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It's been a couple of weeks since I watched The Perfect Game, but I'm still reeling from the fact that one of the best Catholic priest portrayals I've ever seen onscreen was played by Cheech Marin.
Can't wrap my head around it. Actual Cheech (of 'and Chong' fame) playing a kindly, lovable, devout Catholic priest who serves as mentor and friend and role model to this team of baseball-playing boys who take their faith seriously. He blesses the boys before every game. Teaches them doctrine while still encouraging their love of baseball. The faith is just part of their very human lives. I didn't think we could see it on-screen and especially never would have expected that casting.
#my 'i wish we saw good christian portrayals in media' post has been going around again#so i feel it's only right to mention that i found a good one#i think it may be a christian movie company so maybe it doesn't count#but the fact that i'm questioning it means that the movie doesn't feel like a hokey christian film which deserves points#as a film it's a very rough start and i don't understand why the mc has a southern accent#there's a subplot about the mc's lack of faith that never really goes anywhere#but once it finds its feet it's a pretty fun film#i legitimately got invested#laughed at several jokes#it was a random pick and i fully expected to abandon it as garbage within half an hour but i'm glad i didn't#the scene where the boys refuse to play without their blessing healed years of scars from bad movie religion portrayals#it's not great cinema but it was a fun time and i'd watch it again#catholic things
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ARE YOU OKAY DUDE
Iām all good, no worries! Iāve just gotten into other interests, and made like 3 different side blogs lol so Iām still very active and very much here and okay! Thanks so much for the concern, itās very sweet!
Like I said, Iāve just been into other things, but chances are Iāll circle back to s&m at some point, so thank you for sticking around! š
#i think Iāve gone through likeā¦ 5 different shows that Iāve been into since Iāve last posted on this blog#but s&m is likeā¦ a comfort interest so itās very likely Iāll get re-invested in it again#but thought Iād at least check in since I got like 3 messages sounding legitimately worried for me#Iām all good! thanks again šš#and Iām still checking the notifs and reading all the sweet tags you guys leave~
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Our little dance soon became a losing battle. ---
I heard this audio on tiktok and had to make something inspired off of it
#myart#rainworld#rainworld iterator#iterator oc#iterator#ummm something about how this was before he got betrayed and brainwashed#he was legitimately invested in the ancient's religion (even if part of it was just because the aesthetics)#I really wanted to put more karma flower imagery because he works with plants but it didnt look great so I settled with the running#spotlight theme I had going on#I dont really imagine him having a huge role in his colony's religion but more of just a guy to talk to and vent to about it#if travel puppets were a thing at the time he would've walked among his citizens#also imagining he would've been painted or depicted with karma flowers at the time#he doesnt have the majority of his decor anymore due to the fact that it unnerves Eight and he wants to respect that
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While my parents keeping fox news on the TV 24/7 does cause me immense pychic damage, I do get to hear unhinged and very very stupid grifts sometimes which is fun (also depressing tho watching them manipulate the ill-informed and desperate)
#today i got BS attempting to implant the idea of bitcoin as a legitimate investment to get out of debt#i think my favorite line was calling Bitcoin āfreedom money.ā US right-wingers are like moths and the word freedom is their flame#(sorry to moths for associating right-wingers with you. you provide a great service to world o7)#fuck i hate fox news
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Man as a kid, I took modding for granted. Now I feel like I gotta step up and continue the passion.
I remember using the trainer for GTAIV, at the time, it was The Trainer since there seldom if any were alternatives. It has literally, every conceivable option you'd want, literally think of it, it has it.
Then GTAV came out and...wow. None of these trainers are remotely feature complete. It occurred to me then that, such expected things and standards, aren't guarantees in modding. That someone took their free time to make something for free with no payment, it's incredible.
Then I see that same mentality applied to Paid Products and I'm out of patience to explain the free market a 50th time and how we're the sole and only regulators, the literal half of the free market, yet we just give companies all the power regardless.
Anyways next time you're mad about some mod that's non-inherently bad, just remember, some people pay for that quality or worse, expect it. The modder wasn't trying to garner anything but adding onto people's experiences. The dev much the same, but the publisher, the CEO, considerthat they've effectively ensured you never own a single piece of media without piracy, ever again. We Lost That War because we Believed The Rich Would Be Decent. For 2 decades.
