#i do love my cishet friends

[xqueen-in-the-northx]

how it feels being the only queer person in a friendgroup that’s otherwise entirely cishet girls

[pickled-flowers]

I have such a hard time relating to cishet people like wtf 😭

[vulpinesaint]

(post in question is a bugs bunny image that says “i wish all cishet aro men a very you belong”)

wow! what a normal thing to say! what a regular well adjusted thing to put in the comments of someone’s posts! sure glad we’re not being fucking FREAKS right now. my fucking GOD! genuinely what the fuck is wrong with you

[heshemejoshi]

a collection of doodles

[kuromi-hoemie]

you inspire me to have kissy friends i love that but im still fighting being awkward about intimacy 😭💔

for me i understand myself and the way i love p well, and being v simplistic about it the line between platonic and romantic isn't there for me if i think ur cute and cool, i am just getting to know n appreciate u as a person! fundamentally.. which ways our connection blossoms and our dynamics will come about naturally :3 i am p open though!! i am honest and love giving ppl compliments and positive feedback; there r a couple different ways i could go about being more affectionate and intimate with a friend.

one is when u just are getting to know someone as a friend, u can ask about their boundaries and let them know u r affectionate with friends!! if they are too then there u go ♡⁠

the other is becoming closer and comfortable with someone and u feel something shift in ur relationship, and u can tell them u would like to be more affectionate and if they r okay with that ask what they are comfortable with :3

the fun one is recognizing a mutual brain break going on realtime 👁️👁️ if you're not brave enough to say anything in the moment u can always confess later and tell them ur having Thoughts about them and get a feel for how they feel abt you. you can offer them More and it doesn't have to change ur relationship with each other.

the common thread is being communicative and talking about boundaries, and if ur having a hard time w emotional intimacy i think a great place to start is being more open and honest ♡⁠ wear ur heart on ur sleeve. even if u don't feel comfortable or brave enough to tell ur friends u love them, there's nothing stopping you from telling them Why u love them. i love complimenting ppl and thanking them and telling them i had fun, i tell them when they look cute and love their outfits and what i love specifically or I'll hype up ur jewelry or hair change etc; if I'm feeling sentimental about something between us i will tell u how i feel and make sure u know u are appreciated.

i don't give compliments or praise or sentiments expecting anything in return, I'm just communicating my thoughts yk? take it as is and do with it what u will kind of thing, i just like being open!! i am of the opinion that people could stand to hear how great they are more often (⁠✿ ‚‚⌒‿⌒‚‚) I'd like 2 think everybody likes feeling Seen, appreciated, understood, praised.

it's a lovely conversation starter but sometimes u just find someone u rly click with and as a dynamic i think practicing openness and honesty with each other on the little things makes room for u to be comfortable communicating bigger more sentimental and intimate things later on if ur friendship is going like that ♡⁠

and with the boy specifically it was a combination of things.. we already had a great friendship and we had gotten a lot closer and more comfortable with each other conversationally, but phew i hadn't seen him in a good couple months i think?? and over that time i became comfortable with myself and Very t4t, and i got a lot hotter too when i went from fem to stem and he hadn't seen me in my masc era yet lol. not in person at least

anyways his birthday was coming up and i wanted to offer him a chain like mine and to make him a collar, and i was gonna go bring him his chain after work as a gift ^.^ ♡⁠ when we finally got to see each other again oh my god lol he was in a sleeveless top w his arms out and For Some Reason i was more attracted to him than i had ever been 💀 i was trying not to stare too hard bc the whole time internally i was like AAAAA HE'S HOT HELP AKSKSKAK, BUT ☝🏾😌 I've had enough mutual brain breaks going on to know when someone's rly feeling me and i could tell lol. i originally just meant to stop by Real Quick but i ended up staying and hanging out for the evening (⁠｡⁠ﾉ⁠ω⁠＼⁠｡⁠) i wasn't brave enough to say anything at first but i could not stop thinking about his shoulders and upper back and neck for like 2 days straight and i had to say Something.

being deliriously horny about him i was like GIRL OMFG DON'T DIE WONDERING TELL HIM SOMETHING and i sent him this 🙈

and he was glad i said something and was straightforward bc he was also having thoughts but wasn't sure if he could/should say anything ʕ⁠ ⁠ꈍ⁠ᴥ⁠ꈍ⁠ʔ ♡⁠ so we talked about boundaries and we're still friends like we were but we're affectionate with each other now too and it's a sweet way to deepen our friendship. we r exploring being sweet friends together 👩🏽‍🤝‍👩🏾 butch4butch t4t real...

