I know now that without a doubt that my mothers belting of us kids (my two sisters and I) with a bamboo stick, (tree branch when she could not find the bamboo stick) was tantamount to child abuse! In those days - nothing was ever done about it! I remember going to school with welts on my legs and arms from the many thrashings. She got away with it because it was the 1950s, our neighbours lived a long away away and my father was very rarely ever in the home. Before my parents separated, my father would spend weeks and weeks away from the house - my mother did not know where he was - he was a law unto himself! No one told him what to do! I ended up living with Jim who was a replica of my father! In the five years that we lived in Twizel - Jim would come home every night from work at 5.30pm. Have dinner, get in the bath and then he was out the door again at 6.00pm! He usually got home at 10.00 or 11.00pm. On Saturday nights - he would usually come home at 4.00 to 5.00am - Sunday mornings. He did this every night for the five years that we lived in Twizel except for Sundays - pubs were closed on Sundays! On Sundays, Jim would watch sport all afternoon on television - every Sunday! He did absolutely nothing in the house or outside the house during those five years! Siua (Desiree’s husband) cooks dinner every night and washes the dishes. I told Desiree that she needs to help Siua every night with dinner and she said - she collects their daughters from pre-school in Pukekohe and cleans the bathroom every weekend! What can I say - it is none of my business! 

Anway getting back to Liz - her dog wandered around my house and insisted on checking out my garage. Liz wanted the dog to go into my backyard and I said no - because I have just planted a large vegetable garden consisting of about 30 tomato plants. I am also growing silverbeet, purple cauliflower, broccoli, basil, and chilies. Her dog also chewed a couple of my stuffed soft animals. Finally, her dog settled on the top of my couch - not the seat - the top of the couch! I wasn’t concerned about the couch as it is old (15 years old) and I have many stuffed animals! However, at the end of the day, I was pleased to see Liz as I hadn’t seen her since I had Isabella (my dog) put down about two years ago. I was very keen to hear about her job and her family! I was shocked when she said she was asked to leave the Pukekohe Hospital where she worked for two and half years! She said she was pleased to leave - as she started having panic attacks a couple of months before leaving! She said she loves her new Employer - a Maori name - which I cannot remember! She also had her car written off in an accident - when someone drove into the back of her car! She bought the car off Adrienne three years ago.  I told Adrienne on Faceback. I think Adrienne was very shocked as she said it the car (a Nissan March) was very sound - mechanically according to Henry! Henry use to know everything about cars and had bought several during his short lifetime - cars for various members in his family! He bought a car for Adrienne, his ex-girlfriend Tina and their three daughters, his stepfather and one for one of his brothers.  Matheus is the same (his son) - as he loves cars and loves pulling things apart and then putting them back together again. I told this to my aunt Val and she said this was a Strickland trait. Her daughter’s (Alison) son Stephen Campbell also loved cars and worked at a panel-beaters before his death. He was killed a couple a months before Desiree and Siua’s wedding in 2010.  I think he was about 24 years old and he was Alison’s only child! An extremely sad situation! My aunt Cis’s (mother’s sister) husband died the day after Desiree and Siua’s wedding. Cis then died in 2014 - it was near to Christmastime. I wasn’t impressed when I met Helen again (40 years later and Cis’s daughter) at her funeral, she was very arrogant - she mentioned the suit that I made at her mother’s house in 1968 which took a week to make - a jacket and skirt. I made it for a wedding. I told Helen I have kept this suit and it will only be thrown out - after my funeral! That should have given Helen something to think about! However, I always regretted not keeping in touch with this family! I never kept in touch because of Jim's behaviour and antics - I was basically ashamed of the situation I found myself in!  Anyway, must go and watch Married at First Sight! I hope that Vickie will get her comeuppance - she is a bitch! Her husband is a moron - maybe that is why she is a bitch!