There's a reason Not to have the same mentality with modders, with purchased products. You're no longer 2 buddies playin' games and making stuff for it. You're a consumer enabling, normalizing, and supporting an industry/company who's entire goal and state of being is to lower our standards so much they can get away with worse later.
It's rich people. Not people like you and me. The employee is closer to you than the CEO, understand that, and learn to respect yourself enough not to allow them to swindle you, it is, quite literally, their main skillset and they never shut it off, you're larping to pretend anything otherwise and are doing so thinking you're protecting either friend or ego, but the fact is, you gave them that, and are scared what they'll do with it. Stop giving them trust and power over you, you're literally able to bankrupt them by not buying from them. We've seen it, time, and time, and time, and time again, when the community strikes back, We Win.
We just don't because too many people are unwilling to raise their standards, and instead, take time to defend the undefendable. Sorry but there's no way to defend a company with a streak of SA issues. Maybe consider where your money is going and how that's impacting everyone's jobs and purchases. Comes down to self-respect and demanding better.
Whilst your entire generation became Noticeably Very Poorer, the rich have amassed an absolutely unfeasible level of insane wealth, taking half our dwindling money during Covid. Why the fuck is the only thing improving the graphics? Why are we Crawling our way towards 5% of the 6th generation's standards? Why are we celebrating that? Games went down in price since cartridges, but did not change what so ever for online distribution. We are literally, paying, for the Manufacturing of Physical Copies, for Digital Copies, we Don't Even Own, that's how bad it's gotten, they literally got a free 10-20$ by moving to online.
So again, please, Please, understand I am closer to you politically than you are to any CEO or corporate logo. You are closer to your dog than you will ever be to 100k. You do not, and will never, be in this industry as the CEO's friend or company mascot, you are not that. You are a consumer, start acting like the other half of the free market and not a Pay Piggy Useful Idiot.
They even raised the prices. Good. God. We Are Losing.
#Gaming#games#gaming industry#pay piggy useful idiots#pleas make that spread it's absolutely perfect#your average ālibrary spreaderā yes that's real#Doesn't want to be that#doesn't want to be called that#but will only recognize that's them when explained that such mentality makes them lose respect in the eyes of god#At some point I just gotta ask people. The fuck happened.#ābudgetsā no we've been through this a million times. They set the budgets. But primarily that's not the issue. See half the budget is alwa#Marketing. And. Well Graphics are Marketing. They are! Artistry is not and it's what people combine with graphics in an effort to make#any argument for continually making products meant for 10 years from now when everyone's on better hardware. But otherwise most players#won't get to experience. Is there a remote reason why I need 2k in hardware to play a game at a reasonable framerate and visual quality?#Why are graphics settings solely to make the game look worse and run better instead of the game just running right#I have a fucking 3090 and 12700kf both OC you're really gonna tell me that's not enough for fucking Silent Hill 2 Remake? Really?#Tell me why such an important piece of gaming history can only run on expensive hardware#Minecraft can run on anything. Just saying#like gaming isn't meant to be this unoptimized and graphical heavy#then the gameplay is always so poor in these games. The direction for the player is yellow paint like guys. These products got worse#solely to the detriment of themselves and only to benefit the graphics. Because my god#My god why do we need raytracing?????#Who's this for? Oh yeah like 5% of the human population that can afford the hardware to enjoy it. Let alone the GPU to support it#Anyways the primary point is this. Games used to be Complete and came out when Done and Confident in their product.#āNu uh here's a bargain bin gam-ā Okay? We're talking triple a and have been for decades what the hell- Oh yeah okay how about indie games#back then huh? Oh no indie games? Wow! What a fruitful talking point you have made and I responded in kind with the exact same#Regardless games have gone down in features and quality while graphics spiked and not one soul has a single argument for it#not a one argument exists for why the hell GAMING needs such ridiculous investment#it's no wonder Mobile took over. Triple A basically gave Nothing for the average consumer#Graphics don't matter and legitimately never have. Your game should run on just about anything unless there's a legitimate purpose.
