#i could ID as just Femme honestly bc THAT feels right

[unholyplumpprincess]

Hands on hips

Back to gender conundrum

[gay-trans-lgbt-advice]

I do hope I’m not bothering you but Im in a situation and I can’t talk to anyone irl about haha so I’ve never really had feeling for anyone but Id say I’m gay? boys are pleasing to look at and I’ve had crushes on fictional boys but like the idea of being with a boy in anyway makes me feel gross and the idea of a girl does not make me feel gross but I’ve never liked a girl idk ig I just wanna feel valid haha that’s lame also I don’t think I want to give up the possibility of ever being with boy

I’m sorry I’m sending another thing,,,,,, but I’d hate to label myself one thing and then be another and I wish I could talk to my bestie about this bc they’re a part of the LGBT+ community but I don’t think they’d take me seriously and like what is I’m just trying to be different or quirk but like I cannot be with a guy but also what if I’m just straight and rlly picky? But also being with a girl doesn’t make me feel SiCk ugh I’m so sorry I hate to be that person but I am ConFusEd

Don’t apologize!!! You are most definitely not bothering me in the slightest, I love answering asks and giving advice! Even the difficult ones! Which, honestly, this isn’t one of them. Yeah sometimes I go on accidental hiatus’ from answering asks like the one I’m just ending now, but that doesn’t mean the asks bother me. Really I just feel a little bad for letting them sit there, but you do what you gotta do.

Anyway

You’re definitely experiencing comp het, or compulsory heterosexuality. I want you to know that attraction doesn’t make you feel sick, or uncomfortable, or gross. Girls who are actually straight / actually like men, even the ones who are picky, don’t feel that way.

You not wanting to give up the possibility of ever being with a boy despite how terrible they make you feel, is comp het. And fear. Thinking “what if I’m just trying to be different or quirky and im actually just straight?” is comp het. You doubting yourself so much despite the evidence is comp het, and fear.

ALSO! I definitely understand not wanting to label yourself as one thing and then later have to switch, I too used to have this fear but guess what!! I’m only 19 years old and in the past six years I have changed my identity and re-come out… four or five times maybe? And thats not even counting the billion micro-identities I only told one person about or the times I switched between butch and femme. 

Don’t be afraid of that. What I’ve done isn’t the most common, but it can happen. And it really isn’t that scary in the end.The goal is to be comfortable and happy, and sometimes that eventually means changing labels, but they’re just words. Just don’t put so much pressure on yourself to pick a label that will stick for the rest of your long life. Pick the one that fits you right now. Let future you worry about future you.

And why do you think your friend wouldn’t take you seriously? I think they probably would. If you trust them, and you need help, you should talk to them about this in private. It could really help. Of course, you’re always welcome to send more asks here as well!

Anyway. Not to tell you who you are, but you don’t like men. See the first two paragraphs after the ‘anyway’ for my evidence. You could be gay, or asexual. Idk.

Best of luck figuring it out! You got this!

[aharris00britney]

ASKS 08

rip it’s a lot of stuff, some good, some weird….

Anonymous said: do you like eating ass? I bet your booty is thicc and juicy :)

idk who would even send this but ummm I’m a bottom so yeah.. that answers that wedhfnsh have u nice day/night <3

@thesimpley2k​  said: your cc is so beautiful! and you’re a britney stan :) ily sis

thank youuuuu omg ily2 lmao I don’t voice my Britney stanness much but once B10 starts getting more hyped up I’ll be back up there! Thank you again and rip original make me MV

Anonymous said: Oof I need all of your wip hairs right now            

oof you haven’t even seen half of them sweetie ;) I have 10 wip hairs as of now so like… you’ve seen 4 on this blog through edits/playlists. the rest are on my patreon and some go on my wips section in my discord (omg shameless plug im sorry but its true)

Anonymous said: Can we gift you packs through origin?

if u want?? idrk how that works tbh ;-; if u did tho like rsdfgfbvc thank you!!! I prob will only buy packs that I can use for cc from now on tbh ;-; my computer is at that point where i need to be really picky about stuff, plus imo they arent worth it wedfgdbfn i regret buying most of the SP’s

Anonymous said: Are you posting a shorter version of the Zoey Hair as shown in your latest post because it looks amazing?!!!!!

thank you!!! That is basically what the idea of it is lmao, but I think im gonna make an accessory hair clip for it too. Not 100% sure yet tho

@agentwashsims​ said: Crying over the wip hair and the grimes reference! Okay you’re still perfect and ily that it all okay bye. 

aaah thank you! grimes is so good omg Art Angels is my favorite album but there are a lot of ongs on Visions I like as well. I like a little bit of Halfaxa toooooo

Anonymous said: Hi, would it be possible for you to just reupload the lydia hair post? As it’s marked as sensitive content, I can’t see the picture and I’d really like to be able to have a look at it before I download it.

