#i forget to text first because of adhd and object permanence

[actaphere]

We're currently reading a text about how to combat phone addiction for German class, and I think it's absolutely hilarious just how outdated, limited and just shitty the world view of the author there is

This man basically suggests turning off notifications for everything, only checking when it's absolutely necessary and also putting your phone into grayscale so that the oversaturated colours don't distract you

And this is just wrong and not helpful on so many levels!

First of all, the turning off notifications and red alert button things is so bad for people that for example have ADHD, where their low object permanence will then lead to them just forgetting that that app exists all together and forgetting to check some possibly very important emails or notifications.

Plus the author tries to convince the readers to stop blaming everything on the companies and capitalism and take the blame, as if said companies don't intentionally design everything to be extremely addictive and stimulating so they can generate more revenue from you. That's like getting someone to become addicted to crack by giving them an endless supply and then saying it's their fault for getting addicted! Complete bullshit!

Turning off colours is a weird one too, because there's many artists and art enjoyers out there that WANT to look at art, sort their phone by colour or even create art using their device, and putting their phone in grayscale just limits them completely from doing a lot of things!

If anyone wants to read it for themselves, the original is called "Digital Detox - es liegt nicht nur am Handy" and is written by Bastian Brinkmann, I'm sure some browsers will be willing to translate the post semi accurately. I just think it does a lot of victim blaming and just isn't good all together in how it's framed and written.

[a-dragons-journal]

Hello again. This is the 5-part anon from earlier. I wrote a long response to your post and I think it’d be more convenient to dump the text in a pastebin than split it into asks. The link is going to expire in a few months, so I recommend copying the contents into its own post rather than posting the link: pastebin. com / 2r49iein

I had, sorry; you've just caught me in the lead-up to and midst of finals week, so I haven't been answering asks as quickly as usual, especially ones that will take a significant amount of time and energy xD (No worries about checking in, though, Tumblr does have a horrible habit of eating asks and it's good to check! And also my ADHD no-object-permanence ass will see an ask, go "I'll respond to that later," and then forget it exists sometimes with no Tumblr interference necessary, so good to check for that reason too xD)

Hello again. This is the 5-part anon from earlier. Thank you for your thoughtful answer. First off, I want to apologize to anyone who may have been hurt by my words on the topic of otherheartedness, copinglink, etc. I did not mean to in any way minimize the importance of these identities for others. Because I felt I didn’t have the "right" to claim a "full" otherkin identity, I felt like I had to settle for something that simply didn’t fit my experience, which led to my frustrated, generalized words.

With that out of the way, I’ve been giving what you said some thought. I have to admit I never really participated in otherkin communities, only watching from afar. It’s good to know that I "qualify" as otherkin, but I wonder if it’s such a good idea for me to identify that way. I have so few experiences in common with most otherkin that I would probably feel *more* alienated by calling myself that, not *less*. In my experience, forcing myself into an identifier that is technically correct but feels wrong/bad is not the way to go. At any rate, I’ll describe my feelings in more detail, just because I’m really curious to know if you’ve ever heard of anyone similar, or if this reminds you of anything. I apologize if some of it is repetitive or if it jumps from topic to topic without making much sense.

Some parts of otherkin… culture, I guess? Baffle me. For example, needing to narrow down one’s exact species or the cause/origin of one’s identification as nonhuman. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying it’s not valid; just that I don’t personally see the point? All the rules about who gets to call themself otherkin feel constraining to me, because I guess there’s not really any other term that fits, but even that one doesn’t fit that well, so I’m kinda stuck between a rock and a hard place.

So I’m more inclined to just say, yeah, I’m a bird. Do I behave like a bird? Do I have bird instincts? Not really, but I’m still a bird. Adopting an otherkin identity throws a wrench in that, making me feel like a failed nonhuman, because it’s *hard* not to feel invalid when everyone else seems completely different from you. If anything, I feel more valid doing my own thing! I didn’t come to this bird identity because I felt like I was Different somehow and needed to find an explanation for it (been there, done that with the autism, lol). Instead I came to it because it felt good, and right, and it made me happy.

You say since I don’t know if I chose this or not, it’s unlikely to be voluntary. I guess I just… feel weird about this? I don’t really have words to describe it. Maybe it boils down to "does it matter?". And I know when it comes to the term "otherkin", it *does* matter, which is kind of one of my problems with it.