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rare footage of me sitting in my bossā office giving her all the campaign tea and ranting about david zaz (derogatory)
#OFMD#RenewOFMD#SaveOFMD#Renew as a crew#Itās making me so š„ŗ that sheās legitimately interested to know whatās going on#Iād say sheās INVESTED at this point actually#Like Iāve got projects to do but she was still like āļøš#And sheās also very curious to know why the HELL they could cancel it#She doesnāt think it makes any sense either#Which is very good to hear from an outside perspective#She also believes we have a fighting chance because weāre making so much noise#And Iām like MAN I HOPE SO ššš#SURE DO HOPE SO
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Magenta š¤¬
#my state is complaining about not having enough customers for psilocybin treatments#well as someone that heavily advocated for it to be legalized because of research and science lemme tell you why:#you gatekept your whole client base via outpricing them because you don't want to serve people with medium to low incomes#you only want rich people as your clients when the majority of people who could legitimately benefit from this treatment#are one paycheck away from homelessness or have to choose between an 800-1200 dose or buying groceries for the next month for their families#now look I get it you gotta get your cake and eat it too#but that's no excuse for isolating a large client base just because you're offended that poor people with mental health issues exist#if you want to keep this shit rolling and not have the state overturn anything#make it more accessible to people that truly need it and I'm telling you word of mouth travels fast#you'll get more clients more advocacy and more investment into research#by giving people an opportunity#and making them feel included in the process#thats what yall did when you started the petitions to get lawmakers to take the benefits seriously#so what changed?#what turned you into greedy cunts?#oh yeah money and again you're offended poor people exist#y'all know too folks will just go to a dealer they know and get it for cheaper right?#i mean whats the point in paying 3 to 5k for a special āretreatā where you pay an additional 1k to 2k for 3 doses#when johnny boy down the street can hook you up with 10 doses for 100 bucks and a bag of chips?#and btw guys wtf happened to all that money that was supposed to go to creating state of the art mental health clinics and facilities#when measure 110 got passed that decriminalized drugs?#no one has an answer???#hmmm#it's no wonder we are near dead last in mental health in this country#its like i said in the meeting: you guys love to profit off the suffering of others#magenta#magenta is my vent word
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it would be really cool if I could have a day this month where I wasnāt so chronically afraid it felt like my intestines were twisted into a mƶbius strip. Because yaāknow- I really like my digestive tract being an orientable manifold. If thatās all the same to the universe.
#itās the grad school applications I think. Itās really really getting to me#I just. I dunno. Itās hard to eat. Sleep. Talk to people. I try my best but yeah. This is most of what I think about all the time.#Is it normal to feel this bad because of them? Like is this typical levels of graduate school application stress?#The stakes feel so high even though I know theyāre not. If I donāt get in I just apply for a job and then reapply to grad school later#But I think it goes deeper than that. The idea of grad school applications has got me really closely examining myself andā¦#I genuinely worry Iām just- a kinda mediocre mathematician at best#Iāve been starting to feel really insecure about how slow my processing speed is. Would anyone want to invest in someone like me??#Who does legitimately have disabilities that make efficiently solving problems harder for me than most?#My dad once told me Iām not capable of thinking like a mathematician. Because Iām so slow. He encouraged me not to major in it.#Iām really happy I disregarded him. I canāt imagine doing anything else. I love math and I love research. But I wonder if he was right#I guess it doesnāt matter. I donāt care. Iām going to do math whether Iām cut out for it or not. And if that has to be recreational#Because no graduate school wants me. Then so be it.#But I do really want to go to graduate school. I really love the grad level classes Iāve done.#I really hope I make it#vent#graduate school jeremiad#research jeremiad
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Out of nowhere, I had a dream last night that āThe Amazing World of Gumballā movie actually came out. For some reason, Nicole and Richard were in live-action whilst Gumball and Darwin were their regular cartoon selves. And not only were they their regular cartoon selves, but they were also incredibly tiny. So small. I wanted to put them in my pocket. Anyway, the plot centered around Nicole and Richard trying to keep the fact that their children were cartoons hidden because if it was discovered that their children were different, theyād get taken away by CPS or something?? There was even a montage of them being a cute family together but Nicole and Richard are just super stressed about having to keep this big a secret from the entire town. And then right before I woke up, CPS actually came and I remember actually feeling really upset and afraid for them. Also, for some reason, Anais just wasnāt there?Ā She didn't exist in this dream universe scenario I guess.
