#i fare thee well

[mlobsters]

supernatural s11e20 don't call me shurley (w. robbie thompson) be still my beating heart part 3 of ∞

[sentienttoastah]

Ah, I’ve found the obligatory gacha animal person. 🫵🐟 /pos

Damn didn’t know he was chill like that though.

[coquelicoq]

part of the process of learning to take responsibility for your actions is learning what things you can't take responsibility for. not just to protect you (e.g., from your own feelings of guilt; from people taking advantage of your willingness to take responsibility by attributing blame to you unfairly), but because to take responsibility is not just to say "it was my fault and i'm sorry" but to actually do things (to make amends and to mitigate and prevent future harm), and if you don't understand what to take responsibility for, you aren't going to understand how to take responsibility.

there is a lot that's outside of your control. people put a lot of emphasis on forgiveness in a way that i think is missing the point. being forgiven is not my priority. my priority is that i am doing what it is in my power to do. i can't control how that's received. i'd like it to be received well; i'm doing what i'm doing because i want to repair harm that i have caused to another person, so it matters to me if what i'm doing is actually achieving that goal or not. but there's only so much that i can do to achieve that goal, and if i'm doing it, and the harm is not repaired, that's okay. that's beyond my control. i have to make my peace with the fact that i've caused harm to another person that is not resolved, because i'm doing what i can and i have to continue living on this earth, and in continuing to live i'm going to be living with the fact of that unresolved harm. the most important thing at that point is for me to use my knowledge of the specific ways in which my actions harmed that person to change my behavior going forward to avoid causing that harm again, to the extent that that's within my power.

it doesn't do anyone - you or the people you have harmed - any good for you to assign responsibility to yourself for things that you can't control. if you're going to attempt the active work of repair and change you have to first identify what it's possible to repair and change. you can't actually repair a relationship all by yourself! you can only change your own behavior. you can only offer amends to the other person that they may or may not find sufficient. not to go all serenity prayer on you but guilt for the sake of guilt just makes you feel way more powerful than you actually are (because you think that everything happened because of you) and at the same time completely incapable of exercising your power (because you don't understand what your power actually is). to effect change you have to focus on the things you can actually change. focusing on the things you can't change is a problem not just because it's taking your focus away from the things you can change, but because it means you don't actually understand the sphere of your own influence. you're operating under what is essentially a self-centered worldview in which you could make everything better, you could prevent all harm, if only you were trying harder, if only you were a better person. who does that serve? it doesn't reflect reality. it makes you hate yourself and feel sorry for yourself at the same time, and it doesn't actually improve things for the people you harmed. it doesn't help keep you from harming people in the future, because you don't understand the territory and the limits of the causal relationship between your actions and other people's reactions to them.

you can only do what you can do. what you can't do, you can't do, and you can't take responsibility for doing, either in the past or present. after you realize that there is harm to repair the next step in the process of repair is to ask yourself what your responsibility is for the past and what your agency is going forward. everything else will follow from that. you simply cannot skip that step.

[yinyuedijun]

every time I have a menty b over work and can't write or game I end up looking for wedding comm references..... delusional ass coping mechanism

[your-fave-isdoomedbythenarrative]

Hello, lord of the doomed

I humbly request that Emma Perkins from The hatchetfield series by starkid may be added to thine hall of doom.

Emma Perkins from The Hatchetfield Series is doomed by the narrative and trying to escape.

[skeblinn]

considering i went out of my way to work a new outfit for rouge, i thought it might make sense to give amy a new look for the rewrite too! the concept is pretty simple--i figure she was vacationing in Soleanna to enjoy the sun festival before it got rudely interrupted by eggman! these outfits are me trying to explore that premise.

[acemarkey]

VICIOUSLY MAULS YOU @apollotronica !!!!!!!! (2:04)

[fiddleabout]

TRAGEDYYYYY

[lovesodeepandwideandwell]

Off to the beach and everything is horrible but also? Everything is blessed

[optiwashere]

All the Minthara fuckers continually getting fucked by hotfixes is rough.

Guess I'll see if I'm getting the Gale bug before downloading the Minthara fix mod because I'm hankering to continue my playthroughs...

[mara-and-its-the-same]

watching the rise and fall of a midwest princess in real time

[leafzterr]

happy pride motnhy as you can see i arranged my new gel pens in a rainbow for the special occasion. im ace so yay. pride motnh. i am prideful huzzah!!!!!

first and only time i will ever draw reigen (complete lie i just have NO IDEA how to draw suits.) also FALSETTOLAND X MOB PSYCHO 1000??,?.!!.!,!!,!,!,!!, GUYS I LOVE FALSTEOOLAND I LOVE THE MUSICAL AGHHHHHH

anyway

my fav part of one of the songs, reigens kids (plus dimple ig) being his backup singers is soreal. dimple is so fin to draw hes so silly and wants your social security number

alsolittle pride month thing: spot the aroace flag you will never find it 😈😈 (its right next to dimple)

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wuh oh tags coming up

[coquelicoq]

wretched. there it is. that's the word. i am feeling wretched. wretched is the word that describes how i am feeling today. wretched. what an interesting word. like the past participle of a verb, "to wretch", but the suffix is syllabic. wretchèd. [ˈɹɛtʃˌəd]. like beloved, but only if you pronounce beloved as three syllables, which as we know not everyone does, and not under all circumstances. is there such a verb, to wretch? was the participle ever pronounced as a single syllable? was the simple past pronounced as one? wretch'd. to speak it is an awkwardness. affricate then plosive. and would the plosive be devoiced? i suppose it would have to be. wretcht. [ˈɹɛtʃt]. i am wretcht. the day has wretcht me. my body, my wretch'd body. am i then a wretch? a wretch that has been wretch'd, a wretch that is wretchèd. how clumsy it feels in the mouth. the double recoil of the tongue, the jaw, the lips. the ricochet. not the rolling, like marbles, of "miserable". wretch'd is an implosion; miserable, a controlled fall down a flight of stairs. and wretchèd, two syllables, is a word that is spit, but only in despair. wretchèd, the sharp sting of my body describing its own misery.

[missanthropicprinciple]

Thank Chriiiiiist

[darkelfchicksick]

engaging in the intricate mathematics of buying a new bed that's 20 cm wider and how it will fit into the room. hmmm.

[e77y]

This song injures me like no other. Augh