#i know i don't have to label everything about me but. it helps yk

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once again questioning whether or not i'm a flavor of acespec 😶

[miguelswifey04]

omg pretty please can we have a sugar daddy miguel x reader where it’s who keeps on denying on Miguel buying them stuff because they feel bad using his money (^｡^) and Miguel’s who’s really sweet and insist on buying em stuff and one day they go on a date in the mall and almost fight because miggy wants to buy them Chanel or Dior and reader feels guilty for using his money (*ﾟ▽ﾟ*) hehe can we have this please

LOVE this! i <3 this take where the sugar baby doesn`t want to be spoiled IG that much...even though that`s the point yk ☹️

miguel was one of a kind, and he was not just any ordinary sugar daddy to say the least. you on the other hand didn’t quite like when he’d spend money on you for unnecessary things. and you know that the whole point of having a sugar daddy is to get spoiled and get taken care of. you appreciated that miguel has given you the finicial liberty to be stabled and let him take care of the most IMPORTANT things that required miguel’s attention and money.

the only reason you had a sugar daddy was not necessarily because you were in dire need of money. you somewhat had money of your own but it was because you were lonely…you craved the companionship, the attention, the physical aspect of relationships, and love. you were a recluse and a “nobody” under the eyes of the world but to miguel you were his everything. miguel had always been generous, showering you with his affection and wanting nothing more than to just make you the happiest person in the universe. but there was one thing about him that made you feel conflicted - his desire to spoil you with expensive gifts and treat you like a princess. you didn't want to be labeled as his "sugar baby," nor did you want to take advantage of his wealth. so, you often found yourself refusing his offers, much to his dismay.

So on one sunny day, miguel took him upon himself to drive you around in his Porsche 911 Carrera Gt3. miguel had one hand on the steering wheel while his right hand was squeezing your thigh lovingly. his fingertips gently brushed against the curves of your thighs and gently squeezed the plush side of it. he side glanced at you and you noticed him smiling at him. “so, i was thinking of taking you out on a date to the mall,” he spoke with dignity and excitement because he was going to try to spoil you whether you liked it or not. his focus was on the road mainly but he stole a few glances admiring your beauty and your peaceful nature. you nodded slightly taking in his suggestion with caution, “mmkay! sure, i`d love that very much.” Miguel’s happily nodded and took you to a fancy mall.

the vibrant atmosphere buzzed around you as the two of you strolled hand in hand, window shopping and enjoying each other's company. however, tension began to brew when you passed by high-end stores like Chanel and Dior. you exactly knew why he had brought you there stopping abruptly which made miguel slightly stumble on his feet. you let out a sigh of guilt, “miguel, i appreciate the gesture, but i can’t let you spend so much on me,” your voice was full of guilt. “i don’t want you to feel like you have to buy me expensive things.”

miguel heard you and frowned, his expression was clouded with concern. “but, sweetheart, i want to spoil you. it’s not about obligation or impressing you—it’s about expressing my love and making you feel special. let me do this for you, for favor.” you felt your heart strings being pulled because you could tell miguel was being genuine and sincere. you sighed, torn between your desire to please him and your internal struggles. “i understand, but i can’t help but feel guilty. i don’t want our relationship to revolve around materialistic things. it is the love and connection that matters most to me.” you gently squeezed his hand and pulled him closer.

a soft smile tugged at the corners of miguel's lips as he gently cupped your cheeks, his eyes filled with sincerity. “you don't have to worry about that, cariño. trust me when i say that my love for you isn't tied to material things. but allowing me to spoil you from time to time doesn't diminish the value of our connection."

his words resonated deep within you, and you couldn't help but lean into his touch. despite your reservations, you understood that miguel's intentions were pure and driven by his immense affection for you.

“okay, miguel," you finally relented, your voice filled with a mix of gratitude and love. “i’ll give it a try, but let's remember that the most important thing is our love and the moments we share together."

a genuine smile spread across miguel's face, his eyes shining with happiness. “absolutely, mi amor. our love will always be the foundation. the rest is just a bonus."

you date, exploring the mall hand in hand, and this time, you let miguel spoil you with his affectionate gestures and small, meaningful gifts. because in the end, you realized that accepting his generosity didn't mean losing sight of the true nature of your relationship—it simply allowed you to revel in the love he had for you, in all its extravagant and tender forms.

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as someone who knows nothing about dc/batfam besides bare basics where do I even start with the comics? please send help its so confusing and sm to go through 😭🧎‍♀️

help has arrived!! my sincerest apologies for the delay, i started writing and somehow 2.5 days had passed.

full transparency, for a second i was like, "oh idk if i'm the best person to ask, i haven't been reading comics for years" and then i realized i figured my way into comics with like essentially zero prior experience so maybe i am uniquely qualified to help! that being said, if this doesn't work or you see a post from a comic veteran that looks more helpful, by all means ignore me.

first things first- it is super confusing!! there's all these big events, DC is obsessed with the word "Crisis", some labels are mainline and others aren't- don't worry about any of that. ignore the vast forest that is Comics and focus on one tree.

and by that i mean, pick one character to start with.

this post ended up turning into a behemoth when i wasn't looking so everything else is going to go under the cut!

alright, now that you have your character of choice, it's time to choose which era of comics you want to start in. there are basically 4 different eras, and you may have heard their names tossed around.

PRE-CRISIS: this is where Comics begin. this era covers comics from when they began being published up until 1985. most of this is no longer canon, but like when they hit the reboot button in '85, they didn't restart from the very beginning. so like, 90% of robin!dick comics is Pre-Crisis. some comics kept a few Pre-Crisis storylines canon, like The New Teen Titans starts before the reboot, but the pre-boot storylines are still canon. i personally have not read very many Pre-Crisis comics, i cherry-picked what looked interesting to me. unless you want to like dive in chronologically and begin at the Beginning, i wouldn't recommend hopping in here bc you'll probably get super fatigued, but yk, it is ultimately up to you. most important takeaway here is that whenever people mention Pre-Crisis, they mean old comics.

POST-CRISIS: 1985-2011. this is where most comics veterans started reading comics/what they grew up with. these are the comics that a decent amount of current comics writers/artists grew up reading/what got them into comics. there is a lot of love + nostalgia for this era, with good reason!! i do think some people who favor this era have a tendency to be close-minded in regards to current comics but re:nostalgia and there have been some dumb decisions so i get it!

NEW 52: aka, Post-Flashpoint, N52. 2011-2016 dc gets new management. they more or less decided to toss all pre-existing canon out the window and re-start in the middle. honestly, it was like they just started making fanfiction. and i don't mean that negatively, i mean like, even though they "restarted" and "anyone" should be able to jump in on an #1 in n52...the comics still assumed you had some working knowledge about the characters. which. i mean, i understand that a total restart was not plausible, (lmao imagine just snapping the vast majority of characters out of existence. they did snap some but like, a full restart would have axed even Dick technically.) i started reading comics here bc when i asked my brother-in-law (who grew up reading comics, with a dad who grew up reading comics), he was like, "omg!! start here, it'll be perfect!!" and i was like "okay!!" and then...i found myself googling. a lot. which is fine!! but idk maybe not as beginner-friendly as advertised? also, notice how this era only lasts for 4 years. it's not that none of it is relevant now, but it was a) not very well received, and b) while some of it is def still canon/referenced, a lot of it contradicts with Post-Crisis, and our fourth and final era reboots so that most of Post-Crisis is canon again. you will see a lot of hatred/dislike for comics in this era/concepts introduced here.