Hi! I emailed tumblr support about it since it has been over a month since it has been up for review. Hopefully they get it worked out soon <3 there is a picture of it on my download page if you want to look at it there

Anonymous said: Hey, how do I do Patreon? I want to but i’m new to all those things of Patreon cause now I want lots of hairs that need it, and I wanna learn how can I Patreon you!

Hello! Hopefully you see this haha. Patreon is sort of like Netlfix in it is a monthly charge for goods. To get 3 cc hairs early each month, it is a $1 pledge. Higher pledges get better rewards(such as watching me work on cc, getting to vote on hair releases, and more). I think that Patreon is a great way to help support creators as long as they do it right (no exclusive CC). I really hope this helps you and thank you so much if you decide to pledge any ammount <3

Anonymous said: When are going to upload your maxis match hairlines? Like in a post

oml I am horrible lmao I deleted them and don’t seem to have them backed up, but I will maybe make more in the future?? I honestly don’t find them that usable on most hairs but everybody is different so we will see <3

Anonymous said: Is the black braided hair on your April Playlist a WIP? If not WCIF it cuz it’s gorgeous <333 Ily.

issa wip for Juneee

Anonymous said: how old are you?

18 d2f m4m

Anonymous said: What is your Origin ID?

spotharris

Anonymous said: Hey! I 🖤 ur content btw and I wanted to just like clarify something. Ur posts say u can recollect but don’t include the mesh. What does that mean exactly??? Do people still need the mesh for the recollections to show up in game?? Sorry if this is really dumb, I’m a new simblr. Thx!            

hey!! sorry for the super late reply omg, welcome to simblr!! it is kinda crazy here but hopefully u can find ur peeps and make a nice home :) anywaysssss i think u mean recoloring, which is like when people add different colors other than the 18 EA base colors. I don’t allow people to use the meshes mainly bc I know that sometimes I have to go back and update things and this way the recolors don’t have a broken mesh and require that person to redo their package.

Anonymous said: whose ur fave member of lOoNa

my rankings as of right now: Kim Lip, Go Won, Olivia Hye, JinSoul, HyunJin, Chuu, HeeJin, Choerry, HeeJin, HaSeul, ViVi, and then YeoJin

also omfg if u have jinsoul/kim lip/choerry limited edition mix&match photocard and would like to gift me it then umm PLEASE they are impossible to find and i need for my collection ;-;

@disneynsims​ said: I am also a massive Britney Spears fan, and I have to say I appreciate you naming your hairs after her songs. I do make one small request, that a hair eventually be named after one of her best bonus tracks, “Up n’ Down”.

omg Up N’ Down is one of my least favorites on femme fatale grfbg but thank you!! I don’t really name hairs after her songs anymore :(

@issharky​ said: you’ve improved so much over the time! ive been following (on tsr and tumblr since i joined) since like 2016! ♥ still love your blog!            

ygvhbjn i didnt have a tsr but go awf lmao thank you!!! i was a mess in 2016 and a lil of 2017 <3

Anonymous said: Ur such a babe austin            

thx for sending this @dogsill​ ur a babe too 😘

Anonymous said: Discord? Patreon? And this are how a good simblr die

oof discord is literally like a groupchat thing but go off also patreon makes it so i release 3 hairs a month when before it was like 1 or 2 so ummm

Anonymous said: I have recently downloaded blender to make cc hairs, but I can’t zoom in, rotate, or do anything basically. Do you know of any tutorials that explain how to use it well/ in detail? (I have a windows laptop). Anyway, I recently discovered your hairs and I am in love!! Thank you for making so many beautiful pieces of cc!

urgg i really wish i could make video tutorials and stuff for blender and hairs :( I have tried about 3 or 4 times to record/stream and it is so laggy and just pure shit on stream and twitch. I kind of just learned stuff as i went in blender but a must have is a mouse of some kind, otherwise it is 10x harder

