#i just want to tell ppl it's ok to not want a partnership and still want to live with a friend.

[redysetdare]

Shout out to the non-partnering people out there who want to spend their lives with a friend and live with them without it being a QPR or partnership of any kind.

[powerpuff2003]

I'm so sorry. Those ppl telling you to kys are Way over the line, but you need to understand that you have heavily internalized terf viewpoints. All these people aren't just calling you a terf for no reason. And your deflection that you're "literally trans" is meaningless. Do you think cis women can't have internalized misogyny?

You talk about how some trans women have "cis male mindsets." That's terf rhetoric. You literally just told a trans woman "You're a man." You're a terf.

Your relationship with porn is explicitly what terfs take advantage of to lure people down the radfem pipeline. I'm really worried for you, sis. I'm sorry you've only been met with anger for this. It's understandable, but it's our responsibility to look out for our younger sisters.

Please rethink the conclusions you've come to. They won't make you happy. You'll never be able to surround yourself in trans joy when you're constantly looking over your shoulder for "the bad ones".

I appreciate you being kind in your words instead of simply hostile.

I think a dude with a conversion r*pe fetish is a man pretending to be trans to get his sick kicks and not really trans. That is my opinion on the matter. Assuming that's the incident where I called someone a man that you saw.

If "the bad ones" are homophobic sex pests then yes I will reject them out of simple morality, not "optics".

I understand that I will never be "the good one", I've been down that path, tried, failed, tried again, failed, its tired and it will not work. I do fully know. But I will still fully stand for what I believe is right even if other trans people disagree. Terfs won't agree either, and I'm not trying to pander to them anyway.

I want to surround myself in trans joy, I really do, but as long as there's people who identify as trans women making lesbophobic r*pe kink blogs, femicide jokes, homophobic coercion. As long as these things are ok in some portions of the trans community, I have to alienate certain trans people from my life. I do partake in trans joy with trans friends, in fact almost all of my friends who aren't cis women, are trans people. A large portion of my friend circle is trans women, my girlfriend is transfem, I'm t4t. Trans women are pretty much the center of my life in that respect, seeing as they're the only people I'm interested in forming an intimate life-long partnership with.

If anything its BECAUSE I see myself as a woman in my subconscious that the sexism some trans people expound hurts me so much. And, when they do that, within my head I cannot think of any rationalization other than "they do not really see themself as a woman like I do". I don't know how else to explain it in my head. I have to fear "the bad ones" because in fact some of them are known for preying on the community! Watch The Sasha Manifesto by Keffals.

This is a very difficult and very complex subject for me, I do hope you see that I am being genuine in standing up for what I think is right and am really truly not trying to be "the good trans" as I think that is a losing game. Feel free to message me if you want to have further conversation, I think we could really come to something here.

Also I love your blog aesthetic. SU carried me through my teen years.

[inchidentally]

ok so I'm going to another of tricky asks below - prob just skip since I can tell I'm repeating myself a lot lol

if I hadn't gotten asks about it I wouldn't have known that a subsection of dando people were as serious as they were which is… odd to me. I totally get shipping dando for fun and that Daniel and Lando are buddies but. why pick the guy who's friends with everyone he meets and pretend that is the guy Lando's "secretly in love with" or that they're "more" friends than Lando's other friends... just bc they hang sometimes kasgfkaglh

I've got to stop trying to find any sense in rpf truthers.

but yea Lando and Martin are so sweet together and I hope Martin doesn't have to deal w any of this bullshit in his comments. guy is just enjoying traveling with Lando and vice versa.

(no worries anon I got your intent!)

honestly from a straight up racing perspective it's enough evidence in itself. the fact that Lando has repeatedly said how well Oscar suits McLaren and is pushing him to be his absolute best is all anyone should need.

but also look at the standings! Carlos and Charles, Lando and Oscar - they're doing amazingly well with the current partnerships !! it's why Carlos is so eager to remain where he is, he's already in the best place for him to get not just another race win but a shot at WDC. Lando and Oscar are a natural part of the McLaren youth legacy and Max has pipped them as being his biggest potential headaches in 2024 lol. everything is good and we still get plenty of car|ando content so let's leave it alone!

oh babe I'm sorry that was misleading there's no extensive drama (that I know of) back when I started following Lando content I noticed that the LN4 account (mainly the twitter one) is run by people who get waaaayyyy too into pushing rpf ships for my comfort. I'm massively against containment breaches between fandom to official accounts.

if other ppl enjoy it then it's their choice but it's not my cup of tea!

honestly this is just how it's going to be from here on out. Liberty Media and Netflix already have relationships with certain podcasts and social media accounts and "bromances" are an easy way to get merch, subscriptions and tickets sold. as a sort of fake fan myself I rly can't be on any high horse about "real fans" lol but I do at least keep all my silly shit on tumblr and ao3 alone.

block and unfollow like crazy, anon. eventually your algorithm will learn like mine has!

when has Lando never not been fun ??? he did the screechy laugh Spanglish fun with Carlos, the doofy fake gay fun with Daniel and now he's gen z funny w Oscar whennnn did Lando ever stop being fun oml

babe it wasn't even that, he was replying to the millionth person asking about his and Esteban's lack of personal friendship and he said that no one should assume a friendship between two drivers. he never said "Charles and Carlos hate each other" agflaslfsa as if F1 media wouldn't be all over that

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ok so there were two others that I'm not going to screenap bc I do NOT want the heat for those opinions lol.

to answer without being too specific: everyone knows how I feel about people who invent conspiracy theories about girlfriends and wowwww that is a leap. and yea shouldn't the fact that they both went offline when we knew them to be alone together at his ranch actually be evidence that they're really in love and not needing to broadcast it ?? that he only pops back up when he's hanging out w guy friends?

I will have a good laugh that ppl managed to leap to not only them having broken up in the past week with zero evidence but that Lando suddenly hopped a plane to "comfort him" and finally be a gay couple jesussss

ok guys this is as much time as I can stomach knowing about this side of fandom for a good while.

remember: block, blacklist, gatekeep, stay safe out there xx

[chicago-poet]

idk i went back and forth on whether to post this bc i dont make a lot of posts and idk why i expect people to care but also i do want to tell someone and have other people know so.

super long confusing musings on my sexuality and stuff under the cut. its long so u dont have to read it but id like it if u could like the post if u wanted please n thank u 💖💖

like ok so for a long time now ive id'ed as an ace lesbian and felt at home with that and now bc of circumstances and reasons ive started thinking again.

but a part of me has always felt so disconnected from other lesbians like they all understood something i didnt and i loved the solidarity and community of being a lesbian but i didnt really understand such a big part of it. wrt being in love and sex and all. like i think i confused wanting that closeness and intimacy as being the same thing as feeling it.

and like i guess the turning point of that is that like i do want companionship and someone in my life but the way i want it is never the way other people do even through casual dating etc like sex and romance...the way i want those things are so specific to me and its feels like a venn diagram thats a circle and no one else is ever going to share that with me. maybe someday but its such a slim window to fit into that i cant expect it of other people right now.

but ive been reading abour qprs bc thats another thing ive been super critical on in the past (and i still kinda cringe hearing it) and i mean on one hand qweerplatonic feels like one of those tumblrisms thats code for "my discord relationship" and i feel like when you have a community based on a lack of something people fill the vacuum with like. fandoms and strawman comics. like im adult that pays taxes i dont have squishes on anyone.

but like that aside. i do get it. i like my independence and not having to compromise on things and it would be nice to have a life partner who is similar in those things but still wants the emotional intimacy and exclusivity and commitment of a partner. and qpr is like the best way to explain what i need to other people ig

and in that way i finally understood that like. being acearo is a very specific way to want a connection with someone and u do need words for that so u can find other people like u bc most people dont feel like that and its not wrong to want words to explain what u want to other people and if qpr is the best way to phrase it then i guess im stuck with it.

and then its like so do i feel attraction??? have i ever? but im still gay?? how can i be gay and also acearo? but it makes sense to me bc like i want a partner someday and it is more than a friendship. like in the past ive had very intense girl friendships that blurred the line where we would cuddle and hold hands and talk abot getting married and everyone negged us about dating/thought we were dating and ive always been the one to shy away from it when it came down to finally confront it.

but then when it comes time to say if were gfs i just....dodge the question forever. and i feel guilty about stringing ppl along like that bc i know they want something more than that and im ignoring it. like ive always been happiest in that gray undefined zone thats more than friendship but not quite dating.

like ive always been free with affection and then uncomfortable when someone (understantably) wants it to mean something more. ive always been the one whos not as into the other person while theyre enamoured with me. like my ex just used to gaze at me and say they love me and id be like .....thanks....you too! bc i did love them and i thought we wanted the same things. but it was complicated.

ALL THIS is to say that if i do enter in some kind of life partnership somehow it would still be with a woman or non binary person most likely bc i feel most comfortable with them and still dont like men in that way. so im still gay?

but u know. i identified as bi before as a lesbian before and then an ace lesbian so right now im in a phase of my life where aromantic asexual lesbian is the best way to describe me and im okay with that. it doesnt have to make sense to anyone else but me. it can be contradictory and confusing and "incorrect" but like if thats what i feel descibes me best then thats how im gonna be. its lonely but its also freeing because at least now i realize that i know what i want and i can have what i want if i meet the right person someday.

flowers for u if u read this far down💐💐💐💐💐💐 thank u to anyone who read any of that.

[save-the-spiral]

PLS PLS LIST THE SWAPS!! TELL ME ABOUT THE SIBLINGS AND ALSO HIFUMI BECAUSE I LOVE HIM (IF YOU WANT!) I will also send more questions in the morning too, excited to see what you’ve been working on!!

OK OK OK !!!!! AHH! So, before assigning talents, I swapped the pools, so for the first game, I use the talents from the second game, and vis versa! For some i listed gender, sexuality, or neurodivergencies, though this isn’t all of them, and I haven’t developed them all to the same level!

This is SO long. I didn’t even bother mentioning things like my plans for the killing games. (I have DR1 planned out in full, but only parts of DR2 and the v3 anime)

THANK YOU FOR THE ASK MY HEART SKIPPED A BEAT IN HAPPINESS WHEN I SAW I HAD NEW ASK NOTIFS!!