REBIRTH: 2016-present day. DC decided to rollback their extreme changes and soft-reboot to basically try and meld Post-Crisis and N52 timelines/continuities into one cohesive continuity. which. is a lil like trying to mix oil and water, but it is an improvement imo. all the runs restart at #1.

other people might disagree with me, but i honestly don't think it matters which era you start with. unless you start from the very beginning, you're going to have some questions. if you start in Post-Crisis, you're going to have questions when you get to N52/Rebirth, and vice-versa. and that's okay!! don't be ever be embarrased/discouraged because you have a question. google is your friend. also, odds are, if you end up enjoying comics, you'll read from all the eras. timelines will always be confusing. if you read arcs/events out of order, you'll sort stuff out. as long as you're reading what sounds interesting, you can't really go wrong. you might laugh at your decisions later, but that's okay!!

for example, personal experience, this was my intro reading order: N52 Nightwing, A Death in the Family (Post-Crisis), Under the Red Hood (Post-Crisis), Joker War (Rebirth), Robin 1994 (Post-Crisis) until like issue #11?, Rebirth Nightwing to most current release, back to Robin 1994.

clearly, I had no clue what the hell i was doing from one perspective. but in the moment, i was having a grand ole time. i read N52 Nightwing, had my mind blown at the existence of FOUR Robins, couldn't believe they KILLED one, had to see that for myself, then i had to see how his return played out, and when I was buying the UTRH trade the Joker War trade had a lil rec note from an employee, i flipped through it, thought the art was sick, was confused AF when i read it but googled for some clarity and just rolled it with it, thought Tim was neat, decided to check him out, had a rough time adjusting to the older art style, bounced back to modern comics with Dick, and then ultimately decided I could handle the art change (which, ngl, very useful skill for comics reading) and the rest is history.

even once i got more well-versed in comics, sometimes i knowingly read out of order because i just wanted to see a specific event and didn't feel like reading a ton of comics to get there. legit, read City of Bane, did not understand why Dick was not there but just accepted it and then months later was like OH!! HE WAS RIC THEN.

point is, if you're having fun, you're not making mistakes imo. am i going to recommend anyone follow my initial reading path to the T? no way!! but it worked for me.

but okay! so now, you've got your character and your era, and surprisingly the rest is really simple!! i have compiled a list for you that attempts to cover the trickier batfam entry points, but for almost any character the hopping on point is literally whichever run they're lead in: #1. for some, as you'll see with Batman, it won't be #1 in Post-Crisis but you can google, "where to start reading Action Comics Post-Crisis" and there you go. If there is a #0 issue, I would personally not recommend starting there, I would still start with #1 and then read the #0 issue when it would've come out, so like if it came out after #10, read it then. oh also, i'm sorry, i cannot offer personalized help with Barbara Gordon/Babs/Batgirl No. 1/Oracle, as of rn, i have only read her when she shows up in events/other people's runs. my best guess would be Batgirl/Bird of Prey.

now, before we get to the lists, may i present you with

MISCELLANEOUS ADVICE

there are a handful of mindsets that i think will be super helpful for breaking into comics, but the most important, especially starting out, is to make sure you're reading what interests you and that you're having fun. you can worry about slogging through significant runs later, once you've cut your teeth a bit, or never.

i would honestly ignore "best of/top rec" lists. most of those are made up of comics that hit bc they're building on a foundation. if you're brand-new, you don't have a foundation. focus on that first, rather than reading the "right" runs. comic readers, veterans and casuals and newbies- they do not all agree on what the "right" runs are. and that's bc there are so many different writers/artists. bookmark these for later, when you feel more solid in your understanding of the character and maybe want to experiment.

characters, imo, can totally be written OOC. but one of the really beautiful things about comics in my experience is that getting to see characters written by different writers really adds so much depth and dimension to them, bc diff writers are going to have different angles they want to explore. will you like all these different angles? probably not! but that's okay. you'll develop your own taste for which stories you like/what takes resonate with you the most. sometimes you might find yourself in agreement with the popular opinion, other times you might find that you loved something it seems a lot of people hate. great! there is no test, you'll like what you like and that will be perfectly valid even if no else agrees.

with that in mind, be open-minded. adjusting to older art styles can be really hard! that's totally valid! but if you try it out here and there, you'll probably be able to get used to it. you're not always going to love the art in any era. sometimes not even in the same run. i think acknowledging that you dislike it is better than trying to force yourself to like it. my rule of thumb was, if i didn't like the art style, give it 3 comics. bc by then, i'd either adjust to it (which is not the same as liking it)/or get sucked into the story and not care so much, or i would know, yeah this really isn't working for me. and then i had a decision to make: power through or drop it. sometimes you can knuckle down. other times, i've found that giving myself a break and returning to a difficult comic once i've recharged is better.

mostly the same advice for writers. although, i have learned that just because i dislike an author in X run, doesn't mean i'll dislike them in Y run, or even in the next arc they write in X run. as you go through comics, keep in mind that most storylines within a run are six issue arcs. if you're not vibing with the current arc, try skipping ahead to the next one. skimming is okay. obvs, yk, don't skim every comic you read, but if you find yourself not super interested, but feeling like there's some important stuff so you don't want to have to backtrack later, skim. again, the goal is to have fun!

other things that might trip you up-

terminology: wtf is a volume anyways?

i'm so glad you asked!! answer: it depends. so okay, if like you google a reading order list, you might see Batman (Vol. 1) #1-100, or something like that. in this case a volume is a whole entire run from start to finish. Batman Vol 1, in this example, would be synonymous with Batman (1937-2011), which includes both Pre-Crisis and Post-Crisis.

however, if you're looking at collected editions, or trades, a volume will be more like a volume of manga, where volume refers to that set of issues.

trades: this is when the publisher collects a run or event into a book that would be sold somewhere like Barnes & Noble, it can be hardback or paperback. single issues are not trades.

events: these are crossover storylines! sometimes they cross houses, so you could have issues from Batman and say, Green Lantern, but usually they're contained within a house. events that effect the whole universe are usually their own "run", like Infinite Crisis had tie-in issues from most (all) on-goings, but the core issues were Infinite Crisis #1, and so on. they range widely in scale, clearly.

on-goings: can refer to currently running comics, for example rn, Zdarsky's Batman and Tom Taylor's Nightwing are on-goings. Jason and Tim are not leading any on-goings rn. or, it can be used to refer to comics that were on-going at the time of whatever is being discussed.

variant: this has nothing to do with the comics content itself, it relates purely to the covers. most current comics have their standard cover, and then a variant or two or four. any ratio, so for instance 1:25 variant, just means that for every 25 standard copies, there is 1 of that variant. that kind of variant is usually a store incentive, so that they'll buy a certain amount of copies to sell. not all variants are rare though!

facsimile: this is when they reprint an old comic. not as a trade, just as single issue.

black label/elseworld: these are comics that are published by DC, but not part of the mainline comics' canon continuity. sometimes they'll sort of fold in black label stuff, but like, it's essentially licensed fanfic.

events: ahh!! the last page says the story continues in a different run!!

2 options:

1) ignore it, stay in your run. there'll be a couple gaps but you'll live, and google is free.

2) google "event-name-here reading order". this will give you lists that will tell you which comics to read in which order. sometimes the order they came out in is not the best reading order. some events flow better than others. also, there will be "core" issues and "tie-ins". core issues are the Main Storyline, not skippable, (if you don't want to be confused). tie-ins are character-specific, so important for that character but if you don't care about them, those issues will be skippable.

there is no wrong choice. you can change your mind, decide you want to read the event, or lose interest in the event and stick with your current run.

concurrent runs: what should you do if there are multiple runs you want to read that came out at the same time while they were being published?

again, two options.