i have a good idea of how i want to navigate polyamory but putting it into practice and loving my friends more intentionally, fundamentally and to the fullest w my current perspective is new for me! and being affectionate in general is new to him, so I'm happy that we can be vulnerable and brave about it together ♡⁠ i can be a lil clumsy and he can be a lil awkward but i think we're very cute 😌🥰 he's a good boy (⁠っ⁠˘⁠з⁠(⁠˘⁠⌣⁠˘⁠ ⁠) ♡⁠

this ain't exactly a guide but it's a bit of what i got going on, take what u will from it (⁠｡⁠･⁠ω⁠･⁠｡⁠)⁠ﾉ to be open with ur friends is a beautiful thing and i think things tend to develop naturally. i wish u the best of luck on ur quest w intimacy 🫶🏾

[samaspic31]

I love trans people’s love languages so much. Do you want me to do your nails ? Yeah sure ill buzz your head. You're not crazy that person was unkind you didn't deserve that. What color of hairdye you want this time ? here's the site i use to find movies. show me that new tattoo! I’ll teach you this craft im learning off the internet. Let's help you get a job together. Here's my netflix password. I can do your hair bleach. I wish we all moved in a big apartment and live freely motivating each other. This movie is terrible we HAVE to watch it together. Look at this piece of queer history i just learned about, old milestone of queer representation. You said you liked my make up, here's all i used and techniques in case you want to do it. I love you. here i made your flag but in a subtle form so your parents wouldn't catch on. i'll pass you that thing i pirated. Do you want to move out, how can we help ? you should tell your parents to fuck off and wear what you want. A partner should treat you better. Let's call all the characters in that movie gay together. I have one don't buy it i'll lend you mine. I wish the world was less awful to us. you make the world worth surviving.

[wisecrackingeric-2]

I think I’ve said this before but I REALLY DO LOVE ALMOST ALL RE CHARACTERS/SHIPS THERE TRULY ARENT MANY SHIPS/CHARACTERS I GENUINELY DISLIKE you don’t have to ask me “oh do you ship __” cuz unless it’s straight up something like Sherry X Leon I’m probably shipping it!!!!! Or at least I’ll give you a thumbs up for it!!!!!!!!!!!!

[mizu-no-doukeshi]

I LOVEBE MY FRIENDS SO MUCH ONG!!! they know im still away BUT THWY STILL INCLUDE ME IN THEIR PLANS KNOWING I CANT COME 😭😭😭 they keep telling me hey we're going to do this but dw we will go again when ur here... ANS IM SO??? AFEWNWVRHWJEH 😭😭

id die b4 i can say this to their face tho </4

[magentagalaxies]

i really want to start making a table collecting statistics on the audience demographics i'll perform my aubrey material for (like what generation most of the audience is, whether i'm performing in a predominantly queer space, etc.) and how well the jokes land bc like. i need to collect more data points before i can properly present my findings but the results so far have been fascinating

[vrsmth]

being the only autistic kid in a small town school was probably the worst experience a person can ever have

[justablah56]

shout out to my friend hearing I'm going by aether and literally . without missing a beat . saying " aeth her ? I barely know her ! " I'm literally cackling

[warningsine]

[kimbapisnotsushi]

ACTUALLY IN HONOR OF PRIDE MONTH I THINK IT'D BE REALLY COOL IF EVERYONE PLAYED BUTTERFLY SOUP WHICH IS A VISUAL NOVEL YOU CAN PLAY FOR FREE ON THE WEB BY @brianna-lei ABOUT BEING GAY AND BEING ASIAN AMERICAN WITH A WHOLE BUNCH OF FUN SIDE CHARAS AND IT'S HILARIOUS AND BEAUTIFUL AND I ADORE IT SO MUCH

[hardrockshrimp]

You're telling me I gotta write my own fanfiction cause everyone is this fandom is so boring??!?!?!

[alsaurus-loves-dean]

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[koifrog]

Truly sick of feeling like being trans undermines every other aspect of who I am somehow. I am a gay man. I want to be a part of the gay man community as just another gay man who belongs there with fellow gay men. Unfortunately, me being trans seems to take precedence over being a gay man so I can’t just be a Gay Man I have to be a Trans Man Only.