LIST:

Trigger Happy Havoc (first game)

Kyoko Kirigiri- Ultimate Luckster- Mastermind (: Sometimes lesbians can be evil okay! was trained as a detective like everyone in her family and didn’t get the ultimate :) she’s definitely not mad about that :) her luck cycle depends on how far she plans things ahead. her good luck is when she’s spontaneous! She hates when ‘normal’ people are accepted by ultimates.

Makoto Naegi- Photographer (Mostly wildlife and nature photography, with Sayaka helping him for some animal photography (: trans and bi <3 One of sayaka’s birds nests in his hair like all the time)

Kiyotaka Ishimaru- Ultimate Swordsman (AUTISTIC ICON, has trained in kendo since he was a kid, then was essentially given away to the Fujisaki clan by his very stressed dad. Semiverbal, rarely speaks.)

Chihiro Fujisaki- Ultimate Yakuza (Taka is her bodyguard! His family is in debt to hers, the Fujisaki clan is the most powerful in Japan. trans icon, of course, dates Sayaka! Very direct, though she’s far more delicate and polite when talking to taka, her best friend)

Sakura Oogami- Ultimate Nurse (Works as an EMT- her clan still is in martial arts, so she’s still very buff, she assists in injuries at the family dojo. Autistic Icon)

Asahina Aoi- Ultimate Gamer (ULTIMATE ADHD. streams and has a ton of fun, will ramble while breaking records, demigirl who loves her girlfriend sakura :)

Mukuro Ikusaba- Ultimate Chef (Works best with ‘cheap’ food, and making them taste good. a byproduct of growing up on the streets with junko, and junko being bored of the same old food they dug out of the trash. now works closely with junko for her teams’ nutritional needs! autistic and sapphic.)

Junko Enoshima- Ultimate Team Manager (there are SO many sports she can never get bored, and the professional scene is always changing! prefers coaching womens’ teams, because being an ultimate brings them more publicity and usually higher pay :)

Mondo Oowada- Ultimate Prince (OH MY BOY. trans adhd icon. now the crown prince of Novoselic, with a reagent in his place until he comes of age. His service dog Chuck is a maltese and an absolute sweetheart. Chihiro takes him under her wing to teach leadership. also dates taka later OF COURSE, though they’re poly and I may add more ppl to their relationship later.)

Celestia Ludenburg- Ultimate Musician (specializes in violin, most strings, though she can play any instrument. grew up poor, dedicated herself to an instrument and persona to cope)

Byakuya Togami- Ultimate Musician (Yep. two musicians. two catty trans gay icons about to throw down. they HATE each other and grew up as rivals. specialize in classical, they literally tore a professional orchestra full of grown adults apart trying to make them side with who was the best musician. they’re so good that they’re matched, and Hope’s Peak accepts them as one student and combined ultimate. they room together. they fight. Literally if one of them gets expelled, the other does too, so they’re STUCK. eventually they become literally inseparable and insufferable together like the WORST siblings. I love them.)

Sayaka Maizono- Breeder (animal handler) (Specializes in birds!!!!!! has songbirds on her shoulders all the time. will give unsettling animal facts without realizing they’re unsettling. sends her songbirds to serenade chihiro when they start dating <3)

Yasuhiro Hagakure- Gymnast (you see this tall goof who acts like an older brother to everyone and wonder HOW he’s a gymnast. he’s completely different in competitions, though still lighthearted. becomes a big brother figure to mukuro and junko especially <3 also trans bc i say so.)

Leon Kuwata- Traditional Dancer (he just. kinda hates it. it takes SO much work and effort but he takes to it naturally. his cousin kanon is NOT like in canon, instead she’s helpful. he’d literally rather be doing anything else. doesn’t know how to do anything like... basic either. can’t cook. cant do his own laundry. everything was dedicated to traditional japanese dancing before he attended HPA.)

Toko Fukawa- Engineer (writes schematics and is very good at it. gets VERY upset when her plans go wrong. her notes are orderly and perfect. host for their system!)

Syo- Mechanic (a factive of genocider syo, NOT an actual killer. she’s a protector mainly, and also is more adept at hands on skills when it comes to fixing things, her hands are less shaky. Her notes are a disaster and she does it to spite Toko.)

Hifumi Yamada- (???) (reserve course) Protagonist! My BOY. HIFUMI IS GOOD OKAY. He’s autistic and loves anime and gaming! he’s not particularly ultimate-leveled at them, or anything else! Attending Hope’s Peak as a reserve course student! At one point he joins the student council as a reserve course representative even if he’s only a freshman :) He’s also a moderator in Hina’s livestream chat, under the username of JusticeHammer, fastest ban hammer this side of the internet. He's internet friends with hina and sakura, and doesn’t realize Oh We Go To the same SCHOOL until he bumps into them. and realizes hina doesnt know what he looks like. but sakura does. its hilarious. he’s aroace, and during the year they’re locked in HPA, is in a queer platonic partnership with Hina and Sakura, while they’re dating each other. it’s great.)

Goodbye Despair! (second game)

Peko Pekoyama- Lucky student (ohohoh. her luck relies on her conviction. if she has doubts her bad luck strikes HARD. trans!, was taken in by Fuyuhiko’s family when she was a baby, grew up as just another kid in the family. They all expected Fuyu to go off to HPA on his own and then BOOM acceptance letter)

Fuyuhiko Kuzuryu- Programmer (He. gets so angry while coding. He has an array of rubber ducks to talk to and work through his coding issues with. trans of course. Very protective of Peko when people say she doesn’t have a ‘real’ ultimate. ADHD and Autistic)

Sonia Nevermind- Writer (Literary Girl) (Her family immigrated to Japan when she was young! She writes a lot of serial killer novels, murder mysteries and horror and all that! Trans and bi :)

Gundham Tanaka- Detective (YEAH my guy is a detective. still talks Like That. Trans and bi and he and Sonia were kinda-dating (t4t autistic power couple in the making) when things started happening. He spends some time with his cool older sister who he looks up to a LOT. He and Sonia talk through things together a lot, they both have those red string walls, one for murder cases, another for a fictional plot lmao.)

Mahiru Koizumi- Moral Compass (my GIRL. autistic. Her morals rely a lot on people taking responsibility and being reliable, and she ends up having to work through some biases she didn’t realize she had when she arrived at HPA. Is still protective of Hiyoko, though that protectiveness is spread a bit thinner to extend to the rest of the class.)

Hiyoko Saionji- Clairvoyant!!! (HI YES I COULD TALK ABOUT HER FOR DAYS. Has actual visions in dreams and when she suddenly faints, but doesn’t really realize they’re uhh Real Visions for a WHILE. uses her status as an ultimate clairvoyant to trick and bully kids when in school for a LONG time, though her homelife wasn’t great with her grandmother trying to find ways to make her visions more consistent. SHES ALSO 12 WHEN SHE JOINS THE 77TH CLASS. she’s just so advanced in academics and her ultimate is so interesting hope’s peak cant HELP but scout her early. she has SO many issues guys no one appreciates hiyoko enough, autistic gifted kid hiyoko my beloved.)

Akane Owari- Gambler (started gambling to help out her family and Got Good at it. is very very conscious of money and food like all the time. Runs the hope’s peak betting pools once she arrives. these ultimates bet on a lot of things. she ALWAYS wins. until she doesnt!!!)

Mikan Tsumiki- Martial Artist (ohhhh Mikan. Still anxious and clumsy (though not like THAT in canon) and literally no one looks at her and thinks Oh The ULTIMATE martial artist?? it isn’t until you see her in the ring that you understand. She started learning self defense as a kid because her (bad) parents essentially said she had to rely on and protect herself and no one else would help.)

Kazuichi Souda- Pop Idol (OH TRANS ICON? he’s nervous and paranoid about Everything still, though now it’s like. oh the entire world is always watching my every move this is Okay (: has the brightest neon album eras. he literally keeps up a like. weird chad persona when interacting with people because he’s masking how hard he’s constantly just internally screaming.)

Nagito Komaeda- Soldier (AHAHAH my mans got issues problems disorder he’s a messssss, this trans guy, this absolute gay. this boy leveled a city of thousands of people with his own hands and some bombs. Still has medical issues, but most of his like. treatments and medicine is hold hostage as long as he stays in line. believes the ends justify the means and anyone who dies to him is obviously weak, because look at him! he’s weak, but that doesn’t matter because he doesn’t have to be the strongest, he just has to be stronger than the weakest scum.)

Chiaki Nanami- Heir (OOF. Agender, uses any pronouns. Doesn’t really. enjoy being the heir. grew up with Byakuya in the same circles. she treats the economy and stock market and stuff like games. enjoys gaming but isn’t good at them. collects so many things. has halls full of collections. Her parents stopped controlling her once she was able to prove she had more money than them and could literally bankrupt them if she wanted.)

Hajime Hinata- Baseball Star (Chiaki’s best friend, his family was upper middle class until he hit it BIG as a baseball star. wants to do BIG things and wants to attend hope’s peak more than anything!! Doesn’t really think of baseball as his THING, just a means to an end! trans :)

Teruteru Hanamura- Biker Gang Leader (started with shaking down some jerks who didn’t pay their food and drink tabs at his mama’s restaurant. now he RUNS their tiny town. His siblings are essentially gang mascots, he works hard to keep them out of trouble (while bringing them to like. meetings where he ends up beating a dude almost to death. its fine). most of what he does it to get more money to keep the restaurant afloat and care for his mama with her health conditions.)

Nekomaru Nidai- Fashionista (the drama. the CHAOS. most people are like ohhh we can never understand this artistic genius when he’s literally just. vibing and has ADHD and a love for coffee. Works a lot on accessible clothing lines for disabled people! Also he and Kazuichi work together sometimes, Nekomaru is good at calming Kaz down and seeing like, the root of whatever problem and making it better. ALSO A TRANS ICON and just flaunts it.)

Imposter- In the hope’s peak days they are impersonating Ryota Mitarai, as a part of the 77th class. In the Killing Game they impersonate Mondo Oowada as the Ultimate Prince. They’re doin’ their best.