1) read them in the order they were released. the easiest way to do this is to read month by month, so read all the issues that came out in May of X year, then June, so forth. you'll basically be simulating keeping up with current comics as they release.

2) pick a title, read it to the end, start the next one. this will have you essentially cycling through the same period from start to finish a few times, but honestly there's a lot going on in comics and outside of events where they cross-over, there isn't too much overlap, so it doesn't feel super repetitive. at least to me. plus, if you've read the event, you don't need to re-read it every time you hit it, imo. this is how i do it actually. i mean, current comics, i read the runs i'm following as they release, but for backlog, i stick to one title at a time. if i'm feeling fancy, i might read one run up to a certain point, then switch titles, then switch back, but i am max switching between 2. an example of this is actually what i'm doing rn. i read batgirl 2000 up to issue #11 (or 12?) and then switched to Batman: Gotham Knights, which is what I'm currently reading. why? B:GK starts after B2000, and i couldn't pick, so i split the difference and went semi-chronological.

finally, there's no pressure. by which i mean, you don't need to speed run. especially if you don't have a ton of free time, don't worry about being the most efficient reader, always reading runs that'll give you the most bang for your buck according to other people, etc. i mean also, there is just. so. much. content. you cannot sprint your way through, this is a marathon at best, a leisurely jog, ideally.

looking at the sheer amount of content out there was super overwhelming to me, even though i wanted to read it. it's not a quick task, so it felt impossible. like even if i finished one run, well, that was just a drop in the bucket, i'd made barely any progress in the grand scheme of things. that was paralyzing.

i ended up mocking up a list for myself of what i thought of as "key" runs. this was still an ambitious list, but like tailored to my interests. as i read/saw posts, if a title not on this list sounded interesting, i stuck it on my tbrl list. (to be read later). that was essentially me going, 'hey, this looks interesting, but my plate is full rn, so i'll save it for later.' i didn't add runs from my tbrl to my key list as i went, i focused on working through my keys first.

within my keys, i just bounced all over the place. the order made sense to me, lmao, and probably no one else. it was a very loose, "follow this character chronologically". except for dick i read him all wonky, mainly bc i started with N52, skipped some N52 to get to Rebirth, skipped some Rebirth (*cough* Ric era *cough*), switched characters, then came back to Dick, bounced to NTT, practically bounced right back off it bc the transistion from modern to 80's comic was ROUGH, went and Grayson (N52), forced myself to adjust to older comics, then went through chronologically until i hit dick!bats era bc i'd read a solid chunk of it between reading for Tim and Damian. i share all this only to say, you can read however, it'll work out.

if you're curious, it took me six months to read my whole "key" list. almost to the day, funnily enough. i don't remember the exact number, but i think it was like north of 700+ comics at least? tbh, i didn't feel like i'd read all that many comics but based off some conversations i've had, maybe it is? i have no frame of reference. operating under the assumption that that is a lot of comics, i feel like it's important that you know a) i have a ton of free time, and b) i read very fast.

set zero expectations for yourself time-wise. it's not a race, no one is judging you. don't be an idiot like me and try to calculate how long it will take you to read X amount of comics either, okay HAHA. context: when i started Robin 1993, the fact that it was 195 issues was massively intimidating. the longest run i'd read so far was 30. i averaged out my comics per day, lowballed to give myself breathing room and nearly cried bc it was going to take me 20 days (3 whole weeks!!!) to read the whole thing and that felt like an eternity. i ended up reading it in 5 days. (i was HOOKED.) on the complete opposite end of things, i started Batman: Gotham Knights...a month ago? maybe two. i'm still on #18, bc life got busy.

bottom line, you've no real idea how long it will take you to read anything, let alone your whole wish list, and it really doesn't matter how long it takes you, as long as, say it with me, you're having fun!!

god i feel annoying.

okie dokie!! i think that covers all the dilemmas i remember having, but if i missed anything, feel free to send in another ask!

BRUCE WAYNE:

Post-Crisis only bc everywhere else is just #1

Batman 1940 #404

Detective Comics 1937 #568.

DICK GRAYSON:

Dick's og robin days are allllll Pre-Crisis. i'm not sure which issues he comes in tbh. if you don't read want to start in Pre-Crisis, (valid, wise imo), most robin!Dick content is going to come from flashback storylines. but there are some robin!Dick comics that are solid, contained stories that are not Pre-crisis. not an exhaustive list but:

Robin: Year One

Batman Chronicles: The Gauntlet

Batman- One Bad Day: Mr. Freeze

and then for Dick as Nightwing, it's a lil tricky bc technically that starts in The New Teen Titans 1980. You could start at #1, or #42, which is the Judas Contract storyline where Nightwing debuts. (The title's name switches to Tales of the Teen Titans, it's the same run.)

However, if you're not interested in reading a team book, valid, then you have:

Nightwing 1995 (technically comes before the main run, this was a 4 issue prequel mini)

Nightwing 1996, start at #1. Now, if you stick with this run, there are 2 stories that are part of it but were done separately as minis so for whatever reason, on DCUI at least, they're not in the order, but you'd read Nightwing/Huntress after Nightwing #18, and then Nightwing: The Target after Nightwing #60 i believe.

Or, Nightwing: Year One. This is part of the Nightwing 1996 run, but has been collected separately, so you could start here, i suppose.

JASON TODD

okay so technically, he does not lead a title until N52. but obvs, he has relevant comics before that.

i would not personally recommend starting with UTRH. like, if that's what you want to read, valid, do what you want. but also, if you're willing to read 9-23 comics beforehand, i truly think you will appreciate/enjoy UTRH way more. bc like they just make the overall drama/angst that much more, yk? like okay if UTRH is chicken breast, you could just cook it as is and eat it. but unseasoned chicken just does not hit the way it could. add a lil salt + pepper, bam, big diff. add some legit seasoning?! now you're cooking. does that make sense?

actually okay hmm. i loathe to be prescriptive and give orders, but here, i'll lay out what i consider to be the Bare Minimum (salt and pepper) + the Crash Course (legit seasoning). no wrong choice!

Bare Minimum (9 Comics before you read UTRH):

A Death in the Family

A Lonely Place of Dying

Crash Course (23 Comics before you read UTRH):

Batman #408- 409

Detective Comics #569-571, 573-574

Batman #416, 424-425

A Death in the Family

New Teen Titans #55

A Lonely Place of Dying

Batman: Gotham Knights #43-45 (45 is the important one imo, but like it will make a lil more sense if you start at 43)

if you want to read the entirety of his og run as Robin, that would be Batman #408-425, and Detective Comics #568-#582. if you want like a whole ass breakdown of all his appearances in chronological order, check this godsend of a resource out.

and again, not to tell you what to do, but New52 Red Hood and the Outlaws is um. i'll be nice. i did not enjoy it. is it worth reading if you love Jason? honestly yeah. but i wouldn't start there, that's all i'm saying.

CASSANDRA CAIN:

Very simple!! She first appears in Batman, during the No Man's Land arc, so her issues there would be Batman #567-569, and then Batgirl 2000.

she gets deleted in the New 52 launch, (boo tomato, tomato), and isn't brought back until Batman and Robin: Eternal. then she co-lead a recent (Rebirth) Batgirls run with Steph. lots going on in B&R:E, would not recommend as a starting point.

TIM DRAKE:

Alright, honestly, with Tim all your best jumping on points are Post-Crisis. N52 Teen Titans is whack, I have yet to revisit it and power through, and if you've seen my other rec list, yk I'm not a fan of any modern runs he's lead, so i cannot in good conscience, rec those as starting points. Detective Comics Rebirth, i've heard, is solid, but a) i still haven't read it yet unfortunately, and b) he like dies. "dies". not very far in. and then, consequentially, is not present for a hot minute. so.

but anyways! you do have options in Post-Crisis!!