#the amazing world of gumball#dreams#this was so strange and sudden#but the montage was actually super wholesome#i got legitimately invested in their struggle#this would actually be a good plot for something else but i don't know what
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I need you to know that I think it's sooo funny that ur fave character is Mike but the first fnaf fic you posted (to my knowledge) has Evan as the main character with ghost(/time travel) Mike as the background, and MY fave character is Evan but my first fnaf fic I posted had Mike as the main character with ghost maybe-but-maybe-not Evan as the background
Equal but opposite energy
Does this make us... narrative foils?
It's kind of funny, when I first started brainstorming for my fic, it was gonna be a more standard time-travel Mike fic. I forget exactly how I got from point A to point GHIJK but I do remember thinking something along the lines of 'what if Mike failed to stop the tragedy?' and 'what would Mike's siblings be like if they grew up?' That and I think I wanted to do something a bit different since the time-travel trope isn't uncommon in this fandom, and I was worried about my fic being compared to other similar ones.
#ask#lonelyfreddles#to be honest I do kind of the same 'latch onto one character in particular' thing you say you do#and although I was interested in the story between Mike and CC when I learned about it#I don't think I really got invested in Evan as a character until I started writing Ever After#I really enjoyed coming up with his grown personality#I decided to make him a little bit goofy as an adult#because telling dumb jokes is his way of 'whistling in the dark'#he still scares easy but tries to rationalize his fears#but even when faced with legitimate supernatural threats he won't back down from his mission#Ever After#Witness to Time
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He sounded interested and even concerned. I thought he had been touched by what the doctor and advocates in the meeting had just shared about their journey with their patients and their own family members. But I was wrong.
āThose people . . . ā Donald said, trailing off. āThe shape theyāre in, all the expenses, maybe those kinds of people should just die.ā
I truly did not know what to say. He was talking about expenses. We were talking about human lives. For Donald, I think it really was about the expenses, even though we were there to talk about efficiencies, smarter investments, and human dignity.
I turned and walked away
[from later in the article]
Donald took a second as if he was thinking about the whole situation.
āI donāt know,ā he finally said, letting out a sigh. āHe doesnāt recognize you. Maybe you should just let him die and move down to Florida.ā
Wait! What did he just say? That my son doesnāt recognize me? That I should just let him die?
Did he really just say that? That I should let my son die . . . so I could move down to Florida?
Really?
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Maybe I shouldnāt have been surprised to hear Donald say that. It wasnāt far off from what heād said that day in the Oval Office after our meeting with the advocates. Only that time, it was other peopleās children who should die. This time, it was my son.
When youāre legitimately so evil you tell a parent, your own fucking nephew, to their face that itād be more cost-effective to let their child die because they are disabled.
Honestly, it's not the ableism or eugenics that shocks me. Donald Trump has shown who he is time and time again. I guess what got me was that heād be willing to hold the same views for family members.
Usually these types of people make exceptions for their own. āItās not immoral if itās my abortion, Iām only doing this because I have no choice, mine is necessaryā kind of thing.
But nope. Donald just straight up thinks his great nephew should die because itās expensive to keep him alive.
Jesus Wept.
Fucking vote. Please, Iām begging you. As a disabled immigrant who isnāt able to vote I see so many people saying theyāre going to boycott the election by not voting and I want to scream.
You boycott products by withholding money.
Not voting in elections only disenfranchises yourself. Youāre not protesting. Youāre giving tyrants power.
Please vote like peopleās lives depend on it because they do.
If you need help figuring out how to register I will help you but please. Please vote.
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damn that's embarrassing as fuck
#eek!!!! i really do think this show is great like it has its pointless and tedious and tasteless parts but the core is very strong#and if someone asked me why something so silly has got me in a serious chokehold i'd have to be likeā do you want a list or..#(my own sister doesn't quite understand so that's funny. i don't even know how she copes like legitimately if she's so normal what does she#Do to distract from the everyday shitshow. basically why is she not me !!!)#(i mean she's never as invested or invested in the same way as me so i'm struggling to conceptualize how she works. you know)#trailing off. what the fuck was i talking about#oh yeah this is embarrassing this sucks i hate this i wish to be less self-aware
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The targaryen ruled 130 years without dragons. And the most capable kings were all targaryen. After them it was a decline for the throne. Robert, joffrey, tommen, cercei were all sith ruler .