Ibuki Mioda- (???) (Izuru Kamakura) Protagonist! Gundham Tanaka’s older sister (though they’re in the same school year). Nonbinary and using just. an array of pronouns alongside she/her, and jokingly fights with gundham for neopronouns like MOM said it’s MY TURN on the rawrself pronouns. She attends the reserve course to stay at her brother’s side. She dresses loudly and acts even louder because !!! she wants to stand out!! in the middle of this drab reserve course hell!!  but when things go down, she wants to be someone, to be worthy of being her amazing brother’s big sister. so she accepts some offers.

NON-KILLING GAME:

Ryota Mitarai- Ultimate Analyst (stays in his room. He’s terrified of the outside world but fascinated by it. watches hope’s peak academy through security feeds, picking up on little details. he just wants to understand things but never looks at the big picture.)

Chisa Yukizome- Ultimate Boxer (Homeroom teacher!! She’s working really hard and believes in everyone! Some are intimidated by talent, but she’s never hurt anyone outside of the ring! Dating Kyosuke)

Juzo Sakakura- Ultimate Student Council President (Has anger issues, though his work at reigning them in assisted in becoming an Ultimate. Was responsible for security and the Hope’s Peak student council. Dating Kyosuke)

Kyosuke Munakata- Ultimate Housekeeper (Meticulous, works himself to the BONE even if he’s good enough to not have to do that. Is working on establishing another Hope’s Peak! Dating Chisa and Jozu!!!)

Seiko Kimura- Ultimate Blacksmith (GIVE MY GIRL KNIVES!! She’s an anxious gal, always wearing a facemask that filters the air in her forge because she has some respiratory problems. she prefers making more decorative pieces like an artist, but sometimes can create utilitarian pieces or tools to fit specific needs. Still a doormat)

Ruruka Ando- Ultimate Pharmacist (She constantly asks Seiko for new tools for her developments in medicine, saying its all for the advancement of humanity, so Seiko denying any request is SELFISH, though she never thinks to make anything for seiko’s health issues. Dating Izayoi. Specializes in medicine for mental health. Not Doing Great :)

Sonosuke Izayoi- Ultimate Confectioner (He loves sweets. LOVES them. Creates things that look plain, ordinary. but taste so GOOD you CRY and maybe ascend for a little bit. sometimes Ando makes cool new drugs to put in the sweets, who knows! It’s a mystery! He always has like. a huge refrigerated case of fresh cakes, and constantly has a lollipop in his own specialty recipe in his mouth.)

[normal-thoughts-official]

I see so many people saying that lydia was/is a qUeEn and a hEro for being okay when alec kissed magnus at 'their wedding' but like...She knew that alec had feeling for magnus before the wedding and still was going to go ahead and marry him which meant that alec well them both would've been unhappy🤷🏽‍♀

I just don't like lydia tbf, she kinda rubbed me the wrong way but that might be just me😕

diaiduahs ok so i debated with myself whether or not to answer this question for like 0.3 seconds before i realized that wait a minute, i have never shut the fuck up about what i think ever in my life. who am i kidding. but anyway fair warning that my opinion on lydia is pretty unpopular among "both sides" of that debate (i don't think there are ever just two sides to any issue but anyway)

also warning that i'm not dissing you or your ask in particular, just giving my opinion based on what i've seen and heard on this debate in the fandom

here's the thing. i don't think she did wrong by accepting alec's marriage proposal. i wouldn't say she did right either, in my opinion her choice was pretty morally neutral

because it would have been different if alec had no choice on the matter and she chose it knowing it would make him miserable. but that's not what happened at all

alec did have a choice. in fact, the fact that he proposed to lydia was something that made his parents (who are the main responsibles for his closeting) fucking pissed. he wasn't doing it to please them; he was doing it as part of his own plan

and again, don't get me wrong, i'm not saying that this wasn't extremely traumatic and awful to him. he wouldn't have even considered it if it weren't for the awful conditions of his closeting and abuse, and he would have been miserable for the rest of his life. but alec had agency. he wasn't helpless. he was making a decision based on the shit conditions that he was in, trying to ensure his own safety and success. the conditions were horrible, but every decision we make is based on the environment we are in. and acting as if lydia was somehow forcing him into this marriage is acting as if alec didn't have autonomy to make his own choices, which i think is pretty unfair to him

one more time! i'm not saying it isn't fucked up that he had to make that decision. i know that ppl a lot of times say "lol it was their choice" regarding ppl staying in the closet to wave off the trauma of closeting and debates about queerphobia in general. the closet wouldn't even be a choice that's presented if queerphobia didn't exist. no one's choises exist in a vacuum, we are all dealing with the material conditions of our lives, and queerphobia is a huge part of that; one that makes the best choices for us impossible. so like, no, he wasn't BY ANY MEANS 100% free to choose what he wanted. but he DID have agency in his decision to propose to her

besides, what was she supposed to say? "no ur gay lol"? it's not like outing him would have been an amazing move. and of course she could have said no and not said that it's because alec is gay and would never be happy with a woman, but honestly, what the fuck kind of right does she have to make that choice for him? she doesn't even know him. she has no right to tell him what he should do with the plate of shit that homophobia and abuse has handed to him, especially when he obviously is trying to keep his agency and have control over his situation and choosing to marry lydia was a part of that. again, maryse was pissed. when alec chose to marry lydia, he was doing it for himself

what would have happened if she had said no? he would have ended up marrying another girl. and probably one that his parents picked, not him. like, let's please give alec credit here. he chose to stay in the closet, but he was fighting being just a pawn in his parents' game from the start. and it's not like either of them had any illusions about what this marriage was; it was a business arrangement at best. alec called it a partnership. they both just wanted to use that situation to their favor. and in shadowhunter culture, that's normal (i'm not saying that's a good thing, just that it's a fact that influences her decision to say yes as well). like, do you think maryse and robert loved each other? we haven't really seen any other shadowhunter marriages so i can't say for others, but it sounds to me like marriages of convenience were pretty standard. if i were alec, id probably be relieved that she had said yes, because then they'd both be in a situation where they knew exactly what they were getting into and he didn't want to pretend

and don't get me wrong, i'm not saying she did alec a favor or some shit. i'm just saying i can't really see how she is doing him harm in that situation, and that i think this take is taking away a lot of alec's agency and if i were him i'd be pretty pissed about that lol

but tHEN we have the Lydia Stans who ALSO take his agency just as much with this absolute nonsense take that she was a "hero" because she "let" him call off the marriage. excuse me lol? he wasn't hers for her to "let" him do anything. what could she even DO to "not let" him kiss magnus? at best, she could have thrown a tantrum. which would have been pretty ugly, but like. pointless. she can't make him stay and if she had tried to this would make her a fucking asshole and a villain. but the fact that she wasn't a villain doesn't make her a hero lmao

she did the bare minimum! sure, she was gracious about it, it was nice that she said that he deserved to be happy, but still the bare minimum. it was alec's choice, not hers. she doesn't have any right to force him into this marriage, and she didn't have the means to, either, which is part of why i think her choice to accept his proposal was morally neutral

and god it's annoying as hell that ppl act as if she was doing some kind of favor by not being incredibly violent and homophobic and trying to force him into a marriage with her lol? like not being homophobic should be the least we expect. and again, alec can make his own choices. he didn't need her permission to do jack shit

so when it comes to the whole alec situation, i'm pretty neutral towards lydia. it's whatever. she was barely there for that plotline anyway. when it comes to the doyalist perspective of it all, i am pissed as hell that she seems to be so popular within the fandom as if she did something incredible or whatever, but my feelings towards her as a person/character would have been pretty neutral

but tHEN we have the fact that "both sides" of this debate openly and completely ignore all the other fucked up shit she did, like trying to arrest izzy for saving a downworlder's life (idc if she changed her mind, it was still gross) or her openly racist comments. her comment about raj should "cut back on the smartass after being manhandled by a warlock" was one of the racist comments that stuck with me the most in tHE WHOLE ENTIRE SHOW, because like. what??? warlocks are literally immortal powerful beings with access to magic shadowhunters can't DREAM of. and the "warlock" she's talking about is MAGNUS BANE, not only one of the most powerful of them, but someone that she supposedly admires??? like, my god, she was all but fangirling about him coming to the institute and then it's like. wow raj how could you lose to someone so inferior

like are you kidding me???? tell me how this comment makes ANY sense whatsoever unless you are the most shadowhunter supremacist person to have ever lived. there is no reason at all to presume that losing to a warlock is humiliating (especially considering how them powerful they are) unless you believe that shadowhunters should be inherently better than them at everything

but we never talk about that, now do we

so...... the super lydia-positive corner of the fandom annoys me to no end but overall this whole discussion just tires me from "both sides". i don't like her, and i hate that she is so loved when the shit she did is ignored and most of the stanning comes from a pretty belittling vision of alec anyway, but i also think the anti-lydia side focuses entirely on the wrong issues regarding her character

[kewltie]

the idea that bakugou katsuki, a war hero and the empire's hound, is a man of great stature and even fiercer reputation of a volatile powder keg yet quite frankly so freaked out by izuku, HIS OWN HUSBAND, attempt of playing footsie that he broke a table IS SO HILARIOUS TO ME!! katsuki spend so long giving himself to his country and ppl and that HE literally had NO TIME for romance or like consider any romantic entanglement let alone think of the husband he left behind while he chase after new adventures; so yea he's a goddamn virgin lmao.

even when he's back home now his job as the empire's hound (which basically taking on tasks too dark and secretive that nobody can touch) means he running around the slums of the city to catch baddies so he's constantly hanging around other lowlifes SO HE GOT A BAD REPUTATION. a scoundrel and rake is what the rumors say about him and they all sigh pitifully when they spot izuku bc poor izuku, to have such a terrible no good husband hang around brothel houses :((( WHICH IS FUCKING FUNNY bc katsuki is devout in his marriage vows and also hello VIRGIN!! not that anyone know that, NOT EVEN IZUKU bc believe in katsuki's honor in their marriage but HE HEARD THE RUMORS and katsuki does keep v beautiful friends around (they're his informants lol) so izuku thought katsuki used to play around but now that's married he doesnt and wont.