A Lonely Place of Dying. his intro!!

his official like debut as Robin is Batman #457, but he is in Batman comics that take place between aLPoD and #457.

Robin 1991. this is the first of 3 mini-series that take place before Tim's main run. i accidentally skipped them bc i didn't know they existed whoops

Robin 1993. his main run! the longest Robin title to run so far.

technically, Young Justice 1998 is also an option, if you're interested in the team. I started reading this after Robin #120, read the whole run, then went back to Robin. see advice on concurrent runs below.

Stephanie Brown:

tbh, not a great starting character. not because she isn't great!! she's just very much so a side character until she gets her own run, Batgirl 2009, but there is so much going on in that time-period (Bruce is dead, Dick is Batman, etc.), that like it's not super beginner friendly imo. and then they delete her when they do New 52, she gets brought back in Batman Eternal if i'm remembering correctly? And then she and Cass lead a recent (Rebirth) Batgirls run.

ik her first appearance is in Batman, although i don't know exactly which issue. she's in Robin 1993 a lot, ofc. she's also in Batgirl 2000 here and there. basically, you'll have to do some hunting and moving around if you just want to follow Steph. i do not know those issues by heart, someone somewhere has probably listed them. re: google is your friend!!

Duke Thomas:

okay so. ik he first appears at some point in the N52 Batman run, don't know the exact issue, but i'm pretty positive it's an event of some kind, could be wrong. then he is the main in a team book, We Are Robin. then i think he's a side character in Batman/Detective Comics mainly? he has a mini-series, Batman and The Signal.

i have not read his first appearance yet, i have read We Are Robin. i hesitate to say that he's not a great character to start with bc i'm pretty sure DC created him to like attract new readers, which should imply that he's a good starting character?? but like stuff is weiiiird where he comes in, Bruce is not Batman bc he doesn't have his memories (idk why yet, haven't read yet), Jim Gordon is Robo-Batman- weird. very confusing place to start, i would imagine. which is a bummer bc like, Duke is fantastic. love him. cannot wait to read more. unfortunately, there are just some characters who's existence necessitates a lot of context. i like to think they're worth the wait, though!

Damian Wayne:

he is the trickiest to hop in on imo, out of the "main" members. he is also a character who's existence necessitates context. you can def crash course him though, to an extent. honestly, with any characters that came in towards the end of Post-Crisis or later, being okay with confusion is like extra important, if you want to start with them.

2/3 of Damian's first 3 major appearances are events. i read Dami later on in my comics journey, so by then i was like, pshh, event nbd. i also read him chronologically, so i could be biased, but i do think that is best. however, yk, go for what interests you.

Post Crisis:

Batman #655-658, then The Resurrection of Ra's al Ghul, then Battle for the Cowl.

Batman and Robin: Batman Reborn. Dick!Bats + officially Robin Damian

New 52:

Batman and Robin. He's going to die. He will be resurrected. Then, Robin: Son of Batman.

Rebirth:

Super Sons

Robin

ofc, this doesn't cover everyone, but i hope this is enough to get you started!! i realize that this is long-ass post, i'm sorry i couldn't be more concise. i sincerely hope this was helpful/made stuff less intimidating, and if i failed in that regard, i'm so sorry.

i hope you have so much fun!! my ask box will always be open, and so are my dms if you have any more questions or want to freak out about comics :)

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Hand Holding w/Izuku & Bakugou

an? i loveeeeee loveee loveeee small things like hand holding and walking arm arm and huggs and just physical touch in genereal just make me sooo 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰. *sighs* back to reality. um i realy dont know where i was going with these fr but 900 words later and here we are, i do hope y’all enjoy💜. request are open.

pairings? izuku x reader, bakugou x reader

tw? none

Izuku - imagine 3rd year izuku all beefed p from the previous 2 years of training, he grew more into his quirk and in turn growing more into his body, kinda lost the baby face but them eyes man whewww chilee

Anywaysssss, you and him are dating without the title if that makes sense, it's not that yall dont want the title it just that's all sorted never put a label on it, its during you're Modern hero Art class that you all have a break because midnight was needed elsewhere for moment, naturally you found a pair of red sneakers making there to you as you lay with your head on your desk, you sit up expecting izuku to take his usually place on top of your desk but instead he just stands to the side, shifting from feet to feet. Like he was nervous or sum, you were about to crack a joke until izuku made a fleet attempt to grab the hand you were previously laying on, now idk what he thought he was finna accomplish butttttt yea. Cute attempt tho, you clutch your stomach from laughing so hard as izuku stands there and buries his face in his hand trying to hide his reddening face from you, but you catch on while you were recovering from that intense laughing fit, “you wanted to do something izu zu” you asj trying to pry his hands from his face, now while you and izuku are closer than you are will your other class mater yall try not to go to hard with the PDA and holding hands??? Seems like a lot of PDA  … to say that I don't usually do these types of things, but I mean there's nothing wrong with a little change. Instead of trying to decipher izuku mumbling, you simply take the hand that you have already freed from his face and intertwine your fingers together. Somehow this increases izuku mumbling so you sigh as you make him sit on your desk and you sit back in your seat stroking his hand that you're not holding with you to let him calm down from his rant.

Bakugou- yall dont understand how much i eat this trope up ( he insecure about his hand cause they sweat) bandwagon so bad   its really ridiculous, but i needed a break from it,  so here we areeeee, katsuki who kinda calmed down ??? like yeah all you mfs still extras and what not but obviously y'all should know by now so it's not point in reiterating it again. Anyways, you and bakugou are helping baku squad study before these finals come around, which eventually turned into you guys just lazing around talking and watching tv. Strange things is playing in the background, while denki and sero are arguing about which song would be able to get them from the upside faster mina is humming a song as placing bows and barretts in kiri’s hair you look to your left and see bakugou and jirou talking further down the coach from you , so you lay back with one ar, stitching over your head while your other arm is being draped over your eyes and you relax back into the couch. It seems like you took a little nap as when you wake up, mostly everything and everybody is being cleared from the common room. Do you move, sit up and stretch and feel your hand being restricted? No that's not the right word, you shift your gaze to where your hand is and see why you couldn't move your hand, bakugou, bakugou katsuki was holding your hand in his lap while he was laying next to you phone on his chest as an almight video counties to play, to say that you are shocked truly feels like a understatement for the amount of feelings you are feeling right now, why would he want to be holding your hand, in his sleep nonetheless, yeah he yells at you less and lets you in his dorm sometimes but that's just to yk study and stuff, not that you ever get any studying down because you are always trying to glance at bakugou to already see he's looking at you and yea maybe you and him both know yall dont need to go out and get the groceries together despite it not being yall week just so y'all could laugh and talk and you could convince to sneak a few extra snacks in and sure you might have caught his looking at you sometimes… okay. Maybe you have a crush and maybe your crush likes you back, but this is too much to deal with after you woke up from a nap that you weren't even trying to take, through the mist of all your thinking bakugou woke up from his nap ??? If you could even call it that fr, anyways he’s been up long enough to see that you saw him holding your hand and he heard you muttering about crushes and what not so he thought he'd just yk confess, so he does all while he is still holding your hand.

[lowkeyrobin]

Hi love! I'm a new follower, and I was wondering if you could do a night with badlinu?? Like what he would do on a night in with his s/o?? Thank you! I also love you're writing and I hope you are having a good day:)<3

hi!! welcome to the family 🫶🫶 ; and yes of course!! I love writing for him sm I literally can't. ; also help sorry I just saw this halfway through writing 💀💀💀 THANK YOU FOR THE COMPLIMENT, HOPE YOURE HAVING A GOOD DAY/NIGHT AS WELL!!