I see targ stans are investing in high quality air to fill their heads lol
But anyways. āThe most capable kings were all targaryensā. You know who else were targaryens? The worst rulers of Westeros. Robert, Cersei, Joffrey, and Tommen arenāt even close to the worst kings and queen to rule. And bringing them up as evidence to show that the targaryens are good is so disingenuous.
Maegor the Cruel, Aegon the Unworthy, The Mad King Aerys, Rhaenyra (yes, I know thatās controversial), and Daenerys (yes, I know thatās even more controversial) are all far FAR worse than anyone you mentioned.
Maegor killed his wife and her entire family. He was a usurper (apparently itās good when the targs you like do it lol), a kinslayer (also a thing only good when itās targs you like doing it), raped and tortured many people, wiped out entire houses, killed any and everyone that he saw in any way as deserving, and created a huge war with the faith of the seven.
Aegon the unworthy was corrupt and lazy and legitimized his bastards leading to the blackfyre rebellions that led to endless bloodshed for 5 generations.
Aerys was so bad he had a rebellion staged against him that ended his family dynasty. He burned fathers and sons together. He tortured people and burned them alive. He abused and raped his wife when he would burn people alive. He wanted to kill the entire city of kings landing.
Rhaenyra (who like it or not went down in history as one of the worst rulers) known as maegor with teats taxed her people to starvation. She had daily executions. She had knights inquisitors hunt down and punish people.
Daenerys burnt down kings landing, was complicit in the rape and enslavement of hundreds, ruined city economies so badly slavery was a better option, then profited from said slavery, abandoned the people she conquered (no doubt ensuring they will be enslaved much more harshly after supporting her), raped a āfreeā slave that she admits still acted like a slave because thatās all she knew, oh yeah and again, SHE BURNT DOWN KINGS LANDING. And this is after the people you listed.
And this isnāt including non Targaryen rulers that ruined lives like the blackfyres. Or rulers that are bad but weirdly beloved like Aegon I who basically conquered people by threatening to kill them and everyone they loved, subjugating a country for hundreds of years.
The best rulers I admit were Targaryens. But thatās because they were the only rulers save for 4 people. Of those four, two were bad and two were incompetent. Not nearly the sadistic āmadā people I described above. And funnily enough, as soon as a Targaryen came back to powerā¦things got worse again. Funny how that is.
Oh and by the way. Going with the histories of Westeros. Guess who is among the best rulers according to small folk Aegon II and Alicent. Seethe :)
#game of thrones#house of the dragon#team green#anti targaryen#anti targ stans#anti team black#anti rhaenyra#anti rhaenyra targaryen#anti Aegon IV#anti Aegon IV Targaryen#anti Aerys II Targaryen#Anti Aerys II#anti daenerys targaryen#anti daenerys#anti maegor I#anti maegor I Targaryen#alicent hightower#anti aegon ii targaryen#anti Aegon I Targaryen#anti Aegon i
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Twitch Streamer Tommy, because apparently I still have thoughts on him being one of those dudes who's into Flight Simulator.
Buck mostly starts out watching the streams because Christopher watches streams. Buck and Eddie have had discussions with Chris about how much info he should be sharing with strangers on the internet, it was a whole thing. Chris can watch them without being monitored, neither of them are helicopter parents, but Buck does in general keep tabs on them. Because he's constantly reading shit about someone w/ fame on the internet taking advantage of it.
There's a variety to the ones that Chris watches, but all of of them are for games that he already plays. Except one. Some guy called REMOVEB4FLIGHT and it's straight up just Flight Simulator content. There's not a ton of consistency to when the guy streams, it's all over the place schedule wise. Maybe once or twice a month, and he's clearly not a Professional Streamerā¢ so much as a guy with a hobby. His set up is crazy though.
And sometimes Christopher watches them when Buck is in eyesight, and yeah. Buck won't lie. He's interested. He became legitimately invested when REMOVEB4FLIGHT sat down and simulated a flight from JFK International Airport to Singapore Changi Airport, and it was just under 19 hours.