I looked at that daemonism post you reblogged and found myself relating to the way Rook described Tukuxa: "She lacks a shark’s instincts, fears and drives - but her core is still shark." I wouldn’t say I *lack* these things, just that I simply don’t have them. Do I have a human mind in a human brain? Sure, but that doesn’t mean I have to be a human, nor does it make me any less of a bird. It makes me happy to conceptualize myself as a bird, to design my own appearance as a bird with qualities that can’t physically exist in this world, to daydream of flight. Is that such an uncommon experience?

I have a headmate who is a dragon. She was born as a dragon, she looks like a dragon, she simply Is A Dragon. She’s not dragonkin, she’s not based on any fictional dragon, she just… is. (Not to say that dragonkin folks aren’t dragons, just that she doesn’t identify as dragonkin.) But she doesn’t have any of the typical dragon traits you might expect; like me she has a "human mind" in a "human brain", and yet she’s just a dragon. I guess it’s sorta the same with me.

I just feel like it’s better for me to say "I’m [X]" and keep the specifics to myself. Despite these asks, I have no intention of holding my identities up to the scrutiny of others. If I say I’m a thing, I could mean it in a number of ways. Total or partial identification as/with, or even just a passing attachment. Ultimately, it’s my business, and trying to define it beyond just "I am this thing" or "I relate to this thing" or "This thing is me" feels sort of obnoxious? (For context, I do have nonhuman identities other than a bird, I just used that one as an example/shorthand.)

I guess that about covers everything. What do you think? If your followers/anyone who sees this wants to chime in, I’ll be looking at the notes. Thanks again!

(Regarding the 'hearted/'linker stuff, I figured that wasn't what you meant in your previous asks; I just wanted to bring it up because it's a conflation that gets made a lot, accidentally or on purpose.)

Honestly, these are all incredibly valid points, and if you just want to call yourself nonhuman or bird but not otherkin/therian then that's entirely up to you. If the label doesn't work for you, then it doesn't work for you! You are not obligated to use every label that you technically fit under (gods know I don't), and I didn't mean to imply so - just to make it clear that it's available to you if you do want it. I can see now that I probably kind of missed the point in that response.

And you're right that frankly, even though there is a wide range of experiences under the otherkin umbrella, there's also a set of common experiences that almost everyone seems to share at least a few of, and when you don't share those I can imagine it makes it kind of hard to connect with others in the community. Unfortunately, like I said, I don't know that there's a way around that other than trying to host a platform for those atypical experiences to speak, which is a good idea but probably not very effective in practice because of the sheer numbers game.

So you've decided you're probably better off not trying to make the "otherkin" label or community fit, and that's entirely valid - I guess the question is, what now? If you're wanting to find others with similar experiences to you, you still need somewhere to look, and it seems like this isn't it.

You might want to look into other nonhuman terms - "nonhuman" and "transspecies" come to mind, and while neither of these might fit you, they do collect different subcultures that might be less alienating for you or easier to find others with similar experiences within. The broader "alterhuman" label may also be useful, though that can be a bit like trying to find a needle in a haystack just because of how many things are included in "alterhuman" and I don't know that you'd have any better luck than with "otherkin".

Or you might want to try older platforms, if you haven't already - forums, IRCs if they still exist. The community wasn't always as focused on some of the things you noted as it is now (pinning down a specific species, voluntary vs involuntary, etc.), and platforms with a population that trends toward people who've been around longer sometimes still have more of that culture than Tumblr and Discord tend to, though they come with their own problems of course.

Ultimately, if "I'm a bird" is the easiest way to communicate your experiences, then that's that on that. These words only exist because people find them useful - if you don't find them useful, don't feel like you have to use 'em. As far as finding community when so much of the otherkin community feels alienating to you, I'm afraid that's all I've got - y'all got anything for anon?

[definitelynotcesia]

Hello Cesia how are you?? First of all I miss you, I promise I'll read those recent updates as soon as my uni stops filling too much on my plate hahaha

I was mindlessly scrolling on Tumblr and I saw your recent post about ADHD. I wanted to speak a little about it since I do have it and it sucks honestly. So I'll probably get too excited, if you don't want to read it I totally understand, you don't even need to post it, do whatever feel comfy for you sweetie I mean it ( ˘ ³˘)♥. - Kaomoji anonie (U❍ᴥ❍)

So the thing is, doesn't matter if you are diagnosed or not, you'll suffer from people's prejudice either way, because of misinformation, both from neurothypicals and ADHDers themselves. But having a diagnose helps you and those around you understand yourself better, if the right information is spread.