BADLINU ; a night inside

summary ; spending a peaceful night with freddie

warnings ; language

genre ; fluff

word count ; 372

masterlist

you came over for a movie + a sleepover because it's a weekly tradition

bro he got your favorite snacks and everything

"I'm so sorry it's so cold right now, the heater broke but I got some space heaters and a bunch of blankets for you"

my brother in christ he says a "bunch" of blankets and it's even including duvets. like, whole heavy ass blankets 😭

he didn't know what you liked the most blanket-wise so he gave you all the options

and put one of the space heaters right in front of you

once the movie finally starts he's just chilling next to you like 🧍‍♂️

you grab his hand on a part that jumpscared you a bit and he just silently smiles

he leans into you a bit and djksndnmd

don't think you're getting out of this without doing dumb shit

you eventually start a cooking stream because you guys wanted to make a box cake and why not make some content out of it yk

the amount of everything everywhere. that kitchen needs a deepclean

don't get me started if one of you needs a recolor on your hair...

"Freddie, get your head over the bathtub!"

"My neck hurts!"

you're genuinley up most the night goofing off

dancing around on stream to fuckin Rihanna and Lady Gaga like okay get into it

roasting Twitter trolls as well

making 30% of the stream about Jojo Siwa and just shit talking her and about all the everything going on with that atm

yall start to get tired on the couch and watch your comfort movies for a while

lots of just hugging kind of cuddling

eventually you fall asleep and he's trapped there like "fuck" but he doesn't wanna wake up all sore either LMAO

traces your features while you sleep

also takes a ton of pictures of you sleeping 💀💀💀 just to fuck around with you

any other night if it was labeled a date, there would've been candles, trust

he probably knows how to cook up some mad good food for a white British guy, that's all I'm gonna say

youd probably stray off from the "date" and make puppets or something

yeah idk this is all I got

[eryanlainfa]

important thought i just had. how do you imagine hugo’s gender nonconformity like how does he identify with any label in particular or is he just Like that. and more importantly do you think he’s already figured it out by the time he meets the gang or do you think the egg breaks later. BC SEE i’ve always imagined up until the trials shes never had the time to think about herself at ALL, like she obviously knows shes kinda *flicks wrist* yk but otherwise she’s never really actually come to any real conclusions about herself. so i think as soon as they move in with varian and once they’ve finally settled and they have SO much free time and so many things going on in their head, they’re trying new hobbies and finding all sorts of things to tinker with and most importantly they finally have the opportunity to care about their appearance and suddenly the gender crisis hits them like a fucking FREIGHT TRAIN

all this is to say because. I was thinking about that again today and then i remembered aiden and it was like my third eye opened bc i realized the sheer potential in that scenario with airigo. like i feel like aiden would’ve seen that shit coming a MILE AWAY and i think that’d be so cute and also so fucking funny and. I need to hear your thoughts ok

[Hi. Future Ery talking. I started rambling and I have no clue if what I said is actually coherent or even answers your question at all- But the idea was there! Also I personally headcanon everything and anything, I love switching labels of one character and making a whole new au for it. But covering EVERYTHING would be too long so I answered regarding Aiden's main timeline only- but if you want me to talk about transfem Hugo in particular I'd love to!!]

Sobbing and crying this is so cute and funny your brain is wonderful mwah mwah. I think all you said could 100% work and I can see a version where it would make sense for Hugo to not had the time to discover themself properly. And Aiden just clocking her right away is so funny 😭

Saddly it wouldn't work in Aiden's original timeline simply because, in this case, Hugo wouldn't be Hugo if he hadn't transition already.

I've never really openly delved into my headcanons for the whole gang, because I like people being able to interpret my art however they want (and also because I can change my mind whenever and no one would know-). But in Aiden's universe, Hugo isn't amab.

But to go back on how I imagine Hugo's gender noncomformity!

Firstly, in universe, I'm not sure neither Hugo nor Aiden really identify with a gender label. They don't really have a word for it so they're just how they are. But I personally label him as bigender transmasc. And I do still label them as gay. Cuz. Queer homosexuals representation. Yay.

Secondly- Hugo actually transitioned before figuring out his gender. Being an orphan is already harsh, being poor is terrible and he figured being female generally made things more difficult. So she didn't want to be one. When he got recruited by Don for the first time he was already dead set on not wanting to be a girl and didn't have a name anymore so Donella is the one who named him Hugo. I think Don was "supportive" as in she really didn't care, and if helping Hugo transition meant he would be more useful then that worked for her just fine. So Hugo got to transition but it wasn't really because he didn't feel like he wasn't a girl, she just didn't think it would be advantageous for him to be one.

Sorry I got sidetracked- cough- Back on topic.

One thing I wanted regarding Hugo's relationship to gender is the fact that he is comfortable being fem BECAUSE he got to transition.

For work they would play whichever role worked best no matter the gender. At first, looking like a guy needed more work, which bothered him because it was his goal, so for a while he had a clear preference for appearing masculine. But years later, after having transitioned to a comfortable point, she figured she really didn't mind being either gender. And it made playing different roles even more fun and easy for them. Not necessarily in a fluid way, he's just everything at once most of the time.

So he already got herself figured out quite well when 7k starts. Actually, Hugo being openly queer is another reason why she caught Aiden's interest so fast. And I wanted them to mirror each others in a way, with Hugo being comfortable because he transitioned and Aiden being more comfy doing the absolute bare minimum-. Also I had this one joke that sometimes Nuru and Hugo would have girls nights during the journey. So I needed she/her Hugo for all of this to work lol. But I do believe Hugo still gets to affirm and discover himself even more after he settles, it's just mostly about other things.

BUT YOU KNOW WHO'S EGG GOT TO CRACK DURING THE TRIALS IN MY MIND-??? Varian. He's agender. My whole gang is trans and the joke was that Varian is the token cis guy of the group (because I thought it was funny). But he isn't. He just doesn't know because he's always too busy thinking of literally anything else and he never really registered that was an option. He still uses he/him tho. Because I enjoy gender fuckery.

In summary :

○ Bigender ○ agender ○ genderfluid ○

Also, since I decided to finally talk about my headcanons, I think too many people assumed Aiden is the one pregnant -in that one comic-. They aren't.

[drop-dead-dropout]

NEW USERNAME local-queer-disappointment -> drop-dead-dropout

unpinning my other post because i want to talk a little about me and this space that i've created! hi i'm alex and i dropped out of high school twice lol

i think a dni is stupid because people never listen anyways, which is why i haven't had one, but i still see the value in at least telling people who this little corner is for.

also YELL AT ME ON DISCORD I'M woahits_alex.mp3 IF U ASK ME ABOUT FIC RECS FOR MY FANDOMS I'LL CRY WITH HAPPINESS

anyways opinion stuff under the cut. you don't have to read it, and you don't even have to listen if you do, but i might argue with you (<- serial arguer) so if you want to avoid the Discourse here ya go.

you are welcome here:

- ALL queers. trans men, trans women, nonbinary, intersex, poc queers, xenogender, "contradictory" labels like mspec gays/lesbians lesboys/turigirls/sapphileans (omg it's me!!), slur reclaims, detransitioners (who are not transphobic), mspec lesbians, aro/ace and all variations thereupon, unlabeled, questioning, etc. i love all of you. i love the community that we share. we are family, whether or not some of us want to be, and exclusionism is Not Funky Fresh!!

- pro Palestine!! i don't always rb posts as much as i used to (i am scared of spreading misinformation) but i think i'll start doing that again! (don't forget your daily click guys)

- jewish people. i am specifically adding this one to say that because of the shitty Everything, i've seen a lot of concerning antisemitic stuff recently so i'm just, yk, putting this out there.