so izuku GOT INTO HIS HEAD that katsuki is ~experience~ and prob had like a hundred lovers in the past while izuku is virginal and chaste and BORING so he tries v v hard to learn how to a good lover which means taking advice from racy romance books from his book club lmao. look, izuku is a quirk learner and HE'S always open to new experience and he's going to be a good husband and lover ok!!!!! so he's taking lesson to try to seduce katsuki and get his interest but he's so new at this he's afraid katsuki will laugh a him and find him lacking... so when he heard katsuki was hanging around one of the most famous oiran, a super high class prostitute, izuku IS SO JEALOUS bc how can izuku compare to such a beautiful and talented being??? so he thought he ramps up his game and tried for a footsie W KATSUKI BUT ????!!!

katsuki's reaction isn't to laugh and/or tease him about it but BROKE A DAMN TABLE as he reeled back and looked at him in shock and horror and izuku IS SOOO CONFUSED like???? did he do something ??? is that not how you play footsie??? OMG did he embarrassed himself?!! izuku thought he didn't come on strong enough, that his game was just too weak that it drove katsuki away which make izuku even more determine to be better next time! esp when he had the idea to meet up with the oiran and take a personal lesson on seducing his hubby lol. not knowing AT ALL that katsuki was internally SCREAMING ABOUT IT bc izuku, his super traditional and proper husband, just fucking ran his foot up katsuki's THIGH and he's did it all coolly like HE'S NOT FEELING KATSUKI UP UNDER THE TABLE AND AS;DJFAS;DJF. look, they're both dumb virgins who think the other is like some experience lover when in truth neither of them HAVE ANY EXPERIENCE AT ALL and they really aren't equipped to deal with any attempt of seduction/flirtation properly even though THEY'RE MARRIED TO EACH OTHER!!!!

i love the idea of clothes and accessories acting as symbolism and a state of mind. it's a constant theme in a lot of my fics - how and what you dress can set the tone of the entire space you occupied, sending a wordless message out into the world.

izuku normally dressed in traditional kimono all his life but when he left the countryside and moved into the city to be with katsuki where western influence have taken roots and many new western trends are popular right now, izuku starts to adapt and fashion is one of them. the shift from izuku's kimono to a western dress and pantsuits parallels his shift in perspective from the tradition views he hold and to new ideas brought by his new environment. though it doesn't mean everything old and tradition are bad while new things are all good!! izuku loves his kimonos and there's a history that come with them as they are handmade custom and pass down within his family so there's a lot of meanings and legacy to these old kimonos; news thing may offer a better insight but there's still a lot of value in tradition. like how in the first scene izuku decide to change his whole wardrobe to meet katsuki for lunch and how formal and austere he dressed, changing his demeanor as though he's putting on an armor. it's the way they make him feel stronger and confident that he may not feel otherwise. in that moment he fell back into his kimono, something he had known and grown up with all his life so it's the most comfortable for him and hold him up even when his doubts and insecurity weigh him down. this is the armor he chosen to wear when he's about to go to battle. the type and color of the kimono he wore, the way his hair is pinned and a certain hair accessory, and the mortif sewn into the kimono are all signs of his mood and how each is like a plate of armor on top of each other, layer and by layer building up his confident.

izuku lacks confident that much is clear esp when he'd pretty up uproot his whole life to move to the city to be with katsuki and uphold his place as katsuki's husband. he knows he's lacking in this strange new environment so his only defense mechanism is to fall back on old ways. izuku wants to be firm when he see katsuki and by dressing in that austere and cold formality of the kimono with dark colors and phoenix motif his message is that he wont be subdued by w/e katsuki say; and he says it w/o ever having to say a single word :P

izuku is really obsessed w being a good spouse, omega, and fulfilling his duty bc that's all he has ever been taught and that's how he measure his own worth. if he's not being upholding the honor and prestige of the background household,,, what use is he then? he's so desperate to be that 'good spouse' who doesn't complain, who doesnt question, and who doesn't fail at any task given to him that he come off as this unfeeling and obedience doll who only know how to stay faithful at his husband's feet which isn't izuku at all. we know he's endlessly curious, ravenous for knowledge and new ideas, reckless to a fault, and so v v v kind that it can hurt him but those aren't necessary quality for a spouse of a future duke so he squashed it and put up pretense of a more poise, charming, and compose person. which few even see through his mask BUT ofc katsuki eventually does and he hates when izuku puts up a front and hide his true feelings from him and that's where their first argument come from. IZUKU BEING PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE AT HIM and katsuki telling to GET MAD, YELL AT HIM, ETC he rather izuku be real with him then having to face this smiling doll who only know how to carefully chose his words and say things he doesnt really mean when he want izuku to poke and prod and get angry and emotional at him bc he knows underneath that smile is a cat w claws lol. at the end of it izuku only wants to be included in katsuki's world bc his job is v v v important to him and to be on the outside and hearing rumors and stories of what katsuki is doing and not actually a part of it hurts izuku deeply bc they're married and in this together!! katsuki prefers to keep izuku from the ugly side of his job bc well it's dangerous and there's a unsightly things he doesnt want izuku to see and/or exp but izuku, wants to bear katsuki's burden too so he doesn't have to go at this alone!! marriage is partnership after all.

it's an interesting dynamic of where izuku keeps pushing more from katsuki and katsuki being a closed of jerk about it trying to keep a distance bc he has no time to entertain a relationship bc OF HIS V IMPORTANT JOB even tho they're already marry but izuku is persistence lol. they're going to keep this whole push and pull dynamic till one of them give which is going to be long ass time bc they're both stubborn lol but izuku didn't literally MOVED HIS ENTIRE life to be w katsuki to settle just for marriage w him, he's going to win katsuki's heart also!

[fuckblizzardbearlover]

Why ppl who think the writers dont know exactly what they are doing with Sylvannas are dead, completely and utterly wrong: a Thread

from the official overview

“ The Broken Machine The machine of death is broken, and players entering the Shadowlands will find the realm of the dead in disarray. In the natural order of things, souls are sorted and sent on to an afterlife realm appropriate to the lives they lived, but now, but over the past few years, all souls who have perished—including the innocents slain at Teldrassil—are being funneled directly into the Maw. The Shadowlands are starving for anima even as the Maw continues to grow from the glut of fresh souls. Sylvanas has been seemingly perpetrating acts to bring about great amounts of death and destruction. In partnership with the Jailer, they have been working toward a common end for some time. “

so, i’m sure this will be one of the first things we learn in Bastion. or whereever.

emphasis mine.

past few years...BFA...Legion....ok thats a pair... So what if it is not exactly a few (3 ). Draenor sylvannas didnt have anything to do, But in MoP she didnt balk at causing death at Siege of Ogrimmar or Theramore and, in the Cataclysm she wiped out 3 cities. Catacylsm is the expasnion after wrath. After she died

From Sylvannas Windrunner: Edge of Night

“What did it matter if another corpse filled his vacant throne? Sylvanas Windrunner had her vengeance. The vision that had driven her and her people for years had finally been realized. And not a single fiber of her desiccated, animate corpse cared where the world went from here.It was over now. A part of her was surprised she was even still around, without his lingering presence always tugging at the back of her mind. She backed away from the throne and slowly turned to survey the cold gray world all around her. Her thoughts returned to that place of bliss, her half-remembered glimpse of what lay beyond. Home. It was time.

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She longed for it. A return to peace. The work she had begun in the forests of Silvermoon was finally complete with the death of Arthas. ,,,,,,,,,,,

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She could feel no cold, only a dull ache. She would feel nothing soon. She already felt her spirit reaching a place of calm for the first time in almost a decade. Her weight shifted toward the edge of the drop. She closed her eyes.

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"There are so many!" he barked, falling silent as she raised a finger. "We have only two dozen rangers up there," he said, his voice now a whisper. "They cannot survive that!" Sylvanas didn't turn her gaze away from the dark mass of shambling corpses crushing its way closer to the river ford. It was the height of the Third War, and hours away from Silvermoon's fall at the hands of Arthas's army.

"They merely need to delay them as we fortify the Sunwell's defense," she answered, her tone measured.

"They will die!"

"They are arrows in the quiver," Sylvanas said. "They must be spent if we are to win this."

She was brash. Empty? No—a fighter. She had a warrior's heart.................

Before her waited a grotesque, quivering mass of corpses, their armor piecemeal, their bodies broken, the stench unimaginable. Their plaintive, desperate gazes reminded her suddenly of children. They disgusted her. But their need empowered her. "The Lich King falters. Your will is your own. Are you to be outcasts now in your own land? Or do we embrace the cruel cards fate has dealt us and retake our place in this world?"

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These poor people: peasants, farmers, priests, warriors, lords and nobles… they hadn't yet come to grips with what had happened to them. But for somebody—anybody—to assure them that they belongedsomewhere was electrifying. 

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Already he'd come to embrace his situation, referring to humans as if they were a separate race; she made a mental note to make use of him.

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"The humans will serve their purpose," she answered, her mind already calculating. "They believe they are liberating the city. Let them fight on our behalf and spend themselves for our gain. They are"—she stumbled upon an analogy she'd used before—"arrows in our quiver."

The heaving mass of undead clapped and coughed and hacked gleefully in assent. Sylvanas regarded the whole mob coldly. And so are you, she thought to herself. Arrows I will aim at Arthas's heart.

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No more would she be the vengeful leader of a mongrel race of rotted corpses. Her work was done, and her long-denied reward awaited her

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“"Your people will perish!" said the dark-haired Val'kyr.

.Sylvanas thought about her people. They had come far from their decimated origins, the yearning, confused mob of fresh corpses huddled about the ruins of Lordaeron's wrecked capital. The Forsaken were truly a nation now: a fetid, gore-caked, hideous mass of lifeless husks, skilled in combat, devastating with the arcane arts, and unhindered by fetters of morality. They had been honed into the perfect weapon. Her weapon. And they had struck the killing blow for which she had built them. She cared nothing for their fate."Let them perish!" Sylvanas cried. "I am finished with them!"“

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She saw only darkness.

And then she felt—truly felt, for the first time in a long while. She recoiled. In agony.

Here she was, her spirit once again feeling whole, only to feel it suffer. To feel once more, only to feel abject pain. Cold. Hopelessness.

Fear.