The first thing we think we hear about ADHD is in the name, Attention deficit and Hyperactivity (no shit Sherlock), and that's all most people know about ADHD, they can't focus, can't sit still, are impulsive, in other words, disruptive behavior, these behavior are often mistaken as character flaws, that's why they say "oh you're not trying hard enough", "why can't you sit still?" , "If you cared about it you would remember" witch is understandable because you know... misinformation...

So I want to point out two important points

1- ADHD is caused by a biochemical imbalance: we lack two neurotransmitters, noradrenaline and dopamine. The first one is responsible for concentration and alertness, as well as memory, creative and cognitive processes, if you lack those (especially in your frontal cortex) you can't focus on one thing only and have a poor working memory (the capacity to keep and manipulate info during tasks for example). Dopamine is for pleasure and motivation, if you lack these, you can't keep motivated, specially in boring tasks and you seek for constant stimulation. And all that in the frontal cortex, the CEO of the Brain Enterprises.

2- There is a lot more to ADHD than just not paying attention, being restless and impulsive, because it's more about executive function issues than anything else. I'll list a few signs so you can understand better. Remember that every mental health problem are different for everyone, my advice is to know what describes you better:

Bad object permanence: What is out of sight is often out of mind, explained by bad working memory. That's why we forget important stuff.

Hyperfocus: It's only been talked about more recently, we sometimes spend hours doing something that gives us dopamine so we forget to eat, drink water and other basic human necessities (right now I'm very hyperfocused, just left a pratical test, have online class rn, have to study for lots of stuff and haven't shower or had eaten all day, but this text needs to be perfect because It gives me dopamine haha).

Emotional disregulation: When we feel things we FEEL things, like or I'm so happy and life is all unicorns and rainbows or I've never had a happy day in my life. (Also can we please talk about more about normal female hormonal stuff and ADHD in woman?? Please I need info on that)

Rejection sensitive dysphoria: This is bad honestly, lots of us are so scared of judgement that we may develop social anxiety and depression.

Sleep problems: insomnia or hypersomnia are common in ADHD

Sensory issues and there's a lot more

A fair amount of us learn trough life that we are basically born for failure, especially in today's society that demands focus, motivation AND COMPETITION to be successful. So lots of ADHDers may work even harder to get the same or worst results, leading to frustration, lots of us may give up and start believing what society says, leading to low self esteem. For me it was better to blame myself than my disorder, so I didn't work, I would get bad results either way, that's why today, even working very hard and achieving great things, I can never feel proud of it, and it hurts.

In conclusion, if you think you may have ADHD, do research, get a diagnosis, get to know your symptoms, know what works for you (work smarter not harder). There's a lot of tips on reddit, it's worth it to search there and try things out to see if it's right for you. With the right method and with self knowledge everyone's ADHD can be controlled, and for that to happen you HAVE to prioritize your mental health, you're allowed to feel.

And please DO NOT believe in any misinformation, or lack o information about you, having a disorder doesn't make us lazy, a bad person, a failure or any other bad character trait given.

"You are not born for failure, you just can't expect a fish to climb a tree" - it's a metaphor on how neurodivergents can't be expected to fit in the neurothypical norms. Just so you know "a fish can swim like nobody else can" - Michael Phelps is a great example of that, figuratively and literally (I wanted to do that joke so bad, I was waiting for that moment)

Phew I talk too much I'm so sorry, but honestly it was worth it, I felt comfortable to do so, hopefully not too comfortable haha (´-﹏-`；)

omg my kaomoji baby!!! first of all, oh my gaf i miss you so much :<<< i miss reading your very lively asks and i'm so glad to get one now hihi. second, you don't have to worry so much bby. i know how hectic uni can get so take your time. my asks is always open for your reactions if you finally have time to read it (but you also don't have to send one if you don't feel like it, its totally fine!!). third, don't ever say sorry for getting "too excited". i'm even more thankful, and genuinely enjoyed reading every bit of information you added!!

honestly this feels like a dsm5 review for me (and the funny thing was that i was reviewing neurodevelopmental disorders right before i came to tumblr today!!), so i'm really happy that you sent this one. and it's even more interesting to read these information from your point of view. it's like reading facts and all your personal inputs help me understand the disorder better. so really, thank you for sharing this!!! im so happy TT

i also love the quote you left. it just ties the explanation a lot more. so again thank youuuuu@!!!!

to those who are curious of the ADHD post (if there's any), it's this!! it's a reminder that even when you have mental disorders or not, it's important to educate ourselves so we know how to be respectful and kind in any way we can.