- disabilities/cluster b disorders/systems/AAC users. i am not any of these things so if i say/do something out of line please tell me! but i love you guys and you're absolutely welcome here.

- proshippers (if this bothers you block and move on)

- furries. not personally one of y'all but i think you're neat and you make cool art :]

- literally, like, anyone, as long as you're not a dick

you are not welcome here:

- terfs, transphobes, exclusionists, anti-mspec, anti-lesboy, and people who think transandrophobia is "fake" or whatever. go away i don't like you (or at least be prepared to be blocked or yelled at)

- similarly to last, anyone who starts queer infighting or hates on less visible queers/strangers who don't "look" queer, the whole "bi girl's straight bf" nonsense (i don't care if you think someone is cishet. you have no way of knowing that. let's stop hating people for immutable characteristics and start having thoughtful criticisms of people's actions thanks)

- ZIONISTS. BYE BYE

- (but also antisemites because come on now let's notttt. judiasm ≠ zionism)

- ableists, fatphobia, racists/bigots, general dickheads

- antishippers (again, you can either leave now or expect to be argued with)

other general stuff:

- i accept anonymous asks! and also non anonymous ones. ask me shit idk

- i am autistic and VERY gullible. if i reblog a "bait" post, or something that's clearly fake or a joke with a genuine reaction, i'm probably not playing some 5d irony chess i'm probably just stupid. sorry y'all i'm trying :\

- i don't rb nsfw. not as, like, a rule, i just don't see the value in doing so lol. if i ever did i'd tag it and probably update this

UPDATE: thought i should clarify, i don't rb nsfw but i do rb nsfw humor, like dick jokes and stuff. hope there's no confusion

- i argue with people!! i enjoy arguing with people!! usually it's in replies and not reblogs but still. if you are allergic to stuff like that maybe don't follow me? i also rb "discourse" posts, mostly transmasc support stuff and callouts of transandrophobia, general solidarity stuff with the trans community or lgbt community as a whole, proship stuff, politics, current events, that kinda thing.

- this is, shockingly, supposed to be a fandom blog! (i got carried away; i always do.) current fandoms include: ace attorney (the one this blog was supposed to be about), doctor who (childhood hyperfixation come back to bite my ass), and splatoon (no excuse). also mha is basically my abusive boyfriend stockholm syndroming me to stay at this point but i'm trying to get better (not). you can find the records of my failing recovery at @alex-is-losing-sleep-over-krbk /hj (i also sometimes shamelessly rb this blog's posts over there lol)

and i guess since i'm mentioning fandoms, here are my fav ships: wrightworth, klapollo, franmaya, thoschei, pearlina, agent 24, & cuttletavio.

anyways, that's about it. love you all :]

[kindnessoverperfection]

apologies in advance if this is like. a stupid thing to send, i'm a person without npd who knows very little about the disorder in general apart from the negative sterotypes you mentioned in your post. i was wondering if youd have any recommendations of places for people to learn more about the disorder either written by people with npd or without negative bias? your post kind of made me like. stop and think for a minute and i realized i've also been throwing around the narcissistic label much more freely than i should. and i think i should take a minute to educate myself and be more. yk. accepting. again, sorry if this is out of place or annoying or patronizing - and feel no pressure to respond to this, if you like, ignore or delete the ask i won't feel slighted at all . have a good evening :]

No need to apologize! <3 Thank you for asking, and I'm really happy to hear that my post helped you realize that. It's really relieving to see people respond by talking about how they had believed the biases or been using the word "narcissist" in those ways, but that this helped them realize what they're doing & want to change. It means I'm reaching my target audience, gives me hope tbh.

I know you sent a follow-up message out of embarrassment that you didn't see the "further reading" links, please don't feel bad!! <3

@san1tas posted a really helpful compilation of resources for NPD! It's geared towards self-help for those who have it, but probably has some more of what you're looking for in terms of education.

I haven't looked through everything on that list yet, so I can't vouch for some of these. As an educational source, I'm sure they won't be perfect, and that there are things here and there I'd add or change. From what I have seen in the rare compassionate article, a lot of providers still forget to include ways NPD can present outside of toxic behavior, so that's probably the main thing. I think I also remember that one of the article writers on this list has written other articles that are clickbaity and not nearly as friendly.

But regardless, it seems like it could be helpful. (Thank you so much san1tas for gathering those!! I can't imagine the energy it took having to wade through all the awfulness to find these resources. Your post helps keep me grounded knowing there's somewhere I can turn, thank you again!!)

[rivangel]

i have a question because your post about asexuality is having me question my sexuality all over again. if levi was real would you want to be in a relationship with him? or is it because he’s fictional that makes you attracted to him? i find myself not attracted to anyone but people similar to levi.. i dont know how to explain it but real people don’t do it for me.

god i still get confused so dw. ummmm i'll explain more about my experiences maybe the context will help and then i'll answer ur question.

i dated a few real ppl before i realized my sexuality in 2020. i was 19ish. all girls and two transmasc guys who hadn't physically transitioned... lastly i forced myself to date 2 cis men bc i know now i was in denial. in any of those cases was it genuine romantic attraction i felt? i dont think so but especially not the men/mascs. i have no frame of reference for what romantic or sexual attraction feels like for sure? either way i no longer mistake those feelings for genuine attraction since i went about researching asexuality and did some reflection. i got attached to those ppl for other reasons and misconstrued it as romantic attraction.

to make it easier ive loathed every single experience ive ever had sexually irl. that shouldve been more obvious in retrospect but i was a teen and wanted to / felt pressure to be Normal yk. it was disgusting and super uncomfortable to me and there was nothing wrong w the way i was being treated.

i have felt attraction to a FEW irl men, but every time they were unattainable. like frank iero from my chemical romance was like the loml once... and kurt cobain? but also there are very few of these men i can think of. never been attracted a man/masc irl in my dating pool so to speak (like i said, i dont think ive felt genuine romantic feelings for a real person before).

weird thing. im never attracted to fictional women/fem characters. not in the way that i imagine and feel about aki/levi/eren/other fictional men. so what. am i asexual queer then bc im nonbinary?? idfk.

i can't look at a pic of a fem/woman or masc/man and be like omg im in love im imagining scenarios but i do recognize that theyre attractive if that makes sense.

but also pron with real ppl turns me off😐like gross

(i have stared at the screen thinking so long abt ur question lol). if levi was real. i don't think i'd be attracted to him. even if he wasnt a stranger and i knew everything about him. like him being fictional makes him unattainable which is part of it for me? theres no way for him to get to know me so to speak. god idk. the answer is no, but it's hard to explain why.

u said u r attracted to ppl similar to levi, i assume fictional people? yeah same, like i can think of my biggest fictional loves and theyre almost all similar. i guess that's us having a type?

in any case, your sexuality and stuff is gonna change from when ur a teenager. as u mature and get new experiences u can make more sense of the way u feel, i think. i dont think it's productive to feel u HAVE to label and define everything strictly, bc attraction and identity are very complex and nuanced and influenced by a ton of factors, but i understand wanting to understand urself. it's hard.

