#i miss my innocence

[st4rrstunned]

damn it!! im listening to mitski again!!!!! im crying again!!!!!!!!! everything is falling apart again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[parlerenfleurs]

It is sometimes almost unbearable to watch old media and see how the women are written. Some characters (and then, only some of the time usually) are pleasantly almost better written than one would hope for, but sometimes. Oh my god. Sometimes. The hero tries to help a group of refugees off of his spaceship and gets them to their destination on a pretty much empty planet, and then the young, pretty woman (who has three kids, mind you) among them immediately decides to go and sabotage the hero's ship to force him to stay with her, something that would warrant at least some anger, but certainly also a punch if she were a man, but since she's ~a girl~ no. She just gets to act this way with no social consequence. She says she doesn't love her companion (who asked you to???) and doesn't want the hero to leave her here alone (not his problem?????). She gets lectured by her companion (not a lover or family, just a guy she was escaping with but who somehow acts like he's in charge of her, and so does she) like an unruly child, as he tells her that the hero saved them and then she goes and does something like this to him (which, yeah!! Precisely! You'd think an adult woman wouldn't recklessly do this and expect the hero would then trust and love her and yet!! Apparently this is not a deal-breaker in and of itself since she actually ends up with this guy companion!). Then her kids comfort her (what the fuck??).

Anyway, I've seen the worst Battlestar Galactica series (the old one) episode yet, and this damn character was only one of my grievances with it, but uurggh I can't stand how they write women sometimes, I really can't.

For instance I hate how a weird guy who is obviously sus as hell enters the plot, and of course a woman will immediately be seduced/influenced by him even if he's twice her age and not appealing at all.

[iinsomaniac]

love how the moment ao3 goes down we all start acting like housewives waiting for their husbands to come back from war

[perfectionistchaos]

Woke up at 3 am

I was crying, tears on my face

Its a relief i still have emotions.

[blue-velvet-valentina]

Imagine falling asleep next to someone and not being afraid that you might be assaulted in your sleep. I would really enjoy that.

[jupiters-shortest-martian]

https://uquiz.com/quiz/DWh3dL/fanfic-purity-test

so i got 95%.....

[yaun21]

WOW Malevolent is stressing me out

[non-un-topo]

POV: You're a tavern owner who just turned away a raccoon and an owl

[flygutz]

& i learned after i went through all of this that my grandfather cheated on my grandmother for years when they were young. my uncle left my aunt for another women & they had been seeing each other for years secretly. my other uncle talks CONSTANTLY about how he hates married life. my OTHER uncle has emphasized how hard it is to be loyal to his wife but “i do it. i’m loyal”; like, do you want a gold fucking star???

and so, so many women i know have been through divorce because of infidelity. or have at least one story of being cheated on.

i can’t take it, man. i loved someone with everything i had & more, and all i fucking learned was to never do that again. and i see it in everyday life how little men actually love & respect their partners.

i don’t think there’s any going back or regaining my trust in men…..

being cheated on in so many big & small ways has really fucked me up beyond repair. i can’t even fantasize about being in a healthy relationship bc it feels so unrealistic that someone would ever be loyal to me. that i would ever be enough for someone i love

[wasyago]

they have so many belts....

[arcticclimes]

Bonus:

[mangoisgay]

Anyone else notice how Eddie’s place is the only one not decorated? Just food for thought

[nell0-0]

It's been some time since I drew anything for this AU, I missed it ^^

Closer look below the cut!

[atopvisenyashill]

that’s how i feel about theon re: the point is that they’re a better character bc they’re so morally reprehensible. i think there’s a lot more complexity in the fact that theon in the books is unsettled by the raping happening when he’s reaving along the northern coast, rapes kyra, a woman who had been a previous willing lover who he seemed at least mildly fond of, when he is feeling low, and then experiences sexual abuse himself from ramsay, which seems to trigger some buried trauma over euron raping him (or perhaps observing euron raping someone else) as a child. it’s this long thread, this full picture, of why and how theon has come to have these views of sex & violence. is he significantly grosser about women in the books? yes, he is reprehensible and disgusting, in a very much sex criminal sort of way. but that’s the point - he doesn’t deserve what ramsay does to him (what euron might have done to him) because no one “deserves” this sort of abuse, the universe is not dead set on punishing bad guys for bad things, this just happens, people just experience horror in a way that is structurally pointed and also quite random. it just happened to be pointed at theon this time. he was awful and he did awful things and that doesn’t mean getting reek’d is something he deserved.

[lgbtlunaverse]

While rereading mdzs I am once again shocked by how talked about the "you were the only mistake he ever made" line from Lan Xichen to Wei Wuxian is and how heated it gets some people because honestly... I don't think he actually even believes that.

Stay with me. Look at the actual line. (I Included 2 translations for comparison's sake)

Firstly, yes he is mad at Wei Wuxian in this scene. But his biggest moment of anger was actually before this. By this point he's realized that Wei Wuxian forgot what happened after nightless city (and therefore ISN'T stringing along his baby brother on purpose) so he has in fact calmed down a bit.

Secondly, notice that he starts by talking about how his uncle felt. This is not Lan Xichen making a value statement about what he thinks. When he says Lan Wangji was proper and righteous he is talking about him being a model lan, he's talking about their family and clan's perspective of Wangji. Indeed, in their eyes, Wei Wuxian is the only time Lan Wangji was ever not the textbook perfect Lan.

Thirdly, what is Lan Xichen trying to say here? What is he mad at Wei Wuxian for? It's that he doesn't know Lan Wangji is in love with him. His anger is eased by realizing Wei Wuxian doesn't remember the very blatant confessions lwj made in the cave after nightless city, or Lan Wangji fighting his own clan elders for Wei Wuxian, and so had no way of knowing the whipmarks on Lan Wangji's back were related to him. But he is still mad, he still thinks Wei Wuxian should have been able to figure it out. So what does he highlight?

The fact that the only thing Lan Wangji, perfect model-Lan righteous Lan Wangji, ever defies his clan for is Wei Wuxian.

And Wei Wuxian has seen him do this! Even if he doesn't remember this one instance. Because Lan Wangji has been doing that the whole story through. Wei Wuxian has watched Lan Wangji blatantly stand against the entire cultivation world for him, and here Lan Xichen is highlighting just how unusual that is, how much Wei Wuxian must mean to Lan Wangji that he's willing to do that. The important part of the sentence here is not "mistake" it's "only."

Lan Xichen here isn't trying to say that he disapproves of Wei Wuxian, or telling him to stay away from his brother. Remember, the thing that made him mad in the first place was Wei Wuxian saying that he and Lan Wangji slept in seperate rooms. He thought they were together! He's mad because they're not!

At no point does Lan Xichen say he individually considers Lan Wangji's feelings for Wei Wuxian a mistake. If he ever did, it's clear he accepted them regardless long ago. Mistake or not, what he wants is for his little brother to be happy.

[akai-anna]

@livmadart voice: he's like a bug

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