[thetreeturnedoff]

i feel so bad for all the people i start talking to and then just stop. it's not that i don't like you, i just have no object permanence and forget you exist cause i can't physically see you. which sounds bad but it's just my brain not working right.

and then one day i randomly remember you exist and feel awful for ghosting you or whatever and feel too awkward to try and talk to you again. cause how do i explain the weird small things of adhd to someone who doesn't have it? how do i even know they'd believe me and not just think i'm trying to make bs excuses? like adhd causing you to forget about things you don't see seems fake, but i swear it's not.

like, my cat. we had to put her down recently. i loved her so much, but as soon as she was gone i just forgot she existed. there was no mourning or anything. i couldn't see her anymore so i didn't think about her. and then we got the urn with her ashes and now every time i see it i get sad because i remember she existed. but outside of that i'm totally fine, cause i just don't think about her.

quarantine has ruined all my friendships cause i don't see anyone anymore and don't think to text them because i don't remember them. and online friends, too. if they're not constantly messaging me first then i just stop talking to them because there's nothing there to remind me that they exist.

i'm just stuck in my own little world of what i can see and touch, and everything outside of that isn't real, apparently.

[adhbabey]

hi. im really sorry for bothering you. this is also a long ask so im really sorry. and im sorry if im ranting. i feel like i need to explain and give the entire story and everything. it ends up leaning to overexplaining. and im already doing it. ok. so sorry. so, for the last few months (six or seven) ive been questioning if i have adhd. i show many symptoms such as sensory overload, hyperfocus, emotional dysregulation, rsd, delayed sleep phase syndrome, inattention (1/6)

hyperfixation and emotional hyperarousal, some problems with memory and object permanence, a selective memory like i memorized an entire 369 page book but i forgot where my phone was when i put it out of my direct line of sight, 

i stim (drawing, moving, humming, etc) and i need stimulation or i die, I’m bad with remembering to shower/eat/brush my teeth and i will forget to change my outfit for days on end, 

I have trouble controlling my volume and all of this: ( Do you feel like you’ve ruined everything when someone tells you that you did something wrong? Do you think you’ve offended people when you haven't? Do you have a hard time judging reality correctly (like you think you’ve offended or hurt someone and you feel awful but it didn’t bother them that much)? ) But I still don't show the "normal" signs of ADHD. 

I’m not loud or disruptive in class. i get excellent grades. i took the act in 7th grade and got a 23 (good for a seventh grader).

i don’t struggle with getting things done, if they have a deadline. no deadline, never even going to start. but i’m known in school as the smart kid, with perfect grades and in the gifted program. when I’m at home i get all my homework done immediately. everything is turned in one time or before the deadline. 

I don’t have time blindness unless I’m hyperfocusing. otherwise I’m way too acutely aware of time. i can guess what time normally within two minutes without looking at a clock. 

I’m constantly stressed about making it to places on time and am never late. and ADHD is a disability, but I’m doing fine, it hasn't affected me really at all, so i don’t feel like I’m valid enough to talk to people about getting a diagnoses or even talk to people that i might have it. i don’t even think they'd believe me. they'd just brush it off that i was lying, i was trying to justify why i forget what I’ve just been told or why i disrespect the teachers by drawing instead of looking them in the eye.

I just don’t know what to do, and so I’m asking you, do you have any advice? should i talk to someone? 

It’s not affecting me really. I’m not struggling. i have friends, social skills and i do great in school, i turn things in on time and all that. i don’t have major issues that a lot of ADHD people face. You have to have at least six symptoms interfere with your school, home, social life before you’re 12. I’m 14. but i show so many now i don’t know what to do. sorry for the rant. any advice?