[mono-red-menace]

NPD's name is like. stigmatising and everything but like. the reason for the stigma behind it is that it's a mental illness. and mental illnesses are just broadly stigmatised.

like even if they changed the name. the stigma would always be there.

bc like it's there for borderline, and that name isn't stigmatising at all, yk.

like don't get me wrong the name sucks bad. but like the big things i see are "don't use narcissist to label people! it's stigmatising to mental illness!" and "the name narcissistic personality disorder is inherently stigmatising and it needs a different name," or, more broadly, "the name narcissistic personality disorder proves the stigmatising nature of psychiatry."

i believe in bits from both sides, honestly, but like,

my broad experience in psychiatric care shows that Generally, they are here to help and hold no stigma. HOWEVER, enough people within the field hold stigma toward anything beyond depression or anxiety, that looking for psychiatric care is a minefield. and like also some of the names and ways symptoms are described are stigmatising, even if the majority (not a vast majority, but a majority) of the professionals i've seen are very, very against the stigma around mental illness, and that some "symptoms" aren't even problems, and don't need to be treated.

but also like, i think most people in the world show some things which can be described as symptoms of mental illness, and i literally think it should be mandatory teaching like, in schools, for people to learn how to manage their emotions, communicate effectively, etc. like i literally think shit like CBT and DBT should be something everyone is taught.

and also i think like. stigma toward mental illness is bad and it's not rlly just bc of like. the names of them, but also bc ppl perceive mental illness as something that Makes You A Bad Person, and don't recognise that the reason for the behaviours is because of trauma, and instead like, it's just bc the person is like. Selfish or Manipulative or whatever. when, in reality, the lack of empathy or manipulative behaviour stem from mistrust or other negative feelings rooted in their trauma.

like mental illness Can lead people to behave in ways that are harmful. but those harmful behaviours are also defence mechanisms, and the people who perform those behaviours deserve the kindness they need to unlearn those behaviours.

like not necessarily from you. like you don't have to be there the whole time to hold their hand if you're not able, but stigmatising them for the behaviour isn't the answer, yk.

sometimes the answer to a person who has harmful behaviours is to hold them until they stop being scared.

and sometimes it's "i care about you, but you are behaving in ways which are harmful to me, and, while i want to see you better, i need to distance myself from you for my own health," and based on their response, either sticking around in their periphery to show you care, or leaving entirely if you know they will continue to be harmful to you.

but like, showing kindness towards these people, and recognition of the fact that their behaviours are a result of unhealed wounds, while prioritising what you need, is the answer. yk, like, stigmatising them and treating them like their behaviours are rooted in Evil ensures they'll keep being hurt, keep having that wound opened, and never heal.

like one thing i want to say is like. abuse is more complicated than just The Abuser Is A Horrible Person, yk. To abuse doesn't make you An Abuser, just as how committing a crime doesn't make you A Criminal. Abuse isn't something you are, it's something you do, and it can be changed. and you can't always make up for it, but you can learn from it.

and the big stigma with mental illness stems from how "Abusers" are treated by society. it's the lack of forgiveness and room for growth. someone fucks up, and they're treated as a "Criminal" forever.

what are we? christians? we're just going to hold these people to these fuckups forever?

someone has trauma that leads them to perform harmful behaviours, and that means they don't deserve a chance at all? someone performs harmful behaviours and that means they have a Disorder and are Bad By Nature? yk?

there's so much Determinism in how we view others and it fuels stigma.

an abuser isn't something you are, it's something you do, and a disorder doesn't make you an abuser. it can lead you toward abusive behaviours, but that doesn't mean you're guaranteed to behave abusively, and that doesn't mean you're unforgivable and you won't grow and improve if you do.

idk. i had more of a point but my roommates keep talking rlly loudly and it's distracting me. 😔

[bisluthq]

I think swifties have been talking about Joe's mental health in a very careless and even insensitive way. Apparently they also think Taylor was depressed, because of him as if depression is a contagious disease you just pass on to someone.

While he definately has mentioned his anxiety in passing, he hasn't been nowhere near open about it for it to be open season on speculating about how severe and how much it affects him daily. Also like I haven't seen him actually talk about depression. He mentioned he has anxiety related to his job and that he is also not the best communicator. But afaik that's the extent of it, of what he said. You just don't put a label on someone's mental health if they struggle with it at times.

But what's more disgusting to me is talking about his mental health in terms of the breakup and how "he did not just try to get help/get better". It's very very insensitive, specially cause mental health struggles don't have a simply on and off button. And again, you have no idea about his life to even know what he did or hasn't done. Imagine if someone said something like this about Taylor's mental health?

My point in all of this is Joe hasn't talked about his mental health in a way that makes it ok for people even think it's ok to debate or that they know what he's struggling or not with. It's jarring to me people who speculate the most are people that have admitted to have their own struggles, so you would think at the very least there would be some empathy and tact in navigating this kind of conversation.

It's a topic close to home for me because I have struggled with anxiety for years now and somedays are just better then others. I don't have a diagnosis of depression, but I do have periods where I feel really low. Thankfully, it happens less often now. That doesn't mean it's always like that, some periods just get into you in a more of struggle and then it gets better. Life is like that you know. Sometimes things just aren't going well and for people who struggle mentally, those are times everything is going to feel and look darker than it is

Joe did say he relates to Nick’s depression/mood stuff but overall I agree with everything you’ve said which is why all I’ve said FOR YEARS is Joe is a stressy depressy guy. That’s a fact yk it’s not speculation and it’s not a diagnosis at all. I agree people are quite insensitive about it lmao.

I’m sorry you struggle with anxiety - that’s really hard! I relate to the mood stuff and I’ve had an MDD diagnosis and had to be hospitalized for it and I don’t throw around depression very easily as a result. I’ve also had anxiety meds prescribed but tbh I don’t think I really struggle with anxiety - I think it’s more the mood stuff that can present that way to some doctors.

Also we have no idea if Joe has sought help/is on meds/etc. I actually think he probably has because his mum is literally a psychotherapist. There’s nothing to suggest it’s debilitating for him tbh tho - he seems to function fairly well - nor that it was the key factor for the breakup idk.

[steampunkedparm]

"Dancing is what to do (to do)

Dancing's when I think of you (of you)

Dancing's what clears my soul (my soul)

Dancing's what makes me whole (me whole)."

(rmable below lol)

ahahahahaahahhahahahaahahahah ok yeah its gotten a lil outta hand mayhaps, oopsie :P anyways messy imperfect art my beloved (fuck i forogt her sign) also these were supposed to be personas but every time i draw on they end up as full ass characters (affectionate)

i don't entirely know what their relationship is going to be?? it doesn't even have to be anything but rigs (placeholder. name is pending dont worry lol) is one of the pinnacle things that help Adonis ease into emotional maturity and understanding herself in that way (the whole point of her world's quest in her session) and i just?? cant figure out if it's pale or flush lol?? im leaning towards pale just because not everything is about romance yk?? and they already have bean (also name pending lol) but fuck it polyamoirisizes your homestuck fanstuff <33

but also??? the twobhumans may not even be romantic??? BLARGH IM GOING TO STOP PUTTING LABELS ON IT THEY just love and care ab each other very deeply >:P

[rotting-creation]

While this can be ab anything, I was specifically referring to the whole pro-ship, anti-ship stuff. Do I lean more into 'anti-ship' territory? Absolutely. But the thing I hate is ppl who lump all of it into one group. Not all anti's are the same and not all pro's are the same.

if I say I'm anti-ship, a bunch of ppl are gonna assume that I'm against writing for gay or trans characters, that I don't think people should know about certain things, that I think that no one can EVER write about certain things. (Yes I'm leaving it vague bc I've heard everything from it meaning ur against two consenting adults being fucking friends to whole ass p*dophelia...)

But, if I say I'm pro-ship, a bunch of ppl are gonna assume that I think that media doesn't influence reality, and that it's ok to write about p*dophelia and to sexualise underage or child characters (using the p*do arguement bc that's the most used one)

See, the thing is, media DOES influence reality. But that doesn't mean you can't write about these things.