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There were others in the darkness. Things she didn't recognize, because nothing so terrible could exist in the world of the living. Claws tore at her, but she had no mouth with which to scream. Eyes looked at her, but she couldn't look back.

Regret.

She sensed a familiar presence. Recognized it. The taunting voice that had once held her in its grasp. Arthas? Arthas Menethil? Here? His essence rushed to her, desperate, then shrank away in horrified recognition. The boy who would be Lich King. Just a scared little blond child, reaping the aftermath of a lifetime of mistakes. If any part of Sylvanas's soul were not at that moment torn and tormented, she might have even felt—for the first time—the slightest glimmer of pity for him.

Now the others had her. Surrounded her. Gleeful, tormenting, tearing at her consciousness, delighting in her suffering.

Horror.

This was to be her eternity: the endless void, the dark, unknown realm of anguish.

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"Sylvanas Windrunner, Dark Lady, queen of the Forsaken… you may walk with the living again through the sisterhood of the Val'kyr. As long as they live, so too shall you. Freedom, life… and power over death. This is our pact. Do you accept our gift?"

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This was her only way out. But she didn't want to give her assent out of fear. She waited until she felt something more. A fellowship. A sisterhood. Sisters. Separate, they were all trapped. But together, they were free… and with them, she could postpone her fate.

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"I was once like you, Garrosh," she answered, her voice quiet and steady, loud enough only for the warchief to hear. "Those who served me were tools. Arrows in my quiver.

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What he saw was a great black void, an infinite darkness. There was fear in those eyes, but also something else. Something that terrified even the great warchief.

"Garrosh Hellscream. I've walked the realms of the dead. I have seen the infinite dark. Nothing you say. Or do. Could possibly frighten me."

The army of undead that surrounded and protected the Dark Lady was still hers, body and soul. But they were no longer arrows in her quiver, not anymore. They were a bulwark against the infinite. They were to be used wisely, and no fool orc would squander them while she still walked the world of the living.

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Now, look at the description for the Maw

“ This horrific prison houses the most vile and irredeemable souls in existence—ones deemed by the Arbiter to represent a threat to the Shadowlands if left free. Ruled by the enigmatic Jailer who none have ever seen—at least none have seen and lived to tell—the Maw inspires nightmares and legends even among the denizens of the Shadowlands. No one has ever escaped this vile place, and any foolish enough to venture there are never heard from again. “

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So This short story was written before cataclysm launched in 2010. NINE years ago.

So yes “dur Blizz are bad writers that made sylvannas do a 180 and become evil for no reason”

NO. This was the biggest piece of characerization Sylvannas ever got outside of warcraft 3 The Frozen Throne. it establishes that she was a cold person more than willing to treat living people as objects to satisfy the needs of their military and their people. It emphasised MULTIPLE times that i highlighted that she HATED and was disgusted by the forsaken. ANd i emphasised at least twice that She has been using patriotism and their need for someone to care about them as a way to MANIPULATE them. And that was how she was. SHe didnt care about any of them They were just a tool to be used to kill Arthas. and with him gone she was ready to die.

The problem was she was ready to die because she HAD ALREADY DIED. we learn with the SHadowlands that good souls go where they are treated well, and even strong souls are treated well. but Where to evil souls go? either the maw or to the vampire place. She had died and started to enter the good place, Bastion no doubt. as a good protector of the innocent. but Arthas pulled her out and made her a monster

BUT SINCE THEN she became even more of a monster. She let her people embrace hatred. she allowed slavery and torture of prisoners for the sake of destroying life. she thought of nothing but how to USE and ABUSE people in order to get vengence so SHE could get her REWARD.

She became a “most vile and irredeemable soul”. So when she died her soul went to the Maw where it suffered with dark evil souls like Arthas’

and did getting rescued by the valkyre fix her outlook? No . she still saw her people as nothing. but she knew the horrors she’d face if she died, and so she viewed her people as a BULWARK against that.

But whats REALLY interesting is that I think Ion wasnt being completely honest . The lore says that “No one has EVer escaped the Maw of Souls”... however we know that we will do so. And we know that No one has been there. so how can anyone KNOW that no one has escaped. What if they just kept it a secret.

What if the Jailer started to, for whatever reason, decide to take over the afterlife. whether it was personal ambition or seeing the rest as redundant. And he saw this elf soul ESCAPE him. the only one to ever do so. By that Valkyre taking her place. The Valkyre are allegedly created by the souls of hte denezins of bastion, the angel people. So between having a connection to the lich king, guardian of the connection to the Shadowlands, and the fact that they are denezins of the shadowlands.. or were... it makes sense they might have had the power to rescue a soul from the Maw.....with the added help of the soul taking her place.

I emphasised other parts to because i think its important. the Valkyre USED to be denizens of the shadowlands. but supposedly Changed by the lich king. The valkyre emphasised it WASNT just a bond of sisterhood but a bond of hte Valkyre. I think in order to save her from the maw they basically had to enchant sylvannas to magically register as a Valkyre, and thats how they ‘made the switch”. so to speak.

Now remember what happened in Legion? She got a special lantern from Helya, the original Valkyr, who is a master of Death, trapping souls and creating dimensions And who has reason to hate Odyn  who has his own form of afterlife?

So it seems to me that Sylvannas gained the attention of the Jailer when she was the first one to escape. and the fact that she escaped by utilizing Valkyre magic, but she wasnt bound to the ethos of most of the denizens of bastion. I think shortly after her original death she was contacted by him, possibly through the valkyre and they started their pact. 

Ion said that Sylvannas does not have a master, she’s doing things for herself. However that doesnt mean that, just cus the Jailer isnt controlling her doesnt mean he might not be manipulating her.

Jailer starts to usurp the souls. Sylvannas, afraid of going to the maw. begins rampant death,  in order to kill enemies and create a massive army of forsaken to use against any force that would come for her. This rampant death gains the attention of those in the afterlife, including the Jailer who gets more souls do to it. somewhere between Cata and the start of legion he contacts her. When vol’jin is dying he uses his influence to get Vol’jin to name Sylvannas warchief.

She uses her new power to go wherever she wants, which she uses to find Helya, another god of death who has a unique power. Realm magic. using the Lantern, Sylvannas uses the valkyre to send it to the jailer who cuts off the other parts of the afterlife, making it so ALL souls go to the maw. then now that the world threat is over, and she doesnt have to worry about dying herself, she uses her position of power to sew as much death as possible to feed her ally. with the ultimate plan of  them destroying the natural order of life and death.  She gets to be free of him and lets those she deems worthy live free. all others get to be the Jailer’s victims. no more souls wasted on the ‘good’ after lives or regeneration. no more foolish living to ruin a perfect, deathless world.

its all coming together.

[inhonoredglory]

I honestly can’t really get on board w the ending of httyd 3 for the very fact that it felt like what ppl say happens when you get married, that you leave everyone even your best friend and go to your own little bubble w your partner and kids (maybe occasionally seeing them if your lucky) and being that I haven’t been w anyone ever &that I don’t see my future like that it kinda made me sad that the ending kinda just further reinforced the idea that that’s what’s natural idk

OK. This. This is what has been bothering me pretty hardcore since the film ended and I got over the shine of its shocking newness. I don’t want to really promote negativity in the fandom, but it should be addressed and you bring up what I fear the most in most mainstream narratives, and what I thought we were safe from in the HTTYD franchise.

Because HTTYD as a whole is so strongly and so poignantly about the friendship and fierce love of Hiccup and Toothless: theirs is a Love Story, through and through, and let’s be real: HTTYD3 confirmed that by having Hiccup tell Toothless, “I love you” (if anyone out there was confused before) and by paralleling Stoick’s “love is loss” flashback quote with (not Hiccup and Astrid), but Hiccup and Toothless.

So the narrative definitely elevates the friendship of Hiccup and Toothless. I appreciate that. I appreciate that the film knows this is about “the friendship of a lifetime.” Hiccup is selfless to the point of death for Toothless’ happiness. (Toothless has some development issues and a less-than-stellar portrayal of his own separation anxiety, but that’s another issue written about here in this analysis by @e–wills and @kingofthewilderwest)

The theme of the film is that dragons and humans can’t live with each other because humans are too evil. Toothless must protect his dragonkind. Toothless must lead them to safety. I’m not going to go into the details of how those themes were developed in the film (or if they needed more emphasis). That might be another post once I see the film again.

What I am bothered by is how easily the narrative feeds into what you feared: that friendships must inevitably give way to romantic partnerships. Hiccup says he was paying attention to what he wanted, rather than what Toothless needed. He asks Toothless, “am I enough?” And the narrative is telling us, no. We have so many supporting character relationships turned into romances or hints of romances that weren’t that way before––from Snotlout hitting on Valka, that bit of Valka and Eret, Tuffnut and Hiccup, Gobber and Eret. (Again, I’m not saying romance is bad, but romance––of any stripe––was never the hallmark of HTTYD.) And of course… we get Ruffnut trying to decide which man she wants to fall in love with.. because apparently, even her and Tuffnut can’t be complete with just each other (I’m not the biggest RTTE fan, but I honestly adored that ep where Ruff committed herself to Tuff instead of running off with Throk.)

A hugely disproportionate amount of the jokes in the film were ultimately sexual in nature. And when Toothless is swept off his wings by the Light Fury (literally when he fell into the Hidden World w/ her), the cinematic structure of that scene was that traditional fade to black (read: they had sex) we see in romantic movies since the beginning of movies. Toothless is slobbery and horny. Hiccup and Astrid are on fire (literally, and I could probably get very Freudian about that scene too). The overtness of the sexual undertone in this film felt more powerful to me than the direness of the threat (again, with limited runtime they chose to emphasize developing Toothless and LF’s arc than the villains’).

It bothers me because even though we get the world-scope facts about Toothless having to return to his kind and protect his dragons, we get the emotional and narrative scaffolding of a very, VERY tired and traditional trope. Casual fans are gonna see this movie and knee-jerk right back into the idea that friendships are the things you have as a kid and teen growing up. Those have to ultimately give way to “the real world” where you settle with a romantic partner and have a family.