I’m so sorry I didn’t answer this sooner, by the way, I’ve not been able to get on my computer in the past couple of days, so I deeply apologize. But for first looks, by the fact that you made a wall of text, in which I edited down for an easier time reading, you absolutely have ADHD. 

I’m going to say this, one thing, it absolutely affects you. Just because you aren’t having bad days, doesn’t mean you never will. And it’s likely that you’re not struggling so much, because you are currently in a structured environment. I was in a similar position when I was still in public school. I didn’t realize that I had ADHD until I was 20 and entered an unstructured environment for college. It was then I began to struggle so much that I wasn’t able to clean my dorm room and had an ant infestation. 

And you don’t need to be disruptive to have hyperactivity symptoms, especially if you are assigned female at birth, afab people are taught to mask things, and tend to end up being called drama queens, chatty and daydreamers. So if you feel the need to brush off your symptoms, its because we are unfortunately taught that. 

With executive dysfunction, its literally about having a hard time starting tasks, thats what they mean. Also many neurodivergent people can relate to the “gifted kid syndrome”, you are not alone in that. 

For time blindness, being stressed about the time or hyperaware can be a sign of overcompensating for the fact that you may not have an internal clock. Time blindness is when you are doing something and next time you check its 2 hours later but it felt like 15 minutes. If you have anxiety about the time its a sign you experience time blindness. 

Also its a neurodivergent thing to hate eye contact, and with us who have ADHD, it helps to focus on something visually to listen to them. Stimulating certain senses can be important for not getting distracted, because its a controlled thing to keep you occupied, so your other senses can be used better. 

You should talk to your school counsellor and parents if you can, tell them that you relate to specific symptoms on this list. Say you think you deal with executive dysfunction and all this stuff. Because while you may not struggle as much right now, you may struggle worse later and its important to start managing it now for the future. 

I hope this helps. Sorry for taking so long!!!

[quinnfebrey]

okay i think i saw u mention this in the response to the dating advice anon, but do you find it difficult to respond to people’s texts? like the whole not responding for weeks and then talking for hours on facetime thing. i’ve been diagnosed with adhd for a long time and i have always struggled to reply to people quickly. like idk something about it just doesn’t even register and i’ve noticed some other neurodivergent people have said they experience the same thing. i think it has to do with my general lack of object permanence, for example the way i lose everything i touch even though it’s right in front of me. my friends who are also neurodivergent tend to completely understand, and even the neurotypical ones have come to understand me. i have one friend that is exactly like me and one of us will just spam with a million texts and then the other will take days to reply but do the same thing, and we don’t care. it just is how it is. i feel so bad about it though. it’s always on my mind yet i have such a hard time doing it. one of my close friends has been giving me such shit for stuff like that lately and it’s really bothering me cause it’s not for lack of effort. i WANT to talk to my friends, to talk to her, but something in my brain isnt letting me, if that makes sense? i’m also actively trying to be better with her specifically but i still fuck it up sometimes cause i forget. i understand that she’s hurt by it, and have apologized and i’m trying to be better, but i feel like people love neurodivergence and say they understand you until it inconveniences them. they LOVE to say shit like “oh i lose my phone too sometimes ha ha!” but can’t handle the shitty parts of ADHD. they belittle the actual struggles of having it and cherry pick what they want from it to make it quirky. it’s being romanticized now and it’s painful to watch because my adhd makes me feel fucking crazy most of the time and people are commodifying the shit out of it. —🌵

omg cactus this is literally why i haven’t answered ur ask yet 😭😭 for me having issues answering texts and stuff has to do with

1. object permanence. i always say you can expect a reply from me either within 2 seconds or never. bc i’ll either answer as soon as i get it or the notif goes away and then i forget i even got the text in the first place

2. overwhelming. a simple question or response just fries my brain and so i just pretend i didn’t get the text LOL

3. idk why but typing makes me so exhausted like if we were speaking face to face i would give you rambles of answers but if we’re texting you’re gonna get “haha yeah” 🧍🏻‍♀️

i literally despise texting so much. it’s so hard for me to maintain a conversation and i’m bad at responding in the first place and it sucks so much energy out of me. even w people i am super excited to talk to i have a honeymoon phase of like 1 day and then i regress again lol

and yeah adhd is SO much more debilitating than even a lot of professionals seem to think. the ONLY therapist i’ve ever had that understood me was one who ALSO was adhd. that’s it. and she agreed the diagnostics and the info professionals get on adhd is lacking in a lot of areas. it’s so frustrating

idk i don’t really have any advice for your situation :/ but you could ask to call more instead of texting? and remind her you do want to talk to her you just have trouble with texting and it has nothing to do with how interested you are

[digitizedsouls]

———  BASICS! ♡

NAME! ♡   Moon. Apparently. I went by Kitty on here for a while but somehow it became Moon, and now I am Moon Mun. (Moon Moon lol)

PRONOUNS! ♡    She/Her but with a ‘lil bit of They/Them sprinkled in sometimes. As a treat. 