Buck didn't watch the entire thing, don't be stupid. But he did watch the last 4 hours which... Shut up. It should have been boring, but there was enough going on between the chat and REMOVEB4FLIGHT that it wasn't.
And it was also cute. The guy was cute. He was already obviously tired by the time Buck and Christopher started watching, and as he got more tired he got gigglier and gigglier. Explaining that "No. No pilots will ever fly 19 hours straight, I'm just doing it because I thought it'd be a fun challenge and oh nooooo do I regret it. My only goal is to be coherent enough to not crash land this A350."
The plane does not crash land and at the end, REMOVEB4FLIGHT runs his hands through his curly hair, laughs in exhaustion, and says "Great, I'm gonna go sleep for 12 hours because I've got a shift in 14. BYE."
And Buck keeps watching after that, when he can. There's something calming about it, in a weird way. It's both is and isn't ASMR. Any ASMR is absolutely on accident, but the guy has a really nice set up, a really nice mic. And a really nice voice. And a really nice face. He explains in detail what he's doing and why, like he's giving a casual lesson on How To Fly.
Buck learns that the his name is Tommy, and he is actually a pilot but he flies helicopters and that's "-the only other information you need about my day job."
Not all of Tommy's streams are 19 hours, though they're still long. A lot of them are him being like "What's the weirdest place I can land this thing?" or messing around in multiplayer. Maybe something where he tries to recreate relatively famous crash landings, like one day he goes "We're Gimli Gliding it today" and he does crash pretty badly the first time, but he gets it on the second.
It becomes a thing Buck and Christopher talk about, because they both keep up with it. Chris starts pestering Eddie to get him a joystick and pedals to play Flight Simulator, but those aren't exactly cheap so Eddie promises it for xmas. Buck is already stewing over how to potentially adjust settings and shit to make sure that the inclusion of foot pedals isn't an issue for Chris, etc etc.
Sometimes when Buck is part of the Chat Conglomerate Tommy comments on something he's said. It makes him giddy. It's difficult to describe. He just likes this guy. This guy's cool. Buck's getting attention from someone on the internet, sue him. He likes it.
And then the drama with the cruise ship. Buck doesn't think anything of it when Chimney reaches out to an old friend named Tommy, because why would he? It's a common enough name. But then Buck walks into Harbor Station and comes face to face with REMOVEB4FLIGHT and oh. Oh shit.
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One time i looked up some threads where straight men talked about their experience on bumble bc I was curious due to the messaging system they have in place and to my surprise it was absolute doomer shit including guys saying the lack of attention they got made them legitimately suicidal. I donāt even mean incel type shit blaming women like legitimately claiming that it made them feel fundamentally undesirable, whatās amazing to me when people take stuff on apps super personally is like youāre essentially making an advertisement for yourself and hoping itās interesting enough someone invests in attempting to know you. Itās literally the most manufactured social experience possible so OF COURSE only extremely conventionally attractive people & people who are able to convey an unbelievable amount of charisma will get any notable attention because why would someone put the effort in otherwise. I bet you anything a ton of average looking guys who lament about the state of dating would do fine finding people who are interested in them in a normal social situation but instead theyāre taking women who are essentially trying to find a needle in a haystack on dating apps as some sort of indicator of actual dating being impossible for men
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Jenny Watson: "We can do it, so let's do it." Jenny outlines her plan for a female-only, lesbian space.
For my lesbian, bisexual women, and radfem Followers. Via Graham Linehan's Substack.
For many decades, London was considered the global capital for lesbian nightlife. But youād never know it if you visited the UK today. Itās not for a lack of British lesbian culture: Iām a lesbian, Iām involved in our countryās lesbian social scene, and I can assure you, itās alive and well. What we lack at the moment are our own dedicated spaces. I think the UK needs once more to have lesbian-run, female-only community spaces.Ā
Iāve got an idea about how to make one such space a reality. And I believe I'm in a position to make it happen.
Over the past seven years, I've had the privilege of organising a range of lesbian social events in London. Throughout this time, I've made many connections in our community, gained an increasing understanding of our needs, and created social spaces that I hope go some way to meeting them.Ā
And in those seven years working to coordinate part of the the UKās lesbian social scene, Iāve come to see how badly we need a dedicated, strictly female-only event space ā now more than ever.Ā
Men have been encroaching on the lesbian community, and the problem is only getting worse. Thereās been a sense of inevitability, that this is just something we have to learn to live with.