@alexschmidt629 said: Hey! I hope you’re doing a bit better than the last time you made your last post! I’m sorry to hear about all of that, being a senior is so difficult and college stuff is even more difficult. I hope you’re doing better!

thank you! I’m doing a bit better now :)

Anonymous said: holy shit it sounds like everything that literally could’ve gone wrong did. wishing u love and luck bb. and also i think its absolutely FINE that u put ur stuff up on patreon early, it’s still free in the end!! its just a choice to actually compensate cc creators for all that they do for us. god that person was just so rude and im kinda surprised at how kindly you took it. props to u xx 

yeah dsgf everything kinda went shitty the past few months but hopefully it all turns itself around :) and I try not to pick at any rude anons/asks in general bc I feel like by doing that it just causes more attention on the issue and more people/trolls want to jump on the band wagon. Thank you!!

Anonymous said: Oh honey, you need prayers and I wish you the best of luck with fasts, college, moving, and the rest of your life. Stay strong hon you got this!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

thank you <3

Anonymous said: hi is there a version off the Ella hair that has a bun in the back or am I crazy? probs crazy honestly, but thx for answering

I think you are thinking of my Maja hair? It has a different bottom but it has those same bangs! It is here

[caatws]

GIMME SOME UNPOPULAR OPINIONS!!

BDFLNALBDNFS SOPH IS HERE TO START SOME SHIT I’M YELLING

alright since our mutual fandom is b99 i’ll go with some b99 hot takes

while everyone’s debating whether peraltiago should have a baby in s6 or wait till later so they have time to enjoy married life alone/amy has time to make captain I THINK peraltiago should have a baby before amy makes captain but since she has more set career goals than jake (he seems content remaining a detective for now plus he told amy he wanted her to be his boss!!!) after amy has the baby jake ~takes a break~ from the nypd and retires for a couple years to take care of the kiddo(s) (if they decide to have more than 1) and is basically a stay-at-home dad until the kiddo(s) is older and going to school and stuff!!!! so amy can focus on still making captain bc jake’s holding down the fort at home. we never see a lot of stay-at-home dad stories in tv and i feel like jake could be the perfect guy for that but i doubt they’d go that route since there’d be no show without him working at the nine-nine LOOOOL but a girl can dream right???

i used to hc gina as pan and now i’ve jumped on the lesbian gina train but honestly?? i’d love to see her identify as pan initially and then discover she’s actually lesbian and her journey of coming to terms with that and stuff...ik a lot of ppl shift identities a bit before settling on one and i def used to id as bi until a few months ago!!!!

femme rosa and butch gina

sub rosa and dom gina

actually are these even unpopular opinions anymore or is it just that dianeitti itself and these hcs attributed to it are unpopular

getting more real tho - and don’t crucify me for this my dudes - but i think it’s important to listen to the ppl who view b99 as cop propaganda, bc it usually comes from a place of critical analysis and maybe even some bad experiences with cops. something being propaganda doesn’t automatically make it bad, per se - but propaganda is defined as something that is meant to make you feel some way toward a government related entity. b99 isn’t bad!!! y’all know i love it obviously!!!! but it’s important to remember where the fiction ends and reality begins, bc cops irl are not gonna be as fun and friendly and woke as our b99 faves. i used to dismiss the “b99 cop propaganda” posts, too, but once you understand that propaganda isn’t always good or bad but just is, it becomes easier to both love and be critical of something at the same time. (plus remember that b99 is a representation of american cops - and ik this fanbase is very diverse and international, but if someone ignorantly believes american cops to be just like b99, they could end up in some trouble. and i’m not saying anyone specifically is doing this lol i’m just saying it’s a possibility)

welp that was a lot of unpopular b99 opinions so i hope this satisfied you soph, haha!!!

send me some slumber party asks ayyyy

[meganiumgender]

honestly? yr an icon and an idol and every time i see one of your selfies i am FLOORED like my gay ass is never ready. also wes do you have any advice on what to wear to a lesbian holiday party? i have one tomorrow night and my go to look is flannel but i feel like that’s trying too hard like. it’s a lesbian party. they get it. you always look 🔥 so any tips would be greatly appreciated i am so fashion blind and v in need of a gf please help ya girl out ~

fdhkgbdfhkg you are SO SWEET im in love w u kjsdbfjkdsbjkd

also how the fuck do u get an invite to a lesbian holiday party like when and where i want in 

but like! as 4 the question! under a readmore bc i dont know how to shut up!!