ZODIAC SIGN! ♡    Cancer

TAKEN OR SINGLE! ♡   Married

———  THREE  FACTS! ♡

1! ♡    I am also a livestreamer, a hobby that I am taking pretty seriously, and which takes up a surprising amount of my free time. I really enjoy it though, especially because I get to connect with my friends via video games in a time when it’s hard to be connected to anyone, and when I live half an ocean away from my nearest friends. 

2! ♡    I have a strange, inexplicable fear of people touching my feet. I have never understood this, but it appears to be hereditary in some way, because my dad and grandfather are the same. 

3! ♡    I have a few mental illnesses, one of which is considered a learning disability. After living with them for my entire life and seeing the miscommunication they can cause, and now trying to write with people via text with no way to demonstrate the intent behind my words, is that I become very wordy in an attempt for clarity. I can seem a bit abrasive at first because I try to express my own boundaries carefully, and am cautious about new people. However I’m really a massive goober and just want to have fun and write cool things with people ♥

———  EXPERIENCE! ♡

PLATFORMS USED! ♡  I mainly rp on tumblr, but sometimes do one-on-one rp with very close people on Discord. It has to be with people I am close to and speak to semiregularly otherwise I will forget the server exists. Object permanence is not my strong suit LOL. Also I can’t do multi-person servers (3+). I get overwhelmed.  I’ve been writing on various platforms for almost... God, 15 years or more? Starting with anime forum sites and gaiaonline, moving eventually to gmail, google docs, and finally tumblr about 4.5 years ago.

———  MUSE  PREFERENCE! ♡

GENDER! ♡   I don’t really have a preference, I don’t think? I have quite a few male muses, but also female muses and nonbinary/GNC muses so -shrug-?

LEAST FAVOURITE FACE(S)! ♡   I.. don’t think i have any.. or I just really can’t think of any because I am actively trying to. hm. 

MULTI OR SINGLE! ♡   Both. I have two active(ish) multimuse blogs and a few single blogs. I also have ADHD so not a single one of them gets the attention they really deserve because I am fickle and flighty LOL

FLUFF / ANGST / SMUT! ♡    

FLUFF! ♡   Sometimes. I tend to crave action of some kind in threads, and get this “I’m not doing enough” anxiety with fluff threads. sort of a feeling of “It’s been five minutes something needs to happen!!” But sometimes the mood hits just right and I crave soft fluff and comfort for my muses ♥

ANGST! ♡  yes!!! I have a weakness for angst threads. And i also have what my best friend lovingly refers to as angst reflexes. Angst me and I’ll angst you harder LOL. But I also avoid pure pain and torment with nothing to come of it. I don’t enjoy when every thread is “how can we hurt them next and drop it when they’re out of danger to do it again?” I need the catharsis of fixing the situation or it becomes too emo. I also don’t like to be pigeonholed into angst. It’s fun to be cruel to muses sometimes, but don’t try to force me or my characters into it. I will drop you. 

SMUT! ♡   I don’t consider myself very good at writing smut, but am open to it. I need to either be very comfortable with a writing partner or know absolutely nothing about them to avoid embarrassment LOL 

PLOT / MEMES! ♡   Yes to both! Send me memes! Reach out to plot! Ask me questions! Let’s create something together! And i cannot stress this enough: SEND ALL THE MEMES YOUR HEART DESIRES. I won’t answer them all. How could I? But I will love having more options for inspiration, more ways to interact. And I save memes and re-read them later, so I will often come to people and go “hey you sent me this thing once, and I wanna answer it now in the context of [thread]” There’s no downside to spamming me with memes. Just, no anon rp. Gimme a url if you gotta send via anon ♥

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