#i absolutely will NOT be offended if anyone unfollows I love you forever and you can always find me on insta leejordana if you want

[prettyboybuck]

I’m probably gonna change my theme soon and make it more Merlin coded…. Just a warning to all my incredible stucky/marvel mutuals

[chubby-aphrodite]

yep ive decided im just gonna unfollow people who are stupid about it, especially today 👍

like what do you get out posting that. what do you get out of retraumatizing people by posting pictures from the attacks with dumbass edits. is it the shock humor? or what?

i know this is a false dichotomy and ive debated saying it for years knowing people might clown on me for it, but it feels like if people made memey edits of school shootings, especially of pictures of victims or of the emergency response. and i know there's probably people doing that, making memes out of school shootings and crime scenes and natural disasters and gore, but i think we nigh universally agree that that's a bad thing, right? that that's something only assholes do?

and i know i KNOW it's been "shoved down your throat" for over two decades. and you're probably tired of it. but i think as someone immediately materially affected by it, i'm more qualified than anyone in knowing what it feels like to have it shoved down your throat constantly every day all the time no matter what! i'm tired of it too, and i'd love to be able to move on! but because of the general culture surrounding the events and the aftermath, and because of the general irreverence about it starting to take over that displaces it from "really bad thing that happened" to "shock humor i can pull out to offend people," i can't! we can't! my whole goddamn family can't!

and it's absolutely gut-punching, soul-crushing, whatever compound word you wanna use, watching people i thought would know better treat it like a joke. and i get that it's easy to treat it like a joke when you're so disconnected from it, but there are still people you're hurting when you do.

and for the love of all that is good in the world, i'd like to be done decentering my own feelings about it. when i was little i didn't understand and didn't have much of an opinion on it, but i knew it made my family sad and it was the reason i didn't have a dad. as a teenager, i learned the social and global ramifications that arose in the aftermath, and i thought that was more important than processing my own baggage. and don't get me wrong, they are important. meatgrinder forever-wars over greed and extremely loud bigotry and the steps to stop them are important to learn about. and i'd get yelled at if i didn't mention that because this is the piss on the poor website.

but i'd really like to be fucking done with having to bottle up my own feelings about it.

[asreoninfusion]

Waaaaaait… have I been doing Tumblr wrong this whole time?

Ironically, this thought came from one of my housemates rather than anything that’s happened online. xD;; The walls are pretty thin, so I can hear the housemates when they’re talking in the kitchen unless I actively have headphones in and am playing something. (But I can’t revise while listening to things, hence not having them on much at the moment.)

Anyway. Housemates gossiping, one of them brought up something about someone who had been blocked on Facebook. And just the way they were talking about it was like… like that was some kind of really personal, aggressive gesture. The internet equivalent of putting up a middle finger and screaming at someone, or something like that.

Which has me slightly concerned because I do not see it that way at all. And I operate under the assumption that the majority of rational adults see the act of blocking in a similar way as I do. That view being that blocking is in no way intended as an attack, but more a simple, non-judgemental statement of ‘I do not wish to interact’.

I’ve mentioned before that I tend to block when I see drama in the tags, right? Most commonly in this fandom it’s the occasional love triangle debate flare up. I don’t want to blacklist the tags for the pairings, because I actually don’t mind seeing art and other content for them, I just don’t want to see massive debates about one pairing vs. the other.

I have nothing against the people I block, I have nothing against their options if they like one ship better. I proooobably don’t agree with their methods, because drama in the tags does come off a little childish, but since Tumblr’s search function is so shit stuff does end up there when it’s not meant to and I get that. So, it really isn’t personal. It’s just… not the content I want to see in my Tumblr experience. You gotta take your own responsibility for the content you see and how your experience plays out, y’know?

(I could blacklist instead of blocking, I guess, but I go between PC and mobile a lot and mobile is obviously severely lacking in that capacity.)

Even when it’s on Facebook or something, where it is more about the person than their content... sometimes people just don’t get on, don’t mesh, don’t have the same likes, and it seems perfectly reasonable to step down and say, ‘hey, this isn’t working, I don’t want to interact anymore’. Not absolutely everyone in the world is obliged to be your friend or give you their time, right? Sometimes you just gotta part ways and that’s fine.

HOWEVER. Listening to the housemates talking about whatever their particular Facebook issue was, and a couple of other peripheral things I’ve seen around, has made me wonder. Do the majority of people see blocking as something more personal and aggressive??? Because if that is a very widely held view, then I am concerned I may have inadvertently offended a lot of people over my time. D:

……honestly, I’m probably not going to change what I do regardless, because it’s so blissful like this. It was fucking forever ago, but there was very brief little moment where someone was going around sending hate to people who shipped Clack, which I managed to avoid entirely (despite literally just having posted a Clack fic in the tag) because – I presume – I’d already blocked the instigator previously. It’s just little things like that, as well as not seeing drama posts in the tags and stuff, that make being on Tumblr so much nicer.

I likewise have zero problems with people blocking me. In fact, please do!! If, for example, you really don’t like Sefikura and it makes you uncomfortable, and a lot of my original content is Sefikura, then honestly, please. Look after yourself first, block if you need to. That is fine. That is so fine. I would much rather people do that than accidentally see a fic I’ve written and be uncomfortable or upset. Or just unfollow, if that seems more appropriate to you and you don’t go in the tags/have the relevant problem things blacklisted, but. 

Self-care should be the priority, however you feel you need to do it.

(Honestly, I’m like 95% certain I’m correct in assuming the majority of rational adults see blocking in generally the same way I do. This isn’t really intended to be a discussion post, at the end of the day. It’s more of a case of me stating my position and explaining my actions. ^^;;; Not that anyone I’ve blocked with see it, but. Just so people know where I’m coming from, I guess, because I hate doing things that run the risk of appearing to be rude. orz)