like. i dont believe theres a such thing as “too much” here but for what id wear 

personally i’d say u cant lose with a nicely fitted sweater (cleavage window not required, though fun), leggings, and either boots or chunky heels (u dont wanna wear stilettos to a party if ur gonna be standing a lot. trust me. ive made many mistakes.) 

its simple and it Works (a lot of what carries my looks is the fact i do a full face of makeup tho, keep that in mind - i actually dress pretty plain) 

or u could wear a dress if yr comf with those!! for most of my fancier holiday events i have a jewel necked wine red pouf skirt dress that i rly love

or if u wear ur flannel (id recommend red bc Festive and Gay) u could always wear it in a different way or smth - tying it around ur waist isnt tacky, dont listen to straight people, its still a look - pair it with black leggings and a black tank top with a necklace and yr in business (would recommend, again, boots or chunky heels)

but honestly like there are two things u need 2 kno before following any fashion advice from me, which are:

1. im… this is very sweet but i genuinely dk how to dress mysef ive fooled you all - i just see colors that look good together in my head and go with it and if anyone tells me its tacky i can just say im gay and be done with it (i also frequently wear tank tops in the winter because im hot blooded as hell so i know nothing abt seasonal dressing kjsbgkjds)

2. the last christmas party i went to i wore a sweater with a window for my cleavage in it like…. i have no idea what subtlety is and if i think it’ll get a laugh i’ll do it. i’ve also worn hawaiian shirts out in public before. also in winter. im just here to have fun.

but really the best advice is to just wear what ur comfortable in?? thats cheesy as fuck but!!! like!!! im right!!! if u think you look good as shit in a flannel then wear that - like i said there is like. no such thing as too much

it also depends on personal style like im…pretty fuckin femme so im more comfortable dressing way way up than most people are n i realize that my friends that like dressing more butch would fuckin hate to wear my outfits but we r all equally hot and equally gay nonetheless yk

[aerisse-remade]

hi its time to talk shit again

im gonna be doing these with su (like i said in the tags lmao) bc i cant answer like half of these with vocaloid so,.,

all of this is gonna be under a cut so sorry @ app users ig

1. What OTPs in your fandom(s) do you just not get?

uhh gregpearl, jaspis, grasper, pewey, pretty much all gem/men ships except gregrose. also steven/gem ships

2. Are there any popular fandom OTPs you only BroTP?

amedot maybe?? i like it tho, i think it's cute

3. Have you ever unfollowed someone over a fandom opinion?

not yet, but i definitely will if i find out if ppl hold certain opinions lmao

4. Do you have a NoTP in your fandom? Are they a popular OTP?

my ultimate notp is jaspis. jasper deserves better than to be shipped with her literal abuser lmfao. not only is it the most popular jasper ship, its also popular overall unfortunately :////

5. Has fandom ever ruined a pairing for you?

LAPIDOT. i still like it a bit, but the fandom (and canon) has made it worse lmao......i miss old school lapidot

6. Has fandom ever made you enjoy a pairing you previously hated?

i dont think so? i can't think of any

7. Is there anything you used to like but can’t stand now?

uhh i guess lapis? i wouldnt say that i cant stand her now, but i do hate her lmfao. she used to be so good pre-jailbreak.......i'll never forgive for what they did to her

8. Have you received anon hate? What about?

surprisingly no! im really surprised ive never really gotten shit for thinking (more like realizing lbr) that jasper was the victim in the malachite situation (or for shit talking jaspis lmao). bc lapis stans always wanna excuse the shitty things she did and blame jasper for everything :///

9. Most disliked character(s)? Why?

lapis. nd its super petty but it's literally just bc of how she treated jasper, got away with it without facing any consequences, AND bc of the fandom turning around and labeling her as the victim and shat all over jasper and calling HER the abuser instead

10. Most disliked arc? Why?

the sardonyx arc. the show made it seem like garnet and ruby were somehow in the wrong for being angry at pearl ?? when they had every right to?? id be pissed too if someone i trusted broke my own trust and used me/my relationship for their own benefit. ....also i dont really care for sardonyx herself tbh