Are families bad? No. Is romance bad? No. But Hiccup and Toothless represented so much more than that; they represented True Love, which is dedicated, committed, and lifelong. I adored GotNF because it placed the hallmarks and symbology of marriage (willing bondage to another person) in the context of Hiccup and Toothless, the most non-sexual of relationships (bless the fact that Toothless is a dragon because it made friendship the only canon interpretation of their bond). HTTYD3 tries to explain GotNF by saying Toothless had no one to go to when he flew off. But now he does.

I still want to see the film again to really get my thoughts together on this, but at the moment I’m grumbling. I soapbox friendships-as-legit-love a lot and so I was triggered somewhat by the shift. Like you, I’ve never been in a romantic relationship either and I really wonder if the biological drive to get hooked is that powerful in people. Maybe it is…

I lowkey want to write a THW Remix fic putting back in all the themes we know and love into the movie, but with the plot intact, cuz the plot of this film was heartbreakingly beautiful and completely relevant to the biggest Hiccup and Toothless question in their growth: when does a love before selfish?

Anyway, I rambled long enough. Please let’s dialogue about this, fandom. I want to work my feelings out on it and hopefully be proved wrong.

I do recommend reading this post by a friend of mine who believes the friendship was not overpowered by the romance.

[jcraft]

Answery Answery!!

For the In-Depth Ask Game post!!

Thank y’all so so so much for sending these in! It really helped me think more about his character and our relationship and he we act differently and oof ouch my heart

Anyways!!!!

1 2 3 5 and 8!

1) Your FO is watching you, love in their eyes and filled with adoration. What does that look like, and how does it feel?

He just looks so mesmerized, and I can see this warm, quiet, content happiness just radiating from him. It feels like the sun shining off the surface of the ocean just before sunset, and the water is warm swirling around your feet but the air is just a cool breeze. It is euphoria. When our eyes meet, it’s fireworks in our hearts.

2) How long did it take your FO to trust you enough to let their guard down around you? Was it an instant thing, or did they have to work towards it? And if they had to work, do you remember the moment that things changed? Describe that moment.

I would say that Lumi took a while to come out of his shell, but I was the one that had walls built up so heavily that he really had to work to help me let them down. He was kind of shy at first, but it was also a “love at first sight” situation, even though he couldn’t initially place what that attraction was. Both of us weren’t sure we could trust each other entirely at first, but we both figured out that we kind of had trust issues and we talked about why and that was a serious turning point for us. As we spent more time together, we withheld less and less personal info abt ourselves, like our past experiences (positive or negative) and what our dreams were and we can openly talk about stuff that might be kind of hard, like the direction in which we wanted our relationship to go or boundaries and what we expect out of each other. It’s really refreshing to have someone that I can trust and who I feel like is listening to me as well as I listen to him.

3) None of us are perfect, what are your favourite imperfections your FO has, and what would they say yours are? Do they compliment one another, or work against one another? Do you ever discuss this between you?

As much as he is perfect for me and I rarely pay attention to this, he can get a little extra clingy sometimes, but I (although less) can be exactly the same way. Whether it’s texting too much, wanting to be around each other 24/7, one of us being sad when the other chooses to have a “friends only” night, whatever, it never gets overwhelming. Honestly, I find it so charming, because while it might seem a tad annoying, I know it comes from a place of deep love, and it’s so wonderful to know that he cares about me so much. For me specifically, I have this problem where I feel the need to “prove” my love to him whether I get him little gifts or try to surprise him with a date night or do little services for him (rub his shoulders and neck, cook dinner, do some chores he was gonna do, run errands and etc.) because that is a major component of my love language. I try not to be too smothering and I hope it never comes across that way, but because we communicate so openly about our boundaries, it’s never become that kind of pent-up stress problem. We try to keep the relationship healthy despite our little imperfections :)

5) Whether or not your relationship was accepted in the beginning, you are together now and people just have to deal with that. What do you think your friends think about your partnership, and how would that contrast with what your enemies would think?

Ok so the tea is like,.,, I’m kind of embarrassed saying it but ANYWAYS when we met he actually got dragged along to the place I work (it’s like a club and they hire people like me to blend in with the crowd to keep up the fun vibe and also encourage ppl to buy booze) by a friend because he was somewhat depressed after getting broken up with by his previous partner (I didn’t know about this for a WHILE actually) who was in his friend group but still wanted to be friendly even though they didn’t want to date him anymore. He was respectful of it but his other friend whom he was closer with was like “nah man you gotta get out of th house” and stuff. They’re a really good friend and just wanted to see him happy so when we first got together they were the most supportive, but the rest of his friend group kind of saw me as just “the rebound girl” and thought that we wouldn’t last for long. They weren’t mean but they were like, not exactly trying to hide that they were a little bit nervous about me joining them esp. because his previous partner was still part of that group. Now, THEY were real nice to me, and tried their best to not be awkward and the two of us actually got along really well, even though there was a little bit of lingering tension. Time fixes a lot of thing though, because the longer I stayed with him and made friends with them, the more we all came to like each other. They’re some really wonderful friends 💞

8) The above was long so this will be deliberately short: Your FO means the world to you, how do you ensure they know that? And how do they prove that to you?

Oh boy here we go. So, earlier I said I have this weird need to prove myself to him or whatever that I’m a good gf but like. Sometimes I just gotta TELL him how much he means to me, and how perfect a time it was that we came across each other and how lucky I feel every day that I have him. I will straight up come over and just cuddle the heck out of him and he is not getting up for at least a half an hour. I know he knows how much I love him because he not only tells me so, but he shows it through how much trust there is between us regarding pretty much anything. He also reciprocates with lots of little kisses and compliments and tells our friends about how sweet and great I am and I’m like ???💛💕!???💖?! and just. I just know he knows I love him. I feel the vibe.

[asillydreamer-on-a-crazyworld]

I think some people are really just stupid. These promo pictures are always misleading, I think everything is fine, we also still get that kiss scene in the bedroom too. And to call Rio abusive when we have dean who is a sexist, misgonyst ahole, but no one says anything about that? I am actually dissappointed about some people from the fandom.

, Look, I don’t think Rio is being emotionally abusive or even physically.  He is being on some level but where their, let’s call, “professional” relationship is concerned. Bc all we know is that she did something probably business related, right? We still don’t know SHIT! ( this is driving me crazy lol). I would say that if we turned this into some kind of contest ( what sounds ridiculous in my head right bc to me this is a serious topic to be toying with) Dean would win by far coz: he undermined Beth for SOO long. He treats her like his property, he doesn’t believe in her at all as someone capable and smart and beautiful! This man suffocated his wife for 20 long years, he lied and cheated and is a manipulative bastard  ( coz, come on, he uses his role as a good father - what I think he isn’t- to mess with her here. Christina said once that Beth still thinks he is a good father and she doesn’t wanna take that away from her kids). On the other hand, we have Rio who didn’t any of these things but he uses his powerful position here to make her do things as he wants, but to be fair to him too, he knows what he is doing here and Beth doesn’t. She messes up and he needs to show her what can happen if things go wrong. They all lose everything they love most.

as my good friend  ltlearthquake   was saying: “Rio is the king and Beth needs to find a way to shift the power between them so she can show him what a queen she can be”. Also, as she also said, Rio is conflicted and I agree with her. She is confusing to him right now. She does things he doesn’t understand and she “claimed part of his territory when she let him touch her”. She took something from him that night and I believe she just doesn’t know how big or important that part was. And like we both agreed while talking to each other, she needs to stand up to him and show him the queen she is. She needs to start telling him what is on her mind, to call him on his BS, she needs to stand up to him or he will remain abusive in their partnership. AND I BELIEVE SHE WILL DO THAT AS THEY GET CLOSER. Coz u can’t tell me they won’t.

I believe we’ll be ok, dear anon, just like u said, bc they will keep working together and we have visual proof that they’ll work things out between them!

But again,  I ask of u and everyone else a little bit of patience and to keep an open mind regarding other ppl’s opinions and point of views here, bc there is no “right side” on this. Coz ppl actually talk about Dean and call him a lot on his BS in the fandom too! They are not blind to his own faults and shady ass.

I think things will be resolved and we’ll learn more about Rio and see him and Beth actually talking to each other about what they are doing and what they are to each other as well. We just need to be patient and, again, enjoy the ride.

I’m confident things will work out eventually!

[villainship]

[SWTOR OC challenge: R - Day 8]

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8. Romances. A companion? An NPC? One of your OCs? Someone else’s? Nobody? Explain!

- Tarskal - As featured on this blog overall: TD <3 Cianna. (There’s a whole tag for it.) . . .OTHER than that, Tarskal has been very active in the seducing of all sorts of people. All over. All the time. Doesn’t change his way of life just b/c he picked a favorite. In fact, while things were starting up with Cianna he was also enjoying spending time with his new pal Vette, which turned into a thing that went on a very long time. She eventually realized she was forming her own identity for herself, and his ideas didn’t line up with it--nor did she want to be increasingly bumped to the backseat behind Cianna. She and Cianna had learned to be friends, but Vette dumps TD and leaves eventually. (Their tag. hehhehh) Keran & Adijjah are examples of ppl whose company he enjoys enough for booty calls, but. Like. Doesn’t qualify as “romantic”. At some point into his tenure as Emperor’s Wrath (probably?? My timeline is not well-established) he also ends up in a persistent relationship with Zahied, a jaded, middle-aged dude on the enemy side of the battlefield. By that time TD is also a bit older, married, and has a kid like 6 years old or so. He & the Republic officer don’t see this as a romance (at all) either. It’s not. But they do have an Understanding (mostly unacknowledged) that makes it. . . a little more like a partnership than JUST a “hate-fling” that turned into a long-term benefits-related arrangement.

- Kirryl - She’s been on the flirt with Dani’s Zet’nuri (fun & lovely green twi’lek who does some less-than-legal business). That’s more of a casual nice time for them, and Kirryl isn’t one to catch feelings--most of the time. 8O Somewhat earlier in her life, she got. . . Almost. . . emotionally wrapped-up with a SITH. Liio definitely got it bad for her, but things couldn’t stay the way they were & the conflict of circumstances (not to mention values) separated them before they worked out what to do about their chemistry/connection.