I'm going to preface this by saying I have sexual trauma, and I will NOT go into any details. A lot of ppl with certain traumas (especially these kinds) are sometimes comforted by dead dove works. It's important to tag your works because obviously, some people will cope using it and others will get triggered with it.

But, at the same time, don't fucking glorify it. The shit I went through isn't fun. It was horrible. Reading it portrayed in that way makes me feel less alone and more human, while still keeping it obvious that this was TRAUMATIC for a reason.

Anyways, I'm just going to leave it out here that I'm completely against sexualising an intentionally underage character. I think writing about our traumas can help us so yk, go cope /pos. But also, don't glorify your traumas or these situations. All media influences reality. Portray delicate and nuanced subjects with delicate and nuanced detail.

But yeah, I hate those labels bc either way people assume shit about you. Just leave me the fuck alone, tag your shit correctly (honestly, the amount of ppl who tag their shit horribly is INSANE) tackle nuanced subjects with nuance, cope in healthy ways that ACTUALLY help you and don't glorify your trauma.

But would also like to mention that I am, again, more lenient on the anti side. I'm not making it up when I say that I've been mid way through a fic getting slapped across the face with random triggers (that weren't tagged) being heavily sexualised.

Also, you can develop and unlearn fetishes, and if that fetish just so happens to be smth illegal, go fucking get help and unlearn it pls. Specifically targeted at the ppl who think it's ok to sexualise children. Go get help ffs. DIY or get a professional, idc, just yk.

Gotta be honest, I hate when ppl make me pick between two sides in anything. Both have good and bad points why don't I, idk, instead of picking one or the other, just actually make my own little nuanced opinion on a subject instead of fucking putting me in a box.

It's not ever going to be black and white. Opinions are always nuanced. There are differences in even these own things.

it's not 'us Vs them' in ANY debate or argument or anything. Just listen to the other side pls, accept that some arguements may be correct and some are wrong and leave or engage in a fucking civil debate pls.

I'm tired of ppl assuming "you agree w this? So you agree w xyz then?' like NO I fucking dont. That's the beauty of humanity. We're not one dimensional beings. I can agree w abc and disagree with xyz at the same time.

[trouble-in-space]

Okok, so for the ship thing I would like stranger Things and Marvel(if you want to, totally don't have to) and I would like to say thanks in advance, I hope this isn't to long, but you really don't have to do this if you don't want to, no pressure (:

I'm a gemini, to be honest I'd describe myself as a hippie/metalheads/stoner, I like to make string bracelets, paint, listen to music,explore, just sit by the Riverbank and think, I'm constantly joking or messing around. In a relationship I get flustered and shy easily, just because it feels hard to believe compliments, but im actually very outgoing otherwise. I love to steal my partners clothing because it makes me feel safe, same with cuddling, I just want to feel protected by my s/o. I've had sleep Paralysis in the past so I'd want someone who could help comfort me during those nights. I get angry and frustrated easily and just need to punch a wall, so I'd want someone understanding of that too. I go by she/her and I don't know about labels on my sexuality, I'd date anyone if I liked them no matter the gender.

I dress in colorful pink frilly dresses one day and all black the next, then I'll be caught in fancy butt jeans and a cropped band teeth with fishnets. have hair about to my armpits kinda area, dyed red and bangs. Blue eyes. I'm 5'4 and have a more on the muscular side build. I'm super tan just because I'm outside all the time, but I tan red(people constantly ask if I'm sunburnt) because I'm native American. I have no real tattoos, just some old stick'n'pokes and only my ears are peirced.

Ahhhhh thank you sm for submitting (you’re my first ship AH)

Stranger Things:

I’m really feeling Eddie for you? Like you guys are similar in a lot of ways but different enough for things to work yk? I feel like he would love just sitting by the river with you and would 100% give you his Hellfire shirt. He would also be hellbent on getting you to believe his compliments and affection for you, and would protect you from anything and EVERYTHING.

Marvel:

I’m getting Loki vibes. Like he would find you so interesting. In terms of being able to bring him out of his shell kinda and also being able to fit in with how he already is. You’re duality of how you dress and the things you like would be something he would really admire (if that makes sense). He would protect you with his LIFE, like once he lets you in you’re permanently attached to him yk.

I hope you like this!! I’ve never written stuff like this before so don’t feel pressured to like it lmao

also, you seem super dope!

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I can’t help but to wonder if the reason why he promoted “Our Song” and “Everywhere” so little is because he didn’t want to leave Amelia’s side and do his job properly because deep down he might be scared of what will happen if he leaves her side for his job. This thought makes me worried about the time when he will release his music and won’t give it proper promo because being a boyfriend and staying by her side will be more important than his job. I know I worry too much but I just want him to do good because he works so hard on his music and I don’t want him to let it go to waste because he wanted to stay in London and be with his girlfriend instead of working his ass off to promote the music he works so hard to create.

i'm gonna be honest with you, i think that worry is completely unfounded and unnecessary?? 'our song' was technically anne marie's song, so it most likely would have been her team and label in charge of promoting it, and 'everywhere' was a charity single specifically for the BBC, so of course it wasn't going to be widely promoted. because of that, i don't think either of those examples are really a good representation or prediction of what nh3 promo is going to look like.

plus, we know he's spent time away from her for work multiple times over the past year and a half or so, so the idea that he'd let his relationship supersede his career when it really fucking matters (aka during promo) doesn't make much sense to me yk? from everything we've seen and heard from him over the past 6 years of his career, i think it's safe to say that no one knows just how hard he works or cares about the work he produces more than he does, and means that he's going to do what he needs to do to get it out there in the world. hell, he's even said himself multiple times in the past year and a half (AFTER he started dating amelia) that he wants to wait until things calm down to release more music specifically because he wants to be able to get out there and promote it in person the way he used to before all this pandemic shit

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to Twogami. hi. hope youre well. you can call me Faeryn. i was just wondering if i could get some encouragement?

alot in my life has been shaken up lately and its left me in a state of constant stress and anxiety and panic about everything else in my life. ive found myself second guessing everything to the point where i dont know what to trust anymore, even myself.

one of my biggest worries is that i don't even really know who i am in terms of my gender identity (im afab). at some point or another, ive identified as every label under the sun but still nothing seems right. ive been trying to figure it out for so long that at this point i have no idea what to think. i know im trans, i like the feeling of seeing myself as boy but im also quite feminine in my behavior and presentation. like i enjoy nail polish and some makeup and some dresses and stuff so i end up feeling like... im not boy enough to be a boy yk?

idk. ive stuck with just identifying as queer for now but even that isnt quite... right.

sorry, i know this is alot but, any encouragement would be very very much appreciated. thank you thank you 💫

Hello Faeryn, I can understand how you might be feeling, struggling with your gender identity or feeling like you’re not doing enough to pass can drag you down immensely. 

I’m sorry to hear your life hasn’t been the best lately, feeling anxious after that is completely alright, you have the right to feel that way. Even if the feeling isn’t pleasant at the moment, it will surely pass over time, you will not feel this way forever. Good moments will come sooner than you might believe.

I can get being worried about feeling your gender identity isn’t set in stone, but experimenting with what you’re comfortable with is never a bad thing, you are allowed to take any time you need to figure it out. If you see yourself or identify yourself as a male, behaving femininely doesn’t make you any less of a man. Enjoying nail polish, wearing dresses, none of those make you any less masculine. No matter what anyone else says, if you feel comfortable identifying as a boy, you are a boy. No one can tell you what’s “boy enough”. Only you can judge your gender!

As stated before, you can take all the time you need to figure this out properly. I wish you the best of luck Faeryn. Also do not feel sorry for coming for help, I’m more than glad to help again if you decide to come back.