But Iāve had it.
In June, I skipped Londonās official Pride festivities and instead visited an alternative, independent event at the Hampstead Ponds. It was a female-only picnic. Hundreds of women of all ages were gathered, from their teens to their eighties. And the sublime joy that I felt that day led me to a eureka moment:
We need this. We deserve this. This is our right. As lesbians and bisexual women, we have a right to social spaces that are entirely our own.
So, earlier this year, I decided to implement a women-only policy at my events. Although this sparked controversy, we ultimately received recognition from the UKās largest pub operator that it is legitimate to hold women-only lesbian events - a real victory!
And then it suddenly dawned on me: we need more and not only do we need this, I can do this. I feel I have a good sense of the UK market for lesbian social events. So I crunched some numbers and developed a business proposal. I gauged interest and studied feasibility. And Iām excited to tell you: I believe this can work.
My plan involves establishing a private membersā club and securing a prime physical space in London. By day, this space will operate as a versatile hybrid workspace, becoming a venue hosting various social events in the evenings and weekends. Alongside these, we'll provide online events, and collaborate with service providers for health and wellness advice, fitness guidance, group trips, and more. Revenue will come from the events, partnerships, as well as from membership dues.
To the lesbian and bisexual women reading this: youāre welcome to get in touch with me if youād like to learn more. There's an opportunity to invest if youāre interested, too. Iāve got a pitch deck I would be happy to show you and a fully fleshed-out, 50-page business plan. And Iām happy to report that there are already investors who have given the thumbs up.Ā
Following my announcement and inspired by the community's heartwarming response, I decided to introduce an early-bird membership programme. This includes a personalised QR-coded membership card for exclusive updates and access to a membersā discussion space. Joining early also signifies your part in accelerating our community's launch.Ā
Which brings me to another issue, and itās a big part of the reason Iām writing this now: online critics. Thereās a small but vocal group of people online whoāve been saying some pretty nasty and completely unfounded things about me. This group of people have taken to personal insults, and accusations that Iām a fraudster and a grifter.
Iām not entirely surprised to encounter pushback, but at the same time, the level of vitriol has been eye-opening.
But I try to put it in a bigger context: Lesbians have faced so much abuse, and for so long weāve had to settle for having social spaces conditionally, on terms set by men. Thereās a climate of distrust and fear looming over the lesbian community as a result. So much so that today the idea of even having one single space fully dedicated to lesbian and bisexual women seems so radical, some peopleās initial reaction is that thereās got to be a catch.
I completely understand that a good dose of scrutiny, of tempering optimism with some degree of caution, is reasonable. Itās healthy. And itās entirely welcome.
But personal insults and unfounded accusations are not. I know that emotions are running high, and we as a community are feeling beleaguered right now. But thatās no excuse to target my Irishness in personal attacks, for example. Or to target my business supporters with lies about me.
I'm not here to push or persuade anyone who doesn't feel the spark for this project. However, for those who do, our project investors' safety and security are crucial ā capital funds are securely placed in escrow and I've teamed up with a business consultant who's right here supporting us until opening day. Weāve put together a solid business plan.
If anything, the tenor of some of the criticism Iāve faced only hardens my resolve: it just highlights how badly women need a space to unite us, to heal us in this difficult time.
Itās been upsetting to endure the smear campaign that a small online group has thrown at meā¦ but my mind keeps going back to that Edenic afternoon at the Hampstead Ponds, where hundreds of women were gathered in serenity and harmony.
This will heal us. This will unite us. And it will make us all stronger. Lesbian strength comes through unity.
There are various ways you can help, but the most crucial one is spreading the word - our message is the most important part of this project.Ā
Other than that, as I mentioned earlier, if you are a lesbian/bi woman, there is the option to join as an early-bird member (however, this is not compulsory; you can wait until our opening). Additionally, there's the opportunity for investment or donation. I've prepared a comprehensive 50-page business plan and pitch deck available for those who are interested.
For a deeper understanding of the project, feel free to visit our website or you can email me at [email protected]Ā
Any form of support you can offer is immensely appreciated as we work towards making this a reality. Ā
We can do this. So letās do it!
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