- Arameis - His view was that JEDI DON’T DO ROMANCE. But his heart is too soft, and Adijjah is too soft, and he has himself a problem. He tries to pretend for quite a while that it’s OK if they’re only friends and she keeps meeting other people. . . .He can’t pretend forever that he’s succeeded in maintaining detachment. \8)

- Kallir - He was with a fellow cadet in Intelligence’s alien agent program when he was younger. Kallir may or may not have started to think it was going to be an actual relationship, but the other young man (”Yan” the twi’lek) was actually a terrible person. It got very unhealthy. Absolutely miserable times for a small pumpkin. When he worked with Sanju Pyne on Balmorra he had some real. . . /Pining/. . . feelings. X) But he never told him. Tried to move on quickly as he could. Kallir was very lonely, on a whole, until he and Keran ended up meeting at work on Dromund Kaas. He had some in-house/desk-job spy tasks, and Keran was an apprentice with chores around the citadel. Keran is the flirty one who started it. They went out on a date, then some more dates. . . basically with casual intent. One or the other of them was often away for work, which kept them apart. But they continued seeing each other when they could, started to really WANT to see each other more, and generally got closer & more into each other over time. Until finally Kallir needed to ask if Keran saw him as his. . . boyfriend?! Dumb Keran didn’t think to tell him earlier in those words. ^3^ (Their tag~)

(Bonus)

- Elenir - We haven’t done much to feature them because Troopers aren’t our area of interest, but Dani & I ship ours. Elenir is cyborg lesbian, & Kaashla (whose name I can’t even spell??) is a lovely purple togruta. Both have big muscles & big guns (literal guns), and are loyal soldiers of the Republic. Also a headcanon I had previously: Elenir having a crush on Shae Vizla.

- Lyir - Before Arameis can come to terms with liking a girl, Lyir and Adijjah probably gonna have a cute fling. Lyir is very outgoing and cuddle-happy. (He will still win over Arameis as a friend despite confused-Jedi jealousy.) - Xerzen - He’s Ashara’s future cat husbando. 8]

- Ziore - [Miraluka Jedi Guardian] When SWTOR gave me 2 free companions for all my characters to have, I got Shae and Nico Okarr without knowing ANYTHING about either of them. Thus I ship Ziore and Nico based on nothing else except his cheesy lines when he’s summoned/does stuff for you as a companion. - Huraj - [Zabrak Sith Sorcerer] . . . I didn’t mean for her and Khem to be coordinated colors for shipping reasons. It was just going to be innocently cute that he has the red customization and she’s a red-skinned zabrak. But. Then they came out with that new content and. I guess it’s going to be a thing.

[flowers-of-io]

At least eight people actually wanted me to write the essay, which is... both flattering and bewildering. And I love yelling at ppl about my feels towards fictional characters, so!

Tbh the first moment I was like 👀 was when the Proving Grounds strike was released, I think. I like how they both so obviously don't want to do this whole war thing, and how it quickly turns into a bickering match. The dialogue is overall amusing, but I especially love how it has Caiatl fighting to keep her pride and taunting Zavala a bit, and he's at first just *so tired* but she really gets to his ego at one point lmao.

Overall, I think this ship works because they hold similar values. Caiatl starts off genuinely confused why the Guardians don't want spoils and honours as an elite force of the Cabal army & Zavala refuses a seat in the War Council just handed to him, and Zavala himself is just like 'why does she wants the damn war', and I like how these two mindsets clash throughout the season. They're both experienced and sensible, and have good reasons behind their choices, even though we naturally side with Zavala because Caiatl's point of view and the entire honour-based mentality of the Cabal culture is more strange to us. It feels like they only start seeing the other's point around the time of Proving Grounds. I like that part by the end when Caiatl says she is bound to honour her word because we have honoured her traditions; it's one thing that our participation in the Rituals of Proving was mostly makeshift-illegal and I think we had stolen that ceremonial hammer??, but alas we *did* win in compliance with the Cabal tradition. And the other way around, I also like the contrast between Caiatl's empress-ness and Zavala's 'Guardians bow to no one, not even to me'. I can just feel how uncomfortable he is with the idea, like why??? would the Guardians bow to me??? why do you think they should????? And it's nice how it also highlights that she thinks of him as an equal.

And really, there is so much they have in common. The position, the responsibility, the genuine care about their people (just read that loretab about Caiatl visiting a wounded soldier in the hospital y'all), the leader's guilt about disasters they weren't able to stop. Caiatl's still distraught about having let Xivu into Torobatl, and come to think of it-- Zavala has just lost a close friend (Sloane) and literally four planets, and iirc over fifty Guardians hadn't returned to the Tower and are unaccounted for. There's that Beneath the Endless Night chapter where Caiatl barges in with unsolicited advice, and like. she does understand. She sees Zavala's struggle and is like 'yeah relatable af let me tell you how not to fuck it up like I did'.

Also there are traits they could both really admire in each other? Resolve. Common sense. Ability to make unpleasant but vital decisions. I really think they value each other as a capable leader and advisor and friend, and it's this kind of platonic fondness built on understanding I can easily see turned romantic. Just. ships that are partnership and mutual support with occasional cuddling are my thing ok.

And also they both deserve Good Things after all the shit that has gone down lately. Zavala could really use some free endorphin, as a treat.

today I'm brave enough to say I ship Caiatl/Zavala and can gladly provide a whole ass essay explaining why, you can stone me all you want

[thefudge]

not here to convert you or anything but i'm kinda surprised u hate j*nsa as much as you do - or at least find it bland as hell - do u hate all aspects of it or would you ship it at a certain angle, if approached a certain way? again, not tryina convert you lmaoo ship & let ship, it's not monogamy in this trash world. I just thought the incest would be up your ally? Also a lot of the fic can be so...missionary so idk, I thought that's why it holds no appeal? words not working rn. just confused

(same j*nsa anon here) alternatively do you ship robb x sansa? sorry, but you’re pretty much the incest lady to me. LOOK - is it because you’re too diehard petyr x sansa to fuck with the rest? Because I’m petyr x sansa trash as well, I contain multitudes. I JUST WANNA HEAR YOUR THOUGHTS, BECAUSE AGAIN, YOU’RE THE INCEST LADY SO I JUST WANNA KNOW IF IT’S THE SHIP THAT BORES YOU OR FANDOM. UR THOUGHTS ARE ALWAYS FASCINATING. I JUST LIKE READING WHATEVER IT IS YOU COME UP WITH. IF YOU DON’T MIND

“you’re the incest lady” ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) 

haha friend, that’s why subjectivity is so wonderful (love that walt whitman quote), but let me break it down for you

you’re absolutely right that j*onsa should be up my alley. but there are several reasons why it hasn’t had that impact on me

1. petyr/sansa is the first ship that got me into asoiaf/got and it has stuck with me throughout the ages. it really is my kind of dynamic, no doubt about it, especially due to aidan gillen’s really strong work and the fact that petyr baelish is, without exaggeration, one of the best literary characters of the last 30 years (imo). and he brings out the best in sansa. by “best” i don’t mean moral rectitude lol. sansa really comes into her own around him. is he taking advantage of her ? absolutely. is she taking advantage of him? she’s learning how to. it’s a smart, riveting duo that doesn’t even have to be romantic for me to love it. in fact, i prefer it when it is cerebral and manipulative with a small dash of genuine emotions. 

but i AM a big multishipper who likes aaall kinds of things so why can’t i get behind this? 

2. my big gripe is with the show, where j*onsa has been introduced as a dynamic (i DO see book signs that they will be reunited but it’s not a Thing there yet).  basically, GoT has done a very poor job with them. sansa stark has stopped being a legitimate and full-rounded character since season 4. and her characterization really took a nosedive in the past two seasons, which - you guessed it - is when she reconnects with her brother, jon. FIRST of all, they had sansa apologize to him as if she had taunted him all his life, as if she had been the big bully of his youth. MASSIVE EYE-ROLL. it’s as if the writers didn’t know how to make them bond after such a long time. ohhh i don’t know, how about jon remembering those times in their childhood when sansa taught him how to talk to ladies which is a CANONIC event??? they could’ve shared a drink and laughed about his poor manners and sansa could’ve said that he had certainly “improved”. and maybe she could’ve added “i wish i had known you better”, to which he could’ve said “so do i.” SEE. see how easy that was without devaluing the characters!!! Secondly, they don’t show them talking about legitimate, important, intimate things. for fuck’s sake, i’m sure jon would like to know what happened in king’s landing and the eyrie etc. their lack of communication is why he doesn’t really listen to her advice, no? most of their show!conversations are about jon’s shallow man-pain or the glories of house stark. sansa is suddenly consumed with legacy and house-rights. and jon isn’t. and instead of talking about it, instead of asking sansa why she’s hellbent on this mission and maybe having a heart-to-heart about family and trauma…instead of ALL that, they just sort of mumble at each other and become increasingly frustrated with each other’s actions…AND OK, you’re gonna say, maybe that was the point, for them to butt heads and clash BUT

3.the show is afraid to explore their actual feelings/frustrations. sansa will sometimes be angry at him and jon will retaliate, and just when you think things are going somewhere…they both sort of shut up and fold back. the same pattern is obvious during their “affectionate” moments. it’s like they’re both holding back, either due to poor direction or poor writing, or both. the best scene so far still remains their initial hug. 

4. jon snow has also become a sham of a character on the show, and it’s hard to enjoy him with sansa when i can’t stand the way he’s written. it feels like he has been stripped of nuance and personality. so in one scene he chokes littlefinger because he’s being “protective” (possessive) of sansa….then that…just gets dropped. he receives information arya and bran are alive and is…stone-faced about it. like he’s super chill, not really affected by anything. the real jon would’ve fucking flipped, he would’ve tried to see them. and don’t tell me all of this is gonna be picked up in the 6 episodes of the last season…because i have lost all faith in d&d. 

5. i do understand why ppl ship it and i do see book-evidence for it possibly being a stealth endgame but the books haven’t butchered the characters and will surely get there more organically? the show had EVERY opportunity to convince me this dynamic was gold and wasted so much of it, imo. . i’m sure fanfics do a better job with it, but i just…every time they’re on screen it’s so wooden, and i’m certain it’s because they’re being directed by idiots. i’m sure sophie and kit want to show more feelings and act like actual human beings but i assume they’re not allowed. just like sophie and maisie were not allowed to act like sisters. 