11. Is there an unpopular character you like that the fandom doesn’t? Why?

ronaldo!!! everyone hates him but like.....he's my boy. he reminds me of a friend i had in hs

12. Is there an unpopular arc that you like that the fandom doesn’t? Why?

uhh i dont really go into the tag much anymore, and when i do its for art, so i dont know how it was recieved overall. but i know that a lot of ppl really hated the human zoo arc (and with good reason too!). yeah the human zoo was incredibly fucked up and bad, and there were better ways it could've ended, but ig overall i was ok with it? i wouldn't say i loved it, but i certainly dont hate it either. i was glad to see blue diamonds design revealed (even tho its not how i imagined her ://), holly blue, the famethyst, and yd and the pearls singjng

13. Unpopular opinion about XXX character?

uhh i'll just do peridot. i honestly dont care for her much anymore after she lost her limb enhancers. and i see a lot of ppl complaining abt her and lapis not being in the recent episodes but im really glad theyre not tbh. im so tired of them

14. Unpopular opinion about your fandom?

the su crit crowd makes really good points sometimes. yea some of them reach sometimes but for the most part, they make really good observations nd have made me think about the show's writing more. everyone shits all over them without actually looking at the good stuff they post

15. Unpopular opinion about the manga/show?

it's not as progressive as many claim it is. sure, it's got a lot of lesbians, poc, and women overall, but the show has a real bad habit of treating it's poc and butch characters like shit while overly focusing on the white(coded) and femme characters

16. If you could change anything in the show, what would you change?

GOD i would change a lot of things. the main thing i'd change is how the whole mala situation went down and how jasper and lapis were written/treated. i would also have peridot either get her limb enhancers back or make new ones for herself. i'd want steven to at least TRY to free the humans and the famethyst from the zoo. i also think itd have been really interesting for him to take one of the bubbled rose quartzs with him. ALSO BISMUTH. free her!!! she didnt deserved to be bubbled again nor did she deserve to be treated like some villain for wanting to shatter literal dictators :///

17. Instead of XYZ happening, I would have made ABC happen…

instead of lapis tricking and imprisoning jasper, she'd either have said no and let the cgs handle jasper, or have just punched her off like she did to her in alone at sea. or she agreed, formed malachite, THEN in chille tid, told steven where they were so the cgs could come and poof them and bubble jasper. for bismuth, instead of her getting angry and fighting steven only to end up bubbled again, i wouldve had her actually talk to steven. say smth like "rose said the same thing" and actually listen to him and come to some sort of agreement and not be bubbled at all. or yknow.....have steven agree with her that the diamonds are bad and actually want to try to liberate all gems

18. Does not shipping something ‘popular’ mean you’re in denial and/or biased?

not really lmao? theres a lot of shitty popular ships. tho i will say that if you dont ship rupphire then like.......wyd

19. What is the one thing you hate most about your fandom?

their treatment of butch characters and non-stereotypically feminine gems lmfao. esp jasper and bismuth, and ppl always wanting to call non feminine gems "wow a male gem finally!!!" (jasper, ruby, bismuth, blue zircon). not to mention the (probable) majority who literally think jasper abused lapis :///

20. What is the purest ship in the fandom?

rupphire, no doubt about it

21. What are your thoughts on crack ships?

uhh as long as its not pedophilic or shipping the gems (besides rose) with men, then im probably ok with it

22. Popular character you hate?

lapis

23. Unpopular character you love?

ronaldo. and also jasper ofc. but i dont know if shes actually popular or not. it sure feels like she's unpopular tho.....

24. Would you recommend XXX to a friend? Why or why not?

yeah, but only so i'd have someone to talk with about it lmfaooooo

25. How would you end XXX/Would you change the ending of XXX?

uhh i guess for me i'd want jasper uncorrupted, happy, and not barned, first of all. i'd also want bismuth unbubbled, all the other corrupted gems healed n happy. the rubies, famethyst, zoo humans, topaz, zircons, and off colours all happy living on earth. i also want all the bubbled rose quartzs to be saved, and possibly any other gem on homeworld being free from the diamonds rule. or yknow....,just have the diamonds stop being dictators and dismantle the hierarchy/caste system. if the diamonds cant be redeemed somehow, then they should be shattered

26. Most shippable character?

fuck if i know

27. Least shippable character?

steven ig? you cant really ship him with the gems or most of the humans soooo