6. their partnership ends up devaluing sansa. which annoys me. real jon would absolutely never. hell, real jon would spit on show!jon IM SORRY IT’S TRUE. that’s what’s actually really annoying about it. it could’ve been done so well but….for me it ended up being a bland mess. i’m sure that fics and fandoms elevate it, tho. 

7. even my beloved petyr/sansa has been cheapened by the show to some degree, so you can see why other ships take even harder falls

OKAY BUT robb/sansa u’ve got my attention!!! that would be so fraught! because they’re both tully kids, deep down. aaah. 

and honestly, i could be for book!j*onsa too, if it were written well. but show!j*onsa is a goddamn mess. the show is a goddamn mess. 

[tinybeanhealing]

Hello! Are you still doing your amazing descriptions? If yes and you have some time, may I ask for one, please? :) I have Virgo rising, Sun in Libra 1st house, Venus&Mercury in Libra 2nd house, Scorpio Mars in 3rd, Capricorn Moon in 4th, and Gemini Midheaven. Thank you in advance! Hope you'll have a nice day!

Hi love ! I’m finally doing them wow ! Here u go dear one !

With yr sun in the first house u have a desire to develop a better approach to life, or a desire to be in a dominant position in life. U are confident, independent, n responsible. U should watch out for yr tendency to be power-seeking or authoritarian. As a libra sun, this might come out as attention-seeking. U might ask for a lot of reassurance not even bc yr self-esteem is low but bc u wanna see what other ppl rlly think of u. U tend to see yr worth n self thru others’ perceptions. For libra suns it’s easiest to form a personality based on what others like. But since u have yr sun in the 1st could help u with identity formation. If u have difficult sun aspects tho, it might not be as helpful. Check out yr sun n moon aspects (between each other but also just in general) bc those will help u understand yr emotional n personality formations. U worry over small details, u are intuitive n good at organizing. U have a “mothering” instinct in a lot of ways. It’s not like u are a mom or whatever but u have a tendency to worry over ppl in the way a maternal parent would. U pick at lil details, u mend ppl’s sadness, give advice. It might feel like harsh criticism to others n maybe that’s true but it does come from a sweet place in yr heart. Scorp mars is the “get what u want” mars, so be careful what u manifest for yrself. U are super perceptive, determined, stubborn, n have a magnetic personality. Yr emotions run very deep. Learning self discipline will help u a lot ! To have that mars placement in the 3rd house means u are alert, determined, enthusiastic, n have a TON of mental energy. Analytical thinking can be helpful for u to learn bc u sometimes do more impulsive thinking which isn’t usually helpful to u. U might have issues with siblings. U might have had lil fights n irritations in yr original home environment which might have led to u being high strung or nervous a lot. Short journeys are impt to u, definitely take time to be out in the world for even just like 1-3 days even to feel more rested n recharged. Libra venus makes u relate well to others. U have a good musical or artistic ability. U are romantic in how u live into all yr relationships. U are very loyal. U want to be wanted. Yr hurt easily but don’t usually seek out revenge. Commitment/partnership are very impt to yr personal fulfillment. Living in an environment with a lot of tension all the time can make u physically sick. U tend to have very high standards set for the ppl in yr life n u hold ppl to those standards, often without telling them. Some sort of feeling of continuity or stability makes u feel full n ok. Venus in the 2nd means that u have a natural talent for understanding how to keep yr resources well. U always find what u need. Sometimes u use up yr resources very quickly, like as u receive them, but u will always work to get what u need. U have hidden talents that are helpful to the ppl in yr life. Libra mercury means u are persuasive, rational, n have a well-balanced mind. U are pretty flexible n u will listen to all sides of any story. That’s why ppl think yr so indecisive. It’s bc yr willing to think abt every single lil detail of every situation n consider it before coming to a conclusion. Yr libra sun will highlight this a lot. U will most likely side with the most logical truth, no matter where yr loyalty is. U have the potential to be a good speaker n u have good organizing abilities, highlighted by yr virgo rising. In the second house, yr mercury means u are quick witted n versatile. U study hard or work hard at whatever yr trying to accomplish. U can communicate well with others thru writing n speaking. U have a strong love for books n music. Cap moon means u are conservative, reliable, n ambitious. U always follow thru on yr plans. U have an intense desire to be recognized for yr work. U might have had issues with one or more of yr parents growing up. Outwardly u are serene n charming but inside u might suffer from strong feelings of fear n frustration (both with others n self). my moon is also in my 4th house ! This means that u are deeply intuitive. U might have some feelings of insecurity n uncertainty which is why u have a deep need for peace n security. U might have many changes in yr living situation and/or like to redecorate a lot inside yr homey spaces. U have a strong tie with yr original home/mama, whether positive or negative. Gemini midheaven makes u super adaptable but u might have a rlly hard time communicating with authority figures. This placement screams “i want to share the information i KNOW with u !!!” so maybe u like to dispense information to the public in some way. 

I hope this description feels real for u ! Let me know if u have other questions abt yr stars

[rcsefire]

✤ for briazlie !!

—  SEND ME ✤ FOR A SHIP MEME !

under the cut ! because these get so loNG

who laughs when the other trips?

both tbh ! i feel like ?? there’s always one snickering and the other getting all grumpy abt it?? they both carry themselves so well, , the universe wouldn’t dARE trip them up, so when it actually happens?? when it’s a pavement that defeats them or s/t?? there’s a smartass comment and a ❛ shUT UP ❜ that’s bound to follow.

who pays the bills? 

again, , i say both just because they both like being organised?? briar is particular about things being #done and nazlie has a lil’ journal of everything that’s due. they both hate owing people anything, including money so they’re?? never overdue with bills or ?? anything owed to anyone. Briazlie Always Pays Their Debts.

which one makes a bigger deal around the holidays?

nazlie !!! i just imagine she’s 100x more festive than briar, who just hates the holidays tbh. nazlie tries to encourage & include briar when it comes to christmas because?? they’re lowkey family ok and briar will always choose to spend christmas holed up in some dump getting hammered. let nazlie break out the christmas tree and have them both struggle to put the star on top because of that #ShortLife & ?? leT nazlie dress up briar to be lookin’ her goddamn bEST for a christmas party after briar gives her a fight over it, and also ?? make really bad eggnog, because in the end ??? briar really appreciates it :,’) + i just love imagining both nazlie and briar having a Good Time at christmas ok they’re happy, their skin is clear, Life is Great. 

who’s more clumsy? 

neither wtf, they’re strong independent grACEFUL women, thank u very much.

who checks their daily horoscope? 

i feel like this one goes to nazlie?? nazlie is more into the horoscope stuff than briar is ( an Actual stick in the mud tbh. ) and you know what?? briar actually doesn’t call it bullshit because she resPECTS nazlie enough to know what she’s talking about, i mean, , ,if briar’s going on a date with a scorpio and nazlie tells her it’s not compatible?? nazlie’s right.

who sings louder in the car?

i don’t imagine them singing tbh? they’d just enjoy the tunes in their own silence or ?? quietly mumble the lyrics. if eiTHER of them were to start singing it would probably be briar that starts it, she’s gonna scream all star and nazlie has to either join in or get out the car.

who leaves the cap off the toothpaste?

i actually don’t really see neither of them leaving the cap off?? i have no reasoning, i just imagining them being neat ppl??

who is more up to date in pop culture?

nazlie ! she just knowS. they could be watching a movie together and nazlie is there pointing out all the actors by nAME and briar is just a small ball of confusion because she knows none of the people nazlie is pointing out :/ they both probably have slightly different tasTES in pop culture too, like…nazlie knows more of the popular pop culture like who’s at the emmy’s or ?? winning oscars, and briar knows famous celebs from the 60′s or something outdated. 

who insists on going to see the newest movies?

again, nazlie, she’s usually the one who makes the suggestion buT briar doesn’t mind and it’s a joint decison on what they usually see. tbh why do i see them going to the cinema but ?? going to see two-three movies in one day?? don’t try and pick between three horror movies playing, don’t be a weakling, just do all thREE.

who cries when the abused animal commercials come on?

like they would cRY in front of someone. no but nazlie does get a little emotional of them, since she has a lil pup and it hits home for her. briar?? has never had a pet in her life, so she has no remoRSE for those advertisements. she’s a black-hearted goblin.

who’s the lighter sleeper?

briar. i mean?? they’re both pretty light sleepers but briar is a night owl and an early bird. her + sleeping = Never Works. it’s why she probably naPS during the day but it’s always that awful mid-sleep type of sleep?? where she’s constantly alert. tbh if nazlie doesn’t haTE when briar stays over because of it, , ,i’m surprisED. 

who believes in ghosts?

ooooooo, i feel like nazlie has more of an appreciation for the spiritual stuff, like they’re BOTH skeptics but ?? nazlie doesn’t knock it back as quickly as briar does. briar doesn’t believe fullstop. what hogwash !! this is different from the astrology stuff !! this is pushing it !! nazlie is more inclined to want to hit up the supernatural hotspots like ?? possible alien crash site ?? count her in ! briar will tag along too but expect her to start some philosophical arguments abt the existence of the paranormal & extraterrestrial life. 

who does the grocery shopping?

BOTH, again. they like things done a set way, so it’s a co-partnership when it comes for grocery shopping, and tbh they’ve got it down packeD. they do the ol’ split-up w/ nazlie going for all the feminine and homely stuff and stuff that is NECESSARY. briar goes off to the health food section but balances it out by sniffing out some alcohol and something smothered in chocolate + probably comes back to nazlie at the end with completely useless stuff like spARKLERS or matching feather boas. 

who updates their facebook status more often?

briar isn’t that into social media, but she posts more than nazlie does. nazlie is mainly Cute photos & selfies with a side of Feminist, but briar?? the Actual Shit-poster, and also?? vague stuff, stuff that hasn’t been elaborated on like ❛ don’t trust men. ❜  why ?? probably because the pizzaman told her when she ordered it was $13 but when the pizza gets there?? it’s $15. nazlie is still immediately in her messages like   ❛ who do we have to kill ❜